@@KevinZ45 Well past feminist for actual equality was good. voting rights etc. but present day feminism is an over correction of society and an exaggerated attempt.
You know what the purest form of freedom is? Being homeless. No responsibility, just day after day of doing whatever the hell you want. I enjoyed it. But then I realized there's more to life than freedom and playtime.@@alexryan43244
@@rileynatalie I’ve been in a 6y relationship and I don’t ever want to leave my house not because I can’t but bc I’m more comfy at home and with him. Glad I’m not alone on this one 😂
Her goal of this conversation was still that she needed to go to weddings when she still looks good, can get drunk, and party without strings attached. She's close, but her priorities are still crooked.
There's something to what you're saying, but I think it's a very good observation nonetheless, which people are feeling instinctively but rarely express: there's just something wrong with our society. It should be looking differently. Weddings have always been an integral part of common social life. It is often where you would actually meet your future spouse too lol It is a natural progress of life to be at a stage when your friends get married off, and we're missing that stage of life. I'm not a party animal, but I miss the fact that I don't have any any weddings to go to, not so that I can get drunk and party, but just so that there is life and progress in my community, so that i can meet up with people in natural circumstances and celebrate good things together. Clubs are always open, weddings are a very different kind of having fun - they're about something (or should be). I think she's expressing that longing in a joking manner more than just talking about missing out on a particular kind of party - although, sure, I could be projecting.
Yeah things are definitely different now. My wife and I were Best Friends since we’ve been 12 years old. We started dating at 15, got married at 18 and have been for 27 years now.
Lucky guy. Not a single girl I knew as a youngster was both a good person and interested in me. I was lucky to find my wife when I was 23, married at 26. I looked for a woman who would be a good wife for years, and most of the women I met were clearly not equipped
Similar story for me and my husband, best friends at school middle school, started dating at 14 we got married at 18 this year we will be married 35 years
Ok so unpopular opinion here but that really does seem extremely young to me to find your forever person. I'm really happy it worked out for you gotta but that's kinda crazy to me
I worked in an upscale salon and spa and I was one of the few married women there. The advice they gave each other was appalling and the times they tried making claims about my marriage, I literally looked around and couldn’t help but notice how miserable they all were while myself and the couple of married women were happy
@@LeesaLilHop Well, for starters there was a woman getting an abortion there every few weeks per suggestion of coworker friends (to be clear, it was not the same woman every time) I had one girl suggest I intentionally get pregnant without my husband’s consent. Another woman was married but showing photos of her boyfriend to everyone and when I showed my confusion, she told me, “you’ll see when you’ve been married 12 years”… same woman had 2 kids from a previous relationship and about 2 months after *this* incident, she and her husband were going through IVF so she could have a baby… the reason they were going through IVF, because she didn’t want to have sex w her husband. She had two babies that way and at one point was pregnant at the same time her son’s girlfriend was pregnant…. Oh and that same son, I met him when he was 14… he was telling a group of us how his penis was larger than his step dad’s while his mother (my coworker) was laughing.
@@LeesaLilHop I have a few examples in my response that was removed… but one example was a coworker encouraged me to get pregnant without my husband’s consent…. That wasn’t the worst one tho
That age (for me) was 14. Finished up trying to be a girlboss, completely and fully solidified the dream of getting married and having children. I've seen so many women talking about the abject *heartbreak* of the realization that they *want* a family, but are probably too old to start families of their own, so I decided to learn from the mistakes of others. My friends at Scouts (girls who were between the ages of 12 and 15) were absolutely *confused* when when they found out the fact that, while I didn't have a "man of my dreams" in mind, or anything, I wanted to get married and have kids when I got older. Starting a family and being able to homeschool my kids (like my mother did for me) is still a hope/dream of mine.
Your scout friends reminded me of my experience in middle school and highschool. I remember all the boys were trying their best to hook up with girls, and how confounded they were when I showed no interest in that. A few people thought I was gay because of that 😂. Then they would be even more confused when I explained that I'm NOT gay, I'd just rather not hookup because I want to wait for marriage. Anyways, I'm glad you came to have these goals at a young age. Saved yourself a lot of time and trouble
An old saying that survives to this day, because it's so fundamentally true, is that nothing worth having is easy. If something seems like it would be difficult, than it's probably well worth it, far more often than not. If something is easy... well... it's probably of very limited value.
It's important to note two things: 1) that there's a difference between something being difficult and something being unnecessarily difficult, and 2) that an easy relationship may just mean that the two individuals are an excellent fit
Sadly, by the time you figure out time waits for no one? It's already too late. My grandma told me time goes by so fast. I really didn't realize how fast until I was turning 40. It seemed like just a couple of years since she'd said those words to me. I was 15 years old. ❤
Notice that she is keen on wedding not cuz she wants a partner or wants to raise family. Its only cuz attending weddings while you are young is like a "cool thing" & she feels she is missing out on something others are enjoying like it's just some party or event or something. Her motivations for wedding is pathetic & delusional
“A good man will change that in the best way” Truest thing I’ve ever heard. I remember a phone call with my best friend about 9 months ago where we were saying things like “ a man is stupid if he thinks I’m just going to sit home while he works” “im never going to let a man take care of me”. Well I’m now 7 months into a relationship, we got married and we’re working on a plan to save for a house so I can quit my job and stay home to take care of the kids/house 😂
I was engaged by 27 and had my first kid at 28. I am a millennial, and I was the second oldest in my friend group to get married. My husband is in the military, and our major delay was getting time for a wedding. All my younger siblings are anti-marriage and family. With the youngest being 25. The oldest, now in her thirties, is starting to feel the heat of the ticking clock yet doesn’t even have a partner! She even told me she regrets a lot… hmmm 🤔
If we really want women to have it all, we need to be honest about prioritizing motherhood in our 20s and 30s and then normalize women pursuing graduate degrees and focusing on career later in life, part time and flexible work, and make it easier to return to the workforce after extended absences for parenting.
YES! YES! ABSOLUTELY YES! I remember in college saying exactly this to my feminist STEM girls group and being ostracized to hell for saying it. But it would align much better with women's biological clock, especially when the current trajectory of college, career fits men better than women!
An old boss of mine took 12 years off to raise her 4 boys. So when the last one started middle school, she went back to work. 😮 I could barely afford the 12 weeks off maternity leave much less 12 years. But she knew someone that knew someone and networked back into the workforce without much of an grueling interview/search process 🍀
ABSOLUTELY. Maybe true equality would be appreciating different needs and paths of life for the sexes instead of always trying desperately to be like men (as of that was the only good way to be).
You mean someone would intentionally put themselves through living and financial hell fo a divorce? You’re bullshitting, bro. Most women initiate divorces, yes, but that’s because they are the ones who have always handled the paperwork in their relationships.
@@Endothelia divorce is now a wealth transfer scheme that benefits women. Marriage is just a new version of “going steady” with more paperwork and more financial and reputational risk for men. It’s unfortunate, but it’s part of the left’s attack on marriage and family. I don’t like it either, but facts don’t care about my feelings.
I met my husband when we were 19 and we were married and had our daughter by 22. We had our son 2 years later and now we’re 36, and we’re glad we got married and had our kids younger, because now we each have some health problems and we are glad we had kids when we were able to handle the hard work of babies and toddlers. Also, I feel like my husband and I have gotten to grow up a bit together by marrying younger, rather than feeling like we have to have everything figured out first and being set in our ways.
Hyper-independence is a trauma response (usually because you couldn't rely on parent[s] so you overcompensate) The problem is when traumatized people (or those who falsely perceive themselves victimized) instruct the world on how to live before healing (anti-women/anti-men out of a place of hurt) because it usually exists in polarizing extremes. I have been mistreated more so by men than women - but just as Elijah had to be reminded that there were 7000 other righteous people when in his despair thinking he was all alone....I remind myself every time I see a wonderful man or woman, that they do exist and we should highlight them instead of being anti-_______ to overcompensate for our pain.
The real problem being is anyone wanting to buy what you are offering? Men are really sick of the girl boss thing and have no desire to be subservient to them.
As a conservative woman i would have a hard time being subservient. In fact it would be impossible. I am a grown adult. I don't need to be a blindly obedient tool. No man is worth that. Your ideologies are the reason feminism started. Men never learn. Until they can respect us as people, feminism will continue and more likely than not just get more radical.
I don't think op said he wanted a "subservient" woman, he just said that guys don't want to be subservient, so i don't understand why you bring that up @@miacyr3125
@@miacyr3125 I agree with you in many ways and I would never want a barefoot and pregnant wife. I would treasure someone who would be willing to work along side me without trying to run every aspect of my life, nor would I treat a woman that way. I'm merely stating that men are tired of women coming into marriage thinking the whole thing revolves around their wants and needs regardless of how the man feels. No woman is worth that either.
A lot of my friends got married in their early twenties. None of us are feminists. I can't speak for them, but personally, I'm more happy about not being a feminist now than I was then. If I could go back in time, I'd be even more not a feminist.
I got married first out of my friends at 22yo and we are still together and with kids. I was a feminist at the time but I wouldn't meet the new meaning of the term of the last 4-5 years!
You people really need to start learning what a feminist is and what radical feminism is. Fighting for women’s rights to be seen and heard is feminism. Pink tax, period poverty, women being paid lower than their male peers, those are all issues that feminism tackles. Radical feminism is just misandry. In fact, this understanding has been so problematic that in countries like South Korea, it’s so frowned upon for a women to call themselves a feminist as they’re mistaken for hating on men. And men can be feminists too.
I remember seeing a Chanel back in the day of an old lady making food her family used to eat during the Great Depression era while she told stories about what it was like living through those hard times…. Jump forward today and I see videos like this where people complain about having too much autonomy….. really makes you think.
Careful who you are friends with/take advice from. Some people love keeping their friends single to get to monopolize their time. They don’t always mean bad, but they’ll vampire you life away if you don’t have good boundaries.
met my wife when she was 29. very independent woman, yet caring and thoughtful… the problem with modern feminism, promoting “girl boss” and no need for men…yet they fail to realise that true feminist means you can have a career and be a mother.
I am happy I found ur comment because I am always looking for that one person who knows the difference between feminism and pseudo feminism. My mama was independent when she met my dad but she was also thoughtful and caring. She’s the greatest example in my life.
It's a sad truth. I used to be a brainwashed feminist and by the time I woke up it was too late. Now I just get to be an aunty and hope I'm successful at teaching my hundreds of psychology college students that men and marriage are wonderful. At least I'm trying to fix the problem.
@@AB-py6jlidk, my aunt is physically disabled and was never able to have children. She helped raise us and she views all of us as her daughters and sons rather than nieces or nephews. She’s like a second mom to us and we all take care of her. I think my family is just closer than most families, they raised their kids together as a team than separately. I’m carrying it on by helping raise my nieces and nephews.
@@dissolvedgirl444 that's heartwarming. Never thought of it that way. I'm just speaking for myself really. I'm not disabled at all so I figure I should do it. It feels like I'm making the most of my experience on earth. I'm not religious by the way.
@@AB-py6jl I do feel that way. I love my nieces and nephews but I also feel like I just get to live in the periphery of other people's lives. That's why I try to teach my students this is a harmful philosophy.
Jeez youre right about the age thing. I wojld never have guessed that shes still in her twenties. My wife and i look waay younger than and my wife just turned 34 and I'll be 34 in August. Millennials do look younger for some reason.
I never understood why some women think that a man will enslave them or stop them from living their dream?! A good man will never do that! So find a good man and still be independent! It's possible!
Because that usually happens. It isnt so much enslavement but domestication. A woman's lifr srops once she has kids. There is no denying that. Unless she has a proper support system, all her hopes and dreams are put on the backburner. That is the ugly truth no one admits about marriage and children. They stop women. They always have and always will. Meanwhile the husband's life advances and he promptly dumps the wife for someone younger. Then she has to start over with no money and no work experience.
Usually it's because their dreams involve activities that a good man will not tolerate, ones that involve copious amounts of other men, drugs, alcohol and so on. Not all women dream of getting a degree or starting their own business.
Because they do. The moment a woman marries, her life ends. Her life goes on hold to take care of the family. Then he leave her or dies and then she is left with nothing. Marriage doesn't benefit women at all. Marriage was always about men.
@@NetrunnerMox77 I disagree. I am married for 10 years with my husband, 15 years together in total. I finished my university and masters degree, found a job, got married, bought an apartment, had a kid, got promoted to management position, all while being with him. And I managed to do all that thanks to his support. My dreams are all accomplished in these 15 years. That's because THESE were the dreams, good man always support what's good for the family.
@@Morqanaplease stop. A woman just stabbed her boyfriend to death and blamed weed. She got probation. Literally women can committ crimes with no accountability
@@RT-qz5ciLmao the fact that men use the same excuses and get away even more often is hilarious. Even more hilarious that it's not mostly women killing their partners but the pther way around.
@@RT-qz5ci this isn't a "man vs women" issue, I listen to a lot of true crime and a pattern in that is the future murderer being stopped by cops, reported by the victims, DOZENS of times sometimes and nothing happens. Our system is very broken. It's beyond childish to look at one case and say "women aren't accountable" vs the bigger picture.
Its almost like men have figured out that marriage to the wrong woman is a lose - lose situation. Very few women these days are worth the trouble and sadly most of them are already taken.
If someone had told me at 20 that the same kind of women turning me down then would start approaching me at 30 I'd have laughed in their face. It's disappointing how many of them finally stop seeking greener pastures once they get to 30.
okay lets not generalize women. maybe you need to step outside more, or maybe the area you live in makes you believe this, because every women i know in my life is more than deserving and is more than willing to pour into a man that loves her. I only seem to come across the women you describe online or in extreme liberal places. this is just blatantly not true. Lets not forget this is a two way street, too. Both genders could use some growth in general, but more so, the culture were in. Lets not blame the women who were lied to and sold a harmful narrative.
I was all about being an independent woman until I met my husband lol his masculinity lets me be in my feminine energy. The most attractive thing ever.
As someone who is married I don’t blame people for being single, have you seen the dating field? Most women are being treated like shit for being SAHM but those single guys who trash those women still want traditional value women that work jobs that pays more than them but still do all work of SAHM. I thankfully have traditional man who keeps me happy and feeling loved but not everyone gets that. A lot of these guys and lady’s don’t even know how to love themselves. Then you go to women they’re ’empowered’ to be s- objects, don’t know how to cook or clean and proud of it. Constantly going after each other mans because there no moral code anymore also with this economy having kids is hard if you’re not responsible and a lot of them are praised for buying gucci, Prada, vacations every week but not putting it in their savings. All comes down social media being the problem.
Where are you going in order to find all these men who want a traditional woman who works and pays more than the man? That does not sound grounded in reality. Maybe a few local areas, but even then that is a MASSIVE stretch.
@@SassySasukeits more common than you think. Guys don't want to do house work, but also see a stay at home wife/mother as a leech. There's a lot of guys who complain about stay at home wives but still want the traditional women. Its messed up, but its comparable to women wanting loyal F boys. Its impossible and stupid but you can't tell them that.
@@miacyr3125 Sure that happens, but that isn't at all what I asked about. OP claimed men want women to be traditional and pay the majority of the expenses. Where are those men? Please actually answer the question that was asked.
Met my husband at 20 neither of use was ready to marry but was engaged for 4 out of the 5yrs before our wedding. We was married for over 19yrs before he passed away.🥺
there’s nothing like a good wedding. it shows hope, renewal, life, plans for old age , etc. why do u think we cry at weddings. we see their entire future and our past
Tbh I understand why it takes some time to get to this point, it’s like how teenagers focus on the wrong things a lot, if she’s 25 she’s just finished the “being new to adulthood” phase and settling down is a more feasible option.
Been with my man for 12 years and I couldn't be happier, we got together young but he is my best friend ❤️ I couldn't be happier alone, he gives me so much love and attention and care. We are having a baby now, our 1st one, and we are so ready for this chapter in our life. We spent our 20s just focusing on us and now we can spend our 30s and 40s focusing on our little family ❤
I'm a 20 yo woman and I've never pulled away from dating or prioritized being single, like maybe for a year or two. I'm not super actively dating, but I'm on hinge and been on multiple dates. I can't find a good man and I wanna settle down around 27 ish. Does NOT look good. Most people I've gone on dates with only wanted sex which I obviously wasn't up to and others randomly disappeared for idk what reasons. Any tip is appreciated 💀 I've heard going to luxurious gyms or other places like that gets you in an easier spot to find someone. I was also told you can meet people at bars, which I will be able to go to in a few months, but aren't most people in bars going to be looking for a one night stand? So many apps yet so difficult to date nowadays..
The kind of people you meet at a bar is the kind of people you're already avoiding; same for discos and such. But the basic idea is good: go where the people you want to meet are hanging out, and in your case I think your best bets would be college libraries (many are free to visit, you just can't check anything out if you're not a student) and campuses in general, and various talks on whatever topic you're interested in: politics, science, and so on. I met my last girlfriend at an Economics talk we both attended, somehow my comments impressed her so she approached me after and we hit it off.
My general thought: no matter what you think you prefer in life, a good question to ask oneself might be: “What precisely am I aiming for? What does the resulting life look like…in detail?”
Oopsie🤷🏻♀️ You might wanna STOP being selfish BEFORE you start looking for a mate. Men respond better to easy going genuine kindness and humility better than "BOSS" women who feel they need a wedding dress in their closet as some sort of milestone trophy.🤨 These "modern" women SUCK so bad!🤦🏻♀️ I weep for you sweet guys out there that just want a good wife.😭
Yall us gen xers spent every weekend in our early 20s at weddings or in a wedding. When I say you had a closet full of the most obnoxious taffeta dresses in the rainbow, I’m not exaggerating! 😂 Then your mid 20s weekends were at baby showers then 30s at toddler bday party’s then baseball games, then graduations and now at all those friends weddings you went, now your crocheting their grandchildren’s baby blankets. No trips around the world and mimosa brunches with snobby women could ever take this feeling of fulfillment away. I pray you you get women recognize this sooner than later ❤❤❤❤
The whole "We were lied to..." excuse is just women avoiding accountability (yet again). No one lied. They were selfish, are still selfish, and just want the 10 year "hot girl summer" of their 20s not to hold them back in their 30s.
Yeah, but a lot of society also told them that was the thing to do. On top of that like they are stuck with their consequences, there really isn’t a need to rub salt in the wounds of the women who are realizing they were wrong
@@tylergannon7398Given how so many of them treat men in order to maintain their independence? That crap has led to incredibly high instances of depression and self-termination among men, just because half the population treats them like lepers and rally to prevent them from getting any help at all. Just look at the US legal system when it comes to divorces and child custody, or all of the huge protests against men's therapy clinics or self-termination prevention centers for men, or all of the social media crap-storms when a man is molested or mutilated or otherwise abused by a woman. I know it's not all of them, but it's a huge, _huge_ problem that this is a major part of. People need to realize that this is a major issue and hurts everyone, else it's never going to stop.
There’s nothing wrong with being single when you’re young as long as it’s what you really want. However, I do believe there are only an extremely few people on earth who benefit from being single when they’re older. As long as you have the strength to change when you’re ready, just do what feels right.
I applaud women who come to this realization. The sooner, the better, obviously. This epiphany in the 20's is still going to be hard enough to deal with. When I see or hear of it past 40... Well, you're going to need a miracle.
@@shogunjobu I aint auditing you you just keep commenting Brett's cute like damn come up with something original she ain't gonna be your girlfriend bro she's got a fiance
The amusing part is that even tho she is questioning it, she is still 9nly thinking about herself. Her girlfirends being single is just a reflection of her/their choices. And all that is in her mind is what she thinks she should have. It's a good start, but you have a LOOONG way to go. You still seem to need to experience and accept you're "I'm not the center of the universe" moment.
I've never understood why working in an office, while single, dealing with all the headaches of a big city is more appealing than falling in love, being taken care of, and looking after kids/pets.
For 52 yrs I have been dependent on my husband for different things, at different times and he is dependent on me for different things at different times. It’s a fluid co-dependency called marriage. We don’t depend on each other for our happiness but we give each other the support to find our own happiness. That changes as the family dynamics change. Our needs as newlyweds is very different from first time parents. That also changes when the family grows or suffers a trauma. We are the biggest fans of each other. We both had careers but never had daycare or babysitters because we worked it out as a team. Priorities changes but the team was always at the top of the list.
Can't say that i fell into the girlboss rhetoric until last year after my 2nd failed relationship due to abuse. I'm a long term monogamous type of girl n wanted to be a sahw but in both relationships they wanted me to do both earning and home care. Smh first relationship lasted 8ish years n had to heal n this last one lasted 2 yrs so as a late bloomer that squandered my youth, at 35 have honestly given up the search. As a modern traditional woman, i honestly dont feel there's time left. So now im just content with my paycheck n traveling 😅🤷🏿♀️
Yeah the “I’m a little too independent” and “A good man will change that in the best way” is sooo true, looking at my sister and her boyfriend like. I didn’t know it was possible for her to actually act actually cute and feminine until they started dating. They’re freaking ADORABLE. Me, three years later…my argument has been “I’m not ready,” and I still don’t feel ready, and am def becoming too independent and don’t know how to fix it ‘cause dating still scares me/I don’t think I’m ready, lolll
Theres a show called "Midnight Diner", in the many of the characters that come and go, one stood out, a group of 3 SINGLE women, who were saying "we dont need a man woohooo" and one of them ends up deciding she wanted a husband because they were reaching their late 30's, until one of them gets into a wedding interview which both friends were trying to make her not do it, and when she did it, one of the friends did the same, leaving one of them miserable.
I met my husband at 15, engaged by prom at 17, married at 18, had our first kid at 19. We skipped the wedding thing, and we got married at the courthouse in our prom suit/dress. I always hated the idea of a wedding. It so pompous, it’s a flex, a look at me please, and envy me now, type of thing to do. Especially considering… you don’t even like 1/2 the people you would be forced into inviting. A total waste of money. I’d rather spend that cash on the cost of another baby.
So crazy to see how this has unfolded right in front of us. On my side of the family I’m 1 of 5 kids. The only one who has gotten married who has not gotten divorced (and that ain’t never gonna happen). 2 of my siblings have never had a serious relationship and have no children. 1 sibling has two kids and another has 1 kid. I have one child, all the others plan on never having any more children. So 5 siblings produced only 4 children. We haven’t even replaced ourselves much less our partners. I plan on having at least one more but sometimes I think I should have three to help with the population decline lol
This also goes for babies!!! If you have a decently sized social circle you should be able to get to hold babies at all times by visiting the friends who are having one at the moment 😭
(also at a certain age you should be able to regularly get roasted by primary-schoolers to keep you humble and aware of the times, so that works out perfectly)
Hmm It's almost like being a radical feminist wasn't the answer 🤔
Cool vocabulary
304 should get a cat, she has hit the wall.
@@stevesmith9151You're not talking about the woman in the video are you?
I was not a 304, but I regret being a feminist when younger.
It's almost like, it's ........toxic lol
the sad reality of present day feminism is catching up to them.
The men suck, that's not our fault
@distortionistxx Present day feminism isn’t the problem… FEMINISM in general is.
The reason feminism exists is bc of problematic men, maybe you should fic yourself bc you are the reason it exist🤡@@KevinZ45
@@KevinZ45 Well past feminist for actual equality was good. voting rights etc. but present day feminism is an over correction of society and an exaggerated attempt.
@@KevinZ45no. Modern feminism is the issue
As a married woman, I am about as independent as an indoor cat. I think I want outside and then when you let me out I panic and want back in😂
WHY. Freedom is a good thing
@@alexryan43244just because you’re married doesn’t mean you don’t have freedom, she’s just saying that it’s comforting to be in a marriage
You know what the purest form of freedom is? Being homeless. No responsibility, just day after day of doing whatever the hell you want. I enjoyed it. But then I realized there's more to life than freedom and playtime.@@alexryan43244
GET OUT OF MY HEAD, WOMAN😂😂 been married 17yrs, just turned 37 in feb & celebrated our anniversary as well. I HATE going outside😩
@@rileynatalie I’ve been in a 6y relationship and I don’t ever want to leave my house not because I can’t but bc I’m more comfy at home and with him. Glad I’m not alone on this one 😂
Her goal of this conversation was still that she needed to go to weddings when she still looks good, can get drunk, and party without strings attached. She's close, but her priorities are still crooked.
There's something to what you're saying, but I think it's a very good observation nonetheless, which people are feeling instinctively but rarely express: there's just something wrong with our society. It should be looking differently. Weddings have always been an integral part of common social life. It is often where you would actually meet your future spouse too lol It is a natural progress of life to be at a stage when your friends get married off, and we're missing that stage of life. I'm not a party animal, but I miss the fact that I don't have any any weddings to go to, not so that I can get drunk and party, but just so that there is life and progress in my community, so that i can meet up with people in natural circumstances and celebrate good things together. Clubs are always open, weddings are a very different kind of having fun - they're about something (or should be). I think she's expressing that longing in a joking manner more than just talking about missing out on a particular kind of party - although, sure, I could be projecting.
She *DOES* say it's in a purely selfish way possible.
Great observation!
Thats what I was thinking.
Yeah things are definitely different now. My wife and I were Best Friends since we’ve been 12 years old. We started dating at 15, got married at 18 and have been for 27 years now.
Lucky guy. Not a single girl I knew as a youngster was both a good person and interested in me.
I was lucky to find my wife when I was 23, married at 26. I looked for a woman who would be a good wife for years, and most of the women I met were clearly not equipped
Praise God I found my future wife at 13. We got married at 22 and have a house and an amazing little baby son together.
Similar story for me and my husband, best friends at school middle school, started dating at 14 we got married at 18 this year we will be married 35 years
Similar... met my husband at 15... married at 21. Just had our 25th anniversary. Married my best friend and wouldn't do
It different
Ok so unpopular opinion here but that really does seem extremely young to me to find your forever person. I'm really happy it worked out for you gotta but that's kinda crazy to me
She wants to go to weddings not to congratulate and celebrate her friends commitment, but to go for the free food and free alcohol.
I worked in an upscale salon and spa and I was one of the few married women there. The advice they gave each other was appalling and the times they tried making claims about my marriage, I literally looked around and couldn’t help but notice how miserable they all were while myself and the couple of married women were happy
That's Great. in this day and age Even a normally functioning marriage is a ULTIMATE LUXURY.
I need examples of this terrible advice and the claims they made
@@LeesaLilHop
Well, for starters there was a woman getting an abortion there every few weeks per suggestion of coworker friends (to be clear, it was not the same woman every time)
I had one girl suggest I intentionally get pregnant without my husband’s consent.
Another woman was married but showing photos of her boyfriend to everyone and when I showed my confusion, she told me, “you’ll see when you’ve been married 12 years”… same woman had 2 kids from a previous relationship and about 2 months after *this* incident, she and her husband were going through IVF so she could have a baby… the reason they were going through IVF, because she didn’t want to have sex w her husband. She had two babies that way and at one point was pregnant at the same time her son’s girlfriend was pregnant…. Oh and that same son, I met him when he was 14… he was telling a group of us how his penis was larger than his step dad’s while his mother (my coworker) was laughing.
@@LeesaLilHop
My response was removed. Did you see it before it disappeared?
@@LeesaLilHop
I have a few examples in my response that was removed… but one example was a coworker encouraged me to get pregnant without my husband’s consent…. That wasn’t the worst one tho
Having a dependable companion is not the same as dependency if you don't make it that. Remember, you want dependable not dependency.
Intentionally single and looking at wedding dresses while day dreaming about weddings is pretty wild lol.
i think she meant formal dresses to wear to other people's weddings
@@llauwa bruh, if you can figure out what she is trying to say then you are way ahead of her.
@@lilsqueezie now i cant tell if u mean im ahead as in smarter or getting ahead of myself😭
@@llauwa neither can I. All I know is this is some pretty strange behavior. Lol
That age (for me) was 14. Finished up trying to be a girlboss, completely and fully solidified the dream of getting married and having children. I've seen so many women talking about the abject *heartbreak* of the realization that they *want* a family, but are probably too old to start families of their own, so I decided to learn from the mistakes of others. My friends at Scouts (girls who were between the ages of 12 and 15) were absolutely *confused* when when they found out the fact that, while I didn't have a "man of my dreams" in mind, or anything, I wanted to get married and have kids when I got older. Starting a family and being able to homeschool my kids (like my mother did for me) is still a hope/dream of mine.
Your scout friends reminded me of my experience in middle school and highschool. I remember all the boys were trying their best to hook up with girls, and how confounded they were when I showed no interest in that. A few people thought I was gay because of that 😂. Then they would be even more confused when I explained that I'm NOT gay, I'd just rather not hookup because I want to wait for marriage. Anyways, I'm glad you came to have these goals at a young age. Saved yourself a lot of time and trouble
This is me but a little older. I am in college getting a midwifery degree but my ultimate dream is to have a family of my own w my future husband
@logantidwell7698 and @smhXD21, hats off to both of you. 👏👏👏
Omg I can't- I'm not trying to be mean but at 14 you decided you were done being a girl boss?! Lol a boss of what??
@@charitym1277I wish I knew. I was a dumb little kid.
Edit: Also, keyword "TRYING"
An old saying that survives to this day, because it's so fundamentally true, is that nothing worth having is easy. If something seems like it would be difficult, than it's probably well worth it, far more often than not. If something is easy... well... it's probably of very limited value.
It's important to note two things:
1) that there's a difference between something being difficult and something being unnecessarily difficult, and
2) that an easy relationship may just mean that the two individuals are an excellent fit
Couldn't disagree more. There are fundamental issues if your relationship is hard work to maintain
@@JamesThomas-kx5sj Fair enough, but I was thinking more along the lines of single vs. married with children.
Why in gods name would any guy want to marry in today’s world. Keep your money and sanity..
Suicide and divorce are incredibly difficult but still not worth the effort. Too often, marriage leads to both.
In my twenties? I thought she was 40.
Probably because of her voice, she sounds mature. I thought she was late 30s.
@@epic7224 if her skin wasnt that good, i swear i d think she is well in her mid 30.
Maybe she smokes, or she just has a naturally deep, smoky voice.
@@epic722432 year
@@Lycanthromancer1 ah yes, the deep smoky "i have throat cancer" voice, sounds so natural
The Epiphany Phase always comes too late.
Nah it comes very early. But they Gaslight each other in the name of feminism
Sadly, by the time you figure out time waits for no one? It's already too late. My grandma told me time goes by so fast. I really didn't realize how fast until I was turning 40. It seemed like just a couple of years since she'd said those words to me. I was 15 years old. ❤
Notice that she is keen on wedding not cuz she wants a partner or wants to raise family. Its only cuz attending weddings while you are young is like a "cool thing" & she feels she is missing out on something others are enjoying like it's just some party or event or something. Her motivations for wedding is pathetic & delusional
Yeah, she likes the idea of being a bride. A wife? Maybe not so much
She is definitely on the right track
“A good man will change that in the best way” Truest thing I’ve ever heard. I remember a phone call with my best friend about 9 months ago where we were saying things like “ a man is stupid if he thinks I’m just going to sit home while he works” “im never going to let a man take care of me”. Well I’m now 7 months into a relationship, we got married and we’re working on a plan to save for a house so I can quit my job and stay home to take care of the kids/house 😂
I was engaged by 27 and had my first kid at 28. I am a millennial, and I was the second oldest in my friend group to get married. My husband is in the military, and our major delay was getting time for a wedding.
All my younger siblings are anti-marriage and family. With the youngest being 25. The oldest, now in her thirties, is starting to feel the heat of the ticking clock yet doesn’t even have a partner! She even told me she regrets a lot… hmmm 🤔
If we really want women to have it all, we need to be honest about prioritizing motherhood in our 20s and 30s and then normalize women pursuing graduate degrees and focusing on career later in life, part time and flexible work, and make it easier to return to the workforce after extended absences for parenting.
YES! YES! ABSOLUTELY YES! I remember in college saying exactly this to my feminist STEM girls group and being ostracized to hell for saying it.
But it would align much better with women's biological clock, especially when the current trajectory of college, career fits men better than women!
Amen
An old boss of mine took 12 years off to raise her 4 boys. So when the last one started middle school, she went back to work. 😮 I could barely afford the 12 weeks off maternity leave much less 12 years. But she knew someone that knew someone and networked back into the workforce without much of an grueling interview/search process 🍀
Yet another appeal for men to sacrifice at the altar of feminism. No.
ABSOLUTELY. Maybe true equality would be appreciating different needs and paths of life for the sexes instead of always trying desperately to be like men (as of that was the only good way to be).
Her friends don’t want to be married. They want to be divorced. Sadly, marriage is just an intermediate step for this generation of women.
Get that money and run.
You mean someone would intentionally put themselves through living and financial hell fo a divorce? You’re bullshitting, bro. Most women initiate divorces, yes, but that’s because they are the ones who have always handled the paperwork in their relationships.
Many modern females want a wedding, but not a marriage. They just want that day that's all about them.
@@Endothelia divorce is now a wealth transfer scheme that benefits women. Marriage is just a new version of “going steady” with more paperwork and more financial and reputational risk for men. It’s unfortunate, but it’s part of the left’s attack on marriage and family. I don’t like it either, but facts don’t care about my feelings.
@@Endothelia divorce is a wealth transfer scheme.
I met my husband when we were 19 and we were married and had our daughter by 22. We had our son 2 years later and now we’re 36, and we’re glad we got married and had our kids younger, because now we each have some health problems and we are glad we had kids when we were able to handle the hard work of babies and toddlers. Also, I feel like my husband and I have gotten to grow up a bit together by marrying younger, rather than feeling like we have to have everything figured out first and being set in our ways.
Group dynamics are intimidating & makes you unapproachable.
Girl boss living in a shoe box apparently.
Hyper-independence is a trauma response (usually because you couldn't rely on parent[s] so you overcompensate)
The problem is when traumatized people (or those who falsely perceive themselves victimized) instruct the world on how to live before healing (anti-women/anti-men out of a place of hurt) because it usually exists in polarizing extremes.
I have been mistreated more so by men than women - but just as Elijah had to be reminded that there were 7000 other righteous people when in his despair thinking he was all alone....I remind myself every time I see a wonderful man or woman, that they do exist and we should highlight them instead of being anti-_______ to overcompensate for our pain.
The real problem being is anyone wanting to buy what you are offering? Men are really sick of the girl boss thing and have no desire to be subservient to them.
I feel bad for straight women lol
As a conservative woman i would have a hard time being subservient. In fact it would be impossible. I am a grown adult. I don't need to be a blindly obedient tool.
No man is worth that. Your ideologies are the reason feminism started. Men never learn. Until they can respect us as people, feminism will continue and more likely than not just get more radical.
@@miacyr3125 You are looking at the video of a woman crying, dont see men doing that .
So keep it up, you will most likely die alone and unloved
I don't think op said he wanted a "subservient" woman, he just said that guys don't want to be subservient, so i don't understand why you bring that up @@miacyr3125
@@miacyr3125 I agree with you in many ways and I would never want a barefoot and pregnant wife. I would treasure someone who would be willing to work along side me without trying to run every aspect of my life, nor would I treat a woman that way. I'm merely stating that men are tired of women coming into marriage thinking the whole thing revolves around their wants and needs regardless of how the man feels. No woman is worth that either.
A lot of my friends got married in their early twenties. None of us are feminists. I can't speak for them, but personally, I'm more happy about not being a feminist now than I was then. If I could go back in time, I'd be even more not a feminist.
You sound awesome
I got married first out of my friends at 22yo and we are still together and with kids. I was a feminist at the time but I wouldn't meet the new meaning of the term of the last 4-5 years!
You people really need to start learning what a feminist is and what radical feminism is. Fighting for women’s rights to be seen and heard is feminism. Pink tax, period poverty, women being paid lower than their male peers, those are all issues that feminism tackles. Radical feminism is just misandry. In fact, this understanding has been so problematic that in countries like South Korea, it’s so frowned upon for a women to call themselves a feminist as they’re mistaken for hating on men. And men can be feminists too.
Doubt it
I remember seeing a Chanel back in the day of an old lady making food her family used to eat during the Great Depression era while she told stories about what it was like living through those hard times…. Jump forward today and I see videos like this where people complain about having too much autonomy….. really makes you think.
Careful who you are friends with/take advice from. Some people love keeping their friends single to get to monopolize their time. They don’t always mean bad, but they’ll vampire you life away if you don’t have good boundaries.
met my wife when she was 29. very independent woman, yet caring and thoughtful…
the problem with modern feminism, promoting “girl boss” and no need for men…yet they fail to realise that true feminist means you can have a career and be a mother.
I am happy I found ur comment because I am always looking for that one person who knows the difference between feminism and pseudo feminism. My mama was independent when she met my dad but she was also thoughtful and caring. She’s the greatest example in my life.
"We Girl bossed a lil too hard."😂 Based comment af. Tell that to the Woke Hollywood.
It's a sad truth. I used to be a brainwashed feminist and by the time I woke up it was too late. Now I just get to be an aunty and hope I'm successful at teaching my hundreds of psychology college students that men and marriage are wonderful. At least I'm trying to fix the problem.
I'm a dude and I'm pretty sure I don't want to be just an uncle for the rest of my life. Feels limiting somehow. Hard to explain. And regretful.
@@AB-py6jlidk, my aunt is physically disabled and was never able to have children. She helped raise us and she views all of us as her daughters and sons rather than nieces or nephews. She’s like a second mom to us and we all take care of her. I think my family is just closer than most families, they raised their kids together as a team than separately. I’m carrying it on by helping raise my nieces and nephews.
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@@dissolvedgirl444 that's heartwarming. Never thought of it that way. I'm just speaking for myself really. I'm not disabled at all so I figure I should do it. It feels like I'm making the most of my experience on earth. I'm not religious by the way.
@@AB-py6jl I do feel that way. I love my nieces and nephews but I also feel like I just get to live in the periphery of other people's lives. That's why I try to teach my students this is a harmful philosophy.
Jeez youre right about the age thing. I wojld never have guessed that shes still in her twenties.
My wife and i look waay younger than and my wife just turned 34 and I'll be 34 in August.
Millennials do look younger for some reason.
Stress makes one age faster.
I never understood why some women think that a man will enslave them or stop them from living their dream?!
A good man will never do that!
So find a good man and still be independent! It's possible!
Because that usually happens. It isnt so much enslavement but domestication. A woman's lifr srops once she has kids. There is no denying that.
Unless she has a proper support system, all her hopes and dreams are put on the backburner.
That is the ugly truth no one admits about marriage and children. They stop women. They always have and always will.
Meanwhile the husband's life advances and he promptly dumps the wife for someone younger. Then she has to start over with no money and no work experience.
You missed the point. Good men are not marrying.
Marriage is a catastrophe for men and a windfall for women.
Usually it's because their dreams involve activities that a good man will not tolerate, ones that involve copious amounts of other men, drugs, alcohol and so on. Not all women dream of getting a degree or starting their own business.
Because they do. The moment a woman marries, her life ends. Her life goes on hold to take care of the family. Then he leave her or dies and then she is left with nothing. Marriage doesn't benefit women at all. Marriage was always about men.
@@NetrunnerMox77 I disagree. I am married for 10 years with my husband, 15 years together in total. I finished my university and masters degree, found a job, got married, bought an apartment, had a kid, got promoted to management position, all while being with him. And I managed to do all that thanks to his support.
My dreams are all accomplished in these 15 years.
That's because THESE were the dreams, good man always support what's good for the family.
"You were lied to, though..." Can we ever just hold women accountable for their actions?
Lol what? Didn't realize there was no accountability & I could just go on a crime spree
Women destroy other women's opportunity of relationships, it amazes men how competitive 'friends' groups are.
@@Morqanaplease stop. A woman just stabbed her boyfriend to death and blamed weed. She got probation. Literally women can committ crimes with no accountability
@@RT-qz5ciLmao the fact that men use the same excuses and get away even more often is hilarious. Even more hilarious that it's not mostly women killing their partners but the pther way around.
@@RT-qz5ci this isn't a "man vs women" issue, I listen to a lot of true crime and a pattern in that is the future murderer being stopped by cops, reported by the victims, DOZENS of times sometimes and nothing happens. Our system is very broken. It's beyond childish to look at one case and say "women aren't accountable" vs the bigger picture.
“Some would maybe argue that maybe”, that’s all they can admit lmao
Ha...."we girl-bossed a lil too hard!" lol ---ya think?!
😅 💯👌🏻
No body wants leftovers, unless it's cold meatloaf sandwiches.
Cold meatloaf sandwiches are god-tier grub.
This ain’t food, these are people. 😊
🤔🤔🤔😳- Bill Gates
@@Endothelia must have been hungry😁
@@joeygreen9915 I’m engaged, what’re u on? Bruh, u gotta stop objectifying mfs, it’s cringe
Its almost like men have figured out that marriage to the wrong woman is a lose - lose situation. Very few women these days are worth the trouble and sadly most of them are already taken.
If someone had told me at 20 that the same kind of women turning me down then would start approaching me at 30 I'd have laughed in their face. It's disappointing how many of them finally stop seeking greener pastures once they get to 30.
Lmao you are proving the girl in the video right for her life decisions though 😂😂 How can you not even see your hypocracy lmao
okay lets not generalize women. maybe you need to step outside more, or maybe the area you live in makes you believe this, because every women i know in my life is more than deserving and is more than willing to pour into a man that loves her. I only seem to come across the women you describe online or in extreme liberal places. this is just blatantly not true. Lets not forget this is a two way street, too. Both genders could use some growth in general, but more so, the culture were in. Lets not blame the women who were lied to and sold a harmful narrative.
"I can fix her" 💀
A good man will run from this woman as if his life depended on it- because it does!
You have such a lovely smile Brett ❤ its my favorite part of your show 🥇🏆⭐️
Maybe? Maybe you took feminism to far?
To far? TO far? 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Is that the same as "from near"?
The Wall 🧱 is unforgiving they say.
I was all about being an independent woman until I met my husband lol his masculinity lets me be in my feminine energy. The most attractive thing ever.
Brett you have to make an episode about Kate’s cancer announcement. It would be a good follow-up to the last episode about her.
Who is Kate?
@@HellcatsAreCool Catherine, Princess of Wales.
No. Fu
@@bandgeekforlife406no no a nobody.
@@BloodiedBerserker Sarcasm, right?
It seems to me what people are NOT prioritizing is understanding you aren’t defined by what you are but by WHO you are.
I'm not even a feminist, I'm just heart broken 😂
As someone who is married I don’t blame people for being single, have you seen the dating field? Most women are being treated like shit for being SAHM but those single guys who trash those women still want traditional value women that work jobs that pays more than them but still do all work of SAHM. I thankfully have traditional man who keeps me happy and feeling loved but not everyone gets that. A lot of these guys and lady’s don’t even know how to love themselves. Then you go to women they’re ’empowered’ to be s- objects, don’t know how to cook or clean and proud of it. Constantly going after each other mans because there no moral code anymore also with this economy having kids is hard if you’re not responsible and a lot of them are praised for buying gucci, Prada, vacations every week but not putting it in their savings. All comes down social media being the problem.
Where are you going in order to find all these men who want a traditional woman who works and pays more than the man? That does not sound grounded in reality. Maybe a few local areas, but even then that is a MASSIVE stretch.
@@SassySasukeits more common than you think. Guys don't want to do house work, but also see a stay at home wife/mother as a leech. There's a lot of guys who complain about stay at home wives but still want the traditional women. Its messed up, but its comparable to women wanting loyal F boys. Its impossible and stupid but you can't tell them that.
Thank you for showing both sodes of this. The dating scene is hell and while i want to be a mom one day i don't think this bs is worth it.
@@miacyr3125 Sure that happens, but that isn't at all what I asked about. OP claimed men want women to be traditional and pay the majority of the expenses. Where are those men? Please actually answer the question that was asked.
Met my husband at 20 neither of use was ready to marry but was engaged for 4 out of the 5yrs before our wedding. We was married for over 19yrs before he passed away.🥺
so- im currently in high school, (sooo fun :/) ive been taking notes thank you for the prep 🙏🙏😂
Facts. My fiance came when I was just about to give up
there’s nothing like a good wedding. it shows hope, renewal, life, plans for old age , etc. why do u think we cry at weddings. we see their entire future and our past
The only reason she entertained the idea coz she wanna dress up and enjoy wedding parties in her prime, nothing else 😅
Tbh I understand why it takes some time to get to this point, it’s like how teenagers focus on the wrong things a lot, if she’s 25 she’s just finished the “being new to adulthood” phase and settling down is a more feasible option.
Been with my man for 12 years and I couldn't be happier, we got together young but he is my best friend ❤️ I couldn't be happier alone, he gives me so much love and attention and care. We are having a baby now, our 1st one, and we are so ready for this chapter in our life. We spent our 20s just focusing on us and now we can spend our 30s and 40s focusing on our little family ❤
Everybody thinks they are invincible in their twenties. But the fact is dying alone is not as glamorous as people think.
I'm a 20 yo woman and I've never pulled away from dating or prioritized being single, like maybe for a year or two. I'm not super actively dating, but I'm on hinge and been on multiple dates. I can't find a good man and I wanna settle down around 27 ish. Does NOT look good.
Most people I've gone on dates with only wanted sex which I obviously wasn't up to and others randomly disappeared for idk what reasons. Any tip is appreciated 💀 I've heard going to luxurious gyms or other places like that gets you in an easier spot to find someone. I was also told you can meet people at bars, which I will be able to go to in a few months, but aren't most people in bars going to be looking for a one night stand? So many apps yet so difficult to date nowadays..
The kind of people you meet at a bar is the kind of people you're already avoiding; same for discos and such. But the basic idea is good: go where the people you want to meet are hanging out, and in your case I think your best bets would be college libraries (many are free to visit, you just can't check anything out if you're not a student) and campuses in general, and various talks on whatever topic you're interested in: politics, science, and so on. I met my last girlfriend at an Economics talk we both attended, somehow my comments impressed her so she approached me after and we hit it off.
You know if you were good you wouldn't be single,
You probably have crazy standards.
@@JohnAnderson-ev3lp sure buddy 🤣
@@JohnAnderson-ev3lp sure buddy 😂🤣
@@cassandramollura4233 with a attitude like that explains everything.
My general thought: no matter what you think you prefer in life, a good question to ask oneself might be: “What precisely am I aiming for? What does the resulting life look like…in detail?”
Oopsie🤷🏻♀️ You might wanna STOP being selfish BEFORE you start looking for a mate. Men respond better to easy going genuine kindness and humility better than "BOSS" women who feel they need a wedding dress in their closet as some sort of milestone trophy.🤨 These "modern" women SUCK so bad!🤦🏻♀️ I weep for you sweet guys out there that just want a good wife.😭
They've ruined it for us.
Yall us gen xers spent every weekend in our early 20s at weddings or in a wedding. When I say you had a closet full of the most obnoxious taffeta dresses in the rainbow, I’m not exaggerating! 😂 Then your mid 20s weekends were at baby showers then 30s at toddler bday party’s then baseball games, then graduations and now at all those friends weddings you went, now your crocheting their grandchildren’s baby blankets. No trips around the world and mimosa brunches with snobby women could ever take this feeling of fulfillment away. I pray you you get women recognize this sooner than later ❤❤❤❤
I’m waiting till my 30s, early 40s at the latest.
Brett that is so true!! they will change it in the best way, it's what happened with me
Really? I never thought feminism could go too far? Like Oh my god. Interesting...🤣
The whole "We were lied to..." excuse is just women avoiding accountability (yet again). No one lied. They were selfish, are still selfish, and just want the 10 year "hot girl summer" of their 20s not to hold them back in their 30s.
Yeah, but a lot of society also told them that was the thing to do. On top of that like they are stuck with their consequences, there really isn’t a need to rub salt in the wounds of the women who are realizing they were wrong
@@tylergannon7398Given how so many of them treat men in order to maintain their independence? That crap has led to incredibly high instances of depression and self-termination among men, just because half the population treats them like lepers and rally to prevent them from getting any help at all.
Just look at the US legal system when it comes to divorces and child custody, or all of the huge protests against men's therapy clinics or self-termination prevention centers for men, or all of the social media crap-storms when a man is molested or mutilated or otherwise abused by a woman.
I know it's not all of them, but it's a huge, _huge_ problem that this is a major part of.
People need to realize that this is a major issue and hurts everyone, else it's never going to stop.
@@tylergannon7398but we shouldn't give them false hope that we'll either forgive or forget their past either.
Weddings are the biggest waste of time in the world especially since every person's wedding I've attended they have ended up divorced
Just remember, misery wants others
There’s nothing wrong with being single when you’re young as long as it’s what you really want. However, I do believe there are only an extremely few people on earth who benefit from being single when they’re older. As long as you have the strength to change when you’re ready, just do what feels right.
That chick busy reading too much😂😂😂
I applaud women who come to this realization. The sooner, the better, obviously. This epiphany in the 20's is still going to be hard enough to deal with. When I see or hear of it past 40... Well, you're going to need a miracle.
Brett's cute
Bro you've commented this like 9 times you trying to become her new fiance? But real
@@Jesusisthelordandsavior monitoring me like the IRS
@@shogunjobu nah man you just comment this on every brett video
@@Jesusisthelordandsavior keep auditing me. I enjoy it
@@shogunjobu I aint auditing you you just keep commenting Brett's cute like damn come up with something original she ain't gonna be your girlfriend bro she's got a fiance
“Boss Babe-dom” has always had its consequences. They just weren’t willing to listen.
You saying a good man will change that makes me optimistic, thanks
A good man cannot change a selfish woman. only she can change herself and she has to want it. so basically we're fucked.
😅 literally
Only in the U$@😅
The amusing part is that even tho she is questioning it, she is still 9nly thinking about herself. Her girlfirends being single is just a reflection of her/their choices. And all that is in her mind is what she thinks she should have.
It's a good start, but you have a LOOONG way to go. You still seem to need to experience and accept you're "I'm not the center of the universe" moment.
I respect her very much for how she knows and is self-aware and admits what she guilty of.
36. Not questioning at all. Happiest time oml❤
Gotta give credit to the fact the she even admits the reasons they cheered on each others singleness were for selfish reasons too
I've never understood why working in an office, while single, dealing with all the headaches of a big city is more appealing than falling in love, being taken care of, and looking after kids/pets.
Am I the only one that was looking at the girls books the entire time trying to see if she had my favorite ones 😅
all i heard was "I need, I want" yup typical modern feminist
Meanwhile my entire friend circle is married in the past 4 years and I’m getting married in September 😂
For 52 yrs I have been dependent on my husband for different things, at different times and he is dependent on me for different things at different times. It’s a fluid co-dependency called marriage. We don’t depend on each other for our happiness but we give each other the support to find our own happiness. That changes as the family dynamics change. Our needs as newlyweds is very different from first time parents. That also changes when the family grows or suffers a trauma. We are the biggest fans of each other. We both had careers but never had daycare or babysitters because we worked it out as a team. Priorities changes but the team was always at the top of the list.
If you've been living irresponsibly for a decade of your life already, you're probably no longer a viable candidate to be a wife.
That’s why I’m a lesbian because I know women won’t judge me for bullshit like this
Can't say that i fell into the girlboss rhetoric until last year after my 2nd failed relationship due to abuse. I'm a long term monogamous type of girl n wanted to be a sahw but in both relationships they wanted me to do both earning and home care. Smh first relationship lasted 8ish years n had to heal n this last one lasted 2 yrs so as a late bloomer that squandered my youth, at 35 have honestly given up the search. As a modern traditional woman, i honestly dont feel there's time left. So now im just content with my paycheck n traveling 😅🤷🏿♀️
You don't know how rare you are. In modern feminism Boss Babe. Protect your self.
@@alexryan43244 definitely and thx for the kind words
Balance. You can learn, educate yourself, grow as a person all while simultaneously accepting a coffee date every now and then.
A real friend would call your shit out. Sometimes you need to tell friends to take risks and put themselves on the line.
“A good man will change that in the best way.” 👍
Nope 😂
I got married at 22 and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made!
Yeah the “I’m a little too independent” and “A good man will change that in the best way” is sooo true, looking at my sister and her boyfriend like. I didn’t know it was possible for her to actually act actually cute and feminine until they started dating. They’re freaking ADORABLE.
Me, three years later…my argument has been “I’m not ready,” and I still don’t feel ready, and am def becoming too independent and don’t know how to fix it ‘cause dating still scares me/I don’t think I’m ready, lolll
Pray about it ❤
Eve was lied to about the Forbidden Fruit too, doesn't really make it less evil.
I was super shy into my 30s!! Been looking for a guy for 10 years!! Too many creeps out there or guys who arent really ready for a new relationship!!
Theres a show called "Midnight Diner", in the many of the characters that come and go, one stood out, a group of 3 SINGLE women, who were saying "we dont need a man woohooo" and one of them ends up deciding she wanted a husband because they were reaching their late 30's, until one of them gets into a wedding interview which both friends were trying to make her not do it, and when she did it, one of the friends did the same, leaving one of them miserable.
Her reasoning is kinda wild though
I met my husband at 15, engaged by prom at 17, married at 18, had our first kid at 19. We skipped the wedding thing, and we got married at the courthouse in our prom suit/dress.
I always hated the idea of a wedding. It so pompous, it’s a flex, a look at me please, and envy me now, type of thing to do. Especially considering… you don’t even like 1/2 the people you would be forced into inviting. A total waste of money. I’d rather spend that cash on the cost of another baby.
And how old are you now?
So crazy to see how this has unfolded right in front of us. On my side of the family I’m 1 of 5 kids. The only one who has gotten married who has not gotten divorced (and that ain’t never gonna happen). 2 of my siblings have never had a serious relationship and have no children. 1 sibling has two kids and another has 1 kid. I have one child, all the others plan on never having any more children. So 5 siblings produced only 4 children. We haven’t even replaced ourselves much less our partners. I plan on having at least one more but sometimes I think I should have three to help with the population decline lol
And it sucks because society lied to us about this whole “girl boss” thing and now I want a family and I feel like I’m running out of time.
Had me right up until the end. Not our responsibility.
I wanna be narried, but wanna be in my prime at the wedding after party. Lmfao
"Men would rather throw a hot dog on a bun, than down a hallway." I think that's from Proverbs, or something.
This also goes for babies!!! If you have a decently sized social circle you should be able to get to hold babies at all times by visiting the friends who are having one at the moment 😭
(also at a certain age you should be able to regularly get roasted by primary-schoolers to keep you humble and aware of the times, so that works out perfectly)