Regret, Negativity, Losing Friends, & HUGE PLANS
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The Gift of Fear is an awesome book!!
My husband and I did 1week Las Vegas and 1 week Hawaii in 2012. It cost us £5000 from the moment we left home to the moment we got back. I am still proud of that.
Lost my Husband last year but we had 59 holidays together over 35 years. We did all we could just incase.
When that girl leaves, it will throw you for a loop, Christine! It is so hard to let the first one go and then the last one darn near kills you. The sad part of being a parent. 😢
Owww it doesn’t have to be!
I thought I was gonna be all sad and depressed but for me, it was my boy is gonna go to college, educate himself and hopefully he will stand on his own two feet and chose his own path! How amazing is that?
So he went to college and every chance he gets he comes home!!
Granted is more to see his girlfriend than anything else but still! Just when I start missing him, he comes! Lol
I’ve prepared myself mentally since middle school!
I think is gonna be the hardest with the last one! But I’ll deal with it when I get there!
4 more years!
Omgoodness yes yes and YES!
Truth. 😕
Every time one of ours left for college our lives had big changes. Our youngest went this fall and by the end of the year both siblings got married and one grandparent went to assisted living. Everyone asks how is the empty nest and we feel we swapped an 18 year old for an 81 year old, they just don’t live with us. I’m trying to find the blessing in being so busy we’re not hung up on no kids at home.
They never prepare you for how much you will miss them when they grow up and move out.
You say you're not motivated most days, but you sure motivate us! You are fit. You are frugal. You are fantastic! Love your content and your family! Keep up the good work!
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The college answer.... PERFECTION!!! Good job protecting your sweet daughter! ❤
Good luck with scholarships too! They are a lot of work but a tremendous blessing!
Yes to the traveling, don’t put it off! Find a way. My husband and I had so many plans for when he retired, but he passed away at 62. So freaking young. Give yourselves the fun adventures now, you just never know what’s in the future.
Christine being the big spoon to Dave’s little spoon was awesome! Lol
The seriousness of life has hit me too lately. I'm not married & my biological clock is ticking, as much as I want kids I know I'm not in a situation to do it alone. As much as I want to pay off debt & plan for the future I realized I'm not living. There's nothing to stop me from traveling across the country for a music festival so why not just do it?! We never know what will happen so we need to enjoy life. 💖
Bleed it out has been my favorite song to run to for 15 years lol, soooo good.
It’s hard to let them go but watching them grow into an adult puts so much pride in your heart. I think almost daily, wow, I created that amazing person.
I relate to the question about losing friends over being frugal and/or just being financially smart, and honestly I don't care either, not going to do all sort of dumb stuff just to maintain a friend
Been there!
You can totally do the road to Hana by yourselves. Ignore the rental car company warnings. There's only like 1/2 mile unpaved and that is gravel. It's fine. If there is a pull off with people selling stuff about half way, STOP. They are amazing people and so kind. Buy the stuff from them. I still have my woven basket 22 years later. It's the best vacation.
Our oldest son is a sophomore in college. I say leave her room. Unless your daughter is going to college in Maine or Hawaii, you don’t know how often she’ll be home. Leaving her room is less disruptive for all.
Eh not really, not if she isn’t going to be there and using it, so they might as well make use of the space
Wow that snow….. we’ve not had snow here in Vicksburg, MS, for 3 years. Lasted two days. Today I cleaned the pool, pulled weeds and sunbathed. 83° out. You were going to love Maui. Our family favorite vacation destination.
Pausing the video to say thank you for talking about balancing saving and actually living. I'm 34, hubby is 37. We have 8 kids, oldest just turned 18. We live about $10k/year under the poverty level for our family size. We have worked really hard and are 100% debt free including the house. Now, we're starting to enjoy life a little bit. We're taking a vacation this year plus taking our oldest on a "senior trip" (he's home schooled) with just me, hubby, and him. Traveling even on a budget isn't cheap and it's so hard for me to spend money after saving so strictly for my entire life. I really needed the reminder that balance is a good thing. And I keep repeating to myself, "this is why we're frugal."
I was asked yesterday what was THE #1 piece of advice I have ever gotten? I replied, "
Never think yourself above unsolicited advice. I glued it to my heart and head."
One of the BEST lessons Iearned and very early in life.....
The road to Hana is freakin AWESOME! Even if you just drive it. But you can for sure look up some stops. Go in the rain if you can.. WAY less people and it was warm and delightful. Wear bathing suits so there's no fussy changing. You can wear clothing over, but make it light and layered. Hats with attached ties in case there are winds.. there'll be winds!
Your fitness content is my favorite! I guess people like to shop more than they like to work out, though. 😃
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DON'T CHANGE THE ROOM!!!!
Our son moved out and we changed his room too quickly. He couldn't come back and regain his footing. His friends gave him a really hard time telling him "at least we still have a room". We felt terrible 😢.
He joined the army (cause he didn't have a room????). He's made a career in the military and will retire with 20 years soon. He's been successful but we hurt his feelings when we took his room
I agree with this. Don't change the room for the first year she is away at college, and also for the boys when it is their turn to leave.
Wow whole family to Hawaii, daughter in
College, and 20 years of love. Blessings on blessings! ☺️
Any friendship that is dependent on how much I'm willing to spend isn't a friendship I want.
I’ve gone to Kaui for several years. I always used Rent-a-wreck for my car rental. Dirt cheap. They are beaters that worked just great and was not worried about the cars. Plus we would just blend in with the locals. So it was win/win. Have fun
My mom was also my best friend. I just lost her a couple months ago. She was amazing and I'm so glad I had her
Thank you to your husband for being a teacher it takes a very special person to do that
I like how your daughter had input, but I also love her attitude!
In my second marriage, my son was living in a garage room (former 3rd stall) in California with the laundry, extra pantry cupboard, and no air conditioning vents. Yes, he got heat exhaustion once. My ex would just close the door to keep the cool air in the house. Yup. So his son went on a 2 year mission and asked that his room be kept how it was for him, complete with stuff in the closet. The ex said, sure, no problem! So my son was getting sick in the garage and my 2 daughters were sharing a room, but he had "promised." Yeah. The marriage didn't last and I'm not sad about it. I love your family!!
On the grain mill question, I just replaced an old Nutrimill Classic with a Komo Mio, and I have to say that I love it so much more. The Nutrimmill was a bit of a process to get out and use, so I ground an entire can of wheat at a time and stored the flour. Now I grind what I need, and with the convenience and reduced storage needs I'm branching into other whole grains. So spendy, absolutely! But worth every penny I saved up for it.
Make sure you have a place for Hailey to come home to. 🥰 It is so hard when your kids start leaving. 😢
My husband and I were able to retire at 55 thanks to some good planning and a small inheritance. We know too many people who kept working and then never got to enjoy retirement. It has been 15 years and we are still enjoying ourselves and our family. If you can afford to retire don't put it off.
My parents didn't change my room when I went to college but we did move houses 3 months before I graduated. I often would still have dreams of my old room and for a long time, I always thought of our old house as my "home" (I am 26 now). I wouldn't change her room. Even though I probably would've told my parents they could, having a space that felt like home and reminded me of the safety of my family was so important (especially since the transition to college can be very hard). Obviously, you have to do what's right for your family and I was the youngest sibling so they didn't need the room. It was just so important to me to have a place I could come home to that truly felt like mine and felt safe.
Maui Revealed book! You can buy a used copy for pretty cheap too. We lived by it and did Maui so cheap and so fun.
My family did the drive to Hana in a van! My dad drove. It was a bit nerve wracking but worth it. This was 20 years ago but I remember well. I was Hailey’s age when I went! Definitely take Dramamine and those motion sickness bracelets. Bring your lunch and eat there it’s amazing.
So glad your feeling better! Amen amen!
I got the Helix Midnight Luxe with the cool cover thing last month. So far, mixed reviews from me.
I got a queen, and it was VERY difficult for me to maneuver, unbox, get on the bed, get the plastic off, and arrange on the bed by myself. It's definitely a two-person job.
There was a strong smell from the mattress that lingered for a long time, even after opening the windows and airing it out without sheets for days.
I still sweat even with the cool covering. I don't have a Helix without the cool covering to compare it to, so I don't know how effective the cover is.
I didn't expect this bed to cure all my physical ailments, but I have not noticed any significant improvement with pain upon waking in the morning. (It's only been a month, though.)
The bed is comfortable and I like it, but I'm not convinced that I couldn't find something comparable cheaper.
Being a single mom to 3 teenage boys is too hard on me. My husband was severely injured on the job by taking a really nasty fall and he hit his head. He had to have emergency brain surgery on 6/24/22 and he is now in rehab in Paramount Ca. He can’t walk, talk, eat, dress himself, take care of himself and he can’t come home. I have been alone for 9 months and sometimes I go to bed crying.
Thanks for answering my question!! Good advice!
I enjoyed this! Thanks for sharing and being so fun!
I like the idea of doing a trip/memories verses giving gifts that will be forgotten.
Braces shop around. We had one ortho tell us 8500 for my son and another tell us 6000. Biiiiig diff!!!
Also if you can wait. Kids mouths grow. We waited for my son till he was 16 instead of 13. He was going to need this massive set of braces at 13 but simple ones at 15. Wouldn’t have got them but his tooth was grinding against that tooth. Remember they ARE A BUSINESS!!!
Ask if they do family discounts. Make sure the quote covers the entire set of braces. Sometimes the quote doesn’t cover the removal of the braces, etc.
I love the training you do with Rogue! That’s how I train all of my dogs! Awesome!
Love your relationship with your family…way to go 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
There has to be CZcams videos for surfing. I have chronic illness since I was 24 and pretty bad since I was 28. Live life to the fullest, every moment.
I think your family and you are awesome!
I love that you showed how you trained your dog!! I had two Goldens several years ago and they were SO smart and it was a lot of fun training them!
Motivation Yes! I love what you said. Build in supports that make it easier to do what you said you wanted! Triggers to remind you, too! The more, the better!
I love your family, including Rogue!! Great channel!!
I’ll watch a fitness video over a dollar tree ANY DAY. I’d love some more fitness content if you’re willing!
Hey Christine & Dave ,
I’m pretty new to your channel. I love all of the content. Thanks for sharing! ❤
😊 nice update. Congratulations on your plans for your trip. You'll enjoy it & won't regret the time & money spent on the memories!
As a mother of triplets I can tell you that most of the time financially it’s really just like having 3 kids with the exception of braces and college. We survived $18,000 in braces in one year with lots and lots of creative saving and we are about to send them to college… deep breath!
Well done!! 😁👍🏼
Wow! That’s pretty incredible 🎉
WOW! Glad to know you had a positive experience!
Bless you!!
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Empty nest is sad for a while. I felt like my world ended when our daughter moved out and married. As I got a little older, I realized it was nothing compared to the other heartache in my life. Each season in life has it perks and challenges. Now I look forward to kids visiting and then going home.
Glad to see you training your pup and incorporating “touch”. Not only is this great fo General recall, but if ever you became visually impaired for whatever reason touch is the best way to find where your dog is.
Thank you for sharing. I know it's got to be hard to put things out there. But I appreciate your advice and tips.
Awww Hawaii 🌸 ❤ I’m so happy for you guys. Loved this video and the sponsor.
I love when you do videos with Dave! Haylee was a bonus. Great video, Christine! ❤
For what it’s worth: Two things a College Administrator for Health and Wellness recommended during an orientation to a large group of parents he claimed was based on research was to 1. To keep your child’s room as is for at least their first year of college and 2. Do not separate with your spouse their first year away. I just remember those two things sticking with me because I didn’t have any plans to do either!!😂 And in case that was confusing- room is the same and I’m happily married.
awesome! LOVE the Q&A videos.... also - good call on the Salsa from Thrive market... I tried it in my last box based on your recommendation and it is the BEST!!!
Surfing in Hawaii suggestions: I tried surfing on the beach in Honolulu once about 45 years ago. HAHAHAHAHA! I rented a board that was soooo huge I had to drag it into and out of the water -- couldn't carry it. (Obviously, I was not as fit as the Frugal Fit Mom.) I tried standing up once and I fell with my feet going straight down in the water which then smashed on a bunch of coral. That flippin' HURT. It's better to do a belly flop when you fall in not so deep water than to go down feet first. My last bit of info. is that the sea was desperately trying to pull us out away from the beach. Be careful not to drift too far out in the ocean. Otherwise, definitely give it a try. Seeing video of your surfing exploits later would be fun!
I literally applauded you when you spoke about motivation. I've learned that I don't have to like a thing in order to do it. I just gotta DO IT. BTW my dog came running when I clapped. Thank you!
Holy Moly...thank you glory!! You chose my question to answer!! YES!! 🎉 Your advise is spot on. I have a loving family, but at 53 years of age there is still this drive to critique, judge my life choices. I know there is love there but it really internalizes with me. I'm working to pray and realize I take things to heart a lot. You and Dave rock! Thank you for making my day here! God bless you guys!❤
I can't wait to see some of your frugal tips for Hawaii :)
Loved visiting Maui! Took family on pineapple plantation tour and it was great - think it was Maui Gold? Best pineapple we ever tasted. Cost was about $75 per person but we kept checking until found them $20 off, so $55 per person when purchased in advance. Tour including going out in fields and eating as much pineapple as you could as they sliced it in fields AND each person received a boxed pineapple suitable for airline travel home. We continue to buy the pineapples shipped here for Christmas gifts too. Costco near airport is great but expect higher prices on everything.
You and your girl! Goals! 🥰😘❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My one and only baby girl went to uni this year. It’s hard but you will still find ways to connect.
Also, I didnt know you had such awesome taste in music 👍😎
Thanks for sharing your life!
Love the part where you talk about the relationship between you and your daughter. My Mom and I have a special day together to celebrate our birthdays like you described. We started when I was about 8 or 9 and still do it every year.... we are now 45 and 68. It's the BEST!
Here’s my vote for more health and fitness videos!
I am stunned at how no one EVER mentions or asks about your resemblance to Britney Spears…in.her.prime by the way. I lived through that era. She and I are about the same age. I can never unsee Britney when I watch your videos. Hailey is such a treasure by the way! Such an amazing girl. I wish her all the best in college. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Dave's determination to learn surfing without paying for a lesson is giving me absolute joy! His statement "maybe it'll be how we show that on a budget isn't best" is life. You guys seem so excited! I hope you have an amazing trip!!
I love your family's energy and it's just nice watching a family that loves each other :) :) Appreciate the real talk too.. the more serious issues or concerns... because it's all around us or we are the ones directly dealing with it. LOVE how you guys touch on it.. and acknowledge it but don't let it take over. You do your thing... you do it together :) Very encouraging. Motivation is doo doo lol
I love your content! And please upload more videos about health and fitness! I think you are the most awesome person to do that! You inspire me a lot!
1. Books. Steve Berry ‘s Cotton Malone series, only one so far that I felt was a miss. Teaser, it wasn’t the first so give them a try.
2. Haley’s Room. Totally impressed by her answer of considering it a waste to not used. That young woman has her head screwed on straight.
3. Losing friend’s. I agree totally. Early in my improving financial journey, I had a job with lots of down time, several of us were friends and talked about everything, including money. I quickly learned to only discuss money with those that had what I considered to be good money habits. I remained friends with all, but I only talked money with those that re enforced my better habits. Now, that I am retired and comfortable with my life and decisions I would talk money with all. But early in my journey, I wanted the re enforcement of only good choices.
I am laughing so hard at myself...when you were on your bike I thought you were wearing your suit backwards and I am CHONKY so I would stick out on both sides of that and look like a SPAGHETTI SPOON😂😂😂😂😂
I love the fitness and health videos! I even go back and watch the old ones that I can find! I do also love the dollar tree ones but the fitness ones give me motivation.
Oh my gosh the March snow 🙄 I’m in Utah and we’re also trying to plan our garden. The struggle is real!
I have the same awesome relationship with my daughter. She's now 20 and still calls me for advice while at college. Yes, it's hard at first when they go but you do adjust and it's so fun seeing them grow.
I am very thankful for you and your family. I have learned so much from you and you always, always, always bring a smile to my face.
More health and fitness content please!!! You have such a unique perspective being an adventurer, taking on big goals AND having a background in exercise science. Love this! You’re so inspiring! ❤
It’s funny how you mention how you and your daughter are so close because I always spoke to my daughters the same way and they are my two best friends. Besides, my husband, of course.
Yay for exciting family moves! And congrats on 20 years! Pleaseeee do a Hawaii on a budget video :)
Your fitness videos and Podcasts are what inspired me to sign up for my first race. Trained for 3 months and ran my first 10K race with another one coming up in April. Ran 10 miles for the first time Sunday. Thanks!
I love that you have a great relationship with your kids. I think that is what is best about you and your husband.
I love all the answers…keeping it real, as always🥰
I love you family! You guys are so cute, good kids, well mannered, joyful. I think you guys are great and I absolutely love the good relationship w your children 🌺
Oh my goodness! I think I accidentally trained my dog to recall. 😂
She was abused before we rescued her, so between the new name and being scared, she would hide.
I kept a baggie of cooked chicken thighs in my pocket and gave her a piece every time she came when I called her name and patted my thigh.
We can let her off leash anywhere that’s allowed and she never gets farther than 10 or so yards away from me. It’s the best. All my dogs, growing up, were runners. They would bolt through any crack in the door and take forever to get back. My dog now never leaves me. What luck!
Maui is my favorite island! Drive the road to Hana yourself. That way you can stop when needed. Get a really early start! Have Ginger chews and peppermints. Drive slow. It’s so beautiful!
Also- get the book Maui for Dummies. Great info!
Snorkeling right off the beach at the Fairmont- on point!!!!
Have so much fun!!!
I love this kind of videos :) protect your children, watch them grow, and be fulfilled both as a mother and woman... you deserve everything you have achieved and your kids and husband are Lucy to have you, I am also lucky to have you, your recipes and tips helped save money and now im closer to be able to afford to pay for my own college myself as my parents weren't able to, you are a gift sent from the universe, I did splurge and had an unplanned 2000 dollar purchase a few months ago (I bought a dog) but no regret, he is the best and I love coming home to him everyday, other than that im pretty much on track and part of that is thanks to you
I just finished Local Woman Missing - highly recommend. The Psychology of Money looks great - thanks for sharing!
Love that training trick with Rogue!
Bought my first house in 03. Kept it 17 years and rented it out for for about 3-5 years (can't remember). Sold it for 145k last year after gutting most of it. Paid off all our debt and then some.
I'm so happy I found your channel, mommy of 5! We have down sized and I'm needing help getting it started and I love all your ideas 🙏💯❤️
For the road to Hanna- take a lot of bottled water and a bag of candied ginger. Great for any nausea on the twisty turny Hanna road. Breathtaking, one lane in some parts but worth the very long drive. Also leave a bit of time to take a dip in one of the waterfall fed pools along the way. Pack a picnic lunch to enjoy at the very top.
Lynne Twist's "The Soul of Money" was a game-changing book for me. By the way, cannot believe Hailey is EIGHTEEN and going to college. Hang in there with all the feels. Happy for her!
Totally what my hubby and I did in Hawaii (Maui) for our honeymoon...Went off-season (october) camped in hubs tiny hiking tent on a ridge by the ocean (thought it was gonna blow away but found big lava rocks to hold it down), bathed in the ocean WAY below our tent site in a little nook surrounded by rocks ... hiked the seven falls & through bamboo & guava "forests" & down dry riverbeds BY OURSELVES... We did do some of the "regular tourist things too...sunset cruise, snorkeling...stayed in a condo a couple days, but we had so much fun staying out adventuring in nature most of the time...and we did the Road to Hana ourselves too...beautiful!!! God is GOOD!!!🌴🌴
Omg, you will love Maui! I know you are looking forward to outdoorsy activities in nature, but give yourself a half day to just lay in the sand by the ocean! It is gorgeous and I’ve never seen ocean water SO CLEAR!😍
I talk to my daughter the same way you do & she’s now 23. She moved out about 1&1/2 years ago to be closer to work & school. We still constantly message/ text/talk whenever we can & have a monthly meal together except when finals are around it becomes 2months. But I love that relationship with her. I think more people should have a relationship with their children like that.
You are such a great mom!
Hear you on the house purchase before 2008. We had to sell our first house in 1995. Total disaster. Not only lost $, we also got a really bad credit rating because of circumstances outside our control. It took a long time, but we finally climbed our way out and became homeowners again. Lots of scrimping and saving. Wish we had CZcams with channels like yours back then! (If there were I completely missed them. 🙄 Thank goodness for your channel now!
I put off all kinds of things and now my learning disabled brother is very sick with 3 cancers and I am his main caregiver. I also take care of my elderly parents. My life has come to a screeching halt. I don't know when I will be able to travel again. I wasted a lot of years when I could have done whatever I wanted. I also missed out on a once in a lifetime trip to see Phantom of the Opera in NY. It was the only thing my 24 year old daughter wanted to do and we saved it for college graduation. Now it's gone from Broadway and we can never see it. I have so much regret about that. Please do everything as you can. You never know what is coming in the future.
You all inspire me. I keep watching hoping your frugal ways will rub off on me. I certainly do use your recipes and make meals in advance more often but eating out is our kryptonite.
Maui is so fun. Happy for your family
You and your daughter have so many similar mannerisms.It's adorable! And.... love the Texas shirt! Texas girl here! 😉