Thank god I found this video, I was diagnosed with PTSD when I was 6 from a car accident, my dad was driving and he passed away that night! My childhood was on and off anger issues but still quite reserved. Years of counseling helped in so many ways!! I am 22 now just now realizing how PTSD has made an impact on my life! I never thought of it as a lifelong disorder until last year when I suffered from depression and extreme anxiety, I’ve learned not to stress on things I can’t control. Keep up the great content brother
I can't tell you how happy I am that you resonated with this (not happy that you have PTSD tho), that's the main reason I created this video was in hopes to connect with others that have to struggle with these issues!
thank you for this video. its so tiring. I feel like every person im interested in at the moment is just a means for me to figure out my problems. How many people do I have to ruin a potential relationship with before I can just not have issues anymore. So much of what you said made sense to me even though we have very different experiences and reactions to triggers. Im fine when I dont see them, but as soon as theres a date on the horizon or its the day of the date, my dissociative thing kicks in and I can barely function socially anymore. What you said about the entire getting to know them process being so very uncomfortable is so true. Going on a date in about an hour. I dont feel at all like its going to be OK. I dont particularly want to go anymore. But I have to because I know on some level I want to. Its so tiring. Thank you.
Dating post trauma isn't easy, for me I just decided to pull away from dating for the time being to shift my focus totally on myself. I hope the date went well Tito! One thing I will say, is that after spending so much time working through my PTSD it has significantly gone down, and is far more manageable, so there's definitely hope and an other side to all this!
It's horrible. I've been alone for a year already and only the thought of dating someone is anxiety inducing, so afraid of having to relive all the shit I went through in my toxic, abusive relationship. To never knowing how someone is really like. Why am I ranting about these things on the internet? Idk but I guess it helps. Thanks
If I may gently suggest, one of the strange gifts of having been in traumatic relationships is it gives of the ability to see potentially toxic people from a mile away. After everything I can see through so many people now than before. However, I agree with that anxiety of always fearing to return to that place. However, I think one thing I find strength in is the man I am now would never even for a second allow someone to abuse of mistreat me. I hope you find strength in your experience despite how unfair it is that you have to do so in the first place!
@@East-Bound You're awesome, thank you for taking the time to reply. I am indeed at a much better place and working on self improvement every day. I truly am happier, I just get these moments from time to time and even though it doesn't feel the best they help me to learn something new and improve on my mental health even more. I'm so happy I found your channel, wish you all but the best and will follow you from now on :)
I really related to a lot in this. For a long time I’ve experienced the same need to know how those around me are feeling and what to expect from their demeanor (specifically men), or else the heart palpitations come and I’ve an inexplicable urge to jump out of my skin. But I shrink away instead of prod. I feel more like a lamb living in fear of the Shepard. At anytime I could do something wrong and their anger could be unleashed. Even when it is, I KNOW they would never hurt me, and they deserve to be able to express themselves in this friendship/relationship, but it doesn’t matter how much trust is there, the physical symptoms still come. Needless to say it’s endlessly frustrating. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable! It helps to remind me that others can feel this way in relationships, even guys.
I couldn't agree more with the physicality of PTSD, as you describe heart palpitations, it's a very real experience for me as well. I genuinely appreciate you not only viewing my video but having the courage to discuss your own PTSD! Hearing that others relate to my experiences is one of the main reasons I even started this channel, helps me feel less alone.
It's a strangely bittersweet thing to hear. I'm happy I can convey a feeling others can empathize with, but also sadden by the that fact you've had to suffer through similar things to have that empathy. Thank you for leaving the comment
Just saw this video, and I relate very well. Ptsd is no joke and I feel I have it based on the domestic violence I've been in. I'm glad you did this video because I've found talking out loud when I was ready with out crying was a sign I was healing. I forgave but getting past pain is a struggle it effects everything in my life. We are strong and there is someone for us out there. Keep up the great videos. Much Love cousin..
Also I sympathize with the utter all consuming impulses to know what someone is thinking. Recovering from a narcissist can cause very similar triggers and compulsions. Trying to figure out if im being manipulated or not.
Just recently diagnosed with mild ptsd and this is so spot on it gives me both sadness and relief I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to date because of it (hyperarousal ptsd) t
I am sorry to hear that, with a great deal of effort and self awareness I’ve been able to make a noticeable difference in how severe my PTSD symptoms are. I don’t know the circumstances of what caused your PTSD or what side effects it takes so I won’t unintentionally be dismissive, but I would say in general there’s hope for many who suffer with PTSD
@@East-Bound repeated muggings and a burglary whilst sleeping in a foreign town whilst at uni - thanks man ! I’m taking it day by day now SSRIs have helped me a lot but it’s still the early stages - the side effects are deep mistrust of people coupled with social anxiety and what you described as feeling of having to know the other person I’m interacting with is feeling even with family members. I’m fortunate to have understanding friends and access to a psych , All I can do is try to be less self critical and less analytical of others - appreciate the convo ✌🏻
@@noahberman5663 Wow, that is some seriously tough traumatic events to go through. In my experience, the repetition of an event like that so devastatingly increases the impact on the victim. You have my deepest and most sincere condolences, the fact you are seeking out videos on CZcams hints to me these events are something you are actively trying to work on which is huge. Wishing you all the luck Noah!
Ur not alone, bro. Intimacy is not so easy. Women want strong men. Walking yourself down, after getting all cranked up, looks to me to be seen as weakness in womens eyes. For getting all cranked up in the first place. And there ends her interest. I recently went out with this really great woman that hit on me. But, there will be no second date, and this is why.
I definitely agree with you point about women wanting strong men. Which is why it's so hard when there's very real PTSD that flares up and having to navigate that in a way that is both healthy and not "oversharing". I appreciate you taking the time to watch the video and leave feedback!
@@East-Bound But perhaps there could be a kind of middleground? Have you been waching datingcoach Wingmam on youtube? If we follow her way of thought, there is a risk of marketing oneself as "ill" and egocentric, unless we just briefly mention ptsd, and one or maximum two things sbout it. Good news is that wingmam recommends not rushing into sex, women love this. Well, some do. Also, about 10% of ppl have ptsd. Meaning it is quite possible to meet a nice woman that would relate somehow.
I'll definitely check her out! I think atm I've taken a step back from dating entirely and I'm working tirelessly to work through my past. I want to get to a point where my trauma and PTSD are no longer aspects of the narrative that is "who I am"
@@East-Bound yh man hopefully I'll find someone with emotionally fulfilling in my life that's my dream. I hope one day Chris tht u will find someone as well with emotionally fulfilling in your life
I hear your pain, Chris. It's okay to be broken; it's okay to have baggage. You are deserving of love and compassion. Don't rush your healing process.
So sweet of you! I agree it’s just sometimes hard to have all these issues I have to push through to just have a normal time
Thank god I found this video, I was diagnosed with PTSD when I was 6 from a car accident, my dad was driving and he passed away that night! My childhood was on and off anger issues but still quite reserved. Years of counseling helped in so many ways!! I am 22 now just now realizing how PTSD has made an impact on my life! I never thought of it as a lifelong disorder until last year when I suffered from depression and extreme anxiety, I’ve learned not to stress on things I can’t control. Keep up the great content brother
I can't tell you how happy I am that you resonated with this (not happy that you have PTSD tho), that's the main reason I created this video was in hopes to connect with others that have to struggle with these issues!
thank you for this video. its so tiring. I feel like every person im interested in at the moment is just a means for me to figure out my problems. How many people do I have to ruin a potential relationship with before I can just not have issues anymore. So much of what you said made sense to me even though we have very different experiences and reactions to triggers. Im fine when I dont see them, but as soon as theres a date on the horizon or its the day of the date, my dissociative thing kicks in and I can barely function socially anymore. What you said about the entire getting to know them process being so very uncomfortable is so true.
Going on a date in about an hour. I dont feel at all like its going to be OK. I dont particularly want to go anymore. But I have to because I know on some level I want to. Its so tiring. Thank you.
Dating post trauma isn't easy, for me I just decided to pull away from dating for the time being to shift my focus totally on myself. I hope the date went well Tito! One thing I will say, is that after spending so much time working through my PTSD it has significantly gone down, and is far more manageable, so there's definitely hope and an other side to all this!
It's horrible. I've been alone for a year already and only the thought of dating someone is anxiety inducing, so afraid of having to relive all the shit I went through in my toxic, abusive relationship. To never knowing how someone is really like. Why am I ranting about these things on the internet? Idk but I guess it helps. Thanks
If I may gently suggest, one of the strange gifts of having been in traumatic relationships is it gives of the ability to see potentially toxic people from a mile away. After everything I can see through so many people now than before. However, I agree with that anxiety of always fearing to return to that place. However, I think one thing I find strength in is the man I am now would never even for a second allow someone to abuse of mistreat me. I hope you find strength in your experience despite how unfair it is that you have to do so in the first place!
@@East-Bound You're awesome, thank you for taking the time to reply. I am indeed at a much better place and working on self improvement every day. I truly am happier, I just get these moments from time to time and even though it doesn't feel the best they help me to learn something new and improve on my mental health even more. I'm so happy I found your channel, wish you all but the best and will follow you from now on :)
@@natt.power22 of course! You took the time to be vulnerable so it’s the least I can do. Your support means so much!
I really related to a lot in this. For a long time I’ve experienced the same need to know how those around me are feeling and what to expect from their demeanor (specifically men), or else the heart palpitations come and I’ve an inexplicable urge to jump out of my skin. But I shrink away instead of prod. I feel more like a lamb living in fear of the Shepard. At anytime I could do something wrong and their anger could be unleashed. Even when it is, I KNOW they would never hurt me, and they deserve to be able to express themselves in this friendship/relationship, but it doesn’t matter how much trust is there, the physical symptoms still come. Needless to say it’s endlessly frustrating. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable! It helps to remind me that others can feel this way in relationships, even guys.
I couldn't agree more with the physicality of PTSD, as you describe heart palpitations, it's a very real experience for me as well. I genuinely appreciate you not only viewing my video but having the courage to discuss your own PTSD! Hearing that others relate to my experiences is one of the main reasons I even started this channel, helps me feel less alone.
I empathize so profoundly
It's a strangely bittersweet thing to hear. I'm happy I can convey a feeling others can empathize with, but also sadden by the that fact you've had to suffer through similar things to have that empathy. Thank you for leaving the comment
Just saw this video, and I relate very well. Ptsd is no joke and I feel I have it based on the domestic violence I've been in. I'm glad you did this video because I've found talking out loud when I was ready with out crying was a sign I was healing. I forgave but getting past pain is a struggle it effects everything in my life. We are strong and there is someone for us out there. Keep up the great videos. Much Love cousin..
Pushing through our PTSD and triggers is hard work! Thank you for your continued support Katia!
@@East-Bound absolutely 💯 % your welcome
It is a GREAT thing that you're self-reflective and in therapy -- you WILL get to a good place again.
I'm so sorry you experience this. PTSD is very difficult. I wish I had some answers besides you will eventually need to embrace vulnerability 💜💜
Also I sympathize with the utter all consuming impulses to know what someone is thinking. Recovering from a narcissist can cause very similar triggers and compulsions. Trying to figure out if im being manipulated or not.
Wow, you put into words what I have been feeling for a long time.
Thank you...
I don’t know if I’ll ever heal, I am so surrounded by pain and hurt even when I show love it doesn’t feel great
I hear you. I coach many people with similar issues please let me know if i can help you in anyway. Much love
Thanks for sharing
Thank you for viewing!
Everything you said I get..even stuff I didn’t get, now I really get. cheers 🍻
Thanks Rebecca, I'm glad it wasn't a confusing and contrived mess (pun intended haha)
This was beautiful. Totally relatable. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻
Thank you for listening!!!
Just recently diagnosed with mild ptsd and this is so spot on it gives me both sadness and relief I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to date because of it (hyperarousal ptsd) t
I am sorry to hear that, with a great deal of effort and self awareness I’ve been able to make a noticeable difference in how severe my PTSD symptoms are. I don’t know the circumstances of what caused your PTSD or what side effects it takes so I won’t unintentionally be dismissive, but I would say in general there’s hope for many who suffer with PTSD
@@East-Bound repeated muggings and a burglary whilst sleeping in a foreign town whilst at uni - thanks man ! I’m taking it day by day now SSRIs have helped me a lot but it’s still the early stages - the side effects are deep mistrust of people coupled with social anxiety and what you described as feeling of having to know the other person I’m interacting with is feeling even with family members.
I’m fortunate to have understanding friends and access to a psych , All I can do is try to be less self critical and less analytical of others - appreciate the convo ✌🏻
@@noahberman5663 Wow, that is some seriously tough traumatic events to go through. In my experience, the repetition of an event like that so devastatingly increases the impact on the victim. You have my deepest and most sincere condolences, the fact you are seeking out videos on CZcams hints to me these events are something you are actively trying to work on which is huge. Wishing you all the luck Noah!
@@East-Bound thank you man yeah The repetitive nature of the crimes definitely exacerbated my general anxiety - keep up the videos my man !
Ur not alone, bro. Intimacy is not so easy.
Women want strong men. Walking yourself down, after getting all cranked up, looks to me to be seen as weakness in womens eyes. For getting all cranked up in the first place.
And there ends her interest.
I recently went out with this really great woman that hit on me. But, there will be no second date, and this is why.
I definitely agree with you point about women wanting strong men. Which is why it's so hard when there's very real PTSD that flares up and having to navigate that in a way that is both healthy and not "oversharing". I appreciate you taking the time to watch the video and leave feedback!
@@East-Bound But perhaps there could be a kind of middleground?
Have you been waching datingcoach Wingmam on youtube?
If we follow her way of thought, there is a risk of marketing oneself as "ill" and egocentric, unless we just briefly mention ptsd, and one or maximum two things sbout it.
Good news is that wingmam recommends not rushing into sex, women love this. Well, some do.
Also, about 10% of ppl have ptsd. Meaning it is quite possible to meet a nice woman that would relate somehow.
I'll definitely check her out!
I think atm I've taken a step back from dating entirely and I'm working tirelessly to work through my past. I want to get to a point where my trauma and PTSD are no longer aspects of the narrative that is "who I am"
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I have PTSD as well
I'm sorry to hear that Tyrone, navigating PTSD is such a challenging experience.
@@East-Bound yh man hopefully I'll find someone with emotionally fulfilling in my life that's my dream. I hope one day Chris tht u will find someone as well with emotionally fulfilling in your life
sounds like some pretty bad anxiety
PTSD is definitely some awful anxiety