ETERNAL CHILD? Can ALTERS Age? LITTLE ALTERS | Debunking DID: Ep 11 | Dissociative Identity Disorder

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Komentáře • 892

  • @vgaur-2826
    @vgaur-2826 Před 5 lety +4581

    The thought of an alter being stuck in a traumatic time makes me so sad :(

    • @sarahc561
      @sarahc561 Před 5 lety +36

      Why don't people who have stuck alters try parts intergration? It has worked brilliantly for me so far.

    • @sipo3600
      @sipo3600 Před 5 lety +58

      @@sarahc561 wait so you can integrating yourself with will? I thought it was uncontrollable

    • @falsettos507
      @falsettos507 Před 5 lety +43

      @@sipo3600 a lot of the time it is by will but it can happen against the alters' will.

    • @sarahc561
      @sarahc561 Před 5 lety +61

      @@sipo3600 Depending how bad you have it. Mine isn't as obvious as these guys. I have one ANP I think and about 7 EP's. I am intergrating them together so we are all one. Instead of them being separate. My psychotherapist is fantastic.

    • @sarahc561
      @sarahc561 Před 5 lety +91

      For eg today at therapy I was regressed to a traumatic event in childhood I didn't know happened then I went there (mentally as an adult me) and rescued her and hugged her, loved her, emerged her into my soul and then was bought round. She's no longer alone and traumatised. It was obvs more detailed but I've done it with much more traumatised parts and I've stopped having seizures and all sorts.

  • @FirefliesMulti
    @FirefliesMulti Před rokem +78

    We have an alter who was never born.. in other words still a fetus. it confused us at first as how could we split in the womb? but it turned out that the reason she is there is... one of us made the statement more than once "I wish I had never been born!" thus... our mind split to create a sense of self that had never been born. I guess that was how some of us felt would be a safer way to be? She's still there, never talks, never fronts, but we can see her in the inside world.

    • @kinashy8863
      @kinashy8863 Před rokem +11

      Oh wow, i didn't know it's possible but it makes sense

    • @Vinz_THE-RAVEN_925
      @Vinz_THE-RAVEN_925 Před rokem +4

      as life goes on, i saw other system had their "final fusion", could it somehow possible for a fetus to integrate, or is it up to the one who said those words to come to their senses?
      Sorry it's my first time hearing a fetus alter

    • @fenixmeaney6170
      @fenixmeaney6170 Před 10 měsíci +2

      ​@@kinashy8863if it can make sense to a child's mind, then it's possible.

    • @kinashy8863
      @kinashy8863 Před 10 měsíci +1

      @@fenixmeaney6170 true

  • @kerareed9115
    @kerareed9115 Před 5 lety +2441

    I think it would be really cool if you had all the alters take the Myer Briggs personality test!

    • @elevenmoons4020
      @elevenmoons4020 Před 5 lety +105

      Kurra Art that would be super interesting! (If they all agree of course!)

    • @elonmusk921
      @elonmusk921 Před 5 lety +98

      I’ve tried to do this but I can never get them to do it 😭😭😭 they don’t read notes that I leave so I have to wait til we’re co-con to tell them and then we’re co-con so the results won’t be accurate to them and,,, andnNdhfdifkdifj

    • @giuliana8478
      @giuliana8478 Před 5 lety +27

      @@elonmusk921 Whaaat, what if the note has something important? What do you do??

    • @elonmusk921
      @elonmusk921 Před 5 lety +26

      giuliana too bad I guess :/ luckily so far nothing super major has come up that I haven’t been able to tell them about

    • @marlynn6782
      @marlynn6782 Před 5 lety +33

      I would love to do this, but I have 20 others. The test is so long, and while some of mine would not mind taking it, switching, while I have a gatekeeper, is still very tiring for me. I might try to do a few a week, but I'm unsure.

  • @aubreyvictoria320
    @aubreyvictoria320 Před 5 lety +3198

    CHLOE YOUR MAKEUP IS ALWAYS ON POINT OH MY GOSH... your eyeliner is... so....sharp....

    • @DissociaDID
      @DissociaDID  Před 5 lety +322

      Thank you!!

    • @TheNasteya
      @TheNasteya Před 5 lety +166

      I was going to say that that lip colour is 🔥 and looks coordinated with the lava lamp)))

    • @summahthevegan3796
      @summahthevegan3796 Před 5 lety +103

      Agreed. The colour coordination with her hat and hair is great too

    • @strawberrypancakes6952
      @strawberrypancakes6952 Před 5 lety +24

      They always look hella good, not surprising
      But yes, Chloe's looks today, great ♡♡♡

    • @oliveszn
      @oliveszn Před 5 lety +5

      what if one of the other alters did their makeup that day?

  • @sgatlersquad2691
    @sgatlersquad2691 Před 5 lety +1529

    About the part of alters aging at will, I don’t have articles but I have experience.
    The one born with the body got stuck at the age of 10 (when the trauma happened), she stayed like that for a long time, but recently started to age, she isn’t 11 now, she jumped straight to 13 (the age when another traumatic event happened).
    What is going on in this case is that she, maybe, moved on from that time of her life, she already accepted what happened and is ready to continue with her life. Now that she is 13 is going to have to deal with the memories of that age.
    Our theory is that, maybe, some alters decide to age because they see aging as a way to say “the past stays in the past” and they are ready to leave that behind; yes, that can still be affected by it, but they are no longer locked in that moment of their life.
    We have another little who ages normally (he’s now 10). He decided to keep aging like any normal person because he says is the best thing to do so he can evolve as a person, become stronger and be ready for the things he’ll have to front, he says he won’t be able to face problems in life if he stays the same age 🤷🏻‍♀️
    The rest of us age normally, but I thought it would be nice to talk about those two.
    Amazing video btw, very informative, I understand my littles a bit better now 💕 I would like to know about older alters, how someone can have an alter older than the body and why they exist, the majority of us are older than the body and it makes me curious to know why

    • @sgatlersquad2691
      @sgatlersquad2691 Před 5 lety +5

      Makes sense

    • @giuliana8478
      @giuliana8478 Před 5 lety +13

      Wow, that's so cool, never saw it that way, I don't have d.i.d so I wouldn't know but I also thought it could be moving pass trauma

    • @kimberboucher4680
      @kimberboucher4680 Před 4 lety

      giuliana I think you should know it’s not d.i.d it’s DID.

    • @ChloeBxoxo
      @ChloeBxoxo Před 4 lety +10

      @@kimberboucher4680 it's the same

    • @kaitlandduncan517
      @kaitlandduncan517 Před 3 lety +8

      @@kimberboucher4680 please do not reply to someone to just pick out there small (very small!!) mistakes that could have been correct and most of the time is we all knew what they meant

  • @shaishu9859
    @shaishu9859 Před 5 lety +542

    While I don't have DID, I have severe PTSD and you talking about your experiences and debunking how everyone can handle trauma means the world to me.
    Thank you!

    • @afterglow2935
      @afterglow2935 Před 4 lety +8

      Same, I have cPTSD and have different parts too, I just don’t dissociate. But I relate so much to what this system shares. It’s amazing actually, it’s like exactly what I experience but to a greater degree, like their alters are more fully realized versions of the parts I have.

    • @liamwilbur1897
      @liamwilbur1897 Před 4 lety +5

      @@afterglow2935 You're describing what I feel, too. Like, I have what I always thought were just random "characters" with full personalities, and even feeling I'm having mental arguments or discussions.
      I even "hear" them in their individual voices and the different accents, but I don't think I ever dissociated.
      Maybe I did, sometimes, when I was a kid, because I have absolutely no memory of an event that my friends and family tell me I did.
      So, I have no idea what to think, or how to approach my therapist about it.
      This is really hard to explain.

    • @guvj4fyufudrs2444
      @guvj4fyufudrs2444 Před 4 lety +3

      @@liamwilbur1897 damnn I guess showing this comment to your therapist could help?

    • @stacyalmeida3963
      @stacyalmeida3963 Před 3 lety

      @@afterglow2935 Hi I really want to know how you dealt with cptsd !When the anxiety leaves you doesnt your body crave it like an addict .Like you hate it but when its gone ,you feel some part of your body is missing.Also I hope youre cured by now!

    • @afterglow2935
      @afterglow2935 Před 3 lety +1

      @@liamwilbur1897 I’m only seeing this now so you probably have it figured out already, but if not I’d highly recommend IFS therapy (Internal Family Systems). It’s whole framework is about these different parts of ourselves and it’s incredibly effective.

  • @SimplyMeVictoria
    @SimplyMeVictoria Před 5 lety +985

    You’re so friendly that sometimes when I’m home alone and feeling lonely I put on your videos just for background noise and company.💗

  • @josuereyes7622
    @josuereyes7622 Před 5 lety +738

    My wife system have 9 alters. According to all of them they do age and it is real time meaning they all share same birthday.

    • @velvettrip
      @velvettrip Před 5 lety +49

      Fernando Ortiz It’s true, they can age. One of my alters ages.

    • @destinyirene731
      @destinyirene731 Před 5 lety +59

      one of mine ages with me, many people thinks it’s very cool. others of mine “age slide” which they go from different ages

    • @TheGamerboy1103
      @TheGamerboy1103 Před 5 lety +14

      One of mine ages at the same time i do, but not at the same rate, the rest can age, several of them don’t want to, some do want to, and one age-slides

    • @Nina-ms5dy
      @Nina-ms5dy Před 5 lety +8

      Every system is different

    • @strongboi2266
      @strongboi2266 Před 5 lety +8

      It's so amazing that you are supporting all of them and see them as individuals I hope we meet someone someone who sees us as individuals like you do with the system you're married to

  • @CatNamedFry
    @CatNamedFry Před 5 lety +801

    15:00 lol did you talk about Sally and she was like I'll take it from here? Just a slight change in how the voice sounds. Very interesting ☺️

  • @ImmatureStar
    @ImmatureStar Před 5 lety +339

    I have a family member with this disorder (I’m not sure if that’s the word I should use, I apologize) and the rest of my family has mostly shunned him. I have a goal to educate myself and reconnect with him in the future. Your channel has been really helpful with learning more about d.i.d. All of you are doing an amazing job and I’m proud of all of you!

    • @navyasahay2064
      @navyasahay2064 Před 4 lety +34

      You're an amazing person for reconnecting. hope everything goes well.

    • @rory4623
      @rory4623 Před 4 lety +20

      Thank you for doing that.

    • @lite2317
      @lite2317 Před 3 lety +7

      May I ask how things are going now with the family member? ☺️

    • @ImmatureStar
      @ImmatureStar Před 3 lety +19

      @@lite2317 I've seen him a few times since making the comment but it's a bit difficult because I'm still a minor (but not for long) and live at home. Seeing him is pretty much at the top of my lists of thing to do once I gain some freedom :)

    • @lite2317
      @lite2317 Před 3 lety +7

      @@ImmatureStar that's lovely. I wish you get to spend more amazing memories with him 💗

  • @Karma-zp7pb
    @Karma-zp7pb Před 5 lety +184

    Hi! I’m the little altar I age slide from 7-11 thankyou for explaining the way that I am😊
    P.S we have three altars

    • @SAM_ARTHUR_CL0VVNDOLL
      @SAM_ARTHUR_CL0VVNDOLL Před 3 lety +64

      be careful! if the host or one of the adult alters see this, please consider deleting this comment. it could be potentially bad to have the age of your child alters online. pf course it’s your choice, but i wanted to make you aware because amnesia and stuff
      edit: spelling

    • @queeng508
      @queeng508 Před rokem +1

      i’m commenting in hope that, in case the previous comment was missed, this one won’t. obviously it is you guys in your system’s choice, but please be careful!

    • @thechaoticbunch-osdd
      @thechaoticbunch-osdd Před 2 měsíci +1

      Another reminder here, hope the system has been well!!

  • @musicfeedsyoursoul8070
    @musicfeedsyoursoul8070 Před 5 lety +802

    I love your debunking DID episodes!! I still keep waiting for the day when you announce your TED Talk haha you're such a good teacher.

  • @georgerobins4110
    @georgerobins4110 Před 5 lety +141

    Chloe, I swear, every video that goes up on this channel makes us love your system even more.
    First off, thank you thank you thank you for establishing that littles can do things like use long words, understand complex ideas, and other things that biological children cannot. One of our littles, Kara, can speak in a university level classroom and the only noticeable difference is that she pitches her voice a little higher and enunciates in a sort of childlike way.
    While we were watching this, I realized that one of our littles is "the perfect child" which I honestly had no idea was a thing until I watched this.
    Honestly just thank you for this entire video, we love you.

  • @GelicaJoy
    @GelicaJoy Před 5 lety +55

    In a really weird way, I can maybe kind of understand all of this. I’m currently 22, but I had cancer when I was 13, and only in the last year or two have finally unlocked some (though in no way all) memories from those couple years in treatment. As a singleton, at 13/14 years old, I had memories and emotions blocked; and when I worked on processing through that time, those specific memories and emotions were stuck at 13/14 years old. So in no way can I assume to be able to relate to DID. But trauma in anyone is a powerful event that the brain is just trying to cope with.

  • @cindyvarela-miranda5100
    @cindyvarela-miranda5100 Před 5 lety +38

    We as a body have a struggle with our little due to the fact she gets excited by everything and tends to front a lot. Going to high school used to be a struggle due to the host pushing all our alters back. But now that our friends are aware and accept our mental issue they've helped us when switching alters. (Our little has claustrophobia so crowds in school makes them front often but our friends hold our littles hand and have helped often). We thank you a lot for starting this channel because we have come more aware of this mentality we have developed.💞

  • @Alyssa-yv4cj
    @Alyssa-yv4cj Před 5 lety +257

    You hit on EVERYTHING I try to explain to people but fail. You explain all this so very well! Thank you so much, you are such an inspiration to those of us who also have DID & aren't able to explain what we go through ourselves. ❤

  • @JustMeMitchy
    @JustMeMitchy Před 5 lety +294

    I come here to see my fellow Essex boy (Kyle) and I end up learning things. I don't know how I feel about this

    • @jaylynn0x048
      @jaylynn0x048 Před 4 lety +1

      What is an Essex, I'm not sure if this was stated in the video so I'm sorry if this annoys you...

    • @JustMeMitchy
      @JustMeMitchy Před 4 lety +23

      @@jaylynn0x048 Hello! It's no problem! Essex is a county in England, south east (near london). Kyle's accent is an accent that is most know from this area
      Hope this helps :)

    • @jaylynn0x048
      @jaylynn0x048 Před 4 lety +3

      @@JustMeMitchy okay cool, thank you!

    • @mckenziedance28
      @mckenziedance28 Před 3 lety +1

      I love this energy 😂

    • @ameliab324
      @ameliab324 Před 3 lety +1

      @@JustMeMitchy Oh, I thought Kyle was Australian

  • @Luvl12
    @Luvl12 Před 5 lety +124

    I love how Chloe always reiterates that you/your system is valid. 👏

  • @Vundakar
    @Vundakar Před 5 lety +385

    Ok not related to this video but your voice is so calming and I could listen to it all day lol

    • @heatherlynn1974
      @heatherlynn1974 Před 5 lety +4

      Ø ł Ì I was listening to a podcast the other day and was wishing Chloe and whoever else wanted to would do one. I could listen to their voices and the information they give us all day.

    • @louloudaki_
      @louloudaki_ Před 4 lety +1

      BottledGutz ^^^^!!!!!

  • @wolfer3255
    @wolfer3255 Před 5 lety +504

    I'm new to all of this. Your videos and the entropy systems videos have helped me so much. I never knew I was a host of a system. I simply thought I was just a extremely forgetful person. When first diagnosed I was terrified and I'm still scared but it has been lessened by your alls videos so I thank you so much for that. Now I'm just trying to figure everything out. Because of these channels, you and the entropy system, I feel less alone as this is not something I have anyone to share with so thank you so much for all you have done and all of the work you all have put into these videos. As I at leastgreatlyt appreciate it more than I could ever tell you.

    • @notyourdays
      @notyourdays Před 5 lety +9

      I love this comment, good luck❤❤

    • @mindoffliv5976
      @mindoffliv5976 Před 5 lety +26

      I have been just diagnosed as well and I feel exactly the same. If you like to talk, my co-host has made a systems instagram account called "didrainbowsystem". I would be happy to hear from you.

    • @musiclolli7280
      @musiclolli7280 Před 5 lety +13

      A month ago, and still now mostly, I could have written this comment, and really empathise... It is such a minefield to get used to for me, it feels like I am at the centre of a sci-fi thriller!

    • @Ophiane
      @Ophiane Před 5 lety +13

      I'm currently on my own diagnosis journey and I agree if it weren't for this channel and the Entropy System I would still be thinking I was super forgetful too.

    • @bellatrixblack469
      @bellatrixblack469 Před 5 lety +15

      I don't have DID but, Jeremy: an alternate perspective from the Pinata system and Multiplicityandme are two great systems as well.

  • @ryantrue4844
    @ryantrue4844 Před 5 lety +120

    These types of videos are great because they teach us so much which in turn makes people nicer. I'll be honest that I had no knowledge of DID before finding your channel

  • @riadterek9384
    @riadterek9384 Před 5 lety +156

    Thank you for making this video, I LOVE this series because it gave me a lot of information about DID. It cleared a lot of misconceptions I previously had about DID. So thank you for this educational content and I wish there was more content creators like you ❤️

  • @jenniesaurus94
    @jenniesaurus94 Před 5 lety +57

    I'm currently undergoing therapy for what I believe is some kind of disssociative disorder and your channel has helped me so much in coming to terms with what has been going on all these years. Thank you so much for these informative videos xx

  • @phoebeu541
    @phoebeu541 Před 5 lety +100

    Congrats on one year! You showed up in my recommendation 11 1/2 months ago and watching you all grow and become more confident (all of you) in front of the camera. I always look forward to your videos as they present information in a way that’s easy to understand and provide information for us to look at ourselves
    Also loving the pink and black combo

  • @holttherockstar9184
    @holttherockstar9184 Před 5 lety +70

    You are so amazing for doing this, I'm an age slider and you are so full of happiness and energy! Have a great day.
    -Akseli

  • @games_bond7221
    @games_bond7221 Před rokem +8

    We have a couple of interesting alters in the aging sense. We have one 4 year old who can't write or read properly, but he often fronts to do chores and he often also cleans the house a lot. We also have me, the host, I'm 2 years older than the body, and I'm male. Always have been 2 years older, that I know of. And then I have my brother, who ages absolutely weirdly. 2 years ago he was 20, he stayed 20 for a year, then suddenly turned 23, and he's now 24. We still don't know what causes him, or any of us, to have these age differences, but I do think that my age specifically was because of the thought (which the alter born in the body had often) "If I was an older boy it would all be better and I'd be okay"
    As for the little being 4 there's a theory that since most of our trauma started as a toddler/small child, and since a lot of it was brought on by a parent, he took on all the responsibilities at that age, to never anger said parent.

  • @522moons
    @522moons Před 5 lety +19

    Since I know your channel I have been researching some DID facts, yt channels or even in real Life. Every time I see someone who has DID first I am really amazed at how many personalities is in one Body. But my second thought I have is...Every Person that has DID she/he has a bad Trauma at her/his childhood. And it hurts me so much...I have a good friend that has DID and thanks to you I can treat her so well without even hurting her. Thank you so much for sharing these great Facts and showing how to treat people with DID. Love you all, thanks for everything! -Love

  • @haileybaby301
    @haileybaby301 Před 3 lety +6

    The fact that you have to clarify that “little” is not a part of DDLG is upsetting and terrifying. So sad that everyone does not know this and may take advantage

    • @veerymrappy
      @veerymrappy Před 2 měsíci +1

      ppl judge other by their terms, thats why they do that.

  • @moonswhimsy
    @moonswhimsy Před 5 lety +40

    this is so well explained thank you! I often get put off trying to read medical journals or studies due to the complex words and parts I don't understand but your debunking did videos are so well explained and easy to understand I've learnt to much from you!
    side note: I'm in love with your makeup in this and your video background is the cutest!

  • @beckamiller4900
    @beckamiller4900 Před 5 lety +42

    You are educating the masses about DID keep up the good work! Love and hugs, Rebecca

    • @DissociaDID
      @DissociaDID  Před 5 lety +9

      Thank you so much lovely!!!❤❤❤

  • @ErinaBleu
    @ErinaBleu Před 5 lety +48

    oh wow, I appreciate how much time you put into researching and creating these videos! They're so informative and once again I am blown away by what the brain can do!

  • @glow862
    @glow862 Před 5 lety +13

    The only time I've meet someone with DID was my abusive ex so I looked out for information about it and found your channel. It's been extremely helpful in changing how I see DID, my understanding and seeing how one alters actions doesnt reflect everyone in the system and 1000% doesn't reflect others with DID. THANK YOU for changing my views, educating me and making me feel more supported with mental health and PTSD.

  • @julyyyou
    @julyyyou Před 5 lety +40

    ive been following you ever since the beginning and i still cant wrap around how humans could be so monstrously cruel to children that they would have to dissociate and separate themselves from what were going on.

    • @kimpastabowl1058
      @kimpastabowl1058 Před 5 lety +6

      july Well, a whole lot of people are not self aware, and unresolved trauma effects us even if we think it won’t and ignore it. Then the kids suffer.

  • @bilibili68
    @bilibili68 Před 5 lety +13

    I noticed you now make longer videos without ever dissociating, compared to when you started putting up videos. I hope that means you are doing well and feeling more confident! :)

    • @DissociaDID
      @DissociaDID  Před 5 lety +15

      Yes! it's much easier now, after so long filming has become so normal to all of us that it doesn't usually cause us to dissociate! if it's a dissociation heavy day we don't film, just wait until we feel able to film concisely and accurately!

  • @kimberlycarter101
    @kimberlycarter101 Před 5 lety +10

    It breaks my heart that anyone harmed you so much to cause alters.

  • @FFKING1140
    @FFKING1140 Před 5 lety +45

    as you mentioned some alters are pre-verbal or haven't learned to walk; can one teach the littles those things? I was curious, so I figured I would ask.

  • @sarar7401
    @sarar7401 Před 5 lety +116

    I know you guys don't talk about your specific littles, but have you experienced a child alter growing up to an age where they are allowed on the channel? And not aged down?
    So you mentioned that older alters can be formed at a very young age...How do they respond to having a younger body? Also how is the brain able to experience an older emotional state when the body is at such a young age?

    • @sugaramped5544
      @sugaramped5544 Před 5 lety +6

      I believe jake was a child alter but I'm not sure

    • @Megzsy98
      @Megzsy98 Před 5 lety +25

      Jade used to be young when she first appeared shes older now she said in the meet the girl alters video she doesn't really have an age now

    • @LeNoir2411
      @LeNoir2411 Před 5 lety +26

      i'm not sure how to explain this..i'm 22, my oldest alter is around 25 which has been present since i was 6.. when i ask questions she thinks then answer me ,i can see her thinking style and visuals but i may not fully understand what she meant until i reach older age to grasp the meaning..
      just like someone explaining things to you ,you may or may not understand what it means but you can see inside their head vividly..make sense? 😅
      idk about other system because i'm really newly diagnosed, for me I've always thought everyone are like that,having several 'you' inside your body.. but i realized that when i was 12 and been trying to push them away until i finally lost control..well, because i wasn't educated about this before..no wonder some of them are pissed.(;´∀`)

  • @thegalacticsystem
    @thegalacticsystem Před 5 lety +34

    I'm currently a undiagnosed system of me plus four current headmates. I've had headaches/migraines almost all my life but never thought about it being because of me switching/being influenced by my headmates. Years ago my headmate, Amelia, was influencing me so much for quite a long time. She didn't front, but it was kinda like she had fronted. I've had a lot of trauma in my life straight from birth. Thankfully I'm in a safe enough place in my life (and have been for a little while) to get to know my headmates and for them to start communicating with me. - B

    • @Cheyenne85
      @Cheyenne85 Před 5 lety +4

      The B System How did you find out your migraines were related to DID? I’ve had migraines since the age of 5 and I can’t get any help. If you don’t want to answer I understand.

    • @thegalacticsystem
      @thegalacticsystem Před 5 lety +3

      @@Cheyenne85 I'm not sure if they were. It was just the only thing I could think of. I've never had a 100% diagnosis of what was causing my headaches/migraines. Since I now know I have headmates I was thinking maybe it was because of them possibly fronting/influencing me. - B

    • @Cheyenne85
      @Cheyenne85 Před 5 lety +3

      The B System I’m the same exact way. They say they’re migraines but nothing has helped and I haven’t been diagnosed for sure. It seems like we’ve had a similar experience. Thanks for replying to me.

    • @LizyBee
      @LizyBee Před 5 lety +1

      I’ve had daily headaches for as long as I can remember, and I’ve never been diagnosed with a dissociative disorder, but I regularly dissociate and have ‘others’ that are very similar to alters. I’ve noticed that if some, more emotional ‘others’ are out for more than 5ish hours, they and me (‘the host’) get the excruciatingly painful headaches. If some, more logical ‘others’ are out, there are little to no headaches (the headaches still happen, they’re just not as painful). I don’t know if my headaches are related to or caused by an obviously undiagnosed condition (like DID) but I thought I would contribute :)

  • @reneelemay6417
    @reneelemay6417 Před 5 lety +96

    Happy to see wearing the hat the Pinata system gave you!! 💖

    • @DissociaDID
      @DissociaDID  Před 5 lety +39

      I love this hat! It's specifically from Nan 💖

    • @reneelemay6417
      @reneelemay6417 Před 5 lety +23

      Thank you for the reply...I did think that but in case I was wrong I did not want to exclude anyone!! 💖

    • @DissociaDID
      @DissociaDID  Před 5 lety +28

      That was very thoughtful of you 😄😘

  • @sleepforever9793
    @sleepforever9793 Před 4 lety +27

    I love Nin, but sometimes I come back to watch Chloe because I miss her. I know I didnt know her personally but she helped me so so so much

  • @isthisnametaken6618
    @isthisnametaken6618 Před 5 lety +8

    Thank you for creating this channel a year ago, Chloe. And happy anniversary!
    It's so informative, and it's really important that we talk about these kinds of subjects (like DID, or just mental disorders in general) so that they are more accepted, and people learn more about them when they normally wouldn't know anything about them. 😊
    I especially love this channel because I want to go into some field or psychology later in life, and this channel (and many others like it) help inform me of mental disorders that I may be treating later in life.

  • @JacksonH8r
    @JacksonH8r Před 4 lety +5

    I was in my room reading when my little decided to come more to the front then she normally does. We were still reading except at an extremely slow pace and it got so tedious that we stopped and my little once again retreated. Another time I was letting my little watch her first Disney movie (Pinocchio) and talk to my best friend (who she calls big brother, she doesn't know that we have an actual big brother due to the trauma we experienced at that age and my best friend has explicitly told my little that she doesn't have a biological brother) when our sister walked in. We switched so fast it gave me a migrane

  • @orifine6812
    @orifine6812 Před 3 lety +5

    at 15:00 it really sounded like Chloe and Sally Co-con

  • @flowing_waters94
    @flowing_waters94 Před 5 lety +37

    Amazing video!
    Though it's a lot of information it didn't feel like 17 minutes but maybe 6 or 7.
    Thank you for this Chloe! 😊👍💐

  • @kiburisystem9787
    @kiburisystem9787 Před 5 lety +16

    Thank you Chloe, you covered ageing in such an organised way and made it all sound so sensible when for us it can often feel like a free for all 😂 you covered so many possibilities in such a validating and accepting way. I’m so glad you do these videos, thank you for providing an accessible form of education about DID - my journey (and so many others I’m sure) would have been so much harder without you shedding light on this stuff ❤️ - Kida xx

  • @emmahachey4379
    @emmahachey4379 Před 5 lety +7

    Chloe and the rest of the DissociaDID system: thank you so much for all of your hard work and education you have been providing the past year. I am a mental health social worker/psychotherapist and learned more about DID after binge-watching a ton of your videos this past weekend than I did in my BA in Psychology and MSW. You (collectively) are so wonderful for putting your system out there for everyone to see. Thank you thank you thank you!

  • @Sabrina-zq8lj
    @Sabrina-zq8lj Před 4 lety +9

    I will honestly say that a while back, I was scared of DID. The way it’s portrayed in the media makes it seem like a dangerous disorder better feared than understood. Your videos have helped me realize how terrible the stigma surrounding DID is, and that it is actually so interesting and not at all frightening! Good luck to you and your alters. Hope they’re all well!

  • @xxlulabyexx629
    @xxlulabyexx629 Před 5 lety +7

    how the H E CK is your makeup always so perfect?? i’ve always been curious as to what impact makeup can have on a system as far as dysphoria is concerned, if a system suffers from it. i would LOVE to see a video on this topic. keep up the good work!! i absolutely adore all of you. you are such an amazing being and you deserve all the love and happiness in the world. i hope you all are doing well!!💖

  • @littlemisswolfee1095
    @littlemisswolfee1095 Před 5 lety +72

    They are like snowflakes.. not a single one forms the same way as the next and each hold their own unique beauty

    • @allgamer3679
      @allgamer3679 Před rokem +1

      And when they land together they look beautiful

  • @momorenault
    @momorenault Před 5 lety +4

    I'm a medical student currently studying for my boards and I am getting lost inside your channel instead of studying! I've thought psychiatry might be a good fit for me and listening to your channel and learning from you has been inspiring. Thank you for letting us inside your brain and helping me discover the kind of care provider I want to be.

  • @majorthompson1548
    @majorthompson1548 Před 5 lety +7

    I really love the way you pronounce words and how seemingly effortlessly eloquent you are 💞

  • @TimdeVisser86
    @TimdeVisser86 Před 4 lety +7

    I love seeing Kyle just jump out sometimes. Such a chill dude!

  • @rhgean1842
    @rhgean1842 Před 5 lety +39

    I wonder if Kyle was co-conscious/co-hosting in some parts of the video coz I hear him sometimes.. some of his facial expressions as well. 😅

    • @rebeccas.5207
      @rebeccas.5207 Před 4 lety +16

      Swear to god Kyle and Sally both were close to the front in this one!!!

    • @eliskatesarova3104
      @eliskatesarova3104 Před 3 lety +11

      DissociaDID said in one of their videos, that Kyle is almost always near - in case of a trigger that could put them in danger. I think he co-hosts every time Chloe needs a support in the topic she talks about :)

  • @xxkrystalxx7032
    @xxkrystalxx7032 Před 5 lety +2

    I am currently struggling with being diagnosed with DID and your videos have really helped me feel more normal and understand what's going on in my head.

  • @Accio_Eloise
    @Accio_Eloise Před 5 lety +15

    Part of me so desperately wants to meet someone with DID so that I can put all of my new found education and understanding to good use!! ❤️

  • @baileysage4123
    @baileysage4123 Před 3 lety +1

    I have some questions.
    1) if someone saw something sparkly or colorful and their pupils dilated, they spoke in a more child-like way “awww look how pwetty”, and they got excited easily is that an example of a little or is that just the “inner-child” that everyone has?
    2) Does bullying count as repetitive trauma? Like if you were made fun of for crying a lot from the ages of 5-11 and now you have an aversion to crying, but only when you do it. And this causes you to act more “robotically”, “emotionless” or “detached” in a situation where most people would cry?
    3) What if you suffered repetitive emotional trauma from the ages of 11-12? Even though you aren’t necessarily in the age range of forming a personality, if trauma in that age range causes you to act differently in certain circumstances is that an example of did?

  • @Meggyfoofoo
    @Meggyfoofoo Před měsícem

    one or more of our littles came out while watching this. we thank you for making these videos, your underrated, and we thank you for being part of our journey to figure out we're a system.

  • @aaronwilder2775
    @aaronwilder2775 Před 5 lety +7

    Thank you Chloe for making this video, aging and time perception within the system was something that always interested me, and something I always wanted to more about. By the way, I've listened to a little of Nadia's Spotify playlist, she has really good taste in music and I love Dodie too :)

  • @mirindahidalgo776
    @mirindahidalgo776 Před 5 lety +37

    You’re videos are SO good and super informative! I love your channel❤️

  • @andreafeeley5021
    @andreafeeley5021 Před 5 lety +4

    This is absolutely my new favorite CZcams channel. I love learning about this order. I find it interesting, intriguing. And you are all amazing ❤️

  • @Emma-fs7sz
    @Emma-fs7sz Před 5 lety +10

    I caught myself having to rewind the video because I wasn't listening, I was just staring at your beautiful eye makeup! 😅

  • @cyan11_music
    @cyan11_music Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you for the information. Our system became self aware in April, and we are still learning much. Our little in the past has flipped our world upside down. But each of our alters has contributed to putting us in undesirable situations in some way. But our little, he is so sensitive and really emotional. He is so delicate, and feels feelings very deeply, especially love and pain.

  • @amywhitesides3638
    @amywhitesides3638 Před 4 lety +4

    I don't have DID however, thank "all" for all you do. 💜💜💜💜
    Please, please don't let other people on this platform to bring you down.
    We love you all!💜💜💜

  • @Tomcak3
    @Tomcak3 Před 5 lety +2

    Thank you for making these videos. I am studying to become a psychologist within the American school system, and I find your videos very helpful in educating upon a topic that rarely gets a full explanation in university studies. I enjoy the sense of preparedness that this information gives me because I want to do my best for everyone who may come across my path in the future. Truly, from the bottom of my heart, thank you. Continue fighting the stigma!!! ❤️

  • @lex6361
    @lex6361 Před 5 lety +1

    Just wanted to say hello! I’m a student nurse, and I found your videos when I was trying to find information on DID for study purposes. You’ve changed my life. I’m in awe of you. I want to continue to learn more about DID, and I appreciate your videos. I feel like not enough people have an accurate understanding of DID. I want to dive into research about DID and learn as much as possible ❤️

  • @Ophiane
    @Ophiane Před 5 lety +3

    I have to say I am so glad I found your channel I've been with you for most of the year that you've been on CZcams and I can't thank you enough for all the education that you put out there. I honestly don't know if I would ever put together all of the signs that are now pointing me towards a diagnosis from my medical team and I'm 51 years old I've always been fascinated by dissociative identity disorder because I always sort of wondered why didn't it happen to me because everything was right for it to happen to me and the more research I did the more things started to surface and we're going through all of the medical things first seeing a neurologist and all of that but my medical doctor my psychiatrist and my therapist are all involved now and no matter what happens I want you to know that I would have never recognized any of these symptoms that I'm going through without people like you coming forward and educating and destigmatizing not only DID and OSDD but mental health in general as well so from the bottom of my heart thank you for everything you do. If you ever doubt that you make differences in people's lives because of what you do here don't.

  • @NuggetsAdventures524
    @NuggetsAdventures524 Před 5 lety +3

    i dont know if its the lighting, or the camera angles, but you have the prettiest eyes ever

  • @cchiri
    @cchiri Před 5 lety +9

    This was so extensive and detailed!! Thank you very much for the insight.

  • @cristinasanchezcereceda5646

    It's really amazing how informative and well made your videos are, this community is so very fortunate to have you as an advocate and teaching everyone else out there about this condition that can be so hard to understand.

  • @justinadasilva1760
    @justinadasilva1760 Před 4 lety +3

    The body’s makeup is ALWAYS on point! I’d love to see the female alters do a eye makeup tutorial ! If they’re comfortable of course !❤️

  • @alpacawhisperer
    @alpacawhisperer Před 5 lety +2

    Thank you for yet again educating me on DID. something that was so confusing to me is now making sense. You are so successful in your mission to rid the world of the stigma around DID.

  • @whilaminnabrock4936
    @whilaminnabrock4936 Před 5 lety +2

    I love that you always site your claims and provide good evidence. I know a lot of people who will make scientific claims (cough cough vaccination leading to autism) and not have any valid proof and/or give sources that are unreliable and unviable.

  • @archangelagon
    @archangelagon Před 5 lety +2

    this was extremely helpful, as one of my own alters has aged randomly recently. I appriciate this channel so much, it has help my journey immensly.

  • @ziggibugg
    @ziggibugg Před 5 lety +1

    DID reminds me so much of my MDD(Maladaptive Daydreaming)! A lot of aspects, like disassociating, mind space and different ages and species are very similar to MDD. Even though I know the characters or Paras in my mind aren’t real, they feel real and the universes/Paracosms are all very close and dear to my heart. My daydreams are triggered by many things: music, tv shows, vines, movies and much more. The way that I “vent” out my daydreams is either pacing, jumping, or long car rides. I also tend to say some of the conversations out loud, which can be embarrassing, as well as getting caught pacing. Idk why but I always feel so uncomfortable or insecure whenever someone points it out. Also, fairly recently, something pretty stressful happened and I disassociated to the point where my brain basically put my personality, consciousness, everything, into my brain or Paracosm, ( not entirely sure what happened but it was odd) and then left the rest of me as a shell, walking around randomly, watching a video but not remembering much of whatever I watched. You don’t need to worry much about me, I wasn’t physically hurt or anything, it was just my family found out about a lil closeted stuff because of my close friend's parents and, even though they were understanding and loving, my stress levels were really bad. So basically just spent that entire day as a disassociated shell. Idk if that was a sign of something else, or if it was just my MDD going and being a coping mechanism, (which I will forever be grateful for) but the experience was new.
    Also MDD is also believed to be caused by trauma but idk what kind of trauma I would even have..... I’m also forgetful and have some ADHD but I’m slowly beginning to wonder if my MDD could also be a part of DID. I’ll find out when I go to therapy, but until then, I’m not going to diagnose myself with anything other than what has already been confirmed.

  • @katlinath
    @katlinath Před 4 lety +6

    Aiden, our primer protector, was growing up with me (the host) until one day, at the age of fifteen, they fell asleep and when they woke up, they were twenty five... I still don't know how I feel about that... isn't it a bit... sad?

  • @BionicBear88
    @BionicBear88 Před 5 lety +26

    Was Kyle co-conscious through part of this?

  • @moronic_mouse
    @moronic_mouse Před 5 lety +1

    I recently learned I have dissociative derealization and dissociative depersonalization and I learned more about what dissociation is from your channel... thank you ❤️

  • @beccasouthwick
    @beccasouthwick Před 5 lety +3

    omg im loving the fact that colours are themed in the recent videos it makes me happy

    • @all_is_well_Mara
      @all_is_well_Mara Před 5 lety

      Bec S What do u mean?

    • @beccasouthwick
      @beccasouthwick Před 5 lety

      Suzanna like the hat is pink, eyeshadow is pink , lips are pink and the lamp in the background has pink in it in this video!

  • @artnerd5775
    @artnerd5775 Před 5 lety +8

    thank you for being here to educate and just be amazing, love you guys

  • @DemonMilk_
    @DemonMilk_ Před 5 lety +1

    A great video yet again! And perfect timing as it's one of my alter's birthday today but he just laughs and says its the day I was able to craft up a face to his presence. Thank you for all the research and hard work put into your videos!

  • @florathepagan
    @florathepagan Před 5 lety +12

    Love this video, Chloe. Very informative! Around the middle of the video I thought I could hear Kyle. Was that my ears deceiving me, or was he co-conscious? Either way, love your channel and you’re all doing some amazing work!

    • @ellobritt
      @ellobritt Před 5 lety

      I thought I saw that too. More relaxed posture, slightly different mouth shapes.

  • @kaylaellis2928
    @kaylaellis2928 Před 5 lety +2

    I absolutely love these videos. I had no previous knowledge of DID or how it works until i started watching your videos. I am so thankful to have learnt about it through you. Thank you for spreading awareness and knowledge about DID. Love you and this channel

  • @eileanperrin9541
    @eileanperrin9541 Před 5 lety +28

    Anyone else jam to the intro every time? Just me? Ok

  • @russogoob
    @russogoob Před 5 lety +6

    Thank you for another great video! I appreciate the effort you put into them, they really help people like me without DID help learn more & help me understand.

  • @imme265
    @imme265 Před 5 lety +33

    When you say that sally slides between 24 and 27, do you mean that she's either 24 or 27, or can she also be 25 or 26 years old?

  • @whoops8412
    @whoops8412 Před 5 lety

    I love that you leave the link in the description to help us learn more!! One of my fave youtubers Philip de Franco won my fandom from always being factual and providing information for us to find for ourselves and create discussions in the comment section between your followers. Keep up the great work Chloe and DisociaDid

  • @biancaelena6339
    @biancaelena6339 Před 3 lety +2

    I thought of asking you this, after watching an interview of yours, and I got an answer before I did it. Thank you! ^^

  • @Lina-si9kr
    @Lina-si9kr Před 4 lety +1

    These educational videos are so great. I mean so are other ones, but I'm talking about educational videos in their own right. Chloe has done phenomenal work on them. They're highly informative. Thanks to Chloe and now thanks to Nin! I still have a lot of them to watch :)
    I feel so empathetic towards you and other people with DID

  • @ashleylewis3726
    @ashleylewis3726 Před 5 lety

    I absolutely love that you push the fact that just because you explained one circumstance it doesnt mean it is always like this. I love how you include all systems and dont only talk about the way your brain functions. You cover all bases and I can not Express enough how grateful i am and how grateful many people are of this.

  • @ryliemagouirk311
    @ryliemagouirk311 Před 5 lety

    I wonder how amazing it is to have this disorder. Now I wouldn’t know wether is it amazing or traumatic and there maybe no words to describe it but you’re amazing. Every one of you are intelligent and very strong people. Thank you for sharing your life with us.

  • @meatpeopledoingmeatthings7118

    Thanks for making these.. all of this is scary and a lot happening at once. This is so helpful for me and my little bud. I was a bit confused about how his age was working and why it slides slightly and I’m so glad that’s normal. I’m so glad all of this is normal. Also a big thank you from my little co conscious alter, I wasn’t treating him the way he needed and now he’s able to have two people (me and my amazing boyfriend) to take care of him. I’m just so unbelievably happy I’m not crazy and I’m able to find ways to help my little feel better and feel more validated after everyone pushing him away. He’s the strongest little dude I’ve ever met.

  • @tjdurant149
    @tjdurant149 Před 4 lety

    very very well said, well researched, well referenced! You guys never cease to amaze me how well you can make something very confusing sound so simple, and concise, I have so much love in my heart for all systems in your community, the sooner the rest of the world can be informed, the sooner we can all start to help and make the world better for people with DID....we're all just human beings at the end of the day, and all human beings deserve love too! Lots of love to ya! Peace V (sorry, no peace sign on a laptop keyboard that i know of lol)

  • @bethalvey1792
    @bethalvey1792 Před 5 lety

    As someone studying psychology at the moment I find this so so educational! You explain everything so clearly and I feel like I learn so much by watching your videos. Sadly, our course doesn't cover DID but even so, the topics your videos bring up really inspire me to learn more.
    Thank you!

  • @byakuyamomo
    @byakuyamomo Před 5 lety

    I have learned so much from you! I'm so happy I understand DID better now, because the media always portraits it in such a stigmatized way. Your channel is one of the most important on this platform in my opinion.

  • @Kittykrysis
    @Kittykrysis Před 5 lety +1

    Anyone else start watching these videos and suddenly realize they may have DID? I AM! Ugh. Heya, my name is Shelby, I go by Kitt and Eule as well depending on where I am and who I am talking to. Since about age 14 I can distinctly remember conversations with my mom about "piecing myself back together" like a puzzle. I decided the puzzles picture ended up just being loads of masks (think the Hall of Faces from GoT) though at that age I think it was something more akin to porcelain Mardi Gras masks. But that probably because my father collected those. -zoned out- I've commented before apparently, and the response to that comment is what made me watch more and subscribe and recently hit the notification bell. Thank you for making these videos. It makes me feel like I am not broken.

    • @Kittykrysis
      @Kittykrysis Před 5 lety +1

      @@christianf.5553 Thank you. I really appreciate your comment.

  • @jenamatic
    @jenamatic Před 5 lety +9

    Oh my gosh, your eye make up. It's PERFECT. So jealous haha
    Also, thank you for doing this video! I know it answered a lot of questions that I had.

  • @izzinator5124
    @izzinator5124 Před 4 lety

    I love how you can easily talk about how everyone can handle trauma differently. I have PTSD and this makes me feel better

  • @bellathepotato1691
    @bellathepotato1691 Před 5 lety +1

    thank you so much! my partner has did, and when I started dating them I knew very little about DID. and while I can always ask them, hearing from more people is always helpfull, and I feel this channel has very impartial info about how things work, thanks for doing it!

  • @mitziekat9987
    @mitziekat9987 Před 5 lety +2

    It would be fun if you made a video of all the alters trying to do impressions of each other or at least of Chloe! Also, could you make a video on sleep? can different alters front while the body sleeps? Does an alter in the system have to be asleep and fronting for the body to sleep? do all alters need to sleep in the inner world? who experiences the body's dreams?