As Long as You Are Fighting, You Will Keep Getting Punched In The Face
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- čas přidán 13. 07. 2024
- As Long as You Are Fighting, You Will Keep Getting Punched In The Face
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I am a german content creator talking primarily about anxiety and i am surprised, how much chronic pain and chronic anxiety have in common, when it comes to the "tools" for overcoming them. I dont get why your channel has "only" 21800 subs. This is pure gold!
Thank you @mindeed. Yes, anxiety and pain are BOTH created by a brain perceiving danger. Thus, the solution is the same for both. I appreciate the comment.
Re the no of subs, (which is rising I see!) I find people are almost always wary of this concept, maybe because they do not want to own their problems, accept they actually have the ability to heal themselves with some sustained inner work..that in fact there is nothing to heal, just to teach...I dont know but I never get why people dont grab this process with both hands.....it explains si many health issues.
@@PainFreeYou THANKS FOR USING THE WORD ANXIETY AS AN EQUIVALENT. I NEED TO HEAR THAT WITH DEPRESSION AND OCD AS DR. SARNO SAID. THANKS SO MUCH FOR THIS INCLUSION SPECIFICALLY
@@nancyrussell6598 it works for OCD had OCD long before pain Claire weekes lot like Dan's approach in her book 1962
@@freyahartley8704I think it’s our medical/industrial complex and 24/7 drug commercials. We’re conditioned to believe we need to swallow something to get better. Mind body healing is cutting edge still, but I believe we’ll all get there 🩵
Dan should be canonized in life for his work. The gifted psychology to understand and convey with such an empathy the strategies to deal with something that can be so dramatic for so many people. And the way he put things, the words, the fantastic articulation, the inflexion of the voice. I think this guy is blessed with this vocation to help people help themselves. Never will have enough words to thank him ...
Wow - so humbled and touched by your words and incredible feedback. Thank you so much.
So true. Once I stepped back and took myself out of the fight, slowly everything began to change. Thanks Dan! 😁
Boom! Love that!!!
Just BE “With” your symptoms. Let them Flow like a River. Let your Body Speak. Learn to be in the Moment. You are So Right..Dan! Fighting makes things worse. Thank You for your reminder. 😊❤
I went to the beach again for the third time - traveling on the subway and walking is difficult from the fatigue but i do make it there and back The beach is glorious - the salt water do refreshing
Wonderful.
It makes so much sense not to fight symptoms. We just need to show our brains normalcy and positivity. It works!!! Thank you for each session, they’ve made all the difference for me♥️
Glad you like.
You are a terrific teacher and I agree with this system where you are fixing is reinforcing. Thank you 🙏
This resonated so much for me today. I have lifelong habit of being my own worst critic, very hard on myself and not letting myself relax or giving myself credit. Your content has helped me beyond just the back pain. Great content and this is good "social media". So much media and social media is negative and filled with fear. Feed your head with content that uplifts your head & your heart and stop feeding your head with fear and nightmares. 5 weeks following your advice and while I'm still learning I'm getting a little bit better week by week both mentally and physically. The mental relief and safety is key no doubt. Thanks Dan and sending healing thoughts to everyone🙏♥️
Resistance is futile... and flares things... Really glad i found your channel... Thank you 🦋🏝️
Welcome! Glad you are here.
'Doing the work' has actually almost always helped me, and made me feel more connected to myself.
Acknowledging how much I've helped myself has been an important part of my journey. However being really disciplined and having a high achieving mindset has not. Showing up for myself with self acceptance, love and forgiveness, especially in the darker times is a consistent effort, but has really helped develop my resilience and my health is a lot better! Knowing I've got my own back no matter what is a blessing, but it took a long time (+ a lot of life changes) to get there.
Thank you Dan for your calm and simplified approach to PDP/TMS, it is exactly the kind of recovery style that is helping me; and I hope many others. God bless.
This is absolutely true in my experience with Anxiety and Depression...can't grit your teeth and hope symptoms go away...excellent videos that will help people.
I spend a lot of time thinking about my symptoms. I will admit the symptoms scare me and I spend a lot of time in my head. Not where I want to be. I understand your content and many people I've listened to says the same thing. This sounds easy, but it's so hard.
Keep following. I post videos daily with free coaching. If you want help implementing, consider my group coaching. www.PainFreeYou.com/join
Whenever I'm in a situation of perceived danger, I consciously notice myself/my brain "scanning" the problematic body part in order to remind me to protect it.
Thanks again Dan!
I can’t wait for tomorrow’s story.
Dizziness is what I have been doing for so long. I always replace the word pain with dizziness, but it will be nice to hear someone with the same sensations.
I watch his videos daily for my chronic dizziness. His advice has been extremely helpful for me!
Excellent. I enjoyed the interview. Look for it tomorrow.
I have dizziness and have found the more I accept my body, following Dan's videos, has been very helpful.
What you resist persists, one of the fundamental laws of life :) Thank you Dan, I found your channel 2 days ago, after briefly asking God to give me "what I need". I struggled with neck pain and tension in my head, temples and the whole suboccipital area after studying like crazy to prepare for an important exam. I thought the cause was both physical (possibly forward head posture and eye strain) and mental (mental fatigue and intense stress in the last week). But because I'm used to look for an emotional/psychosomatic cause for all illnesses, it was really easy to accept that the cause of my pain was purely mental. Also because I noticed how it got worse under stress, and how it disappeared in the evening when I knew my day was almost over and there was nothing left to do. Up til 2 days ago I used to think the stress had kind of "transferred" into the body and I had to be patient until it left by itself. But knowing that my mind activity, attention and fear were keeping the symptoms alive, in itself gave me so much clarity, and it's so easy to keep the pain at bay. From the moment I realised what was going on, the pain subsided and just some muscle tension was left. Today the muscle tension is barely there. But most importantly , the fear and anxiety that accompanied the symptoms are pretty much gone. I'm so grateful. I'm also grateful for my body and nervous system that were ultimately just trying to protect me. Also a form of love.
Can you please recommend me a few of your videos, because I'm a bit worried that future stressful situations will bring back the symptoms! I want to heal for good :) Thank you so much!
Brilliant turnaround. Amazing how the reduction of fear can turn pain off.
These two should do the trick:
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I just had an "aha" moment! My pain is felt mostly in the morning after getting out of bed. My life is stressful as a caregiver and my brain is trying to protect me from the perceived psychological stress that I may encounter during the day with distraction pain. Brilliant! Please give me some affirmations I can tell my brain that I don't need these distractions, I will get through this. How can I practice indifference to this pain?
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That’s good bob im okay
As a Christian, I would say " let go and let God"
Easier said than done. I am a Christian. Learning about perceived danger. Pain has been eye-opening. I surrender any battle, for the battle belongs to the Lord.
Another amazing video! Your approach to PDP is so refreshing and easy to absorbt! You are such a light in an often dark world for so many people living with chronic pain! Thank you so much fpr all that you do! 😊🤗
You are so welcome! It's my pleasure. Thank YOU for your kind words.
I started getting fasciculaciones last year and at the beginning they were painful because of how hard they were. I've wanted every video there is on anxiety and muscle twitching. I was trying so hard to make them stop... at it's worst it was 24/7 I even stopped lifting weights for five months which was probably a huge mistake because during that period they got really bad. I've been going through it for so long now that I stopped giving a crap if I twitched or not. Interesting enough that mentality and your daily videos have helped. I'm still twitching but not as often when when I twich I don't notice as much. Thank you for all the work you do Dan.
Few months ago I had a urge to tell my future husband something from my past, and i stressed so much over it because I thought that if I said that to him I will lose him. ( I didn’t fortunately ) What I want to say with this is that the brain tried only to protect me from the perceived danger and just wanted to keep me safe. Eye opening!
I am still in conflict between treating the mind and treating the body. I feel like I still need to strengthen and stretch to deal with this hip and back pain. Yes, fear, if I don't fix this problem I will have to get the hip replacement. To get out of the fight, I don't know what to do. I 100% don't want surgery. I have people saying how I will get my life back if I get the surgery. It's a constant mental tug of war. I want to drop the end of the rope !!! I haven't stopped living my life, but I feel like fixing this has become my focus. The struggle is real.
Totally agree that the struggle is real. Get the foundation four down first to know if you can end your pain with my approach to Perceived Danger Pain.
Foundational Four: czcams.com/video/eKEOrs1C5W4/video.html
Get super clear on the cause of pain. (#2 of the foundation four)
Assessments: www.PainFreeYou.com/start
What about tight muscles?
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Absolutely makes sense
The best Channel on CZcams. Yes I said that. Thanks Dan. You’re the best
wow - thank you so much. Humbled.
I've been punching myself and beating myself up since I was a kid of 7 or 8. Fighting myself and never give myself any credit for anything. Fighting upstream and against the current. I'm 64 now and just now realizing how to much I've been fighting myself my whole life. Better late than never🙏 Thank you Dan. Extremely helpful videos🙏♥️
Personal question so feel free not to answer it, but do you think this self-combative nature was instilled in you by your father or another authority figure?
@@RobLewis3 definitely my dad.
Battle fatigued its such good wording. How do i let that go, don’t want to feel like that anymore.
Make a firm decision that you are OKAY. There's nothing wrong. Nothing to fix. You aren't broken, you just think you are. Change your story.
Perfect timing! 2 days ago, I felt so fed up with the pain that I decided to fight it. I forced myself to walk back and forth over and over again. Pain kept increasing, I got angrier. Big flare came on, couldn't even stand yesterday. This video sums up exactly my experience.
Yep. Fighting does not teach the brain you are safe.
I can definitely relate! I got so angry months ago, I forced myself to go drive to the mailboxes. (I’ve been dealing with agoraphobia, etc., etc.), had panic and and over and that was the flair. Fired that therapist after going in debt financially. So, “white knucking it” (over and over and over), just sent my brain more messages of damger!!!
@@PainFreeYouabsolutely, 100%, it keeps you freaked out and “in” the fight!!!
Okay..This Video was a Game Changer for me..OMG.. the light came on. Thank you so much Dan for sharing this information.. this literally change my life of over three years of living hell..I might not be 100% But I can work with the help you have shared in this video.. There are no words to express my appreciation for the information you are sharing 👍♥️
Really glad these concepts are hitting home Linda. You can get well for sure.
I have been so eager to ‘get rid’ of the issues and symptoms- it’s been a near 10 year battle. Since my baby went into intensive care in london - life/death situation, my health went down hill with anemia and chronic fatigue/my mum then had a stroke. Everyone was dying around me. I was spinning. Dizziness has been with me for 8 years. I’ve still worked and cared for my family even though I’ve dragged myself along, I’ve not given up trying to find answers or a cure. Desperation. It’s an Exhausting battle. But there have been cloudy breaks of normality. I can see it now. So I know it’s over sensitive nervous system/hyper stimulation. My life is very very busy and I’m tired. This video has helped me Dan as every one of your videos do. Feet back on the ground. I hear your words in my head daily. Thank you for continuing for us. I know it’ll take a lot of your time and energy too. We see you 🙏❤️🩹
I appreciate you Char. Thank you for sharing your experience and your kind words. It is awesome to be seen.
Let things be.
I don't have any relief days. The symptoms continue to spread no matter how much I understand the mind body syndrome. I am losing hope of ever getting better. I am sorry I sound so negative, but I am so tired of all of this. I have never been normal and have been battling anorexia for 35 years, vertigo, panic disorder, and chronic pain. I have read and listened to everything that deals with the brain perceiving danger, but I can't seem to accept that there is nothing wrong when I am so much agony.
Hey Laura - reading and listening is not curative. Teaching your brain you are safe in the way you think, act and behave is the way to convince your subconscious that you are okay. Watch the fast start videos here:
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Focus on teaching the brain we are safe. That doesn't just happen by listening and reading. It's a proactive process.
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And if you would like some help, consider joining my group coaching program where I help people IMPLEMENT these concepts.
So many great concepts in this video thank you!
Thank you.
Thank you for teaching!
This guy is a hero 👋
Wow - thank you.
Great video Dan! Looking very forward to tomorrow’s video regarding dizziness! Thank you!
Excellent.
Hi Dan, This is an exceptionally helpful, clear video. It pretty much overs everything key to the process. Thank you!!! Love you!
Awesome, thank you Beth! I appreciate you.
Great video.
Glad you enjoyed it
There is a common phrase which goes. How goes the battle? I like changing it to, how goes the dance? May we be mindful of the habit to fight and turn on the danger signal so that we can switch gears to as Dan says “calm reassurance”. The mind is a garden, what grows there is determined By what plants We water, we nurture, we feed with our attention and our thoughts. If we give our attention to fear and not being safe, then this plant will grow in our mind. As we learn to give less attention to that and more attention to calm reassurance, Safety, joy, etc. Then the former wither and the later will grow. This is the nature of the mind. Thank you Dan
Love this. Dance and garden, what a great way to look at it thank you x
Beautiful comment Mark. Love the Dance concept.
"Doing the work" has DEFINITELY aggravated symptoms for me when I do it from a place of " I need to get rid of this"... For a couple of days now I have danced uninhibitely and SYMPTOM free after I just allowed myself to let go (kinda just happened). I just wanted to enjoy the dance and had next to no fear over potentially triggering symptoms. Technically, I did the work by applying your 6 steps, but what I expected was to enjoy dancing rather than getting rid of symptoms.
Absolutely beautiful Amazing what happens when you don't engage in the fear.
I have MdDS, Dan, for the past five years. I have commented about it here and a few times on your FB. For some people they get it and it remits and often times comes back. For others, it does not go away. Everyone in the MdDS/dizziness community hopes to get back on the ground again. I look forward to watching Kimberly Warner. She started Unfixed and has made wonderful contributions to those who believe we are battling with a rare neurological condition literally out of nowhere. For me it was an airplane. Peace.
I sincerely believe it is reversible with messages of safety - consistently. Thanks for your comment.
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Yes, makes perfect sense. I have been in the process of noticing my 'fight' responses of late, some of them are rather subtle. Great reminders in this video. By the way, you are awesome too Dan 🙏
Thank you girl up north
@@PainFreeYouMy pleasure , just sharing from the heart what I see in you. It's so clear and bright , I couldn't miss it even if I tried🙂
Im just getting into this. Im petrified to go to sleep and the catch 22 is insomnia with pain. Which caused what? PTSD from serious illness a few yrs ago abd now rls, insomnia etc ...i know this is all emotional. Just trying to let go the leg spasms are excruciating at night . I feel so broken and so want to heal I'm safe but can't convince the old brain ..
@dan what if you don’t have pain free days? The volume of the pain does fluctuate but it’s always there..
You don't need a pain free day for the pain to be TMS / Perceived Danger Pain. In other words, caused by the brain perceiving danger. If you have pain every day, your brain is perceiving danger every day. That's all that means. It's still TMS/PDP. You can still end it.
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Step out of the ring 🥊✌️
Named my pain and I start the day with a good morning to Bob, pains name much better than f@!k you pain! Helps me! Is Finn around? Haven't seen him in awhile ❤🐾
yes, Finn is around. Usually off sleeping somewhere instead of joining the videos.
Lol that's great. I'm naming mine too love it
I love it! Although for us, the name of our boat is ‘Bob’ and he brings joy 😂🎉
My hardest thing i think is trusting my body. Ive heard you say it before.
From years of conventional therapy in the past ive been stuck in a loop of being told i can do this, this, and this to help reduce anxiety and panic. So the thought of needing to do something to reduce my perceived danger. Like Leave the situation, self soothe ect. Still remains ocassionally or subconsciously sometimes i think. Do you have videos that touch on trusting your body? Or maybe something for a future video?
Here you go. czcams.com/video/eAKBZ8u-rx4/video.html
Where do I go for the fast track tips, I’ve just subscribed, thanks Dan
Check out my Fast Start Playlist to understand what is going on and what to do about it. czcams.com/play/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H.html
Haha that dp says it all. That will be picture of the year for me to train my brain.
Glad you liked it. haha
Someone told me I won't recover from the stress response without the help of loved ones support. I don't have that so lost hope now. The adrenaline and cortisol pumping all day is too much to deal with. It does affect the body and stress not good when constant. Have no support from family and no job so stress response is constant . Feel it's over for me as too worn out to carry on.
Disregard this "someone" and their advice that you cannot heal. My wife was not on board with TMS and I got better anyway. You can too. Don't listen to anyone who says you cannot heal. They are wrong. You can do this. My fast start playlist is a great place to begin.
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Is it better to “ be indifferent “ to symptoms or talk to your scared brain with reassuring talk when symptoms happen.
I’ve heard you mention both tactics.
Ps i love this video.
It also made me laugh abit as weird as that sounds.
A lot of the M.E groups talk about being a warrior which makes it sound like a war,
war = scary.
Your a dam genius Dan
Three ways to respond to symptoms. Freak out, calm reassurance, indifference. If indifference is out of reach, calmly reassure. You can do both though. There's a time and place for both. Focus on what makes you feel safe. Sometimes reassuring yourself with facts can dial down the fear.
I am in a battle everyday with my mind??
If people don’t have any dizziness free days, like PPPD, can it still be some version of TMS?
Fantastic video today!!! Thank You!!!
(My only intention is to personally
acknowledge that there is a positive benefit to tapping -that is NOT attached to an outcome of pain relief-and this has been my experience. So to just dismiss it unilaterally seems questionable to me)
I have found tapping so helpful for calming my nervous system ❤
If it's beneficial, go for it. It wasn't part of my cure and many people get well without it, so it must not be necessary, so it's not something I teach. I'm all for what helps whether it's my suggestions or not. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Thanks for replying Dan! My only hope is that Tapping when NOT used for chronic symptoms, is also not dismissed overall. 💛
A year ago I stopped stretching my back pain went away.
yep - me too.
Love your stuff man I’d love to talk to you . Going online to pain free you now. I Have chronic pelvic pain syndrome and can’t get out of the loop I’m stuck in the fight.
The best way to get direct access to me is my group coaching program. I am on Zoom for 10-12 hours a WEEK to answer questions and provide coaching. www.PainFreeYou.com/join for details.
Until then, my Fast Start Playlist will give you all the information you need to understand what is going on and what to do about it.
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Yes, me 💯. Referring this now to my journey, not my right as I used to say.
You got this!
I have been' doing the work", and i feel i have got worse . Tried different kimds of journalling ,daily meditation, my thoughts are really wide now and i feel like they wont shut off. I certainly recognise why i have PDP and understand my personality has always been very anxious aroubd health . For 7 months i researched and had test and went to doctors and have been doing this for 2 months and my nerve pain keeps moving and intensifiing in mamy places too , all day. I am running each day and i started the garden fench but i am at a loss
Often the harder you try, the more you are showing your brain there is a BIG problem to solve. This video will explain why symptoms can get worse when doing this work: czcams.com/video/LTbMVV-oT1I/video.html
Hi Rebecca, I just wanted to encourage you. When I first started this work, I had an intensification of my symptoms, not a reduction. And the next phase was hilarious. For months, anxiety replaced a lot of the physical issues. It was horrible, and it could have felt like a setback. But I viewed the change as a positive. It meant that I was disrupting business as usual. Eventually the system got the message that ramping anxiety and rumination was not working. I was going about my life anyway. It gave up.
Things are not perfect right now. I am on a quick symptom imperative merry go round. The difference is that a neck ache that used last for days and require medication to eradicate bothers me for an hour and then goes away on its own. I know that someday I will be on the other side of this. A skin issue that used to send me to the doc, well, nowadays I just ignore it. Because it goes away on its own. Sometimes the same day! And THAT is proof. I have enjoyed a few days symptom free. Then the mindbody gets scared and says, oh no, she’s relaxed what can we do?
It’s all good. That is the motto. The journey is not a straight line for me. And it’s taking longer than I expected. I’m just accepting it. Overall there have been huge improvements. Big picture. I keep my eye on the big picture. And as Dan advises here, I’ve stopped fighting.
I hope this works as encouragement. Keep going.
@@CherryLane-si1yj Thank you so much for such a detailed message. Its very kind. Yes I definitely relate to increase in symptoms,.. at night too the anxiety has also began. More like my thoughts are very very intrusive so it's like double whammy. I realise there is no rule to how recovery goes. I think I may lay off all the journalling etc for a while and just try and do as Dan says ... live life as much as possible, although I'm currently on sick , I have been doing a few jobs and exercise which I will continue. I wish you all the best and love your mindset. You should be so proud. This is a part of life that I won't forget but will look back as a massive learning curve . Many thanks again for helping and supporting me. Xx
@@CherryLane-si1yjwow - thank you thank you thank you. I cannot tell you how much I needed to read your message today. Feeling hopeless and desperate because the symptoms just won’t give up! You were my message of safety and calm today. I wish you peace, joy and blessings 🙏💖
@@CherryLane-si1yjexcellent share Cherry!!!!
Dan about the sessions on zoom.. do they get recorded?
Yes, they do and are archived on a hidden playlist that is NOT public. Only members of the group coaching can see them. This way if you cannot make a session in person, you can submit a question in advance and I will answer the question and you can catch it on the replay.
WHAT ARE WE TO ACCEPT AND SURRENDER TO? THE SYMPTOMS? GIVE UP? WHAT DO WE SAY TO OURSELVES AS WE ACCEPT OR SURRENDER?
Acceptance is NOT giving up. Resignation is quitting.
These videos will explain:
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We surrender to the moment- accepting whatever is happening right now. We say "This is fine" or "Yes" or "I've got this." We are not accepting anything about the future- we are not surrendering to a life time of anything. Every time my brain wants to "solve" the problem or predict a negative future, I just say "Whatever" and let it go. When I really committed to this approach (one of Dan's main points) I could feel how it was a calmer place and after about 5 days, I noticed some tiny changes which have been followed by more incremental improvement. As he says, it's all about getting to the right mind set. If you don't want to fight with your body, then accepting what ever is going on with it -at any given moment- is the only practical alternative.
To much stimuli makes my vertigo & tinnitus worse. It scares me 😣 which is why I avoid. I sound like a broken record. I'm exhausted I want to learn how to talk to my brain. Thanks 👍 for the info.
But how do I know with mini strokes that I am not broken. Thursday I see neurologist. It's 24 miles away I'm scared I'm going to get lost so I will be dizzy the whole way there and when I get home I will be worse with dizzy and tinnitus.
Thanks for replying.
Broken record ⏺️ that is my new name now. I still have my sense of humor!
Well, mini strokes are not TMS. However, fear and attention can amplify symptoms from anything. Did you see my fast start playlist?
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Yes I did 🙂
How when u r in terrible pain & losing parts bcz of nerve & vessels inflammation !
I'm not sure what you mean by "losing parts".
Have you determined if your symptoms are TMS/Perceived Danger symptoms?
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Not if you’re a good fighter 🤔🤯😬😂
haha - true true.