A Super Fun Activity To Teach Children With Autism Eye Contact! | Episode 14
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- In this episode Courtney and Phil will show you a super fun way to teach children with autism eye contact!
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Eye contact can be painful for people with autism. It can also hinder our ability to process information through our other senses. So if we are making eye contact with you, we might not be able to understand what you are saying, or it might make it harder to process our thoughts to speak.
I assume you wouldn't require a blind child to make eye contact, and would instead adapt your own communication style. Why not accomodate the disability of autistic people, and adapt your own communication when communicating with us too? We mightn't have sensory disability like blindness, but autism is a neurological condition that affects how how we process sensory information. We need accomodation, not to be forced to pretend that we are neurologically different than we are.
You seem pointless
exactly
@@JD-zh5nv well he isn’t, get your neurotypical ass out of here and take your aba with you
Yes. I have ADHD and I find eye contact very intimidating. It sets me spinning and creeps me out. I avoid it whenever I can. My "simple trick" for getting my son to engage in some eye contact with me was to close my eyes and let him sit on my lap and play at opening them. By giving him control, I found that he did sometimes like making eye contact with me. Not forcing people to do things and allowing them to be comfortable is the way. Now he looks for my eyes when we have a joke together. I never insist because I love him and I don't want to force something on him that freaks him out.
Or, you could just accept that for some people, eye contact is not part of how they communicate. Personally, I was given a lot of these eye contact exercises as a kid, and today, when I try to look someone in the eye, I can do it, but it feels uncomfortable, and makes it impossible to focus on what they're saying. I listen much better when I'm averting my gaze, as do many autistic people.
Thank you for sharing your story! I also listen better if I avert my gaze away from a person's eyes!
@@Intothespectrumvideos If you listen better when you gaze your eyes away from someone, why insist that your children do otherwise? I don't want to say that you're a bad person, but I really think it would be really helpful if you were to take some input from autistic people about what eye contact is really like for them: neuroclastic.com/2019/04/18/eye-contact/
Im a mother of autistic kid..i dont really mind about the eye contact, but can i ask you how to make an autistic kid to give any response when i call her?
exactly
This is a great technique. Thank you so much for sharing this!
Hi
So with this exercise doing for long time can help the child on the future to look on the eyes? Can that be reched?
Thank you 🙏❤️
No problem! 😊
What do I do if the child (3 year old) gets cranky and stubborn to get the paper from my hand?
Thank you
You're welcome!
How long is the period, we hav to use it?
Until your child starts to give eye contact! Then you can start to fade it away. Thanks for your comment!
Felt the description needed a little work so here:
'A super fun activity to leave a child traumatized for life. In this video, we will teach your child how to ignore their basic sensory needs, learn to not express their boundaries and needs for the comfort of grown adults. Your child will learn why their needs don't matter, that it doesn't matter how much sensory discomfort they are in - conformity always comes above their well-being. Your child will also learn everything is innately wrong with them from eye contact onwards and that being loved by their parents means Oscar-worthy performances 24/7. Your child may even enjoy these kinds of lessons (at the time) - loving the approval that comes from overcoming their inherent inferiority.
The eventual goal is when your child, - gets into their 20s they will have panic attacks and a permanent feeling of background sadness - because no one understands or accepts them - (they have pretty solid evidence for this seeing as they don't even remember who they are anymore because they were forced to change traits as neutral as varied eye contact because some people are too bigoted to accept diversity). This video will have profound lasting consequences, enjoy!' (From an actually autistic adult)
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Parents if you love your child don't do this to them - you can't even begin to fathom how much it damages them. I wasn't even on full-on ABA I had- it was just learning that I must change my eye contact etc that caused me profound harm. And at the time I almost found the corrections enjoyable because I learnt that I was praised and approved of every time I changed fundamental parts of who I am. If you can't relate to me then please try to imagine how it would feel to have your parents and school force you to never make eye contact with anyone because people consider it to be rude and intrusive.
From my own lived experience I think a lot of the actual problems with autism are not from autism but the trauma of being expected to hide natural parts of who you are. If you love your kids love every part of them - and do better than this by them.
Way over the top
@@t-lawsfitness6044Mmmmmhhhh...not really... 🖕🏾
thanks you
You're welcome 😊
Hi, Give some example for, how to teach name call response
If you toddler does not respond when you call him you should try to call his name several times and when he finally makes even the smallest gesture or has the smallest reaction reward him with a hug or a treat or even a toy he likes. This is a strategy that has worked miracles for me and my son.
Also try not to say his name when you give him tasks or if you are working with him on something. For example instead of saying Phil bring me the book just say Bring me the book.
😀Thank you so much for the idea...I would like to know how to teach name call response
I going to use this with my husband . He's always preoccupied and hardly ever looks you in the eye. I think this will work quite well ! Thank you Courtney and Phil !!
Love these videos ! ❤️❤️❤️
Lol thanks a lot! Let us know how it works!
Why is this necessary? Eye contact can be uncomfortable or unbearably painful for autistic people. This looks like it only serves to make the autistic person act unnaturally to make the neurotypical comfortable. I'm autistic and I don't look at people's eyes, and it's not a big deal.
Im a mother of autistic kid..i dont really mind about the eye contact, but can i ask you how to make an autistic kid to give any response when i call her?
Way to go Philly!
Thanks Lee!
You two are seriously so cute!!
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wow! interesting...... eye contact still causes difficulty for me. although i have practiced a lot. i guess my difficulty is that NT's EXPECT us to behave the same, even though they know we are different.
What is eye contact for an NT? what does it do for you? why is it so important for NT's to be validated in this way?
As with all people on the spectrum, it makes things easier if we know WHY. and if the WHY makes sense to us.
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Eye contact has 3 purposes: It is first a nonverbal way of saying you are aware someone is speaking to you. It's considered polite because it shows interest in the other person and what they are talking about, and that you're not self-distracting with unrelated thoughts in your own head. It's also a tool for you while you are speaking; by looking for clues in the other person's face, you can tell if they are confused about something and need further explanation, if they're getting bored with conversation so it's time to ask them a question, if they're feeling an emotional reaction to what you're saying, etc.
Im a mother of autistic kid..i dont really mind about the eye contact, but can i ask you how to make an autistic kid to give any response when i call her?
This is helpful. I will give it a try. But the comments on this video are strange. My son is 4 yo and he doesn't speak. One of the reasons is his lack of eye contact. Because he doesn't look at anyone when they speak, he doesn't understand how to hold and move his mouth to be able to understand speech. Take the letter M for example. If he never looks at me to see that I'm pressing both lips together to make the mmmm sound, then he won't get it. It's not about trying to make my son conform in a social sense, it's about helping him learn to speak and read. Everyone on the spectrum is different. Be thankful that you have these skills. You would be different if you never acquired these skills. Thank you guys for your work in helping parents of autistic children connect with them.
Thank you so much for your comment. I really appreciate it! Everybody on the spectrum is different and have different skills. I really like your example with teaching the mmm sound.
Hi Shennett,
maybe you can try to encourage your son to look at your mouth making an M instead of asking him to make eye contact?
Eye contact is often painful for people on the spectrum. It's also very distracting. I can't concentrate on what people say if I'm also making eye contact with them. I often need to look away to focus on a person's voice, as well as to construct what I want to say in return. Many autistic people are like this.
It might be hard to believe, as we're taught that eye contact is important for communication, but, for those of us on the spectrum, it can actually prevent us from being able to communicate effectively. We need people to learn how to communicate with us using less or no eye contact, similar to how you would need to change your own communication style to converse with a blind person.
Also, your son might look like he's not engaged but it's quite possible he is - he just can't show it to you.
There are many autistic people who can't speak but who have learnt to communicate through typing. Sometimes a person learns to type first, and then learns to speak.
I hope you find something that will help your son learn to communicate.
It's not just people on the spectrum that are all different. All people are different. Don't be scared. We are here to help.
I'm sure he can hear you just fine. If he needed to look at you, he would.
Could you teach me how to let the Austin kiddo follow the directions.
How would you use this if kiddo uses pecs
Thx work for me🙏
So glad to hear!!
Goggles work for me ! When I wear goggles , my son looks at my face .
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Is this working for girl who is 2.5 years old
Do you have a video about coping skills tips for those with autism? If you don't, can you please create a video about this?
Hi! We are looking for more content ideas, thanks for commenting!
this sounds so much better~ I will try this mask thing~ what is my toddler has speech delay?
The mask can be really fun!! :)
What a great idea! Thanks for the tip I will be trying this out later today!
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Khristmas LOL!!
Looks great, I will try to work with my son.
Great! Thank you for watching!
Wow! Great idea! Seems like an easy task to teach a child who not making an eye contact, but it's not easy! Thank you for this great idea!
I am so glad it was helpful!! Thank you for your comment!
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What an interesting way to help children! I really appreciate the fact that you use something concrete to help children make eye contact. And thanks for reminding us that we shouldn't interrupt kids when they are doing their favorite things!
Lacey Peters Thank you so much for your comment and for liking our episode!! Play is so important and there is so much to learn there! Sometimes it's good just let them play :)
Not helping kids it’s just making them mask
Nice
Thanks!
this is really helpful but the painting and lamp really distract me from the main goal maybe a green screen with a white background would be easier
I love this! Have a non-verbal student. Perfect for him.
Judy Julian 😀👍 Let us know how it goes!!
So interesting how this works!!! Once student locked in, student kept looking! :)
Judy Julian Fantastic!! It's pretty cool right?!
Eye contact is painful and unnecessary for the majority of us.Don't force it!
I swear these therapists really need to start listening to more input from autistic people.
Im a mother of autistic kid..i dont really mind about the eye contact, but can i ask you how to make an autistic kid to give any response when i call her?
@@ardhyalimosunu1307 I'm not the best one to ask. When I was young I used to run away when my parents called me!
@@TheAutisticEducator well, at least you gave response 🙂 anyway, i think u r doing good job adapting
@@ardhyalimosunu1307 Naa...I get people to adapt the environment for me now.! Soft lights, quiet, time outs, being loved and accepted.
I'm so excited to try this for my virtual learner
Yay! Let us know how it goes!
ADHD eye contact and eye gaze techniques
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Check out this new way to teach eye contact! let us know if you tried it! 😀
Ever tried asking an autistic person why they are averse to eye contact?
Sentient Ricecake Yes I have talked to quite a few people on the spectrum about eye contact! Thank you for your question! :)
Then you just don't care about autistic people?
Actually, we care very much! That is why we made this channel! Thanks for watching!
Okay... thanks for the condescension.
Social worker here- this is a great, fun idea 👍🏻
Autistic social worker's daughter here (my mother never endorsed this, my school did)- this stuff is not fun and I can tell you as a kid this kind of thing felt fun for me at the time. What's not fun is the panic attacks and permanent feelings of 'background sadness' I have age just-about-to-turn-28. Because turns out being taught to override your sensory needs for the comfort of adults and being rewarded for changing neutral traits accumulates to feeling permanently inferior, like you have no idea who you actually are and not even appreciating the proving-everyone-wrong-by-getting-all-A's things because nothing fills the void created by feeling fundamentally unaccepted as who you are.
If you can't relate please imagine what life would be like for you if you had to never make eye contact because people consider you making eye contact as 'rude and intrusive and you wouldn't want to make other people uncomfortable now would you?' Hope you consider what I say - I saw 'social worker' and hoped that you would have a similar enough open-minded mentality as my mum to at least hear me out, thanks.
Yay! So glad you liked our idea! And thank you for watching!
In my opinion a person on the autistic spectrum who struggles with eye contact should not be forced to give it when they find it painful/uncomfortable. I think the person on the spectrum should be encourage to try something that makes it look like they're giving eye contact like looking at a person nose for example because it won't cause them any stress and the other person will think they're giving eye contact.
This is kind of a grey area for me... I personally learnt to find a spot that's near enough to the eyes to fake eye contact - no one taught me that I just had to find a method. But I think one of most problematic things about this is it teaches the child to think everything about them is wrong and they must change it. I think especially kids of this generation are doing a lot of work to stop social injustices so it's time to stop harming autistic children for the comfort of adults.
I do have a question: why is eye contact important?
I think so it is a sort of nonverbal communication which helps the child to learn even through facial expressions.
It also solidfiles teacher /student relationship, learning becomes easier and more friendly. The persons best "confidence gaining measurer" is eye- contact and confidently such being can get rid of mike-fright and capable to face the people too.
Eye contact has 3 purposes: It is first a nonverbal way of saying you are aware someone is speaking to you. It's considered polite because it shows interest in the other person and what they are talking about, and that you're not self-distracting with unrelated thoughts in your own head. It's also a tool for you while you are speaking; by looking for clues in the other person's face, you can tell if they are confused about something and need further explanation, if they're getting bored with conversation so it's time to ask them a question, if they're feeling an emotional reaction to what you're saying, etc.
@@jf8200 This might be the case for many neurotypical people but for most autistic people eye contact is actually really distracting, so we might be looking you in the eye and you might think we're engaged and listening, but really, we're completely distracted by the visual information. But when we're looking away and you think we're distracted - actually, we're listening and engaged!
People need to learn that eye contact doesn't always mean what they think it means - even neurotypical people can't always concentrate with eye contact. They also need to learn to accommodate autistic people who struggle with eye contact - like how you'd learn to communicate without eye contact when talking to a blind person - you can also learn to accomodate people with disabilities affecting how they process sensory information.
Without the eye contact, how can the asd kids learn things? Lets say how to learn to read, do things..
Im a mother of autistic kid..i dont really mind about the eye contact, but can i ask you how to make an autistic kid to give any response when i call her?
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Edward Keenan II Lol! 😀
Why can’t parents accept their children for who they are - differences, quirks and all, instead of forcing them to do things (such as making eye contact) that are unnatural, uncomfortable, and often even physically painful for them just because it makes the parent more comfortable to see their child conform to social norms. As an autistic person myself I’m appalled to see such a widespread lack of acceptance for individuals with ASD. As if we are all sick and need a cure because we don’t conform to all the social norms when what really just need is acceptance, and if our own parents won’t accept us then who will?
The world is a big place and there is no love greater than a parent's love. We worry ourselves sick at night sometimes hoping that yall (yall as in any of our kids) grow up with the skills to handle it all. When it comes to autism.. there is no difference in that train of thought.
Oh shut the fuck up. Most parents who freak out do so as normal reaction. My son is Asperger and yes i did have that reaction of " omg he'll never be a normal boy" . like most parents it's a shock to us but as we learn and cope with the diagnosis. We as parents and siblings begin to understand the world they live in and accept over time. As for other people and bullies there will never be a short of those people ever. But don't claim that people don't understand because there are many of us that do.
Im a mother of autistic kid..i dont really mind about the eye contact, but can i ask you how to make an autistic kid to give any response when i call her?
@@pookiepowers3043 We do have the skills to handle it all we just get taught out of our own regulation strategies. I did great at the whole faking not having autism thing until doing so completely burnt me out. Turns out trying to fake something you aren't on top of every life pressure that comes from being a human leads to burnout fast. I had all the right grades, excellent skills in a number of subject areas (I worked super hard for that I'm not bragging), did well socially but it didn't translate to any success because I feel fundamentally unaccepted as who I am, I don't even know who I am anymore because I've had to hide, suppress and change so much.
It's great that you care so much for your child. At nearly 28 I'm having to find ways to communicate to my family how much I know they only act out of love for me but the things they thought helped me have really hindered me and why. That's a painful process because I don't want them to feel bad I just need my own family to understand me.
I think the better thing to worry about is - is the world doing right by my child?
The autistic people commenting passionately here are doing so because we've all been the misunderstood autistic child. So listening to us, when we say this is failing us, is an act of love for your children. They may seem happy now but I felt happy doing ABA-type exercises as a kid. It's only the soul searching that comes from being a deeply unhappy adult that makes you realize this is the problem. I don't even remember what being properly happy feels like anymore and I'm a natural optimist so I work so hard to feel happy but I'm not able to.
I just can't find happiness not being myself. After spending many years trying to work out the cause of my trauma I realize it's feeling I had to change so much about myself to be loved by anyone.
I feel like this wouldn't work for me
*EXCELLENT GUIDELINE*
Wearing of paper mask having eye cutting spaces, through which students try to identify the fellows by looking into the eyes that
*WHO IS WHO*
(because all are wearing the masks)
*RECOGNITION THROUGH EYES*
is also be a fun game.
Isn't it?
Yes that sounds like a great fun game as well! Thanks for the comment!
I'm definitely going to try this with my little boy
Great! Thanks for commenting!
Thank you so much, this has helped me a lot get more eye contact from my son.
God bless
That is so glad to hear! Thanks for letting us know and watching our video!
Why do you feel the need of teaching someone eye contact? If a person with ASD doesn't feel good about looking somebody into the eyes it's just the problem of society and the person's surrounding. Especially you shouldn't force children to to it because they don't have the power to say that they do not want to.
Im a mother of autistic kid..i dont really mind about the eye contact, but can i ask you how to make an autistic kid to give any response when i call her?
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Hi Courtney,
Great video! How do I get my autistic child to respond to his name? He doesn't know his own name? Do you happen to have a video about this subject? My child is 25 months old. Thank you.
Same here..my daughter knows her name..sometimes she can answer, my name is Grace, i am 2 years old..but when i call her, without bringing snack or toys or ipad, she wont give me any respons..i see that your comment here was from 2 years ago..how about now? Any luck?
Why do they need to be taught eye contact?
That's what I was thinking. Apparently, they haven't taken any input from autistic adults about what eye contact is really like for them.
We don't so thank you for asking! I must look like a troll here trying to desperately tell everyone why forced eye contact is so problematic. For me it's the trauma of learning 'I'm so fundamentally wrong even my eye contact must change' does a crazy amount of lasting damage.
@@debbieparnell7582 not sure whether my initial comment was posted before or after but I was diagnosed around 3 years ago. Seems like the channel actually only responds to those that are wanting to change autistic kids and doesn't want to hear from autistic folk!
@@uniquefries Completely! I'm glad that the comments are still up for people open minded enough.
@@debbieparnell7582 I don't find the autistic community to be very open minded.
How would you teach a blind child to make eye contact?
Oh, you wouldn't do that? You'd make changes to your own communication style instead to accomodate their sensory needs?
Why, then wouldn't you make the same accomodations for a child who finds eye contact uncomfortable, confusing, distracting and/or painful?
… cause that's what eye contact is to many autistic people.
If I'm making eye contact with you, it's likely I'm not understanding why you're saying. I need to look away to concentrate on your voice.
Thank you so much for your comment! I appreciate your input on this subject. We don't require eye contact during teaching or a conversation. We also coach teachers not to require eye contact to our students.
Im a mother of autistic kid..i dont really mind about the eye contact, but can i ask you how to make an autistic kid to give any response when i call her?
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