UCLA Seminar - repatterning the inner parent, healing the superego virus

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  • Sam Vaknin Richard Grannon Seminar Liverpool March 2019 "How to Manipulate the Narcissist or Psychopath"
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  • @RICHARDGRANNON
    @RICHARDGRANNON  Před 4 lety +13

    0:00 Why Does A Narcissist Want To Destroy You?
    2:50 There's No Fixing And It's A Hard Thing To Accept
    4:42 Talking About Malignant Optimism
    6:55 How Do You Fix A Malignant Inner Parent?
    12:00 Answering Questions
    17:00 Talking About The Gender Issue
    20:01 Spirituality Questions
    22:56 You Need To Know That It's Going To Hurt, Pain Is A Part Of Our Lives
    25:48 Talking About Toxic Friends
    30:00 Repatterning The Inner Parent
    35:20 We Need To Love Ourselves The Way We Would Another Person
    39:55 Richard Talks About The Usage Of Hypnosis
    41:45 Talking About Affirmations To Overcome Fear
    45:34 Narcissists Have Massive Abandonment Anxiety

    • @Orosian5
      @Orosian5 Před 3 lety

      I appreciate the truth you are sharing. The Annunaki are still here, brother.

  • @emilyrowe5538
    @emilyrowe5538 Před 6 lety +122

    I have a photo of myself that my third grade teacher took. He was so lovely and fair and kind and empathic. I am just filled with happiness in this picture and totally unselfconscious. I discovered it recently and framed it and put it up on my shelf. Whenever I am being cruel to myself I look at this picture and the inner critic disappears - it reminds me how loveable I am, how innocent I am, how sweet I am. it's a stark contrast to all the old family photos riddled with the rot of the system....

    • @sumanmishra123
      @sumanmishra123 Před 6 lety +7

      Emily Rowe I've been doing something similar. I've rediscovered photographs which portray me similarly, and I've been framing them and putting them up in the house. It's helped.

    • @solo-boots
      @solo-boots Před 6 lety +6

      WOW - it just occurred to me I have no photos of myself in my home.. wonder why not? Time to change that!

    • @TALLhappyCOLORS
      @TALLhappyCOLORS Před 5 lety +6

      and the contrast is shocking and sad, but great to re-anchor ourselves to who we really were before `they´ tried to change us !

    • @orchidisle1
      @orchidisle1 Před 4 lety +1

      Emily Rowe This is funny because I have been doing that too! Before my husband would always move things around if I put a picture up somewhere he would move it or put it away. Everything I did in my home -( and I am a good housekeeper and like to decorate), he would redo and say Say he had to do everything. I couldn’t make have any control over my environment at all. I had never encountered this before. So now I am enjoying the freedom to have things out where I can enjoy them! It’s great!

  • @Nika-yx7mi
    @Nika-yx7mi Před 6 lety +167

    Children who weren’t abused live without demons in their head and they attract good things and hang out with people just because they like each other!!! Life is easier for them. They have a natural ease of assertion and know how to navigate their lives. Meanwhile our parents failed us and we are teaching ourselves what they failed to do when we were children. I was an orphan child. The chronic shame guilt and self doubt is crippling.

    • @Treebard
      @Treebard Před 6 lety +15

      VY, my father was abandoned by his parents for years in a "home" but not an orphan, but he shared many of your issues. Unfortunately, he became some type of narcissist or borderline. But he did change over the years, but it took a long time and a lot of "grey-rock" (although I didn't call it that at the time, just not getting enmeshed in his "stuff"). And Pippi, yes I've met people who are pretty well-adjusted and haven't been through the hell I've been through. They've had a lot happier lives than me. But that's okay, I'm learning, changing, and growing.

    • @janeharris6734
      @janeharris6734 Před 6 lety +17

      Vegan Yogi.......I read this years ago, it is very true.
      "Never compare yourself to others.......they are more fucked up than you think"
      We all have our inner 'demons' to a certain degree.
      We need to let go of our victim mentality, this will keep you 'stuck' in how you think and feel.
      I am working on this now....
      Try using the 'perfect, having it all together' people as something to aspire to being.
      I hope this helps? 💙💜💚

    • @sumairakhan6549
      @sumairakhan6549 Před 6 lety

      Vegan Yogi

    • @anitakluck3513
      @anitakluck3513 Před 6 lety +12

      I feel you - but I think everybody has their own issue to face in life. Maybe we were dealt with a special challenge, but we can learn. And in my experience, learning to recalibrate every social skill you have because you kind of got it teached all wrong makes you someone others value a lot. You got this!

    • @texuztweety
      @texuztweety Před 6 lety +2

      I agree entirely with the original comment by Vegan Yogi

  • @pjsvenska3338
    @pjsvenska3338 Před 6 lety +49

    good lord, richard this is better than any stand up comedy i ever saw! brilliant!!!!!! (as always)

  • @cl1158
    @cl1158 Před 6 lety +39

    After following your work for a couple years I have finally developed a strong internal parent (among many other skills) and my emotional flash backs are under control.
    I kept waiting (and working) to see the light at the end of the tunnel and now I realize that I'm in the light. Richard, thank you for giving me the tools to live a life full of love and authenticity. I am forever grateful.

    • @anniea3411
      @anniea3411 Před 6 lety +2

      Please tell me what that feels like? For hope? ? Do you feel good things like excitement? Do you feel? Is life real? I don't feel real

    • @nikkishaye1156
      @nikkishaye1156 Před 5 lety +1

      Courtney Long, in over 5+years of watching CZcams, this is the best comment that I've ever read; on so many levels!❤🙏🏼🌈🤘🏼💜💯🌌

    • @Ch50304
      @Ch50304 Před 4 lety

      Courtney Long
      could you tell me how you did that?

    • @robincrotchett1543
      @robincrotchett1543 Před 4 lety

      Courtney Long Courtney, you ARE the light. Always remember your birthright; born to Heavenly Parents, from an Intelligence to an organized Spirit. Taught w/ godly love. Sent to mortality, as a free agent, to act for yourself. Their love for each one of us is eternal. Tap into that love by prayer. I guarantee you will feel their love. Their very personal love for you.

    • @More_readings
      @More_readings Před 3 lety

      Wow, that’s great! I feel I’m on the same way to self-healing. Thanks Universe for this gift. 😌

  • @anjaligrover4648
    @anjaligrover4648 Před 6 lety +11

    I suffered an incredible typical, text-book style DISCARD. I fell apart because of the timing he chose when my kids were giving SATs and preparing for their final school leaving exams. I was totally where he wanted me to be, as he executed with Swiss precision a METICULOUSLY planned DISCARD. It was the end of 28 years of relationship. Agreed I was co-dependent and an empath. Probably still have traces of it that I have to watch out for. I like the concept introduced by you Richard of being a malignant hopeful. I totally was. I let him fool me with his false promises of a better tomorrow.
    But hey, it is all history now. I always wanted out of this relationship right from the start. I could not for so long. But finally, I did. And survived. I am living a life that I always wanted. I am becoming who I always was, but could not be. I am very proud of my inner strength and now I honor and listen to my intuition and gut more.... I feel like thanking my X for giving the biggest gift - of self-love, self-belief, and self-value. Thank you!

  • @a.b.2850
    @a.b.2850 Před 6 lety +12

    Oh Il like what you said about "however you're feeling this is how they wanted you to feel like", their actions leaded you to feel this way... I had never thought of it in this way!! Thanks for that!

  • @southerncross5360
    @southerncross5360 Před 6 lety +16

    Anyone else grow up in a home with one mentally ill parent, and the other an enabler?
    For my case I learned to be a codependent fix it all adult.
    Of course I ended up marrying, and having children with a narcissist for decades. Once he hit an older age he became a drunk then he went on a religious rampage and said he’s a messenger from God who’s prepared for some end of times prophecy...After 20 years and losing myself, child who became suicidal I had to stop the madness and we ran like hell? So with CPTSD from living in traumatic situations what’s next for us!? Shit I’m lost starting over and I can relate to Richard more than anyone else, the humor and analogies made me open my eyes.

    • @kittimcconnell2633
      @kittimcconnell2633 Před 5 lety +2

      Both parents ill, here. One was an addict, the other a co-dependent NPD. I have been in recovery for several decades - life gets better, and better, and better. I hope you are doing better, too. Really glad you found this channel - it has helped me and my oldest sister a lot.

  • @jessh9988
    @jessh9988 Před 6 lety +28

    Did my inner parenting hypnosis just 1x after watching this video and now I know why its called flooding, your body litterally floods with amazing feel good coxktails of happiness...got my next 4 alarms set!!!! I can already feel that void closing up. Truely remarkable we have the ability to override years of trauma, stress and sickness just by approoving of ourselves, as if the parental voice was coming from outside ourselves. Thank you Richard, this is amazballs just like the stars ;)

    • @Nuverselive
      @Nuverselive Před 5 lety +1

      +Jessica Hall which hypnosis did u do?

    • @A_T__
      @A_T__ Před 4 lety

      Jess H where is that hypnosis Jess? Im looking for it

  • @jemgem9593
    @jemgem9593 Před 5 lety +4

    Malignant optimism, oh my. Story of moi life. Thanks. I so appreciate these terms / concepts.

  • @mariamerrick8192
    @mariamerrick8192 Před 6 lety +5

    The entertainment style of Richard grannon is so incredibly unique and genuine that I am able to integrate truly helpful advice and skills to discover and heal the past and live in the moment. He explains the foundation of why empaths accept the abuse dished out by npds so explicitly. I felt so guilty for just being alive until I finally sought help after leaving a malignant narc of 25 years, sperm donor of my 4 awesome kids, therefore complete no contact not possible. These videos have been a life saver, for real. A life saver. I'm writing an ebook, will probably be a made for TV movie bcz no one believes it. When I put the words on the screen, I don't believe it either. Richard grannon s explanations and skill building has helped me to "see" my inner TRUTH and now call out the TRUTH and not hide in the shadows anymore and to establish Boundaries!!! And the most shocking realization if all for me is that" it's okay to gave boundaries". Wow. Thank you, Richard.

  • @hbhooooihbbgvv
    @hbhooooihbbgvv Před 6 lety +9

    My heart swelled with the concept of being our own inner parent! Genius, absolute genius! This is the essence of recovery from trauma, we have to teach ourselves the skills our parents never taught us! We have to love ourselves like our parents never did, have compassion for ourselves when they did not. Thank you Richard . Ps, might be a link to your God is the water and we fall in to it, the underlying common teaching in all religion is love......and your asking that we flood ourselves with love...if we flood ourselves with love wouldn't that mean we are falling into it! Might have to put that on a t-shirt

  • @GeneBurnett
    @GeneBurnett Před 6 lety +6

    Not wanting to lose the parent people hold in their minds reminds me of the Krishnamurti quote: We never fear the unknown...we fear the death of the known." Which of course is what grief is all about. I'm just an armchair amateur but I would say the majority of non-genetic mental problems are basically interrupted grief processes. The body knows how to grieve but our culture and most of our families do not, so we get stuck in energetic cul-du-sacs of malignant optimism, repetitive patterns, unrealistic goals and the rest of it . Good stuff Richie.

  • @1RPJacob
    @1RPJacob Před 6 lety +5

    Inner talk (self parenting) we do non stop, unfortunately often in the in the form of inner critique. Richard you're right, changing the negative talk into positive (at the beginning we do not believe what we saying) is magic. Real talk mate, cheers :)

  • @patriciabaker332
    @patriciabaker332 Před 6 lety +3

    The clearest, most helpful video yet. Although I suspect had I not listened to EVERYTHING you have ever done, this one would not be viewed this way. No one else, on the planet doing as much for this subject as you! Thanks from the bottom of my heart.

  • @JohnDoe-gq3tm
    @JohnDoe-gq3tm Před 6 lety +2

    The way Narcissists mirror us during the idealization stage - Is exactly how our Narcissistic parents should have mirrored us when we were children. In adulthood we get to experience the contrast of how we should have been treated and how we were actually treated. We're repeatedly being shown how much we were invalidated and devalued as children. Narcissists start out warm, friendly, encouraging etc - Then slowly give you more and more indifference. I think the longer we put up with the indifference is proportionate to how much indifference we were shown as children. Why else would we put up with such apathy towards our existence from someone who has shown us they can treat us in a respectful manner. Even if for purely selfish reasons Narcissist are quite kind to us at first. Just my thoughts =)

  • @MJBrabantNZL
    @MJBrabantNZL Před 5 lety +4

    "Everything's gonna be okay..."
    I died.

  • @DivineSource444
    @DivineSource444 Před 6 lety +82

    You say you are not a spiritual teacher. I disagree. Spiritual work is exactly what you do. True and real spiritual work is working on yourself which can be quite painful at times. "Man know thyself". It is not running aorund sniffing crystals. So, yes, you are doing spiritual work/teaching. Perhaps you just haven't realized that yet.

    • @shae809
      @shae809 Před 6 lety +2

      DivineSource444 I agree

    • @piper_sss
      @piper_sss Před 6 lety +1

      DivineSource444 yes!!
      Sniffing crystals lmao

    • @southerncross5360
      @southerncross5360 Před 6 lety +2

      I would say what you see is more his empathy for others. Honestly many of us are very empathetic and damaged people who have an interest or have a deep passion for philosophy and spirituality...It’s something that’s been happening with many who have experienced narcissistic abuse. To make my point my ex said he was a messenger from God himself and that’s enough to mess people up and we get lost!!

    • @psychologicalsigma9917
      @psychologicalsigma9917 Před 4 lety

      He doesn't speak about pineal gland awakening. So spiritual? Probably no.
      But spiritual ideals in science terms.

  • @donnellallan
    @donnellallan Před 6 lety +10

    Just brilliant. I wish I could give this video multiple thumbs up. Thank you!

  • @robininaus
    @robininaus Před 6 lety +25

    We also have so much confusion about the Narcissist because he uses the left hemisphere of the brain where he appears as the nice guy you always have known while laying seeds of your destruction in these subtle ways so that the two sides of your brain can see the true and the false picture equally at the same time. This goes along with the past trauma of wanting to see parental figures and people you perceive as trust worthy in the best, most hopeful light so you kill off the intuition that tells you to run as fast as you can in the other direction. Both of these things as they become more extremely polarized has caused the worse effects of CPTSD!

    • @robininaus
      @robininaus Před 6 lety +5

      Sarah Raber Hi Sarah, there is a dialectical tension in what you say: First, I agree that you need to live each day to the full. This means that no one can ever touch your eternal soul-Soul integration can be done using quantum tools such as Melanie Tonia Evans offers, Richard Grannon NLP techniques, Teal Swan coaches living one year where each day you ask yourself before choosing between pain and happiness what would someone who loved themselves do? If you are no contact with your narcissist and realize that you may lateralize between your two hemispheres, you can perform a ritual where you give him a funeral-he never really existed. You have to mourne the idea of him-Meredith Miller on Inner Integration Channel has an episode on CZcams that helped me immensely. This can happen quickly or slowly. One cannot force these things although there is much heaviness connected with losing precious years. Being in the moment, getting away from the rumination (head in the past) and the goal-directness (anxiety re pace, future orientation ) is the best way to BE the healing you are aiming at. So just know you are love in and of yourself. You bring yourself to every interaction. This is all there is to do. Being authentic is the process and the product, just keep choosing to stand in your truth. Your life will have had all the value it was ever meant to have by you having been present to the work and having an open stance to others. God bless!

  • @McFraneth
    @McFraneth Před 6 lety +5

    Malignant optimism = anxious attachment = inconsistent parenting (sometimes responded to child's needs, sometimes didn't). So child focused on parent rather than on exploring the world.

  • @saccitygrl01
    @saccitygrl01 Před 6 lety +7

    imaginary idealized parent is a great idea. But for me, I think this may be a bit challenging to render up in the mind during a super ego rant. When my super ego gets really out of hand I say a chant I used to use when I first started meditating: "May I be filled with loving kindness, may I be well. May I be at peace and at ease, may I be happy. " Perhaps its the short circuit I created in my mind as a result of years of lovingkindness meditation that gives this chant so much power, but a few repetitions and I am quickly centered again and the loving gaze from my higher/inner/big mind self is felt and remembered.

  • @MadMarcWinnipeg
    @MadMarcWinnipeg Před 6 lety +2

    Powerful !!!!!!
    I've watch it about 5 times over the past couple of weeks ( plus practice "Your okay, Your doing good enough keep going") and I'm actually stopping my flashbacks in there tracks with that Technic.
    I really appreciate this. Thanx man.
    Marc :-)

  • @karo1564
    @karo1564 Před 6 lety +9

    Simply good great enjoyable information- one of the best sources and best teacher with proper insight and knowledge to the subject of toxic unhealthy relationsships!!! thanks Richie :-)) you helped me a lot!!

  • @Oreoloreo1
    @Oreoloreo1 Před 6 lety +7

    Your annunaki acid jokes were hilarious!!!! 😂😂😂😂 It's a trap! 😂

  • @catz8XinTheHat
    @catz8XinTheHat Před 6 lety

    Wow! Just burst into tears at listen to the inner parent "you're doing good/fine" xn used to say this all the time in the end I begged him to say it instead of tirent of abuse. I forgot. Such a trigger. Will watch over and over again until it slices through this misty fog and every word is ingrained in my soul. Ive spent over a year begging for help. Thank you you beautiful beast xxx

  • @Elven.
    @Elven. Před 6 lety +9

    I'm never this excited for seminar videos , but Richie man!!!

  • @laurieduncan6096
    @laurieduncan6096 Před 6 lety +2

    This was excellent! Wish I could have been there to hear the whole thing. You lighten our load Richard. Thank you so much.

  • @nicoletalmadge7276
    @nicoletalmadge7276 Před 6 měsíci

    What you say at 6:48 about not wanting to lose the image of the parent is so powerful...it's back to looking at truth...the child creates a false image of the parent in order to survive the truth because to the child they deem it that they aren't loved or lovable and then in a narcissist abusive relationship the victim develops cognitive dissonance trying to hold on to the image of the partner as not being as bad as they really are because they want to be loved...it's a very powerful interplay of dynamics!

  • @jowilson3210
    @jowilson3210 Před 6 lety +2

    It's triggering... the idea of creating an inner parent. The sense of someone behind and above... shudder. When you said "you're doing ok" it triggered deep and painful emotion. Being in a hypnotic state... triggering.
    I totally get the theory. Fascinating and brilliant. I'm sure it works.
    I suppose I could try to adapt the technique...

    • @RisaPlays
      @RisaPlays Před 6 lety

      The idea of an inner parent is uncomfortable for me too. I have a lot of anxiety with the idea of someone behind/above me. Instead of a parent, I'm trying to think of more like an inner best friend who would serve the same sort of function but be more like to the side and on the same level rather than behind and above. Also the best friend dialogue I was thinking of while watching this was like "it's okay, buddy, you got this" and it kinda made me chuckle. I hope you find a way to make the inner nurturer a more comfortable image for you.

  • @Goraiders75
    @Goraiders75 Před 6 lety

    Richard Grannon- I just want to thank you for everything you say and do!!!! 3 years ago you saved me with your First Aid Kit and now I am feeling Good about me and safe. I am in the process of enrolling into an online College course for a bachelor's of science in psychology applied behavior analysis. Thank you so much!$!!!!-#-

  • @mariaokhapkina6971
    @mariaokhapkina6971 Před 6 lety +10

    Am amused by how Richie talks about being on drugs while holding that piece of chalk as if it was a blunt :)

  • @suzannemorrow9987
    @suzannemorrow9987 Před 5 lety

    Richard ‘ Everything’s Going To Be Alright! “ is so very real for me as throwing a lifesaver to me in the sea... Your words hit home. I’ve done so much you are exercising .. am a single mom and grandma , hurting all my life from those I did not choose and ones I did choose .

  • @zenzmaj
    @zenzmaj Před 6 lety

    I absolutely love this lecture!!! Thank you for providing it for the world to see!!

  • @englishroberts7419
    @englishroberts7419 Před 6 lety +2

    Thank you for bringing me through a seriously disruptive emotional flashback/anxiety attack or whatever with this video! I love your LSD story

  • @readsimonr
    @readsimonr Před 6 lety

    I've said before that your work on CZcams has changed my life. I started the reparenting technique from this video and my brain is constantly craving more "honey in my ears!" I have never felt more love for myself. Thank you Richard . My life is finally beginning at 36years old.

  • @evolvingnow5417
    @evolvingnow5417 Před 5 lety

    Richard ...You spoke of the inventing the good parent to speak to you when the inner critic is dosing us with negatives as a way to quiet the critic...As a person who did this reparenting work when I went through my John Bradshaw period the missing piece for me remained not having the big picture view of the narcissist parent/ scapegoat dynamic....At least with the overview I know what the minefield looks like ...I spent years getting emotionally pounded in the dark with no clue as to what the big picture was...Seeing the big picture now after clearing the emotional backlog with years of therapy is my step out of a mindset that left me controlled by something I couldn't quite name...Thank you for naming it so completely and and for providing some tools to diffuse it....

  • @musakui
    @musakui Před 5 lety

    These seminars are great. I listen to them periodically, over and over again.
    Thank you for all you do 💜💙.

  • @skj7593
    @skj7593 Před 6 lety +3

    Brilliant! Well done Rich.

  • @ms.suzylee2932
    @ms.suzylee2932 Před 6 lety

    Richard is such a breath of inspiration. Breaking behaviors down, being personable! 💝 Sharing!

  • @AntonSlavik
    @AntonSlavik Před 6 lety

    I'm loving this presentation. Great punctuation with humour, delivered so comfortably. On the content itself, that definition of love blew me away.

  • @marisazammit6249
    @marisazammit6249 Před 6 lety +1

    Love your sense of humor in your descriptions of things.

  • @kellihansen6446
    @kellihansen6446 Před 6 lety +2

    You are SO GOOD at what you do, I adore your humour, and Everything you share helps. I feel a bit stuck, but anyone coming out of my situation would probably feel stuck right now. Thanks!

  • @swim610
    @swim610 Před 5 lety

    Your best for your kids is your definition of love. Brilliant!

  • @cydsimone9647
    @cydsimone9647 Před 6 lety

    Resonating with studying philosophy...also PHYSICS. The Laws of the Universe and magnetism. The Law of One shifts this whole argument. Understanding you are an electro-magnetic channel, not separate from your narcissist, but a very complex vibrational machine. Your dominant vibration will determine your destiny, your relationships, your work, your attitude, your EVERYTHING. "Energy is all" - Nikola Tesla. Einstein says consciousness must change to solve the problem. Helped me break free. I still flashback, but elevated thinking is the key, makes the episode manageable, and allows me to jettison toxic people. Thanks Richard.

  • @englishroberts7419
    @englishroberts7419 Před 6 lety

    I feel so lucky to have found your channel. I haven't got any support and just wish I could be surrounded by people who could help. I hate asking because I have that thing where sharing my struggles and asking for help makes me feel like I'm taking advantage of others. So, there you go. I have this image that I will just wander alone until I collapse and in my dreams some other humans might find me like when someone gets rescued in a movie but that's not real life. I can talk about my struggles more now than I used to be able to, and have been trying to be my own savior for three years now. Just indulging in a fantasy right now of having support. What I think I'm craving really is that good parenting experience. Maybe in another life lol.

  • @tawnykey7310
    @tawnykey7310 Před 6 lety

    I connected strongly with this, my eyebrows raised many times- thanks.

  • @haniah7191
    @haniah7191 Před 6 lety +2

    Very interesting as always. Thank you Richard

  • @mamashell4467
    @mamashell4467 Před 6 lety +1

    You are absolutely fantastic!!! I love this video so so much ❤

  • @mtnpfi
    @mtnpfi Před 6 lety

    Seldom had so much fun whilst really learning something about complicated issues. Thanks!

  • @sararichardson737
    @sararichardson737 Před 6 lety

    Such gratitude. You’re a shining star in the gloom

  • @katbird158
    @katbird158 Před 6 lety

    This is fantastic, thanks for this.

  • @amberolexa5340
    @amberolexa5340 Před 5 lety

    Thank Richard I am gaining progress to life happiness mostly due to your content. After years of narcissistic excuses, exaggerations, etc. Your content actually helps give me the tools I need to move on. I feel you pick up where Sam vaknin left off.

  • @micheledobb589
    @micheledobb589 Před 6 lety

    The idea of "just hanging out" because you ( just) like each other
    changes the dynamic immediately in my mind: Now I just have to work on my mercurial brain. With your help, of course. Thank you Richard.

  • @elletuppen4844
    @elletuppen4844 Před 6 lety

    Wonderfully REAL & delightfully crazy human....
    Thank you Richard for gifting us with your mind and humour!!

  • @mariarichards5221
    @mariarichards5221 Před 4 lety

    Thank you. Really appreciate what you are offering, so many can use this information to create the antidote. Love.

  • @maryjbara42
    @maryjbara42 Před 4 lety

    Richard I’m a mental health nurse I meet so my patients gender neutral who have become unwell because of their toxic relationship you’re videos have given me so much knowledge to emancipate these people thanks !!!!!!!

  • @erinmccollum6509
    @erinmccollum6509 Před 5 lety

    Best video on the planet. Thank you♥️

  • @ioana-madalina.m
    @ioana-madalina.m Před 6 lety +1

    Excellent video You are made for seminars I really enjoyed it There is a very nice mix of good sense of humour and professionalism the whole time Thank you for sharing

  • @chromaticgeckos3433
    @chromaticgeckos3433 Před 3 lety

    This really helped me, thank you Richard

  • @wallymarcel1
    @wallymarcel1 Před 6 lety +1

    Fabulous. Thank you for posting.

  • @pickle9753
    @pickle9753 Před 3 lety

    Fantastic seminar Richard. 👍👍

  • @phoenixd9679
    @phoenixd9679 Před 6 lety

    Confirmation I am listening hours of you're videos 💜 you mentioned Jim Morrison 😊UCLA seminar ! This explains all ! I am a huge Morrison's admirer , "The Soft Parade"I get now to my mind ! One of Jim's saying... "Music conceals what you're eyes fight to explain "💜 ! Thank you so much you are more AWSOME then I knew already!!!

  • @leenorod1220
    @leenorod1220 Před 6 lety +1

    Excellent. Very helpful Richie. Thanks

  • @bonnie1097
    @bonnie1097 Před 4 lety +1

    I immediately want to cry when I think of the technique of imagining "the parent" saying "you're doing alright, keep going". Because I was never talked to that way. I know I have to do the technique as you said.

  • @theresistance3818
    @theresistance3818 Před 5 lety

    Thank you for uploading and sharing this seminar...crucial information and topic exploration that is going to assist in helping to heal a lot of people. 👏🏻

  • @ShaunaFox
    @ShaunaFox Před 6 lety +78

    how many ladies ears perked at Richard saying "I am single"? lol

    • @mariellegervais8825
      @mariellegervais8825 Před 6 lety +11

      There is definitely something about him. It's the charm, in combination with saviour that he is, clarity of mind, and the fitness doesn't hurt...And the British accent....mmmm.....Alas, he repeatedly announces in his courses and on youtube vids, that he's attracted to other races...particularly Asians, so it would be like chasing after a ghost

    • @GUITARTIME2024
      @GUITARTIME2024 Před 6 lety +7

      Linds V lol. Sex with the crazies is the best !

    • @UnrealTournament420
      @UnrealTournament420 Před 6 lety +2

      He’s mgtow

    • @angelajury7384
      @angelajury7384 Před 6 lety +3

      looking for unobtainable love.. ironic

    • @Chocotientje
      @Chocotientje Před 6 lety

      Serious!?

  • @nanchesca3950
    @nanchesca3950 Před 6 lety

    Thank you Richard!!

  • @concerned1
    @concerned1 Před 3 lety

    I just did a visualised meditation of going down into the depths of my mind, past all the damaged remnants of my life (relationships, education, career), into complete darkness and the source of my outer critic.
    It was just an old 80s beat-box type stereo playing a cassette tape. I took the take out and unspooled and broke the tape that had caused so much damage for so long.
    It was a sad experience. That the person to whom the voice belonged was long gone and that all along, all these years I’d been listening to some tape buried deep down in my psyche. I feel like I’m going to cry.

  • @tinacouling1572
    @tinacouling1572 Před 5 lety +2

    Boundaries by Dr cloud & Dr Townsend. Is a fantastic book on when to say yes and how to say no to take control of your life. It's really helping me x

  • @eleniallen2083
    @eleniallen2083 Před 6 lety +2

    THANK YOU Richard, xxxx

  • @jennybetty1512
    @jennybetty1512 Před 5 lety

    Wow...this message is right on point with what I am "in" at the moment. Big big UPS! The Universe is amazing...it brought this to my path just as it was needed. Thank you (yet again) Mr. Grannon! Wowsa. You do the good work! Namaste!

  • @FireflyOnTheMoon
    @FireflyOnTheMoon Před 5 lety +1

    "Desperation is the human baseline state". Entirely true.

  • @leviathania
    @leviathania Před 3 lety

    This is so wonderful, I wish I could have been there.

  • @littlemisskitch
    @littlemisskitch Před 6 lety +1

    So brilliant!

  • @janetwilliams5765
    @janetwilliams5765 Před 6 lety

    This is brilliant!

  • @annafreil8738
    @annafreil8738 Před 6 lety

    I had no idea what PTSD was always thoughts it was based on war veterans, now I realise flashbacks may be short lived but ptsd all the same. Schema therapy has helped in relation to gaining skills in process. Child modes have awakened my adult maladaptive behaviours...on the long road of healing. Opening the memories which were distored by others inputs. My loss insormountable, my healing everything.

  • @RICHARDGRANNON
    @RICHARDGRANNON  Před 6 lety +37

    spartanlifecoach.com/thedisciplinecourse/

    • @saralicious1983
      @saralicious1983 Před 6 lety +1

      👍👍

    • @TheLeonthalee
      @TheLeonthalee Před 6 lety +1

      just got it after working my way through two courses i purchased previously, huge thanks Richie :)

    • @AC-hr3mt
      @AC-hr3mt Před 6 lety +3

      RICHARD GRANNON SPARTANLIFECOACH Richard, this is brilliant. Have a couple questions though: What if you don't believe in God? That negates the opportunity for religion. While I do understand the need for having a "why", I don't know how to find mine. What does your comment on religion mean? Believe you negated religion in prior videos. The narcopath (narcissistic sociopath) has literally obliterated my life and I have lost everything, as a deep feeling of hopeless has taken over. Just discovered your channel a little over a week ago now, and listening to your videos makes me want to have some hope. Thank you for all you share.

    • @shae809
      @shae809 Před 6 lety +2

      RICHARD GRANNON SPARTANLIFECOACH I really like Dr Henry Cloud’s work...he has several books on boundaries. We just did a book club livestream on Dana Morningstar ‘s channel on his book Necessary Endings...very much worth a read (livestream and notes here czcams.com/video/7-R1i7SYoXg/video.html if anyone wants it).

    • @cmb3737
      @cmb3737 Před 6 lety +2

      So helpful! U R AMAZING, Thank you!

  • @WillSoftmore
    @WillSoftmore Před 4 lety

    Only just stumbled on this video, this looks like an amazing seminar. Would love to go to one of these one day. The explanation of the superego voice coming from behind and above us and being the "voice of god" is profound...

  • @kristikola777
    @kristikola777 Před 6 lety

    My parrot and I thoroughly enjoyed this!

  • @Sovereignlupi
    @Sovereignlupi Před 6 lety +6

    When you spoke about Nine Inch Nails .... you reminded me of Korn- Narcissitic Cannibal

  • @meghanganser2209
    @meghanganser2209 Před 6 lety

    Thanks, your work is the bomb.

  • @nzdoris6717
    @nzdoris6717 Před 6 lety

    you're doing well. So simple, much easier to believe and allow in. Thank you for giving a tool to help turn the corners of my mouth up :-)

  • @joannehurley6465
    @joannehurley6465 Před 6 lety

    You have helped me more in the 3 weeks of watching your video's, than the 30 years of one on one counselling, group therapy, and many many courses on healing the inner child! I cannot thank you enough for so freely sharing! I am ready to leave now finally...at 50 I am finally recognizing my Daddy/God... issues/messages and your logical approach has eased my pain from all my hippy-dippy ,zen, I feel bad about myself because why is this secret/ self help book approach not working??? I get it now!

  • @yall2743
    @yall2743 Před 4 lety

    I just recently found out that I don't only have an inner critic but an inner worrier not warrior but worrier.. I send an email to answer something and my inner worrier is going "maybe they will think this is not good enough as amswer" so the inner worrier and inner critic is ganging up on me in a combo. So that made me develop a new technique. I am starting to praise myself before sending: It's well written, polite and accurate .. then I send it and my inner parent says you can be proud of yourself. Booom..changes everything.

  • @tomorrowkiddo
    @tomorrowkiddo Před 6 lety

    Another awesome vid.

  • @dragonmom495
    @dragonmom495 Před 5 lety

    Thank you for this! It was wonderful to laugh with the group while taking all this in. I have some work to do.

  • @8no1likeme-infinitestar65

    RICHARD YOUR SO AMAZING!!!!
    THANK YOU;

  • @nikkishaye1156
    @nikkishaye1156 Před 5 lety +1

    16:30, thank you, God and Richard!!! I did that same thing, almost exactly🤣. I definitely needed that little pick me up.🌈🙏🏼💯✔

  • @Donnaerobicover40Fitness

    Great Video ...Happy New Year

  • @davidoconnell1173
    @davidoconnell1173 Před 5 lety

    Brilliant stuff.

  • @nataliadata
    @nataliadata Před 6 lety

    "Flooded with feelings of love and nurture... We will make this Human great again." Richie for president! :D On a serious note, thank you. This made my day. The moment I get moody now, I'll magic this line in and have my inner parent repeat it like a mantra. It must be in a mild Scouse accent, since I am "primed", right? Ma?? Pa?? Guess who's daddy now! ;)

  • @sjmousavi8754
    @sjmousavi8754 Před 4 lety

    Superb. Thanks.

  • @emilysalinas8037
    @emilysalinas8037 Před 6 lety

    Really great vid with great techniques! I've been struggling with pathological loneliness lately and feeling the disconnection from my parents quite deeply, triggered by a breakup with someone with narcissistic tendencies, and kept hearing I needed to heal my attachment trauma - but there didn't seem to be any info on how. I've been at a loss if I'm honest so this vid feels a little like a light at the end of the tunnel. I think hypnosis is something I want to start tapping into alot more. The discipline course sounds great and I will be doing it! Thanks once again for all your helpful resources :)

  • @marieharrington3573
    @marieharrington3573 Před 6 lety

    Yiiiiiissssss! *highfive*.....was waiting for this.....

  • @janeharris6734
    @janeharris6734 Před 6 lety +1

    Very informative and funny as usual.....thankyou ☺

  • @tenerifetimes
    @tenerifetimes Před 6 lety +2

    Thank you 👍🏼

  • @marieharrington3573
    @marieharrington3573 Před 6 lety

    Dude.....you're a ledgebag! Thank you, as always x

  • @victoriousballa236
    @victoriousballa236 Před 6 lety

    Thank you so much. Agape

  • @gretap2966
    @gretap2966 Před 6 lety

    I was doing some writing, after listening to a pod cast about defense mechanisms last night. And I finially figured out why i had issues about feelign a need to explain myself to certain persistent people. And I think I finially worked it out. I was raised in a household with an anusual amount of denial present, in both of my parents. and then i started making the connection. im still working on it, but ive gut a huge weight off my chest when i made that realisation, and ive stayed relaxed for hours since then.