How To Heal From Childhood Bullying
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- čas přidán 27. 06. 2024
- Growing up watching TV this looked like someone getting a wedgie or being stuffed in a locker. These days it might simply be done on social media.
No matter how you’ve experienced it, bullying has been so normalized that it may not seem like a big deal. Up to 35% of people are estimated to have experienced it at some point. By adulthood, we are generally expected to “get over” it. But the mental health effects of being bullied can be serious and last a lifetime. One study has even suggested that, when it comes to mental health, bullying is as harmful as child abuse, if not worse.
Approximately 20% of people who have been bullied experience some kind of mental health problems later in life, even at the age of 50. While some of these, such as post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), are easy to spot, others may be more difficult to recognise. These can range from inexplicable bouts of anger to a lifetime of feeling inferior to other people.
Being in high school gave me a major inferiority complex. I began to really hate myself - people bullied me without even knowing me, and so I believed there was really something wrong with me. I'm now not great in social situations and only have a couple of friends. Even to this day I wonder why those friends want me in their lives. Trying to recover and give myself positive affirmations about how far I've come and how I am worthy of love, but it's hard even several years later 🙄
I'm the same as you. I was severely bullied at school for the way I looked, my skin colour, my hair my everything. I would see all the pretty and popular girls having their best life at school and I lived in fear everytime I went to school. I struggled to make friends and when I did theyd dump me for someone "better" than me. Now I'm an adult I dobt have any friends, I'm constantly analysing and overthinking my interactions with people. Worrying if they like me.
Im a mess and I hate it. ☹️
♥️🙏🏼♥️
Those affirmations won’t work, you have to act like it and get real help. Affirmations need to be exposed for how bs they are
this relates to me a lot right now its seriously is effecting me in a lot of ways mostly its become a problem where i have to decide on if the good stuff is worth all the triggering i get from the internet and even then i am not sure about real life.
@@r011ing_thunder6 i tired to get real help sadly it just boils down to its in the past so dont think about it anymore -_-
When I feel ashamed of my poor social skills today, I remember that people quite literally tried to lead me to eradicate myself from this planet. I coped and survived. We are survivors.
that's a very useful way of thinking about it
What I want is revenge for my bullies, I want them to hurt as bad as I did/ still do at times. The trauma from being called ugly and weird every day for years hurt so much that it took a ridiculous amount of self work to get out of it… but I want to heal and not be as mean as they were. That’s why I’m here!!
Omg I can relate...I'm so sorry this happened to you..😓😓💕
You did not deserve that.. !! NO ONE DOES ..there are crazy sick evil sociopaths ..kids that turn into adults..I pray you get your POWER back..! 🙏💕
They will. Karma will get them
Sounds like many of the thoughts I had in the past when being bullied. I would think of how I would torture them if given the chance. I never acted on any of those thoughts because I did not be the kind of evil that the bullies were. I think that those thoughts were my own way of getting my anger out because I was so severely underweight that I couldn't go against them physically. Now that I am older and stand 6 feet tall and weigh 185 pounds with a low BMI I do not feel intimidated by people like I used to. Now I have had to learn balance because if I get angry it scares people. I don't want to scare anyone, I just don't want to be intimidated and pushed around.
They probably already suffered the trauma of being bullied and that's what turned them into a bully. Unfortunately, some people use the psychological defence mechanism of identifying with their abuser and become a bully to cope with their own bullying. Or, out of their own insecurities side with bullies for fear of being bullied. And in certain toxic environments decide it's either bully or be bullied. Whilst I don't want to justify bullying, I found it helpful to understand bullies to release a lot of the pain and anguish I had from having been bullied as a child
@@FreeBrunoPowroznik I totally understand how it happens, it’s just a terrible cycle. You’re totally right that empathizing with what made them that way will help bring closure too. that’s a nice way to think about it!
I'm 32 and school was nothing but 12 years of my life I'll never get back. If you're reading this and you've bullied someone, you're a bad person and I hope everyone who loves and depends on you sees what you've done.
You're not alone. I'm just beginning to realise how much it has affected me into adulthood.
Me too.
Me as well
I feel your pain. School for me was more or less a prison. I'm 35 and it haunts me everyday
@@jamesjohnson2394 me too.
Not all bullying is being called names. My best friend turned against me and shunned me to the point that none of my classmates spoke to me. Nobody. Insults is one thing, but being treated like a leper is just as damaging. Having been bullied is the reason why I dont have friends or relationships. I moved to another country and I don't trust people. I suffer from recurring depression and anxiety, I had eating disorders and am never far from being su*cidal. I met my bully years later and she didn't even seem to remember what she did to me. That is the unfairness of it.
I had false rumours about me. My classmates believed it and they all started treating me like shit. It's not just the insults, you're right. It's the isolation, it's also the sicking feeling that another human being wants to hurt you, and thinks it's fucking funny.
I was bullied all through school, at home by my father, at every job I worked at and now I just quit a job because I was physically pushed with eyewitnesses, by a male coworker (I’m a female), and HR did nothing but gave him a stern talking to. I just found out one of my worst bullies just died, and old classmates who were bullied by this asshole are saying shit like how tragic his death is? I’m being 100% honest when I tell you I have been in therapy over 20 years, I never had kids because of it all, and I moved away 2,900 miles and yet the past has latched onto my brain with talons. I wished for death, wholeheartedly at age 11, and now I just want straight up revenge. All bullies destroyed my very soul, it was inescapable because I got it at school, then at home and as I grew older it continued in my jobs! My own elderly mothers church group has bullies. Old ladies bullying old ladies. I am at a point where I truly despise humanity and thank God I have at least my husband and a close friend who understand and don’t invalidate it. I don’t know the answer to this problem, I don’t think there is one, but I hope in another universe, if the multiverse is true, all of us bullied throughout life are never or have never gone through it. My heart goes out to all of you who suffered at the hands of sociopathic, cruel, and sadistic children and adults that enjoy hurting others.
Yep a worst bully of mines died at an early age and left behind a wife and 5 kids. He tried to move on but never made amends to the people he bullied
@@jupiterscorner5423 it’s super tough right, you never had closure. A simple apology could heal years of scars no one sees. I’ve been called pathetic by people, I’m sure someone is going to say “get over it or you deserved it” on here because let’s face it, the internet is one big after school detention for middle school kids with no adult supervision, lol. I hope you are doing well though despite bad memories being brought up by your recent news. Take care.
That resonates with me about it destroying your soul, people don't realize what bullying can actually turn a person into. My situation is bad but a bit mild compared to some others, it just really hurts that before the bullying you're pure and then you just get turned into something horrible completely against your will for the stupidest of reasons. I'm 24 now and have no friends at all and live at home jobless, aimless and unhappy. I really want to find a way to get back to how i was just before the bullying started, empathetic, happy, loving, strong, confident and carefree. At least i think i'll always have some level of hope to keep me going and trying new ways of healing, never lose hope. There may be an answer for those who think they're too far gone.
I pray you get the healing that you need. Definitely check out Ayahuasca. Your voice has been heard and every has to reap what they sow! Always remember bullies are hurting people that want you to feel the way they feel. It's sad but true!
Thank you for sharing your story, truly. I’m only 20 and can relate… I was even bullied in the church but what helped me is God. It was my safe place to read the Bible and in Proverbs 18:10-“The name of the Lord is a tower; The righteous run into Him and they are safe.” It will help I promise we will all be judged and those bullies as well all you can do is give your life to Jesus and forgive them❤
I am successful and happy but low self esteem and bullying in my teens has had lasting effects that I am still overcoming. You are at higher risk for getting into abusive romantic relationships, can be isolated /closed off as a defense mechanism, feel like your voice is not valid, have poor boundaries. Thankfully I am actively healing.
And I would not trade my life for any bullies life. They tried to crush me but you can’t stop this greatness ✨✨✨
This is so true. What would you recommend to overcome psychological effects? I been in 3 sexual experiences with men where my life was at risk. I feel disconnected from my emotions. I feel I had a chance to heal seven years ago but now I’m not sure if it’s too late. I’m 29
@@renee5506 I’m 31 and it’s never too late. For me Christ and the truth of the Bible has brought the most peace and healing. And don’t be afraid to be alone for a while so you can heal and grow. The coach Tony Gaskins has helped me a lot with his teachings.
@@renee5506 try EMDR therapy for trauma. Trust me on that one. I’m 39 and it’s helped me so much
@@katkatkat5 what does it do exactly?
@renee5506
You said you feel disconnected from your emotions - that’s the place to start. When aren’t in touch with our emotions, we don’t realise we are being abused until it’s too late.
my advice to victims of bullying is to start having reactions, start screaming in anger, leave the room, panic in front of people, insult back, because adults only take action when someone start shooting at schools
not good advice i think
What about negative self talk :/ also self doubts low self esteem and social anxiety
This actually is good advice. A lot better than lowering your head & just walking away 👌🏾
That’s going to damage their responses to situations though because eventually if they do that for a while it’s going to become a habit, trauma response, and or a coping mechanism. Not something that can easily be shut off. However I do believe they should stand up for themselves preferably the best way they know how.
@@DoobeeKind baby,I you rather be like this and be the Villan ✨😂😂😂😂
Low self esteem and bullying has followed me my entire life I’m 48 and it’s something I can remember to a tee. I hate it. But I try hard every day to move on. Wife and kids help so much man.
God, I'm similar except a few years younger
*For those of u who did go through it, know that ur not alone and that there youtube channels like this one that is helping u* 🙏❤️
Thank you for your kindness and continued participation in this channel!
MindNow, and I appreciate it too.
First thing I will teach my kids: not all people are nice and you should always defend yourself when being badly treated. "Kill them with kindness" is such bullshit!!!
Thank you to say that . People aleays want victoma be quiet and silent because the institutions don’t wanna solve the problem because bullying is seen as a normal thing and ot a institution where bullying happens causes bad reputation . Sim places don’t care about he victim so yeah you should
Defend yourself anytime you feel threatened
Oh yes, don't raise them to be people pleasers
Too many victims blame themselves, validate that you were wronged and the other person was not right in how they treated you.
Bullies of any age should be rounded up and sent to a penal colony.
The way I have been treated throughout my life has left me very angry and jaded. I truly hate abusive people. I didn't deserve the hell that I have went through. I have done my best to be strong and tough to protect myself from being anyone's doormat or punching bag ever again. The downside is that I tend to be a loaner.
I'm 56 and was severely bullied in 8th and 9th grades. Back then not one teacher stood up. These kids formed a club against me,tripped me in hallways, rigged my locker, etc. There were only 40 kids in my grade so this was a huge deal. I still have trust issues and am hypersensitive to womens negative views of me.
I hope you heal from every pain you went through and shine your light brighter and brighter.
@@JyoSco007 That is so kind of you! That touches my heart. And I wish the same for you! God be with you. Thank you again :)
So much bullying taking place in our society, it's kind of sad. Especially during this day and age, there's so much digital bullying happening now too. It's unfortunate how easy it is for people to bully now. This is a really helpful video!
Thank you so much for the feedback!
So much bullying from the black and brown mobs but it's ok that is what the commies want they want war against us so if they want war we will give them war RAHOWA
I'm 32 years old and I was bullied on MySpace!!!! 😢
I was bullied almost regularly from elementary all the way to high school this in turn has made me slightly withdrawn and anxious in crowded areas but more so where I know people my age will be almost like flashbacks of my hs years;
I've tried both alcohol and Marijuana to deal with the depression from it, alcohol made me emotional and when I drank too much it was always to the point I wanted to break things around me and even thought of hurting myself.
Marijuana was gentler but it made feel so disconnected which I guess was a good thing.
Today sadly it seems that more and more people are beginning to lash out onto the public with the shootings in schools and in public spaces malls movie theaters. I hope that anyone dealing with ptsd depression anxiety disorder etc. from childhood bullying finds the light at the end of their tunnel
First off I would want to say to anyone Being/was bullied I hope you are doing well people are weird and mean but don’t give up because of the evilness of this world💕 secondly I want to say that bullying has really made me seriously not even want to be around people. Even Now as an adult I don’t want to be around anybody. People really suck if only people knew the affect it has on folks it follows you well into adult hood you just got to learn to manage it
This came out at a great time. Isolation has caused me to ruminate a lot on past traumas and it's affected my professional life. Much appreciated 🙏
Hope it helps!
I developed early, so the bullying was coupled with sexual harassment related to the size of my chest. My family was poor, so I had hand-me-downs, which was another source of ridicule. Teachers completely ignored bullying in the 80's. Public school kids didn't wear uniforms back then, so everyone's wardrobe was fair game. I hated school, the kids, and the indifferent or sometimes equally cruel teachers.
im so so sorry sweetheart. That sounds like so much torment. Sending love to you my dear❤
Thank u, suffered bullying from my dad, family and classmates at school and it is now that I'm realising how deep those wounds are and how they're affecting my adulthood.
I was bullied by peers and by my teacher for a year, being repeated that I'd finish under a bridge as an offender of some kind because there was no hope for me. I was 8.
Thanks to my parents I did not blame myself, but my trust in other is gone and I am heavily angered by injustice and bullying as an adult. I do have stress and PTSD about that.
I know it was not my fault basically, but felt helpless at the time and still do when these situations arise again
I went to my 30th reunion, and that was a positive experience for me. I was excluded and bullied until I started college. Then everything changed, kids seem more accepting then. At my high school reunion, I made a point of talking to my bullies. It didn’t take much to notice I actually did better then they did, in life. Despite of them. Glad I didn’t allow them to ruin my todays and tomorrows because of their cruelty. Also , anyone that maybe I treated badly, I showed interest and asked how they were
doing. The gesture of kindness goes a long way. You know, do something good to
erase the bad. Lots of self help made a difference too, since I graduated high school. When somebody treats you badly, I work harder to treat myself well. 😊
Sounds like you've done good healing, good for you! I can relate, when I found out what people who had bullied me were up to years later, they weren't doing well, not working, working retail or joined the military because they tell you what to do, and that was illuminating for me: that was the motivation for the bullying to begin with, they knew somehow that I was "going places", which made them feel less-than, so attack, it's not complex. The challenge now, as I continue to be successful, is it still happens, and I still get triggered. Therapy, healthy living, and hanging around supportive people, because what else is there?
Me thinking live would be great when school was finally over only for it to hit with a big depression :(. Bullying sucks
Bullying definitely sucks!
It's ok brother hang in there I am fighting the same battle you are it's ok they want us to be ashamed that don't want the ayren to stand tall for what he believes in but when we unite then that's when they loose
My exact situation it’s like I finally noticed most of past memories are of me being insulted and walked all over… any advice?
@@skunk1255 just make a mindset that nothing has ever happen to your lives..past is just an imagination dude if we learn a lesson from it and change yourself just thank to those who bullied you man because you get better by them🙃
@@ayushghimire5152 really appreciate the reply
Am i not strong enough? One minute in the video and i am already crying
I’m almost 50 and I’m only just realizing how much it has affected me. My personality was changed by the abuse I received in childhood from bullies.
Thanks for the upload been bullied most of my life that's caused my depression , anxiety issues , low self esteem , suicidal thoughts , even low testerone symptoms , diabetes , makes me having trouble trusting people .
For me what upsets me the most is that people would make fun of me or annoy me somehow and if I told someone about it they would just say they were joking around and that it was not serious and it wouldn't happen again. And they would just get away with it.
The bullying started in the home. then in school, in work, in University by so called freinds, culminating in severe domestic violence. I will never get over it .I chose to live alone with my two cats and not interact with people .
Im still messed up from junior high n high school bullying...attempted suicides in n out of hospitals eating disorder etc...now disabled..
Seek major revenge....😓
Hi , allow you to feel the way . Feel hurt , angry , sad , annoyed and then realize those are normal emotions that everyone experience even your bullies . Think to yourself , “ they may have not been kind to me but I can be kind to me “ Just because they enjoyed to hurt you , don’t mean you should do the same . Take a nice bath , if you can . Listen to realaxing music , no words .also realize you’re not alone , there is plenty of ppl who feel like you .Join a support group to get connected and please write a diary .. only if you want you . Good luck beautiful/handsome
Yesterday I have gone through strong retraumatization in school while I'm healing from the past traumas and I feel like I really don't want to go there again. Or at least in a close future. I just can't handle those people and situations right now. It's too much. I feel so vulnerable.
I was bullied in my elementary , middle and high school..two of my ex boyfriends treated me like a trash . I'm in university right now I don't talk to anyone I have no friends . I cry every night I don't have any self esteem , everyone made me feel so ugly because of my teeths even my own sisters . I feel like I'm not good enough for anyone , I feel my parents also don't like me they think I'm ugly too and I won't be able to find a partner for myself. I tried really hard . I study i work I'm polite to everyone . But they make fun of my insecurity . 😥 I suffer from panick attacks every night . But I can't share my problems to anyone because no one is there to listen to me. I feel like I really Need a therapist . But I can't afford their fees . What should I do ???
I don’t know you but I am keeping you in my thoughts. Just know that out there in the world is at least one person you will meet or maybe already know, that gets it and supports you. There is a great online site called “Support Groups Central” that you can join and use an anonymous name. It has many different groups for various traumatic issues plaguing people. It’s free although some ask for a donation of a few bucks, but it has really has helped me. You will find love with a human that sees your beauty, I think there are many more bullied people than bullies, it’s just their psychopathy is so intimidating, they go unchallenged for most of their lives unfortunately. I got your back, be well - (hugs)
All u need to do is hope and work it will make u feel wayy better! Sending love
I think you should start saying affirmations to yourself and reminding yourself that you are beautiful and to be honest I've also experienced that as well and I developed to where I stopped caring what people think about me because it's their own projection anyway. You have to love yourself first and put you first. You will heal from this. Sending love your way. You are heard!
Pray to God.
betterhelp is affordable and it will help you if you find the right therapist. please don't give up. keep studying and focus on your career and being good at your career. i wish i had more advice but i had trouble with college as well. I've been bullied my whole life and the only thing that ever helped me was that I learned to be a bitch to people as a defense mechanism so they would leave me alone. Don't do what I did, youll push away the good ones as well. I'm still healing from it all. Distractions like books or video games help. Disapearing into a made up world relieves my stress. Please seek help. you deserve to be happy.
This was very helpful to me. I am 58 male, and had started school at age 4 (September birthday) younger than majority of my peers and was always on the smaller side of the growth curve to begin with. This made going to school as a boy a miserable experience for me. Powerlessness and helplessness was how I so often felt.
Those memories is irritating AF I can't get rid of them I was bullied in age 14 in hostel and I am allowed them to bully me don't know why I allowed. currently if the memories comes to my mind I am mad I want to smash there face but fact I don't know where he is
I was bullied so much in my class, it started at a very young age and lasted till school ended in 2017. Till date i get nightmares of those bullies bullying me. What hurts the MOST is, they're doing better than me in life right now, not in touch with them but i get to know... somewhere karma should've played a role but i can only hope that.. don't know how to overcome/move on/stop the nightmares/stop thinking about them😢
This helped me, I picked one object that represented one unequivocal joy of being at school. This happened to be my Parker 25 fountain pen. Whenever some unpleasant thought about school intrudes on my memory, I pick up my pen to dispel it; and I remember how much joy it gave to me. I don't deny the unpleasantness of going to school. But this more pleasant almost nostalgic memory prevents me from ruminating on it for too long.
I being bullied by my friend and abuse by my teacher and my father. I still suffer a lot until this day.
I pray you stand up to all of your bullies and put them in their place no matter who they are. You have the strength in you to do it.
This was incredible and so helpful. I've been bullied my entire life and when it keeps happening to you, then it really affects you and you wonder how other people can work at their jobs and not get bullied and it gave me so many problems and I still have self doubt issues. I had to stand up for myself and report them but even that was challenging because then you have to admit that these people went out of their way to disrespect me and abuse me. I'm crying just thinking about it but telling my story was the right thing to do because I didn't want this to happen to anyone ever again. Thank you for this video! I loved the information in it. I'm defininetly still healing even though it happened in my past. 💖✨🙏🌌
Whenever we go visit my grandparents in the countryside there would be some kids who live nearby always picking on me saying I was a pig because I was fat at the time. Even there parents laughed at me when one of my uncles introduced me to them. Right now I still think about it and I can't get it out my head and now it's affecting my mental state but I just remember about the people who care about me and how many more people love me than make fun of me. So now remember if your ever in the same situation as me just remember more people care and love you than make fun of you. So don't let a small amount of people take you down with them.
Thank you so much, I needed to hear this!
Bullying is the worst.
You are very good. Just finding your channel now. Please don’t stop. Thank you.
Sometimes I forget about the effect it had on me, because I’ve managed to find some close friends and I have my family. But any time I am exposed to a large group of people everything comes back to me and I feel the low self esteem and distrust for my peers all over again
I've been bullied my whole life as well as in adulthood by most members of my husbands family around 70 people at least. My mum and sister had regularly ganged up against me in adulthood. At the temple someone half my age is using playground bullying tactics on me. I'm 59 years old and beautiful. A guy half my age fancies me at the temple. This girl is feeling threatened by me because she's deeply insecure, has a crush on him. I honestly don't know how to handle it.
i remember having to change schools in elementary because of how bad the bullying got , hs sucked too, im at university rn and i feel like an alien there
I spent a lot of time healing from the effects of childhood bullying, only to find out that many people are walking around as adults still intentionally bullying and hurting others.
It finally clicked today that I am traumatized from the bullying that I experienced as a child. It’s my fault but at the same time it’s not something that I can help.
I struggled with self-esteem/confidence for a long time, always assumed ill intent from people, always was cautious how I presented myself to not draw attention, constantly beating myself up. I was able to overcome it and make great progress in my life by doing. Take note of your accomplishments. When you go to a social event, take note that you went and got through it. When those negative self critiques come into your head, fight them back with real practical things you've actually done and accomplished in life. Nothing better for self-confidence than hitting goals, whatever they may be. They are tangible evidence that you are capable, and you are not the person you think you are in your head.
Don't let some ignorant dumb shit from high school who knows nothing about you dictate how you feel about yourself or act. Most of them do it to cope for a hard family life, or to try and elevate themselves over others.
I dont know im still scared of trusting new friends that i made they would turn on me. I always feel like Im oversharing or talking to much or too little
Yeah I im too having hard time trusting people. Even when I kinda know they have good intentions. Wish there was a way to trust people normally again.
Thank you for the video.
Thanks for sharing, very informative . For some reason, I thought you were going to share your own personal experience.
Maybe in future videos!
@@reallifepsych3309 cool, I think it was on my mind as it's something I'm exploring
For anyone going through bullying or processing it decades later.....you are not alone and it doesn't invalidate you as a man or woman. I graduated H.S. in 1990. I set every school record in X-C, played #1 singles in tennis, dated pretty girls, was generally liked and was actually a good fighter who avoided fights....BUT I still had to deal with some bullies who saw me as a smaller target, was nice, perceived me as weak, were jealous, who knows(?) There were times I fought and won and most times I just avoided the fight. Some days I beat myself up for not fighting more times but there are things a teen should never have to deal with and navigate....even as an adult it is really tricky knowing when to fight back. There were times when it just wasn't worth the hassle or there were times when I knew I'd lose or I'd win with a lot of damage. The price is this sense of being angry at myself for allowing things to happen, not knowing how to handle it or not being able to stop it without making it worse. If you have nice teeth, why get them all messed up by fighting some loser that has nothing to lose? What do you gain?The one thing that happens is this sense of isolation, feeling like you're the only one who is too weak to fight back but in the comments I can see it's pretty common to deal with bullies and not everyone has a great Ralphie/Scottt Farkus story. It sucks. I know and I'm sorry. You deserve better. I deserved better. I took mixed martial arts and it helped a lot but still....there are monsters out there. I'll be doing a lot of wrestling and BJJ soon to build up the CURRENT me. Knowing I could do better helps me resolve that fear of it happening again. However we can't honestly expect to handle every single bully in the world so I suppose having a healthy dose of esteem, fighting ability and confidence is good. I've lived a successful life....career, family, hobbies, etc. It gets better, I promise. Just know that not just the weakest nerdiest fattest skinniest, etc etc got bullied. Some of us were fairly popular and we weren't immune to it. Honestly I think pretty much everyone has had to deal with it in some degree. It doesn't happen to us because we're losers and we're not losers because it happened to us. The best revenge is recovery and massive success in what makes you happy. Focus on the people who like you and not the people who don't. Focus on those who respect and not those who bullies you and others. You are not alone, you can navigate this in time and you don't deserve it.
Our lives are almost parallel except, I played soccer, I moved here from a different country. So you can imagine what kids picked on me with. I was trained in martial arts(only better fighter than me in my classes was the M/A instructor’s son) and I fought damn near everyday at school to protect myself, In my 30s. Definitely in a better place in life but I still struggle. Like you said, there are bullies everywhere and you have to learn to pick your battles. Sometimes I regret not disciplining a disrespectful bully that tries to harm me psychologically. I have learned to set boundaries and roll with the punches. I try not to get attached to what others think of me but man is it hard. Even when you try to be nice and cooperative with others, there’s still trouble. They paint a bad picture of me to justify their evil actions. It’s sad but this is life and I’d be damned if I don’t pick my self up when ever I fall
@@donatello9482 Yep, I think pursuing dreams and succeeding cripples the bullies because they often go nowhere and could not keep us down. I saw some good people from my last job where corporate bullies made my job miserable. I make double the pay for the past five years, home office, company car with gas card that they pay for everything personal and work. I didn't brag or be a jerk but I let them know how much happier I am. I'm doing great with great coworkers, boss and making double plus car. Those people were happy for me. I openly talked about the VPs and managers and other trolls that all gang up on people who aren't in their "social club". It felt so good to openly say that so and so is a bully, a weak man, a jackass and that they have zero influence over my life now since I left that clownshow. They were top dogs of the dog💩 show.
I've been thru bullying n I hate it I still go thru it am to weak to stand up for myself so I let people bring me down cuz I gave up on life already am never gonna get better so no point trying also I've thru sexual abuse too. No point trying anymore feel like my body is shutting down
I'm no longer in secondary and got through it at by believing in myself and trusting myself more than the people who have bad intentions against you. you'll make it, stand up for yourself because its the last thing anyone who bullied you expect. hope this helps :)
You ok my bro ? Need to chat ?
I hope you're feeling better now, just know that there are people who care about your life even if they don't know you! (me for example)
Don't you give up on yourself.If you throw in the towel,they win.Youre worth it.
New comment, it took me a lot of courage to type this but as a survivor of bullying. Bullies are very selfish! They ruin lives I’ll never understand how any one person or a group of people get such a kick out of being heartless to others. All I can do is I pray for those types of people it takes a very SICK individual to ruin another persons mental by CHOOSING to be mean
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my CZcams channel 10 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,960 subs and > 2k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
I was bullied because I was from a poor family and my best friend (for me) kept our friendship just to make fun of me infront of everyone.... confidence is not my thing till now,well I am married and blessed with a daughter,I am happy now but still those dark past still haunts me.i wish i could explain more vividly but my English is very limited so keep me in your prayers....btw positive note:my past made me a better person
nice content as always!
thank you!
I love this video and the comments
Karma is real, the person who used to bully me back in elementary school for 6 years, is now barely getting by and earning very little wage, because she wasn't able to get into any college, so she had no choice. And I am in college, and I am planning on graduating with double majors. Yes, it is traumatic and painful when having flashbacks about it, but I will eventually recovery from it and she gets what she deserves for her actions and decisions.
I wish I could like this video twice. Instant sub
I kinda just want to spew out my emotions here, so if you don’t want to read it you don’t have to.
In middle school, the school I went to was pretty small, so there wasn’t really any popularity, per se. The people at this school made it seem that the people good at sports were “cooler”. These two boys in my class in particular, we pretty athletic, so everyone thought they were cool and respected them. When we all went into middle school, I did sports as well. I loved sports. All of them. But during my seventh grade year especially, these two boys started to make fun of and bully me for not being as athletic as them. They would laugh at my cleats, they would laugh at me when I was excited for soccer, and would laugh at me when I was proud of my track times. I felt like I didn’t deserve to do sports anymore because I wasn’t good at them. Even at home, i could hear their voices in my head laughing at me and making fun of me. I grew to hate myself. I learned to avoid these boys altogether, so it’s not as bad anymore. But now I’m still pretty socially anxious and insecure. I’ve been trying to heal, but I still can’t look at a soccer ball without remembering everything they said about me.
It’s really hard for me to be around people in work settings. It puts me back to being bullied in middle school to sophomore year. An from my brother. Im 28 now and it’s just now hitting me I am not set free from my harsh consisting years.
Supposedly I should have mercy towards my bullies in my teens, because they couldn't handle my mood swings due to my misery I had back at home. I never see someone with a strong support base getting excessive conflicts while being ganged upon. I'm just saying.
I'm 20 yrs boy from India. I was beaten severely by my father in childhood. I want to share some incidences, so its going to be a long one , please bother to advise me.
My father's a chronic alcoholic who's always critical of me. He rode me to the street naked by beatings when I was 10 yrs old😔,i dont remember my mistake, but i dont think i deserve this kind of punishment. He then beat me in front of my whole school twice/thrice( reason is i shitted in my pants and vomited in class, i was naturally shy kid and these situations happened involuntarily) , all these incidents really made me to demonize him and i grew emotionally distant to him.I didnt even bothered to say that i struggled with my sight until he figured it out himself and had me a pair of specs. Also my father in my childhood( 1st-8th standard) never encouraged meeting with my school friends and always think i only need to study.All these events made me embarassed infront my friends, and even i grew distant from them as well. Outside the school, there was nil chance to meet my friends as my father would be ready to pick me up from school to house.I was doing 9-5 at this age and i was literally enclosed in a fuckin' huge house and been told to study. Never had any share in extracurricular activities due to my father's critical, restrictive, overprotective nature.Ok. Lets conclude it here as part1.
Now when i went to city for 9th standard( i was in village upto 8th) , in 9th,10th class i was severely bullied and beaten by my so called friends. They always tease me, pick up physical fights with me without being provoked( i used to have a physical fight almost everyday. Though mostly it was me who lost .) But there was a guy who made my life real tough there, the story goes like this.let him name 'X'. X wrote a vulgar/ derogatory song in my notebook and tutor found that notebook. He asked me to save him from that because tutor might actually take severe actions( like informing parents etc) . So when tutor threatened me to expel from school and will inform all this stuff to my parents, i panicked and said it was 'X' who actually wrote this. I tried my level best to save him but when knife wad on my neck, i could not help myself from admitting truth. As u know, my father views me as a nice and idealistic guy who only focuses on studies. If my father got informed about this song, he would tore me into pieces. This made 'X' turn bitter and violent towards me. Apparently, according to him, he recieved some thrashings his parents after the tutor informed about X's shitty doings. So X was furious at me for confessing the truth and eventually turned violent. He would pick up physical fight, emotionally manipulate me as if i am responsible for his misery( at many times, i simply suffered his beatings in silence, he manipulated me at that level).And then there would be always another 5 -6 guys who always tease my looks and pick physical fights unprovoked.I was exhausted and i never really thought my parents would get me out of the bullying( as i had trust issues with my father, i couldnt see him as my saviour). My self esteem became rockbottom and i was scared to return to hostel from home after any vacation ( note that i was in hostel far from my village with these bullying cunts for 2 years). I started staying alone, all negative thoughts inside my mind, my ineptness to fight those bullies, my looks, i became very anxious , depressed and pessimistic person after all these incidents. I feel shit about myself and feel unloved.I always feel someone is judging me critically or they would pounce on me for a physical fight. My hearys always on racing mode that something might hurt me. Now i am far away from those bullies but i couldnt muster up trust in any of the people and friendships. I always stay fucking alone sitting in my room with raced heartbeat watching others enjoying their life to fullest.Inferiority complex, anxiety, depression, trust issues, hatredness all developed and i just want peace. Please read my story and suggest what i need to do. I want to be fear-free and form meaningful relationships. Please enlighten me with your helpful suggestions 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. As someone who had a past with school bullies during my time in highschool and never got any help, I can relate to you in similar level .
People in India tend to normalise bullying by telling you to work hard in your studies and show them but we both know that never works.
And if you are someone like me with no access to stuff like therapy please go through topics like shadow work, and inner child healing. And maybe even watch similar videos. I have started my own healing journey by my own means. And I look forward to be financially stable enough to go to therapy in the future and I'll suggest you the same. Try journaling your feelings as well. I don't want you to not take the course of your life in your hands now and then regret it later.
And remember as a fellow human being you deserve happiness, love and all the good things in the world ❤❤
@@Aphrodite-474 thank you so much for your comforting words🥺💓, I really wish things would become better
@@Aphrodite-474 I will try to implement your valuable suggestions 😊
@@Julilu46 Sure, wish you all the best !
I am sorry, man. I am from Romania and from what I've heard, peer pressure and family pressure is very high in India. It can make you have a really bad childhood. For me, my advise was to seek to change the environment. WHen I got to University, I had new friends and everyone was nice. It still took time for me to adapt, I did not know how to react to nice people very much :)) but changing the environment was what saved me, this and having a supporting family, which is the most important thing.
Alexi, if you wanna mention that Junior High bully, go ahead and send a DM. I'll just send them a message and say, "What was wrong with you?! Didn't you know she'd give us amazing and thoughtful content all these years later?!" Laughing, but serious.
hahaha i appreciate it, but it’s time for me to move forward :)
@@reallifepsych3309 When we first met I said you were great at what you do because of who you are. And that exchange just proves it. You made the rare internet comment that is positive! ;)
"avoid isolating yourself" meanwhile me watching this at the middle of the night because i've been thinking how to change without having any contact with people even though i know it's not gonna work any better that actually communicate with them
School was supposed to prepare someone for life but it did the exact opposite to me.
It destroyed my life.
One of the best days of my life was when a bully I had in elementary school transferred schools; she found her friends leaving her behind for other friends and interests once we all hit middle school. She even had the gaul to try to befriend me before she left.
being in college , i was super active in college radio , open and active. Another giy in the group didnt see it that way and turn everybody against me. He even used me during my radio programs to help him go up. Then he threw me out. He eventually became a super star in my province and everybody likes him. This makes me feel like he was right about everything he said, including cosigning a graffiti in the radio room telling i should die. That stayed there 7 years as I became afraid to do stuff around there and the shame of it.
there this one 'friend' that bullies me in school in yr 8 until yr 10, and untill then we became eventually friends and i start recover back from the trauma how he treated me, thinking back i despise how he treated me and turn my life into fuking shit and horrible but what i hate the most is not fighting back, i just accept being bullied for 2 godamn yrs. thats why everytime we've come in contact, i get nervous even though he didn't bully me anymore, the trauma is still there and when he teased me a bit, i got upset real bad and get depressed for the the whole day. tbh i hate him, but hes a good person. The way he twisted me being used by him and being gaslight is one thing I can't forgive about. Thats why when i see him again after being separated for a year, im change and do something about it and about him
Thanks Alexa
long road before u guys but worth to go for it
I 've been bullid since 10 years old for straight 7years.But some of the friends pull me out froam this trauma.But now,it's happening again.
It wasn't just the kids, but there was this one person who led the Methodist youth congregation that also created a positive feedback loop by rewarding them. I don't even know if the concept of "trust" exists in me anymore, social interactions are transactional things.
What where you thinking with that sound effect. Sounds like the mic is being plugged in and out
I am afraid of being myself. Bullied for 10+ years in high school now afraid to be authentic. I come out as fake or too cool which doesn't help me. Give suggestions
Can your tech person stop slamming the space bar? 😂 otherwise great video! Thank you!
Im realising that im doing the total opposite of everything lol.
Ive totally isolated myself don't really talk about it with anyone and think about what happened every moment of the day.
Im 16 and im getting bullied still but its a lot less than before. Hope i can get over it tho.
I been bullied for many years from the past until hurts even manhandled Grab my waste and inappropriate stuff when I say no they don’t care about me at all being used take a vantage
Great video and topic, but I'm using headphones and the sound effects are a bit too loud compared to the volume of your voice.
got it! thanks for the feedback!
I was hazed in high school during my freshman year.
This is so cool
My therapist did not let me talk about my trauma in 2015.
Commenting for the algorithm!
Thanks Frederico!
I wishe1d i had friends it would really help after gettibg bullied in high school
All of this!!!!
I need help comes to bullying
Your videos are very good but please make them louder
It is not your problem but it is theirs 😂😂😂
Bullies are 99% immature people
Long lists of types of bullying is not helpful. Just tell me how to stop hurting or how to face a bully after many years.
nothing simple about cyber bullying .
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i crave for revenge soo badly, I want all of the to suffer ten folds and me to enjoy it
Did I beat Marty?
lol do we have a new competition brewing?
Bullies are so mean big waste of time they don’t know how to get a live won’t stop with drama harassment should be a rule our country
this mean girl is trying get to me jealous and I’m not been annoying her not good friend now creating drama saying dating my boyfriend and at program I left for reason stressing thome out pretending support my relationship to my boyfriend I’m until thinking about it I need help
you're beautiful !!!
i became a teacher to try and stop other kids from having such miserable school years, to my sad surprise there is very little a teacher can do to help!
BS. Teachers will happily put a SEN student in detention, but can't be arsed about the bullies. You guys need to man-up. You have a legal duty to do so. You're pathetic.
I prefer they killed me instead
i don’t even think it’s possible to heal from childhood bullying. i graduated 12 years ago and i would still rather die than live because of what bullies said. doesn’t help when u don’t have a glow up and ur still undesirable. people only seem to care about u when u look good to them
Ive become the bully now. why get bullied when you can bully others?
Those are not the only two choices in life! You don’t have to bully anyone.
What the
Why would you bully someone if you know how they feel ?
ever heard about not getting bullied while not bullying others?