Communication and the Teenage Brain. | Martyn Richards | TEDxNorwichED
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- čas přidán 16. 07. 2024
- Martyn begins by introducing teenagers many of whom were once sweet children, and will one day become loving adults, but who between-times morph into lazy, unlikeable adolescents. He questions whether this is all Nurture, all Nature, or a combination of both, but that science can now show us that Nature definitely plays a significant role. He helps us unpick the brain, in order to start to truly understand teenagers.
Martyn Richards is a researcher specializing in the world of children and young people. Project work has ranged from worldwide brands such as MacDonald’s, Guinness World Records and Ikea, through to a number of locally based clients in education and the public sector.
In 2005, after reading around the topic of brain development, he wrote a paper titled The Teen Brain: What’s Going On In There?, winning Best Paper and Best Presented Paper at the research industry's annual conference. Now, this topic is revisited, with further insight, and a focus on the secondary classroom.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
This legend: teenagers are bad at making decisions
Me, watching this 15 minutes after midnight with school in the morning: what do you mean?
Ah I see I am not alone.
Sameee
Its 1 here lol
This makes us sound like a different species😂
That's exactly what I was thinking
Because teenagers often act like they're a different species. Take it from someone who once was a teenager. Also, it would help if teenagers didn't write-off when adults are trying to help guide them, we do it because we've been there and actually know what we're talking about - but alas, teenagers will always think they know best.
eiknujcisuma See, this is exactly the problem. When trying to be helpful, you talk down to us and make assumptions. None of us think we know better than everyone else! But we are trying to make our own decisions, and have to trust ourselves to be able to do that. If you think we act like some strange emotional species (which, by the way, othering us doesn’t help you connect with us) then stop talking to us in ways you know is going to trigger our annoyance and shut us down from talking to you.
@@jules9964 well-put. I hope to remember your words when my children reaches adolescent. I hope to not alienate and make them feel like an 'other' and rather connect with them, because adolescent mind is a part of growing up. I've already been there and should tune into how it was for me and what I think would've helped guide me through it. Telling my young self "just listen! I've been there before" wouldn't never flown bc maybe i didn't want to be like that person, and maybe I don't believe they know what they are talking about. Age does not equal maturity.
@@eiknujcisuma "Take it from someone who once was a teenager" damn ok boomer. One of the reasons we're turning out to be what you all deem as "irresponsibly bad" is your mindset to which indirectly hurts us and our pride, and your annoying "I've been there, I know what I'm talking about.".
I am raised to be a polite and well-mannered person, but goddamn I got to get this off of my chest.
There are many instances where we are not what you think we are, and that's primarily caused by your words itself. If you keep persisting that "you absolutely know what we're going through", you're prohibiting our chances to make decisions and choices ourselves. We then become clueless and exclusively depend on you guys because apparently "you know what we should do", and that leads to problems we have to face (in which case, we don't know how to because of the obvious, and all you can say in this matter is "you should know how to solve this by now!") and ultimately ends up as "our fault" (and a bad future, really).
If you notice we ever drift apart from you guys, just remember it isn't one-sided and that your doings are partially to blame for this. We appreciate you guys helping us out, but if you're all going to assume that we're a different species that can't be connected with, it's just gonna end up hurting all of us in the future.
(Also adding that, if you guys ever play the "in my days" card, that's just gonna cause more harm than good. Times change, and so do mannerisms of different people and situations. Every individual is different and so are their experiences. Do not forget that, please.)
I'm an educator, and I absolutely loved this. I adore adolescents and find myself defending them often. This is concrete information to share with them and any of their critics. Extremely helpful and well delivered. Thank you!
My son is so angry, any suggestions? Help!
Do you have one? I have 5!
@@IgivemylifetoChrist they’re all angry! Try to make him laugh, all the time,
My daughter and I have these conversations. There’s a little more depth with the internet and unregulated social pressures at school we still struggle with. Brilliant talk. 💕🙏
There is nothing wrong with teenagers, they're pushing the boundaries as we and our ancestors all did .
Why do parents act like talking to your teenage children seem like a challenge and a step by step process
It's not an act.
because it can be lol
@@naomiea.naomie6665 😐
@@naomiea.naomie6665 how...
@@helpmegetto10kwithnovideos81 dude... so many possibilities. its not always difficult ofcourse, a lot of families don't have issues which is cool but generally becoming a teen is complicated and most parents don't know what to expect.
Teen years is the time where kids feel a lot of confusion/ angst/ pressure/ curiosity and a need to expand.. so many new things are coming at them all at once while they are still learning to manage their feelings and see where they fit in.
It can be difficult when your kid gets tense, overreactive or more closed of/ distant and secretive : you want to talk to them but you don't want them to push you even further away. You wanna know what is causing them to act that way but they won't tell u which can be very worrying.
It's also a time where a lot of people develop mental illnesses. Dont think I need to explain to you why it would be difficult to talk to a person experiencing mental illness and not even really knowing it or how to deal with/ regulate it. Here again, you never really know what to expect and its hard n confusing for both the parent and the kid.
There's a lot of other stuff that can also make it difficult, like drug abuse and trauma, but also natural causes like light disorders they might've had since birth (ones u don't always notice) or just their personalities (some people are born with more or less character and better or worse abilities to communicate).
I had my teen went through an emotional response when I needed a rational response... I now know why!
Wisdom provided in a most absorbing style! (And not many speakers deliver Shakespeare in the course of the talk. A bonus!)
Great talk Martyn. Answers a lot of questions.....
Great talk Martyn. I still need time to take things in!
Good talk indeed! Very helpful, Thanks Martyn.
Love it and great insight!
Thanks for the informative insight..
Great Talk Martyn. Thanks a lot
Great insight Martyn, loved it.
Great talk, very informative
So articulate and perfect in analysis. ❤️
*This is just my personal bookmark*
7:00 myelination the use it or use it stage. Starts from the back of the brain to the front. This is why the PFC is the last to fully develop.
9:00 amygdala part of the brain psychologically experiences emotional over rational response
Excellent, thank you
everybody's jealous of teenagers,..even teenagers,
Lol
No actually adults feel sorry for you guys because of everything you guys are going to go through before you become adults . It's a complex time in life and if you have adults around you that don't understand you , your teenage years are going to be a constant war
Excellent. Informative, relevant and well presented.
Nice one Martyn. I've forwarded it to Maik.
Excellent!
So helpful. Thank you.
Such wonderful information. Thank you for the succinct presentation
Brilliant. Thank you 🤗
Parents were teens once I don't understand why they don't understand us😂
I think they forget how they acted because they were oblivious to their behavior and it is apparent in us.
Sometimes we as a parents just too busy to take a time to reflect on our kids. We are quick to judge not because we forget what it is but because we are too stressed and too tired. I can't speak for everyone but I speak for myself...
Or might be because their generation of being teenager was a way different than our generation
Because I was better teen then them 😉
@@ishitapanchal6777 it’s terrifying these days…. I was never angry and I loved my family, and my son is angry often and doesn’t like to communicate, always on a screen
Very insightful and useful, especially having four children myself ranging from 11 to 18. Between them I also have one with emotional delay and on the autistic spectrum, one who has self diagnosed (!) herself as having ADHD and two with M.E. and of one of those he think he has Aspergers. So a right mixture in one household!
This makes us sound like wild animals👩🏻🦼
me here just trying to understand my brain
edit: so i’m not a whole person yet 🐒☁️🐉
25 is the approximate age where the human brain is fully developed. So a long way ahead still😉
Awesome video! I’m a life coach for people under 25 and LOVE this advice. Thanks!
Hello. I am 41 and my son will be 14 in march. 2yrs ago my husband and father to my 3 boys died suddenly. My older boys didnt give me a hard time now i find myself struggling with my 13yr old son. My son's principle and teachers are calling me more often bc my son doesnt follow orders he is not motivated and risk of failing for the 1st time. I dont have any1 to turn to for help 😭 what advice do u have 4me?
What state u in ?
i jusy typed "what is the best way to beat a strange Kevin legally whom has a barking competition with my dog every sunday morning"...wow this talk calm me down
When I was a teen 13 years old I was a rude kid. Then when it came to thinking what type of career I wanted was a teacher them I remembered how I was and I decided I didn't want to teach. As I see my son and other kids as a coach I see they are bright they just need some guidance.
Even in the animal kingdom teenage mammals fight and rebel against their parents.
How do you know ??🤔🤔
@@muskangurjar9275 There's been documentaries on it and I know about animal behavior too
@@Rome274 oh that's great
And thanks for telling
We want freedom! We want change! We want our lives!
I loved the part where he compared teens to bad dogs
I'm a bad dog :(
@@cat1800 no you are a bad cat
Bad dog.. that’s funny they are just so lost.. poor kids my son he just don’t know what to do with them self and I don’t judge hum because I am 43 sometime I am lost too
my mom sent me this, good video 👍
Nothing wrong with teens except for their moods, few kids with low self esteem and sudden behaviour change.Patience and support will help.
I have a question but cannot find an email for you?
There's something about people that's true when they're very young which persists throughout their lives until death. When judging someone outside of their tribe or social circle, they look at characteristics of some and assign them to all or most. Even as I write this, I'm using a broad-stroke view of humans. It's easier to deal with people as categories (boomer, millennial, zoomer, furries) rather than seeing them as individuals. I can make these observations because I am part of the same reptilian race as Mark Zuckerberg.
Not for all people. When you experience many different walks of life. Youre speaking of very narrow minded thinking, that is a very child/teenage thing. Which makes sense when theyve only experience 5, 8, 13, 16 years of life. Some grow up with more diversity and some grow up very isolated or close nit and dont see much of how others live or how others family or home life is. They know theirs. And thats another adolescent mind set is that everything in the world is the same as everything in my world....
Sounds like old people! Your talking about elders! Who refuse to accept modern reality and force their ways of thinking from back of their day!
My mom sent me this, I only get pissed when I'm constantly nagged 😤
My mom just sent me this...I'm still watching it
Well if my son help little at home and clean himself mess and respect me I won’t nagged him .
I've been forced to use only rational responses if I use an emotional response I will get in trouble
I'm not some feral, wild animal! I'm a human being man. lol, this is how my grandfather thinks.
Love for you to revisit this comment! How do you feel 3 years later?
My teen girl tries to compete with me that she is the best for her father, not sure what kind of behaviour is this
Me over hear learning about my brain
Great informative talk, and helpful in understanding my 15 year old "kevin" of a step daughter!
She 18 now..
@@katrinamiller4724 20 now
10:43
What about the many exam questions that challenges teenagers to use more than one concept?
what is the summary or tips of this video?
I just learned quite a bit……
I'm a teen and thought it was fear...
What does he mean 0:49 ? And forth
When he said chip* I was like British accent 😂👍
When siblings don't communicate... nothings wrong
Why is my daughter like this at 8 😂
Fegely kids wya?-Waylon
limpeh salakau
10:14
I thought this was comedy night
Lucky for all of us teenage years are temporary and off they go to adulthood .
And realize the adults that was around where just old people trying to push their ways trying to make you submit to them! This is why so many people barely afford basic necessities. Because they think $15 is enough for younger people ignoring the hyperinflation! And unwilling to reform their ways! So they push the older ways thinking it will fix everything!
@@iseytheteethsnake6290 you're absolutely right 👍
Old farts
Old ways
Old mentally . young minds are suppressed , for control purposes
IN 2021 WE LIVE IN A SOCIETY OF TEENAGERS TRYING TO PROVE EACHOTHER WHO IS RITCHWE SMH
Que? No
since we have more nuerons we should take the time to study and cram info. But since we lack common sense and decision making we don't do it. Lol
Congratulations sir, you managed to degrade an entire group into the most basic forms of what you want them to be. You put yourself on a pedestal and acted as if some people were beneath you mearly on account of their age. This is insolence and it is wrong.
It's not like he's treating teens as if they're sub-human. Are you taking it more personally because he compared the way teens think to dogs?
@@theincrediblediblegg "When he said teens were losing the power of rational thought, he didn't know how close to being right he was" that's treating people sub-human. and yeah, comparing us to dogs doesn't help.
The fact that this is your response proves his point entirely 🤦♂️
@@electriceucalyptus 🥇🎯
@jakerue8873 that wasn't his quote. Listen again
god entered into my body, as a body. Same size. Holy ghost baptism. God promises in bible to betray u. it says god shall make it rain on just and unjust. gods rippin my face and appearin. teasing me
You are sick
What's wrong with you
Rad
I really hope you re-read your Bible and use correct hermeneutic in your attempts at interpretation. Taking Scripture out of context and teaching will warrant correction and discipline from our Heavenly Father for participating in false teaching. John 3:16
Excellent!