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  • čas přidán 23. 08. 2024

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  • @heatherarman2060
    @heatherarman2060 Před 4 měsíci +15

    Helen I just have to comment on purpose as I know you’ve struggled with this for a while. I’m much older than you but over the years you’ve entertained, educated, motivated and inspired me. Recently I had a major medical crisis and was in hospital for a month. During those incredibly long and difficult days and nights I put your videos on my iPad and just watched them (videos I’d already seen) because I knew they would cheer me up. My nurses and doctors started watching them and a couple even subscribed to you! So do you have a purpose? I don’t know, but you sure as hell got me through I a time where I legitimately almost died a couple times.

  • @gooseduckart
    @gooseduckart Před 4 měsíci +10

    I suffer from low self esteem and depression and one thing that has helped ME is trying new things that make me anxious scared. I’ve tried rock climbing, snowboarding, group classes. I feel so accomplished after doing them. ❤

  • @bunnyfernwood
    @bunnyfernwood Před 4 měsíci +37

    I just wanna say it’s crazy for anyone to accuse you of using ozempic when your hard work has been documented. You put in the time and effort. With that said, you’ve inspired me to put myself first and take better care of my health. Going to the gym feels good! Also, like another commenter said, you’d be a great motivational speaker!

  • @jojomarch
    @jojomarch Před 4 měsíci +4

    Loved all this advice. As someone who spent years in a work area that is considered 'purposeful' I can say it's not all it's cracked up to be! Many of these types of roles/careers are poorly paid and supported with limited resources and huge barriers. Whilst money isn't everything, working in a job that requires so much of yourself to be given that you're exhausted by the weekend and struggling financially is not it. Put yourself first, that should always be your primary purpose, the rest is mere detail.
    Also huge props on the weight loss. I watched your video on it shortly after I started and hugely related to your eating style and choices. People just don't realise how tracking and exercise in a consistent way can lead to losing a couple pounds a week, and the weeks fly by!

    • @helenanderz
      @helenanderz  Před 4 měsíci +1

      Thank you for this xxx

    • @jojomarch
      @jojomarch Před 4 měsíci

      you're so welcome xxx@@helenanderz

  • @theresag.4188
    @theresag.4188 Před 4 měsíci +12

    I found you from Hobbie Stuart years ago. He said you were a LEGEND! i still beleive it. Your outlook on life is epic!

  • @SavannahsJournal
    @SavannahsJournal Před 4 měsíci +7

    You are such a good egg Helen! Honestly I listen to your videos, listen to your advice and you are so good at finding the good in a low situation. You really are inspiring :)

  • @laurabindon
    @laurabindon Před 4 měsíci +11

    Love your outlook on life, I feel like we have a very similar outlook as I always agree with everything you’re saying ❤️ nice to find someone who has the same view points as you ❤️

  • @lespoirdemavie
    @lespoirdemavie Před 4 měsíci +2

    I agree so much with the friendship comment. They do change overtime and you naturally can drift apart from people when you get older. In my 30s, I’ve learnt it’s all about energy and balance. If it’s not a joint effort then I’m not going to put anymore attention to it.

  • @ErikaGG23
    @ErikaGG23 Před 4 měsíci

    Amen, Helen. I put too much stock into a friendship that I always got flaked out on or straight up stood up , show up late on, texts not returned for days, every excuse in the book for about 12 years. And even so I was silly and considered her "friendship love bombing" as more than it was. It was a one way street for sure. I even recently practically convinced her to take a job at my workplace. I basically had to twist her arm. Still, we hardly talk at work and her lack of reciprocation spoke volumes to me and since October I just quietly said, I'm over it. No ill wishes but I shouldn't try so hard for a friendship she's clearly not interested in since ever

  • @christineesparza5417
    @christineesparza5417 Před 4 měsíci +8

    3 videos in 1 week? We are spoiled💘 love from Southern California !

  • @AshBull87
    @AshBull87 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I've been watching you for over ten years since my daughter was a baby and now she is 12! I would watch you while she was napping and sleeping and I just love how much you have evolved into seemingly a really down to earth person. But I'm commenting because there is a show I used to watch called little people big world and I recently started binging old episodes and there is a chick who eventually became part of the show named Audrey(Botti/Roloff) and I don't know why but sometimes she really reminds me of you, but strictly speaking looks wise not personality wise I think she falls a but flat especially compared to you but I don't like to compare. Anyway I just thought it funny she reminds me if you and I don't even actually know you! Definitely mean it as a compliment because I think she's beautiful so please don't take it any other way. Well wishes and thank you for continuing to let us peak into your life! ❤

  • @Seeebreee7
    @Seeebreee7 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I just had my golden birthday this past January, I turned 30. Initially it was honestly embarrassing for me, because most of my friends are 1 to 5 years younger then me.. but this video gave me so much comfort. I also just got out of a 4 year relationship 3 weeks ago so this video came just in time for me. I actually feel like it healed that part of me that was embarrassed 😅. I honestly am doing so much better with this new found wisdom and independence. Thank you Helen for doing what you do, I have been watching since the my little pony hair video. 💜

  • @gooseduckart
    @gooseduckart Před 4 měsíci +3

    I’m 27 and I swear since 15 I knew I didn’t want kids but I constantly feel pressured to question and possibly have them….ughhh

    • @inwidwhistle1
      @inwidwhistle1 Před 4 měsíci +3

      Don’t do it if you don’t want too!! Coming from a mum of 2 love my kids but it’s totally not for everyone. You can have an amazingly life with kids and with out kids

    • @gooseduckart
      @gooseduckart Před 4 měsíci

      @@inwidwhistle1 thank you! My mom is also a mother of two and she has given up many dreams for us. I respect her a lot but deep down I know it's not for me

  • @mrscharliepayne
    @mrscharliepayne Před 4 měsíci +1

    With the consistently topic the BEST book is THE SLIGHT EDGE! Changes your mindset sooo much

    • @jojomarch
      @jojomarch Před 4 měsíci

      this sounds great, thank you!

  • @meghanchipman5384
    @meghanchipman5384 Před 4 měsíci +4

    Loved your insight as much as I LOVE your outfit. Where is it from? 👀👀

  • @ashleybarker8121
    @ashleybarker8121 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I’m so glad someone asked the question about kids because I was literally thinking, I should ask this ?! I think my biggest fear with it is that I don’t have kids and I regret it later in life ?! But I’ve always said I don’t want kids !!

  • @Pickledfrank
    @Pickledfrank Před 4 měsíci +1

    I’m loving your content! It’s inspiring to see you evolve as a person and especially after your adhd diagnosis❤️

  • @Cbjacks97
    @Cbjacks97 Před 4 měsíci

    Helen I have watched you for around 10 years now and practically grown up watching your videos. I am now 27 and I find that I can relate to you now more than ever. You’re like the big sister that I never had! The growth and development I’ve noticed within you is something that I think you should feel really proud of, you’re a gem x

  • @josieburrow9613
    @josieburrow9613 Před 4 měsíci

    God I needed this today. I've been a depressive episode since 2017 but in the past couple of years I've been doing better in all aspects of my life. Thankfully now I work from home so now I have more freedom to dedicate time to self-improvement and the way you break those ideas down is exactly what I've been feeling...it's just been hard to pit it into words. Thank you so much for your videos, your such a breath of fresh air in this CZcams world!

  • @sianbaldwin8598
    @sianbaldwin8598 Před 4 měsíci

    SO needed to watch this today - there were so many nuggets within this video that resonated with me, and reminded me how to reframe my mindset. One of your purposes with what you do is to remind us what's truly important and that we can deal with anything which comes our way

  • @chalkychicky
    @chalkychicky Před 4 měsíci

    My mum started her career at 40 and since has moved between different companies but has gotten herself to the top of her team who she manages, she’s only 48!

  • @lottehale6868
    @lottehale6868 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Loved this Helen x

  • @mariehygge54039
    @mariehygge54039 Před 4 měsíci +1

    You give good helpful advice Helen.😊

  • @georgia2087
    @georgia2087 Před 4 měsíci +2

    As of 2024 my only goal in life is to have a good time and honestly, my life is improving dramatically from the simple realisation of ‘nothing matters’. We’re on a floating rock for gods sake have a good time 😎 (coming from someone who suffers with depression)

  • @RomeyRosey
    @RomeyRosey Před 4 měsíci

    This has got to be the best advise video I have ever seen in my life! I love your advice and view on life Helen, was like talking to your sister or best mate - probably even better cus you’re so wise!

  • @alexandramincher8291
    @alexandramincher8291 Před 4 měsíci +1

    This is just what I needed today! Thank you! 😍❤️

  • @Pixelb33
    @Pixelb33 Před 4 měsíci

    I’ve been loving the 70’s inspired tops your last two videos. Maybe you mentioned it but where did you find them? ❤

    • @nikkistarr8
      @nikkistarr8 Před 4 měsíci +1

      This outfit is from Cider I believe 😊

  • @rose_quartz_loveandlight
    @rose_quartz_loveandlight Před 4 měsíci +1

    this was a good one so many gems of advice 💎❤

  • @Svampehat
    @Svampehat Před 4 měsíci

    Hi Helen ❤😊 thank you for answering my question. I am finally getting better after two years of depression, anxiety and stress. I hope that i with more time can get a better self esteem, so i dont hate myself as much when looking in the mirror. Have a lovely easter❤

  • @taliacurran2430
    @taliacurran2430 Před 4 měsíci

    Not even just saying this, you should 100% do motivational speaking. I’m 33 and everything you say about your own version making success and releasing the stress of “purpose” ring so fucking true for me. Honestly I reckon you would fucking smash it and would be so inspiring to people that are wasting their life away overthinking and stressing about “purpose” instead on just honing in on what being them joy in life.

  • @GemmaP22
    @GemmaP22 Před 4 měsíci

    I agree the housework discussion to an extent but what about if your other half works more hours? 😅 I work 37.5 hours but my husband works nearly double that as a lorry driver. He is so tired after work that asking him to cook, clean etc seems wrong 😅 i don't mind doing everything as long as i'm not overwhelmed and he will help me as and when he can...but i am the main cook, food shopper, cleaner, dog mum, DIY'er etc 😅 love your videos Helen! Have followed for yearsss xxx

    • @helenanderz
      @helenanderz  Před 4 měsíci +1

      I get that, I just don’t agree with it being expected as a female role. Imagine if you worked more hours and STILL had to do all the house work. Xx

    • @GemmaP22
      @GemmaP22 Před 4 měsíci

      @@helenanderz yes!! That would be so unfair 🥺 i did feel like that a few years ago but since covid my work life balance is a lot better 🤣 xxx

  • @rachieface103
    @rachieface103 Před 4 měsíci +2

    You’re cute, and just so cool Hels 🤟🏼

  • @lauraemily3742
    @lauraemily3742 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you so much for answering my quesrion ☺️🥰🥰 xx

  • @leahg23
    @leahg23 Před 4 měsíci

    Ten years of being Internet sisters ❤️

  • @nioums97
    @nioums97 Před 3 měsíci

    That was beautiful

  • @KereseTameka
    @KereseTameka Před 4 měsíci +2

  • @beckysim6448
    @beckysim6448 Před 4 měsíci

    Loved this ❤

  • @Angelicbeing333
    @Angelicbeing333 Před 4 měsíci

    💖

  • @tinietempa
    @tinietempa Před 4 měsíci +3

    Defo ozempic

    • @poisongreeneye
      @poisongreeneye Před 4 měsíci

      How 'bout...NO.

    • @tinietempa
      @tinietempa Před 4 měsíci

      Yeah hun

    • @jojomarch
      @jojomarch Před 4 měsíci +2

      it's honestly getting boring. Take a day off

    • @SadieMc81
      @SadieMc81 Před 4 měsíci

      You clearly know nothing about ADHD medication and how it can help focus? And yet you assume Ozempic?

    • @tinietempa
      @tinietempa Před 4 měsíci

      @@SadieMc81 yeah defo ozempic

  • @micheleinfelise9001
    @micheleinfelise9001 Před 4 měsíci