Bob D. - AA Speakers - "Surrender"

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  • čas přidán 2. 04. 2013
  • Bob D. does it again and absolutely knocks it out of the park! This is a wonderful tape for newcomers. He explains, in his typical down-to-earth style the nature of "surrender" (a word that gets thrown around in meetings all the time). GREAT talk from one of the best AA speakers ever!
    Addiction treatment WORKS! The Twelve Step Model has been utilized as a treatment for alcohol abuse and alcoholism since 1935. It is extremely important to know that help IS out there and addiction recovery is possible. If you are battling alcoholism, drug addiction, addiction or any other form of addictive behavior, there are people who know EXACTLY what it is like!
    You can find out more at: www.aa.org - Alcoholics Anonymous Official Site - As should be blatantly obvious, we are in no way affiliated with them or any other Twelve Step Program. We are just looking to provide hope to those suffering from alcoholism or addiction.
    It is important to note there are several ways for one to address his or her alcohol abuse treatment. Substance abuse is a very serious condition and has become an epidemic in today's world. Many people suffering with substance abuse need treatment, such as inpatient stays, rehab, or counseling. The importance and purpose of this video, and all our other videos, is to show that recovery IS possible and to give hope to those who are struggling with alcohol and drug addiction issues. Help IS out there!
    From the book Alcoholics Anonymous: "In spite of the great increase in the size and span of this Fellowship, at its core it remains simple and personal. Each day, somewhere in the world, recovery begins when one alcoholic talks with another alcoholic, sharing experience, strength, and hope."
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Komentáře • 697

  • @dominicmartinelli4014
    @dominicmartinelli4014 Před 10 měsíci +175

    I went to my first AA meeting today. I cried the whole way there. I have really messed up my life and I have been listening to this the whole ride home

    • @jannaolsen3557
      @jannaolsen3557 Před 10 měsíci +7

      Great you went to a meeting. Nothing is so bad alcohol can't make it worse. I have lost so much to chasing that shit. I wish you all the best one day at a time. 🙏

    • @jeremyc2445
      @jeremyc2445 Před 9 měsíci +14

      Alcoholism got me and AA saved me

    • @brendonvallejo6964
      @brendonvallejo6964 Před 8 měsíci +1

    • @Shadow-kai-57
      @Shadow-kai-57 Před 7 měsíci +8

      We need you buddy, I hope you stay, and find the solution!

    • @alexanderkirk3126
      @alexanderkirk3126 Před 7 měsíci +5

      It's one day at a time, each day we wake up with untreated alcoholism, do page 86 daily

  • @katieroller4812
    @katieroller4812 Před rokem +169

    I SO needed this today! 7 days sober today.🙏

    • @kayligo
      @kayligo Před rokem +2

      I’m rooting for you 🙌🏻

    • @katieroller4812
      @katieroller4812 Před rokem +8

      Thank you !35 days sober today 😊

    • @ShadeOps45
      @ShadeOps45 Před rokem +2

      ​@Katie Roller Thats awesome!!! First month is the hardest you're on the right track!

    • @littlehomeinthevalley
      @littlehomeinthevalley Před rokem

      @@katieroller4812 congrats!! I hope you are doing well.

    • @TinkerKell6
      @TinkerKell6 Před rokem

      Awesome! How are you doing?

  • @johngrady3532
    @johngrady3532 Před rokem +85

    29 years and I still need this

    • @borisbro8799
      @borisbro8799 Před 22 dny

      Ого! Хочешь бухануть?

  • @willgreen677
    @willgreen677 Před 3 lety +379

    Ive listened to this many times throughout my time, the first being my 30 days. Picked up my 4 year chip last month

    • @621u3
      @621u3 Před 3 lety +7

      Congrats Will!

    • @dannycohn8512
      @dannycohn8512 Před 2 lety +4

      That's awesome brother!

    • @JG-vs9gg
      @JG-vs9gg Před 2 lety +3

      Why do you's stick to aa all your lives? You don't need to call yourself an alcoholic when you haven't had a drink in years 🤔 I was a drug addict for 15 years and I'm now a recovered addict and not a recovering one.

    • @willgreen677
      @willgreen677 Před 2 lety +12

      @@JG-vs9gg congrats on your recovery! I personally call myself recovering because I am still growing and I have a lot to work on. Recovery looks different to everyone, much love.

    • @dannycohn8512
      @dannycohn8512 Před 2 lety +4

      @@JG-vs9gg there are many levels to recovery the most obvious and basic staying sober but what about emotional sobriety which is the real disease that goes on many levels so we can recover forever or if you will keep growing emotionally and spiritually forever we hope no one is talking about sobriety once they're already sober a year real recovery is recovery of the spirit

  • @crazyboy9828
    @crazyboy9828 Před rokem +48

    I needed this ive never gotten completely sober i go for like two weeks then binge . Been going on for 3 years now before that i was drinking every single day for 10 years straight i really want to give it up for good its destroyed me my mind my life my health. Please God give the strength to take the steps i need to Get sober For real deliver me from all vices and distractions 🙏

    • @BadChops3
      @BadChops3 Před rokem +3

      I am praying for you 🙏💖🙏

    • @emmacaddy4643
      @emmacaddy4643 Před 10 měsíci

    • @jeannemurray1046
      @jeannemurray1046 Před 9 měsíci

      I'm Praying with you too , one day, or minute at a time. It's not about me, but my fellow mate in pain. Judging, talking about others is not my problem. Keeping silent is so much better than talking about others. Don't try to fix others, just keep yourself loving and helping others, not yourself.

    • @btolley100
      @btolley100 Před 5 měsíci

      Go to a meeting every day for 90 days, get a sponsor and do what he says, trust the process. Everybody can get sober.

  • @coreyward6937
    @coreyward6937 Před 5 lety +334

    Thank God for these being on here. Helps me so much Saturday will be 30 days clean from herion and all other drugs

    • @amyjones8114
      @amyjones8114 Před 5 lety +11

      That’s awesome, Corey! See you in the rooms 😄

    • @jasonjones4036
      @jasonjones4036 Před 5 lety +6

      Congrats on your recovery

    • @blessedmslady7016
      @blessedmslady7016 Před 4 lety +3

      It Will NOT be easy. I think you can do it. I'm alcoholic. May God be with you and I both🙏

    • @Gman-ex5dg
      @Gman-ex5dg Před 4 lety +11

      Im 3 days without a drink/drug. This is all I have at 3:40 AM lets get through today Corey.

    • @Jw-dp2cp
      @Jw-dp2cp Před 4 lety +6

      Beautiful! How’s recovery going Corey? I’m 10 and half months off heroine crack and just about every chemical there is. Recovery is mind blowing if I let go and let god 🙏🏻

  • @jlroussin
    @jlroussin Před 4 lety +96

    I got back in AA about 24 days ago. I found a very strong sponsor who is helping me work the steps just as the big book instructs. What a huge difference it’s making in my life. I’m profoundly grateful

    • @thomascox6037
      @thomascox6037 Před 3 lety +5

      Jesus did it all

    • @stonecold5373
      @stonecold5373 Před 2 lety +7

      Alcoholism is the worst shit I've ever experienced. Sobriety to me was far from the pain of drinking. Glad you're back and hope you're still here. I drank also until near death

    • @aharkey
      @aharkey Před rokem +4

      Keep going brother! Give up the fight and do the steps!

    • @anguscampbell6977
      @anguscampbell6977 Před rokem +1

      Great share thanks

    • @dknox90803
      @dknox90803 Před rokem

      I am humbled to read you’re back.

  • @nadiarowbotham6273
    @nadiarowbotham6273 Před 2 lety +15

    My sixth consecutive meeting is tommorow. I'm in very early days - I keep lapsing, because I just can't imagine a life without being under influence. But this man is a legend. I think I'm on my way as I'm willing to slowly but surely learn. He is able to explain the AA philosophies so well and with humour, which never goes amiss. I'm so grateful that I found bobs talks

    • @melissazimmerman7796
      @melissazimmerman7796 Před 2 lety

      God bless you! I hope all is going well still. I hope you find a great sponsor that will guide you through these steps!!! Keep going ♥️

  • @Brian.8272
    @Brian.8272 Před 4 lety +99

    Ive been in a lot of pain, God wanted me to hear this!

    • @christenriekert7197
      @christenriekert7197 Před 2 lety +1

      You are Loved. I'm sorry You were in Pain. How do you feel and how is your recovery now 2 years later?

    • @subbuteoforza7818
      @subbuteoforza7818 Před 2 lety +8

      Pain is required to grow.

    • @Brian.8272
      @Brian.8272 Před 2 lety +6

      @@christenriekert7197 much better thankyou, been working on being my authentic self and its gotten better

    • @pvtppsmols69
      @pvtppsmols69 Před měsícem

      ​@@Brian.8272I hope you are still doing well.
      God is good

  • @621u3
    @621u3 Před 5 lety +355

    To the 458 people that disliked this " Keep coming back."

    • @Lena-py3xi
      @Lena-py3xi Před 5 lety +5

      Lol

    • @paulkennedy3313
      @paulkennedy3313 Před 4 lety +22

      If you didn't ĺike this then you really need to come back. Something is seriously wrong with you

    • @fintan3563
      @fintan3563 Před 4 lety +6

      671 on 4/4/20

    • @owenwsmith
      @owenwsmith Před 4 lety +10

      Sarcastic AA cliches dished out to people who disagree. What step is that?

    • @621u3
      @621u3 Před 4 lety +19

      I am not sure if I would still be sober if I only went to meetings when I felt like it and only if I agreed with everyone there. "Keep coming back" is a slogan not a cliche and one I am glad I took to heart.

  • @supremereader7614
    @supremereader7614 Před 6 lety +98

    I love how he talks about easy it is for the ego to resurrect itself. That we could go from totally desperate, “God help me,” to “hey, I got this all figured out, but hey, look at that loser over there.” Surrender to kill the ego, great message.

  • @stevewhewell6190
    @stevewhewell6190 Před rokem +8

    77 days alcohol free thanks to my higher power.

  • @kool7862
    @kool7862 Před 4 lety +39

    I love listening to Bob D......I can relate 💯% to everything he talks about in his talks....I relapsed after 15 months and now I'm on day 3 clean from all substances and listening to this helps me so soon much.... getting clean it's not easy but it's possible... Plz God 🙏🏻🙏🏻 help me and help all my brother's & sisters who are struggling with this disease of alcaholism/addiction Ameeen🙏🏿🙏🙏🏻🙏🏿

    • @brianpeters7847
      @brianpeters7847 Před 3 lety +1

      How are you doing Big???
      I hope you are getting well
      it's hard for us to go through early Sobriety
      but it is so worth it.. you had 15 months which is good so you know what it feels like..
      You CAN do it,, millions of us are sober today
      through AA.. God bless you one day at a time...

    • @mackfin8869
      @mackfin8869 Před 2 lety

      Go to a meeting .one day at a time

  • @maureenleary7354
    @maureenleary7354 Před 5 lety +12

    Surrender doesn't mean to run, it means put down your weapons and stop fighting.

  • @lancetaylor-music
    @lancetaylor-music Před rokem +24

    I was in AA for a few years and stayed sober. Then I got a job on a cruise ship... when I got the job I was told I could go to the meetings on the ship, but when I got there I was told employees are not allowed to go. I stayed sober for the first 5 month contract but I wasn't happy. I ended up way worse off then before.
    I am going to go back to AA tonight. I want to get sober but I don't really like AA anymore, but I don't care I am going back! I need to do the steps again. I need a sponsor, I have to get involved. God please help me do the right things.

    • @rudycarv2197
      @rudycarv2197 Před rokem +2

      I hope you are are well Lence, I'm going back this week as well.
      I need to feel that first Spiritual awakening that I had while ago.
      God bless you and remember AA there for you

    • @micahrenshaw9408
      @micahrenshaw9408 Před rokem +1

      Checking on you Lence. Hope your doing alright. Go to meetings. Look up the set aside prayer.

    • @bradleyb4920
      @bradleyb4920 Před 11 měsíci

      Easier to stay sober than it is to get sober. AA can be great! Honesty, Open-mindedness, and Willingness is how you do this, right? I find that a good home group helps quite a bit. Feel around when looking, meetings aren't all the same. Besides bad 1st impressions, Imo, I think AA gets a bad wrap from people who half-ass or simply don't work the program. Aside from Gen Pop not having a good grasp on AA in the first place, if you don't get a sponsor to work the steps, you're missing a huge part of the miracle you hear about in AA. Hope you're doing well, Bud!!

    • @reneemoore6249
      @reneemoore6249 Před 7 měsíci

      Online meetings. I got sober on zoom.

  • @Fbrv16
    @Fbrv16 Před 4 lety +45

    This man has AND IS A GIFT TO ALL OF US

  • @manuelduran3740
    @manuelduran3740 Před 4 lety +8

    By the grace of GOD I’m clean and sober since 1988 . Great job to the speaker .

    • @TheMenzy321
      @TheMenzy321 Před 3 lety

      He is speaking live on Zoom tomorrow night at 7pm on Zoom, 5767698313 meeting ID. no password needed. step 11

  • @Infiniteoptimist
    @Infiniteoptimist Před 3 lety +45

    Bob D’s talks have helped me work my program in so many ways, revealing a little more to each time I listen, letting me humble myself and be a little more vulnerable (even just with myself) a little each time, and this is my go to place between meetings and being with people in the program. Forever grateful for each of you.

  • @NoaLives79
    @NoaLives79 Před 9 lety +230

    This talk just saved my life. I was translating this a while ago and stopped and never went back to it... and just this evening as I was feeling seperated, lonely and depressed but couldn't figure out what's happening to me... wanting to disappear and die feeling that the program has failed me - I suddenly decided to listen to this talk again and poof...I'm rethinking step 3... wanting to keep on searching for Him... yearning for a real sense of purpose. Also I finished the translation... Thank you... Mysterious power of the universe.

    • @robertslater2662
      @robertslater2662 Před 6 lety +10

      NoaLives79 love u person

    • @davehartnett2901
      @davehartnett2901 Před 5 lety +7

      NoaLives79 we all love you. We are you.

    • @chancemcginness8744
      @chancemcginness8744 Před 5 lety +2

      Amen

    • @broadie42
      @broadie42 Před 4 lety +8

      NoaLives79 I keep fighting turning my will and life over to the care of one that loves me. Hmmmm I must be an alcoholic! Haha! Thank God for AA, and thank god for you and other alcoholics that keep reminding where I need to be!

    • @carlosolguin1
      @carlosolguin1 Před 4 lety +3

      If you don't mind me asking, what language did you translate it to?

  • @kristinarobinson9724
    @kristinarobinson9724 Před 5 lety +117

    You don’t even need to be an alcoholic to of gotten something out of this message. How wonderful this message was for me

    • @tinafarrell9444
      @tinafarrell9444 Před 5 lety +6

      I'm nearly 7 month clean,and only just realised that I have all these similarities and have be so in me that I got opionated and judgmental, so thank you,I know I need to be kind and loveing to ALL,THANK YOU GOD 🙏

    • @stephaniesoscia3336
      @stephaniesoscia3336 Před 4 lety +2

      Agreed

    • @mikebodnar4557
      @mikebodnar4557 Před 4 lety +9

      Agreed. I’m not an alcoholic but I do relate to the emotional struggles and find great value in these talks

    • @massysaustintx
      @massysaustintx Před 4 lety +10

      Amen. The Twelve Steps are a Design for Living that absolutely EVERYONE could benefit from.

    • @markbrakebill1057
      @markbrakebill1057 Před 3 lety +5

      Any spiritually broken human needs to hear this. Surrendering piece by piece.

  • @charlesporter172
    @charlesporter172 Před 3 lety +15

    I just got a gift from God listening to Bob D.

  • @jpage99999
    @jpage99999 Před 2 lety +14

    Ok this is absolutely one of the best things I have ever heard. Take the time to listen to this and take notes. Lord deliver me from the bondage of self……

  • @andreadiamond7115
    @andreadiamond7115 Před rokem +5

    I’m an atheist in AA. I’m sober thanks to the fellowship, no buffet god. I’m glad your personal gods are in the rooms cause that invisible being helps you and you help me. ✌🏼and ❤️.

  • @user-ne3uu6mm2j
    @user-ne3uu6mm2j Před 8 měsíci +3

    Sober again since 9.28.23, after relapsing after having (15) years!!! Ugh ugh, haven’t given up, though considered ugh… haven’t listened to “talks” in ages though went to lots of AA meetings - this talk is profound!! Think I’ll listen more and more as my sponsor always has…he with 35 years sobriety!!

    • @Mr23iscrack
      @Mr23iscrack Před 2 měsíci

      I feel your pain and I'm so sorry. I relapsed 5 months ago after 11 years of sobriety. But this time it was liquor and fentanyl. About 6 years in my alcoholism had convinced me that I didn't need to keep doing the very things and actions that gave me an incredible life. Stopped going to my home group stopped calling my sponsor stopped surrounding myself with other alcoholics and most importantly I stopped praying. By the grace of God I didn't die and I'm back in the fellowship and I'm back with that same sponsor and I'm not giving up my seat. Love you

  • @coreyward6937
    @coreyward6937 Před 5 lety +64

    Saturday will be 30 days for me clean i need these type of videos they help so much! This is the first time ive ever wanted to be clean im in treatment right now pray for me . Sobriety date 12.27.18

    • @coreyward6937
      @coreyward6937 Před 5 lety +9

      I had 90 days yesterday :)

    • @brpitrepeters7983
      @brpitrepeters7983 Před 4 lety +2

      @@coreyward6937
      Hello corey my name is Brian and I'm definitely an alcoholic. I hope that you are doing OK and if you're still recovering until you're
      recovered. If this makes any sense..I try to get to as many meetings a week if I can and when I can't make it I spend time with some of AA literature and these speaker tapes are a big help. I usually get one with some humour
      Hey if I'm sober I may as well have a laugh I didn't laugh much when I was a drunk
      There really wasn't much to laugh at. I will never forget the years of sadness but i don't think about the past much anymore I have a new beautiful life now and I never thought life was worth living.
      Anyway stay strong and if you are doing well let us know. And keep on keeping on.

    • @marilynwisbey9446
      @marilynwisbey9446 Před 4 lety

      Well done!

  • @birdmanT7
    @birdmanT7 Před rokem +9

    One of the best talks on surrender that ties into step one, Bob really gets it and what he is talking about the inner conflicts is not just for Alcoholics.

  • @lauraallen2258
    @lauraallen2258 Před měsícem +3

    5 years sober in less then a month.. I don't think I would have made it without this tape, came at divine timing! I didn't see it coming until Bob just described me. Thank you 🙏 can't believe I couldn't see it, very cunning baffling and powerful. Action needed

  • @chancemcginness8744
    @chancemcginness8744 Před 5 lety +5

    Thank God for AA.

  • @kylemedeiros6907
    @kylemedeiros6907 Před 5 lety +15

    I've been clean in NA for 40 months today. I dont do AA and I dont care to.
    With that said. This is the best share I ever heard in my life. This is just amazing.

    • @rockyhaggard8179
      @rockyhaggard8179 Před 5 lety +4

      I do more na than AA, even though I started in AA, but this speaker is the best I've ever heard in either Fellowship

    • @kylemedeiros6907
      @kylemedeiros6907 Před 5 lety +1

      @@rockyhaggard8179 yes sir. I stick with NA for everything else though. Sponsor. Hg. Steps. Philosophy.

    • @dianedevery3711
      @dianedevery3711 Před 2 lety +2

      You just 'did' AA by listening.

  • @TheMenzy321
    @TheMenzy321 Před 4 lety +23

    This guy nails it. When he talks about feelings when your new and being locked up in your head.

    • @TheMenzy321
      @TheMenzy321 Před rokem +2

      3 years sober now. Amazing I am struggling with a low spot and making changes I am a work in progress 🙌

  • @TheDuckdodgers24
    @TheDuckdodgers24 Před 3 lety +8

    Amazing how in need you are guided to the exact thing which speaks directly to your problem...Thank you God. I'm 45 days sober, dragging my feet on working on step 4, and having just 2 days ago celebrating my first birthday at my home groups birthday night where we celebrated over 150 years of sobriety and 2 30 day birthdays.
    Last night at work I felt a strange strong craving...as if there was a litteral hole in me. I prayed and resumed work. Today it's on me again and it's what is described in this talk....the self will reasserting in my life. I'm going to call my sponsor then make a meeting...I'll be there Early so I can work on my 4th step In a safe and peaceful place...I'm cleaning a rental at the moment and in the fridge is a 12 pack left behind...just staring at me.
    Thankfully it just going to stay there.
    Thank you God for my sobriety.

  • @cowboy5105
    @cowboy5105 Před 3 lety +11

    Found this when I was still using today I have over 900 days sober and in two days I'll have 2.5 years sober! I love God, this program, and this life of sobriety!

    • @brendascarfe4331
      @brendascarfe4331 Před 2 lety

      Well done we all have to surrender happy sobriety and best wishes to you chio brenda

  • @Brickcityluv
    @Brickcityluv Před 5 lety +27

    You can always tell an alcoholic, but you cant tell him much. #loveit #thanksBob

  • @diegocabello3852
    @diegocabello3852 Před 9 lety +79

    WOW! what a great speaker thank you BOB! i had one year on 12/8/14 Thank you Alcoholics Anonymous

    • @Cahonen19
      @Cahonen19 Před 8 lety +12

      My year was 12/9/14. The day after. Congrats and hope you have kept going on the path. God bless.

    • @bumman117
      @bumman117 Před 3 lety +3

      Hope you both are still going strong

  • @lukesneesby8327
    @lukesneesby8327 Před 10 lety +51

    I've listened to this 5 times now. Love it!

    • @Fbrv16
      @Fbrv16 Před 4 lety +3

      I listen to this constantly..keeps it fresh. Beginning thinking..basics

    • @markbrakebill1057
      @markbrakebill1057 Před 3 lety +2

      I'm putting it on the repeats list.

  • @darryljones9385
    @darryljones9385 Před 2 lety +5

    I know the truth when I hear it. And, Bob is telling the truth. It hits very close to home.

  • @RCConceptsx
    @RCConceptsx Před 4 lety +13

    Thank you Bob! Just what I needed to hear at this point in my sobriety (20 years). Surrender Judgement and Opinion! I need to continually work the steps. Thank you GOD

  • @Jordanlewis316
    @Jordanlewis316 Před 4 lety +9

    I'm coming up on 6 months sober, I listened to this surrender tape about 20 times trying to convince my head to surrender to the steps again. Bob's tapes mean alot to me and am very greatful to have some with so many similar problems and experiences

  • @LuisRamirez-nw7fh
    @LuisRamirez-nw7fh Před 4 lety +10

    Awesome speaker he understands the disease at a deep level thanks Bob

  • @simonebellerive9054
    @simonebellerive9054 Před 5 lety +13

    Bob D. I have been in and out AA since 1989- 2019. I have allowed myself to run the show through my insecurities for all this time. you are a beacon of reality. God Bless you.

    • @markg.4246
      @markg.4246 Před 5 lety

      Simone, “The most satisfactory years of your existence lie ahead”. (Page 152 of the Big Book) Absolutely true! My mantra is simple, “Live in the problem, or live in the solution”. Best wishes to you!

    • @simonebellerive9054
      @simonebellerive9054 Před 5 lety

      @@markg.4246 thank you.

  • @NoaLives79
    @NoaLives79 Před 10 lety +33

    Today I was feeling really miserable (again), and suddenly I missed Bob's voice. He calms me down.

  • @J2XU2
    @J2XU2 Před 8 lety +31

    In the elation of my sobriety comes the realisation of my actions 🙏

  • @alexkirk5879
    @alexkirk5879 Před 3 lety +6

    August 24, 2019, bob d and my sponsor have helped me stay sober 1 more day, thank you universe.

  • @EmilyLemmon-lv7fv
    @EmilyLemmon-lv7fv Před měsícem +4

    7 days out of prison & 6 days clean. I need every bit of inspiration I can get rn. Thank u for this video.

    • @godfamilycountry2785
      @godfamilycountry2785 Před 7 dny

      6 days clean and sober is fantastic and awesome 👏 I have friends who’ve OD and would give anything to have 6 days! Congratulations on your freedom keep coming back to recovery!! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏❤

  • @thesoberempire
    @thesoberempire Před 3 lety +4

    Whose listening in 2021? No one delivers the message quite like Bob!!

  • @heatherarsenault4242
    @heatherarsenault4242 Před 5 lety +31

    This is just what I needed to hear. Going on 7 months of sobriety. Surrender really wasn't in my vocabulary until now. God bless us all.

    • @jasonjones4036
      @jasonjones4036 Před 5 lety

      God bless you Heather

    • @shortbus1127
      @shortbus1127 Před 2 lety

      How's it going my friend

    • @stevenm2526
      @stevenm2526 Před rokem

      Heather hopefully you are well I am wondering if your still sober, the low rate is amazing I now have 3 years much happiness to you

    • @heatherarsenault4242
      @heatherarsenault4242 Před rokem +1

      @@stevenm2526 yes I am still sober. 4 yrs 2 months. I belong to the no matter what we don't drink. I lost my beautiful 33 yrs old daughter 21 months ago to an overdose I still didn't pickup.

    • @stevenm2526
      @stevenm2526 Před rokem +1

      @@heatherarsenault4242 I am so so sorry about your daughter, it is so shitty how this disease works and all the new drugs these kids do not have a chance. Glad you are still sober, much health and happiness

  • @HomemakerDaze
    @HomemakerDaze Před 2 lety +4

    I love listening to these at the gym while I try to change my life. 2 months clean, relapsed but learnt alot and I really don't wuna relapse again. I have hope. Love you all my AA and NA fam.

  • @jasonpostula6290
    @jasonpostula6290 Před 9 lety +42

    Thanks for pointing out to me that the problem has always been "me" ... what a relief to know! Thank you!

  • @menagomaa7787
    @menagomaa7787 Před 5 lety +84

    there is no pain except the pain from resistance to accept life on life terms

    • @elizabethslawnikowski299
      @elizabethslawnikowski299 Před 4 lety +3

      Thats great! It was the one thing, that he said, that i went back to listen to again!

    • @suesjoy
      @suesjoy Před 4 lety +2

      What we resist, persists!

    • @suesjoy
      @suesjoy Před 4 lety +4

      I’m so full of pain because I can’t see my daughter- she’s in the UK and I live in Taiwan. Taiwan won’t let her come back because of Covid-19. I’m living proof that pain is caused by my resistance to accept life on life’s terms. I find it so hard to surrender to God’s will. I k Le I’m not alone. 💕

    • @menagomaa7787
      @menagomaa7787 Před 4 lety +2

      @@suesjoy i could feel you pain praying that you could see her

    • @quervoatoz9291
      @quervoatoz9291 Před 4 lety

      Bridge?

  • @michaelconnell7808
    @michaelconnell7808 Před rokem +5

    No toes were stepped on in Sweden, I was there from England and it was fantastic. You lit th place up Bob 💛🙏

  • @paulsmith4291
    @paulsmith4291 Před 8 lety +39

    thank god i can listen to this man what ever it is i can relax and know i will be ok thankyou bob

  • @williampaterson4333
    @williampaterson4333 Před 5 lety +7

    Great Honesty and what am example. Thank you ALL !
    May you ALWAYS have peace and love in your hearts 💖 💖💖💖

  • @quentinjackson9804
    @quentinjackson9804 Před 4 lety +4

    I'm trying to surrender always thinking I can beat the odds

  • @kashesan
    @kashesan Před 6 lety +8

    Wow-thank you Bob D and AA. Life saving. Yes.

  • @stop5gnowandrespectlife394

    My notes of the day.
    Deciding that somebody was / is sick does not have to be a condemnation or an unkind, unloving decision. It is simple wisdom. It is a way to "let go and let God" handle that person.
    So I surround myself on a regular basis intimately with people who have surrendered and seriously want the 12 Steps: one step, one day at a time. . . and with those who have already been devotedly working the Steps.
    Your 12 Step work will be a reflection of the five people most involved in your mental life. The essence of their wisdom, attitudes and passions matched with their activities. (The authors you read. The tapes you listen to. The music. The videos. The news channels. The phone chats, texts, emails, lunches, barbeque, evening entertainments with pals you connect with. It's all profoundly impacting your own shit. . .good or bad. Like it or not..
    🙏

  • @aujax1
    @aujax1 Před 7 lety +31

    hands down the best breakdown of the problem of alcoholism ive ever heard

    • @TylerCurtisSteele
      @TylerCurtisSteele Před 6 lety +1

      Was just thinking that

    • @billleemaster9603
      @billleemaster9603 Před 4 lety +3

      There are others who carry great messages about alcoholism: try listening to Peter Marinelli, Keith Lewis, Scott Lee, Chris Raymer, Sandy Beach or Joe Hawk.

    • @timothymiele116
      @timothymiele116 Před 2 lety +1

      He nails it! Describes who i thought was only me!

  • @jerryhernandez6812
    @jerryhernandez6812 Před 8 lety +63

    There is hope brothers and sisters

  • @johnarcher1567
    @johnarcher1567 Před 3 lety +3

    I recently joined Connect The Dots. And tonight I asked Bob to sponsor me based on what he shared about the 4th Step. 5 Minutes in and I'm almost in tears with the identification.

  • @jennifercabral8779
    @jennifercabral8779 Před 4 lety +3

    Surrender is the program and the beginning of a new life

  • @phinnphace
    @phinnphace Před 9 lety +26

    One of the more effective parabolic speakers i have ever been blessed to hear

  • @MrJRK85
    @MrJRK85 Před 9 měsíci +2

    3 years sober and I continue to come to this talk. Tears and goosebumps every time. Bob D is brilliant and a rockstar 😎

    • @HVACOG
      @HVACOG Před 8 měsíci

      ❤ keep it up bro! Right behind you !

  • @corbinrodgers3325
    @corbinrodgers3325 Před 4 lety +13

    "The problem is me and my perception of things"... you hit the nail on the coffin

  • @johncapehart8299
    @johncapehart8299 Před 6 lety +38

    This video saved my life for 58 minutes!

  • @jb1522
    @jb1522 Před 3 lety +6

    Day 1 again. Lost it all. I surrender.

  • @theequatableskeptic8148
    @theequatableskeptic8148 Před 4 lety +7

    Thank GOD for A.A. being a dry drunk is utter hell, I’ve pissed around with my program and it didn’t work. I am almost 3 years and I am where Bob talks about being beaten. I cannot do this alone. Thanks A.A. Emotional sobriety all the way

  • @marcospena1406
    @marcospena1406 Před měsícem +1

    If I’m not in a meeting, I listen to speaker on CZcams cause without even listening or being at a meeting my head that goes a different way so I really need to listen to these speakers and go to meetings because I don’t wanna go down again. I had 12 years my first drink. I am 15 years later. I’m back in the program but I knew where to go to and that was the gift that I received 15 years.

  • @SamFisher__97
    @SamFisher__97 Před 9 měsíci +3

    I'm not an alcoholic, but I am an addict, and I resonate with everyone word Bob sais, and can easily translate his addiction in to my own program for my addiction. Thank you bob

    • @marsharowaihy6725
      @marsharowaihy6725 Před 8 měsíci

      I can’t explain in words the transformation you’ll see if you choose to work the steps.
      Good luck ❤️

    • @tivvy6146
      @tivvy6146 Před 6 měsíci +2

      Hey brother, if you listen to Bob’s other talks you’ll find he’s been a smack-head as well.
      “Our liquor was but a symptom”. ✌️

  • @godfamilycountry2785
    @godfamilycountry2785 Před 7 dny

    The new comer is the most import person in a meeting of AA or NA!! I’m grateful for the new comer to remind me it’s still ugly and dark if I pick up again!! Who ever is reading this it’s no mistake stay strong 💪 and stay in recovery!! Keep your faith strong life gets better as time passes keep coming back!! ❤😊

  • @fishybear1
    @fishybear1 Před 5 lety +34

    Thank you so much. Feeling down today. Struggling. This helped tremendously.

    • @deirdret2824
      @deirdret2824 Před 5 lety +1

      Eric Raiber me too! Love listening to him he makes it so simple

    • @billleemaster9603
      @billleemaster9603 Před 4 lety +1

      If/when those "feelings" arise, I've found it very beneficial to do a mini-4th Step--in WRITING and then proceed to the 5th-9th Steps. Eventually those feelings will cease having power over your thoughts/actions...they may return but not with the power they once had. Try it!

  • @DerekStone
    @DerekStone Před 4 lety +16

    "Everything you've been using to fix yourself has worn off and there's nothing left." Boy can I relate! I got sober at the age of 20 and, since then, I've hit many emotional bottoms in recovery. I'm so happy to see these videos on here. I've just started recording recovery content for youtube myself. I've haven't considered putting one of my leads on here like this. Maybe I should.

    • @ashleydanielle3111
      @ashleydanielle3111 Před 2 lety +2

      20 is the best time to get sober!!

    • @DerekStone
      @DerekStone Před 2 lety +2

      @@ashleydanielle3111 The best time to get sober is 20 years ago. The second best time is today.

    • @nickophonicnicky
      @nickophonicnicky Před 2 lety +3

      Please do put your content on. You might be saving a life.

    • @Actingthemaggot69
      @Actingthemaggot69 Před 2 lety +1

      I got sober at 20 over 9 months ago! Its class. I identify with the emotional bottoms.

  • @joewalter2120
    @joewalter2120 Před 4 lety +4

    Day 2. Thanks for sharing you ESH.

  • @Rockers1121
    @Rockers1121 Před rokem +4

    I had burnt my life to the ground ... one more time ... felt that.

  • @PeaceEpieces
    @PeaceEpieces Před 9 lety +46

    Thing i love about Bob D is his uncanny way of saying things that Ive only ever thought, if that makes sense? Lol great speaker. Thank you Bob!

  • @Johnny-hb3vt
    @Johnny-hb3vt Před 3 lety +2

    Happy anniversary 43 years thanks for showing me how it works !!!!!!!!!!

  • @robertcharles6051
    @robertcharles6051 Před rokem +2

    Happy birthday Bob you are a huge inspiration to me.

  • @sunlightofspirt
    @sunlightofspirt Před 4 lety +3

    One of the most honest , candid & refreshing leads....... “ I always have to much of me” that really hit home ⛓ 🕊

  • @reice19
    @reice19 Před 5 lety +12

    I really wish I had Bob for a sponsor or could get in touch with him; his sponsees are so lucky to have such a man in their lives.

    • @reggienoray1382
      @reggienoray1382 Před 3 lety +1

      Listening at work great still struggling with life but this is helping

    • @imranamuhammadali4243
      @imranamuhammadali4243 Před rokem

      Do you mean bob that founded the organization decades ago

  • @williamrogers7889
    @williamrogers7889 Před 6 lety +56

    This just prevented a relapse frfr

    • @augustinehourigan7453
      @augustinehourigan7453 Před 6 lety

      THANKS FOR YOUR HONESTY WILLIAM ROGERS.

    • @ivisburris705
      @ivisburris705 Před 5 lety +1

      Woweeeeee!!! Thatz what the meetings do, PREVENT!
      ITZ about PREVENTION

    • @stephaniesoscia3336
      @stephaniesoscia3336 Před 4 lety +1

      Stay strong. Really glad you decided to come here and look for something helpful and so much more glad you found this and it did help. CZcams can be an amazing tool ;-)

    • @wallysmomma7870
      @wallysmomma7870 Před 4 lety

      Keep coming back it works if you work it one day at a time 👍🏼🙏🏻🤗

  • @bbtwo7957
    @bbtwo7957 Před 2 lety +3

    My man said "when I get sober it's gets worst but when I watch you get sober it looks wonderful" 😂...I love all of you alcoholics in these comments. I hope everyone is well. I hope this video gave you hope the same as it did me. Hang in there please, you are not alone I promise you that.

  • @IngaCombs
    @IngaCombs Před 2 lety +1

    Bob D is the first speaker I listhened to 3 1/2 years ago, thank you I am still sober.

  • @stephanieroman5735
    @stephanieroman5735 Před 2 lety +1

    I am grateful today for today for my time

  • @gingerlanger9551
    @gingerlanger9551 Před 9 lety +26

    Life saving information in these talks. I am grateful. Thank you.

  • @MsRose69
    @MsRose69 Před 8 měsíci +1

    I have been trying to fix my spiritual malady for 6 years, ever since I had a stroke. I used AA as a revolving door until my stroke. Then I became a dry drunk. Fortunately I am now back into the rooms of AA. This speaker meeting was absolutely awesome I'm having a terrible time surrendering. Thank you Bob.

  • @aletheacorrea6149
    @aletheacorrea6149 Před 6 lety +9

    I find this speaker amazing. He really knows what he is talking. The mind of an alcoholic when not drinking is restless irritable and discontent. Doctors know very little about how an alcoholic in recovery gets better. I have been told one do not pick that first drink no matter what, attend meetings, join a group, get into service, find a sponsor.

    • @pauldavidhaynes8243
      @pauldavidhaynes8243 Před rokem

      Why would a doctor know? Unless its an alcoholic doctor. As I heard this speaker say, "a degree" thermometers have degrees and I know where they get stuck" 🙂.....

  • @willthomas7666
    @willthomas7666 Před 2 lety +3

    I needed to hear this.i related to alot of what this guy is saying while the ppl in the background laughed I didn't and it resonated with me alot.going on 2 months clean and this helped alot

  • @victorventura9164
    @victorventura9164 Před 6 lety +13

    The dark ages of AA, so glad the light has crept in on long island and ive been blessed to step on the beam.

    • @621u3
      @621u3 Před 3 lety

      Well said!

  • @benjaminpeterson4245
    @benjaminpeterson4245 Před 6 lety +6

    I have found great power from these recordings. Thank you.

  • @outenwilkes5347
    @outenwilkes5347 Před 8 lety +8

    long live Bob D.!

  • @easternsunguitarist5791
    @easternsunguitarist5791 Před 6 lety +10

    Beautiful speech. Thanks for this

  • @thebrazentruth
    @thebrazentruth Před 2 lety +3

    I can’t believe how many notes I took. I needed this.

  • @sergiourra4606
    @sergiourra4606 Před 11 měsíci +1

    The chuck chamberlain story hit so me so profoundly. BOB D amazing 👏

  • @peteshaw5288
    @peteshaw5288 Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you for helping me stay sober especially when I at work I listen to you

  • @johnblasiak9331
    @johnblasiak9331 Před rokem +2

    Superb messages really hit the spot on the spot

  • @kylemedeiros6907
    @kylemedeiros6907 Před 4 lety +3

    I’ve listened to this at least 20 times and I’m an NA guy.

  • @georgetomaskie2758
    @georgetomaskie2758 Před 3 lety +3

    This is awesome. Bob is my great great grand sponsor. I’m so thankful for where AA has taken me and my life is just amazing

  • @Nothingzero123
    @Nothingzero123 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you Bob D.

  • @barbarawhite2918
    @barbarawhite2918 Před 7 lety +16

    Awesome speaker I been sober for 9 years now went through the steps just learning this need to apply this everyday

  • @charliknight7725
    @charliknight7725 Před 3 lety +5

    I am grateful of this message. Thank you for sharing and allowing me to participate in a much needed meeting during my job search.

  • @tinapuleo5279
    @tinapuleo5279 Před 2 lety +4

    Thank you for helping me get through the day I’m a alcoholic I’m afraid everyday but this helps me I don’t want to die because of my sickness I pray every day

    • @calila650
      @calila650 Před 2 lety +1

      Praying for you 🙏

    • @tinapuleo5279
      @tinapuleo5279 Před 2 lety +1

      I’m glad I can say it whoever you are thank you for being kind

    • @tinapuleo5279
      @tinapuleo5279 Před 2 lety +1

      @@calila650 thank you Lynn god bless

    • @lindamalzone4903
      @lindamalzone4903 Před 2 lety +1

      Tina AA and God have got your back and so do we…prayers everyday for you. Lin in Tampa sober 30 yrs.

  • @kboome225
    @kboome225 Před 7 lety +6

    You have powerful over every single thing you do and the teaching of the Bible will guide you to realize that you are perfect not broken. Do what you want to do in you're life. I was in a meeting and I realized I could do whatever I wanted. Today I have my private practice 3 years after getting my MD. And a wonderful residency in a hospital in Baltimore. I thank aa for surrendering all my defects and leaving them there that night and making me into a machine free from depression addiction and all negative thinking.
    Perfection is normal 1 day is the most time you ever have to spend on a problem you're life is for successes.