a video for anyone going through a burnout
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- čas přidán 3. 07. 2024
- So I wrote a song about a big burnout I experienced a couple years ago, only to relapse the day prior to releasing it...
Thankfully this burnout has been very minimal in comparison, and I’ve been able to move through it rather swiftly thanks to everything I learned from the first one. In this episode I share some of what has been helping me get back on my feet, in the hopes that it can be of comfort to you if you’re in a similar situation.
🔗 My links: linktr.ee/reineorelia
⌛ TIME STAMPS ⌛
00:00 My story
05:08 My song
05:35 This pain will end
06:53 Time is relative
08:15 Acceptance is not resignation
10:50 Embracing painful emotions
14:30 Be the judge in the courtroom of your mind
17:31 Keep doing things you love (even if it requires a little energy)
19:12 Conclusion & more resources to help you
📚 RESOURCES 📚
Primal Trust: www.primaltrust.org/
The Mind Body Man: / themindbodyman
All my life I’ve felt quite secure and confident and self-assured of all my decisions in life and only recently as life demands have lessened allowing me more time to be mindful of life again, I fell into an existential crisis especially after witnessing the death of my mother in my arms. Lost my footing in this life for a moment there and had to take time to ground myself again in the first principles I’ve come to accept. Going through this made me question my beliefs and values and truly tests what is important in life. I’m glad I had spent my life building on solid ground and not on quicksand because it made it easier for me to recover. I truly want to believe in the truest reality and as close as I can get to that, I will be happy. This is hard on days when you start to question even Rene Descartes “I think, therefore I am”. He seems to say existence precedes essence. What if our lives are just Gods thoughts? I say this because the Bible says “for in him (God), we live, we move, and we have our being”. This seems to say essence precedes existence!
Firstly I wanted to thank you very much for making this video!
I could relate with almost everything you said.
I am now a university student, I am in pharmacy school and I guess that the reason why I am now in a burnout is because I overworked too much.
You see I am now on my exam period.
For the two first exams I revised SO INTENSELY that I guess it surpassed the capacity of my brain and here I am now :/
The worst is that I couldn't revise for my exam (which is tomorrow) and I am super afraid to fail 😞.
The worst is that I don't know when all this burnout will end
I still have 7 exams left :/
I truly hope I won't fail at them all
Being in a burnout sucks and I hate how people think I am simply lazy, like DO YOU THINK I TAKE PLEASURE IN FAILING AT MY TESTS?!!!! I am not comfortable with that situation.
And people keep telling me: "you should be more disciplined and you should oblige yourself to do the things you don't wanna do".
Trust me it's not as easy as it seems! HECK EVEN *READING* 10 PAGES FEEL SOOOOOO OVERWHELMING!!!!
I truly am trying to study and to make my parents proud but this is really consuming me :/
Because of my burnout I am currently having a rollercoaster of emotions and thoughts running through my head: I start questioning my capacities to continue studying pharmacy and I am seriously doubting my capacities but I suppose that it will come to an end eventually *[?]*
Thank you so much for your wishes 💟 it truly means a lot to have someone comprehensive.
And for what is about trying to keep doing something that I enjoy... I love learning new languages. I started learning Mandarin Chinese and would love to continue. But I often feel guilty when doing so because I am like "Why are you using your energy for that?! You should be studying biochemistry?!"
And I end up not doing it :/
I already have little to no energy so adding this to that just ruins my mood.
I do feel this shame and grief you're talking about and I will say that I feel guilty because I believe that I am not studying as hard as I should be :(
I hope that this will soon end
Thanks for sharing your experience, I completely understand. I’ve totally been there, feeling like even reading a couple pages of anything was too overwhelming. You deserve to give yourself some grace, you clearly want to do right by everyone in your life but your body and your psyche need some rest and that is perfectly understandable. Like you said, it’s not a sign of weakness nor laziness. It’s my belief that most sensitive people go through phases like this in their lives.
I know it’s hard to believe when you’re living through it, but you’ll get past this and if your grades suffer a little bit in the process, that’s ok. Trust that life will go on and that you will land on your feet in the end. Refer to your own judgment here of course, this is just my 2 cents and I’m not a professional, but I just want you to know that it’s all going to be ok even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
(Also, it definitely sounds like continuing with your Mandarin classes would be a wonderful idea!)
@@existentialgroove Thank you for your words.
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Thank you for your words of encouragement ❤️❤️ I think I’m on the cusp on getting out of my burnout. I just choose to look at things differently and I feel much better about all the things I have do to on a daily/weekly basis. Taking a 2 day break helped SO much, I think we all just need a break sometimes (: Also the song is lovely ❤️❤️❤️
Wonderful to hear you’re starting to find your footing again! So beautiful that you were able to listen to your body and take things into your own hands. We certainly do need a break every now and then. Thank you so much for your comment, sending love x
Thank you. I've been passively going through such a state as you describe for some months now and actively for the past month or so. It is exhausting and debilitating to such an extent it feels like it will never end. I'm happy to hear you managed to get better and I'll try to implement some of the coping methods you've talked about in my own life. I wish you all the best.
Thank you for your comment, so glad this was able to be of some comfort to you! For what it’s worth, I’ve seen many people get to the other side of this, you’re not alone and this will end. Sending you lots of courage.