How to Gain the Trust of a Cat
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- čas přidán 3. 06. 2024
- Hello and welcome to AnimalWised. We are always trying to find ways to help guardians strengthen the bonds they have with their pets. In this video we'll show you 5 basic tips on how to gain the confidence of a cat, whether an adult or a kitten. You may need to gain acat's trust as they are new to your family, but it may also come in hand if you meet a stray or abandoned cat's not easy to make a cat trust you, but following our guidelines can help with a cat who is afraid or aggressive as they are wary of you.
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Just rescued a kitten alone, no mommy, ran right to me. Wish me luck.
Hope you two are doing alright and bonding with each other.
The fact that the kitten ran right to you is already a good indication that he/she has the beginnings of being an outstanding lifelong companion. Good luck. "Mister Lucy" was a very small kitten and not old enough to be away from his mom when I rescued him a little more than 13 years ago. He is the best friend and best companion I ever had. One important thing to remember, never tease your cat. They won't appreciate it and they won't understand it. Mister Lucy was so trusting I could spray the patio off with the hose and could spray within a foot of him when he was lying there and he would never even flinch because he knew that I would never squirt him with the garden hose. He was the most personable, easy going, well mannered and gentle cat ever.
Ermahgerd kitty!!! 🐈🐈🐈🐈🐱🐱
I rescued 2 feral 8 week old kittens. They were very ill (in fact, the rest of the litter had already died) so the vet had me put a gel on the inside of the eyelids and there were liquid meds, as well. To do this, I wrapped them up together, in a towel, did the meds first, then continued to hold them, while I watched TV and occasionally spoke to them. Most of the time, I was "talking" to an empty room when I came in to refresh their food, water and scoop. After a couple of months, it was like a light switch and they came to me to seek affection...then I became their Mommy. Watching them play together, clean each other and curl up with each other became such a joy. Hat's off to you for rescuing your fur baby.
that happend to me 3 times XD
So you don’t own CATS...they own YOU!?
Yep
My Thoughts pretty much
Good thing I own two cats instead of one.
Basically
Literally PUSSYwhipped.
1. GIVE THEM *TIME*
2. MAKE THEM ASSOCIATE *YOUR PRESENCE WITH POSITIVITY*
3. AVOID *PUNISHMENT*
4. *PLAY* WITH THEM *DAILY*
5. GIVE THEM *PLENTY* OF *AFFECTION*
What if my cat avoids everyone
Thank you!
Why are you shouting at me
The steps to become a good servant to your Master Cat🤣 Crazy Cat people
Thank you for yelling directly at me. I understand cats more for it
Still getting used to being a slave and serving my cat overlord. Wish me luck.
Update: I have two cat overlords now. The first one is a Tortie named Eren, the other is a white kitten named Mori.
Same I’m trying to sleep rn and she’s on my stomach and I can’t move and get comfortable please help 😂
Kenny McCormick there is Five cats laying on me including a puppy!!!
@@evelynvic7420 I know right
Still serving it?
@@fade3485 Yes, as a matter of fact she is currently sitting on my chair where I'm supposed to work so I had to move my laptop elsewhere.
If it rubs it's body or tail over you or your feet , congrats you are part of it's territory and if it touches your head with it's then more congrats you are part of it's family
sounds good!
I’m a part of my cats family!
1 of them i am in the territory the other one want nothing from me 🙈
but my cat sit on my lap and sleep but at night it is trouble for me ples suggest me something and my kitty is 2 month old
i'm part of my older cat family,my younger never rub me,i think he just doesnt like doing it
Instructions unclear, cat has attempted several assassinations, please advise!
And, in every case, the attempts were 100% justified...lol
Don’t give it food or it will get energized and will keep attempting.
Did you turn it off and on again??
By the sounds of it, you're doing it right 👍
please try to restart it and if that doesnt work, you are hopeless
My cat is one of the sweetest cats he followed me everywhere and ALWAYS purrs he was a calm cat. R. I .P ;-;
Awww losing a pet is always so hard!! Im so sorry 😔❤
They tend to die
@@ethanchanga1316 Every 60 seconds in Africa a minute passes.
@@someguyyouknow1635 *ah yes, the floor is made of floor*
Rip
Fun fact: You cant move when a cat is laying on you
If it's dead I can move freely
@@joseandre4603 lel
Why
Omg so true, I have a cat like she is a bit chonky so she is heavy and if I move she would literally give me death stares
How do you carry a cat?? i nee help
Didn't work. Found my cat approaching me with a crudely fashioned shiv last night.
Guess you shouldn't have tried to cut his catnip with that weak-ass lemon balm.
Yeah they wear them on their feet..most call them claws😉
🤣🤣🤣
those are called cat gifts. it means they like you
I was not a cat person, but was living with a girl who had a number of cats, including a Russian Blue who was a little tubby around the middle and had a dread on her back just south of her shoulder blades where she couldn't reach. She did NOT like people and would run and hide as soon as I would walk in the room. One day, I got it in my head to cut that dread off and I suffered quite a few scratches/bites when I would brush her back every day for the next couple of weeks. But when I woke up one morning to her head butting me and purring, it was pretty special. She was my little buddy after that.
Awwww. :3 this made my day!
Awesome 😄
I have a Russian blue!
previous cat owner here. I believe from your description of events that the dread was causing her pain. you may have subconsciously picked up on the 'signals' she was giving off, which would explain your sudden desire to cut it off, and constantly groom her. it also appears it took her some time to realize 'this human isn't going to hurt me no matter what I do, and she help me with my grooming by getting that spot on my back I cant reach. she is my friend.' cats tend to be fairly reasonable creatures, and the motives behind various behaviors can easily be intuited if you spend time thinking about things.
Write a book
I rescued a 4 year old female cat from the Animal Shelter today. She’s hiding under the couch since we got home 2 hrs ago. I will leave her alone and respect her space. I’m sure this has been a stressful day for her.
Update? Dealing with the same thing
@@dannishae my Cat came out on the 3 rd day ate her dinner, drank water then jumped in my lap. We’ve been friends since. She’s been a great cat. She used the pine pellets litter box the first night and every night since. No messes yet. She’s afraid to go outside so far. But I wouldn’t mind a indoor cat.
Some cats take longer to come out of hiding. Be patient. People say never bother them when they’re in their safe place. It’s like their security blanket. Good luck. 👍
Dealing with the same, a one year old female that was a mom recently and lived on the streets. She hides in every corner she can find and doesn't respond to me very much when I speak or play with things next to her 😭 Its been two days
@@Meryrequiem hang in there. I watched a bunch of videos about shy shelter cats. Some people say it can take from 2 to 6 weeks for a cat to come out from hiding. I was talking to my cat even though she was hiding for almost 3 days. But I never intruded on her safe space. Cats need to know they have a safe place to go just in case.
@@Kelly-st7bu Thank you so much, I speak to her when i give her the food and when i Enter a room She's in. She's been crying all nigth long I hsvent been able to sleep in three days, hopefully she calms down today . It is very stressful, thank you for your words
I watched this with my kitten sitting on me and she aproved
I can imagine her making a 👍
😂😂😂
Same here
She woulda said *purrfect*
Blink your eyes slowly at them when making eye contact. Showing your eyelids is a gesture of friendliness to cats. Don't look them in the eye with your eyes wide open, because both dogs and cats see that as a threat.
JStryker47 is it true?
Daniel Oliveira yes it is true it also shows that you trust them by letting your guard down and closing your eyes
thank you New strategies help.
No wonder cats love Asians!
@@shaunzhang5537racist
what am I doing here? it´s 1am and I don´t own a cat.
Same
I'm gonna get one
Sebønti_Artz adopt dont shop
@@abc92800 there are no pet shops where i live ;-; and i ended up not getting one
Get one
Dont forget the slow wink. Cats read body language, tone of voice, and routines. In trying to become a part of a cats life, in addition to the tips given in the video, leave a piece of your clothing with your scent on it near their spaces. They will learn your scent and it will become associated with you.
Thanks bro!
1: give your cat time
2: make them used to your home
3:dont give them punishments
4:play with them every day
5:give them alot of attention
6: be their slave
Done!
@@HEATHENS5074 WHAT
Thank you for commenting this since i dont understand the other tips
@@HEATHENS5074 exactly. i will only do this to the most affectionate of cats. screw the rest of em
Thank you I definitely didn't watxh the video and your totally not just repeating what the video said
How to win a cat's trust? Stop treating them like dogs and don't be pushy
i don't even own a dog
In the video it says to respect their boundaries lol not pushy! :o
And don't hover over them like a child either.
6. Conspire with them against the dog. Cat's don't understand loyalty, but they do understand conspiracy against a common enemy.
Fifthrider XD
Saying cats don't understand loyalty is just generalizing them.
Fifthrider cats are loyal 😒
It was a joke. Not all things stated in life are facts. Sorry you didn't get the joke.
I know. My cat is as loyal to me as many dogs. I shall refund the money you paid to read my joke and apologize for the inconvenience. (
Come on now you know 50% of people searched up”how to gain a cats trust without it running away”
food food and food
Svetla Nikolova my cat does not like food. I have tried everything! She only eats what and when, when she decides. The leaving alone part and snuggling is going really good. It’s so funny how she always wants to sit with me or alone. Like she hates the rest of my fam bc they cuddle her too hard and can never sit still😂
Its #1 rule to not move if a cat is sleeping in your lap
@@serena7371 same with me lol. She doesn't necessarily hate them but runs off when they are about to cuddle her
Yaaaas. 😂😭
I got a new kitten today and i'm using this xD
Edit: she’s almost a year old now WOW
@@crinawma314 what?
Same lol
@@Freyaaaaa7777 Agree What do you mean @C Renawma?
You didn't adopted the cat the cat adopted you
I'm gonna get one this week
People always told me that connecting with a cat would take some time... within a day we were cuddling on the couch for hours. Shes full of love, she has enough love in her heart for everyone on earth ❤️
How any tips
Depends on cat.. I have two cats.. connecting to yellow one was so easy..but the black one still don't allow to touch.
Cats are like: Wow, this person feeds me, waters me, and takes care of me, I must be such a ✨👑QUEEN 👑 ✨
I’ve found that if you’re making eye contact with a cat, it helps a lot to blink slowly and have a calm expression.
They might blink back or calm down if you do this. I think it’s a message meaning “I trust you” and the cat might be like “ok, you trust me, I’ll try trusting you” and possibly try relaxing more around you.
Then you go back to doing your own thing or gently holding your hand out (or something with your smell) for them to sniff.
Once my nervous kitten came up to me and sniffed my arm, we made eye contact and I slow blinked and she did it back and walked away.
She later came back and just walked back and forth from my head and arms back to the bottom of my bed. She did this to get use to the idea of laying with me and I just let her do her own thing.
Now she likes to sleep on my chest and it’s adorable ^_^
What should i do if i hold out my hand for my cat to smell it but they just decided to bite and play with it? ;-; my cat is just a kitten btw, I’m new on taking care of cats so I’m not really knowledgeable with these kind of stuffs so sorry..
Doreen Morales oh that’s a big negative, you want to teach them tht ur hand is not a toy. That behavior will carry over into adulthood for sure if u don’t stop it now. Buy a couple of toys like the mouse on a string for it to play with. U want to strongly reject the cat playing with ur hand as a toy and biting it. I have a cat now and didn’t know any better and it’s awful when ur petting her and she thinks it’s play time and rolls onto her back, grabs ur hand with her front legs, puts claws into ur hand, starts kicking and biting u.
I heard that slow blinking to a cat means to them that you trust and love them. So if a cat does it back, they're saying that they trust and like you too!
Cats return your love a million times over if you are patient. I have noticed when they hit about 7 or 8 years old, they tend to REALLY get calmer and more overtly affectionate. Cecil likes to slide up next to me and be hugged, gently, and rubbed on his back or his side. He'll "nuzzle" me and scent me and just relax with his eyes almost shut and purrrrrr....he treats me better than 99% of PEOPLE ever did for sure.
I know what you mean. My cat has seen me through 3 fiancees. And has been more loyal and loving then they ever were. So can I just marry my cat by now.
@@eldrenofthemist2492 good decicion hope you make a happy cat family. Congradulations.
Super gamer concatulations
EldrenOfTheMist happy cat anniversary
@@eldrenofthemist2492 oh nawh bruh lol😂
I've been owned by +35 cats in my life... I've actually had this happen... I was walking down an alley when I lived in Baltimore, and a cat ran off the back porch, climbed under the fence, plopped down in front of me and wouldn't let me past until I gave him a tummy rub and some snuggles. I made sure to remember the house and would walk past every couple of days, to find him doing that each time !
The feline's staff person ( female ) told me that she was amazed by that, as she said he avoided most people who came by.
I told her that cats know a 'cat person' so I wasn't surprised by her cat's action... ended up by the lady being a friend, since she figured that if her cat would so obviously choose me... I must be a good guy.
I've always attracted cats... and I've never refused a purrball's request for attention !
CATS RULE !
@@confidentcoyote7731 Booooooo! Hiss!
@@erikk77 Hiss!
Old cat lady vibes
Wait...did you said you gave a cat a tummy rub, only a god can do that!
What you say is very true. I do firmly believe both cats & dogs can sense if you are a cat or dog person, or if you don't. Whenever I am walking on a sidewalk or on a walking trail, I ALWAYS get dogs coming up to me with their owners wanting to be pet. Same when I visit someone with a cat - usually, the cat comes meowing to me wanting attention. Hey, I'm not gonna turn down some animal love! :)
I have 3 brownish cats:
The big old cat was very sweet when
we first met; The soft looking one is
a bit shy, doesn't want to get touch;
The small and only feminine one was
a bit sassy~ but all in all are such
angels when you get their trust,
especially the old one- he's the
kindness among them!
Here’s a tip when I first got my cat I had her in the living room let her roam around all while I laid on my back and let her inspect me...I’ve been a slave to her ever since
When the cat isn't absolutely horrified by humans, touching them frequently makes them see touch is normal and even good :) Finding out what treats and toys a specific cat likes is important too because they are all different and may not like same things as others. Also let them sleep, don't wake them up unnecessarily. It would be amazing if the cat can climb high, since they feel safest in a high place where they can see everything. Cat caves are good too. It's also good to make the cat carrier a normal part of their environment so they won't associate it with only negative things like going to the vet. Place food and water in multiple places so they can eat and drink wherever it feels the safest, then you can see which is their favourite place and start using that for feeding. Also, if they get dirty don't soak them, use wet towels to clean them as getting wet it's extremely stressful and sometimes even harmful for some cats. These were from the top of my head, sorry for rambling!
Yes, there is a stray cat that comes to my neighbor's house and I've just about befriended him/her. Seeing me interact and pet the other three cats has gone a long way towards that!
Thanks!!!
Hi I need help, I've just inherited a cat from family friend the cat is nine months old, it has been a few days she just hides behind the couch and hasn't eaten anything need advice please.
Watched this for fun. I've had my cat Sami since she was a kitten. She's about 10 now and she's always by my side. Sleeps on me at night and whenever I'm sitting (even on the toilet) she's jumps on my lap without even asking or without any warning. She's my furry baby and I love her to pieces. It'll be hard to let her go and move on when she one day passes. People have told me she's lucky to have me because my mom and I give her a good home. I tell them I'm lucky to have her. Don't know what I did to deserve so much love. To deserve such a loyal lifetime friend. (My mom adopted Sami and/but Sami adopted me.)
Meow
That's beautiful! I hope Sami's well 💕
The toilet part tho
@@darlisaurr She is. She has a little brother now. He's a six-month-old bobtail kitten. She lives with me now too. When I moved into my own apartment, my mother let me take her.
Thank you, i just took in a stray kitten (about 5mths old) that turned up at my door starving, she was just skin & bones. She's obviously been traumatised & bullied by other cats by her scars & her reactions to seeing other cats. She is very growly, unsure of everything except food but each day is a little better. This video makes sense to me regarding her now.
So far i've mostly let her do her own thing to settle in how she wants to. I wish i could just pick her up & hug & kiss her until she feels safe, comfortable & confident but i can't. It breaks my heart that she has these trust issues & forced to go through what she's been through. It will take time & i have to be patient.
7. Let them sniff your hand for as long as they want to before you attempt to touch them.
If they don't run away or back away there's some trust and comfort. Once there's total trust and comfort they'll headbutt it.
There are these wild cats living outside my house and I always feed them because they were closest friends to my first ever cat and now they let me pet them
Patience is key, be patient and don’t give up. Progress may be slow but progress is progress, your kitty will come around
So, I adopted 2 cats together from the same litter a while ago and I bonded greatly with both of them. Until a few days ago, the brother tragically passed away. During this time of grief, my other cat has been very distant and nervous around me, she’s not eating or drinking and just seems very confused all the time. It’s like she lost her other half and she’s just not there. I find her meowing a lot lately, just randomly, as if she’s still waiting for her brother to come home. Anyways, I could really use some prayers right now during this hard, devastating time. And thank you so much for this video. 😊
Yep. The fastest way to a cat's heart, in my experience, is by ignoring them. Haha
same with women
@@reginstravels no
My wife and I have always had numerous cats in our home (2 story with full basement access) and we treat them as part of the family which they are. They are always rescues and it is so gratifying to see them develop their personalities and become more comfortable in the new forever home we provide. Always fresh fountain water and good quality food plus health care as needed. We cherish them and spoil them and they love it (and show it) just as we love them being part of our family.
They are amazing creatures to say the least IF you treat them as you would like to be treated....so to speak.
I adopted my baby yesterday and she already trusts me and shows me her belly! The rescue I got her from allows you to walk around the building, it’s almost like a house, and pet them. I did this every day for a week before I adopted her so she already ha my trust!! I love her. She helps me so much emotionally I can’t even put it to words
I've been adopted by a local feral cat and it's taken me a few months of feeding her, giving her treats and slow blinking to get her to allow me to pet her (a little!) and come in the house (for a while!). It's been a trial of patience, but the satisfaction is priceless!
It sure is! Feel free to let us know about any progress!
Me watching cat tutorials without even owning a cat.
Me after reading ur comment: *ReLaTaBlE To Me... DoN't MiNd Me.😂*
2:08 love the... cat
-sighs-
BoNZo Speechless HAHA! yes nice.. cat.
nice
HAHHAAHAHAH indeed
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We adopted a lovely little stray cat who was terrified of people. In one word, the best thing you can give a cat in this situation is TIME. Time to know where things are, time to get used to your personality, and you to get used to theirs., and time just learn to feel safe❤️🐾🐈.
Just Rescued a kitten🐱💗 no mommy, was all alone wandering around in the parking lot at my job for days. Will be taking this baby to the vet to get checked. Wish me luck 🤞🏼
How did it go
2:03 Loved that playing cat!
You can just replace “cat” with “20 year old woman” and you have the perfect dating guide
Denarii - lololololol
It’s so true it hurts
@billiards68 reaplace toys with jewelery or gifts :P
You mean 20 year old woman you kidnapped and is confused to why you treat them so well
😂 I’m dead
When I adopted my house panther, Jinx, I got her home after a 45 min car drive, where she sang the song of her people the whole way and I sang it right back, I let her out of the carrier downstairs in the living room, put out food and water and a litter tray and left, leaving the door open. 2 hours later she was curled up asleep on my lap upstairs in the computer room.
Ahhh, the beginning of a beautiful friendship no doubt.
i doubt it, why? because people who comment stories with their pets are obviously fakes.
Error_Gamer I've walked up to Cats in Shelters and petted them while they were in cages. So I don't doubt what SevCaswell says what happened to him and his cat.
Error_Gamer Troll and liar 😡
I recently adopted a stray kitten(reason why I'm watching this). She looks quite happy in my presence, purrs when I pet her, plays with me, and most importantly recently introduced me to another cat(I guess her elder sibling) who lives in the building.
I was a dog person before but I love her and hope she loves me too.
This cat just walks right up to me and meows at me everytime I walk up this hill near this house this cat is always there!
Having 8 years of experience with cats and shelters in my entire life worth of experience with cats in my home, I'd say the most important thing is by far calm and patience. But this was a great video and you hit on some wonderful and amazing points that really are true for getting a cat to trust you Bravo
I adopted a Semi-Feral rescue two years ago. I am slowly making progress, I am her person. She had to be Fostered bc she wasn't "adoptable".. She was left behind bc she was pregnant. I try to keep environment calm and tons of patience, and show I trust her and visa versa. She is still scared of boys bc they had thrown rocks and sticks at her. She refused to leave her babies. I am in MI and she came from Cinn. OH. I knew I wanted her immediately, to show her unconditional love, attention, and to know she is safe. I just signed up to volunteer at a Shelter to give back for her rescuers not giving up on her. God Bless you.
Julie Hebda bless you for your love and patience with these beautiful creatures. There is truly nothing in the world like the love of a cat and the pride (for me) of knowing that I am their human.
Julie Hebda "I try to keep environment calm"
Lol.... while your cat enjoys calm, my cat loves heavy metal and rock music, sometimes she will just sit next to my records, stare at them, meow, then meow at me until I play an album.
Some cats need 30 minutes of play every day, mine just needs 30 minutes of Iron Maiden, Black Sabbath, or Ramones a day.
Jorge Sebastian Ortega Monreal that's amazing! :-D I have a cat who is a HUGE fan of Mozart. Lol still falls into more the "peace and quiet" relm then your heavy metal lover, but it's fun all the same. 😄
I leave classical music on for her. Hope she likes it. LOL
For those of you who just want to get your friend's cat to feel at ease with or approach you next time you visit, I can offer you four tips to help. (I am well known as 'the cat whisperer' among family and friends, and even the 'scared' or 'mean' cats are usually sitting in my lap by the end of a visit.)
One, get on their level. Or even sink below it. I tend to kneel or sit at a middle distance from the kitty.
Two, relax your posture. Let your shoulders drop and all your muscles soften. Cats are masters of body language, and any tension you carry will put them ill at ease.
Three, slow blink. This is the one my friends scoff at, but I am serious. It's almost magical how a slow blink will calm a cat down. I've heard some people call it a cat's way of saying "I love you," and I could see that.
Four, present your hand, but in a very specific way. Keep your elbow loose, and keep your fingers in a loose curl. Never extend your fingers. This gives an aggressive, 'claws out' message to them, whereas a closed hand invites them to sniff and perhaps rub against you. For some cats, presenting your hand up close will be fine, if they are not opposed to you being near to them. If a cat is aggressive, stressed, scared or timid, doing so from across the room (or down the driveway... yes, I have a habit of petting cats around the neighborhood....) leaves the option up to them as to when they want to approach. You may have to give up and try again in a little bit, but eventually the cat will come towards you and sniff.
Don't pet them unless they invite you to, even after the hand ritual is complete. Try to be as aware of their own body language, posture and tension as they are of yours. But if you're patient, not pushy and calm, you too can become a cat whisperer. :3
Found this video very teaching and eye opening. Have had a stray cat roaming the property for a while and I've wanted nothing but to he able to pet him and make him feel welcome. Watching this video made me realise I was doing it all wrong
I’m adopting a cat who didn’t have a good life before getting put in the shelter. This really helped. I hope he likes our house and we will treat him well.
I was told by a vet decades ago that if you get a kitten, that it's better to get two, preferably from the same litter... that's so when you gone at work/shopping... they have someone to socialize with. I lived on 10 acres of country land as a kid and our 8 cats would damn well invite other neighborhood cats over for dinner !
We had to get a 18" wide pan, fill it halfway full, walk out the back kitchen door, yell 'KITTY...KITTY...KITTY " THEN DROP the pan and step back ! Within seconds all you saw was about 14 - 18 cat behind's with tails straight up and many sounds of ' nom nom nom '
ROFLMFAO !
thats so cute lmao what a good life to live
@@tigerlover1021
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It was a blast !
I never lacked a lap warmer in a Michigan winter !
2:13 camera man smooth af
🤣
True
weirdo
@Ramadan Steve what's the correct timeline?
2:03 😂 was expecting a comment about this
Thank you, Counselor Troi.Your empathic feline understanding is helpful to many.
Adopted two kittens without a mother!!!
They're so cute I'm loving those lil babies...
Rest in Peace Chloe, I swear the last five years were absolutely amazing with you
When i was growing up my cat had a deep dislike of me and refused to let me anywhere near unless she was half asleep on my parents bed. She never fully trusted me until about a year before her death, when she moved in to a little cardboard box home i made her under the coffee table
Stray cats are surprisingly easy to tame with one formula I’ve followed. It will take a little time, but not necessarily more than a month. Don’t start out by approaching a cat. Let it see you every day and talk to it. It will be accustomed to you being around enough that they will feel comfortable with you being nearby. Begin offering it food. Get closer every day you feed it. Eventually it will be comfortable with you being very close. After it is fine with you being a few inches away, you can easily pet it while it is eating. After this, the cat will actually begin to pursue you. When it wants to eat, or when you are generally talking to it, you will notice it rubbing against nearby objects (like it wants to be petted but is cautious). It will inch closer by itself and rub against you leg. That’s pretty much it. I don’t recommend picking it up. Let it move away and don’t bother it if it doesn’t welcome your advances. The interaction just becomes easier from here.
I’ve tamed three stray cats this way. I don’t recommend doing this if you are not willing to adopt the cat or don’t currently have someone else willing to.
I tried petting while he eating but,he move away
Looks unsure or nervous cat
Hi and thank you for this video. I have had my cat for 3 weeks she is around 7 and was from a legal rescue place. It wasn't till a couple of days ago I told my daughter she let me pick her up, and didn't struggle that my daughter said she was trusting me. I had no idea about this. This video has some great tips that I will follow. This is the first pet I've had that is just mine all others have been someone else's. Thank you xx
Also important: don't stare a cat directly in the eyes. They see that as very intimidating.
Yes, in the cat world, staring can mean a couple of things. One is that of, I'm worried about what you will do to me and another is, I'm on the hunt and you might be my target! Definitely will freak out a cat!!!
Desiree Barhorst-Weller I do that with my cat but he just comes up to me and starts rubbing himself on me lol.
Desiree Barhorst-Weller I often have staring contests with my cat.
You're probably thinking of dogs. Usually when a cat is staring at you they like you.
Usually dogs sees staring as intimidating, but in the cat world i usually stare at cats and try to slow blink, works most of the time
Seems I'm actually a cat in disguise 😂
Very useful! I am a 10 year old kid, my cat was scared, so i used the tips and tticks from this video, THANKS so much!
I’ve never liked cats but in my particular case I sort of rescued/adopted my little feline friend back in late october at a gas station before a cold front that was gonna hit our city. I brought the little guy in, knowing damn well i’m not a cat person, but with time he became an important family member. Now we all love him, but we are aware it’s a new life for him so seeing videos like this are so helpful
The kittens I saved where in a filthy garage full of old furniture bugs dust mites and more it was disgusting but great feeling to save them they don’t seem very friendly right now but hopefully they get comfortable
My newly adopted cat (just yesterday) instantly would throw himself on his back with my wife, son, and me. It even slept on its back and was in REM sleep on my couch and was sleeping right next to me on my bed. It feels very happy I believe
either that or he does not give a damn about his life and is a suicidal !! lol
seriously, you are lucky he is either very very friendly and also have been treated well previously. I notice the key is patience if you let them come and on top of that give them just the right dosis of affection they become great company.. I raised 4 abandoned kittys each has their personality , the orangy (which for some reason I notice orange cats are so kind) was the first to great me when I come to them to give them food or play with them soooooo soooo kind than the rest who were also nice but no where near that orange cat.. Alas you would not like to know what happen later!! :(
this is very helpful to me. i am taking care of three outside kitties. one is very friendly to me and is used to me while the other two are a little shy. i can get close to them while feeding them but if i try to pet them they run away. so the key to this is just be patient and stay gentle and talk in quiet tones with them. all three knows i will not hurt them and i think they know that i love them. i do love those cats very much and they have brought me so much joy so i look forward to feeding them every day.
I have been caring for two feral cats for almost ten yeats. They are brother and sister, both born in my backyard. I was bonding with them and the mother by spending time in my backyard. I would stretch and throw a baseball at a pitch-back - talking to them. They gather safe distance from me or jump up on the fence and sit and watch me frim the closest point to me on the fence. I would also hit small whiffle balls with a tennis racket and they would tear after it and steal it from one another. I do not know what happened to the mother. She was not around after I retuned from a trip caring for my as$hol@ father. And, all those trip...i was gone so long./..I lost that connection wiith them. The brother and sister were always so close. Never leaving each other. Past few weeks, the brother has been leaving during the day. I dont know where he goes. His sister is either depressed or not feeling well. She seems to be eating some at night (maybe after her brother returns) but I never see her eat or drink during the day. dI am broken hearted for her. She just sits outside my arcadia windiow and sleeps. I am going to try and trap her in a few days and take her to the vet. I am also trying to spend time with her outside and talking to her. I dont know what to do and I filled with guilt for leaving them all that time, although they had food and water (I have wondefful neighbors). I hate myself for what I did leaving them and caring a prick of a father. I care more for these cats than I do my father and loser brother.
My 1-year-old kitten experienced trauma when he was around 6 months old. He has been scared of everything since and he will hide from everyone even me.
what caused him trauma?
The adopted 9 mos old I adopted is the same way...she does not even play at all...feeling like I made a mistake...its been only a week but she doesn't do much
@@lotusgrl444 has the cat made any progress at all? Adopted a cat from the shelter about two weeks ago and he is still hiding.
@@ElinK8 very very slow progress but yes she has made improvements, she is still not a friendly cat that allows herself to be petted but she has stopped hiding and now walks around the house more confidently....I'm told it can take months for a cat to truly become acclimated and let their guard down. Hopefully, your new cat gets more comfortable and trustful because thats what it comes down to, them trusting they are safe and not in fight and flight mode
@@lotusgrl444 cool to hear that she's at least made some progress. So hopefully it's just a matter of time and patience then. Fingers crossed!
Easy. Be nice to them, feed them regularly and give them rubs. We have a Burmese saying. "Cats choose their owners unlike dogs".
Another good advice is to let your cats smell the things your doing, even if it doesn't seem that the cat is interested in the vegetables your cutting, holding things to them so they can smell is pretty much helping to bond with your cat.
I took up a stray kitten out of pity from the streets. The cat was a male one and it was scared at the first, and I was too busy to play with it as I lived alone in a rented place due to my job. So mostly I ain’t even home but I did leave lots of food and milk for the cat, few days passed like this…I didn’t bother with the cat while it didn’t bother with me, but we mutually respected each other I never once invaded his privacy so the guy was mostly chill after few days in my presence but still not enough to pet and cuddle and all. However one day when I woke up I found the dude sleeping with me on my bed and from then on things changed, he gained a friend and while I gained a buddy…it wasn’t a special story but still it will be a great chapter for our lives
Give them food ~
Give them treats~
Give them love~
I raised my cat since he was a kitten and now he follows me everywhere and loves me
I think-
My brother: has recently adopted a cat
Me:
Thank you for the tips! I have a wild, stray kitten at home, who is quite skittish, so with these tips I hope it helps me gain his trust! ^^
Just got a new cat lol I hope in a few weeks I come back to this and we love each other lots!!
I found giving them the same thing I'm eating worked really well, I was always healthy, and enjoyed tuna meals or chicken etc. It seemed to get her on the level with me, like I was being more of a friend than owner.
G..guys.. when I picked up my cat the very first night. He was purring so loud, going right up to me, showing me his belly, (means trust) and lied down on my lap and went to sleep! On the first night...
Our cat is like that too. Offers his belly to anyone who wants to touch. My wife, me, our visiting family and friends, the mailman, neighbors. Nobody's ever been threatening to him or even teased him, which may explain why he is so trusting, but I suspect that some cats are just hussies 🤣.
i cant tell you how much i want a cat like that
Aww he must really love you💖😻
My cat Sophie was like that. She immediately followed me everywhere, would wake me up every morning sitting on my chest and pawing my cheek. I miss her so much. I now have another cat, adopted her yesterday. She’s been hiding under my bed ever since. I just need some ideas on how to make friends with her.
@@audreychurch Not all kitties had good start and trusting people in their lives. My kitty who's very happy with my family now, had such begining and also tried to hide under bed. I tried to enclose bed so she doesn't go there, but then it was impossible and I just got rid of all obstacles and I allowed her to sit there (give your cat toys, cat bed or blanket wherever it decided to sit). Idk how old your cat is, but it's better if you put it into some smaller designated space and be able to reach and pet kitty and give them food and talk to the cat a lot and try to play with it. Give your new kitty around a week of accustoming to 1 room, it will be comfortable in that space, then gradually introduce to the rest of house. She had litter box, water etc in that room I made for her ( it's still her favourite room also where I sleep). I was with her almost all the time at start, she meowed like crazy when I wasn't in the room. So, try to put kitty on literbox so it knows where to pee, show water, food. It'd be nice to buy a sturdy cat tree with tall scratch posts. It will grow to love you just show you're friendly. Maybe try to make a purrito out of your cat - put to blanket and pet ( watch Kitten Lady vids on youtube about feral kitties and how to make them trust you). I think such socializing in blanket helped a lot, we used to do that with my kitty, she was only 2 months old when we did that and when we brought her, sitting and petting her like this for hours the next day. My kitty is almost 6mo now. Your cat will show you when they're ready to learn more about your house and meet more people. Keep watch over it at all times right after bringing them. If they jump on counters, keep taking them down until they stop. I did scold my kitty sometimes but it was necessary for her safety, like when she attempted to jump on oven etc. She doesn't ever since.
Thank you for this guide, I’m getting a baby cat soon and this guide is very helpful!
I just adopted a 3-legged semi-feral kitten so this video was really nice! thank you :)
My cousin found this for me, because we was trying to get the new cat to come from under the closet but after we saw this video we had to let it be so we wouldn't be so hard on it especially because it was abused in its other home and all we want to do is give the cat a lot of love ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Hi, any progress?
@@Skyswinger LOL I DONE SPOILED THR CAT SO MUCH SHE STARTED TO GET ANNOYING LOL BUT I LOVE HER AND SHE SUCH A BABY LOL
@@driareed8204 haha well thats definitely progress then. Pleased to hear it :-)
@@Skyswinger oh yeah lmfao
Sounds like you've made a decent friend LOL!
I found an dumped Persian cat on the garbage i take it home it trusted me very quick.
we now have three, saved from the bin men.
I just adopted 2 persian kitties (3 and 5 years old) they were rescued from a hoarding situation. Lady had about 60-80 cats. They were terrified on day 1 but have now been snuggling up to me- it's now day 3. Sometimes they get scared of everyday noises like the dog barking or the washer/dryer going off, but I think they'll learn slowly that they are safe here (:
Thank you i need this so long!
I have found that a very effective way to reassure a scared distrustful cat is to introduce a kitten to the scene who trusts you and comes to you. The big cats fears can vanish in no time. That’s if you have a kitten of course.
my friend recently got a cat, but couldn't take care of her so I needed to learn how to gain her cats trust
Thank you!! 😌❤️
Long story short, my siblings noticed a stray cat walking around our house and they opened the door to check it out and it somehow ended up in the house (it went through the wide opened door). And we were all screaming in panic because we’re not good with animals. Every time the cat came in close range we would shout for our mum and run to an empty room. I got tired of being scared, so I started searching ways to befriend or make it seem like I wasn’t a threat to the cat. Found this and now me and the cat are tight 😎 (Well that’s what I think)
There is a tabby cat at my school, it's passive/aggressive. As long as you dont bother it to much until it makes her uncomfortable, you're on good terms with the cat. Sometimes after school, she hangs around in the canteen. I mostly give food if i have some leftover. She usually sits on my lap while i sit down. It has been months because of quarantine, recently i have been able to come to school for important matters. I didn't see her anywhere... If she fled, i hope she is still alive, living her stray cat life.
Yes, you're right about a person's behavior will "scare" a cat away, when the person approaches with loud, jumpy actions! Most cats will run and hide when a child enters their presence! I often use the slow eye blink and a very calm attitude and giving food/treats to gain the trust of a cat. It has worked with even feral cats! I found it works on squirrels, as well! Just the other day, there was a passing squirrel, with food in it's mouth, when I was entering the public library. I made some squirrel noises and tried the slow eye blink along with an uber calm attitude towards the squirrel. Surprise of surprises, the squirrel stopped and stared back at me!!! Then, we both calmly walked away from each other....
2:03 yall some unholy children caught u lookin
Caught uss
My little sister is getting a cat and I am helping her with taking care of the cat. Thanks for the video, I needed to see it
My cat loved watching this ty
That's pretty much what I do when I meet cats so nice to know I'm doing it right lol
Raelynn Jones how u gonna know the food is cheap? Ur a damn cat
'' Play with your cat every day ''
My cat: hey imma just sleep forever and im tired of playing so no more
thank you! we're watching my uncle's cat for now, so I really want to make sure that he's comfy in our house and doesn't feel threatened
Thank you and God bless
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*i ended up with my foot in the toaster*
*and my cat in the oven*
it’s day 3 of having my new cat i want her to love me so bad i’ve been watching so many videos and she seems to slowly be warming up to me can’t wait for her to be my bestfriend
ur so pretty!
How'd it go with th cat?
I’m about to take on two abandoned outdoor 13 year olds. The male super friendly (no problems) and the female shy and reclusive (difficult to bond). Thank you for your tips. I’m now going to put lots more activities in their temporary ‘zoning’ room. I believe the male will tolerate a harness so I can take him for walks but the female won’t and will have to stay in the room for three weeks. I hope to make progress with her following your advice.
I’m about to go to one of my friends house for the first time and they have such an adorable cat that I’ve always wanted to play with. I’m watching this video so i know how to communicate with it and play with it in the right way
I make sure whenever I use the vacum cleaner that she is hiding somewhere safely. I take her out to her hiding place. Doing so in 3 years we managed to get from a stressed running wild cat when vacum cleaning to a relaxed happy cat even in the presence of the allmighty vc!! Also I talk to her and she actually understands! It took a lot of patience and love but now we actually communicatw very well!
+irene spanopoulou On No! The dreaded carpet monster! Yikes! :-)
I do the same thing 😻
Cats can learn not to be afraid of a vacuum cleaner. Mine didn't care about it didn't ran away.
@@forestmanzpedia I'm
Lol I used to take vacum cleaner and scared my cats😂 it's pretty fun tho..