This Is Why You Must Talk Down To Women
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It sounds like what you're saying has a bit to do with setting boundaries too
In all fairness.. the substantial behavior value IS BASED ON THE INDIVIDUAL doing such. It would be ridiculous for a uneducated doofus acting as if it had the credentials of a phd. Or a vulgar shabby chub acting as if it is proper to illicit relations with a decent person of integrity
You forgot to mention how low modern women feel when self-confident and masculine men have an answer for almost everything that happens around then. These men are already above their 30's, have been working and making their own money, have long term goals and passions, and often they can fundament very well their claims and beliefs, and that ends up making women feel like they are plain ignorant and dumb - which often they are in theses cases. 😉
At 57 years of age and single I have come the conclusion that females ain’t worth pursuing for a relationship. They just ain’t worth it for mine. Just live your lives and try to be happy and do what makes you happy and don’t worry about finding a female.
The paradox here is that the more you truly understand about the mind of a woman, the less appealing it is to interact with them.
i almost broke my mouse thumbs upping this..
then just become gay lol.
@@Rlrlrl1962 found the woman
This is exactly the vibe im getting, its so depressing
Facts
If I had a dollar for everytime a woman told me I was unattractive, I would now be attractive.
Lol
Yeah, that could probably pay for a whole makeover package in Turkey including tickets, hotel and meals.
Then again, that money would be better spent on hobbies and travels.
damn
Some of us are lucky. They dont saying thing, they just walk away! Sorry about that dude
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Where do you get it from? I’m looking on Amazon but can’t find it there or by google search
From the age of 16-25 I was what most women would describe as 10/10 looks wise. I would get attention absolutely everywhere I went and it was easy to hook up and sleep with beautiful women, no matter what I said. If I was straight up offensive, I'd be called 'cheeky' or 'cocky' with a smile on their face, because they didn't care. When I was 25, I had an immune system problem which ran in my family, and I had to take drugs for it. It made me retain a lot of water especially in my face. From that point on, I didn't get ANY, and I mean ANY of the attention I had previously got. I would forget that I was bloated, go up and approach girls in the same way and they would straight up turn their backs and walk away or look at their phones etc.
A few months later, I managed to get off those drugs, and everything went back to how it was again. Even the girls who knew me when I was bloated, they forgot about that completely and treated me as if I had always looked good. This is how I know for 100% sure that what you're saying is true. Very attractive men can have an extremely good life compared to average or ugly men that aren't very rich or famous.
It is sad how shallow society is. All the money, power, and flesh will never make us whole. It will only leave us spiritually dead inside. Jesus Christ is the only way we can be saved from our sins and reconciled with our holy Creator God. There is no other hope for humanity.
@@cheerfulturtlegirl possibly, but personal responsibility to be the best we can still applies. Being realistic, it’s only natural for people to be attracted to a very good looking person, and there’s nothing wrong with that, just like it’s attractive to be very rich and successful. It’s about making sure the pillars of a relationship are still genuine and not just for the material side.
You were approachine the wrong women. Shallow women are just as plentiful as shallow men.
@@TrollMeister_ nope just women in general of all kinds. Iam just the same as a man, I treat beautiful women better as Iam more interested in then snd it feels good to talk to them, probably a testosterone increase.
It was the same thing when I took my glasses off and put lenses in.
"There are no unacceptable male behaviour but just unattractive male." The golden truth how women judge whether it's flirting or harassment.
And this becomes more palpable the more extreme the behavior becomes.
For example, the line: “’I’m going to fvck you so hard you won’t be able to walk for a week” said by one man would actually get her knees to weaken with desire, and would lead her to call the cops on the other.
It’s that one meme with the two guys say “Looking good, Susan” and her reactions;
To Chubby fat guy with glasses: “Hello? Human Resources?”
To Business Suit Executive Chad:
“Awww, you’re so sweet”
Not true, I have seen highly attractive looking men losing woman to guys who do not look as good. What makes male attractive is their behavior.
Its utterly wrong.
@@Tespri It is a plethora of factors that make a man attractive. But the first encounter is determined on looks. A chad can walk up to a stranger girl and give her a compliment and she will receive it well. A Quasimodo can not do that as she will feel harassed.
"The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog." - Mark Twain
lol
"Dogs are some of my favorite people." Jack O'Neill [SG-1]
I think he meant women in this quote but chickened out last minute coz of the woke mob of his time
My cat ..
Lol soooo true
When I was in the military I learned that 85% of life is about appearance.... If you look good you can do almost anything
You are spot on bro. It's something I learned a long time ago.
for a man? no way. until you're 25 perhaps. young men always get a pass. but after that, everyone has expectations of how a man should be. if the only thing you have after 25-30 is good looks, you'll be for everyone "that good looking good-for-nothing bum".
@@Johnny_Savageagreed
Because the military isn't a performance based environment.
Thanks for the confirmation. It's an ugly truth. I respect anyone no matter their appearance. That's the reason we often forget that not everyone will just respect you because of existing.
I remember reading Arnold Schwarzenneger's biography,
and there's a bit where in the early days (before he was a star) he and his friend meet an attractive woman and Arnie says to her
"I want to f**k you..."
His friend starts apologising, but the woman cuts him off and says
"No, let him speak."
😆
... "I'll not be back" - *Arnold The Next Morning*
early arnie is the best arnie
Attractive introvert: Mysterious and intriguing
Unattractive introvert: Weird loner
Exaclty you get it.
Indeed.
I fall in the weird loner category lol
As an attractive introvert I still get rejected for my lack of confidence and lack of flirting skills, women feel interested in the first week but after some weeks they lose all interest. I'm not Chad but I definitely look better than the average man in my country. I always had social problems since school, how do I change my brain.
@@Klasik616 Learn about the art of articulation and learn about the female nature and apply the knowledge you gain in which it suits you to be more appealing to females.
It’s not the hypergamy that makes men angry, it is the hypocritical attitude.
Right, but hypocrisy is the only game that 85% of women play. It's best to accept it and adapt to it rather than wasting time being angry.
@@selohcin *feminism is 100% Made of Hypocrisy !*
@@juliusperseus8612 feminism was built by billionaires in conjunction with the government to take women out of the home and into the workforce to make them taxpayers.
It's neither, and men that are angry towards women are pathetic.
@@selohcin accepting is enabling and adding further to the cause so its not a solution
My dad had a roomate who lived shirtless and was ripped. He noticed how women's body language changed around the guy. They were playing with their hair, chewing their lip, moving and squeezing their legs together while looking at him like they wanted to eat him alive. A girl who had told my dad that she had a boyfriend earlier didn't even see him; as she told the roommate that she was 100% single. That guy got a couple phone #s that day. My dad laughed as he let his roommate know that one of those 2 women told him they were in a relationship, so she had to pass on him. His friend actually got angry that she lied to him, called her up and chewed her out for lying to his friend. He actually threw her # away and told her he wanted nothing to do with liars. When my dad said he didn't need to do that and remarked on how hot she was, his roommate said there are more where she came from.
He learned so much about the duality of female nature by hanging with that guy.
Sounds like a decent friend.
treat a woman like she is a toddler, its worked for me many times
Can you elaborate
@@Aiguy1905 tease them, like you woulfa five year old
@@saltygreenapple1394 Can you give some examples
@@saltygreenapple1394yeah I'm a little confuse too 😅
@@Aiguy1905because being “femenine” or “femenine energy” is basically inmature child like behavior. Reasons many women would crave her whole life for a mental mature men with personal power and reasons many relationships are paternalistic. Even masculine women see those ones as dumb.
If you tell a woman that you are not worthy of her, she will always believe you. This goes for words or actions.
Treat her like a queen, she’ll treat you like a peasant.
I personally love money and feel filthy every time I swap biohazard with a wahman.
Now if you agree with this, what does that say about dating/romance/courting/marrying? By performing an illogical act to impress her, you are lowering yourself in her eyes which grants her a short term feeling of safety and power but effectively dooms the relationship long term. That's the reason women are leaving marriages in such high numbers.
"I'm not good enough for you" is the line I used to try to break up with woman. It never worked. Now I try "I want to marry you and put you on a pedestal for the rest of you precious life" - they run.
@@ppumpkin3282 they might be enthusiastic about that for a year or two bc it makes them feel good and safe, but after that feeling becomes normalized they start feeling like they can do better. Woman have two forces at play, safety and hypergamy and which is more important is variable over time.
I heard a man say never put a woman on a pedestal, she'll always be looking down on you.
Probably the truest words I've ever heard
I think at the end of the day it's about not pedastalising anyone - looking up with some admiration to a certain degree but not putting anyone on a pedestal - when it all comes down to it everyone - as a human being - is equal - whether you are King Charles III or just an average everyday person - while people differ in their competencies in regards to various skills etc - as human beings no one is really on a different level as such to anyone else.
true she want to chase you not the other way around. Women are fare more competitive then men are when it comes to dating you can use that fact against them.
Treat her like a celebrity, she'll treat u like a fan.
Treat her like a queen and instead of treating you like a king, she'll treat you like a peasant.
She has to earn your validation or she sure as hell will trash it when u give it to her.
@@banshotenin1178why pay $150 on a date in the US when I could pay $150 for a plane ticket to Colombia?
@@iceman5117 I'd rather not pay for dates at all. My current girl wants to pay for our dates. In the interest of equality, I let her
the quickest way to find out if you're wasting your time with her is to flirt with her. Get her to show you what she thinks of you.
If she like it, GREAT.
If she doesn't like it, GREAT.
Either answer tells you with whom you should invest your time.
Avoid the Friend-zone by being willing to show sexual intent and risk hearing a "No" from her. And if it is a "No", accept it, move on.
Don't waste with your time trying to change a "No" into a "Yes". Pull your time and attention. It is better spent investing it in other women
best advice ever
Act like your time is valuable. Most other people will too.
This!! Well said
Spoken like a true rational male
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I’m 42 now. I went through an awkward phase from 11-15 when I came out of it it was like a light switch turned on. All of the sudden I was sought after yet I never changed. I learned a lot from that experience. Young brothers love yourself and never sell yourself out for some poon
This principle has been proven over and over on dating apps as well. Fake male model accounts have shown that 10-rated men can say almost anything to women, including overtly sexual, crude suggestions on the VERY FIRST TEXT, and it is taken as funny, flirtatious, etc.
What's the difference between sexual harassment and flirting?
It depends on your appearance
The worst experiment result I saw was when someone created a fake guy account and on his profile it read like "yeah yeah I did touch some kids, but hey I'm trying to get better" and he got thousands of messages from women, most of them looking to date him. Even when he wrote to them "did you read my profile" most of them were like "yeah, and I don't care, and it's great that you try to get better". Absolute insanity.
@@Moldylocks Does that mean that most women have no morals or care not for a man's personality
Dating apps only show the looks nothing else. Your behavior can't be observed from dating apps until you actually meet someone. So what a low IQ take from ya.
Lmao, I once saw guy who was trolling pretending he is a neonazi, making rude comments about their looks or their responses. They all giggled at this and said they don't mind. After that he was inviting them to his place and offered sex openly. Of course they said yes. Of course it was only because he had model photos on his fake profile.
Years ago at my workplace I was professional and wouldn’t flirt with any woman. My coworker who’s way more attractive than me was also professional, yet women would talk to him voluntarily and they would avoid even looking at me.
It’s all about looks.
Also, about Money and Status.
@@cesar90x45
that’s only for long term relationships other wise women are attracted only to good looking guys
Take the most good looking male model and put him up against someone like Andrew Tate or even Elon Musk. I can promise you the model will lose everytime. Status/wealth/power is the biggest thing women are attracted to, looks are just a bonus. They want the king. There is a reason 30% of the chinese population have Genghis Khan dna. Become the CEO of the company you are at, make more money than the guy who was more attractive than you, and above all make sure you have more influence and I can promise you the girls will turn to you. You just can't have ANY beta vibes whatsoever or hypergamy will kick in and she will make you think shes having your baby when shes really having the other guys baby and you are footing the bill.
@@John_Conner222
Is that why Bezos’ gf was thirsting all over Leo DiCaprio. Women will go after an average rich guy just for his resources and when she’s done milking him she’ll go after chad. Look at what happened to Kayne West Also Tate’s and Musk are mentally ill people
You have to be both rich and attractive to maintain a woman
@@John_Conner222Well ghengis graped his way across so I mean...
Years ago, my work had one of those harassment training sessions. When the presenter asked the group if one example was harassment or not a girl answered 'whether or not he's hot'.
Was she serious or joking? Did everyone else laughed and took it as a joke?
@@rameeziqbal8711 She was dead serious. Sexual Harrassment is subjective.
@@feloniousmonk3049 How do you know? You aren't the OP
@@rameeziqbal8711 She was dead serious but everyone laughed and took it as a joke.
@@feloniousmonk3049 Respect to her then, she was speaking the truth
I had met one of my later girlfriends on holiday, she was 18, I was 25. She moved near me a few months later, when she started an apprenticeship after high school. We saw each other more often from then on, of course, and everything was fine until she brought one of her new female colleagues to a party we were invited to. The colleague must have convinced her I was arrogant. (I had obviously sent no or too few flirty signals to the colleague). At least a short time later she broke up with me during a dinner, based on that assumption. I reacted totally emotionless, which she professed to be deeply surprised about, I paid my bill, said goodbye and avoided contacting her again. A few months later she called saying she was nearby and wanted to visit me for tea with a mutual friend. I accepted but asked my new friend to come too. My ex-girlfriend was visibly shocked when she had come and realised this. That awkward tea meeting was our last, but after that she kept calling me every other year. No matter where I and my new girlfriend (who had become my wife) moved, she found out our phone number and tried to speak with me. *This lasted for over 20 years* and even after she herself got married.
I’m guessing it was your new *girlfriend, not new friend that you asked to come too, correct?
Anyway, well handled ✅
@joewhittle801 thanks, that's correct
why people keep in contact after they broke up I'll never fully understand
She's alpha widowed. You were one of her best while she was one of your worst.
@@user-kb1hw2yq2fI think the point of the story is more about how her perception of his value went up so high when he treated her as beneath him.
So she was the one who dumped him, but she immediately regret it when she saw that he was totally fine with it.
This is incredibly accurate. Women are basically trying to sniff out who is better than them, then trying to lock that person in for life.
Showing you simply don’t mind losing a girl is very high value.
I always view women chasing the guys who treat them like dirt as a cosmic joke
well, they get what they deserve = multiple baby daddys, a trailer full of kids (unless its kim kardashian who is trash in her own right)
Yes - I feel sorry for them - they are suffering from some kind of severe mental issue.
The devil makes them do it. Dont trust "Eve"! 😈 Their nature was told to ALL in the Bible. Hence why they generally loathe and punish "Good" or "Nice" guys! Wake up men, its all biblical and Im not even religious 😇
Treat a girl like dirt, and she will stick to you like mud
Just the same goes the other Way around...men chasing women that despise them, use them abuse them and treat em like sh1t, is a very common phenomenon... It is just the same:an individual dealing with unattractive orbiters tends to be cruel.
the difference between flirting and harassment is whether or not she likes you 👍🏾
Dobbler-Dahmer Theory from How aI met your mother.
That's true. Im ok with that. Wish her well on her chad quest, but leave me alone When damaged, used and walled. Spoils are for vultures.
Attracte
the quickest way to find out if you're wasting your time with her is to flirt with her. Get her to show you what she thinks of you. If she like it, GREAT. If she doesn't like it, GREAT. Either answer tells you with whom you should invest your time.
@@bolt9110 Or she leads you on for fun.
I have found this past couple of months as a woman in my 30's a deep love for the male psyche. I watch middle age men, old men, young boys. I watch their mannerisms and just everything that lights up their world.
Men are the most beautiful creatures on this planet. So much depth to a man, men are naturally reserved and even as boys have this beautiful kind of composure and poise.
Men have such as still and calming nature that I just adore, the more I watch men through all stages of life. The more I just think, God dam I wish women could be more like men with their emotional side sometimes.
I lost my Dad a few months back, and so since then my appreciation for men has gone up 10 fold, you start to analyse over the actions of your late fathers life and realise the beauty of your Dad, and that same beauty that lies in every single man. You start to see it.
It's just if you really start to look at all the wonderful aspects, and you just be present with that, listen, watch, appreciate and just make peace.
Men and women would be very happy together, and men would have peace. Women get too caught up in their feelings to stop and really notice men.
To add onto this women think to much and think to much of themselves, and are constantly hungry by direct constant attention,
I look around and I see so many men trapped in relationships where they feel so burnt out my the constant chatter of the female mind, the agonising over ever fine detail and yet she is never at peace within or centered or still.
If a woman just focused on her man, and made peace with everything in LIFE and just relaxed and just leant into her man's "relaxed nature"
I really appreciate this sentiment
It absolutely annoys me, how, as a nice, upstanding, caring guy, has to change his CORE to be this way to get any kind of attention or become attractive to women.
Like, I have to break myself down completely and restart my BEING just to get the girls I like or for them to like me, isn't that really sad???
It's crazy to think that men have evolved to be brutes because it's been selected for by generations of women. Those lower on the bell curve can't really compete with the chads. But hopefully there's someone who still finds the less masculine men appealing enough.
The problem is you are spending effort and thoughts to seduce girls. When instead you should be spending energy on YOURSELF! To become individual and independent, you make good money to afford a house and car, make friends that respect you, and you will be like an unmovable MOUNTAIN 🏔️. A mountain that women will then notice just as they notice a super-attractive man, who just simply got lucky in the gene-pool.
Jesus loves you brother
One day you will find a women. Don't worry and be yourself.
@@SolCalibreAtWork you don’t have to do anything. Be pragmatic in your thinking. Why change who you are and who you are proud of for net negative women.
Find comfort in your individuality.
If the people around you are assholes your job is to walk away
I know this is true from first hand experience. There was a cute hostess at my workplace that I had a nickname for, when I worked in the restaurant industry. That name was actually from a running joke that a friend and I had going. I noticed that whenever I called the hostess by that nickname, she would just giggle and her face would genuinely light up. To my surprise, my friend called her by that nickname and she got upset and yelled at him to not call her that. So HE wasn't allowed to call her that! He and I laughed about that later on that day, and both realized it was because she found me attractive, and thought he was unattractive. He just shrugged it off and said "oh well."
I remember I had lived kind of a similar story when I was a teen, except i'm the one that she yelled at despite the fact I knew her better and for more time. That's when I understood I was not allowed to have the same behavior with women than the men that actually are attractive.
What was the nickname and how did U get comfortable to give the nickname. Where as ur friend never was close enough to give her a nickname?
@@paulcases2646What did you do to get yelled at? Why didn't you mentioned it? Is it embarrassing?
@@rameeziqbal8711
because it's hard to translate. But basically I used the same nickname for her as the other guy.
It's a nickname that could be translated in english as "Sweetie" I guess. She got mad when I called her that while enjoying this nickname from another boy.
I was only 12 years old at the time, so it was hard to me to understand social relations (it still is tbh) and a little bit cringe that I didn't realized it.
Agreed, most of us probably already realized this at a young age and due to this kind of interaction and depending on their own situation had their confidence thrown away or risen up.
If you treat her like a celebrity, she'll treat you like a fan. If you treat YOURSELF like a celebrity, she and many others will become your fans.
Great video btw. I love your videos.
Reminds me of the difference between cats and dogs. You put food in a bowl for a dog, they think you must be God. You put food in a bowl for a cat, they think they must be God.
And that’s why people, men and women alike, fall for narcissists. That’s the quick and dirty approach to celebrity status: Fake it till you make it.
The problem is, this illusion is fragile - because any tiny sliver of truth can pop the entire bubble. That’s why narcissists are so quick to lash out at others, in order to defend that illusion. And then, they’re exactly *not* the kind and “generous” high-status guys that women actually want. The narcissist, much like the beta, is still just a trade-off for them.
@@Moldylocks You put food in front of a dog (men) for its loyalty. You put food in your own mouth in front of a cat (women) for its loyalty.
Yup, the low value thirsty lonely desperate simps on tik Tok, bombard even the most basic looking female with accolades, you'll see a attractive female post a cleavage tik Tok , and you'll have 500 random dudes saying, "hey queen","hey sexy", "you're beautiful", "hot" & other random compliments, I'm thinking do l want to be in that mix, fawk no, the most they're gonna' get from me is a like that's it.
lol. Try treating yourself like a celebrity if you don’t have the looks/money/status to back it up. You would just look like a delusional clown.
my god.... You're good. i realized this listening to my mother when she spoke about men she respected. She'd laugh at their jokes before the punchline and be overly agreeable.
as time wore on and i wasn't makin gmy mark she didn't just disagree with me on things. She'd literally ignore me as a human being and argue with me about stuff like when i wanted to show her a movie trailer, she spent two minutes stairring at me with this hatred. it was difficult to take.
To my shame, when she was in the hospital last, i didn't even bother visiting her. and when she died i didn't gp to the funeral. i wanted to but i was a mes. the out of the blue, my former aunt told me i should apologize to my dead mother. months later i ended my relationship with her. and i moved 3k miles away to seatle.
I now realise i wasted most of my life trying to cater to her needs. and im a good looking guy. i now know i never really had trouble getting women. cause im dating frequently. the problem is there simply aren't many high value women around. The majority are ruthless liars and sex fiends that want men to not judge them by their past but what else am i going to judge you by? i don't want to make a mistake in datiing the wrong woman. and end up with my mother. absolutey not!
Women are cruel. and i thik they need to be alone. and work on themselves
This is 100% true. Example, one time I met this girl outside a club, I had a fancy/expensive car and I was filled with confidence, without a hint of 'fear of rejection' because it really didn't matter to me either way. While I always anticipated success, the possibility of rejection didn't bother me in the least. In fact I usually found it comical (I have a morbid sense of humor) and would laugh about it. Anyway I made it brief, asked for the digits, GOT THEM, and eventually set up a date at my house (music, drinks from my bar and snacks), and I was trying to accommodate her as her host, but it was met with total ingratitude and disdain. It was so obvious that I just came out and said this is obviously going nowhere so you might as well go home. Instantly I could see her attitude change (for the better) because she was beautiful and not expecting to be blown off that way, BUT IT GETS EVEN BETTER. I'm sure she was expecting me to drive her home, same way I picked her up, but the next words out of my mouth were "What's your address, I'll call you an Uber." LOL All of the sudden her ENTIRE ATTITUDE CHANGED. I MEAN A COMPLETE 180. Suddenly she was coming onto me, apologizing for her prior (rude) behavior, asking me to please stop being mean to her, and telling me she would much rather stay than leave. 15 minutes later we were getting it on. Same girl who was treating me with disdain only 30 minutes earlier. I've had similar experiences and learned that some girls are so used to being showered with affection that it's the guys who do the opposite that she wants the most.
The moment i notice games im immediately turned off tbh
@@henryhoover3953 these are not games, for the women, she is completely unaware of it, she literally reacts from her emotions, that is the crazy thing.
@@HUEHUEUHEPony It's still games. If a woman is smart and educated enough she has possibility of dropping these games. Is it rare? Absolutely. It's as rare as male monks, because it requires that much force of will (or she's literally autistic therefore she had troubles with innuendos her whole life). There's a sad truth to that though, if she's intelligent and educated enough to stop these games, she's also most likely a 3-4, rare are women that stop these games even if they meet requirements if they're above 7, because despite those requirements, why would she stop it when she can just use that intelligence to manipulate in machiavelian way. Not only that, but if they drop these games, they also drop other fancy qualities we like in women (lets not be blind to them), like make up or longer nails (if you're into that) etc. Also, these women who are capable of dropping these games (and are willing too) have a proper well deserved ego too, and we all know that the crazier they are the better the sex is. So unless you're satisfied with bare bones vanilla they're bad sexual partners. Ain't no way in hell you can get them to suck even your dick (lets not beat around the bush, oral sex is very icky and demeaning, it's just mainstreamed in pop culture and p*rn to be a form of casual foreplay), and why should they, dick sucking comes from the very same games guys complain about. Don't even start me on the anal stuff, if you're into anything remotely kinky, these women will not perform it, and with all rights, since they've ceased these games.
In conclusion, these women are only suitable partners to heterosexuals that just can't handle females playing games, so they have to settle for women that don't. Even then, it's hard to find them, there's like 4-6% of them at maximum.
. lol they r playing games they r nt dumb- ironically smarter than avg male when it comes to that sect of th “ mating dance “ etc don’t b dense my friend ^
@@HUEHUEUHEPony Doesnt matter. It's something that causes pain and suffering and needs a solution.
Never try to impress a woman. Work on becoming impressive.
Very very true
Bingo
YES! Words to live by right here!
Just work on being good. If anyone is impressed it is on them, not you.
As a successful manager and also a college professor, I had lots of women using direct come ons with me. But I knew if I ever took them up on their offer, they could flip the switch at any time, and get me fired - so I stayed away from women I was in a power position over.
It’s painfully ironic, because status is very attractive to women, but given the current social climate, I believe you still made the best move.
smart move - a jilted fling could destroy you easily in the current climate but even without going for it you can still be destroyed by an obsessed woman with accusations to muddy the waters
I had the same experience and policy in my former position as a college physics instructor.
One day during my first job in management I had an older senior manager ask me how I liked the job. I said it was alright. He replied "if you want to keep it don't fish off the company dock".
Prudent.
A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it. Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long. She shops around for the best yarns and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing. She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places and brings back exotic surprises. She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day. She looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden. First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started. She senses the worth of her work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day. She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking. She’s quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor. She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows; their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear. She makes her own clothing, and dresses in colorful linens and silks. Her husband is greatly respected when he deliberates with the city fathers. She designs gowns and sells them, brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops. Her clothes are well-made and elegant, and she always faces tomorrow with a smile. When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly. She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, and keeps them all busy and productive. Her children respect and bless her; her husband joins in with words of praise: “Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!” Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-GOD. Give her everything she deserves! Adorn her life with praises!
-Proverbs 31:10-31
*This is the woman you need and must find. Anything lesser than these is a distraction.
You cant find it ready made, it is cultured like wine. It takes time, effort and patience.
That was my mother
My wife fits that description to 99 % (only difference is she's not overly concerned with helping the poor TBH). Guess I'm more lucky than I give credit for.
Dude I was Really like "This Chick Sounds Exactly like the Woman I want in my Life." Surprised me when i Realized its a Chapter in the Bible. Thanks you!
@@stephenperez7168bible is full of warnings about woman’s true nature and motives
In my early 20’s I’ve seen the concept play out in real time at parties and bars several times. All the dudes are all over the “hot chick” calling her beautiful and buying her drinks etc… she looks around for the guy who’s ignoring her and is attracted to him. Seriously. I’ve practiced this before and I’ve observed it several times. It literally works 100% of the time every time
Exactly, when a women says she wants a kind, caring, emotional supportive, safe, loyal, committed, and wants a family. What she is really saying is that she wants those qualities in a man she is attracted to.
I mean obviously? Don't you want those things in an attractive partner too? What's your point exactly lol
@@jonathannoonan8596 The woman means she wants those as extras in a man she is already attracted to for the wrong reasons. She is not talking about a man who is kind, caring, etc. by nature.
@@jonathannoonan8596 Meaning that women like to virtue signal that they are not superficial like guys but they really are. It's totally fine if you want to be attracted to the person, I couldn't date someone I'm not attracted to, but at least men are more honest. Sorry that went over your head haha
@@Mano_jc No I see what you're saying. It's just that it goes over most guys' heads that they also need to be attractive to generate interest. Most guys act like figuring out what women want is rocket science. Like just build your value and be as attractive as possible, you know, someone a woman would actually want to date. Being a "nice guy" doesn't cover the entire equation.
And men tend to exploit women they don't feel attracted enough to and marry those they feel very attracted to. Tit for tat.
The problem is that you have literal 3's and 4's saying this. I had this one girl who was obviously very average (maybe a 5) and I was trying to cheer her up but then she turns on me like i'm some sort of pos. It really pissed me off as I was just being nice and not hitting on her but she tried to play it off that I was and then had the audacity to try and shame me for something I didn't do and I called her out on it. It escalated into a shouting match and I was not backing down because I didn't care about her and I was not going to let her gaslight and insult me. I was not going to let her dictate my status. She started crying and all the white knights came to her rescue and I had to deal with some of them in a not nice way. I understand your arguments but ALOT of women, falsely believe they have much higher SMV than they actually do and so when guys who are on their level approach them they start acting like they are Paris Hilton. It's these girls that I enjoy watching the wall but im seeing that happen more and more, like 60%+. We are all going to end up like Japan if we don't find a way to unhack modern womens brains from the corruption of social media. Its literally destroying women as a whole.
good for you! You showed her you’ve got a backbone and you held her accountable that you aren’t just gonna take her BS lying down. She certainly learned that day. Cuz ppl with sense respect someone telling them what they need to hear not just what they want to hear!!
Please what do you mean by "...end up like Japan..." ?
@@AS_210 Dying out.
Let it fail if it's supposed to fail.
it is the simps that need to be fixed first but they are being brainwashed in the schools, media and hollywood. Not going to be easy to get the message through to them. I was one for years thinking that is what women and society wanted. Sure wish someone would have clued me in a lot sooner.
Even as a high school senior talking to other senior girls, I was in the process of applying a few weeks ago but I just finished my Marine ROTC scholarship application, I haven't been accepted yet but knowing that I've completed all i can for now to establish myself and have security for the next 8 years at least my confidence talking to friends and girls has skyrocketed just from finishing this one thing, it's awesome
"women like romantic attention from men they're attracted to, but not from men they're not attracted to"
deep stuff, bro. you really cracked the code
Videos like this make me lose interest in dating, and help me to focus on myself instead. Thank you Alexander
Absolutely spot on bro. All this time I kept thinking that being in a romantic relationship is what will give me ultimate happiness in life, until of course, I accidentally discovered his channel which revolutionized my thoughts on a lot of issues
Don't date. If a girl chases you fine, but don't chase them.
Women will only use you until there's nothing left in you. Then they'll move to another guy.
lol stop being low IQ person.
If you actually look people in relationship you're quick to find out that they don't look even close to instagram models.
That's what we all should be doing
I knew this already.
I could do no wrong when i was fit but when my health took a hit i could do notujbg right.
Then i fixed the health issue and the same women ignoring me started druiling over me.
I noticed that since this experience i look at women differently.
My dating strategy became like women, as in quality over quantity and no good looks is good enough without good character, not even for a 1 night stand.
I learned that every woman has evil in her.
I learned that modern women are useless.
When i recovered the last time i had tons of married women and women in relationships trying to seduce me.
Its absolutely rotten out there
"...modern women are useless" - so true.
I feel for you bro. I’ve also notice this evil you speak of. It changed the way I interact with women. I pretty much avoid them now.
@@paprika2854 There is no way to trust them after such experience.
Its like the more you genuinly need them, the less they need you.
When im feeling well and really dont need them, this is when they offer themselves.
But then they keep saying that women are natural nurturers.
I did not see this when i needed to see this
Troughout those years there was only 1 woman that actually impressed me consistently
Based
@@MrDriss1986 As men we were lied to from childhood about the nature of women. They are self worshippers and only care about their needs and ability to survive. Men are actually more nurturing than them on average. Especially these modern day jezebels.
This is by far the best content on man-women issues on the internet. Thanks a lot for your great work!
i love that u take the risks to ask the hard questions and have hard conversation. you’re not the only one experiencing/seeing this alex
rude behavior from an attractive man = he's just teasing, it's flirting
rude behavior from a non-attractive man = he's rude
Halo effect is 100% real
I say your game is only as good as your looks can back it up.
Nah, both of them are gross, you are rude stay away from me
@@maxmuller6730no such thing as game
It's really simple. Women want someone they can look up to, so you can't talk up to them, you need to literally talk down to them. Of course the way Alex described.
facts! If they can't look up to you then it's over!
Women choose guys who're bigger, stronger, older, and more established in life, then insist on being treated as an equal.
@@titsbitchmcgee7502 Well said. Such a brilliant observation !
@@titsbitchmcgee7502😂 isn’t that the truth
@@titsbitchmcgee7502 That is their inferiority complex talking out.They can't admit that they want to be treated like children so they act.And considering that most men have self esteem issues also,no wonder most relationships end up as a train wrecks.I often heard from my mother to not be so down,and now I understand why.Because if you act like you are depressed,someone will later give you a reason to truly be depressed.
Lol I learned this fact in second grade, when all I did was walk up to a random girl and ask her if she wanted to hear a joke. I was in a good mood that day but when she looked at me (I was chubby throughout my childhood) her face looked like she bit a lemon and said "Why would I ever want to hear a joke from you?!? Get away from me!" As loud as she could for the whole room to hear. I never really bothered talking to girls after that, and now that I'm skinny and somewhat good looking, girls are always wondering why I don't flirt with them or want to talk to them. It's really not worth your time unless all your looking for is a hookup. Most people are so shallow now.
Please note how well structured and written these videos are.
And the arguments are well explained.
Impressive.
This is a very valuable lesson and as an old man of 64 years old I can only say it all rings true with my experience.
That's depressing but I appreciate your confirmation.
Don't call yourself old and you wouldn't be old.
Travel to Thailand or the Philippines. You won't believe the female attention you'll receive.
Alex, I think you've got one thing wrong, guys are not angry on hypergamy, they are mad on lies that are being sold to them by today's culture or even their own parents. It's completely different thing to accept reality after being lied for all the years of education at school and by media, being lied by any person who should be an authority in their youth like parents and teachers, after putting enormous efforts to suppress your own male instincts for years, even those that are desirable for them, for women, for society in general.
Good comment.
Well, that's a bit ironic to be "angry at", because not a single time in history of sexual competition did BOTH sides tell the truth and nothing but truth. Hypergamy literally cannot work if it's laid down on the table with rules and regulations. Because guess what, once you unveil the grand game, a LOT of losing people are going to say "f*ck that, let's abolish this system by force" and bam, you get a monotheistic religion that enforces certain rules and regulations in favor of the average man and woman, some even go as far as burkas. So no, you saying that is incorrect, because hypergamy fails the moment it's "honest", it cannot work without gaslighting and obscurity in contracts.
@@MrMrtvozornik yes and no, because women also can have male children, so in the past they would know the significance of a father figure in that case, not to mention the most important source of that knowledge, which are boys/male only environments - these combined with instinct should be enough, but hey are continuously being destroyed, because they are "toxic" (again, mother having son should be against it).
@@proosee Doesn't disprove my point in the slightest. Where are family bonds the strongest in the West? What type of people are reluctant to get a divorce willy nilly? That's right, religious folk. Ones that hold some ephemeral law above as more important than worldly desires. It's being destroyed both directly and indirectly by straying away from monotheistic judgemental religions, into idolatry. Some folks start "worshipping" science, some crystals, Hell, there's even proud "witches" out there. Even Carl Jung himself argued about possibility of "religious instinct" in human. Rare are the people that need not follow a religion. Rave concert with flashing lights and loud music? That's religious experience, people just turn a blind eye on the fact of it.
I said it once and I'll say it again, you CANNOT be angry at "hypocrisy" of the hypergamy without being angry at the hypergamy itself, because hypergamy cannot go without the lies. Hypergamy is animal side of us, and animals are the biggest hypocrites out there, it's all about me me me, and if not me when you see some feats of great sacrifice, it's for their gene pool, which is still extension of yourself. Hypergamy cannot work without the implied lies and unresolved games. Which is why every single religion out there has rules and regulations about our "human nature" to prevent animalistic behavior. Not a single great feat in history that we remember today was done by hypergamic society. People will often say bla bla bla ancient Romans and Greeks, polytheism and possibility of multiple wives, but in reality polygamy and hypergamy are different words for a reason. Hypergamy produces nothing but hillbillies (of all races, I just use the term for the "type" of the people) that produce little to nothing while spending all their free time in any and all endeavors into sexual competition.
Is religion only solution to this issue? Of course not, but it's a God damn easy, tried, tested and true one, that's for sure.
Go back to Christ, and when I say that, I don't mean it with fancy Protestant pastors that flamboyantly shout their prayers, I mean take the Orthodox pill. Protestantism has failed its people with its fluidity and unregulations just as much as Roman Catholicism failed them centuries ago with over regulations and rigidity, making need for a Protestant heresy in the first place. But the alternative was out there from the start.
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@@MrMrtvozornik I wasn't trying to disprove it.
here is an answer and a tip for all men strugling out there love youreself focus on youreself workout ,study,search for job,travel,...etc never i repeat never love a woman more than you love youreself
That really hit home, the statement that if you’re attractive enough you don’t even have to say anything of substance to have value. This explains a lot of why some people on YT and SM have such large platforms.
If a woman has her butt slapped, she won't decide that she's been se*ually harrassed until she turns around and sees who is slapping her.
Lol yes i did something in a club 20 years ago and she turned smiling but when she see me she literaly kick my leg lol
Also depends on who else is around her.
A girl In my workplace on my first day, had her rear grabbed by a male co worker that had been there for a few years longer than her, the guy was not attractive in the slightest, yet when I asked her if she enjoyed it when he treated her like s*** she acted dazed and confused, she said “When did this happen?” When he slapped her behind, she looked as if it didn’t even affect her, if I did that, I would’ve probably been in big trouble
Their butt is my kryptonite... That's what I most miss from my ex:she literally scaped from me cos I was grabbing her gorgeous Butt all the Time.
or regret
I used to be a touring roadie for a medium big band. I saw how different women act when they were around semi rock stars , it was demoralizing 😂😢
Corn stars look pale and innocent now to you, huh?
@@lepiota1074 lul wut? Engrish preese
You speak the truth. I was touring in a band, (not even famous) and the women were fun at first, but once the novelty wore off, all I felt for them was pity. They are pathetic, childish, don't care about anything outside of their ability togarnish attention, and sadly at the end of the day, they are going to be depressed and alone.
Thinking that theres no such thing as unnatractive behavior is straight up insanity
There was a guy at the bar that was being cocky and negging two girls next to me. When he left the woman closest to me said he’s way to unattractive to think he can act like that. Pretty much summed it up.
I was asking a college if she feels well and she baffed at me like: "what do you mean" than my buddy a player and ashole came in and said: "hey you look like crap!" and she giggled and replied something like: "oh, your so funny!" I'm in a wtf state till today.
ok?
lethal dose of reality just there. bam!
mogged
It's disgusting...to my masculine logical mind.
@@obsideonyx7604
agreed but that doesn´t help in any way.
It wasn´t an logical problem to solve with rational analysing from the beginning.
Back then: I refered to it as the nosveratu perk because unlike it´s rational disgusting appearance, women in the story are mezmericed and drawn to that character.
Meanwhile:
I realized the thing that makes women accept almost every treatment is alpha male masculinity.
It´s the kryptonite whos pure existance makes women wanna vangefully blame and suffocate ever man who DOESN´T have it to use it against them!
To add to this topic:
I just yesterday listened to an episode of the podcast "masculine psychology" by David Thian and I can't recommend it enough.
He basically advocated for the fact that the main thing that actually turns people off so hard is neediness. If you're trying all these things to get the attention of women out of the place of a need and not a want, assuming therefore, that you're a low quality guy (i.e. not being in a mentally good place because your needs aren't met), they sense it and have no interest in pursuing any sort of relationship. It all comes down to identifying and subsequently meeting your own needs, which then automatically makes you higher quality.
Meeting and then just enjoying interactions with women out of a want and not a need will instantly make these more successful from a dating and friendship perspective because on a subconscious level, you're not inclined towards scarcity and fear anymore, which is a lot more attractive.
True, but you also need to express a small amount of interest.....as long as it's followed by a "I could take it or leave it".....hence the push pull technique.
yeah that doesnt make sense. that's exactly how they get friendzoned by guys, getting attracted to the ones that have no interest in them
Jntleman ---- you are correct but only partly.
Needing is definitely the wrong way to be acting towards a woman.
But, wanting is also unattractive to women.
They don't want the guy who wants them. They want the man who doesn't want them. That makes her want him. She wants what she wants but can't have. She likes to be wanted because that fills her addiction to attention and that want by guys gets her things like drinks and dinners and vacations and parties, that's what guys who want her do for her. But she doesn't want them. She wants their attention and the fun.
She wants the man who is out of her league because in her mind she is a 10 even when she is a 2 or 3 at best . She will not date down even when she has no realistic self evaluation.
Money and technology is far superior to Wahman. Wahmans are just for entertainment as they advertise themselves in public. To me they are like a rental subscription but I don't subscribe.
@@13_13k Totally agree, Mr. Kaiser. The other comments in this thread are hopeful, beta poppycock.
Good video Alexander. One of many good ones you’ve done. You know your stuff.
I recently made a critical comment about another of your videos. This time, to be fair, I would like to praise and applaud! This video presentation is truly excellent all along. Very useful and pertinent topic and flow of ideas. You break down the male/female attraction dynamic and it is very inspiring. I sometimes forget that women are naturally hypergamous. And two days ago, despite good vibes and long discussion, a woman slipped though my fingers. And the main reason is because she got a glimpse of one aspect of my life that is not top notch (messy apartment), and she was turned off and considered me "immature". Time to bring order and excellence in all aspects of my life.
A woman wants a man whose value is above hers. A man that pedestalises a woman is indicating he is beneath her in value. Women are fascinated by men that don't pedestalise them because they are indicating they are higher value. A lot of the PUA strategy is displaying higher value, whether faking it or not.
And women aren't honest about their behaviour because subconsciously they're afraid of the potential physical consequences.
This world is uncaring and harsh. I just get bummed out by the cold hard truths regarding dating and I think it's just a big waste of time. I'm over spending all this time worrying about attracting a partner when I haven't had anyone actually show genuine interest in me. I've always been the nice guy, the guy who is seen as a friend. And that just means I'm not attractive enough to women to be the guy they want to get with. It's probably my lack of economy foremost, but I will always try and better myself, but now It's to the benefit of myself. Why now would I want to give a chance to someone who couldn't see my worth before. If I have to be rich to attract them aren't they just a gold digger. I wanted someone to build a life with not someone who waits at the finish line and picks her choice from the winners.
you are right. either she is attracted to you or you just get used for your resources (find a gold digger). its hard to accept that some guys are just not the type women want and there is room for improvement but not everyone can make it sometimes its just not enough even if you improved.....😐 its a harsh reality to accept.
I'm the exact same way man. I was born poor. But I've always strived to better myself and be a good man. It means nothing to them. I've always wanted to be find a gal who actually was into me and raise a family but it's never happen. Every girl now a days chases careers, school, bad boys etc until they hit their 30s and I'm not settling for some used up has been after I've spent most my life alone struggling through everything on my own.
try acting hot and cold with them. They love that game.
The faster you accept you are not attractive the better. Being alone isnt that bad trust me its only the sex drive which hurts.
Don't feel bad, money really doesn't help. They'll leave as soon as you get burnt out or need them.
I haven't tuned in to this channel in over a year and that opener sounded surprisingly black-pilled for a moment, but then we circled around to the kind of ideas I've come to expect from Alexander... Good video.
Its funny how true this concept is. When I was a young man I didn't treat women badly I just acted like I didn't have much time for them. It was like "hey what's up" and when they started talking I was like "hey this is cool but I gotta split, see ya". My phone rang off the hook. Funny old life isn't it?
If you're good looking you're as secret admirer, if you're not, you're a stalker. Good looking - flirty, ugly - pervert.
Unless your a serial killer then your mysterious and interesting to women.
Yes
It works both ways. Beauty matters.
@@paulcooper5748 Lol. It's a crazy world
That’s why I don’t talk about anything apart from work at work 😂
I’ve worked in bands and nightclubs for most of my life, and the things I’ve seen women do would blow most peoples minds. They will all cheat if you’re that guy that pushes her buttons in the right way.
Example!
Apparently it's not only men that monogamy is not intrinsic to
Establish your own code. LIVE by your code. Become a leader of men through hard work, integrity and decisiveness. Do not chase women, focus on your purpose. Be smart, alert and wary in every environment. Eventually a quality women will cross your path. You’ll know she is a quality women because she is intelligent enough and mature enough to recognize who you are and want that in her life. I had to learn the hard way, but I learned. Right woman didn’t come along until I was 33, she was 25. About to celebrate 23rd anniversary. Still living by my code and teaching it to my almost grown children. Do not hold resentments towards those who forced me to learn in my 20’s. Mostly indifferent, and amused at the occasional attempted sling back. As if I’d give up the quality woman to revisit the horror show that forced me to learn.
This is 100% correct my best freind is a chad . He few years older than me and we were joined at the hip from when i was about 15 til 20 and in that time he probably nailed 50 girls and i saw 1st hand how he spoke down to them. I used to drive him round as he had not passed his test. He had no job no money lived with his dad and none of it mattered because he was good looking and totally confident. He knew(not think. KNEW) he was more valuable than any and every woman he interacted with where as i didnt and i litrally would repulse some of the girls he treated like dirt. However as soon as i would call a girl out for disrespecting me and put her in her place there entire demina would change there sholders would drop and they would become uncomfortable as i "told them off" and from there on there respect and attraction for me whent up, at the time i didn't realize this completely but i did later on and capitalised on it.
one clue to know if you're attractive to them is when they put their hair behind their ear. it's them presenting their face to you. they do it without thinking about it. they all do it no matter what their culture or country of origin
There are a lot more non verbal cues than that, but yes that is one of them.
That move and the "hair flip" are classic signs, but those moves also have another element to them, in that her underarm is positioned to blast some pheromones in your direction.
Starts dating bald women.😂😂😂😂
It's body language...look at couples pix...ill use my nephew as an example...when I saw his photos with his XGF...she was very close to him side by side pix shot or hugging and such...body language meaning she was into him...later on I see photo shots of them together still but not close or hugging no more...just holding hands but apart, their body's apart and not next to eachother like b4...hey if she wanted him she'll hold him like he is her only man. Hell, if I had a girl I won't hold her hand, ill one arm hug her at my side next to my body to let others know she is mine..im pretty sure most men have my sentiment when you have the unicorn or the few high value women out there but reality is harsh. Too many Simps and Mangina out there. Too many 304 and fefails.but like I said body language is one of the biggest indicator if you pay attention.
Yes, thats been called "Ioi's" for decades. Indicators of Interest. Playing with their hair, leaning in to you, touching their face, licking their lips, tilting their head etc. All those are being done subconsciously.
This is so true, up until i was 30 i was invisible to women. Now at 43 complete strangers swoon over me and struggle to speak when I meet them in a shop etc. And this is women from 20 - 50+. Why? Because I look after my skin, , I work out, sensible diet and I am successful in my career and i guess that shows. I really don't worry what I say to women now, you can say anything if you are confident and are presentable.
All things being equal, men peak just before 40 and if they have done things right and continue to do so it’s a very slow burn and other attributes can make up for any age gap.
gosh...thank you man.. its make soo much sence now. lifechanging!
here is a story from myself who had a cruel experience with a "woman" when i was about 6 to 11 years old. so the first time i was young and not intrested in women at all. it was a kids geteway with church and we did some rituals, like holding hands in a circle and sing songs or pray or play or whatever. so there was a girl and we should hold hands. i offered her my hand to hold with no intentions of anything and i got her first bad reaction, she kinda was disgusted. i had more the experience that girls kinda were nice to me. the second time was when we were in a camp and puberty started for me, i got my pimples. she remembered me from the first time and told around the camp that i was in love with her and how disgusting i was. i wanted to get home and away from that camp. since then my approach to women was always cautious, not getting framed for someting i didnt do.
I love this. You perfectly put into words how a man changes his attitude towards women, once he gains enough experience and matures. And I see this realization in men everywhere, in the comments and talking to other men in real life. Some go sadly too far and drift into bitterness, which, to me, stems from an unrealistic view of nature and is very damaging.
It's when you've worked hard on yourself over years, went through hardships and made many tough experiences in dating, a 24-year-old pretty girl coming along, acting all high and mighty, does not at all hit the same anymore.
You can see the facade, the naivety in their act, and almost have to laugh when their view of themselves as an equally accomplished person is totally off.
You described this natural "looking down" on them perfectly here. It is just the result and makes you so much more attractive to women. Simply said, they don't want to be treated as equal in this sense, as politically incorrect that sounds.
So, don't be bitter and dismissive about it, once you reach this point. It's nature and now you can enjoy the ride. ;)
This is exactly why I’ve become a more passive approach her if that makes sense. I remember walking into nightclubs and immediately seeing women turning down men left and right.
Like as soon as girls were walking in there were men trying to talk to them. It was insane...
They would reject every single guy.
I realized then that I don’t wanna be just another guy to add to her list of men she rejected that night.
I vowed to NEVER approach a woman. I know it sounds like I’ve given up.
But in reality i just know the juice isn’t worth the squeeze.
If a girl finds me attractive she will approach or at least make it obvious.
That plan has worker better than me having to worry about stupid pickup lines.
I once had a woman walk right up to me while i as chilling grabbing a beer at the bar and she whispers in my ear “i made a bet with a friend that we have to find someone t take home tonight”
Smashed that night.
I once had a girl walk up to me and say i looked like some serial killer on netflix. We smashed that night.
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@@wreagfe Exactly the method I adopted, successfully, decades ago.
There's a song lyric, "Some girls like boys like me/some girls don't." Approaching women may succeed if it involves a large enough number of women, but for me, the time, effort, and money wasted is not worth the small percentage of successes. Spare yourself and uninterested women that waste, and let the women who like you do the approaching.
Keep fit and groomed, exude confidence and an "I-don't-give-a-damned" self-control, and interact with women matter-of-factly, reminding yourself that things won't work out satisfyingly anyway unless a woman finds you attractive; and, the women who find you attractive will usually let you know.
When I was promoting and Djning parties my roomate (female) and I would hook up girls non-stop. When we went out in a situation where it didn't appear that I had some sort of status or w/e, she could still pull at the same rate, but I (not unnattractive) went from 9/10 to like 10%. This is different because most of the girls we'd meet didn't have experience going home with a 'couple'. when we had a long term girlfriend the 3 of us, it was insane. So many girlsd aresoo shallow. I know this that when yu have a gf you can pull girls easier then when you don't. when you have two gf's it's EVEN MORE TRUE.. I'm happily single now for the first time since i was 12. It's awesome :D Never been more carefree tbh.
In much wisdom, is much grief. The words of solomon, over the years I've come to see Alexander embody that. I feel your pain brother.
THANK YOU!!! This is the last piece of puzzle I needed !!!
Yes. A girl will feel insulted and degraded if an unattractive man hits on her.
Women make rules for guys they don't like and they break rules for guys they do like. If she don't like you she will have all kinds of rules and conditions for you to follow. As soon as you notice this grab her by her shirt and throw her out the door.
Men do the same exact thing to women. It goes both ways.
The trick is to make her like you
@@I1K5 not they don’t. Definitely not at the same level. Stop that "both do it" bull crap
@@datboi42 So if an attractive woman and and unattractive woman both did the same thing, you’d treat them both the same? Stop capping.
@@I1K5 yes, because men don’t think like women. I hope you’re not a guy, because If so, you’re lost. Everyone will generally treat someone they find unattractive differently, but as a man, and as a man who’s seen men and women and now they handle these situations throughout my entire life, as any other man has, aside from kids just bullying each other back in school no matter what your gender was as long as you were weird or ugly, never in my life has there ever been a sense of men thinking like that. I don’t have to defend myself on this like you want me to because it’s genuinely never crossed my mind, and that’s the absolute truth. No guy has rules like that for unnatural vs attractive, and if they do, it’s nowhere near as terrible as women have their rules. Women are quick to call someone "creepy", "weird", "desperate", and every other thing if they don’t meet the criteria, and they welcome the guy who meets criteria with open arms.
You’re dang bold face lie if you say men do this crap, we don’t. We don’t treat some girl like crap just because of how she looks
You are so right.i can say anything to woman like " i knew you weren't that perfect but i'am"and if its not rude ofcourse.but i smile with it and they smile back at me and says hi to me from that time on.
So true. I worked in the engineering department of a corporation and there were about 20 of us there. There were also about 20 women of all ages working in the sales department in the front office. These women totally ignored us and even made us walk up front to get our mail. One day the company hired this new engineer who could be described as Thor's younger brother. He was a good engineer and no different than any of the other engineers. Suddenly the women in the front office started bringing his mail back to him. Grown women in their 30's and 40's were acting like teenagers around him, laughing at his jokes and listening to everything he said. He had no interest in any of them, but they treated him like a god. That convinced me that women are only interested in looks, nothing else.
I have to disagree that "there are no unattractive male behaviors, just unattractive men". I'm physically attractive...I've always been good looking. I was even runner up for best looking guy in my high school graduating class. I've never had a problem approaching women, or getting their initial attention. However, I'm a nerd/geek at the core, and I've never had the "gift of gab". I could often see the point during a conversation where it occurs to her "Oh, he's just a good-looking nerd", and her attraction starts to wane.
There are unattractive male behaviors.
I think you might have missed the part where Alex explained that the "attractiveness" he's referring to includes everything i.e looks, wealth, status (this is where being a nerd comes in, I believe) etc.
I would change what you have, everytime... at least you can attract women... then is up to you moderate or dial in how you show yourself in trying to keep that attraction, we less attractive men don't even have that, they does't even look at us or classify us as inferior, low value just at first sight.
@@AS_210 I heard that part, but I just kinda looked past it, because it essentially makes his statement true no matter what.
It's the same as him saying "There are only two directions...left and right. But when I say left, I'm also referring to right". There's no way to disagree when he claims both choices are actually the same answer.
you just need to find a girl who is also into the nerdy stuff, seems like a great filter to weed out bad mates. If she can't respect your game than she don't deserve your frame.
they know that when a guy is a nerd/geek they will never get all the attention they want, so that is indeed a reason for them to lose interest.
I’ve noticed how this “natural down-talking” comes with different levels of expertise at your job, or even at university already. Bachelor students looking up to master students looking up to PhD students looking up to post-docs, etc.
The problem is, this natural dynamic that benefits even average men in terms of dealing with hypergamy - status in a professional context - is precisely what has been attacked by MeToo: Office romances almost fall in your lap, they tend to happen “naturally” and organically; but now, there’s that little voice in the back of every man’s head (actually, in the front of your head) that says: “This could blow up in your face in epic proportions.” Especially when the people below you in the office hierarchy can be regarded, in some way or another, as “dependent” on you. People have been conditioned to see such interactions as exploitation and/or extortion.
Is that rational caution? Or is it just fear? The lines between what’s reasonable and what’s considered cowardice are often blurry. This is commonly reflected in fables, with foxes being smart, but cowardly, and bears being strong, but dumb. And of course, we all know the humanoid equivalents of these tropes (sneaky halfling rogue vs. strong dense dwarf warrior).
Yeah ironically modern/conditioned Wmn's actions and beliefs are the ones that in a grand scale of things, are eliminating the very factors that make a Mn high value and make high value Mn aviable and have interest in them.
They want Mn to be the main providers but support idiologies and policies that make it harder for Mn to get well paid jobs to be providers wich in turn removes any interest in a Mn to get a high paying job.
They want Mn to flirt with them but the constant condescending attitude yhey yave when talking to Mn and the ever increasing number of false accusations make most Mn who they would like to be approach by stay away from them.
I could give more examples but that would take all day.
Do you have a discord?
This is a really really good video. The manosphere is a crowded space, but it’s rare to find an original video.
I've always been socially awkward, especially around women. I'd say I've been largely governed by fear of failure.
A while back, I found myself on an airplane sitting next to a very pretty woman around my age. I was tired of the whole game and the rules of interaction, and all the things I was used to doing. Also really wasn't interested in seeking a relationship in any way.
I just happened to be flying for a work thing that was out of my usual routine, and I'd done a really good job on the assignment and was dressed up a bit more professionally than my usual. So I was feeling good about myself and decided to just run an experiment during the roughly 2-hour flight.
I had no reason to fear any outcome of my interactions with my neighbor, since I wasn't pursuing her. I just chatted from a position of feeling good about myself and tried to keep in my head that this exchange was her one shot to talk to me, not my one shot to talk to her.
And I tell you what, I got a very positive reaction from this woman. She was super friendly and flirty for most of the flight. She seemed very disappointed when I didn't ask for her number when we landed. I wished her well, it had been a pleasure, etc., which was all true. But I didn't want her and just that seemed to make her want me.
I was perfectly polite and pleasant the whole time, never had to use any sort of underhanded tricks or "game" with her. I just didn't care what happened and radiated self respect. It was wild.
I've thought about that a lot.
Still doesn't mean she would accept. Some women are (at least occasionally) friendly end seemingly flirty like that (used to more common before the era of smart phones, because they would also be bored for instance on flights such as yours), but when you make your move, they shut you down (or have "boyfriends" imagined or real or whatever). Until you've smashed her, you can't say for sure.
Ive wondered if this is one reason many women will put up with an abusive boyfriend or husband for months or years but when she meets a guy who cares about her, actually loves her, she may reject him or break up so soon for having an opinion or quirk that isn’t that serious.
Have you ever wondered women are humans with vastly diff personalities just like men. Some personalities can be 180 degree diff from each other!
Yeah, do think about it. So stereotyping billion women is extremely illogical.
@@rameeziqbal8711Of course, not ALL women do this. I don’t agree with generalizations of either gender as everyone is different, he’s just saying that a good chunk of women do that kind of thing
She's actually right, every woman I wanted I got by ignoring her.
Oh? Every woman i have ignored, ignored me right back.
Same. Every time I legitimately was just interest in a female is when they thru themselves at me. But nearly every female I TRIED to get, ended up just being a waste of time
@@redrustyhill2 You throw a subtle hint you might be interested and then ignore her, pretend as if you know something she does not. 😂😂 It's incredible, works every time
@seeerserious whenever anyone says "x works every time" that individual is telling tall tales or has very little experience. I have bedded over 30 women, and not a single one of them got there by me ignoring them and "not trying". "Not trying" only works for those 5-10% of men who won the genetic lottery and have the right looks that drive women wild. I am only average looking and "not trying" gets zero results.
@@seeerserious Does this work with ugly face?
Experienced this working at a gym in the 80’. Some men were not intentionally rude or crass, but learned real fast their words and opinions were not welcome. But, a good looking man could do or say darn near say dare near anything and the response was the complete opposite.
In the mind of a lot of women…the truth is subjective and reality depends on how they are feeling in the moment.
Modern Day Sophists. Liberals are that way too.
My father used to talk about sexual harassment in the work place. He said that it is only harassment if the woman does not like you.
I am average looking, not unattractive, I am 30 years old, I have a great career in engineering, a few friends, money in the bank. Things are going great - but it feels like I don't have hope of getting into a relationship before my 40s.
Good. Don't tie yourself down till 40.
Is industrial engineering a good choice? Or it's shitty?
@@lilvegan2002 im in software engineering.
It’s time to hit the gym buddy
Women rate Average guys as unattractive
When you make a woman your life you ignore the life she would like to support you along.
This video just changed my life. Thank you so much
great video alex. well said
So true, and so painful. I'm 34 now and it took me a long time to understand why figuring out how to be attractive to women was so hard. There are a number of factors but the worst part is that they simply treat different men differently when those men do the exact same things - it largely depends on their looks and status.
At this point, I've figured out what works for me, but jesus it was a confusing brutal journey because I'd see some guys act in ways that would totally backfire if I did it yet they'd get gorgeously girls easily.
And I actually look ok, although I'm no model. But the game changes so much if you're a real top tier or really bottom tier guy.
It’s amazing how girls are so good at hiding this. They can rationalize just about any male behavior
men treat women differently based upon looks as well; it's a human problem, not just a woman problem, but since you are interested in women, you experience it most from them.
@@theoverunderthinker a human problem lol 🤪 men are honest about it women are not. That’s the distinction your comment fails to convey
@@Karll541 men are more aware they do it overtly and a lot of women are not as overtly aware of it I think. some are self aware and others are delusional (as they are in many other areas). so some are dishonest (of course) and others are unaware of the mechanism only the result, i.e. "he is creepy" vs. "he is suave".
my point is that it is a human behavior, so men should not be surprised that women, also being human, do the same, regardless of what they admit to.
it's probably less useful to pay attention to what people say they do and more to what they actually do. women will almost never admit to something that they think paints them in a bad light. some will, most won't.
I think the mistake is to assume that any negative human behavior present in men is not also present to a greater or lesser extent in women as well.
If you’re average you need game if you’re attractive you can do no wrong if you’re ugly you better stack up
After Quitting 12 plus years of dramas, anxiety stop and quit drinking out of “guilt”. Now focus on making money and refurbishing my home… So far!!
WOW. This is an awesome point that you've brung up
I noticed I’m not good at talking “down” to people in general.
Hi Alexander, I’ve been listening for a couple years now and I agree. I’m 71 and enjoy your content. thank you for educating men and me! love, Catherine
Yes these male self help contents are actually great for women. So pity it takes women 50 years or more to realize what good they have been rejecting and what dirt they have been chasing ;)
great information. thanks a lot
This is an interesting watch. And not incorrect if you're only out in the world to date and look for a match. When you are jumping straight from meeting into flirting it can be like that I imagine. I'm a woman and I've been married for 21 years, so I admit that I don't know how brutal it is out there, but one thing I've discovered about human connection is that if you are actually interested in a person as they are, without heading straight to flirt and hookup, you can find things in common with the most interesting and unusual people (including very unattractive people, and sorry but you might find yourself attracted to people you thought are outside your social standing). The other thing is that you can discover if they are shallow before you have to risk any friendship with them, by just being interested in their own interests on a platonic level. Conversation subtleties will tell you everything about a person's social perceptions and values, just pay attention everyone let's things slip. Oh and if you're truly interested and you've gotten to a second conversation, sprinkle in the things you learned about her from the first conversation. Especially about her hobbies, show enthusiasm for that trail she hiked or whatever, there's nothing creepy about research into a hiking trail and your excuse should always be "you inspired me so much about this I looked it up and I was interested in..." That way your "compliment" is completely indirect but shows you paid attention. (The best compliment to a human is your interest in who they actually are) Good luck, I don't know if it helps at all.
There's a video here on CZcams where a guy asked a group of girls if they're offended when they're catcalled or if they like it and one of them replied "It depends if the guy is hot". Her answer wasn't "it depends of how the guy does it" or where it happens, when it happens. Creepy or flattering, the only difference is who does it.
Sometimes a girl says the quiet part out loud.
One of the girls.......!! So dont stereotype billions of women on Earth
@@rameeziqbal8711 I don't think that I mentioned anything about _ALL_ the girls. I was talking about that one video that I saw and I clearly wrote _" _*_One_*_ of them replied..."_
@@Sadlander2 👍
great words. apperciate your job, thank you!
This guy is wrong when he says there are no unattractive male behaviors. While yes, whether the woman finds you attractive or not does change whether she views many of your actions as "cute" or "creepy", if you walk up to just about any woman yelling, or stuttering, or acting needy, yes that WILL decrease her attraction to you. The same goes for if your eye contact is poor, or maybe you have an overbite and you don't close your lips which can give someone a goofy look. It's not necessarily one thing many times, but a combination of several small ones.
Something that helped me tremendously with issues like this: watching myself in nearby reflective surfaces as I interacted with others. Then correcting any mistakes I found. Do the self improvement. It works.
That’s actually a good tip to be fair(looking at yourself speaking whilst you talk to someone)
The same things that Alex talks about here you can observe on "Fresh and Fit" podcasts where when the two guys leading the podcasts talk about reality and call out women on their behavior, the women look at them with disgust and even in face of overwhelming proof will deny everything.
However sometimes they invite some millionaire or a multimillionaire guy like Andrew Tate and even though they say the same things as the owners, sometimes even harsher and in a more condescending way - the women dare not to interrupt, they are nodding and are smiling when they bash them! 😂 It's unreal how different they treat the owners (who are fairly high value) vs a multimillionaire (who frankly is as high value as you can get on this planet for a woman) and they get to say anything and still the women crave them, it's a marvel to watch how fake the women are there.
And let me tell you this - many of those women would say they would never date Andrew because he is sexist!, misogynistic!, toxic! etc but put them in the same room and the magic happens because they will look past that because he is such high value lol
Bear in mind that those guys are Grifters - they don't live what they preach. There is some good knowledge to learn from them, but just be aware (plenty of vids on CZcams about them)
@@Demour77 This.
@@Demour77 I don't even know these guys' names 😂 Just another channel appearing on my feed because I watch rp-related content like Alexander Grace's channel.
Thanks for the heads up tho!
@@Demour77 what
fame and power has an attraction on its own.