How To Spot A Vindictive Narcissist: (10 Common Signs Of A Vindictive Narcissist)

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  • Narcissism is on a spectrum. From mild to clinically diagnoseable as a personality disorder. Due to their lack of empathy for other people as well as their self-centeredness, all highly narcissistic people are damaging to others. However, most of the time it is because they just don’t care about others and do not consider if their actions harm anyone.
    However, there is a sub group of narcissist who make a point of hurting others. They are often vindictive and sadistic. They get enjoyment from hurting others and plan their actions. When they hurt you it is not because they did not consider how their actions would affect you. On the contrary, they actually planned it to cause maximum damage to you.
    Here are 10 signs to look for.
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Komentáře • 61

  • @aintdatsnipes177
    @aintdatsnipes177 Před 10 měsíci +8

    But they're massive cowards, so they'll seek revenge behind your back.

  • @joywebster2678
    @joywebster2678 Před 3 lety +34

    That shining gleam in their eyes when they hurt you

  • @JenHope113
    @JenHope113 Před 2 lety +14

    Smirk when they see you being hurt.

  • @chickwitthagoodies
    @chickwitthagoodies Před rokem +11

    Another thing about narcissist none of them can get any sleep.

  • @joywebster2678
    @joywebster2678 Před 3 lety +13

    He makes up the insult out of a simple question, then brings the revenge and punishments raining down and I'm wondering what happened. He just brought up the supposed insult from 2 yrs ago that I've been punished continuously for, and there was no insult. Insanity.

  • @elliemay7569
    @elliemay7569 Před 3 lety +8

    I threw out my xh after 36 years of abuse and 2 pos sons along with him

  • @eggman79
    @eggman79 Před 2 měsíci +1

    My narcissist boyfriend 26 years ago poisoned his parents minds against me then made me think I had upset them.I was banned from seeing them all bcos I told them my boyfriend was on a weekend away.They suspected his shady dealings then the boyfriend twisted facts to make it look like I was spreading lies about him to cover his shady tracks.Wicked man made me look like a shamed enemy of his family.I should've ran but I was trauma bonded.
    Many months later, I was about to join him ab4oad when my family expos3d his evil deeds to his parents.The furious man discarded me for life.That was a blessing in disguise and yhe only reason I am still alive!

  • @abbeyjane1306
    @abbeyjane1306 Před 3 lety +18

    Go "no contact"

    • @bunille
      @bunille Před 2 lety +1

      Ironically though, narcissists also go no contact.

  • @jamiewilliams8107
    @jamiewilliams8107 Před 2 lety +5

    Me and a friend had a friend who died the other day day and my friend was focusing on his bad faults rather than his qualities,she can't seem to drop things from the past.

  • @debrajanzen6661
    @debrajanzen6661 Před 2 lety +5

    I really appreciate your insightful videos. Am dealing with a vindictive narcissist, a stranger stalker. Nothing has worked to get this person to leave me alone. Appreciate your psychological profiles of these types and why they do what they do. And the advice is invaluable. Thanks.

  • @audioelitist3677
    @audioelitist3677 Před 2 lety +3

    Amazing, "How DARE you wear pink!" Too funny. Sad, this is how people really act.

  • @nicoleorton5299
    @nicoleorton5299 Před 3 lety +12

    Thank you for your well described traits of this type of personality disorder! This is helping me with my difficulties with making my family understand what I'm going through.
    Currently I'm dealing with the attacks of 2 vindictive/ psychopathic narcissists who have collaborated and seek revenge against me! Together they are literally a force of relentless danger than is hard to imagine, even for me.
    I'm very appreciative for anything that is enabling me to understand and live to tell about it! Knowledge is the only tool I have.

    • @NarcissisticAbuseHealing
      @NarcissisticAbuseHealing  Před 3 lety +1

      Hi. Knowledge is essential in dealing with narcissists. Vindictive narcissists are extremely dangerous. They will often not care to destroy their own life just to get to you. Never underestimate what they will do. As far as showing your family, evidence will help else it will just sound like a lot of wild claims. You may want to look at the videos I did of why people do not believe you. I would start slow with what you tell your family and then build up to the big stuff. You first want to get your family on your side and agreeing that these people are toxic, then you can worry about getting them to believe what these people are doing. You may need to first explain to them what a narcissist is, and what abuse is as many people do not know about verbal, emotional, and mental abuse.
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      If they are stalking you or smearing your name, you may want to look at a protection order where it specifies cyberstalking and slander. You can have posts removed with it. It can also block harassment and stalking by sending texts or emails or threatening you. This would be a civil protection order.
      Document everything and keep evidence and then make police reports so you have it all documented should it come down to criminal cases. Depending on what they are doing and your financial situation, you may want to see a lawyer even for just one session to see what your rights are or what path you can take. In some protection orders, the judge can award you compensation if you suffered due to their actions.

    • @nicoleorton5299
      @nicoleorton5299 Před 3 lety +2

      @@NarcissisticAbuseHealing
      I really can't express to you my gratitude for replying to my comment. Thanks very much! I shut down for a couple of weeks/months because of this overwhelming amount of stress from my experience. I will follow your suggestions with keeping all things documented. As well as taking it slow with my family. Usually, I wouldn't mention it to them but I have to tell someone in case something happens to me physically, I think that would stink! Thank you again and I'll certainty watch the other videos you suggested. The knowledge is my best protection it feels like, even though the info repetedly confirms what my gut has been telling me. I have found myself in the "perfect storm" of bad news.

  • @juliepollard8332
    @juliepollard8332 Před 3 lety +16

    Both my sons are like this they actually scare me just like their dad

    • @NarcissisticAbuseHealing
      @NarcissisticAbuseHealing  Před 3 lety +7

      That can be frightening. With people like these, if you do plan to leave. It is best to do it when they are not there and then get as far away as possible. Wishing you a wonderful day.

    • @sharmenadonaldson3869
      @sharmenadonaldson3869 Před 3 lety +1

      Wow

    • @noirfit9721
      @noirfit9721 Před 3 lety +4

      Narcissistic Abuse Recovery I had to leave a marriage this way. I felt I was in danger and he went to work one day and I just left. Stalking ensued.

    • @elliemay7569
      @elliemay7569 Před 3 lety +4

      Have three sons first two like this and their dad also.

    • @jacalyntaylor6721
      @jacalyntaylor6721 Před 2 lety +2

      I have 2 sons just like the dad. Thank you for your comment. I thought I was alone with these type of kids.

  • @sangeetanair3643
    @sangeetanair3643 Před 2 lety +3

    It's better to stay away from such people and be silent as far as possible

  • @ralphwatt8752
    @ralphwatt8752 Před 2 lety +3

    Have experience first hand !
    Collateral Attack by father and siblings
    Following what they did , sister said "We wanted you in a Body Bag"
    With an Evil look on her face , then said "Haha Officials believe the greater number".
    She has turned all family friends and many of my friends against me.
    She abused assualted me many times , for example , she hadn't had her half hourly coffee , for over two hours , I was in a Van with her
    I opened the door, as I opened the door she pushed me violenlently out of the vehicle into a large gutter, then throws my pack at me , before closing the van door she abused me .
    I feel very hard on the ground , hurting my arm ,back and hit my head .
    She took off in a rage
    This is one one of many examples , of what my sister Father and siblings did ,. I have to date never seen any remorse from any of them
    They have made things very difficult for me .
    My second oldest brother said
    "We bully you for sport "
    It has made me resilant and strong ,.
    Thanks for your videos helping me make sense of it all , thank you

  • @macnchessplz
    @macnchessplz Před rokem +3

    I have a stalker (who has enlisted others ) who I feel fits this bill some what. The person absolutely has dedicated their life to destroying mine .
    With no let up for several years. I think there is some narcissistic tendencies at play but I also get the impression ASPD is at play as well.
    And it did begin as a perceived insult. I guarantee that perceived insult has a played in their head many times over in the past decade.
    It has escalated(police reports and all).

    • @karliann1
      @karliann1 Před rokem

      Im in the same boat. I am dealing with 3 of them and I moved changed my number now they're trying to get my info from my elderly father thru welfare checks from police. Thing is I rescued my baby granddaughter from these ppl thru sole custody court order. It's sick and I'm trying so hard not to live in constant fear of my location being exposed

  • @donnaparks1919
    @donnaparks1919 Před 2 lety +3

    That's what sis did to mom who died at hospital I'm convinced she brought me to this state to do the same she told me I'm just like mom and called me mom with raised voice this is sis all the way. Wow.

    • @NarcissisticAbuseHealing
      @NarcissisticAbuseHealing  Před 2 lety +2

      Hi, thank you for sharing. Sorry you went through this. Yes, they can be heartless in what they do.

  • @lsd938
    @lsd938 Před 3 lety +10

    I was at the university when I was targeted... professors were there just to take the salary.. so a psychopath was able to do such a big harm to me... it was all targeted... now when I look back... I can reflect I was targeted... these people are very dangerous and clever... he was a sociopath...

  • @brianmiller1008
    @brianmiller1008 Před 3 lety +7

    I've unfortunately had one as a parent a nasty calculating parasite very nasty and toxic.

  • @lsd938
    @lsd938 Před 3 lety +10

    Thanks... I had an abusive ex... I took lot of abuse from him for an year because I thought I had no where to go... after an year I escaped... the damage was already done... it's been ten years now... and I am still in pain... I had no help.. so I took the abuse...

    • @NarcissisticAbuseHealing
      @NarcissisticAbuseHealing  Před 3 lety +1

      It can take a long time to heal. And some wounds may not. But educating yourself about narcissism is the first step to recovery and a wonderful life. Understanding it is them and not what was wrong with you goes a long way in healing from the abuse. Take it one day at a time. Wishing you a great day.

    • @denisehutchins4499
      @denisehutchins4499 Před 3 lety +9

      I was with my ex 16 mths. Lived with him 10mths. Im lucky to be alive. Five years on and i still have ptsd and anxiety

    • @joywebster2678
      @joywebster2678 Před 3 lety

      Mine has a double set of ID. So when I called the police the first time he physically hurt me, all the domestic violence laws in my country didn't apply because he cou.d show his official address was elsewhere. So that eliminated access to women's shelters cops, and other services. They tell me 2 different addresses makes it non domestic. Cops told me to launch civil lawsuit for assault . He rents me my accommodations. In this pandemic and extensive lockdowns I've not been able to find a new place to move to as a senior. My point is these narcs have tricks and the balls to pull them off leaving u bleeding looking the fool.

    • @lsd938
      @lsd938 Před 3 lety

      @@joywebster2678 they have no balls... plain cowards... say to yourself you won't be intimidated or discouraged by violence, greed or corruption... keep saying this until u feel like it... it is difficult... very difficult... I am also recovering.. sending u love and shine.. find an out..

    • @joywebster2678
      @joywebster2678 Před 3 lety

      @@lsd938 well call it what u want, I would never lie to police or have double ID...I don't think their brave, nor cowardly, it's part of the personality disorder to think they are above the law and pull it off. Yes I search Daily for an out.

  • @donaldknowles9640
    @donaldknowles9640 Před 2 lety +2

    Great video , backed by amazing drawing

  • @donnaparks1919
    @donnaparks1919 Před 2 lety +3

    Sound familiar u got it 😥

  • @kayguidry6047
    @kayguidry6047 Před 3 lety +1

    CZcams would not let me subscribe

  • @hugmc
    @hugmc Před 3 lety +8

    Dealing with one, and put cannabis on top off that. 🤷

  • @avisbuckham7889
    @avisbuckham7889 Před 2 lety

    My son is the same

  • @nicoles5686
    @nicoles5686 Před rokem +1

    👏

  • @Jabbers1
    @Jabbers1 Před rokem

    Reminds me of Kate the snake😟

  • @jasmineblossom8713
    @jasmineblossom8713 Před 2 lety

    @Gramzyungn if I were you I'd seek a cease and desist letter. SourMa is a different type of crazy