F*** that kid, he didn’t decide to contact you at all but once his mother died he all of a sudden wants to see you? Sounds like he’s in need of money or something.
He might have uncovered some genetic condition or have some kind of a hereditary illness and wants to ask him about his family's medical history in which case in my opinion he should be heard and helped but nothing more
The audacity. “I no longer want you as my father”, later on “ dad great to see you”. He probably got no inheritance or his stepfather kicked him to the curb once his mom died, also Id immediately tell sis she stepped far out of line and she is no longer welcome in my life. THE END
@@buffaloefilms3079 Considering he's had a decade to call op back but decided against it the entire time, I strongly disagree. He wasn't a kid when he turned 18 & definitely wasn't when he turned 21 let alone 26 but still had op fresh in his mind because as soon as mom died he comes crawling back 😮💨
This post was made months ago and yet no update Edit : I was wrong there was an update via a comment but since the post was archived I don’t know the exact details Apparently the son wanted op’s help to finish his law school cus his step dad had “ run dry “
Well I am not the best person in the world but if I had the disposable income to help him out I would. I would make him sign a document saying I am gifting you this money if you never contact me or any of my family ever again. This would de a test to see if he only cares about my money or if he is trying to amend bridges. Because if he takes the money and comes back then I have written proof to through in my sisters face that I am nothing more then a dollar amount. I don’t think there is I dollar amount that I wouldn’t pay to get rid of all the regret in my life but if there is an affordable amount I could pay to not have another I would sign that check in a heartbeat.
I don’t want to say leave him like he left you, but the boy is now a 26 year old man. It’s sad what happened but you need to look after yourself first. Your family needs you more that he does.
Leave that Boy like he did it with you and don‘t listen to your sister that Boy dosen‘t care about you. He just wants something from you and when he gets it he will leave you alone again.
I say no and cut contact with sister. Apparently she doesn’t care about family and doesn’t care about the pain that you and your mom went through after the spoiled little brat decided he didn’t want to be your kid. Some people are just clueless when it comes to, others feelings.
cutting contact with the sister would be horrible, she’s done nothing wrong, she’s just trying to be forgiving. yeah the son doesn’t deserve anything. but a true kind person would let him back into their lives.
@@zovoky2484 she has done everything wrong. She went behind OP back and gave out information to people who didn’t deserve it. If she went about it the right way she would have contacted OP and had discussion with him about this before just giving out his information to people. You clearly have never had one person ever betray you and stab you in the back. when someone betray somebody, their family and friends should not give that person your contact information when you went no contact. Just a simple matter of respecting your loved ones. If you don’t respect them enough to keep their private information private then you should not be entitled to have it. The sister is just as guilty as everybody else because she should never have given out his information.
@@zovoky2484 NO! The kid was extremely hurtful to his dad, nearly killed himself because of it. He deserves NOTHING! He chose to terminate his dad's parental rights. He has no dad!!!!
@@zovoky2484 Giving off people's personal information like that gets that person hacked and/ or scammed. That's already starting with the wrong foot for OP's sister. You never know what kind of person you're handing the phone to, even if that boy is OP's son, you don't know if the lil shit is a thief, criminal or whatever else. You just don't know and there's no need to mess around and find out. And I'm sorry for the son but you don't get to walk out on people & shatter their hearts like that, then after a decade you get to walk back in as if you saw them last week. That's not how it works. If you want out, stay TF out. That's exactly the same situation as when a parent walks out on their child, you have no business trying to weasel your way back into that kid's life. Especially, after you left them a decade ago.
At 12 he was probably easily manipulated by his mom or new boyfriend 🤔 still that didn't give him any right to come back after all those years and act like nothing happened, he's basically an adult at this point so he should understand at least now what he did to his biological father. I'm sure he would have never contacted his father is his mom was still alive. Ungrateful kid
That kid legit said “I want to be my boyfriends son” and almost killed you from the hurt he caused but I say meet up with him DON’T forgive him tho just ask where the bf went and make sure he knows how much hurt he caused then leave
People are ignorant and judgmental. They're wrong and loud for no reason. The OP isn't in the wrong (Nta); this is a fact. OP is also the only victim in the Reddit post. That is also a fact. "He was only twelve." Wrong. He was twelve when he made the decision. At the end, he was 26 and had at least seven years to contact OP, but he didn't. "He was young and immature" isn't an excuse at this point. "Bad father." How? The child was 12 years old at the time, and it was explained multiple times what consequences followed his decisions. He wanted no contact with OP; children have rights just like any human. This means any contact made after this is unwanted and would be considered harassment. Even considering this, the OP chased and called constantly for 3 months. OP went through three stages: { desperation, depression, and acceptance, which led to his being hospitalized. Once he accepted the fact that the child couldn't care less about the bond between them, He decided to work on himself and even managed to find a better wife. Then 14 years later his son came around to do what? From what I seen he came around because the step dad couldn't pay for his college expenses. Nontheless, OP owes him nothing. The sister is trash, giving people someone else's contact info without their permission is wrong. Simply as that.
OP has had 15 years to think about it, and has already decided to not be this person's parent. There is absolutely no reason to hear anyone out, unless he regrets his earlier decision.
He was a child perhaps brain washed by his mom & his step dad, Either way Forgive him for your own sake But let the choice to cut ties remain as is you’ve paid your debt & moral obligations. And you’ve earned the right to be at peace. Let the past stay there . However to be fair, give your current children the right and option to know their brother if they want. But With the clear understanding that your involvement with whatever they decide will not exist
He had so much time to visit his dad but suddenly when his mom dies he comes crawling back? I would say maybe they were trying to keep their son away from his dad but 1, he had a devilish look whe delivering the news and 2, it’s been almost a decade since that kids become a legal adult. If he really regretted his actions he’d try to make contact a lot sooner
The kid is no longer a kid. He is over the age of 18, he can fend for himself, and if he does need anything he can ask that new dad he wanted for help. Or his mother's side of the family too.
He’s old enough to go drive he is old enough to dismiss his father then he is old enough to not complain about his decisions and crawl back to his father when things get tough.
Ask your sister to find out what the kid (now man of 26) wants. If it's money or a place to live, tell him (through her) to go ask his rich new daddy. If his new daddy has dumped him, tell him now he knows how it feels. If he just wants to mend fences, let him take you to dinner to talk if he picks up the tab.
there is nothing good that can come of meeting that kid. op would have died and it would have been the kid's fault. i know a feeling similar to what he felt, although probably less intense. my boyfriend of 1.5 years looked me dead in the eyes and told me that for 3 months he had been lying to me about loving me. i attempted to kill myself minutes after he left. i only survived because my mom asked if i wanted to watch a show with her and i backed out of it seconds before the point of no return. i then had to go to school the next morning and pretend i was fine. this world is hell. i still think about him sometimes, even 4 months later. would it be better for me to try to find someone new to help me heal?
Yea my brother was this way, his mom fed him lies and my father died without ever seeing him again, he tried showing up asking for a handout I just had him trespassed on my property after he refused to leave
I want to say hear him out. However if hes an adult, he could have made xontact with you at 18, and he didnt. That proves he doesn't give a damn about you or his biological siblings. He needs to grow a pair and write you an apology letter, and bug off or prove he actually cared and missed you all those years
The thing is, he could've reached out to his dad at any point and say that he fucked up, and would like a relationship. But nope. He only sought out his father after his mom died. I'd have told him to f*ck off as well.
Forgiveness is when you choose to live and move on. You forgave him long ago. Don’t open old wounds. Of his own free will he exposed who he really was when he turned his back on you , abandoning you. Maybe in the next life, but not this one. I’ve found out from personal experience that people are who they are. They don’t change at their core and his is rotten. Where’s that dad he wanted in place of you? Mom’s dead, but is he?? You played it well. Lesson delivered to a shallow soul.
I think it's important to inform that your biological child of the reasons for your decision to ignore him completely. Not to make him feel guilty, but to show that you se no chance or reason to renew this relationship. Otherwise he may see your rejection as unprocessed feelings he can use to get back into your life.
My daughter,then age 10, decided she didn't want to be part of my life. She chose her father. Silly me didn't even know there was a contest! Her head had been filled with lies but the hurt was soul crushing. It lasted less than 3 months and of course I forgave her . This story is heartbreaking. After 14 years I don't think I would have done the same thing as this man
he had like a decade to contact u and didn’t, if it was a “children don’t know what they’re doing” moment, or if he wanted u in his life, he would’ve definitely contacted you YEARS ago, at most, 16-17. He doesn’t care about his dad
@@Synchronisedstumbling People underestimate the power of mother over the child. I’m willing to bet he was fed bs about him “being abusive, “being a cheater,” and “he not your biological father.”
he made his choice. Now he has to live with his decisions. I am thinking, since he came to look for him right after his mother's death, it means he was living off of his mother and now needs his bio-dad to support him.
I disagree. If OP let him talk, the kid would excuse himself with reminders of his age at the time. That would mean he wasn't guilty, just vulnerable, confused, and manipulated. Yeah. I'm sure this is what the sister believes, too. She, being a Pollyanna, can pick up the slack in the kid's life and they can leave OP out of it.
Absolutely nothing good will happen. He pretty much told you to fuck off. Even after finally realizing what he did to you, don’t go through with meeting him again. He made the call, and now he’s being hit by the consequences of his own actions. Your sister isn’t really thinking about this, trying to pressure you into it. Tell her go experience what you did, and then see if she can do what she’s telling you to do. Things are often easier said than done.
Sometimes a child just needs to be let go of. We live in a day and age where children are told they are their parents equals. Sometimes you just gotta say “aight Im done” when they push too far and you did everything you could
I don’t know about this one. I would say if there is any feeling of wanting closer then go for it. As a younger person I would tell you love conquers all and you need to do it. But that was many years and many disappointments ago. Now I would say what value dose that person bring to you? You owe to your self to ask that question. I have never bared children my self so I feel like I don’t have a right to say wether to go for it or not. However, as a man how lives life with constant regret the best thing you can do is ask your self if you will regret your choice. And if you can figure out how to answer that question, please let me know.
I hate it when when people give teens a pass on something terrible like I heard a story about a girl who asked “who did dad sleep with “ when her parents told her they were getting divorced when it was the wife who cheated like yea they might not be an adult but they should still know how much that can effect someone I’m glad no one thinks the kid is right in this situation
To be honest, I say hear him out but let him know that he put you out of his life and you can do the same thing in the long run plus let your sister know what he did to you years ago and that can't be overlooked ever but you're welcome to to talk to him but after that nothing else afterwards.
It is your life. He has his whole adult life to come and see you and he flat out refused. Why out of all this time would he decide to come and see you if he didn’t want something. How would you even catch up after years of heart break? There was an update on OP. His former son wanted him to help him finish paying law school cause the ex boyfriend went broke over it. See, I knew he wanted something. He never wanted to reconnect with his father, he wanted his money and was going to use the blood card for it.
I think you've already made your choice and should stick with it you have a happy family now and that's what's more important to you than some kid who didn't care if you live or died for 14 years
I mean there may be some good from it, like finally knowing why he hated you so much and didn't want to be your son anymore, but id leave it at that. If he asks for anything, get up and walk away. Just use it for some clarification and that's all
Look, I'll say this. Maybe he was manipulated by mom and stepdad, but here's the thing he had plenty of opportunity to reach out. Why is he? Leaving now I'll tell you why. Because he wants resources if he really did love his dad, he would have done everything he could to stay with him. Is it the ex wife Fault. Yeah, so I would say this. Hear him out, but determine what he saying is b. S because he could again only be back because he wants something from you. Not because he loves you, but because he wants some premium. And if it's clear or you find out, then cut them off and ask for your sister. You tell her the same thing I know. You love her, but she needs to realize that he was a young kid. But it still hurts you. The decision he made still hurt you. You almost died because of that hell. Your mom died wanting to be wit. H your son for one last time he'd even bother. To ask about you know Hey, is Grandma owhy not what you sister? Give it to notches her son cause forget him why you're ex. Sister-in-law is beyond me. She is clearly breaking boundaries behind your back, so cut her off. Cause she'll continue to do so.
He was technically a child. As a much as he may have meant it then. He may not have known better. But he was old enough to show sympathy. So don’t give him all the remorse you know.
There nothing good that can come from this. What he could do is a set up a meeting . Tell him under no circumstances are you willing to give him money, or any type of support, that he new father job. Let him say his peace. On the other hand, I known kids who grew up in single mother homes. There some solid mothers, but there also some women who should never of had children. The mental abuse, lying , and being a punching for looking like the father( both physically and emotionally). Fellas, always the woman you pick can easily determine your future. At a minimum, you need to be with her for 5 years before marriage and children. Moving in should be no earlier than the 3 year mark
Well i think it may be good to see if he actually meant what he said when he did not want you as a dad cuz the thing is you dont even know that if it was his own choice mabye his mom told him some fake stuff you never did to make him hate you so it might be a good idea to first see if he wanted it or no if didnt you can try to come back into eachothers lifes if he wanted it then cut contact no exceptions
It took his mother dying to realize that? He could’ve contacted him any time of the day, before and the dad probably would’ve been happy. As long as he didn’t call him dad or anything. But he chose to wait till his mother died to try to make a mends. That’s weak man.
@chadbroski665 come on dude he's twelve ur telling me if ur moms boyfriend was buying u all these expensive things and taking u on vacation all the time plus the mom was probably telling the boy to make the step-dad his real dad
@@ohhblift8414 key word “probably” and yes I do think a twelve year old could make they’re own decisions for themselves. I don’t feel bad for him considering what he said to his father even being 12, like they said in the video the boy made his own choice, and it wasn’t like he couldn’t make the decision of having the new guy as his dad, but that does not mean he had to never speak to him again after that moment. He cut the father out of his life, and expected him to let him back in. That isn’t the father’s responsibility to help that boy even with the state he’s in. I will agree on you with the boyfriend though since he probably did block the father, but still it shouldn’t be his responsibility to take in the boy after years of not talking to him, and renouncing the title of father from him and then coming back just because of financial trouble or just not having a home. He should’ve never considered going to the Op. I do want to apologize for the original comment, and you can believe what you believe and I’ll believe what I do. Thank you.
@chadbroski665 trust me bro I know how this works dude my sister won't see my dad because my mom would feed lies in her head just like was doing by buying the kid all the expensive stuff in this video u act like u never been young and dumb and blinded by things terrible people bought u
![[Full Story] My family kicked me out of the house on my birthday.](/img/n.gif)
F*** that kid, he didn’t decide to contact you at all but once his mother died he all of a sudden wants to see you? Sounds like he’s in need of money or something.
Also, where's the other guy? If the offspring needed help, why didn't he go to him?
I Think the Adopted Father Whent to find Milk and Never came back
He might have uncovered some genetic condition or have some kind of a hereditary illness and wants to ask him about his family's medical history in which case in my opinion he should be heard and helped but nothing more
@@zavoreq6166
Ridiculous. If there's a glimmer of truth, offspring should contact sire through an attorney.
@zavoreq6166 Then the sister should have enough information.
The audacity. “I no longer want you as my father”, later on “ dad great to see you”.
He probably got no inheritance or his stepfather kicked him to the curb once his mom died, also Id immediately tell sis she stepped far out of line and she is no longer welcome in my life. THE END
That’s insanely harsh there’s no need for that.
Kid was eleven at the time and yeah he probably has bad intentions but the sister doesn’t know thay
Tell sis she's welcome to treat offspring however she likes, but don't bug you about it.
@@buffaloefilms3079 Considering he's had a decade to call op back but decided against it the entire time, I strongly disagree. He wasn't a kid when he turned 18 & definitely wasn't when he turned 21 let alone 26 but still had op fresh in his mind because as soon as mom died he comes crawling back 😮💨
@@UnrealEggo He could also be very much manipulated by the opinions of adults. You people act like kids are as smart and as developed as adults???
@@shoto_draws5097 what he said
This post was made months ago and yet no update
Edit : I was wrong there was an update via a comment but since the post was archived I don’t know the exact details
Apparently the son wanted op’s help to finish his law school cus his step dad had “ run dry “
I knew it
It was so obvious that all he wanted was money lmao Im not the least bit surprised
The audacity to this just shows how pathetic he is.
Well I am not the best person in the world but if I had the disposable income to help him out I would. I would make him sign a document saying I am gifting you this money if you never contact me or any of my family ever again.
This would de a test to see if he only cares about my money or if he is trying to amend bridges. Because if he takes the money and comes back then I have written proof to through in my sisters face that I am nothing more then a dollar amount.
I don’t think there is I dollar amount that I wouldn’t pay to get rid of all the regret in my life but if there is an affordable amount I could pay to not have another I would sign that check in a heartbeat.
Yeah bro not getting a dime
I don’t want to say leave him like he left you, but the boy is now a 26 year old man. It’s sad what happened but you need to look after yourself first. Your family needs you more that he does.
Leave that Boy like he did it with you and don‘t listen to your sister that Boy dosen‘t care about you. He just wants something from you and when he gets it he will leave you alone again.
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Exactly 👍👋🇨🇦
I say no and cut contact with sister. Apparently she doesn’t care about family and doesn’t care about the pain that you and your mom went through after the spoiled little brat decided he didn’t want to be your kid. Some people are just clueless when it comes to, others feelings.
cutting contact with the sister would be horrible, she’s done nothing wrong, she’s just trying to be forgiving. yeah the son doesn’t deserve anything. but a true kind person would let him back into their lives.
@@zovoky2484 she has done everything wrong. She went behind OP back and gave out information to people who didn’t deserve it. If she went about it the right way she would have contacted OP and had discussion with him about this before just giving out his information to people. You clearly have never had one person ever betray you and stab you in the back. when someone betray somebody, their family and friends should not give that person your contact information when you went no contact. Just a simple matter of respecting your loved ones. If you don’t respect them enough to keep their private information private then you should not be entitled to have it. The sister is just as guilty as everybody else because she should never have given out his information.
Lmao
@@zovoky2484 NO! The kid was extremely hurtful to his dad, nearly killed himself because of it. He deserves NOTHING! He chose to terminate his dad's parental rights. He has no dad!!!!
@@zovoky2484
Giving off people's personal information like that gets that person hacked and/ or scammed. That's already starting with the wrong foot for OP's sister.
You never know what kind of person you're handing the phone to, even if that boy is OP's son, you don't know if the lil shit is a thief, criminal or whatever else. You just don't know and there's no need to mess around and find out.
And I'm sorry for the son but you don't get to walk out on people & shatter their hearts like that, then after a decade you get to walk back in as if you saw them last week.
That's not how it works. If you want out, stay TF out.
That's exactly the same situation as when a parent walks out on their child, you have no business trying to weasel your way back into that kid's life. Especially, after you left them a decade ago.
Did anyone hear that the daughter was 18 meters?? 2:30
Yea
I think it was written as 18m which was supposed to be taken as months but, because of the text to speech bot, it became meter.
@@jingjing7411that’s what I figured, thanks for the confirmation
daughter a tree and i wanna get that branch
That hit hard
At 12 he was probably easily manipulated by his mom or new boyfriend 🤔 still that didn't give him any right to come back after all those years and act like nothing happened, he's basically an adult at this point so he should understand at least now what he did to his biological father. I'm sure he would have never contacted his father is his mom was still alive. Ungrateful kid
That kid legit said “I want to be my boyfriends son” and almost killed you from the hurt he caused but I say meet up with him DON’T forgive him tho just ask where the bf went and make sure he knows how much hurt he caused then leave
People are ignorant and judgmental. They're wrong and loud for no reason.
The OP isn't in the wrong (Nta); this is a fact. OP is also the only victim in the Reddit post. That is also a fact.
"He was only twelve." Wrong. He was twelve when he made the decision. At the end, he was 26 and had at least seven years to contact OP, but he didn't. "He was young and immature" isn't an excuse at this point. "Bad father." How?
The child was 12 years old at the time, and it was explained multiple times what consequences followed his decisions. He wanted no contact with OP; children have rights just like any human. This means any contact made after this is unwanted and would be considered harassment. Even considering this, the OP chased and called constantly for 3 months.
OP went through three stages: { desperation, depression, and acceptance, which led to his being hospitalized. Once he accepted the fact that the child couldn't care less about the bond between them, He decided to work on himself and even managed to find a better wife. Then 14 years later his son came around to do what? From what I seen he came around because the step dad couldn't pay for his college expenses. Nontheless, OP owes him nothing. The sister is trash, giving people someone else's contact info without their permission is wrong. Simply as that.
I’d say hear him out but don’t form a relationship with him, listen to what he has to say and think if it worth it
I mean, it is non zero odds that the kid was protecting the father from a monster of a mother. So we never know.
He (sire) has had 15 years to think about it.
Nah. What's to hear out? Tell him go talk to his dad.
OP has had 15 years to think about it, and has already decided to not be this person's parent. There is absolutely no reason to hear anyone out, unless he regrets his earlier decision.
@@scurvofpcp… what?
He was a child perhaps brain washed by his mom & his step dad, Either way Forgive him for your own sake But let the choice to cut ties remain as is you’ve paid your debt & moral obligations. And you’ve earned the right to be at peace. Let the past stay there . However to be fair, give your current children the right and option to know their brother if they want. But With the clear understanding that your involvement with whatever they decide will not exist
probably the mom said some stuff about the father that’s why he did that
No he prefered money like his mother.
@@olivierdk2seems like it
3:04 "It was, My first biological offspring" 😭💀
He made his desisions so now he has to asume the consecuences
He had so much time to visit his dad but suddenly when his mom dies he comes crawling back? I would say maybe they were trying to keep their son away from his dad but 1, he had a devilish look whe delivering the news and 2, it’s been almost a decade since that kids become a legal adult. If he really regretted his actions he’d try to make contact a lot sooner
Just trying to steal your money. Listen to him but if he starts talking about money, then just leave.
The kid is no longer a kid. He is over the age of 18, he can fend for himself, and if he does need anything he can ask that new dad he wanted for help. Or his mother's side of the family too.
"How sharper than a serpent's tooth it is to have a thankless child.”
2:35 my daughter is also 18 meters old! Such a coinki-dink!
The shit ai bot read 18m as 18 meters instead of 18 months
He’s old enough to go drive he is old enough to dismiss his father then he is old enough to not complain about his decisions and crawl back to his father when things get tough.
Ask your sister to find out what the kid (now man of 26) wants. If it's money or a place to live, tell him (through her) to go ask his rich new daddy. If his new daddy has dumped him, tell him now he knows how it feels. If he just wants to mend fences, let him take you to dinner to talk if he picks up the tab.
there is nothing good that can come of meeting that kid. op would have died and it would have been the kid's fault. i know a feeling similar to what he felt, although probably less intense. my boyfriend of 1.5 years looked me dead in the eyes and told me that for 3 months he had been lying to me about loving me. i attempted to kill myself minutes after he left. i only survived because my mom asked if i wanted to watch a show with her and i backed out of it seconds before the point of no return. i then had to go to school the next morning and pretend i was fine. this world is hell.
i still think about him sometimes, even 4 months later. would it be better for me to try to find someone new to help me heal?
Yea my brother was this way, his mom fed him lies and my father died without ever seeing him again, he tried showing up asking for a handout I just had him trespassed on my property after he refused to leave
nah nbs if you make my MOTHER cry on her deathbed, theres no coming back from that
I would say hear him out but I do understand how you feel
No
@@heathermorrow7941why
Yep@@heathermorrow7941
No
Yea he a kid he prob didn’t fully knew what he was doing Is Mom probably told him
he needs money. the only reason they ever comeback is when they need something. And it’s almost always money.
The audacity to come back after making your dad have no parental control? Man almost killed himself.
daughter 18 meters
LMAO
She tall as fūçk
Probably was written 18 months but the ai mistook it as meters lmao
She got all the height genetics
The kid made his choice and he needs to live with it he broke OP’s heart beyond repair
I want to say hear him out. However if hes an adult, he could have made xontact with you at 18, and he didnt. That proves he doesn't give a damn about you or his biological siblings. He needs to grow a pair and write you an apology letter, and bug off or prove he actually cared and missed you all those years
The thing is, he could've reached out to his dad at any point and say that he fucked up, and would like a relationship. But nope. He only sought out his father after his mom died. I'd have told him to f*ck off as well.
If the sister is so concerned she can give him the money herself, You owe him nothing!!’
Forgiveness is when you choose to live and move on. You forgave him long ago. Don’t open old wounds. Of his own free will he exposed who he really was when he turned his back on you , abandoning you. Maybe in the next life, but not this one. I’ve found out from personal experience that people are who they are. They don’t change at their core and his is rotten. Where’s that dad he wanted in place of you? Mom’s dead, but is he?? You played it well. Lesson delivered to a shallow soul.
I think it's important to inform that your biological child of the reasons for your decision to ignore him completely. Not to make him feel guilty, but to show that you se no chance or reason to renew this relationship. Otherwise he may see your rejection as unprocessed feelings he can use to get back into your life.
Nope. Just leave him like he did with him without context or anything.
You don’t have to give him money or even really forgive him, but you could atleast talk to him. He was a child when he made that decision. Now his 26.
He made his bed and now he has to lay in it
My daughter,then age 10, decided she didn't want to be part of my life. She chose her father. Silly me didn't even know there was a contest! Her head had been filled with lies but the hurt was soul crushing. It lasted less than 3 months and of course I forgave her . This story is heartbreaking. After 14 years I don't think I would have done the same thing as this man
CORRECTION I meant I would do the same thing
I genuinely hope he reads this story.
he had like a decade to contact u and didn’t, if it was a “children don’t know what they’re doing” moment, or if he wanted u in his life, he would’ve definitely contacted you YEARS ago, at most, 16-17. He doesn’t care about his dad
No, and that’s what happened if you make dumb decision
Play stupid games and win stupid prizes
@@Synchronisedstumbling People underestimate the power of mother over the child. I’m willing to bet he was fed bs about him “being abusive, “being a cheater,” and “he not your biological father.”
@@stevendeen4391then why would he ever come back at the age of 26 for money to finish his law degree?
he made his choice. Now he has to live with his decisions. I am thinking, since he came to look for him right after his mother's death, it means he was living off of his mother and now needs his bio-dad to support him.
I would say go meet up with him, see what he actually wants from you, and then tell him off for how much he made you hurt to get the ultimate revenge
I disagree. If OP let him talk, the kid would excuse himself with reminders of his age at the time. That would mean he wasn't guilty, just vulnerable, confused, and manipulated. Yeah. I'm sure this is what the sister believes, too. She, being a Pollyanna, can pick up the slack in the kid's life and they can leave OP out of it.
Absolutely nothing good will happen. He pretty much told you to fuck off. Even after finally realizing what he did to you, don’t go through with meeting him again. He made the call, and now he’s being hit by the consequences of his own actions. Your sister isn’t really thinking about this, trying to pressure you into it. Tell her go experience what you did, and then see if she can do what she’s telling you to do. Things are often easier said than done.
Sometimes a child just needs to be let go of. We live in a day and age where children are told they are their parents equals. Sometimes you just gotta say “aight Im done” when they push too far and you did everything you could
I don’t know about this one. I would say if there is any feeling of wanting closer then go for it. As a younger person I would tell you love conquers all and you need to do it. But that was many years and many disappointments ago.
Now I would say what value dose that person bring to you? You owe to your self to ask that question. I have never bared children my self so I feel like I don’t have a right to say wether to go for it or not. However, as a man how lives life with constant regret the best thing you can do is ask your self if you will regret your choice. And if you can figure out how to answer that question, please let me know.
I hate it when when people give teens a pass on something terrible like I heard a story about a girl who asked “who did dad sleep with “ when her parents told her they were getting divorced when it was the wife who cheated like yea they might not be an adult but they should still know how much that can effect someone I’m glad no one thinks the kid is right in this situation
I say hear him out in case he's genuinely sorry for what he did but keep your guard up just in case he just wants something from you
_"...meet up..."_
Bad idea.
Bad idea man, he the boy is 28 had 10 years to contact him but now his mother is gone, now he wants to talk? Seems like he wants something
This one's above my pay grade, but I understand exactly where you're coming from, and you will get no note of condemnation from me.
To be honest, I say hear him out but let him know that he put you out of his life and you can do the same thing in the long run plus let your sister know what he did to you years ago and that can't be overlooked ever but you're welcome to to talk to him but after that nothing else afterwards.
Holy shit his Daugther is 18 Meters??!!!
They grow so fast! 😂
Give him 500 dollar and ask him to leave, and get a job
damb😂
It is your life. He has his whole adult life to come and see you and he flat out refused. Why out of all this time would he decide to come and see you if he didn’t want something. How would you even catch up after years of heart break?
There was an update on OP. His former son wanted him to help him finish paying law school cause the ex boyfriend went broke over it.
See, I knew he wanted something. He never wanted to reconnect with his father, he wanted his money and was going to use the blood card for it.
I think you've already made your choice and should stick with it you have a happy family now and that's what's more important to you than some kid who didn't care if you live or died for 14 years
Why do women almost always get the child custody???
a prejudice against men that is, admittedly, more often than not valid
He made a man's decision and for that he shall live with it
Dude. The video that is linked isn’t even the video that has the story at all. Completely different story
No mercy for the wicked.
Gym solves everything
no. youre doing the right thing, op.
As a father i know this hard for him. But his son chose his step to be his dad so why he think is a good idea to came back to his dad life.
one word : DESPERATE
Holy shit you have a tall daughter
Of course, not he made his choices. And he decided to go in is bad. It's not your responsibility anymore.
I mean there may be some good from it, like finally knowing why he hated you so much and didn't want to be your son anymore, but id leave it at that. If he asks for anything, get up and walk away. Just use it for some clarification and that's all
Look, I'll say this. Maybe he was manipulated by mom and stepdad, but here's the thing he had plenty of opportunity to reach out. Why is he? Leaving now I'll tell you why. Because he wants resources if he really did love his dad, he would have done everything he could to stay with him. Is it the ex wife Fault. Yeah, so I would say this. Hear him out, but determine what he saying is b. S because he could again only be back because he wants something from you. Not because he loves you, but because he wants some premium. And if it's clear or you find out, then cut them off and ask for your sister. You tell her the same thing I know. You love her, but she needs to realize that he was a young kid. But it still hurts you. The decision he made still hurt you. You almost died because of that hell. Your mom died wanting to be wit. H your son for one last time he'd even bother.
To ask about you know Hey, is Grandma owhy not what you sister? Give it to notches her son cause forget him why you're ex. Sister-in-law is beyond me. She is clearly breaking boundaries behind your back, so cut her off. Cause she'll continue to do so.
0:54 for short watchers
Don’t be petty, just see if he actually cares about you
He was technically a child. As a much as he may have meant it then. He may not have known better. But he was old enough to show sympathy. So don’t give him all the remorse you know.
It’s really a hard one 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ I actually can’t decide 🤦🏻♀️
Daughter is 18meters 💀
Stick to your guns. He didn’t care about you then, he doesn’t care about you now. He made the decision, force him to stick to it. He is NOT your son
Daughter 18 meters?
No he made his bed now he must lay on it
My daughter is personally 2 meters
His daughter is three METERS old! Wtf that mean!
My god a 18 meters daughter, that is a very big daughter
Nothing except for exposing the family who You couldn't really trust with everything.
There nothing good that can come from this.
What he could do is a set up a meeting . Tell him under no circumstances are you willing to give him money, or any type of support, that he new father job. Let him say his peace.
On the other hand, I known kids who grew up in single mother homes. There some solid mothers, but there also some women who should never of had children. The mental abuse, lying , and being a punching for looking like the father( both physically and emotionally).
Fellas, always the woman you pick can easily determine your future. At a minimum, you need to be with her for 5 years before marriage and children. Moving in should be no earlier than the 3 year mark
Your daughter is 18 meters, she’s a giant!
Not your kid, not your problem
Hear him out but I get where you're coming from
I, too, love my daughter of 18 Meters
I have a feeling if the kid was a girl this might be different.
Nah, I feel the same in both hypotheticals
Bros 26 hes a man now he can kick rocks
What the actual fuck is that thing 2:24
“So how old is your daughter?”
“18 meters.”
I’m sorry I had to! 2:33 😭😭
Did this ever get an update?
Well i think it may be good to see if he actually meant what he said when he did not want you as a dad cuz the thing is you dont even know that if it was his own choice mabye his mom told him some fake stuff you never did to make him hate you so it might be a good idea to first see if he wanted it or no if didnt you can try to come back into eachothers lifes if he wanted it then cut contact no exceptions
daughter 18 mtrs.. I wanna meet her😂😂😂😂
Any updates?
I need to know what happened next
I mean mf was 11 to you expect
De camera man schrok zich dood van Jensen
I have a son 4 years and a daughter 18 meters 2:29
You should talk with him and then make another part for us
Nah I would have no sister after she said those words to me. An if call the ex wife’s family to tell them to get him or I will call the cops
Damn I ain’t know anyone could get to 18 meters that’s tall asf
Stay away from him
I would he was young and dumb and the stepdad was trying to bribe him with all the stuff he probably grew up and finally realized what he did
It took his mother dying to realize that? He could’ve contacted him any time of the day, before and the dad probably would’ve been happy. As long as he didn’t call him dad or anything. But he chose to wait till his mother died to try to make a mends. That’s weak man.
@chadbroski665 come on dude he's twelve ur telling me if ur moms boyfriend was buying u all these expensive things and taking u on vacation all the time plus the mom was probably telling the boy to make the step-dad his real dad
@chadbroski665 and why would he contact him when the dad probably blocked him on everything so how was he gonna contact him
@@ohhblift8414 key word “probably” and yes I do think a twelve year old could make they’re own decisions for themselves. I don’t feel bad for him considering what he said to his father even being 12, like they said in the video the boy made his own choice, and it wasn’t like he couldn’t make the decision of having the new guy as his dad, but that does not mean he had to never speak to him again after that moment. He cut the father out of his life, and expected him to let him back in. That isn’t the father’s responsibility to help that boy even with the state he’s in. I will agree on you with the boyfriend though since he probably did block the father, but still it shouldn’t be his responsibility to take in the boy after years of not talking to him, and renouncing the title of father from him and then coming back just because of financial trouble or just not having a home. He should’ve never considered going to the Op. I do want to apologize for the original comment, and you can believe what you believe and I’ll believe what I do. Thank you.
@chadbroski665 trust me bro I know how this works dude my sister won't see my dad because my mom would feed lies in her head just like was doing by buying the kid all the expensive stuff in this video u act like u never been young and dumb and blinded by things terrible people bought u