Compassion comes from the drive for the good of togetherness - the principle is ‘Love thy neighbor as thyself.’ Maturity is an awareness of we taking place the I. A condition for having a healthy ‘knowing me is knowing you’ is to have a peaceful mind. Too judgmental hurts. Self acceptance helps. The prerequisite is ‘Be gentle to yourself!’ Then, we start to be more compassionate and more understanding to others. There will be relationship to be treasured and self will be directed to a better path.
其實在概念上，self-compassion 同 self-improvement 並不是兩個 spectrum。根據 self-compassion 學者 Kristin Neff 所說，Self-Compassion 或許與「Shame 」才是兩個 Spectrum (因為 Self-Compassion 三個元素的另一面是 Over-identification、Self-Criticism、Isolation (即是在挫敗中，我們「執著、對己嚴苛、感到孤單」) （詳情可以參考 Chris Germer （Neff 拍擋）對 Self-Compassion vs Shame 的討論。）
感謝補充。片入面想帶出嚟嘅信息係當人有過失嘅時侯，除左要有self-compassion 接納自己嘅不足，self-improvement 嘅動力亦同時相等地重要。如果再有機會講 self-compassion，會包埋你建議 Self-Compassion vs Shame嘅討論的 ：）
Agree with Adrian. To my understanding, basically what Peter said about self compassion and self improvement is wrong in this video.
解釋得好簡單而清晰，感謝分享🙏
Peter,謝謝您講Self-compassion 這個題目,香港很少人去講/研究,我在約5-6年前意外的第一次聽過這個題目的講座,印象相當深刻,希望您遲些有機會再講多些關於這個題目呢！謝謝妳的付出可讓更多人可認識到相關咁豐富的知識!🙏🙏
多謝你， 自我關懷的確重要～ 有機會再講！
@@TreeholeHK 太好了!我都很認同自我關懷的重要性,期待著!👍🙏🙏
又長知識，thz
感恩，自我关怀，做人才会开心😄
多謝！
多謝你的大力支持！
我們會繼續努力💪
睇左你地個channel無幾耐，覺得好有啟發性，小力support😂
有些人會用真我為借口不斷傷害其他人，覺得別人要接受他的無理要求、奚落、甚至羞辱，還反過來罵人不能面對事實，這樣扭曲的性格，是不是個narcissist? 即使不是也是相當toxic, 如何面對呢？
盡量遠離他/她，忽略佢！
我有個80歲女鄰居，他持老賣老，貪得無厭，理所當然，口沒遮攔，任意莽為，又恩將仇報⋯⋯
竟然在有恩於她的鄰居門口淋小便多次！只因人哋拒絕❌她參觀家居…….還有多次唔識尊重人家的私隱。
她經常一派胡言，仲會惡人先告狀⋯⋯，
80多歲的她與很多鄰里相處不融洽的。
Compassion comes from the drive for the good of togetherness - the principle is ‘Love thy neighbor as thyself.’ Maturity is an awareness of we taking place the I. A condition for having a healthy ‘knowing me is knowing you’ is to have a peaceful mind. Too judgmental hurts. Self acceptance helps. The prerequisite is ‘Be gentle to yourself!’ Then, we start to be more compassionate and more understanding to others. There will be relationship to be treasured and self will be directed to a better path.
多謝分享！希望自己下次都會practice到～
咁有啲情況係唔開心，覺得自己做唔到、好失敗就搵朋友傾訴。佢安慰「我都唔係咁差姐」，又覺得只係客套；但係人地比啲實際建議去改善，又好似無動力/唔想去改變咁。
咁呢種又可以點以心理學角度分析？從而去打破呢種循環？
Thanks
謝謝，咁岩呢兩日心情好差
芻音初
thanks for reminder!
謝謝Peter! 👍👍
一椿小事: 殺蟑螂,別用殺蟲水這些化學劑,為害環境很大, 看準,硬物打死吧🎯 😅
打死會好多菌, 用肥皂水噴🤣
成日都覺得
當行到極端的時候，已經不再是sales compassion，mindfulness讓自己察覺這個現象，便再調整一個平衡點，循環不息。
Sales compassion? 😅
@@Walleeva228 self 😆老花眼問題⋯⋯
不好意思，反芻思考，
“芻” 字的發音是 “初”
善意提醒，希望不會介意。
"常言rumination 要不得 要看開 的我
很怪 狂野點火姿態 自我折墮" - Serrini 樹木真美
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Hi Peter
我需要你幫忙
但是，在導演的分析，只是拍戲的情緒低落，不應該出現抑鬱症的病徵呀？
經過這個分析下，導演重新來個定格，讓這人的病態，轉而到應有的觀念思維，這個抑鬱症的表現出來的，也醫治了，拍了片後，帶出脫離劇情的內在的感情，重而健康回來了呀？🎉
見過有人，明明是拍戲，但是，因為劇情的需要，而將自己的情緒，降得低低的啊？😢