Do you still go to the celebrate Life events at CTCA (now city of hope ) I treated in Tulsa and Newnan Georgia .I am in remission and had hodgkin's lymphoma in 2012 and it came back as non hodgkin's lymphoma large B cell in 2014 .All my treatment has been with cancer treatment centers of America and the lord has truly blessed me and really opened my eyes in a different way .I am in the cancer fighters connect program and I talk to patients who are thinking about going to CTCA (city of hope )and answer any questions they may have .I have just found this video this morning ,it just popped up in my feed but it’s not my first time watching your videos as I love your restaurant videos .Thanks for this video and it is truly a blessing !❤ My wife and I live in Pelzer ,SC (near Greenville and would love to meet you at one of our local restaurants in our area (we have a lot of hole in the wall and one of a kind types that are not chain owned .One you need to google is Saluda River Grill in Piedmont,SC ,right on the river and unique (great steaks and prime rib ) Bless you and your family 🙏🏼✝️
I listened to the replay of your Live tonight. This video was mentioned. I appreciate your vulnerability. God is always in control and always right :) Thanks for sharing your personal story.
Absolutely. This was a video that we definitely felt led to make last year, hopefully to be a blessing and encouragement to others. We appreciate your watching, and for your nice comment. Hope you all are doing well.
I have been watching for awhile now and so enjoy your videos. I pray that many young couples who are going through rough times will watch this because it is so inspiring. Thank you for sharing your personal story.
Thank you so very much for letting us know that you enjoyed this video. We felt lead of the Lord to make it, to try to be a help and encouragement to others who might be struggling. We know what it is to struggle in our marriage, and we know what it is for God to intervene and put it back together. We just wanted to be a blessing to others, and thank you for letting us know that it was. We appreciate it.
Enjoyed hearing about your experiences. My husband and I have been married for almost 46 years! 2 boys and 4 grandchildren. I couldn't even imagine starting a different life. Hasn't been perfect around here either, but we continue to commit, usually, joyful. motto is TURN AROUND DON'T DROWN! 😊
Thank you for sharing your marriage journey. It is so encouraging to hear how God has sustained and supported you in your marriage both in sickness and health. We loved your real and casual discussion. Marriage is work, but you are an example of learning lessons, honesty and forgiveness and persistence-just refusing to give up. Our friends,Charlotte and Ed sent us your link and we so enjoyed hearing it, we have listened to some of your other videos. Thank you for blessing us all.
You are so very welcome! Thanks so much for letting us know you enjoyed our martial testimony. We want God to use it to help and bless others. Ed and Charlotte are wonderful people. We are actually going to be in Colorado this week, and look forward to seeing them.
I loved your video. I appreciate y’all opening up to show what a marriage is with God in it. God bless y’all. I so enjoy seeing all of the videos. Please keep them coming!
Awesome video, I am so appreciative that you shared this video on you channel. A much needed story to share and put out there for all to hear. About the wedding bands that you mentioned you could always wear your bands on your right hand. I know people that do that due to reasons that they can't wear a ring on their right hand. Thank you for sharing this.
We are so glad you enjoyed this video. We wanted our story to be a blessing and a help to others, even though we had to acknowledge that things haven't always been the way they are now. God has brought us a long way.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. It helps so see what we do wrong each day and makes us realize that we need to talk to our spouse when something is bothering us I am so guilty of being a volcano letting it build up and explode and my husband doesn’t even realize anything was wrong!!again this is both of us second marriages and I was one that come to find my husband cleaned out his clothes and left and we were both christens but god was not the primary in our home, this being said god is first in my out lives today!!again thank you for sharing.
It's refreshing to see people who are honest about their life and the struggles that EVERYONE goes through in life. Life is not like you see typically on social media. Everything is not always perfect. Thank you for sharing and bringing us along on your adventures. My wife and I will be married for 38 years this April, and have had many of the same struggles you guys had. We both love your videos, and watch them every week together. We live in Charlotte and go to the same city you guys visit often, I always watch your past videos to plan our lunches and dinners !
I enjoy your videos but had not subscribed. i just wasnt sure...until I've heard some of your messages. Your message on the Jesus birth was so good and to the point. This video is really how to make a marriage work. Everything you said was so true especially what the Bible says about it. My aunt told us before we were married how important communication is. We have been married 40 years. Besides becoming a Christian, it is the best decision of my life. Keep spreading the message and have fun and safe travels.❤
We appreciate this comment so much. We thank you for watching, and for subscribing. But more than that, we're glad that our channel and our videos have been a blessing to you. Thank you for letting us know.
I've been so blessed to come across this video and your channel! You two have shared moments of your marriage that show the normal side of marriage, the give and take...I see a beautiful love in both your eyes. And your wife has the prettiest smile 🤗 May Our Good Father bless you abundantly in your marriage and home ❤️
Just found your channel a few weeks ago and I have watched several videos now. This is by far the best one. Don’t get me wrong, love all the travel stuff but this one hit home for me. I can assure you that this video was put in my line of vision for a reason today. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for letting us know that. We felt led that we should do that video and open up a bit of our lives, and we are glad it was helpful to you and so many others. Thank you so much for watching.
Awesome video Thank you so much for sharing y'alls up and downs in your marriage Especially thankful for sharing how yall put God first in your marriage Very hopeful and uplifting video It touched me and my husband and I'm sure it has touched others Glory be to God
We certainly will. God is able, as long as both parties are willing to fix it, and follow Him. We hope God uses this video to be a blessing to you both.
Absolutely thank y’all. May our Good Lord continue to keep you cancer free an continue bless y’all’s marriage. I absolutely appreciate y’all sharing this ❤
This has been such a blessing to me. You have obeyed God in doing this video. Thank you for sharing your testimony with us. So many nuggets in it that will stick with those who have a desire to change their lives for the better . And we love your adventure videos you post on You Tube. God bless you as you keep spreading the good news....GOD IS GOOD ! and oh yes, we have been married 60 years and have Looooooooots of stories😉
My wife and I were both brought up in the church. There is 5 years between us. I thank her every week for choosing me to be her life partner. In august it be 50 years of marriage for us. We have been truly bless. Thanks for telling us about your experiences. God bless.
I’m in the middle of watching this video, but I have to stop and say this video makes me love y’all even more. Praise the Lord He blessed your relationship and saved your marriage and brought you to the place you are today. I appreciate so much your stand on the Word. My husband and I will celebrate 48 years of marriage this July. We too, have seen many hard times, but are blissfully happy in our retirement years, and can look back on many beautiful memories.
Thank you for commenting, and for sharing your wonderful testimony, as well. And congratulating on almost 50 years of marriage! That is a testament to God's grace.
Thank you for sharing words of wisdom and for being so transparent. Good marriages do not just happen, they take a lot of work. We will celebrate 30 years in May. Love your sense of humor. That is something we enjoy in our marriage as well. Absolutely loved this video.
Thank you so much! Wow, you all were basically married just a few weeks or a month after us. Congratulations! And you are correct, that any good marriage takes lots of work and commitment from both parties.
This was a great video. Thank you both so for being so vulnerable and honest about your personal struggle in your marriage and how the Lord brought healing and restoration. What a powerful testimony. The Lord is going to use this to help alot of people. The Lord is going to use your testimony on this video to heal and restore alot of marriages. God bless you both and your marriage.
That is truly our prayer, that God can use our experience. Maybe it can show another couple who is about to throw in the towel, that God is able to restore. He certainly has done that for us.
Thank y'all for sharing the ups and downs of being married. It isn't always easy but it's worth it. With God's guiding hand you can make it through the hard times. Marriage is work like anything else that is important. Much love, may God continue to bless you.
What a blessing! I know these two people personally and I know that they live what they say. I’m sure this will really help someone that is struggling in their marriage. Thank you guys for being vulnerable and allowing your experience to help others. I pray the Lord blesses you for it.
We are both trying to guess who this is...LOL. I'm going to pm the person who I think, to see if I am correct. Praying that God will use this to help others.
Thank you for being brave and courageous in making this video. I am divorced because of domestic abuse but did remarry again. If I had not gotten out of that marriage I would not be alive. My ex-husband was not saved and I was so much younger. Your channel is one of my favs and until today I had never heard of Ferguson in Wilkes. We moved to Wilkes 5 years ago but we are closer to Elkin. It's a small World! God Bless you! My husband now was born in Minnesota and he was transplanted to NC in 1983 when his parent's jobs transferred them to NC. Tomorrow is our 18th Wedding Anniversary.
You are down in the eastern part of Wilkes County. Ferguson is a small community off of highway 268, between Wilkesboro and Lenoir. It is right before you leave Wilkes County and cross over into Caldwell County. Where in MN was your husband born? Shawnasi, my wife, was born in St. Cloud, MN.
I’ve been watching y’all for several months now, but going through your library tonight just happened to see this and click on it. I watched it entirely, and it was very much a blessing to me. Thank you.
And thank you for letting us know it was a blessing. This video is one that we felt God leading us to make, in the hopes it would be an encouragement to others, and to know that they don't have to give up hope.
That's true. We tolerate abuse and disrespect from our spouses and children that we'd never in a second take off a stranger or neighbor. It shouldn't be that way.
Thank you for sharing your story. I basically heard mine and my wife's story, we both grew up in Church, we met in College in 1982 and the minute I laid eyes on her I knew she was who God had for me to marry, and did marry in 1984. This year we will be married 39 yrs...I became a Deacon in my Church in 1986 my wife lead music in three different Baptist Churches for 16 yrs, we have two sons, 33 and 28 but ten yrs into our marriage we were really struggling, the old devil had me doubting that I was where I needed be, our marriage was falling apart, and mainly because of my selfishness, but had it not been for the Godly wife God gave me I truly believe our marriage would have ended, but she chose not to give up on me, and after 2-1/2 yrs God brought me to my knees and opened my eyes to my self-centered attitude, and offered me a chance to repent and be forgiven for my selfishness. We also committed to being transparent in hopes it would help others. There are so many people that believe Church going Christians never face trials or troubles in life, that is far from the truth...sorry for rambling.
What an amazing testimony. Thank you so much for sharing it with us. It sounds a lot like where we used to be, and where we are now. Congratulations on 39 years of marriage.
Thank you for such a candid interview and sharing with us. We can relate to what you said. Over our marriage, we have both had cancer, my husband is in the ministry and we can relate to the struggles of life. There have been times when realizing the vows I made were to God as well as my husband was the thing that kept us going. The richness of staying together through the hard times creates a sweetness of relationship that is a gift from God. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us. I'm so glad we have found y'all. I know this will speak to the hearts of many others as well. You have certainly been a blessing and encouragement to me today. Your friend in SC, Jane ❤️ 🙏
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It was a blessing to hear. My brother in law was diagnosed at 21 with Non Hodgekins Lymphoma. God healed him too. He has since met the Lord due to a tragic accident. But Glory be to God for the cancer healing for him and also you. Praise His name. ❤
My name is Tami! My husband and I are both Christians, we love watching your channel. Thank you both for sharing your hearts. May God bless y'all, and keep up the good work.
My husband and I have been married 47 years. We both grew up in church together. Dated four years in high school. This year has been stressful for both of us. We go through times of bickering and down right getting on each other’s nerves. We found this CZcams channel and just loved watching it. This video is what we have needed to bring us back to our basics. Why we even fell in love and knowing it was Godly. We intend to view it at least twice to get what you are really wanting people to know. Thank you and you need to do a marriage class! The Sapp’s! ❤
Thank you so much for writing to let us know this video was helpful, and then it came at a good time. That's why we put it out. We felt it was something God wanted us to do, and open up and share a part of our lives that was personal, so that it would be a blessing to others. It is a blessing to us, to know that it was a blessing to you and your husband.
I love this wonderful testimony and words of encouragement. I can tell you are a really good preacher . I have been watching several of your videos and been enjoying them
It is so wonderful to meet fellow Christians. God led me to this channel today. I have subscribed and look forward to more videos. My husband and I have been married 49 years and we have weathered good times and bad times, but we deeply love each other and 14 years ago went back to church. I teach Sunday School to the senior ladies at our church and lead a women's bible study on Thursday mornings. Never did I dream I would be doing this. My husband is a deacon, usher,backup mixed group Sunday school teacher and teaches a mixed group bible study Sunday nights. God bless you two.
My husband and I enjoyed this video a lot. We have been married 38 years and now retired. We enjoy our life together so much. We follow a lot of what you shared today. Thanks for sharing.
Absolutely, stay together for the kids…. It’s the right thing to do. And you come out on the other side realizing the kids taught you how individually important you are to them, and how that importance is invaluable to one another
Thanks for sharing guys really enjoyed. Renee and I have been married 38 yrs but the last 17 have been the best because we gave it to the Lord and He has blessed us as He has y'all. There's Nothing Impossible for the Lord!!!!
Just subscribed to your channel last week. Good information on the National Parks Service banning CZcamsrs. I think they have no clue about how much we CZcamsrs help show off our National Parks. The “free advertising“ they get is actually great for them.
Thank you for sharing your heart and soul. What a testimony of what God can do. The early years of our marriage was also bad but God in his goodness and mercy restored our love for each other. We've now been married for 43 years. Thank you for your stand on the King James Bible. Thank you for sharing God in your videos. You both have become a blessing to us. We enjoy your videos a lot. May God bless you richly.
We watched this yesterday evening and really enjoyed it as we do all your videos. We watch your livestream from your church on Sundays while we are getting ready to go to church. Derrick, we started watching a channel a couple months ago called Celebrating Appalachia. They are from NC as well. It might be a channel that you guys would like. They are a Christian family who mostly film from home. They raise a garden and she does cooking and baking and they take hikes in the woods near their home cookout outdoors their twin daughters sing bluegrass and gospel songs.
That does sound like something we would enjoy watching. Thank you for pointing them out. So glad you enjoy listening to our church's livestream, and that you like our videos. Thank you for letting us know.
I really appreciate this video. It’s opened my eyes up to how I should be as a wife. He is doing good as a husband but I found some ways threw this that I can improve. Thank you so much!!!
We have been married 55 years there have been ups and downs but I know no matter what I can always count on him to be there for me I know I am there for him. We were both brought up in the Baptist church. I think since retirement we have grown closer togethe more time to spend with each other talk and go and just have fun. God put us together. Praise Him
What a beautiful testimony! ❤️ We have been following you for a few months and love your videos. I just found out that I have colon cancer. Tests and surgery coming up. You have reenforced my faith that God's got this. My wife and I are 77 and married for 38 years. Your backstory parallels our own story. LOL. God Bless you and keep the videos coming. With Love from Seven Mile, Ohio.
Thank you for sharing this. It is on time for my husband and I in regards to your health battle in the beginning of your video. God is honored when we press into hard things and trust his future for us even if it's scary, hurtful, not seen. Trials seem to come all at once sometimes. Appreciate the reminder were not alone.
I just want to say that God was speaking to me through this video. My husband and I went through a similar situation and now our marriage is solid and we have fun together. We are so happy that we found you guys. We are trying to get into camping ourselves. Thanks for being a blessing.
Thank you so much for writing to let us know that it was a blessing to you. When we decided to do this video, we prayed that our experience would be a help and a blessing to others. We have had numerous messages similar to yours, and that makes it worth it. You and he should really try to get into camping, as those will be some of the fondest memories you'll ever make. It certainly is worth it to stick it out through the tough times. With God first, all things are possible.
What a wonderful testimony. I pray many will hear your love story, that marriage is not without struggle or immune to health issues becoming a rough unexpected bump in the road. I wish someone had shared the pitfall of holding in feelings, letting them fester, until things become worse in your mind than they actually are. My husband and I are in our 70's now, but in our early 30's we thought we had reached the end of being happy together. I remember so well telling our 9 year old daughter that we were not happy, and we were not going to be living together, and her response was, "You mean like they do on Days of Our Lives". a soap opera. We did divorce, and I did marry someone else who truly loved me, he lived 2 years and God took him home. My husband and I remarried 4 years afterwards and are still together today, I know it's odd, but we never had any hard feelings about our divorce. My second husband and first husband were good friends, our daughter called him Daddy, because she had always called her father, Papa. Our granddaughter is getting married in April to a man older than her and she may gain some insight from your story. She has heard my honest account of our story, but yours may have help her as well. May God continue to bless you both with health. I have enjoyed your videos for a while, but your honesty tonight has earned my respect that your videos are not just entertainment, they are an example of what God can do..
Wow, thank you so much for sharing this. Congratulations on your long lasting marriage, even after the bumps in the road earlier. We pray this video will be helpful to your granddaughter, and many others. God bless.
Thank you so much for this video. We appreciate you being honest and telling your marriage story. That takes courage but will certainly be so helpful to more couples. My husband Dave and I have been married 49 years. Will be 50 in October. The Lord is at the center of our marriage. But we still have had many of the things you talked about, happen with us too. We watched your video together tonight and we also say, Do what’s right because it’s the right thing to do. We watch your CZcams travel videos also. We enjoy them. Thank you for talking about our Lord Jesus. Others need to know. We love the Lord and follow his teachings . But we are human like you two and we make mistakes. He always forgives us when we ask Him. God is good. Keep up your channel please. We love watching it. (Me and my hubby also joke around with each other and we like watching you do that, too) God bless 😊🙏
You both sound a lot like us. Congratulations on almost 50 years of marriage. Not many people today can say that. We appreciate you watching, and for sharing your experiences.
@@NCMemoryMakers You are welcome. Keep on going… plz. We enjoy watching. We don’t get to travel as much as we used to. Retired and living on less money. But it’s ok. 😀
Honestly. Mine and my wife’s journey of 30 years together with 2 kids has encountered a lot of exactly what you’ve spoken about. With that said Much respect to you for the video. Take care
Thank you very much for the polite and kind comment. This is how I would like for us to be able to get along. I truly appreciate your words. Have a blessed day.
I'm pretty sure I mentioned this before. ? But my husband and I were married 43 year's 4 months 12 days. When he past. I agree with you marriage is hard but I would not take anything for the years we had together. Did we have hard times sure we did but we never thought of being any where else but together. I always say you have to have respect for someone before you can Love them. You hert when they hert You draw closer. Your happy when they are happy.But any way I enjoyed you sharing this video . Hard words are like feathers in and an old pillow , once that pillow is busted you can never collect all those feathers back same with hard words. You may apologize but they are never forgotten but may before given.
Your analogy of the feathers is a good one, in regards to words. Our pastor has used a similar analogy, and it really brings the point home. I am thankful that you had all those years together, and the memories of all the time you spent. And glad we have the hope of seeing our loved ones again.
It’s interesting to hear how y’all met. Your marriage had more problems than most because of your cancer, thank God that you were cured. Prayers that it doesn’t ever return. I pray that Shawnasi hand doesn’t cause her much pain. I always enjoy how you speak about God, we need more of that in this messed up world. I enjoy the videos y’all put out, it’s my way of traveling for free. Derrick I’m looking forward to y’all playing putt putt golf again, you are too funny.I think I have seen every video y’all have made and have enjoyed them all and hurt with y’all in the sad times. Looking forward to the next ones.
My wife and I have been married for 43 years, the past year has been very difficult for us, we’ve had more troubles this past year than any year since we’ve been married, it has brought us very close to divorce, we decided to not quit and are staying together, we are both Believers and are praying to God that our marriage will work out, we have already planned our renewing of our vows for early spring, We thank you very much for what you shared on your video and your testimony for Jesus, I believe Jesus died for my sins!
Thank you for this wonderful testimony. Yes, God is able to turn any marriage around, if both parties will honor Him and commit to staying together. Make Him the center of it, and it will work.
I love the banter as well. My husband and I have been married 10 yrs and like you wasted the first few years and went through a rough time. Trusting in the Lord and putting him first completely changed our marriage and we are more in love than ever. We joke with each other the same way, pick on each other, snap each other in the butt with a kitchen towel and laugh lol then kiss in the kitchen. If you can’t have fun together and laugh, how boring is life?!
You are 100% correct. I am so glad that we have come to the place that we truly enjoy our lives together, and glad that you have found that place, as well. Thank you for your kind words. God bless you and your family.
And yes! Fireproof and then doing the Love Dare book was something we did when working to save our marriage and it did wonders and helped with the turn around. Recommend that to anyone struggling! And love the max and cheese story lol we have all done stupid stuff!
@@lynbyrd482 Lol! I would have been fine if she hadn't brought that up. I didn't know what she meant at first, because she said "soup". I didn't remember any incident with soup. That was also one of the reasons I was a little nervous about just doing this "off the cuff", without preparing what we were going to say. Kind of nervous that something might get said that shouldn't be in there. But it is kind of funny, when we look back on it. That was about a year or so into our marriage. We've both grown a bit since then. And so glad that God used that movie, and those steps, to restore the love in your marriage. It really is a matter of getting back to what made you fall for each other to start with, and doing those things again.
I love your videos and your teaching Derek. I am not a member of your church but I watch regularly. My daughter and son are members there. My marriage is 23 yrs old and we are uneven yoked. It's a struggle everyday and I want it to be better but really don't know what to do anymore.
Thank you so much for watching, and for commenting. My advice, is to just keep doing right, praying for your husband, and trusting God to bring Him in. May I ask who your son and daughter are?
@@NCMemoryMakers David and Caylynn Blackwood. Thank you so much for the encouragement. I will continue to pray but It feels hopeless right now and I'm staying with him because I don't want to be divorced. I want to have a Christian life and marriage. My husband has no respect for me, not even when I am reading my bible.
@@tammywallace1938 Oh yes, I know them. Nice people. So, is Caylynn your daughter, or is David your son? I can tell you that doing the right thing is the best route to go...just because it is right. I am sorry that he has no respect and doesn't see the need for God. But just stay strong. We will pray for God to move.
@@NCMemoryMakers Caylynn is my daughter but I love David like my son. He has been a blessing to me. I recommitted my life to Jesus and was baptized 8 years ago and started my journey through the bible. I run to David a lot to understand God's Word and he is always there to help. Thank you for the prayers, I will do my best to obey Jesus and stick to what I am supposed to be as a God fearing wife. I would like for my husband to stop saying the Lord's name in vain. Is there a certain prayer that I should be saying? I asked the Lord to soften his heart and bind his tongue when he says it but it seems like it's gotten worse to me. Sometimes it's hard to live with this man but I don't want to leave deep down. I do love him and things weren't like this before I gave myself to Jesus but I won't ever go back to what I was then.
@@tammywallace1938 Yes, he should stop using God's name as a curse word, that is true. No, there is no certain prayer...Just pray from the heart, and be the best Christian wife you can be. The best verse that comes to mind right now, is 1 Peter 3:1-2... "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear." Another good one, is 1 Corinthians 7:13-16... "And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?" Just do what these verses say, and keep praying for him. Let him see the change that Christ has made in you.
Lol...Yeah, kind of looked like the rapture happened. What actually happened, is that another stink bug showed up. This time, he got on the camera lens while we were recording. We cut that part out, but resumed recording after she removed him. She was washing her hands. You can barely hear the water running in the sink in the background.
My husband and I were both very young when we married I was 16 and he was 17 and we had three boys our oldest boy was killed in a car wreck and our marriage had very hard times but we have been married 50 years last year .
It may mean saying No to toxic family members. Sometimes you need to tell toxic people That they are not allowed in your home. My door is always open and you are allowed in my home, but you are not allowed to be abusive to me by your words or actions. I don't talk to you or treat you like that and I choose not to be verbally or physically abused. I am a child of God, a daughter of the high King.
Have you noticed more and more pastors are not doing marriage or personal counseling. I was having problems and my pastor referred me to a private Christian counseling office. I couldn't afford the copays and deductibles so I left with no pastoral care relied on DIY counseling through books and devotional literature. My husband refused to go to counseling, said it wasn't his problem "all he needed was Jesus." Sometimes Jesus expects us to go to the right earthly counselor
This ministers wife and this minister said at the beginning that she left home when she was 16. If a man ever hits you, get out. Get your children out. There are no second chances when it comes to physical, spiritual, mental, financial or sexual abuse. Contact family crisis center. Unaddressed abuse always escalates.
Her stepfather actually threatened her with a weapon. We were honestly concerned he would kill her. Her mother finally realized this, and got out, as well. But it took awhile longer.
When Jesus died on the cross and rose again, all the dynamics changed. His commandments were simple Love God Love People. Jesus is the head of the household and man/wife are equal partners in the relationship. It's not a slave/servant relationship but two children of God living together. The ground is level at the foot of the cross. No one stands higher than any other. The divorce rate among Christians is high because they think they are above, beyond and immune to the same sins that the unsaved commit. I left 4 churches because the pastors were caught in adultery and a youth pastor was molesting young girls. Don't think reading 3 chapters a day from the kjv bible is all that's required. Satan knows the bible better than we do&Satan attends church too. God doesn't care how many Scriptures you read a day and memorize, but how much Scripture you apply and live out in your own lives. In this day of high inflation both spouses have to work. Both spouses need to know how to manage money. Both spouses need an education. Both spouses need to know how to cook, clean and maintain a safe home for their kids.
Yes, we definitely have to apply the Scriptures we read, for it to profit our marriage. That is what we finally started doing, and it made all the difference.
Do you still go to the celebrate Life events at CTCA (now city of hope ) I treated in Tulsa and Newnan Georgia .I am in remission and had hodgkin's lymphoma in 2012 and it came back as non hodgkin's lymphoma large B cell in 2014 .All my treatment has been with cancer treatment centers of America and the lord has truly blessed me and really opened my eyes in a different way .I am in the cancer fighters connect program and I talk to patients who are thinking about going to CTCA (city of hope )and answer any questions they may have .I have just found this video this morning ,it just popped up in my feed but it’s not my first time watching your videos as I love your restaurant videos .Thanks for this video and it is truly a blessing !❤ My wife and I live in Pelzer ,SC (near Greenville and would love to meet you at one of our local restaurants in our area (we have a lot of hole in the wall and one of a kind types that are not chain owned .One you need to google is Saluda River Grill in Piedmont,SC ,right on the river and unique (great steaks and prime rib ) Bless you and your family 🙏🏼✝️
Thank you for sharing your testimony and for giving God all the Glory!!
I listened to the replay of your Live tonight. This video was mentioned. I appreciate your vulnerability. God is always in control and always right :) Thanks for sharing your personal story.
Absolutely. This was a video that we definitely felt led to make last year, hopefully to be a blessing and encouragement to others.
We appreciate your watching, and for your nice comment. Hope you all are doing well.
I have been watching for awhile now and so enjoy your videos. I pray that many young couples who are going through rough times will watch this because it is so inspiring. Thank you for sharing your personal story.
Thank you so very much for letting us know that you enjoyed this video.
We felt lead of the Lord to make it, to try to be a help and encouragement to others who might be struggling. We know what it is to struggle in our marriage, and we know what it is for God to intervene and put it back together.
We just wanted to be a blessing to others, and thank you for letting us know that it was. We appreciate it.
This was spot on❤️❤️❤️Thank you for sharing💕🙏🏻
Thank you so much for watching, and for your kind comment. We are glad it was a blessing.
Thank you so much for sharing your cancer story. I needed to hear that this morning
You are very welcome. So glad it was a blessing to you.
Enjoyed hearing about your experiences. My husband and I have been married for almost 46 years! 2 boys and 4 grandchildren. I couldn't even imagine starting a different life. Hasn't been perfect around here either, but we continue to commit, usually, joyful. motto is TURN AROUND DON'T DROWN! 😊
That's it, exactly! Congratulations to you both on 46 years!
Thank you for sharing your marriage journey. It is so encouraging to hear how God has sustained and supported you in your marriage both in sickness and health. We loved your real and casual discussion. Marriage is work, but you are an example of learning lessons, honesty and forgiveness and persistence-just refusing to give up. Our friends,Charlotte and Ed sent us your link and we so enjoyed hearing it, we have listened to some of your other videos. Thank you for blessing us all.
You are so very welcome! Thanks so much for letting us know you enjoyed our martial testimony. We want God to use it to help and bless others.
Ed and Charlotte are wonderful people. We are actually going to be in Colorado this week, and look forward to seeing them.
Amen! Thank you for be willing to share your marriage and life with us and most importantly thank you for sharing the gospel!!
I loved your video. I appreciate y’all opening up to show what a marriage is with God in it. God bless y’all. I so enjoy seeing all of the videos. Please keep them coming!
We are headed to the Smoky Mountains this weekend. THE MOUNTAINS CALLED AND WE HAVE TO GO!
I love your videos an y’all life with Jesus Christ, keep up the good work
Thank you so much for watching, and for your encouraging words!
Awesome video, I am so appreciative that you shared this video on you channel. A much needed story to share and put out there for all to hear. About the wedding bands that you mentioned you could always wear your bands on your right hand. I know people that do that due to reasons that they can't wear a ring on their right hand. Thank you for sharing this.
We are so glad you enjoyed this video. We wanted our story to be a blessing and a help to others, even though we had to acknowledge that things haven't always been the way they are now. God has brought us a long way.
That was awesome. Thanks for sharing. We’ve been married 35 years and have a good marriage but the reminders never hurt.
Thank you for watching, and your kind words. It is true, that we all need to be reminded from time to time.
Love your channel you've been a blessing to me I never miss an episode !
Thank you so much for letting us know that! We appreciate your kind words.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. It helps so see what we do wrong each day and makes us realize that we need to talk to our spouse when something is bothering us I am so guilty of being a volcano letting it build up and explode and my husband doesn’t even realize anything was wrong!!again this is both of us second marriages and I was one that come to find my husband cleaned out his clothes and left and we were both christens but god was not the primary in our home, this being said god is first in my out lives today!!again thank you for sharing.
Thank you for watching, and I am so glad you found it helpful
It's refreshing to see people who are honest about their life and the struggles that EVERYONE goes through in life. Life is not like you see typically on social media. Everything is not always perfect. Thank you for sharing and bringing us along on your adventures. My wife and I will be married for 38 years this April, and have had many of the same struggles you guys had. We both love your videos, and watch them every week together. We live in Charlotte and go to the same city you guys visit often, I always watch your past videos to plan our lunches and dinners !
Congratulations on 38 years of marriage. And thank you so much for your kind words. Our son lives in Charlotte.
I enjoy your videos but had not subscribed. i just wasnt sure...until I've heard some of your messages. Your message on the Jesus birth was so good and to the point.
This video is really how to make a marriage work. Everything you said was so true especially what the Bible says about it. My aunt told us before we were married how important communication is. We have been married 40 years. Besides becoming a Christian, it is the best decision of my life. Keep spreading the message and have fun and safe travels.❤
We appreciate this comment so much.
We thank you for watching, and for subscribing. But more than that, we're glad that our channel and our videos have been a blessing to you.
Thank you for letting us know.
I've been so blessed to come across this video and your channel! You two have shared moments of your marriage that show the normal side of marriage, the give and take...I see a beautiful love in both your eyes. And your wife has the prettiest smile 🤗
May Our Good Father bless you abundantly in your marriage and home ❤️
We truly appreciate your kind words. And you are right...She does have a beautiful smile.
Just found your channel a few weeks ago and I have watched several videos now. This is by far the best one. Don’t get me wrong, love all the travel stuff but this one hit home for me. I can assure you that this video was put in my line of vision for a reason today. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for letting us know that. We felt led that we should do that video and open up a bit of our lives, and we are glad it was helpful to you and so many others. Thank you so much for watching.
That was a beautiful heartfelt video ❤ Thank you for sharing. It's much appreciated. Blessings
Awesome video
Thank you so much for sharing y'alls up and downs in your marriage
Especially thankful for sharing how yall put God first in your marriage
Very hopeful and uplifting video
It touched me and my husband and I'm sure it has touched others
Glory be to God
So glad it was a blessing to you! Thank you for commenting.
Love This! Going to have my husband watch it tonight. Please Pray for us and our marriage. My family is making things very difficult. Thank you both 😊
We certainly will. God is able, as long as both parties are willing to fix it, and follow Him. We hope God uses this video to be a blessing to you both.
Absolutely thank y’all. May our Good Lord continue to keep you cancer free an continue bless y’all’s marriage. I absolutely appreciate y’all sharing this ❤
This has been such a blessing to me. You have obeyed God in doing this video. Thank you for sharing your testimony with us. So many nuggets in it that will stick with those who have a desire to change their lives for the better . And we love your adventure videos you post on You Tube. God bless you as you keep spreading the good news....GOD IS GOOD ! and oh yes, we have been married 60 years and have Looooooooots of stories😉
Congratulations on 60 years of marriage, and for your commitment to each other. Not many people can say that. That is a blessing!
God bless y'all for sharing this with all of us. I hope it has opened someone's eyes too God's word..
My wife and I were both brought up in the church. There is 5 years between us. I thank her every week for choosing me to be her life partner. In august it be 50 years of marriage for us. We have been truly bless. Thanks for telling us about your experiences. God bless.
Congratulations on 50 years of marriage. That is wonderful!
I’m in the middle of watching this video, but I have to stop and say this video makes me love y’all even more.
Praise the Lord He blessed your relationship and saved your marriage and brought you to the place you are today.
I appreciate so much your stand on the Word.
My husband and I will celebrate 48 years of marriage this July.
We too, have seen many hard times, but are blissfully happy in our retirement years, and can look back on many beautiful memories.
Thank you for commenting, and for sharing your wonderful testimony, as well. And congratulating on almost 50 years of marriage! That is a testament to God's grace.
Thank you for sharing words of wisdom and for being so transparent. Good marriages do not just happen, they take a lot of work. We will celebrate 30 years in May. Love your sense of humor. That is something we enjoy in our marriage as well. Absolutely loved this video.
Thank you so much! Wow, you all were basically married just a few weeks or a month after us. Congratulations! And you are correct, that any good marriage takes lots of work and commitment from both parties.
This was a great video. Thank you both so for being so vulnerable and honest about your personal struggle in your marriage and how the Lord brought healing and restoration. What a powerful testimony. The Lord is going to use this to help alot of people. The Lord is going to use your testimony on this video to heal and restore alot of marriages. God bless you both and your marriage.
That is truly our prayer, that God can use our experience. Maybe it can show another couple who is about to throw in the towel, that God is able to restore. He certainly has done that for us.
Thank y'all for sharing the ups and downs of being married. It isn't always easy but it's worth it. With God's guiding hand you can make it through the hard times. Marriage is work like anything else that is important. Much love, may God continue to bless you.
Thank you so much! And you are correct. When 2 people are willing to work at it and put God first, then they can certainly make it through anything.
Your precious . And Brave. THANK YOU !
What a blessing! I know these two people personally and I know that they live what they say. I’m sure this will really help someone that is struggling in their marriage. Thank you guys for being vulnerable and allowing your experience to help others. I pray the Lord blesses you for it.
We are both trying to guess who this is...LOL. I'm going to pm the person who I think, to see if I am correct. Praying that God will use this to help others.
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Thank you for those words God is the answer to all things God bless you both and keep up all the good work on your videos
We appreciate you watching and commenting with your kind words.
Thanks for sharing your ups and downs. I know people are going to be blessed.
Thank you for being brave and courageous in making this video. I am divorced because of domestic abuse but did remarry again. If I had not gotten out of that marriage I would not be alive. My ex-husband was not saved and I was so much younger. Your channel is one of my favs and until today I had never heard of Ferguson in Wilkes. We moved to Wilkes 5 years ago but we are closer to Elkin. It's a small World! God Bless you! My husband now was born in Minnesota and he was transplanted to NC in 1983 when his parent's jobs transferred them to NC. Tomorrow is our 18th Wedding Anniversary.
You are down in the eastern part of Wilkes County. Ferguson is a small community off of highway 268, between Wilkesboro and Lenoir. It is right before you leave Wilkes County and cross over into Caldwell County.
Where in MN was your husband born? Shawnasi, my wife, was born in St. Cloud, MN.
Thanks for sharing your life with us. You spoke a lot of truth!! God Bless you both!! 🙏🙏
Thank you. We appreciate you watching.
I’ve been watching y’all for several months now, but going through your library tonight just happened to see this and click on it. I watched it entirely, and it was very much a blessing to me. Thank you.
And thank you for letting us know it was a blessing.
This video is one that we felt God leading us to make, in the hopes it would be an encouragement to others, and to know that they don't have to give up hope.
That's true. We tolerate abuse and disrespect from our spouses and children that we'd never in a second take off a stranger or neighbor. It shouldn't be that way.
You all are very genuine people. What I call real people. I love your videos and that you always thank god. Thank you for being you.
Your comment really means a lot, and is very much appreciated. Thank you so much for watching.
amen. I love all of this
Thank you for sharing your story. I basically heard mine and my wife's story, we both grew up in Church, we met in College in 1982 and the minute I laid eyes on her I knew she was who God had for me to marry, and did marry in 1984. This year we will be married 39 yrs...I became a Deacon in my Church in 1986 my wife lead music in three different Baptist Churches for 16 yrs, we have two sons, 33 and 28 but ten yrs into our marriage we were really struggling, the old devil had me doubting that I was where I needed be, our marriage was falling apart, and mainly because of my selfishness, but had it not been for the Godly wife God gave me I truly believe our marriage would have ended, but she chose not to give up on me, and after 2-1/2 yrs God brought me to my knees and opened my eyes to my self-centered attitude, and offered me a chance to repent and be forgiven for my selfishness. We also committed to being transparent in hopes it would help others. There are so many people that believe Church going Christians never face trials or troubles in life, that is far from the truth...sorry for rambling.
What an amazing testimony. Thank you so much for sharing it with us.
It sounds a lot like where we used to be, and where we are now.
Congratulations on 39 years of marriage.
Thank you for such a candid interview and sharing with us. We can relate to what you said. Over our marriage, we have both had cancer, my husband is in the ministry and we can relate to the struggles of life. There have been times when realizing the vows I made were to God as well as my husband was the thing that kept us going. The richness of staying together through the hard times creates a sweetness of relationship that is a gift from God. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with us. I'm so glad we have found y'all. I know this will speak to the hearts of many others as well. You have certainly been a blessing and encouragement to me today. Your friend in SC, Jane ❤️ 🙏
That is a wonderful testimony. Thank you so much for sharing, and for your kind words.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It was a blessing to hear. My brother in law was diagnosed at 21 with Non Hodgekins Lymphoma. God healed him too. He has since met the Lord due to a tragic accident. But Glory be to God for the cancer healing for him and also you. Praise His name. ❤
So sorry for the loss of your brother-in-law. Glad he got through his battle with cancer, and most of all, that he knew Christ.
My name is Tami! My husband and I are both Christians, we love watching your channel. Thank you both for sharing your hearts. May God bless y'all, and keep up the good work.
My husband and I have been married 47 years. We both grew up in church together. Dated four years in high school. This year has been stressful for both of us. We go through times of bickering and down right getting on each other’s nerves. We found this CZcams channel and just loved watching it. This video is what we have needed to bring us back to our basics. Why we even fell in love and knowing it was Godly. We intend to view it at least twice to get what you are really wanting people to know. Thank you and you need to do a marriage class! The Sapp’s! ❤
Thank you so much for writing to let us know this video was helpful, and then it came at a good time.
That's why we put it out. We felt it was something God wanted us to do, and open up and share a part of our lives that was personal, so that it would be a blessing to others.
It is a blessing to us, to know that it was a blessing to you and your husband.
I love this wonderful testimony and words of encouragement. I can tell you are a really good preacher . I have been watching several of your videos and been enjoying them
Your comment is very kind and appreciated. Thank you so much for watching, and we are glad you enjoy our channel's content.
It is so wonderful to meet fellow Christians. God led me to this channel today. I have subscribed and look forward to more videos. My husband and I have been married 49 years and we have weathered good times and bad times, but we deeply love each other and 14 years ago went back to church. I teach Sunday School to the senior ladies at our church and lead a women's bible study on Thursday mornings. Never did I dream I would be doing this. My husband is a deacon, usher,backup mixed group Sunday school teacher and teaches a mixed group bible study Sunday nights. God bless you two.
Thank you so much for watching, and for your kind words! God bless you and your family.
Y’all make great videos. Keep sharing Gods messages 🙏🏼.
Thank you so much!
Think you for your testimony 🙏
My husband and I enjoy watching your videos .
Very inspiring video. Honest and straight forward. Enjoy your videos.
My husband and I enjoyed this video a lot. We have been married 38 years and now retired. We enjoy our life together so much. We follow a lot of what you shared today. Thanks for sharing.
Congratulations on 38 years of marriage. That is wonderful!
Thank you for sharing your story.
Absolutely
You're right! I was married 24 years till my husband passed away, and that was 14 years ago. Thank you for posting..
So very sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. We can only imagine what you have gone through. You are in our prayers.
Absolutely, stay together for the kids…. It’s the right thing to do. And you come out on the other side realizing the kids taught you how individually important you are to them, and how that importance is invaluable to one another
You are exactly right. Thank you for watching and for commenting.
Thanks for sharing guys really enjoyed. Renee and I have been married 38 yrs but the last 17 have been the best because we gave it to the Lord and He has blessed us as He has y'all. There's Nothing Impossible for the Lord!!!!
So true. Congratulations on 38 years of marriage.
Just subscribed to your channel last week. Good information on the National Parks Service banning CZcamsrs. I think they have no clue about how much we CZcamsrs help show off our National Parks. The “free advertising“ they get is actually great for them.
Thank you for sharing your heart and soul. What a testimony of what God can do. The early years of our marriage was also bad but God in his goodness and mercy restored our love for each other. We've now been married for 43 years. Thank you for your stand on the King James Bible. Thank you for sharing God in your videos. You both have become a blessing to us. We enjoy your videos a lot. May God bless you richly.
Congratulations on 43 years of marriage, and for your commitment to stay together during the rough years. May God bless you and your family!
We watched this yesterday evening and really enjoyed it as we do all your videos.
We watch your livestream from your church on Sundays while we are getting ready to go to church.
Derrick, we started watching a channel a couple months ago called Celebrating Appalachia. They are from NC as well. It might be a channel that you guys would like.
They are a Christian family who mostly film from home. They raise a garden and she does cooking and baking and they take hikes in the woods near their home cookout outdoors their twin daughters sing bluegrass and gospel songs.
That does sound like something we would enjoy watching. Thank you for pointing them out.
So glad you enjoy listening to our church's livestream, and that you like our videos. Thank you for letting us know.
I really appreciate this video. It’s opened my eyes up to how I should be as a wife. He is doing good as a husband but I found some ways threw this that I can improve. Thank you so much!!!
So glad it was helpful. Thank you for watching and for letting us know.
We have been married 55 years there have been ups and downs but I know no matter what I can always count on him to be there for me I know I am there for him. We were both brought up in the Baptist church. I think since retirement we have grown closer togethe more time to spend with each other talk and go and just have fun. God put us together. Praise Him
Thank you so much for watching!
I have really enjoyed your nc/TN travel videos especially during the pandemic when we were locked down with no where to go.
Thank you so much for letting us know you enjoy them. That means a lot.
What a beautiful testimony! ❤️ We have been following you for a few months and love your videos. I just found out that I have colon cancer. Tests and surgery coming up. You have reenforced my faith that God's got this. My wife and I are 77 and married for 38 years. Your backstory parallels our own story. LOL. God Bless you and keep the videos coming. With Love from Seven Mile, Ohio.
Thank you so much for your kind words. We are praying that you will get a good report on this colon cancer, because we know God is able.
And congratulations on 38 years of marriage.
Thank you for sharing this. It is on time for my husband and I in regards to your health battle in the beginning of your video. God is honored when we press into hard things and trust his future for us even if it's scary, hurtful, not seen. Trials seem to come all at once sometimes. Appreciate the reminder were not alone.
Thank you for your comment. Praying for you and your husband, in regards to the health battle. God is able!
@@NCMemoryMakers amen. He is willing. Ty both very much
I just want to say that God was speaking to me through this video. My husband and I went through a similar situation and now our marriage is solid and we have fun together. We are so happy that we found you guys. We are trying to get into camping ourselves. Thanks for being a blessing.
Thank you so much for writing to let us know that it was a blessing to you.
When we decided to do this video, we prayed that our experience would be a help and a blessing to others. We have had numerous messages similar to yours, and that makes it worth it.
You and he should really try to get into camping, as those will be some of the fondest memories you'll ever make.
It certainly is worth it to stick it out through the tough times. With God first, all things are possible.
Thank you for this great video!
And thank you for watching!
Thank you for this video it was needed
What an inspiration y'all are!!!!
Thank you so much for your kind words!
What a wonderful testimony. I pray many will hear your love story, that marriage is not without struggle or immune to health issues becoming a rough unexpected bump in the road. I wish someone had shared the pitfall of holding in feelings, letting them fester, until things become worse in your mind than they actually are. My husband and I are in our 70's now, but in our early 30's we thought we had reached the end of being happy together. I remember so well telling our 9 year old daughter that we were not happy, and we were not going to be living together, and her response was, "You mean like they do on Days of Our Lives". a soap opera. We did divorce, and I did marry someone else who truly loved me, he lived 2 years and God took him home. My husband and I remarried 4 years afterwards and are still together today, I know it's odd, but we never had any hard feelings about our divorce. My second husband and first husband were good friends, our daughter called him Daddy, because she had always called her father, Papa. Our granddaughter is getting married in April to a man older than her and she may gain some insight from your story. She has heard my honest account of our story, but yours may have help her as well. May God continue to bless you both with health. I have enjoyed your videos for a while, but your honesty tonight has earned my respect that your videos are not just entertainment, they are an example of what God can do..
Wow, thank you so much for sharing this. Congratulations on your long lasting marriage, even after the bumps in the road earlier. We pray this video will be helpful to your granddaughter, and many others. God bless.
Thank you for sharing. My daughter is going through hard time in her relationship...I sent her your video to listen to.
We pray that it helps her situation.
Thank you so much for this video. We appreciate you being honest and telling your marriage story. That takes courage but will certainly be so helpful to more couples. My husband Dave and I have been married 49 years. Will be 50 in October. The Lord is at the center of our marriage. But we still have had many of the things you talked about, happen with us too. We watched your video together tonight and we also say, Do what’s right because it’s the right thing to do. We watch your CZcams travel videos also. We enjoy them. Thank you for talking about our Lord Jesus. Others need to know. We love the Lord and follow his teachings . But we are human like you two and we make mistakes. He always forgives us when we ask Him. God is good. Keep up your channel please. We love watching it. (Me and my hubby also joke around with each other and we like watching you do that, too) God bless 😊🙏
You both sound a lot like us. Congratulations on almost 50 years of marriage. Not many people today can say that.
We appreciate you watching, and for sharing your experiences.
@@NCMemoryMakers You are welcome. Keep on going… plz. We enjoy watching. We don’t get to travel as much as we used to. Retired and living on less money. But it’s ok. 😀
Honestly.
Mine and my wife’s journey of 30 years together with 2 kids has encountered a lot of exactly what you’ve spoken about.
With that said
Much respect to you for the video.
Take care
Thank you very much for the polite and kind comment. This is how I would like for us to be able to get along. I truly appreciate your words. Have a blessed day.
Amen..Good message!!
Love this so much ❤
You guys are cute… love your videos
Thank you so much!
I'm pretty sure I mentioned this before. ?
But my husband and I were married 43 year's 4 months 12 days.
When he past. I agree with you marriage is hard but I would not take anything for the years we had together. Did we have hard times sure we did but we never thought of being any where else but together. I always say you have to have respect for someone before you can Love them. You hert when they hert
You draw closer. Your happy when they are happy.But any way I enjoyed you sharing this video . Hard words are like feathers in and an old pillow , once that pillow is busted you can never collect all those feathers back same with hard words. You may apologize but they are never forgotten but may before given.
Your analogy of the feathers is a good one, in regards to words. Our pastor has used a similar analogy, and it really brings the point home. I am thankful that you had all those years together, and the memories of all the time you spent. And glad we have the hope of seeing our loved ones again.
It’s interesting to hear how y’all met. Your marriage had more problems than most because of your cancer, thank God that you were cured. Prayers that it doesn’t ever return. I pray that Shawnasi hand doesn’t cause her much pain. I always enjoy how you speak about God, we need more of that in this messed up world. I enjoy the videos y’all put out, it’s my way of traveling for free. Derrick I’m looking forward to y’all playing putt putt golf again, you are too funny.I think I have seen every video y’all have made and have enjoyed them all and hurt with y’all in the sad times. Looking forward to the next ones.
Thank you so much. I need to practice on my putt putt skills.
My wife and I have been married for 43 years, the past year has been very difficult for us, we’ve had more troubles this past year than any year since we’ve been married, it has brought us very close to divorce, we decided to not quit and are staying together, we are both Believers and are praying to God that our marriage will work out, we have already planned our renewing of our vows for early spring, We thank you very much for what you shared on your video and your testimony for Jesus, I believe Jesus died for my sins!
Thank you for this wonderful testimony. Yes, God is able to turn any marriage around, if both parties will honor Him and commit to staying together. Make Him the center of it, and it will work.
I love the banter as well. My husband and I have been married 10 yrs and like you wasted the first few years and went through a rough time. Trusting in the Lord and putting him first completely changed our marriage and we are more in love than ever. We joke with each other the same way, pick on each other, snap each other in the butt with a kitchen towel and laugh lol then kiss in the kitchen. If you can’t have fun together and laugh, how boring is life?!
You are 100% correct. I am so glad that we have come to the place that we truly enjoy our lives together, and glad that you have found that place, as well.
Thank you for your kind words. God bless you and your family.
And yes! Fireproof and then doing the Love Dare book was something we did when working to save our marriage and it did wonders and helped with the turn around. Recommend that to anyone struggling!
And love the max and cheese story lol we have all done stupid stuff!
@@lynbyrd482 Lol! I would have been fine if she hadn't brought that up. I didn't know what she meant at first, because she said "soup". I didn't remember any incident with soup. That was also one of the reasons I was a little nervous about just doing this "off the cuff", without preparing what we were going to say. Kind of nervous that something might get said that shouldn't be in there. But it is kind of funny, when we look back on it. That was about a year or so into our marriage. We've both grown a bit since then.
And so glad that God used that movie, and those steps, to restore the love in your marriage. It really is a matter of getting back to what made you fall for each other to start with, and doing those things again.
cant remember the circumstances but my former wife had our first fight over mac and cheese. rediculous. love your videos
Thank you for watching
Love this video and how real you both are. How old are your boys now? I didn’t even know you had kids lol
Our sons are 27 and 25.
I love your videos and your teaching Derek. I am not a member of your church but I watch regularly. My daughter and son are members there. My marriage is 23 yrs old and we are uneven yoked. It's a struggle everyday and I want it to be better but really don't know what to do anymore.
Thank you so much for watching, and for commenting. My advice, is to just keep doing right, praying for your husband, and trusting God to bring Him in.
May I ask who your son and daughter are?
@@NCMemoryMakers David and Caylynn Blackwood. Thank you so much for the encouragement. I will continue to pray but It feels hopeless right now and I'm staying with him because I don't want to be divorced. I want to have a Christian life and marriage. My husband has no respect for me, not even when I am reading my bible.
@@tammywallace1938 Oh yes, I know them. Nice people. So, is Caylynn your daughter, or is David your son?
I can tell you that doing the right thing is the best route to go...just because it is right. I am sorry that he has no respect and doesn't see the need for God. But just stay strong. We will pray for God to move.
@@NCMemoryMakers Caylynn is my daughter but I love David like my son. He has been a blessing to me. I recommitted my life to Jesus and was baptized 8 years ago and started my journey through the bible. I run to David a lot to understand God's Word and he is always there to help. Thank you for the prayers, I will do my best to obey Jesus and stick to what I am supposed to be as a God fearing wife. I would like for my husband to stop saying the Lord's name in vain. Is there a certain prayer that I should be saying? I asked the Lord to soften his heart and bind his tongue when he says it but it seems like it's gotten worse to me.
Sometimes it's hard to live with this man but I don't want to leave deep down. I do love him and things weren't like this before I gave myself to Jesus but I won't ever go back to what I was then.
@@tammywallace1938 Yes, he should stop using God's name as a curse word, that is true.
No, there is no certain prayer...Just pray from the heart, and be the best Christian wife you can be.
The best verse that comes to mind right now, is 1 Peter 3:1-2...
"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear."
Another good one, is 1 Corinthians 7:13-16...
"And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?"
Just do what these verses say, and keep praying for him. Let him see the change that Christ has made in you.
Someone told me that the young lady in ur videos is ur daughter true or not.
Did you watch the video? What did we say in the video?
Did we say she was my daughter?
Nobody told you that. Good grief.
Another one comment wonder...
I gasped around the 15 minute mark when she just…disappeared! Lol. Poof! Into thin air !!
Lol...Yeah, kind of looked like the rapture happened.
What actually happened, is that another stink bug showed up. This time, he got on the camera lens while we were recording. We cut that part out, but resumed recording after she removed him. She was washing her hands. You can barely hear the water running in the sink in the background.
My husband and I were both very young when we married I was 16 and he was 17 and we had three boys our oldest boy was killed in a car wreck and our marriage had very hard times but we have been married 50 years last year .
So sorry for your loss, but congratulations on 50 years of marriage. He was younger than me. I was 23, and she was 16, same as you.
@@NCMemoryMakers thank you but it just shows that with God all things are possible we sure enjoy your alls videos glad we found you both
Sorry. I didn’t know your reasons for not wearing Wedding rings. Sounds good to me. I like that you use the KJV bible. Are you Independent Baptists ?
Yes, we are.
Where do you all attend church?
Shining Light Baptist Church in Valdese, NC
It may mean saying No to toxic family members. Sometimes you need to tell toxic people That they are not allowed in your home. My door is always open and you are allowed in my home, but you are not allowed to be abusive to me by your words or actions. I don't talk to you or treat you like that and I choose not to be verbally or physically abused. I am a child of God, a daughter of the high King.
Have you noticed more and more pastors are not doing marriage or personal counseling. I was having problems and my pastor referred me to a private Christian counseling office. I couldn't afford the copays and deductibles so I left with no pastoral care relied on DIY counseling through books and devotional literature. My husband refused to go to counseling, said it wasn't his problem "all he needed was Jesus." Sometimes Jesus expects us to go to the right earthly counselor
I have noticed that, and it is sad. One of the responsibilities of a pastor, is to provide counseling when those in his church need it.
This ministers wife and this minister said at the beginning that she left home when she was 16. If a man ever hits you, get out. Get your children out. There are no second chances when it comes to physical, spiritual, mental, financial or sexual abuse. Contact family crisis center. Unaddressed abuse always escalates.
Her stepfather actually threatened her with a weapon. We were honestly concerned he would kill her. Her mother finally realized this, and got out, as well. But it took awhile longer.
When Jesus died on the cross and rose again, all the dynamics changed. His commandments were simple Love God Love People. Jesus is the head of the household and man/wife are equal partners in the relationship. It's not a slave/servant relationship but two children of God living together. The ground is level at the foot of the cross. No one stands higher than any other. The divorce rate among Christians is high because they think they are above, beyond and immune to the same sins that the unsaved commit. I left 4 churches because the pastors were caught in adultery and a youth pastor was molesting young girls. Don't think reading 3 chapters a day from the kjv bible is all that's required. Satan knows the bible better than we do&Satan attends church too. God doesn't care how many Scriptures you read a day and memorize, but how much Scripture you apply and live out in your own lives. In this day of high inflation both spouses have to work. Both spouses need to know how to manage money. Both spouses need an education. Both spouses need to know how to cook, clean and maintain a safe home for their kids.
Yes, we definitely have to apply the Scriptures we read, for it to profit our marriage. That is what we finally started doing, and it made all the difference.