60 days going well. Still feeling a bit down or maybe depressed , is that normal?? Still working out . Eating good but not feeling really good yet ?? Any ideas ?? Thanks ☕🚲
@@chrism5433The good times will come. Your brain needs to reset from years of abuse. Use any resources you can find but mostly, eat right, sleep right and stay active. As you grow and find greater energy you will find that life will take over. You'll suddenly look back on the progress you have made and with amazement say to yourself "S#it!! How did that happen." Your already doing it!! 😊
Also remember you are not an alcoholic with its negative implications. Those who stopped smoking are not nicoholics and those who stopped heroin are not heroholics they by society are sober. This falsehood of always an alcoholic was started by AA wrongly and makes you, I, others feel ashamed for life. So are you on day two of sober; then you are sober keep it up.
I have felt as you do in the past. Many of us have learned to identify as an alcoholic with no shame. It's not my fault that I have a lot of trouble stopping drinking once I start. It's not my fault that 34 years of using that addictive poison, that my mind and body are in need of recovery. It's not in my control that the terms Alcohol Use Disorder, Alcoholic, Drunk, Booze Hound, Lush and so many more each have their own connotations. AA is almost 90 years old. The language in the foundational writing can be difficult. The spiritual ideas can draw the ire of many. I found that I have been successful at everything in life except drinking. That maybe, just maybe I didn't have this covered. That possibly I was continually thinking myself out of my own recovery. No one HAS to be in AA, but possibly resenting their mere existence is faulty. Possibly if we give ourselves the chance, we see that AA can be ours. Not theirs.
Everyone can be on their own path to an alcohol-free life, there's no "right" or "wrong" way to get sober, there is only the way that works for you. AA has helped thousands of people get sober, but it definitely is NOT the ONLY way to go! Anyone who keeps trying to make a positive change will get there if they stick with it, these videos are a great place to learn all the great tools and tips there are to help us on this alcohol-free journey.
I would say, it's more so , I will always have the capacity for addiction that needs to be kept in check, hence 'maintaining sobriety'. You are right, I am not an alcoholic, I am a human being.
You have nothing to loose and everything to gain! Emancipate yourself!! At the age of 42, I had lost everything, and I mean everything!! I almost died. I had seizure induced cardiac arrest and was saved by Paramedics. I don't know how much i drank a day, days didn't exist. I bought three bottles of bargain basement scotch at a time and was either drinking or unconcious until it ran out, then I bought three more. I shook so hard that i was afraid that i would break my teeth if i put the bottle to my mouth. Ive been sober for 12 years and just bought a four bedroom house on its own plot. I have a 4x4 and go exploring every chance I get with my beautiful girlfriend of ten years. It can be done, sh*t, if I can, you can. ❤
@natascha.anastasia It's my pleasure to share. People who feel that the mountain is too high, that they are too weak and without hope, need to see that it absolutely can be done!!
I’ve appreciated my detours. They were constant reminders that I was on the right path when I wasn’t drinking. Every time I had a few drinks after being sober for a while, I felt physically and mentally ill and I did not enjoy the experience. I looked at the relapses as good reminders-that my days were much better without alcohol.
I can't be more grateful for this channel. Alcohol use has been an albatross around my neck for 25 plus years, on and off, and I'm now 55. The positivity of this channel and the tone of the messaging is just fantastic. Ten times better than any AA meeting I ever attended. Please and thank you, keep up this excellent work. Such a gift.
It's been a lot of work to get this channel and this community to be what it is today and I'm very grateful for my life, and the joy of being able to help so many in this way! Keep the positivity flowing please 🥰
Your story sounds a lot like my own story, I started drinking as a teenager and now I am 57. I have been trying for over ten years to "control" my drinking, but now that I have decided to just STOP drinking it has made all the difference. I was so afraid to just leave alcohol behind, it had been part of my life for so long, it had been part of every single happy experience I had - since I drank just about every day. But I never realized it had been part of the worst days of my life too, and in fact it had been the main reason I had those terrible times, or it had at least made the bad times much much worse. Now that I have grown children who are going to be old enough to legally drink soon - I am terrifed that my years of setting a bad example are going to "come home to roost"! I am desperately hoping I can set some sort of better example. I have a lot of shame, guilt and anxiety about the way I would drink in front of my kids, it is so "cringe-worthy" to even think about some of the embarrassing stuff I did when I was drunk out of my mind in front of them... but I know all I can control is today and the choices I make. I am gettinbg sober for me, but I hope I can help my family and others around me too.
@jeffreyjohnmann Thank you so much. You literally just wrote the story of my life. I too started drinking early at like 14. Never a real problem, I was a high flying successful and well to do lawyer. About 12 years ago heavy social drinking morphed into daily drinking, then day drinking, then just always drinking. As I wrote this today I am praying for the power to just STOP. My son is away as a freshman in college and I loathe example I set for him. I can literally trace all thr problems in my life directly to alcohol use and abuse. Thank you very much for your response.
I did a year sober, than tried beer again on and off, i tried moderation (drink once or twice a month) but i always regret it and the hsngovers are brutal. I think i just need to give it up for good
I don't think there is anything wrong with a few drinks from time to time. But people like us tend to not want just a few, which becomes a problem. Self awareness is key to success! Keep working towards your other goals and pair them with your sobriety 😁
@GettingSoberAgain TBH, people in recovery tend to only hear what they want to hear, particularly when they are vulnerable to relapse. I don't think it's particularly helpful to voice an opinion that you personally feel its OK to have a drink from time to time, when it absolutely is not!!! This is your channel! People regard you as an authority!! There us a responsibility that comes with your position.
February 13th I made it to 1 year with no alcohol and it feels like the rest of my life will be better. I’m 31 now and I spend a lot of time feeding the birds by myself now. It’s therapeutic for me. I feel more connected with nature and myself.
WOAAHHHH!!!! 1 YEARS LETS GOOOOOOOOOO!!! I recently saw a cool ad for this convexed window bird feeder that looked amazing. you open the window and mount it there, and it comes INTO your room. How cool is that? (idk if the birds might be spooked tho lol)
This was right on time....I've been really close to convincing myself that "just one" won't hurt. While, as you say, a drink is just a detour, I know me. I tend to do nothing in moderation, so for me, drinking "like a gentleman" is just not an option. One inevitably leads to way too many for me, and I really fear sliding back into old habits after 4 months of sobriety. Good news.....just got my new lab work back and my liver enzymes (ALT/AST) are back in normal range. That hasn't been the case in years, so I'm sober happy dancing now!!!!
Thank you. I was so down from relapsing and my associated unacceptable behavior. You're not encouraging me to relapse, but you're allowing me to get up, dust myself off, and most importantly forgive myself. Maybe instead of day three, I'm day 24***** with 5 asterisks. Now I understand for me, it's not one-and-done. At least I'm still trying. Thank you.
I'm any fight, you're bound to take a few punches. Keep up the good fight, and try not to fall back and keep chalking up drinking sessions as asterisks. 😉
I had 11.5 years of sobriety. Last summer I drank again. And, I have kept drinking. And now I have been drinking again, everyday. I feel like such a failure. How could I let all those years go. Now I’m back in the vicious cycle that we all know so well. This morning when I woke up I said “no more”. I have gotten sober before and I will do it again. I stumbled upon your channel this morning. I wanted to say Thank you! I am finding your videos very helpful 🧡 This is a journey and sometimes we hit a detour. I know I need to be compassionate with myself. I had a stumble but I will get back up.
That's the spirit! You're in the right place, and I'm glad you found our community 🥳 Don't forget, a video a day keeps the cravings away! Click here to watch our NEWEST videos on sobriety! czcams.com/play/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt.html
Thank you!! I needed this today! I was drinking too much last year after my husband and suffered a miscarriage. I stopped drinking and we got pregnant again this year. Just found out last night we're losing this baby, too. Your video reminded me to not use this loss as excuse turn to alcohol to try to drown the pain and disappointment. Thank you!
Your loss is immeasurable, but your resilience is a shining example that will bring strength to you and to many others out there going through the same experience down the road. I want to thank you for your bravery to share this difficult time in your life and to let you know that you are never alone here. we are with you and you are loved 🥰🥰🥰 If I had children, I always fantasized about adopting. There are so many kids out there without the opportunity to have parents to love them. Do you have any secondary thoughts or opinions on that as a possibility?
Self love is better for long term change. Recognize your mistake, make safeguards to make doing it over again harder, and then forgive yourself. Don't wallow in your mistakes. Analyze them and then move forward to better health.
Hey Jae, possibly one of my favourite videos you’ve made. So many important thought provoking topics to consider!! I’m sure I’ll listen to this one many times. Another minor health issue this week, nothing serious but it’s stopped me running again!😢 On the positive side I’m now on day 109, my longest dry spell as an adult & I’m 55! Many thanks to you, again. I think I started watching you & commenting when I was on week 4 or 5, it has helped me so much just to write a few lines now & then. Almost SIXTEEN WEEKS now and I’m staying strong, my next goal is 6 months. Let’s do it!
109 days is HUGE!!! You are showing the discipline and the fortitude that it takes to continue marching or limping to the goal line! It doesn't matter how you get there, just get there! Also...don't forget to rest 😁
Thank you for today’s video - so encouraging for my situation. I find I relapse after taking on way too much and find I can’t cope. So glad I have your channel to tune into and get back on track. 😊
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Someone asked Thomas Edison "Did you get discouraged when it was so hard to find the best filament for the light bulb?" Mr Edison said. " I viewed it as an information gathering task. Every time one filament failed, I wrote down that information and moved on to the next possible material. I kept going until I found something that worked."
Did you know that once the lightbulb was invented, they worked so well that all the lightbulb manufacturers got together and decided to make them last less. There was even a oversight committee that would fine a company per lightbulb if it was found randomly that one of their light bulbs lasted past a certain length of time. #greed
I quit on January 1st. For me, I found that non-alcoholic beer has saved my sobriety! Being able to sit and have a cold one with my friends without the alcohol is a wonderful thing. No FOMO, no fear of relapse, no hangovers. My journey is on the right path.
Yeah some people feel like NA beers will lead to drinking alcohol again, but for me they are a wonderful way to get to feel like I am "part of the gang" and I don't feel so left out or weird or whatever.
I'm terrifying about having a relapse but with this video I think I could be able to manage it. Hope not to need it! My sobriety journey is now six months and a day long.
Hey Jae, love the vids! CZcams algorithm put me on your vid from day 6, 5 years ago. What a difference the way you look now verses then and just your whole energy level is so different. You look younger 5 years later! I’m going for it. Day 3 here already feeling a little better. Keep up the great work!
Your videos have been big help. You helped me get through a craving a few Saturdays ago , responding to my comment. Unfortunately, Sunday and Tuesday I fell off and it really felt destructive this time. I had almost 3 weeks , and I have been pretty down on all day. But your right, it’s all about responding the right way. I like the analogy of getting lost you don’t just keep going. Thanks Jay you are doing great work
Many journeys. have unexpected twists and turns. A bend in the road is not the end of the road. Get back on track and keep going towards better health.
Thank you for your vulnerability and transparency. We all have many lessons to learn, and sometimes we have to revisit a few that we have yet to master. Keep us updated with your positive results!
If you want to have a positive reaction, first of all, you got to have a positive vision. My vision want to be a better person and break this ball and chain I have dragged around for 40+ years.. I would not get out of the electric chair to start drinking again👍
@@GettingSoberAgain Brother, you are the inspiration… I remember when you had 705 subscribers.. You were swollen up. And you can quote me.. ( I look like a cadaver that has a been pulled out of the river) . And I hope everyone that visit your channel takes it to heart because it’s some serious stuff that’s for sure.. 👍🫶
Latest day 3 boss DEFEATED. Went to the sauna at my gym instead, then packaged up some soup I made earlier this week for my neighbor. Hit the hay at 9 cause IM EXHAUSTED from the poor sleep. …now I’m up writing this comment at 2 in the morning 😆 can’t sleep. I’m so determined to keep going tho! This struggle feels more real than all those rose-tinted, dim lit evenings at the brewery or bar. It’s kind of… amazing? to be struggling for a good reason for once 🤔 thanks, Jae for another great vid!
@@GettingSoberAgainthat’s way more productive and probably even also restful compared to drunk texting and poor sleep quality, thank you so much for this community. Keeps me a bit from beating myself further down. This time I am not putting off getting sober again!
I’m over 35 days with no alcohol. This channel is a great resource to keep on track! Keep up the great videos! Sorry you left Cleveland though. After spring it’s a great place to live😅
Lol yeah 5 months out of the year it's lovely. But if I'm gonna keep the positivity flowing, I need a little more sunshine in my life...ya know what I mean? 🌞
Thank you for another great video Jae ! I just got to five months sober. But i missed the buzz so much i started trying marijuana. Just before bed and was feeling guilty for a bit that it was still cheating. But next month when i reach 6 months sober from alcohol. It will be worth it. I will be celebrating my birthday this year sober for the first time in years.
What reasons did you drink, that you now smoke? We have a great video on "Cross Addictions" you might be interested in. Obviously MJ seems to have less health consequences than alcohol, so that's a positive for sure.
@@GettingSoberAgain I started drinking due to traumatic events in my life. Then it became a bored thing for a while and stress. The reason why I caved to the MJ was due to the constant stress going on here on a daily basis. I live in Chicago and things have gotten so bad. To leave the house is always a challenge. So I stay home as much as I can.
Lol I'm glad you liked my little bit of humor. I try to put at least 2-3 little fun bits in each video to break up the sometimes long winded speeches I tend to go on
@@GettingSoberAgain I find your content VERY consumable. Not long winded at all. You have a nice logical clear flow and top notch production quality. You have a charisma that definitely comes through. I watch all the other popular sobriety influences as well. They all offer great insight and tips. But some of them can be a bit long-winded for sure, and repeat themselves a lot. I often find myself tapping the screen to advance 10 or 20 seconds. I'm like, "OK, you've made the point. Move on." Lol. I never do that with you. And I definitely re-watch more of your videos than I do the others.
I'm glad you appreciate how I make content. I spend hours writing a script so that I'm not repeating things or getting lost in my thoughts. I take hours to edit each video to remove the stutters, the ums, buts and verbal mistakes. I aim to make the end product easy to understand and digest so that you feel better after you're done than when you started!
Hi Jae ! Another brilliant vid . I’m terrified of the “R” word , thankfully it hasn’t happened this time but it has before . However , watching this video has made me realise it’s not the end of the world if it does , just add that asterisk , lol ! All the best Jae , keep well and I will see you in the next video . From your friend in Bonnie Scotland :)
It's not the end, but for a lot of people it CAN be a very long detour. So let's just work on staying ON the road, and not in the ditch 🥰 Love ya Bonnie! let me know if you come across any free flyer miles, we would love to visit Scotland someday. (some of my bloodline comes from there)
That's my name, don't wear it out 🤣 Yeah for sure, so many topics. I think I have like 200 more ideas already written down. SO MANY IDEAS!!! SO LITTLE TIME!!!
@@GettingSoberAgain❤ I’m glad you have so much more to offer! Even when some topics occasionally cover repetitive themes, these are KEY in helping people understand the fundamentals really well, and it is appreciated! I’ve said it before now but I’ll say it again. It was the work you do that made me have my highest streak last year of being alcohol free since I was about 15. I’m nearly 42. Going strong again and you are my go to resource when I need it. I’ve just become a bronze member to show a bit of support financially. It’s the least I can do.
After a recent sobriety stretch of 23 days I relapsed 3 times. Tried the asterisk thing (great idea btw) but after 3 asterisks I decided it will be better psychologically to just reset the count. So, today, assuming I don't drink, will be day 1 dot dot dot again lol. I have a list of 10 reasons why I need to quit (Number 1 being acetaldehyde!). But it dawned on me this morning I could add reason 11. Today is February 29. Interesting day to quit because I won't have the opportunity to quit again on February 29 for 4 years. Somewhat of a weak reason, but as I said, I already have 10. Adding to the list is always a good thing.
Time to LEAP into your new future 😉 Good for you for being accountable. The asterisk method is really just meant for a single slip up to prevent falling into a binge weekend, month, or decade. Keep us updated!
I keep a bottle of Antabus in my medicine cabinet just in case I need it. Works wonders for me, and I just began taking it again because of a little detour I had. 6,5 years of sobriety, with some asterisks here and there.
Hello 🤗 I’m listening to your Channel a longer time now. ( actually like Binge Listing 😅) , as well as some other channels. It gives me such a feeling from being really understood. So I really want to say Thank You!! ( sorry for me English, I am from Berlin Germany) I got sober and clean when I was 21 years and stood sober straight for 23 years. After 2-3 years it wasn’t even an issue!! After many terrible things over many years happened blabla… I started thinking again on my 44 Birthdays. Since then 8 years later, I had 6 detox and 1 Rehab for 6 month. Till now I can’t stay sober; kind of unbelievable. That’s why I even love the titled you channel! Getting sober AGAIN, can be quite hart! If you got the jackpot of being a ‚real‘ Alcoholic the only way and chance is to get sober . I have to confirm of what I have heard in like 1000 AA Meetings: it is progressing and it becomes worse and worse !! I do have a very strong comparison and the sober Live is soooo much more worth living !!! I accomplished so many things, non of it would have been possible while thinking….!! Wishing all of you the Best, and thank you very much again !!🙏
If I ever screw up I’ll add that asterisk, but after ten additional days I’ll remove it. Because otherwise that asterisk is always there, which isn’t right.
"If you were on a cross country trip and the GPS suddenly stopped working, you wouldn't just stop and rent the closest apartment, would you?" This contrasts the advice of the late great Mitch Hedberg, who had a joke "If you get lost in the woods, f*** it, build a house. 'Well I was lost, but now I live here.'"
The major fact you must know about Australia is that the cities are on the coast. Most of the center of Australia is raw desert wilderness. No one goes to the center of Australia unless they want a wild wilderness experience. @@GettingSoberAgain
I'm very grateful to be able to deliver these messages in an effective way. I spent a lot of years trapped with a very negative outlook, and a very mean "inner coach". Let's keep the positive energy FLOWING!
I don't know what made me search for getting sober stories today,but I did and found your channel.Thank you so much!I have been watching several of your videos throughout the day.I recently relapsed after close to 2 years of sobriety.My mom passed in Oct and 2 months to the day,I lost my gf,2 weeks later,I was struck by a truck and injured at work,and 2 weeks later,I lost that job.This series of events,certainly had a factor in my relapse,because I ignored the 5 W's.I am going into an inpatient program that will be between 30-90 days and after that will be going into a sober living program to provide the support,structure,accountability that I need.I had suicide ideation a few weeks ago and really realized how sick I had become.I look forward to following you and truly enjoy your delivery of how you break things down.Thanks again!!
That's one of my goals. There is a lot of discomfort in life. People put their expectations on others. My strategy is for you to comfortably put new expectations on yourself as you continue to make progress 🫂
The 60 days or around 2 months is the hardest for me, i think its because you start getting comfortable sober and think, oh i can handle a few. Then it ends in disaster.
🫡 Thanks for watching and commenting. I put a new video out yesterday btw! Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes! czcams.com/play/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt.html
Three years were a great success, huge😂 and now i'm here...again. i don't know anything about this chanel but this video was helpful. I'll sure check more later. Thank you, G-d bless you❤ i feel a little better about myself now, not my first rodeo, you say😅
Well you're in great company here in this great community! Stop by and say hello again sometime! Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes! czcams.com/play/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt.html
Dude you are so inspiring im not going to lie and i relapsed and im about 7 shots in with a searing headache and so much regret but i know i can do this i just need to stay sober
Haven't relapsed, but I'm struggling this week for the first time. 94 days sober, almost at the big 100! A few weeks ago I quit nicotine aswell, and this past week I've been craving a drink for the first time. It feels kinda wrong to be this "clean". No stimulant to comfort me. Started eating healthy and exerciseing, feel great, but Suddently got this intense urge to get shitfaced at a dirty underground rock concert, miss the last bus home, roam around all night with strangers and eat kebabs while waiting for the first bus home. Like the old days. I've been to 2 parties, everyone is pregnant so no one is drinking, which is obviously good, but boring. Can't wait for summer so I can go out and find some new sober, crazy, fun hobbies!! Sorry for the ramble, really struggling to find motivation right now...
It sounds like you are romanticizing your old "drinking life". I think a lot of us do that. I don't miss alcohol as much as I miss the feelings of being carefree and blissfully ignorant of the damage booze was doing to my body, my brain, my thinking, my relationships, my job... I certainly miss that more than hangovers, an empty bank account, and diarrhea. But now that I have seen what alcohol was really doing to my life I can't go back. I think that is the hardest part. We can never go back to "the old days" you mentioned - and that can be difficult to deal with. I don't want to live in the past, I don't want to be some pathetic drunk desperately trying to relive the so-called "glory days", Stumbling around wasted out of my mind wasn't all that glorious if I am honest with myself, it was pretty embarrassing and cringe-worthy. I want to move forward into a better future where I am becoming the person I was meant to be, where booze isn't ruining my opportunities and wasting my time, money, and health. The "good old days" weren't all that good and they are never coming back. I want something better.
@@jeffreyjohnmann Thank you! I completely agree with everything you said! And that has been my thoughts aswell up until now, I'm just scared I won't get that mindset back. But I'm sure I will.
As usual, this is very good motivation. But, I'm turning 56 in a few days, is that too late for drinking since I was 20? I'm a 5 days a week, but heavy on those days.
It's never too late to start a good habit to replace a bad habit. I think Jae did a video on this a few weeks back about the benefits of self improvement late in life. Some people decide that after decades of drinking, they want to stay alive longer to play with the cute little grandchildren as long as possible.
My hard part is I like the taste of ipa, and the buzz and forgetting your problems was the cherry on top. In my 20s though it was hard A, luckily I got off that
Imagine if dude just casually popped open a beer as he was speaking and casually drank it while he spoke. Took out a cig and lit it up like we couldn’t see him LMAO
Dry since December. Im cheating, though. THC & Sugary Sweets. I'll feel better when i quit the alternates. While its a little disappointing... still happy to have finally pass two months. Longest dry period since Iraq 07-08. Tip #3.
Thank you for the kind words. I've started cooking as a hobby, life improvement skill. Exercise as well. Doing the 'replacement therapy' thing. Good habits replacing bad. Just keep trying, changing, improving, Jae. You know what you're talking about brother.
Hi Jae, Awesome vids mate. Ive tried the 10 in 10 for weening off, but its extremely hard. Once i have 1 drink, its game over. Gonna try a different approach and have alcohol free days, then slowly add more af days in a week. I really hope i can make it work.
Lifetime alcoholic. Over the last 5 years have shaved off 99% consumption. Even more depressed than when I was drinking. Every few months I decide to drink. I know it can lead to seizures. Waking up somewhere strange with no memory of the binge. I recently woke up in a hospital under police custody. No wallet. No phone. I hang around for my wife but that's it. Complete anhedonia. Almost nihilistic.
I relapse about 5 times. I'm almost giving up :(. I did 66 days this year for the first time after 10 year. But after every relapse it feels like it's worse 😢
I drank botle of vine two days ago and one yesterday, after 2 years sobriety. Just uneazy time... dont know what happened to my brain, but I didnt felt much at all from that vine. I get way more high after good workout or a cold shower, from alco I just felt tired and lazy, thats bullshit, fuk alcohol
My inner voice tells me to drink because I’m so bored sober 2 years not a drop then I fell off a cliff. I felt so alone the entire time I was sober I blocked all of my friends. I got closer to my wife who force fed anime and stuff i hated watching. I pretended to like it because I love my wife . wtf why is sobriety so boring for me I have no hobbies
Day 60 is huge!!! You're one of the rarities that started on Jan 1 and actually made it straight through! I want to salute you and wish you continued success to get to 90 days! Be patient, be kind to yourself, and be determined to succeed! Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes! czcams.com/play/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt.html
Thanks Jae!! I’m not much for AA… I went once with a friend and just felt like I dunno hopeless maybe guilt trips work for some but not for me or for my friend obviously…. On day 80 let’s goooooooo!!🫶🫶🫶
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60 days going well. Still feeling a bit down or maybe depressed , is that normal?? Still working out . Eating good but not feeling really good yet ?? Any ideas ?? Thanks ☕🚲
@@chrism5433The good times will come. Your brain needs to reset from years of abuse. Use any resources you can find but mostly, eat right, sleep right and stay active. As you grow and find greater energy you will find that life will take over. You'll suddenly look back on the progress you have made and with amazement say to yourself "S#it!! How did that happen." Your already doing it!! 😊
Also remember you are not an alcoholic with its negative implications. Those who stopped smoking are not nicoholics and those who stopped heroin are not heroholics they by society are sober. This falsehood of always an alcoholic was started by AA wrongly and makes you, I, others feel ashamed for life. So are you on day two of sober; then you are sober keep it up.
Thank you ❤
I have felt as you do in the past. Many of us have learned to identify as an alcoholic with no shame. It's not my fault that I have a lot of trouble stopping drinking once I start. It's not my fault that 34 years of using that addictive poison, that my mind and body are in need of recovery. It's not in my control that the terms Alcohol Use Disorder, Alcoholic, Drunk, Booze Hound, Lush and so many more each have their own connotations. AA is almost 90 years old. The language in the foundational writing can be difficult. The spiritual ideas can draw the ire of many. I found that I have been successful at everything in life except drinking. That maybe, just maybe I didn't have this covered. That possibly I was continually thinking myself out of my own recovery. No one HAS to be in AA, but possibly resenting their mere existence is faulty. Possibly if we give ourselves the chance, we see that AA can be ours. Not theirs.
I too never agreed with that always an alcoholic AA philosophy. It made me still feel like a failure 7 years sober
Everyone can be on their own path to an alcohol-free life, there's no "right" or "wrong" way to get sober, there is only the way that works for you. AA has helped thousands of people get sober, but it definitely is NOT the ONLY way to go! Anyone who keeps trying to make a positive change will get there if they stick with it, these videos are a great place to learn all the great tools and tips there are to help us on this alcohol-free journey.
I would say, it's more so , I will always have the capacity for addiction that needs to be kept in check, hence 'maintaining sobriety'. You are right, I am not an alcoholic, I am a human being.
You have nothing to loose and everything to gain! Emancipate yourself!! At the age of 42, I had lost everything, and I mean everything!! I almost died. I had seizure induced cardiac arrest and was saved by Paramedics. I don't know how much i drank a day, days didn't exist. I bought three bottles of bargain basement scotch at a time and was either drinking or unconcious until it ran out, then I bought three more. I shook so hard that i was afraid that i would break my teeth if i put the bottle to my mouth. Ive been sober for 12 years and just bought a four bedroom house on its own plot. I have a 4x4 and go exploring every chance I get with my beautiful girlfriend of ten years. It can be done, sh*t, if I can, you can. ❤
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Thank you for sharing.
@natascha.anastasia It's my pleasure to share. People who feel that the mountain is too high, that they are too weak and without hope, need to see that it absolutely can be done!!
I’ve appreciated my detours. They were constant reminders that I was on the right path when I wasn’t drinking. Every time I had a few drinks after being sober for a while, I felt physically and mentally ill and I did not enjoy the experience. I looked at the relapses as good reminders-that my days were much better without alcohol.
Thank you for that true post HappyTravels
Sometimes we need those reminders to not repeat the same mistakes. Good observations!
This👆🏼!!! So true. ❤
Much wisdom here. Without my trail of relapses, I never would have valued my sobriety and new life as much as I do today.
I can't be more grateful for this channel. Alcohol use has been an albatross around my neck for 25 plus years, on and off, and I'm now 55. The positivity of this channel and the tone of the messaging is just fantastic. Ten times better than any AA meeting I ever attended. Please and thank you, keep up this excellent work. Such a gift.
It's been a lot of work to get this channel and this community to be what it is today and I'm very grateful for my life, and the joy of being able to help so many in this way! Keep the positivity flowing please 🥰
Your story sounds a lot like my own story, I started drinking as a teenager and now I am 57. I have been trying for over ten years to "control" my drinking, but now that I have decided to just STOP drinking it has made all the difference. I was so afraid to just leave alcohol behind, it had been part of my life for so long, it had been part of every single happy experience I had - since I drank just about every day. But I never realized it had been part of the worst days of my life too, and in fact it had been the main reason I had those terrible times, or it had at least made the bad times much much worse. Now that I have grown children who are going to be old enough to legally drink soon - I am terrifed that my years of setting a bad example are going to "come home to roost"! I am desperately hoping I can set some sort of better example. I have a lot of shame, guilt and anxiety about the way I would drink in front of my kids, it is so "cringe-worthy" to even think about some of the embarrassing stuff I did when I was drunk out of my mind in front of them... but I know all I can control is today and the choices I make. I am gettinbg sober for me, but I hope I can help my family and others around me too.
@jeffreyjohnmann Thank you so much. You literally just wrote the story of my life. I too started drinking early at like 14. Never a real problem, I was a high flying successful and well to do lawyer. About 12 years ago heavy social drinking morphed into daily drinking, then day drinking, then just always drinking. As I wrote this today I am praying for the power to just STOP. My son is away as a freshman in college and I loathe example I set for him. I can literally trace all thr problems in my life directly to alcohol use and abuse. Thank you very much for your response.
Absolutely 💯...57 here and eternally grateful for Jae in helping me look forward to a sober 58th and sober lifestyle 😀
@@BobShay 😁😁😁
I did a year sober, than tried beer again on and off, i tried moderation (drink once or twice a month) but i always regret it and the hsngovers are brutal. I think i just need to give it up for good
I don't think there is anything wrong with a few drinks from time to time. But people like us tend to not want just a few, which becomes a problem.
Self awareness is key to success! Keep working towards your other goals and pair them with your sobriety 😁
@GettingSoberAgain TBH, people in recovery tend to only hear what they want to hear, particularly when they are vulnerable to relapse. I don't think it's particularly helpful to voice an opinion that you personally feel its OK to have a drink from time to time, when it absolutely is not!!! This is your channel! People regard you as an authority!! There us a responsibility that comes with your position.
February 13th I made it to 1 year with no alcohol and it feels like the rest of my life will be better. I’m 31 now and I spend a lot of time feeding the birds by myself now. It’s therapeutic for me. I feel more connected with nature and myself.
That’s awesome! Congratulations.
I’m still in my first year myself, and really can’t wait to get to a year… one day at a time!!
8 months last week in AA after rehab, feels great no longer thinking about alcohol or the exhausting mental anguish to hide it or obtain it
Congratulations! 🎈🎊 for me it will be now 1 year 31 march 🙌🏼☺️
WOAAHHHH!!!! 1 YEARS LETS GOOOOOOOOOO!!! I recently saw a cool ad for this convexed window bird feeder that looked amazing. you open the window and mount it there, and it comes INTO your room. How cool is that? (idk if the birds might be spooked tho lol)
Congratulations Slashfang on your long sobriety streak
This was right on time....I've been really close to convincing myself that "just one" won't hurt. While, as you say, a drink is just a detour, I know me. I tend to do nothing in moderation, so for me, drinking "like a gentleman" is just not an option. One inevitably leads to way too many for me, and I really fear sliding back into old habits after 4 months of sobriety. Good news.....just got my new lab work back and my liver enzymes (ALT/AST) are back in normal range. That hasn't been the case in years, so I'm sober happy dancing now!!!!
HELLLLLLLLL YEAAAAAAAAAAAH LETS GOOOOOOOOOO ENZYMES!!!!!!!!!
Awesome! I love the name too btw lol.
Thank you. I was so down from relapsing and my associated unacceptable behavior. You're not encouraging me to relapse, but you're allowing me to get up, dust myself off, and most importantly forgive myself.
Maybe instead of day three, I'm day 24***** with 5 asterisks. Now I understand for me, it's not one-and-done. At least I'm still trying. Thank you.
If you fall down seven times, get up eight times.
I'm any fight, you're bound to take a few punches. Keep up the good fight, and try not to fall back and keep chalking up drinking sessions as asterisks. 😉
I had 11.5 years of sobriety. Last summer I drank again. And, I have kept drinking. And now I have been drinking again, everyday. I feel like such a failure. How could I let all those years go. Now I’m back in the vicious cycle that we all know so well. This morning when I woke up I said “no more”. I have gotten sober before and I will do it again. I stumbled upon your channel this morning. I wanted to say Thank you! I am finding your videos very helpful 🧡 This is a journey and sometimes we hit a detour. I know I need to be compassionate with myself. I had a stumble but I will get back up.
That's the spirit! You're in the right place, and I'm glad you found our community 🥳
Don't forget, a video a day keeps the cravings away!
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Thank you!! I needed this today! I was drinking too much last year after my husband and suffered a miscarriage. I stopped drinking and we got pregnant again this year. Just found out last night we're losing this baby, too. Your video reminded me to not use this loss as excuse turn to alcohol to try to drown the pain and disappointment. Thank you!
I’m so sorry for the loss of your child. My heart breaks for you. Will be praying for healing and peace
Thank you! ❤
My heart hurts with you 😢
Your loss is immeasurable, but your resilience is a shining example that will bring strength to you and to many others out there going through the same experience down the road.
I want to thank you for your bravery to share this difficult time in your life and to let you know that you are never alone here. we are with you and you are loved 🥰🥰🥰
If I had children, I always fantasized about adopting. There are so many kids out there without the opportunity to have parents to love them. Do you have any secondary thoughts or opinions on that as a possibility?
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Self love is better for long term change. Recognize your mistake, make safeguards to make doing it over again harder, and then forgive yourself.
Don't wallow in your mistakes. Analyze them and then move forward to better health.
Amen to THAT!
So true 😊👍
I watch every morning.
🥰🥰🥰 I love this!
Keep the positive momentum going!
Hey Jae, possibly one of my favourite videos you’ve made. So many important thought provoking topics to consider!! I’m sure I’ll listen to this one many times.
Another minor health issue this week, nothing serious but it’s stopped me running again!😢
On the positive side I’m now on day 109, my longest dry spell as an adult & I’m 55!
Many thanks to you, again. I think I started watching you & commenting when I was on week 4 or 5, it has helped me so much just to write a few lines now & then.
Almost SIXTEEN WEEKS now and I’m staying strong, my next goal is 6 months.
Let’s do it!
109 days is HUGE!!! You are showing the discipline and the fortitude that it takes to continue marching or limping to the goal line!
It doesn't matter how you get there, just get there!
Also...don't forget to rest 😁
Congratulations on your longest sobriety streak ever. Keep that positive momentum going
I just thought I'd stop by as I travel my sober journey!!😊❤
Thanks for stopping by for a full up! Safe travels 😀
I live for my recovery I forgive my self for my past mistakes your videos are just what I need every thing you talk about is so uplifting
That's the goal! To help make the world a better place 🥰
Thank you for today’s video - so encouraging for my situation.
I find I relapse after taking on way too much and find I can’t cope. So glad I have your channel to tune into and get back on track. 😊
Stick with it, you can do this!
Don't forget, a video a day keeps the cravings away!
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So true. I had been neglecting watching these videos daily when I relapsed. They really do make a difference.
“Sometimes we confuse movement with progress” so true!! Thank you 🙏🏻
Someone asked Thomas Edison "Did you get discouraged when it was so hard to find the best filament for the light bulb?"
Mr Edison said. " I viewed it as an information gathering task. Every time one filament failed, I wrote down that information and moved on to the next possible material.
I kept going until I found something that worked."
Did you know that once the lightbulb was invented, they worked so well that all the lightbulb manufacturers got together and decided to make them last less. There was even a oversight committee that would fine a company per lightbulb if it was found randomly that one of their light bulbs lasted past a certain length of time.
#greed
I quit on January 1st. For me, I found that non-alcoholic beer has saved my sobriety! Being able to sit and have a cold one with my friends without the alcohol is a wonderful thing. No FOMO, no fear of relapse, no hangovers. My journey is on the right path.
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Just have to find good non alcoholic beer. Out with my buddies, 8 breweries . Lol .they all non alcoholic beer . Just as much fun . Cheers 🚲☕
Yeah some people feel like NA beers will lead to drinking alcohol again, but for me they are a wonderful way to get to feel like I am "part of the gang" and I don't feel so left out or weird or whatever.
Yes! NA beers 100% saved me!
Sweet what was the NA beer you choose? I’ve been on the kombucha!
Thank you for your kind words, I’m so happy to have found this channel at the right time!
I'm terrifying about having a relapse but with this video I think I could be able to manage it. Hope not to need it! My sobriety journey is now six months and a day long.
You know what comes with alcohol, and you're finding out what comes with sobriety. Keep discovering hidden gems and new accomplishments!
Kep striving to improve yourself Roberto
Hey Jae, love the vids! CZcams algorithm put me on your vid from day 6, 5 years ago. What a difference the way you look now verses then and just your whole energy level is so different. You look younger 5 years later! I’m going for it. Day 3 here already feeling a little better. Keep up the great work!
We'll keep coming back and commenting often. I try my best to answer every comment every morning (only 4 more to go after you're 👊)
Your videos have been big help. You helped me get through a craving a few Saturdays ago , responding to my comment. Unfortunately, Sunday and Tuesday I fell off and it really felt destructive this time. I had almost 3 weeks , and I have been pretty down on all day. But your right, it’s all about responding the right way. I like the analogy of getting lost you don’t just keep going. Thanks Jay you are doing great work
Many journeys. have unexpected twists and turns. A bend in the road is not the end of the road. Get back on track and keep going towards better health.
Thank you for your vulnerability and transparency. We all have many lessons to learn, and sometimes we have to revisit a few that we have yet to master.
Keep us updated with your positive results!
If you want to have a positive reaction, first of all, you got to have a positive vision. My vision want to be a better person and break this ball and chain I have dragged around for 40+ years.. I would not get out of the electric chair to start drinking again👍
You are a blessing, and inspiration AND A LEGEND!!!
@@GettingSoberAgain Brother, you are the inspiration… I remember when you had 705 subscribers.. You were swollen up. And you can quote me.. ( I look like a cadaver that has a been pulled out of the river) . And I hope everyone that visit your channel takes it to heart because it’s some serious stuff that’s for sure.. 👍🫶
Keep the positive momentum going!! Keep striving to improve yourself LucyLoose
@@gwillis01 absolutely you nailed it👍
Latest day 3 boss DEFEATED. Went to the sauna at my gym instead, then packaged up some soup I made earlier this week for my neighbor. Hit the hay at 9 cause IM EXHAUSTED from the poor sleep. …now I’m up writing this comment at 2 in the morning 😆 can’t sleep.
I’m so determined to keep going tho! This struggle feels more real than all those rose-tinted, dim lit evenings at the brewery or bar. It’s kind of… amazing? to be struggling for a good reason for once 🤔 thanks, Jae for another great vid!
Truth be told, sometimes I can't sleep either. But that's when I randomly respond to comments at 3am 🤣
@@GettingSoberAgainthat’s way more productive and probably even also restful compared to drunk texting and poor sleep quality, thank you so much for this community. Keeps me a bit from beating myself further down. This time I am not putting off getting sober again!
@@natascha.anastasia 🥰👏👏👏
This helps me stay 5 steps ahead… thank you for the extra support❤❤❤
5 steps ahead...I LIKE that!!
Keep it going, please don't give up on yourself!
I’m over 35 days with no alcohol. This channel is a great resource to keep on track! Keep up the great videos! Sorry you left Cleveland though. After spring it’s a great place to live😅
Lol yeah 5 months out of the year it's lovely. But if I'm gonna keep the positivity flowing, I need a little more sunshine in my life...ya know what I mean? 🌞
Congrats Stephen on your long sobriety streak. Keep up the good work.
Woooohooooo! Good job brother! I'm on day 38 and these videos definitely remind me why I want to be sober!
Congratulations on your long sobriety streak @@W8320T Keep up the good work
@@W8320TYou and the O.P. are about the same as me! Day 39, so….. I’ve one upped you both!!
Pacing myself sticking to the journey
A proper pace wins the race!
Keep the positive momentum going !!
Thank you for another great video Jae ! I just got to five months sober. But i missed the buzz so much i started trying marijuana. Just before bed and was feeling guilty for a bit that it was still cheating. But next month when i reach 6 months sober from alcohol. It will be worth it. I will be celebrating my birthday this year sober for the first time in years.
Congratulations on your long sober streak. Keep up the good work.
What reasons did you drink, that you now smoke? We have a great video on "Cross Addictions" you might be interested in.
Obviously MJ seems to have less health consequences than alcohol, so that's a positive for sure.
@@gwillis01 Thank you so very much
@@GettingSoberAgain I started drinking due to traumatic events in my life. Then it became a bored thing for a while and stress. The reason why I caved to the MJ was due to the constant stress going on here on a daily basis. I live in Chicago and things have gotten so bad. To leave the house is always a challenge. So I stay home as much as I can.
DAY 183 TODAY Thank you for your videos, It sure helps
Congratulations on your long sobriety streak Donna Keep up the good work
Donna you're doing great! KEEP THE STREAK ALIVE!!!
G'day mate! a HUGE thank you for your amazing work from Australia !! keep it up and good vibes to everyone here!
Hey alright! thank you for stopping by to say hello 🤗
"I wonder what popped up above people's heads before the invention of the light bulb." LOL. That cracked me up Jae.
Lol I'm glad you liked my little bit of humor. I try to put at least 2-3 little fun bits in each video to break up the sometimes long winded speeches I tend to go on
@@GettingSoberAgain
I find your content VERY consumable. Not long winded at all. You have a nice logical clear flow and top notch production quality. You have a charisma that definitely comes through.
I watch all the other popular sobriety influences as well. They all offer great insight and tips. But some of them can be a bit long-winded for sure, and repeat themselves a lot. I often find myself tapping the screen to advance 10 or 20 seconds. I'm like, "OK, you've made the point. Move on." Lol.
I never do that with you. And I definitely re-watch more of your videos than I do the others.
I'm glad you appreciate how I make content. I spend hours writing a script so that I'm not repeating things or getting lost in my thoughts.
I take hours to edit each video to remove the stutters, the ums, buts and verbal mistakes.
I aim to make the end product easy to understand and digest so that you feel better after you're done than when you started!
Hi Jae ! Another brilliant vid . I’m terrified of the “R” word , thankfully it hasn’t happened this time but it has before . However , watching this video has made me realise it’s not the end of the world if it does , just add that asterisk , lol !
All the best Jae , keep well and I will see you in the next video . From your friend in Bonnie Scotland :)
It's not the end, but for a lot of people it CAN be a very long detour. So let's just work on staying ON the road, and not in the ditch 🥰 Love ya Bonnie! let me know if you come across any free flyer miles, we would love to visit Scotland someday. (some of my bloodline comes from there)
Definitely not the end of the world but definitely the beginning I have a new one❤
@@GettingSoberAgain, I will keep an eye out for the air miles , mate !!
Another great video and perfectly timed, Jae. I've got my battle plan ready. It's time to heal and love myself better. 🤗❤️
Hey Jae, looking forward to episode 200. It's great you have so many ideas for topics :)
That's my name, don't wear it out 🤣 Yeah for sure, so many topics. I think I have like 200 more ideas already written down. SO MANY IDEAS!!! SO LITTLE TIME!!!
@@GettingSoberAgain❤ I’m glad you have so much more to offer! Even when some topics occasionally cover repetitive themes, these are KEY in helping people understand the fundamentals really well, and it is appreciated! I’ve said it before now but I’ll say it again. It was the work you do that made me have my highest streak last year of being alcohol free since I was about 15. I’m nearly 42. Going strong again and you are my go to resource when I need it. I’ve just become a bronze member to show a bit of support financially. It’s the least I can do.
All these things just remind you of alcohol all day. One day hopefully you will just wake up and say “hmm you know what I’m done, I want my life back”
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Congratulations on thinking about sobriety. Keep striving to improve yourself.
Hi Jae 👋 lots of good information thank you for what you do 🙏
Happy to help as always ☺️
After a recent sobriety stretch of 23 days I relapsed 3 times. Tried the asterisk thing (great idea btw) but after 3 asterisks I decided it will be better psychologically to just reset the count.
So, today, assuming I don't drink, will be day 1 dot dot dot again lol. I have a list of 10 reasons why I need to quit (Number 1 being acetaldehyde!).
But it dawned on me this morning I could add reason 11. Today is February 29. Interesting day to quit because I won't have the opportunity to quit again on February 29 for 4 years. Somewhat of a weak reason, but as I said, I already have 10. Adding to the list is always a good thing.
Time to LEAP into your new future 😉
Good for you for being accountable. The asterisk method is really just meant for a single slip up to prevent falling into a binge weekend, month, or decade.
Keep us updated!
I keep a bottle of Antabus in my medicine cabinet just in case I need it. Works wonders for me, and I just began taking it again because of a little detour I had.
6,5 years of sobriety, with some asterisks here and there.
6.5 years of great progress!
Hello 🤗
I’m listening to your Channel a longer time now. ( actually like Binge Listing 😅) , as well as some other channels. It gives me such a feeling from being really understood.
So I really want to say Thank You!!
( sorry for me English, I am from Berlin Germany)
I got sober and clean when I was 21 years and stood sober straight for 23 years. After 2-3 years it wasn’t even an issue!!
After many terrible things over many years happened blabla… I started thinking again on my 44 Birthdays. Since then 8 years later, I had 6 detox and 1 Rehab for 6 month. Till now I can’t stay sober; kind of unbelievable.
That’s why I even love the titled you channel! Getting sober AGAIN, can be quite hart!
If you got the jackpot of being a ‚real‘ Alcoholic the only way and chance is to get sober .
I have to confirm of what I have heard in like 1000 AA Meetings: it is progressing and it becomes worse and worse !! I do have a very strong comparison and the sober Live is soooo much more worth living !!! I accomplished so many things, non of it would have been possible while thinking….!!
Wishing all of you the Best, and thank you very much again !!🙏
Welcome! Stick with it, life is better without alcohol.
I appreciate your story, thank you for sharing and for binge watching :)
Great advice... thanks!!
You know me 🤠
Great positive message! 💪🏻💜
My heart is happy when I see your comments 🥰
@@GettingSoberAgain 💖
If I ever screw up I’ll add that asterisk, but after ten additional days I’ll remove it. Because otherwise that asterisk is always there, which isn’t right.
Whatever floats the boat as they say 😜
We are all on our own journey!
@@jeffreyjohnmann I’m sensing that this didn’t go over well, lol. Let me revise my comment slightly and maybe it’ll be more tolerable. 😃
"If you were on a cross country trip and the GPS suddenly stopped working, you wouldn't just stop and rent the closest apartment, would you?"
This contrasts the advice of the late great Mitch Hedberg, who had a joke "If you get lost in the woods, f*** it, build a house. 'Well I was lost, but now I live here.'"
lol "elevator temporarily stairs. sorry for the convenience"
Good Morning Jae love from Australia❤
I wanna come visit!!! Where should I go? what should I do???
The major fact you must know about Australia is that the cities are on the coast. Most of the center of Australia is raw desert wilderness.
No one goes to the center of Australia unless they want a wild wilderness experience. @@GettingSoberAgain
Just what i needed to hear! Thank you Jay 🙏🏼
In the POCKET let's GOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
That's a terrific video, thank you!
👊got you
Super grateful for you videos! Thanks a lot!
. . . a keep it simple thank you Jae. 🥰 God bless us each and everyone. 😊
Message received 🥰
Yes, very true.
Thank you 🙏
Gotchu fam
I love your positivity, it helps me adjust my perspective! Thank you for all that you do!
I'm very grateful to be able to deliver these messages in an effective way. I spent a lot of years trapped with a very negative outlook, and a very mean "inner coach".
Let's keep the positive energy FLOWING!
Great message and approach
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thanks man these vids are actually helping a lot.
🎯 We are all fighting the good fight, together 🫂
Thank you Jae
You bet Tina!
Wow! I LOVE the asterisk tip!! So encouraging because it keeps me from resorting to beating myself up for what I’ve done! 💕
Yeah...don't be mean to yourself 👉🫨
I don't know what made me search for getting sober stories today,but I did and found your channel.Thank you so much!I have been watching several of your videos throughout the day.I recently relapsed after close to 2 years of sobriety.My mom passed in Oct and 2 months to the day,I lost my gf,2 weeks later,I was struck by a truck and injured at work,and 2 weeks later,I lost that job.This series of events,certainly had a factor in my relapse,because I ignored the 5 W's.I am going into an inpatient program that will be between 30-90 days and after that will be going into a sober living program to provide the support,structure,accountability that I need.I had suicide ideation a few weeks ago and really realized how sick I had become.I look forward to following you and truly enjoy your delivery of how you break things down.Thanks again!!
I wish you the guidance and determination that you need to stay focused on being your best. Keep us updated please 🙏
Great video thank you
Thank you for the encouragement.
@@user-gd4nk1sm2j Happy to help 😁
I don't know what it is, but I find this channel very comforting
That's one of my goals. There is a lot of discomfort in life. People put their expectations on others. My strategy is for you to comfortably put new expectations on yourself as you continue to make progress 🫂
@@GettingSoberAgain I can identify with the asterisk trick. Why throw everything out with a slip? Thank you for replying to me .
What a wonderful video! I was dry 3 mos and drank 9 days off/on this month. Thank you so much!!
Thank you
The 60 days or around 2 months is the hardest for me, i think its because you start getting comfortable sober and think, oh i can handle a few. Then it ends in disaster.
Thank you for this channel. 🤘
🫡 Thanks for watching and commenting. I put a new video out yesterday btw!
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Three years were a great success, huge😂 and now i'm here...again. i don't know anything about this chanel but this video was helpful. I'll sure check more later. Thank you, G-d bless you❤ i feel a little better about myself now, not my first rodeo, you say😅
Well you're in great company here in this great community! Stop by and say hello again sometime!
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Love your content!
What are you top 5 favorite videos? 😅
Dude you are so inspiring im not going to lie and i relapsed and im about 7 shots in with a searing headache and so much regret but i know i can do this i just need to stay sober
7 shots lol, sounds like you might need to re-watch these videos when you're clear headed 😉
Haven't relapsed, but I'm struggling this week for the first time. 94 days sober, almost at the big 100! A few weeks ago I quit nicotine aswell, and this past week I've been craving a drink for the first time. It feels kinda wrong to be this "clean". No stimulant to comfort me. Started eating healthy and exerciseing, feel great, but Suddently got this intense urge to get shitfaced at a dirty underground rock concert, miss the last bus home, roam around all night with strangers and eat kebabs while waiting for the first bus home. Like the old days.
I've been to 2 parties, everyone is pregnant so no one is drinking, which is obviously good, but boring. Can't wait for summer so I can go out and find some new sober, crazy, fun hobbies!!
Sorry for the ramble, really struggling to find motivation right now...
It sounds like you are romanticizing your old "drinking life". I think a lot of us do that. I don't miss alcohol as much as I miss the feelings of being carefree and blissfully ignorant of the damage booze was doing to my body, my brain, my thinking, my relationships, my job... I certainly miss that more than hangovers, an empty bank account, and diarrhea. But now that I have seen what alcohol was really doing to my life I can't go back. I think that is the hardest part. We can never go back to "the old days" you mentioned - and that can be difficult to deal with. I don't want to live in the past, I don't want to be some pathetic drunk desperately trying to relive the so-called "glory days", Stumbling around wasted out of my mind wasn't all that glorious if I am honest with myself, it was pretty embarrassing and cringe-worthy. I want to move forward into a better future where I am becoming the person I was meant to be, where booze isn't ruining my opportunities and wasting my time, money, and health. The "good old days" weren't all that good and they are never coming back. I want something better.
@@jeffreyjohnmann Thank you! I completely agree with everything you said! And that has been my thoughts aswell up until now, I'm just scared I won't get that mindset back. But I'm sure I will.
hello Jae.
Howdy partner 🤠
As usual, this is very good motivation. But, I'm turning 56 in a few days, is that too late for drinking since I was 20? I'm a 5 days a week, but heavy on those days.
It's never too late to start a good habit to replace a bad habit. I think Jae did a video on this a few weeks back about the benefits of self improvement late in life.
Some people decide that after decades of drinking, they want to stay alive longer to play with the cute little grandchildren as long as possible.
It's never too late to invest in the company of YOU. my mom quit at 68, and she's doing much better now, and even went back to work!
My hard part is I like the taste of ipa, and the buzz and forgetting your problems was the cherry on top. In my 20s though it was hard A, luckily I got off that
Imagine if dude just casually popped open a beer as he was speaking and casually drank it while he spoke. Took out a cig and lit it up like we couldn’t see him LMAO
a little mid vid crack rock pep talk "where was I?..."
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I cried like a baby because I couldn’t drink … it was pathetic, but alcohol was my pal
You were in the GRIPS!
You have helped me beyond belief thank you 🙏🏻
Happy to help 🥰
Dry since December.
Im cheating, though.
THC & Sugary Sweets.
I'll feel better when i quit the alternates. While its a little disappointing... still happy to have finally pass two months. Longest dry period since Iraq 07-08. Tip #3.
Stick with it man, you are on a journey towards a better life.
How does your inner coach feel about the THC and Sugary Sweets?
Thank you for the kind words.
I've started cooking as a hobby, life improvement skill. Exercise as well.
Doing the 'replacement therapy' thing. Good habits replacing bad. Just keep trying, changing, improving, Jae. You know what you're talking about brother.
@@joeboo8626 healthy habits for the win!!!
Hi Jae,
Awesome vids mate.
Ive tried the 10 in 10 for weening off, but its extremely hard.
Once i have 1 drink, its game over.
Gonna try a different approach and have alcohol free days, then slowly add more af days in a week. I really hope i can make it work.
I came to visit my old city and relapsed 😵 I’m going to get back up tho.
Lifetime alcoholic. Over the last 5 years have shaved off 99% consumption. Even more depressed than when I was drinking. Every few months I decide to drink. I know it can lead to seizures. Waking up somewhere strange with no memory of the binge. I recently woke up in a hospital under police custody. No wallet. No phone. I hang around for my wife but that's it. Complete anhedonia. Almost nihilistic.
I relapse about 5 times. I'm almost giving up :(. I did 66 days this year for the first time after 10 year. But after every relapse it feels like it's worse 😢
Getting sober again.
Seems to be a common theme around here 😉
I drank botle of vine two days ago and one yesterday, after 2 years sobriety. Just uneazy time... dont know what happened to my brain, but I didnt felt much at all from that vine. I get way more high after good workout or a cold shower, from alco I just felt tired and lazy, thats bullshit, fuk alcohol
My inner voice tells me to drink because I’m so bored sober 2 years not a drop then I fell off a cliff. I felt so alone the entire time I was sober I blocked all of my friends. I got closer to my wife who force fed anime and stuff i hated watching. I pretended to like it because I love my wife . wtf why is sobriety so boring for me I have no hobbies
list of 1000 hobbies: www.burlapandblue.com/list-of-hobbies/
Hey guys. I feel like shit. I relapsed recently. And i'm so mad at myself
But why did you relapse?
I need all the support I can get please I'm one day sober and I'm not really okay ita a battle I wanna win
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60 Days Sober today 2/29/2024
Awesome, keep it going!
Day 60 is huge!!! You're one of the rarities that started on Jan 1 and actually made it straight through! I want to salute you and wish you continued success to get to 90 days!
Be patient, be kind to yourself, and be determined to succeed!
Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes!
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Thanks guys I don't feel very rare but I do appreciate the encouragement and inspiration 🙏
@@stephaniekaleberer8504 well, 91% of people don't follow thru with their new years resolutions ✅
@@GettingSoberAgain I did not know that...Thank you ❤️
3 years down the drain
Staying down or getting up?
Thanks Jae!! I’m not much for AA… I went once with a friend and just felt like I dunno hopeless maybe guilt trips work for some but not for me or for my friend obviously….
On day 80 let’s goooooooo!!🫶🫶🫶
You're proof that it can be done!
@@GettingSoberAgain I hope I can inspire someone else… even if it’s not my husband 😂🤣
Well ya know,,,
Relapse is optional 🥱
So is living
Most people do not have perfect discipline and perfect self control. All humans are imperfect. Mistakes are inevitable.