8. Interracial Dating - What If We Were Real Talk Show - Episode 8
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My boyfriend is white. I'm black (African). Even though visibly different physically and culturally he is my very best friend. I appreciate this episode. I enjoyed it, thoroughly. Thanks for sharing.
Did you know Moses was in an interracial marriage? Read Numbers 12 God bless you two in a God centered relationship. Amen.
I'm open to interracial dating but I desire to marry a black man and have a black family.
Same here
Anthony yes. What you said means a lot....a healthy black relationship means & displays something different in today's society. Especially today. What u said sir, was needed. Hand clap
Thanks Kay! 😁✊🏾
I know! I kept snapping my fingers as he was talking. Love you Anthony!
Especially true in 2024. We need more representation of healthy black love 🤴🏾 🖤👸🏽
I love this! I’m a mixed kid: 75% African-American and 25% Asian. I’m also dating a Hispanic man. So, yes, I’m all about that interracial life! 🙌🏽
God bless. Did you know Moses children were mixed. Did you know God got angry with others when they were failing to accept his marriage? All written in the Bible.
*Only 18* 👇👇👇
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Mandisa speaks with so much grace :) girl i hope you find your big black and bald born again believer with a goatee
AGREE
😂😂😂😅😄😊 why he gotta be bald lmaoo she was funny hilarious rest in peace 🙏🙏🙏🕊️
Mandisa said "yall my sisters but let me talk to my sistas" 😂😂 #Girlfriend
I'm married, but I am still enjoying these very candid conversations about race, dating, etc.
One race, the human race. Multiple ethnic groups. Good conversation.
Think it’s interesting when guy talked about falling for his wife, when she wasn’t his normal cup of tea. Physically not on his list, but she fit the bill personality wise. “Messages” 😂
Thank you Mandisa, Anthony and everyone else for being real! I thought there was something wrong with me that I prefer dating Asian American men, especially with the black lives matter movement going on a lot of talks at church about unity and racism. I have friends of different races, but prefer to marry my own race so he will understand my culture of growing up with immigrant parents. At the end, his character is the most important. Integrity, loves God, heathy, funny, and can accept a debate/having a strong girlfriend.
*_2000 years of church history_* , the christians are still stuck with whether we can marry people of different colours, whether a woman can preach, whether a woman can wear a pant , whether a man can have circumcision , or this is my favourite whether a woman can trim her eyebrows
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Bruh.. I don't know who are" the Christians" you are referring too but whoever you are referring to are not!....but religious folk, as too were the Pharisees who knew all the Scriptures, wore all he regalia and were in the synagogues 24/7, and Christ called such 'a den of vipers and workers of inquity".
And in reply to your statement God is concerned about the salvation of your eternal soul, maintenance of said salvation and ministering the Gospel to the four corners of the earth, not race mixing, pants sizing, woman preachers (Anna -Luke 2:36-38, Mary Madeleyn) and God forbid...eyebrows...lol!!!
Honestly, I don't care what race the person is, but I'm like Nicole and Jaime-as long as they love Jesus (and live it) and love/respect me... I'm happy
Me too!
Me too
He's not going to be worried about your hair unless you want him to be a hairdresser. Enjoying the show.
It’s deeper than that you’re just looking at it from the surface level .
Ben Adek How is it deeper than that? I’m genuinely curious and just seeking to understand.
Bree Marie it’s more of a cultural thing in terms of understanding the significane of ones hair especially in the African American community and just certain things that African Americans do that is not strange to anyone who is African American because it’s part of who we are growing up but when someone outside your race doesn’t understand our cultural aspect or mannerisms it can bet hard to explain to them because for us it’s in our dna so sometimes it’s hard to explain
Ben Adek Ahhh okay! At first I thought you were saying there was some deeper issue as to why some white guys have an actual problem with protective styles such as box braids. I get where you are coming from about different things that are unique to African American culture such as having to “speak/greet” whenever you walk into your friend’s house, code switching, and the overall different experience African Americans have. I get what you mean by somethings being hard to explain. Thank you for taking the time to clarify!
@@benadek6703 Greetings Ben Adek, I believe as human beings we mostly see the surface of life, people and circumstances. However, some people who are able to see below the surface “in the financial world” are called billionaires. But, what do you call people who can see below the surface “in the financial world,” but don’t make any investments? Regret-ers maybe. Nobody really knows all things, without risk, except God (or “the concept of an all-knowing God”, for non-believers). Lastly, Jesus had a “but” situation with Judas, “but” Jesus didn’t quit his ministry or his purpose. On that note, I believe some “but” situations are required for us to grow and/or complete our own purpose in life. So, even if the guy doesn’t understand Black Hair or culture or visa versa, that doesn’t mean it’ll destroy your life or be a hindrance to the marriage. Also, what’s wrong with African-Americans learning another culture or teaching ours? Good example of cultures coming together was when Chinese Restaurants started making fried chicken wings. Then learning about Chicken Fried Rice and Kung Fu movies. Match made in Heaven. On a side note, I don’t think there’s “anyone” who’s qualified to define what Black Culture is. Black Culture, like the different shades of our skin, is as diverse as the different types of Bar-B-Que found in the back yard to the most popular restaurant. Therefore, “nobody” has the right to disqualify anybody as a black person “for any reason.” (aka pulling their Black Card) You should pull yo’ own Back Card for thinking you can. But as humans, I think once we learn to use proper “But” Bias, we’ll be better off. In all seriousness, I think we need to watch our “but” statements and how we use them in life because it makes a difference in our lives and others. No disrespect meant and thanks for the Rely. Hope you and your family stay safe and healthy.
Mandisa, I just wanted you to know that I am annoyed by what that man tweeted to you about your hair. Your hair is beautiful. I sincerely hope that God blesses you with your ideal man, and that he'll appreciate you inside & out.
Proud Mizzou Fan . I was too, I love Mandisa hair
Mandisa should go on the Steve Harvey show and let him help her pick a man to date.
@@lisaleonard2041 I have somebody in mind for her just need to talk to his older sister
@78shamrocker Pretty sure she already has somebody in mind and is absolutely using this as a tool to let them know without directly approaching them. Could be wrong but, I don't think so. Might even be a man on the panel.
This was real. The women are more open. The men were more specific. Austin's feedback was really honest and encouraged the sense that how you are raised impacts the choices you make. As always I appreciated Anthony's perspective. I would have liked to hear more specifically what kind of black women Anthony was interested in because that can be a misunderstood topic amongst communities. We talk about their race but also I want to know more DETAILS! What shade (light, medium, dark)? What size (slim, hourglass, plus size)? What personality etc. (introverted or extroverted)? The women who said any color I would also like to hear specifics. This gives the audience more insight into how the panel thinks and we didn't get to hear from a few of the people; which would have given more insight. But I must say this is one of the realest conversations yet lol Mandisa and Anthony have such strong personas; it's GREAT!
Lol! this is the second comment I'm seeing from you that is asking for more details about someone's physical 'type'. Perhaps people don't know the details themselves, when someone comes that fits the category then they know. I too, do not know what type of black man I'm into myself and I don't know that these 'types' are an appropriate taxonomy for categorising people, as a lot of people are so multi-faceted. He could've said something more specific based on the women he has dated in the past but I don't think that anyone should look at new people who come into their lives through the lens of past relationships, I don't think that's fair enough.
Ibukun Akin Hey! Appreciate your feedback. I’m a detailed person and find alot of meaning in them.
To be fair I’ve heard much more negative comments about black hair from black men than anything. Just leave the picking to God and he’ll be the right one!
The girl with the floral head band is so sweet. Appreciated her spirit
I love these videos and real conversations that you post! ❤️ Praying that God will bring your husband into your life soon! ❤️
Continue to absolutely love this series - thank you Mandisa! I'm an African British woman married to an African British man, and I really don't think that he could tell you why I have to wrap my hair before going to bed 😅! So just to say - I really do agree that things can be taught. May the Lord indeed give you eyes for the husband He has ordained for you.
My husband may not be able to tell you why I wrap my hair at night and sometimes during the day also. However, he is very accustomed to seeing his mother, sisters, and aunts do the same. He sometimes questions why I remove my attractive scarf for a quick run to the store. It makes a difference to know that your husband regards natural things about you as attractive and that it is not forced.
I feel like a lot of black women get too caught up in minor details and miss out on blessings. Many of them would pass over a good man of another race for a not as great black guy just because they're afraid of little things like having to "explain hair". Your hair is just hair, it's not some huge obstacle. In fact, it is beautiful and unique, no other race of people has hair like ours. Many men of all races actually find our hair beautiful, which is why you see many interracial couples that consist of black women with natural hair. Stop passing up a good man just because you don't want to explain having to wear a bonnet to him lol, he'll learn because he loves you! It's not a big deal and we need to break this generational curse of insecurity when it comes to our hair. Black women especially need to expand their options to all men, because there are many amazing men of all races and black women in America outnumber black men by 2 million. Even if all the black men got married today, there would still be 2 million single black women. If you keep your options so limited you may have a very hard time finding a husband and block your blessings.
Thank you I needed to read this. I don't have Black hair, but my hair is afro type of hair and I have to do a lot to it. I tend to think I wouldn't want a prospective husband to see me without it all done. So I relate in a way. Our hair doesn't define us, God help all of us women who have insecurities to see ourselves in Christ and the way God sees us.
@@steflondon88 so the brothas be trying to holla at you?
What about the big things such as race issues and understanding that a black family and what it means to be married as a black couple Is of utmost importance.
Yes! To everything you said. And many times black men also shame us for our hair. I know black women who only wear wigs in front of their boyfriends and are afraid to show their men their natural hair. It’s like Black women tolerate a lot more if it’s black men but have such ridiculous standards for non black men. I hope to soon see more Black women widening their dating pool.
@@upriseclicksko no. I'm just saying women to women, I can relate to insecurity about hair.
I'm a white woman, and I feel that the man who tweeted you was way out of line. Don't let that man be what keeps your heart open to who ever God may send. Not all men are that way. I actually wear my hair in box braids with extensions and my husband ( white) loves it. If hair is what a man is most concerned about he's goin about it all wrong, bless his little heart when he meets his Mrs Right and on that first morning and he wakes up and realizes braids may not be so bad after all.
Thank you for the episode Mandisa!
As a Black woman I have been saying for decades that Black Women should not limit themselves to just dating Black men and should focus more on finding a man after God's own heart as they work towards becoming a Proverbs 31 woman...
and some within the Black community vilified me for saying so...
But...even though I knew racism has ALWAYS been alive and well in this country I didn't realize until 2016 HOW MANY people are openly &/or ignorantly unapologetically racist AND/OR in DENIAL of their implicit biases when (just one example) HUNDREDS of innocent Black men, women, children, and non-binary individuals have been recorded being killed and their murderers walk free and...
I was blind to the levels of coldness and apathy that permeate too many in this nation.
Therefore, while I am still open to dating a man of a different ethnic background than my own I have a LOT more observation of HIM, his FAMILY/FRIENDS, AAAAND a LOT more questions before I can entertain the thought of a long-term relationship.
I've been told "I'm not really Black." because I'm well-spoken, intelligent, don't (yet) have any children or "pretty for a dark/Black girl" too many times and I am NOT trying to raise my future children in such toxicity.
I appreciate how some on your panel say nom-Black men can be taught something they don't know. That is very true and totally makes sense when discussing simple issues/differences. Tying up your hair at night is a one-and-done conversation. IN-DEPTH conversations about White Supremacy/Privilege, School-to-Prison-Industrial-Conplex, Colorism are NOT.
Whomever God has for me to marry is not JUST my future husband (my COVERING) - he'll be the Father of our future children. If God forbid something were to happen to me I need a husband who can walk and talk with them about these difficult subjects AND be able to give our sons (and daughters) "The Talk" that African-Americans give to their children in the hopes that they return to them alive and untraumatized after interactions with (some) law enforcement.
THANK YOU for this MUCH NEEDED discussion - especially amongst Christians.
wow I experienced the same things and think exactly like you. I don't know who my husband will be but if he is from a different ethnicity or race I would like him to understand what minorities are leaving and advocate to change mentalities where and whenever needed. Blessed you @Passion8 4God (I am passionate about your username)
@@danielen359 - Thank you for your sharing!
It's comforting to know that I'm not alone. 🥰
Also, thank you for your blessing! 🙏🏾
I pray the Lord's Perfect Will be done in your life! 🙏🏾
@@Passion84GodAlwaysMs Selfhatred
I hope this series never ends, I've been thoroughly blessed by all the wisdom from the panelists and the discussions have been so interesting! Thank you Mandisa and your friends for this!
I live in California, so there are a lot of interracial relationships. I have been attracted to my opposite for as long as I can remember. Being blonde and blue eyed, I like dark hair, olive or brown complexion. When I was younger, a teen, back in the 70s, I did not consider bringing home a black guy because I didn’t think my family would approve. But after I got divorced and was in my 30s, I was old enough to not be concerned or tied to my parents/relatives approval, so I started dating black men, as well as hispanic and white. I’m stubborn and strong, so I refuse to let society dictate those type of decisions. I never found my guy, and have gotten to an age where I don’t want to be bothered anymore, but I am still attracted to my opposite, race doesn’t matter to me.
Mandisa is a REAL ONE for bringing us this conversation
Love you Mandisa! You are so sweet and beautiful. I’m white and I’m attracted to black men. I’ve dated both but I just prefer black men. I do believe love is colorblind and when God sends you the right man, you will know. I keep praying for mine to come, but I know God will send him when the time is right. Sometimes I just get impatient waiting though. 😁❤️
I'm attracted to Healthy Black Saved Men with an amazing smile and sense of Humour ... Now that may be my preference, but Who ever God has for me I'm ok with that whether he is Black or White! Any Man I date/ Marry is gonna have to have something going for his self.Lol.
thank you for sharing.... new latina subscriber. just finished the movie Something New.
That’s a great movie
I am so happy you did THIS!!!
Keep it up. Your music brought me " Out of Darkness" when I was nearly sure I'd be lost forever.
Keep making music, keep being transparent.
I love you Mandisa!!
57 yo AA professional female OPEN to God's plan and holding on for dear life...
I'm so mixed, I want someone different than me. I think there tend to be less false expectations when you KNOW you have different experiences and racial/cultural understandings, and I'm kind of tired of people assuming that I'm enough "like them" that we're basically the same and don't need a ton of communication to understand each other's point of view.
So, the ideal?
Different culture, different personality, different strengths and weaknesses.... But with unique flexibility, patience, similar sense of humor, and willingness to do adventure as a life-style...
I need the even-keel to my passionate opinions, the stable to my ever-shifting lifestyle, the follow-through to my strong-start, and the simple to my overcomplicated. I need someone who can love who I am, balance me out rather than change me, and communicate well through offense and misunderstanding... And I want the opportunity to offer the same.
No doubt, there will be days the very things I need will drive me crazy, but I don't need the one person who's got the same understanding of my racial/cultural context... I need the person who knows they don't understand, but always SEEKS to be understanding through listening and good communication.
I love you so much Mandisa and this conversation is much needed. As for myself being a believer and a black woman I don’t want to be with anyone outside of my race. Before when I was growing up white relationships were advertised a lot and I was like ooooo forget the black man let me be with someone outside of my race. Then I had several encounters with racism and was like hell no! But as I drew and even draw closer to God, I see the stronghold of racism within all races, and that’s causing division. When I understood that God made our color and race intentionally to not be ignored but to show his diversity, I knew I had to look at my life. And similar to what Anthony said, I want to be the change in the black community that demonstrates God’s love!
I'm black, always dreamed of being with a white guy cuz that was what I was attracted to mostly growing up. 1st and 3rd boyfriends were black, 2nd was white. Out of the 3 the white guy was the shortest relationship and the most superficial, though all 3 ultimately were not good for me. That doesn't say anything about the color, but about the guys themselves. I've always been open to whatever color but at this point I'm not as attached to having a white husband like I used to be, though by no means would I be against it. For all I know God could bless me with an Italian or something. Who knows and who cares, as long as he's my gift from God I don't care what wrapping paper He chooses to use✌️
I am thoroughly enjoying this series!!
Mandisa, your hair is gorgeous and don't worry about the head wrap business. I as a white lady actually have to sleep with a satin cap on every night because I have curly hair. Otherwise, it will be a frizzy mess in the morning. :)
I just thought about Tony Evans Son Anthony for You? If He's Single?😂😂
I mentioned that in the earlier comments, lol. Btw, he's very single, lol. Social media have been egging them on for years to become an item...At the end of the day...the Lord has the final say in equally yolked and meant to be couples ; )
I agree!!
Nah, I see Chad Johnson (Michelle Williams' ex) with mandisa. He's single now---and bald with a gotee👌
Another great episode of your talk show mandisa I enjoyed it!!!🤗🙏🏻❤️
It's so funny, you never know who you're going to end up with. I was always attracted to Asian guys, and I ended up marrying someone of Celtic descent like myself. "God is going to give me eyes for whoever I end up with." Yes! This is it exactly!
I like these episodes! Just not long enough! Can you make them 30 minutes? This one needed that extra time. Part 2?
Even some black men are clueless when it comes to how and what black women have to do with their hair. I think if you find a man who submits to God and loves you, hair will be the least of your worries. 😃
I’m loving these raw, genuine, Godly discussions 🙏🏾🌸
I enjoyed another great episode! Thank-you sweet Mandisa!!🤠💖🙌 I have no problem dating outside my race❣It is more important to me ,the heart of a man,what is in the inside,not the outside❣My family has the same opinion❣ I have always had diverse friends💖.We are all equally beautiful creations of God❣ A Born Again Believer In Jesus Christ,a man of integrity,honesty and wants to grow together with Jesus, experience life together,that's my heart's desire❣
In my younger years I had "The List" and I held onto it stubbornly UNTIL years later when I met "the man of my list".#epicfail
Although, he looked the handsome part and even spoke "Christian-ese" flawlessly, underneath the facade was a total lack of godly integrity, character and honor. Those are the attributes I pay attention to now first versus what shade he may or may not be as my list previously required. Yep. Paid full price for that lesson!🙄
Sounds like my story!!!! He was handsome and could quote the bible front to back but didn't hide the word in his heart. The good thing is I'm only 19, so I'm just glad I found out young!
I married the “1” and found out quickly he was a wolf in sheep’s clothing. I am unsure if God has another in mind for me.
You should watch rip the list by Micheal Todd sermon it's really good.
Sounds like you had a wrong list. I had one and graciously God gave me 7/10 which I’m grateful for.
I love these candid discussions😂😂
Mandisa! Great content! I think your ideal guy u described is AE😜😉🤔...Evans!!!
LOL I thought so too but she said on one of her shows (Mornings with Mandisa) that they are just friends and would be really incompatible as a couple. But if they are still single at 50 they will marry each other
@@danielen359 lol....I think they mentioned same thing that a few years back that if they were still both single at and after 40....hmmm ; )
Thank you, Mandisa, for this episode. I loved the honesty of the panel and how each is open to looking beyond race to date. I grew up in a racist family and vowed I would never raise my children to think this way. I dated interracially often as I grew up in my later years in Wash DC and the surrounding area. I honestly thought I would marry a black man, but God had a different plan for me. I am pleased to say he has blessed me with a 39 year old marriage because I listened to HIM and not to my own will. I feel so strongly about encouraging positive race relations, especially now. I look forward to viewing the other episodes you have coming up on this.
Honestly I dont have a problem if people have a preference for dating outside of their race. What I don't like is persons disrespecting and bringing down their race as an excuse for having another preference.
The only thing I dislike about this series is that I have to wait a full week to hear another episode.
All of these are SO good!
Why do I feel like she's starting something here 😂😂😂😂 1:08 1:09 She said "but they don't know that" she was hilarious a tripp 🙏🙏🙏 sigh rest in peace 😔
I am 100% open to a relationship with a man of any color or culture! I find it interesting how the women are more open to that than the men, in general. I wonder why that is? Please keep doing these! I look forward to it every week! You should do an episode about why we all find it so hard to meet people! I don’t get it!
Most people initially desire is to date their own. Over time with experience and age, you start to open up about it even if you still prefer your own race. I grew up only being interested in black women. Sure I found other races attractive, but it was just something about a black women. To be honest I wasn’t around other races much. All of my schools even college were 95% black. As I got older and started moving around in different circles, my eyes started to wonder lol! It eventually got to the point where I was wide open. I still loved the sisters, but I was open to other races.
Sometimes a connection is just a connection, but I definitely have a preference for a Blk godfearing man. Think it’s natural for you to have a preference for you own race, but if God presents someone different and they fit the bill and you say no idk. I take more of Anthony’s perspective. It’s not that I can’t date white, I would like to represent for my culture
I'm mixed with black and Puerto Rican (but I look mostly black). I grew up with both cultures of families. I went to a predominantly white elementary school and church. I was never black enough, spanish enough and I definitely wasn't white lol. So very early I had to define my identity by something other than race and today I have a diverse mixture friends from every race, ethnicity, social background, even age. But as for dating my PREFERENCE is black. That's just what I'm attracted to, physically, mentally and culturally. I'm open to whatever if God has other plans. But I do pray for a strong, God fearing black man... I am weak for a bald head and a goatee too but I can compromise on that 😉
I’m glad you had men and women chime in on this topic in the same video! On the having to teach another race about your culture aspect, I believe that’s part of the learning about your spouse process. Even within the Black community, there’s other cultural differences that we may have to explain to our partners, from cooking to colorism. If your partner is willing to learn more about you and accept those nuances, enjoy!
C'mon Mandisa and Anthony! What are we waiting on? hahaha!!
What a great episode! Is Ruben Studdard off the market? Lol! Just a little #idol humor. I loved the diverse response from everyone so no race was rejected. I'm African American and growing up I was attracted to white guys. But as time went on I had very few romantic connections with them. So it almost became black men by default. I've also met black men who had problems with my hair. Another story. At the end of the day God's plan may not match yours. So I'm still single and find men of all shades beautiful. That's a lesson I learned. And God makes everything better! Give Jesus a try he'll look good on you! Yassssss!
I thought this would be simple; because we love Jesus it shouldn't matter. This has been far more interesting especially with the men. This is an amazing dialogue because of your panel. I love the depth of the honesty. We are as human attracted to certain people, but at the end of the day (situation) it God's will.
I was nervous about watching this episode. I am so glad that you had such a wide variety of opinions and honesty in those viewpoints. I wish you had been able to address opposition comes from the black community as well. Hearing a Christian perspective about "queens" wanting to love and protect their "kings" is something I am still trying to understand.
Watching from Barcelona, Spain. Love you Mandisa
Amen, thank you. You said it!👏🏿👏🏿💋💋
I loved Anthony’s answers on this episode and episode 9. I totally agree.
Appreciate the honesty in this segment. I think we all have these thoughts but never talk about it.
This was a great video. First, love your music. Many tears of emotion and joy when I listen to it. I believe if we would all look at things the way God does, and use the bible to guide us. Racial problems, for believers anyways. Wouldn't be a thing. And shouldn't be a thing. Racial Reconciliation by Voddie Baucham is an amazing word. We need these kind of conversations. I loved when the one gentleman was asked, "would you date a black girl?" You could see the hesitation to answer. We need to realize we are all human, God made us different shades of the same skin color. We all have valid feelings and thoughts, and should be able to talk openly about them without judgement.
This is such an amazing series I am so thankful to have watched it. I am learning so much about being single and learning about what it is to be in a relationship.
I personally think that the most diverse a couple is stronger the relantionship (and the children are cutest). A korean, a native american or a japanese and a irish, a south african and a pakistanese For myself, that would be gold
I will definitely date someone from a different race this is so normal for my family. But I feel as sometimes as black women other races may seem to not be open. Or maybe just not bold to pursue. Because it may get complicated to them.
And since these days where dealing with what’s going with our nation about black lives they really may not want to approach us.
So much great insight thanks so much. Glad you spoke on this. 😊
I was only 2 when Jungle Fever was released.
But I watched it when I was 17 for the first time.
Spike Lee hit everything on the nail.
Thank you so much for this episode.
The first guys in terms of God changing the girls family is exactly what happened to my brother where the dad did not want a black man for his daughter but now he so loves my brother
Mandisa, girl the first person I thought of when you mentioned what kind of man you wanted is Ruben Studdard. Y’all would be sooo cute together. 😍
And he’s single too! There goes your man!
God bless you mandisa!!!
I really like you Mandisa..I've been falling in love with these talks..okey I like the way ur real and honest with yourself..if I was in America I would look for you to be my friend..
I love you Mandisa😊💜
I'm so loving your channel right now. Been binging since I found it.
Mandisa, I'm a white man and I understand a fair amount about your hair. It all depends on the man. There are many white men who understand a black woman's hair. We like your hair. We understand about tracks, and weaves, and relaxers, and knotting, and cornrows, and bonnets, and blowouts, and natural hair, oiling your scalp, what water and steam do to your hair, and hair types (1a thru 4c). Of course, no man understands everything (regardless of race) unless that man is a hairdresser (which we're not), but many of us understand (or at least would work to understand). And like that one gal said, you can always explain to a man what he doesn't know. Not a big deal, really. For me, I prefer black women, love the thick and voluptuous girls, and love your hair. Forget what some fool on Twitter said to you. Just keep praying for your husband and keep an open mind (interracially). Don't limit yourself because you're nervous or wrestling with insecurities about your hair or talking about it. Btw, your hair is BEAUTIFUL and so are you ;) Peace and love, girl.
Interracial relationships ROCK!👊
I am loving these conversations!
I was in Nashville in 2018, 2018🙃 at a 3-day conference and I stayed at an air bnb. I was walking to my Lyft ride, which was driven by a black lady. When I tell you some white guy drove by and called us/me N-B's in 2018 🙃 I was only there 3 days and couldn't make it out that city without being called an N. 😒
Omg that's crazy 😭 sorry you went through that experience 😭🙏
Smh. Speechless...
So good! I love these conversations so much.
I love Gab’s honesty! 😂😂😂
I am mixed, but many people see me as white. Then sometimes they see me as something else because a lot of people assume and it really should not matter. I am a person and an individual. My race does not define me, it is just a part of me. I would not date anyone who thinks that race matters. I would need a person who is able to coexist with various races.
I loved this conversation. I have been recently following interracial marriages/couples especially Christian, just to learn a few things. I have learned a few things, they really do not have an issue with our black hair and they are excited to learn about the other race. I will be 40 in a few months next year and I have been waiting and waiting and waiting. But hey Many are the plans in a mans heart but it is the Lord's purpose that will prevail. His timing is perfect and I still believe that the desires that I have come from Him, because He is my Father. So in the past year I have been studying the Jewish wedding traditions and how all that relates to the Bible and I loved it. Has anybody watched Jonathan and Rebecca Weiss wedding on Daystar??Wow...Totally amazing. So I know that when I do get married I am going to have a Shofar, a Prayer Shawl, will get married under the chuppah etc and then my favourite..the breaking of the glass. Just super amazing. So I went from that to desiring to be married to a Devout Christian Jewish man. That's my desire....but if God wants me to marry a Black that's okay as well...
Man... I love these things sm
Great video and topic. I pray God bless you with the right man luv. 🙌🙏
Love this
You are such a blessing Mandisa.
Yaaayy!! Been waiting for this 🤩🤩
LOL @Mandissa....I felt the same way (how about a white cowboy). I don't know the final outcome, but trusting God. The man I'm dating is a big tall bald black man with a beard, we have so much in common yet we each have our own personality. My number one on my list is he must love the Lord above anyting else including me. HOPE: Holding On Praying Experctantly.
i have been out here five years and hate the hell out of it i plan on moving back to seattle where i can date black white or what ever ok
I won't even lie, I fear white men. I am from Kenya and I remember when I was a young girl I saw a couple on one of the weddings shows on TV, a Kenyan girl was getting married to a german, they seemed happy and the wedding was beautiful. A few weeks later she was killed by her husband when they returned to Germany. I have never forgotten that story.
Oh, my! That's horrible! But no, you shouldn't lump all white men in one bag because of this one man's diabolical behavior. Ask the Lord CONTINUALLY 4 wisdom when meeting anyone and everyone and you're be fine. I hope to be visiting Kenya soon but that's up to God! 🎉🎈😇
@@godz4ever404 You are right,it's just that that horrible scene got stuck in my mind .
Other than that I hope you will be able to come to Kenya when the time is right. Karibu (Welcome in kiswahili☺)
Love u gal,you are a true inspiration
Its funny the only thing I remember about jungle fever is Samuel L Jackson awesome performance.
I believe we need to understand that race has never been GOD concern. We maid it an issue. GOD dealt with nations not race, because there is only one race and that is the human race. We are just people who are born in a different culture.
I love this episode! And was actually listening to a podcast about this same topic. I wish y’all would’ve talked about beauty standards because blonde hair and blue eyes and skinny body is what most men tend to go for! So as a black woman we have an uphill battle for sure. Black women are the least married group. It’s because our hair is criticized or we are overly specialized just because we are curvy. So interracial dating for black women is just harder to come by. I’m saying this as a black women who loves in Texas and has preferred white men because I went to predominantly white schools. Finding a good black man is hard.
I’d encourage you to date and love those who love and value you; regardless of their skin color.
Warrior yes that’s the plan always! Sorry that wasn’t clear. I just thought I’d mention somethings that weren’t mentioned in the comments. Because I think our environments influenced our preferences such as race. I always am super open to any man that would ask me out if I got asked out lol
I love interracial dating/relationships. I believe it is one of the witnesses of the church. #humansfirst
Yes I saw Jungle Fever...lol
now you go to new york city i like new yor because its a real city and you see a lot mixed dating puerto rican women with black men mandisaoffocal
@MandisaOfficial keep this convos going..My question is,race is diverse and beyond America-The globe has many races,would you quantify it esp with world wide viewers?
I think your hair looks beautiful ❤
Black men stories is always the most focused on.
I am a white woman with curly hair and I used to like this white this guy from my church. One day he told me that maybe I was still single because I insisted in wearing my hair naturally curly and men like straight hair. I felt so hurt at the time. 5 years later he ended up marrying a black woman who wears her hair natural. Moral of the story, men can have all the ideas about what they think is more appealing until they meet someone they really like and then they realize how wrong they were.
Also, I'm proudly part of the silk bonnet club and my boyfriend already knows that if he marries me he'll see me sleep in a silk bonnet every single night.