THINGS I'VE LEARNED IN MY 20'S: DATING MISTAKES, SELF LOVE, AND MORE

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  • čas přidán 28. 09. 2023
  • Today we talk about boys, mistakes, dating, and things I’ve learned along the way in my womanhood. Let’s chat!
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Komentáře • 104

  • @graymaplanka
    @graymaplanka Před 10 měsíci +116

    One thing about Taty? She will drop those gems 😩

  • @SanaAishah
    @SanaAishah Před 9 měsíci +17

    "You're dating the potential of this man instead of who he is in front of you." I needed to hear that 🤧

  • @lexanovaofficial
    @lexanovaofficial Před 10 měsíci +82

    Girl I love you 🩷 I’m 23 and you’ve helped me so much with knowing my worth and helping me to become a better woman!! I loved this video so much!! Thank you Taty!! We appreciate these videos!

    • @TatyCokley
      @TatyCokley  Před 10 měsíci +10

      Thank you so much angel, blessed to be apart of your journey 🥹💗

  • @Rachael_mm
    @Rachael_mm Před 10 měsíci +42

    This is facts.
    We should give the love to ourselves too and not just emptying your cup

  • @skyylovespace
    @skyylovespace Před 8 měsíci +9

    *women who date women, this advice applies to us too! it’s about masculine and feminine energies, not just genders* 💗

  • @anaj5319
    @anaj5319 Před 10 měsíci +34

    I’m 18, just freshly out of my first actual long relationship a month ago. I am dealing with not wanting to be here anymore, asking myself what i could have done for him to stay, and constantly beating myself up over the breakup. I am struggling to find self love, and my process of healing. Your videos really inspire me so much and your energy LIFTS mine up so well.. I’m battling depression and I can’t thank you enough for saving me💕..

    • @onlyonce4543
      @onlyonce4543 Před 10 měsíci +9

      Im 19 going through the same too we broke up in March and its been hard.but it gets better dont rush into a relationship there's still more for u

    • @TatyCokley
      @TatyCokley  Před 10 měsíci +18

      You got this mama, you are so worthy, deserving, and loved. You are MORE than enough. I am so proud of you ❤️

    • @aamia3769
      @aamia3769 Před 9 měsíci +6

      @anaj5319
      Hi love, I’m sorry to hear about your breakup. I want to tell you that your feelings are valid and its okay to feel lost after a major life change. One thing we all will have to accept is that relationships are not always forever. Some people only come into your life for a season to teach you something, and they will cause you more damage if they overstay their designated time. There is nothing you can do to make a person stay if they don’t want to. It’s a harsh reality, but it’s true. I hate to meme you, but this one rings true: “Sometimes you are the perfect package at the wrong address.” Months or years from now, you may find that you two weren’t all that compatible, and you could be grateful that it ended when it did. This is a possibility that you have to be open to. I hope my words are taken with an open mind. I’m definitely not trying to judge or preach, but I am speaking from lived experience. I hope you have a blessed one, beloved.

    • @anaj5319
      @anaj5319 Před 9 měsíci

      @@aamia3769 Thank you so very much, love. These kind words truly mean so much to me. I feel entirely lost, always questioning myself and asking myself what I could have done differently, but I need to come to the conclusion that It wasn’t me who was really the problem. Yes, i have my flaws but the relationship didn’t end because of me if he still wanted to be friends after all the damage he did. I love that quote and I am going to add that to my healing journal. Suffering through abandonment issues then finally finding someone whom you think is going to be your forever then they eventually show you otherwise, is really hard to go through. I am going to take your words in an open mind! God bless you! and thank you again for these amazing words. Definitely needed to hear it 🩷

    • @anaj5319
      @anaj5319 Před 9 měsíci

      @@onlyonce4543 I’m sorry hon, I’ll add you to my prayers! It’s not easy at all. We can do this 💪🏽🩷

  • @erinadkins9408
    @erinadkins9408 Před 9 měsíci +6

    one thing i’ve learnt is i can’t fill cups if mine is empty 🥺 i’m enjoying this time alone and being able to focus on myself and being my own companion 🥰♥️♥️

  • @njerinyambura590
    @njerinyambura590 Před 10 měsíci +32

    This girl literally saved my life 😩...pulled me out of a dark place when i was young and didn't know better... I've been watching her videos and taking her advice ever since,and i cannot begin to explain how much she's helped me..i love you Tatty ❤❤❤❤

    • @TatyCokley
      @TatyCokley  Před 10 měsíci +5

      Omg 😭 so proud of you, you deserve the WORLD ❤

    • @cloe255
      @cloe255 Před 10 měsíci

      Same here she literally groomed me for the past 4 years I'm know 17😅😅❤😊

  • @nunudavids
    @nunudavids Před 10 měsíci +14

    Never in my life been this early for my girl. I’ve literally been waiting for you!!! Love you Tatty

  • @danlately9277
    @danlately9277 Před 10 měsíci +9

    So many gems in this video 💎 You read me for filth several times 😂 I gotta get better with my co-dependency!

  • @ednakoraya3115
    @ednakoraya3115 Před 10 měsíci +7

    The affirmations I needed 😢 * sends love * ❤️✨

  • @candzjordann
    @candzjordann Před 10 měsíci +3

    my Tatyyy , so glad you're back !!!
    this is it ! as young women (& men) we need to definitely check in with ourselves as it is crucial . i just turned 18 a month ago & i'm still tryna navigate the era that i'm in , which can be hard at times . also , i have a crush on this dude (we've been friends for almost a year now) & i have been trying to take care of myself at least before i confess to him , so that i don't forget who i am as a person when i get a chance to be with him . my goal is to also help him come out of his shell (because he's considered to be a dry person cause he's like normally quiet most of the time) which i don't have a problem with since i'm a quiet person as well . i want to help him grow as well instead of trying to change him to be what i want him to be . if you can , please do share some advice on how i can do that so that i don't come off as pushy or anything of that nature .
    thank you for also helping me realise my self-worth cause we all deserve better at the end of the day . i love you so much 🥰!

  • @Bbyprincess2323
    @Bbyprincess2323 Před 9 měsíci +5

    Been watching you since 2019 your energy is so comforting ❤️❤️❤️

  • @LifewitCia.
    @LifewitCia. Před 9 měsíci +5

    Taty you don’t understand how much u helped me moved on from people and moving onto better things in life and I thank you for that.❤

  • @ashleymaxi9389
    @ashleymaxi9389 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Thank you so much for this video Taty!! I missed watching your content. You are so full of life and I love it 💕

  • @kandaceajiboye8232
    @kandaceajiboye8232 Před 10 měsíci +6

    I'm glad you back ❤ I always been a fan of your videos because you always keep it 💯

  • @amirabloom9702
    @amirabloom9702 Před 10 měsíci +2

    girl i have loved u since the beginning, always leveling up 💘💘 hella proud, you go beautiful 🥂🤭👯‍♀️

  • @emilaraaaaa
    @emilaraaaaa Před 6 měsíci +1

    It’s the way you explained this !! You are so well spoken !! 💯

  • @theanonymous6382
    @theanonymous6382 Před 10 měsíci +5

    Preach babe, yeesssss!!!!! All you spoke about was on point. Pure facts!!!!! 👏👏👏

  • @Rachael_mm
    @Rachael_mm Před 10 měsíci +3

    Yayyyyy❤I’m so excited to watch this
    I love you Taty!

  • @taty6628
    @taty6628 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Thank you taty for sharing it really helped me out.

  • @ndeyjagne1401
    @ndeyjagne1401 Před 10 měsíci +1

    It’s crazy I jus had to look u up yesterday because I needed you advice girllll!!!! Thank you

  • @heatherdanceaccount
    @heatherdanceaccount Před 9 měsíci

    Genuinely the only person I watch on CZcams consistently, so glad younger me had your advice to help me navigate 🎧

  • @NatalieWera
    @NatalieWera Před 9 měsíci +2

    Needed this video real bad 🥺 thank you queen ❤

  • @GiselleJeanmarie
    @GiselleJeanmarie Před 9 měsíci +1

    Wow everything u said spoke to me! You are so wise. Thank you for sharing this.

  • @Nontofuze01
    @Nontofuze01 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Mamie, you're close to a Million 🔥🔥 i can't wait for you to get that Gold plaque honey. I started following you back in 2021, it's so good to watch you grow like this❤God is good always.

  • @Me-ju6gp
    @Me-ju6gp Před 8 měsíci

    3:57 HIT! I do this a lot, and I’m doing it now. Thank you so much for putting it into words!

  • @alexaferrell6950
    @alexaferrell6950 Před 9 měsíci

    Exactly what I’ve been needing to hear!

  • @user-gt9zs9lp9f
    @user-gt9zs9lp9f Před 2 měsíci

    “I AM” how you manage to always make me cry in all your videos, I feel so sad I only knew about you only today, you are GOLD sweetheart, thank you, God bless you a lot and I Love You❤️

  • @Leahsaaka
    @Leahsaaka Před 5 měsíci +1

    Listening to you is so therapeutic!

  • @ciarahudson8375
    @ciarahudson8375 Před 6 měsíci

    Only facts! The wisdom in this video ❤ definitely gained a subscriber.

  • @kiaragibson2738
    @kiaragibson2738 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Heyy sis🖤I needed this I love you so much 💓

  • @jennxoxox
    @jennxoxox Před 10 měsíci

    GIRLLL I LOVE YOU! You are a gem 💎🤍

  • @skyylovespace
    @skyylovespace Před 8 měsíci +2

    *girllll, you’re speaking FACTS* 🔊

  • @virginiak333
    @virginiak333 Před 4 měsíci

    literally soooo gorgeous and enthereal, a goddess fr

  • @demaslore8615
    @demaslore8615 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Thank you Taty❤️

  • @melanieelise3283
    @melanieelise3283 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I love the clap Taty does iykyk❤☺️

  • @laracam7678
    @laracam7678 Před 8 měsíci

    Taty girl, u literally bring me back to the reality of things

  • @eileenusher
    @eileenusher Před 10 měsíci +2

    This video gave off a “greatest gift” by Jorja Smith type of feeling 🥺. You’re literally a big sister to me.❤️

  • @Zaniya-kc5rg
    @Zaniya-kc5rg Před 10 měsíci +3

    1st Cant wait watch the video❤️ You look beautiful by the way😘

  • @yxhxnnx8885
    @yxhxnnx8885 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I love you so much I been watching your videos since ion even know when and you have changed my perspective upon self worth and all that big time ❣️ God bless

  • @momentswithlumi.e2081
    @momentswithlumi.e2081 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Taty you hit the right nerves Mann 😍😍😩🔥🔥

  • @momoxo3479
    @momoxo3479 Před 10 měsíci

    yay taty is back

  • @gabitrav105
    @gabitrav105 Před 10 měsíci +1

    their cup is a strainer! period! needed to hear that

  • @Thesthershow
    @Thesthershow Před 10 měsíci

    Hey sister❤sending love from Kenya Taty.i'm a big fun.your videos inspire me to be a better version of myself everyday ❤❤❤

  • @beatricebertrand4007
    @beatricebertrand4007 Před 9 měsíci

    The parental love hit me taty❤

  • @prettynatalie4876
    @prettynatalie4876 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I missed you hope all is well ❤️🫶🏻🥹

  • @samadhigantt5948
    @samadhigantt5948 Před 7 měsíci

    Ughhh thank you sm taty🥹🫶🏽

  • @Kezia_hilda
    @Kezia_hilda Před 2 měsíci

    Taty i needed this😭😭😭just realised ave been mothering someone 😭😭😭

  • @narasnoh
    @narasnoh Před 10 měsíci +1

    Okay giirlll looking gorgeous ✨🩷

  • @emanalwaleed3456
    @emanalwaleed3456 Před 10 měsíci

    You changed my life❤️

  • @AndImShelby
    @AndImShelby Před 10 měsíci +4

    You are like my free therapist 🥺

  • @kj8767
    @kj8767 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I started watching you when I was 15 (I'm 20 now) and when I say your videos have helped me so much, you're a gift fr

  • @camarareid5921
    @camarareid5921 Před 10 měsíci +3

    This hairstyle on you girlll 😍 pls do a tutorial

  • @jadesutherland9996
    @jadesutherland9996 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I missed you girl ❤

  • @kimchi-yn7br
    @kimchi-yn7br Před 10 měsíci

    I love your advice❤

  • @Cardithebarbie
    @Cardithebarbie Před 10 měsíci +1

    I love you Taty💕❤

  • @sadebooysen2336
    @sadebooysen2336 Před 9 měsíci

    Loved it❤

  • @ayabouihat
    @ayabouihat Před 10 měsíci +1

    Hey Taty ❤

  • @ggggg3517
    @ggggg3517 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Is the podcast cancelled?? We literally only got 1 episode 😭 love you btw!

  • @MERIEM-rr8ys
    @MERIEM-rr8ys Před 10 měsíci +1

    you are an angel. i love you sm gorgeous. my comfort zone

    • @TatyCokley
      @TatyCokley  Před 10 měsíci +1

      I love you back ❤❤🥹

  • @madisontmyles
    @madisontmyles Před 10 měsíci

    My girl 🥹💕

  • @momoxo3479
    @momoxo3479 Před 10 měsíci

    i missed u sm

  • @shekinahisha8211
    @shekinahisha8211 Před 10 měsíci

    HEY TATY THANKS SO MUCH FOR THIS ,PLZ DO A VIDEO ON FAKE FRIENDS COZ WOW 😲 ITS ACTUALLY GOING DOWN HERE IN SOUTH AFRICA 😗 I THINK IM ABOUT TO LOSE A FRIEND THAT I HAD MY WHOLE LIFE 💔🥺YOUR MY ROLE MODEL, I GIVE SO MUCH CREDIT TO YOU AND GOD FOR THE GIRL I AM RN 😭🙌,I LITERALLY PRINTED A PICTURE OF YOU AND ITS ON MY WALL 🤦🏽‍♀️💜
    LOVE YOU FROM SOUTH AFRICA 🌍💜

  • @kawaii-lf1js
    @kawaii-lf1js Před 10 měsíci +3

    This video gives me so much energy ❤

  • @graymaplanka
    @graymaplanka Před 10 měsíci +3

    There she gooo😍

  • @gracehendersxn
    @gracehendersxn Před 10 měsíci

    I love uuuu😍

  • @DeadEndUnknown
    @DeadEndUnknown Před 10 měsíci

    I love queen Taty 😍🥰🤲💯

  • @nessacurlsx9437
    @nessacurlsx9437 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Facts!!

  • @uchechiaustin
    @uchechiaustin Před 10 měsíci

    You look so beautiful… as Always 🥰

  • @leche_harrison08
    @leche_harrison08 Před 10 měsíci +1

    taty...love you💋🥰

  • @thekingomarsharif
    @thekingomarsharif Před 10 měsíci

    Diamonds! 💎💎💎❤❤❤️

  • @demaslore8615
    @demaslore8615 Před 10 měsíci

    13:26 yes!!

  • @bill3487
    @bill3487 Před 10 měsíci

    get out my kitchen Tatyy omg! Love u girl

  • @geenuine
    @geenuine Před 10 měsíci

    It was SZA not Beyonce but yeah the love you give yourself is important.

  • @estherkeziah3985
    @estherkeziah3985 Před 10 měsíci +1

  • @StarPower777
    @StarPower777 Před 10 měsíci +1

    ❤❤

  • @kiaragibson2738
    @kiaragibson2738 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I'm also 24 😮sis🩷🩷🩷

  • @Olivia92956
    @Olivia92956 Před 10 měsíci

    What’s the cats name??

  • @treciaopuofeni7245
    @treciaopuofeni7245 Před 9 měsíci

    Taty I have a question for you😭😭

  • @khalfanikeme
    @khalfanikeme Před 10 měsíci

    🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤💍

  • @Tshego_Genevieve
    @Tshego_Genevieve Před 10 měsíci +1

    🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂❤❤❤❤❤

  • @kenyatah907
    @kenyatah907 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Where’s the iconic tati introooo🥹 so glad you backkk and this was a need miss you big sis!!🫶🏾🫶🏾

  • @tatianareid9185
    @tatianareid9185 Před 9 měsíci

    CAUSE U CAN"T RAISE A MAN.... HES ALREADY GROWN WHAT U GOIN DO... U WONDER WHY HE ACTS LIKE A BOY...... CAUSE HE WASNT RAISED RIGHT BEFORE U.....🎤🎶💞 @TatyCokley Ur right this song is so true

  • @briahaiken9747
    @briahaiken9747 Před 8 měsíci

    not Taty reading my whole life right now 😩😩😩😩🥹🥹

  • @azariaallen
    @azariaallen Před 10 měsíci

    I love this. So purely. 🥹😩🥰🫶🏽

  • @biuncescott7457
    @biuncescott7457 Před 10 měsíci +1

    In taty we trust 🫶🏽💓💓

  • @kimchi-yn7br
    @kimchi-yn7br Před 10 měsíci

    I love your advice❤

  • @shondagia
    @shondagia Před 10 měsíci

    🩷🩷🩷

  • @CaitlynBlessed
    @CaitlynBlessed Před 9 měsíci

    Facts🫶🏾💯