When my mother and father passed, myself and 7 brothers were the palbears. In both instances, we walked behind the funeral coach with my 8 sisters to the cemetery. Though it was extremely difficult emotionally, it was an absolute honor and privilege.
Very useful thankyou. Someone has just asked me to to do this for the first time, and I want to, but its pretty daunting. In all the funerals I've been to before it's not something you pay much attention to the detail.
I am going to be a pallbearer for my dad at the end of the month. As we are a family spread over the UK, a practice was not possible... I found this video and will be sharing it with the other 5 who will be carrying as I found it very helpful... Some of my nerves are alleviated. No doubt I'll be watching a few times to make sure I have it straight in my head when the time arrives. Thank you for all you do for those in your care.
Hi there. Thanks so much for your feedback and we are so pleased that this has helped you. We hope that your loved one's funeral went well Best Regards
That's great. I'm glad it helped and good luck tomorrow. You have nothing to worry about and the funeral directors will be by your side the whole time. Kind regards. Matthew Uden
I’m carrying my mother in law into the crematorium today with three other family members and although I’m proud to do this I’m also very nervous at the same time 😬😕 but this video has been very helpful thanks , Darren
We're so pleased that this video has helped. We hope it all goes really well, and remember, what you're doing is amazing Best regards Sarah W.Uden & Sons
I was taught feet first through every door when entering & exiting with the exception of entering the hearse so that the feet would naturally exit first when dismounted (or disembarking). Only for Senior Church Ministers/ Priests, they will be carried into their churches head first when entering. [forgive me, english isn't my first language]
I've just started working for Co-op funeral care and I'm supposed to be a pall bearer on Monday. (I've never done it before) but I'm 5'2 and my colleagues are 6ft. I'm wondering how I'm supposed to shoulder the coffin when there's such a huge height difference. Do we then hold it the same way as the family? Otherwise the coffin is catapulting over my head.
Hi Crusty, Welcome to the profession. Every funeral directors do things slightly different so it's important you follow their lead. They may not show you, if so follow our video and you won't go wrong. Good luck. Matthew Uden
Thank you for this very helpful video. Helping with my friend carry his brother this Tuesday 15th. Have you any advice how to try to minimise nerves and to control emotions in the process of the moving of the coffin?
Hi John, I'm glad you've found the video helpful. It's going to be a very hard day but when it comes to the pall bearing I promise everything will be ok. The Funeral Directors will be by your side so nothing can go wrong. Just remember that you're doing the last thing you can do for someone, so be proud not nervous. Kind regards. Matthew Uden
Sorry if this is too much information, but at interments in the cemetery here in Malta coffins aren’t lowered horizontally as they are in Britain because the grave opening isn’t big enough. Instead a heavy rope is tied around it and it’s lowered vertically by cemetery workers, with one of them going down a ladder into the grave to position it. And yes, I have heard the body shifting inside the coffin, which I find quite harrowing.
Hi John, please see below - Approach coffin. Stand in position 2&2 or 3&3 facing each other across the coffin. All in one movement place you hands underneath the coffin and lift together. Once lifted to shoulder height please your shoulder underneath. Everyone Face the alter and then you will all be facing the correct way. Once on shoulders the funeral directors will move the trestles. Turn on the spot - side stepping. Once facing out start with your left foot first. I hope this helps. Matthew Uden
My belovéd Mother passed away on 5 April 2023. I simply WOULDN'T trust myself to carry my Mother's coffin, and be in procession....Getting it wrong can only be done ONCE!
So sorry to hear that your Mother passed away, our thoughts are with you. When a family or friends of a loved one chose to carry their coffin it can be really beautiful, and as long as they listen to the conductor they should be fine. We do have bearers and the conductor on hand to help if they are struggling though. Of course, it is really nice when our trained team carry because they do it with precision and grace.
Bloody hell I'm due to walk this massively inconvenient wooden box down the aisle in a minute and I've gotta listen to you babbling over a tea for 6 minutes.
I watched the beginning of the video didn't get to finish it. I figured you had to be bald, so I shaved my head. I finished watching the video and now I know I don't have to be bald. How horrible. Jk
Very helpful. My dad passed away last week, and I am very nervous about this. This helped thanks
When my mother and father passed, myself and 7 brothers were the palbears. In both instances, we walked behind the funeral coach with my 8 sisters to the cemetery.
Though it was extremely difficult emotionally, it was an absolute honor and privilege.
Very useful thankyou. Someone has just asked me to to do this for the first time, and I want to, but its pretty daunting. In all the funerals I've been to before it's not something you pay much attention to the detail.
I am going to be a pallbearer for my dad at the end of the month. As we are a family spread over the UK, a practice was not possible... I found this video and will be sharing it with the other 5 who will be carrying as I found it very helpful... Some of my nerves are alleviated. No doubt I'll be watching a few times to make sure I have it straight in my head when the time arrives.
Thank you for all you do for those in your care.
Hi there. Thanks so much for your feedback and we are so pleased that this has helped you. We hope that your loved one's funeral went well
Best Regards
I'm a pall bearer for my brother in- law's funeral tomorrow. This video has really put my mind at ease, thank you
That's great. I'm glad it helped and good luck tomorrow. You have nothing to worry about and the funeral directors will be by your side the whole time. Kind regards. Matthew Uden
An outstanding company, who really care about what they do & who they do it for.
I’m carrying my mother in law into the crematorium today with three other family members and although I’m proud to do this I’m also very nervous at the same time 😬😕 but this video has been very helpful thanks , Darren
We're so pleased that this video has helped. We hope it all goes really well, and remember, what you're doing is amazing
Best regards
Sarah
W.Uden & Sons
Thank you for this informative video !
Thank you for this. I want to carry a very close relative in a couple of weeks but am terrified of messing up or getting something wrong.
I did this once. I was amazed at how heavy my sixth of the weight was!
How heavy is it? I’ve been offered ti carry my nana tomorrow N I can’t stop thinking I’ll drop it
@@kai-wo7ov You'll probably know by now, it's heavy, but you will carry it O.K.
@@kai-wo7ov how did it go?
I was taught feet first through every door when entering & exiting with the exception of entering the hearse so that the feet would naturally exit first when dismounted (or disembarking). Only for Senior Church Ministers/ Priests, they will be carried into their churches head first when entering. [forgive me, english isn't my first language]
My grandma passed away this week and I’m a pall bearer and I’m really scared to do it
When my grandad passed away my brother carried him with the actual pallbearers has it was only him who wanted to do it and i was only 15
I've just started working for Co-op funeral care and I'm supposed to be a pall bearer on Monday. (I've never done it before) but I'm 5'2 and my colleagues are 6ft. I'm wondering how I'm supposed to shoulder the coffin when there's such a huge height difference. Do we then hold it the same way as the family? Otherwise the coffin is catapulting over my head.
Hi Crusty, Welcome to the profession. Every funeral directors do things slightly different so it's important you follow their lead. They may not show you, if so follow our video and you won't go wrong. Good luck. Matthew Uden
What happens in the case that will be happening at my cousins funeral, 1 of is 5'8, 2 are 6'1 and the other is 6'3. What will be the orientation?
Thank you for this very helpful video. Helping with my friend carry his brother this Tuesday 15th. Have you any advice how to try to minimise nerves and to control emotions in the process of the moving of the coffin?
Hi John, I'm glad you've found the video helpful. It's going to be a very hard day but when it comes to the pall bearing I promise everything will be ok. The Funeral Directors will be by your side so nothing can go wrong. Just remember that you're doing the last thing you can do for someone, so be proud not nervous. Kind regards. Matthew Uden
does the body not slide when the casket is slanted such as when going down stairs ?
Sorry if this is too much information, but at interments in the cemetery here in Malta coffins aren’t lowered horizontally as they are in Britain because the grave opening isn’t big enough. Instead a heavy rope is tied around it and it’s lowered vertically by cemetery workers, with one of them going down a ladder into the grave to position it. And yes, I have heard the body shifting inside the coffin, which I find quite harrowing.
What's the procedure for carrying the coffin out of the church? I need to know urgently, please!
Hi John, please see below -
Approach coffin.
Stand in position 2&2 or 3&3 facing each other across the coffin.
All in one movement place you hands underneath the coffin and lift together.
Once lifted to shoulder height please your shoulder underneath.
Everyone Face the alter and then you will all be facing the correct way.
Once on shoulders the funeral directors will move the trestles.
Turn on the spot - side stepping.
Once facing out start with your left foot first.
I hope this helps.
Matthew Uden
Are you supposed to place the boutonniere on the coffin after you put it down, or is this not common?
This is not common
My belovéd Mother passed away on 5 April 2023. I simply WOULDN'T trust myself to carry my Mother's coffin, and be in procession....Getting it wrong can only be done ONCE!
So sorry to hear that your Mother passed away, our thoughts are with you. When a family or friends of a loved one chose to carry their coffin it can be really beautiful, and as long as they listen to the conductor they should be fine. We do have bearers and the conductor on hand to help if they are struggling though. Of course, it is really nice when our trained team carry because they do it with precision and grace.
Here after losing my dad on 8th (also my bday) 😭😭
Bloody hell I'm due to walk this massively inconvenient wooden box down the aisle in a minute and I've gotta listen to you babbling over a tea for 6 minutes.
Don’t watch it then 👍
I watched the beginning of the video didn't get to finish it. I figured you had to be bald, so I shaved my head. I finished watching the video and now I know I don't have to be bald. How horrible. Jk
Grow up!
a lot of touching going on in this video 🤔
This chancer hasn’t got a clue. Co-op written all over it
Please, what do you mean ?
Hey man, I checked your channel for a better video.
Narrator: there wasn't one.