42 HOUR UNMEDICATED LABOR...didn't go as planned | Our Birth Story
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 2. 02. 2023
- We're finally sharing the full birth story of how our sweet little Judah man came into the world - including all the little details of how we so clearly saw God's hand. Judah's birth definitely did not go at all as planned, but what we learned is this: sometimes God isn't glorified through our prayers being answered the way we want, but through the display of His presence even when things don't go at all as we hoped. đ€
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Thanks for listening to our story đ€ mama's: would love to hear any impactful things you learned through your own birth experiences!
Thank you so much for sharing. I had a similar experience. I worked so hard to have a birth center birth. But after 3 days of labor and baby being in distress we had an emergency c-section. I pray for your healing as you process your birth. My son is 8 months and I praise the Lord for his safety and His faithfulness in a scary situation!
So basically you had the same situation that every hospital has with moms thousands of time a week. This generation is so self absorbed. You basically arenât a good enough pusher. Weak.
Iâm 29 weeks pregnant now and after watching this video I was convicted that Iâve been holding a natural non-intervention birth as an idol. Iâm so thankful you shared your story as we have so many similar goals and âplansâ that you and Tyler did. Your story encouraged me to start praying for the strength to trust Godâs perfect plan over my desires for our birth. Thank you for pointing us back to Jesus at every turn
SAME!
Definitely đđ»
Your birth story is sooooo similar to mine! I felt so defeated after an unmediated 36 hour labor. Then it ended in a C-section because my son heart was in distress. We also waited to find out the gender đ now my son Thomas is 13 months old and Iâm just so thankful heâs here and God has really changed me for the better though motherhood.
Iâm so thankful youâre all healthy and safe. God worked in your labor and putting all the right people you needed for delivery đ congratulations
Literally cryingđđ
Your resilience is so amazing⊠all that work you did wasnât for nothing, you are an amazing mama and Judahâs birth is such a blessing!!
This means so much...thank you Kendra đ„Čđ
Iâm currently 6MOS pregnant & this has been such an eye-opener for me.
Currently, my husband is in basic training for the military & afterwards, heâs immediately getting shipped across country for another training.
Iâm holding a birth plan as loosely as I can because I want to make sure heâs able to there for our childâs birth without an induction.
Hearing yâallâs birth story was so encouraging & just so clearly could hear the Lord tell me that NO matter what, Heâs by my side, regardless of what may be happening.
Thank you guys for sharing, this future mama is so thankful for it & how God is using you!!!!
Labor and Delivery nurse here đââïž thank you so much for sharing your story. With so many elements to consider, things don't often go completely according to plan in labor. I'm glad you made the choices that were both empowering and safe for you and baby Judah. So glad you felt seen/heard by special members of your care team. Praying for you and your continued recovery/processing đ€ -Hannah
I always advise women to read up on c-section even if they're planning on a natural or normal birth because it was so traumatic for me to end up needing an emergency one. I had to go through the grief process for a while too. What got me was not being able to hold her in my arms at first, but I thank God we have modern healthcare because if I was back in the day or in a rural area with no hospital maybe I wouldn't have survived? Gotta look at the bright side. God bless your little guy. â€
Cried with you at 37:51. So honest and real. God bless you and your lovely little family! Love to baby Judah!!!
This touched me more than you know...thank you Alice đ„Čđ
@@kacinicole May God strengthen you on this wonderful journey of parenthood. So beautiful how you turned this challenge into a testimony. Love and prayers from India âŁ
Hey mama â€ïž
Sending love and hugs from Kenya đ°đȘ
Here's my story...my sweet baby girl was born on the 14th of January this year. I'm a nurse so I knew what to expect and I was so ready for my natural birth. I had put in all the measures, birth classes, yoga ball, dates, curb walking...you name it. The day came, I had been having contractions for like the past 3 days on and off and that day, I decided to go to hospital. After seeing our gynae, we got admitted. Once we got admitted, a nurse came in and tied my bump with ctg machine (the one that measures baby's heart rate and contractions) and after 30 minutes the baby's heart rate was so high ranging between 170-180 yet normal should be between 110-160. I tensed, before we knew it, the anesthetist was in the room, the surgeon, the nurses and before long I was signing theater consent forms....I remember crying the whole time whilst my hubby was trying helplessly to calm me down. Within a few short minutes I was in the OR and baby was out. I remember grieving and being happy at the same time and not knowing how to deal with my emotions. I still don't know how to but when I see my sweet baby's face, everything just fades away. All through this I have felt the presence of the Lord immensely and continue to through the healing process. There are moments where I've felt postpartum depression kick in but God has been so faithful.
Kaci, during this period, I pray that God renews your strength and your faith in His will. Your resilience throughout your delivery story shows how strong-willed you are. All things work together for the good of those who love God. YOU'VE GOT THIS MAMA! And sweet Judah man is a delight â€ïž
You've got this too dada
Congratulations mamaa! You did a good job! đ I am a kenyan nurse working in a labour and delivery room in one of the public hospitals. I know most of our public facilities suffer over population but I can tell you one good thing about them is that they never rush women to OR for Emergency C/S and especially if there's room for intervention which, I feel like with a FHR of 170 something could have been done to stabilize it unless the baby had already passed meconium. For the private hospital, it's always about the money. C/section costs more, na kwanza wakiona uko na a good insurance, they will give you all the reasons to take you to theatre with even the slightest deviation. I don't work in KNH but I always advice my friends who are first time moms to consider going to KNH's private wing if they must have private care. Even the public wing is very good btw.
Itâs so scary to even think about. This gives me so much hope. Thank you for sharing your testimony and how Godâs presence shown through it all. â€
I was born by C section too! Having nice people that listen makes all the difference. My Mum was an IVF nurse and so knew a lot about birth. I was breech (feet first) but also doing the splits - although since then have never done gymnastics! Because I was in a dangerous position the C section was booked before the due date but I came even before that. Unfortunately in 2000, the ambulance crew by the sound of it were drivers and not paramedics and didn't listen to Mum and she was on her own in the ambulance and hospital too. Luckily she made it to the hospital where her doctor and surgeon colleagues came in on their day off just after midnight to deliver me and here I am 23 years later.
Well done for getting through everything and handling the changes so well. On my life I have noticed God putting things in my path and walking with me too xx
What a beautiful depiction of Godâs grace & glory as He perfectly cared for you all through Judahâs birth. Thank you for sharing your story with us đ€
This story was such a testimony for me. Im 33 weeks pregnant and my water level is a bit low. So there maybe possibilities of C-section which devastated me. I was crying and praying and also felt guilty i may not have vaginal delivery as i did not have enough faith. Just after i finished praying your video was the first one which popped up on my screen. After listening to it....i felt soo loved by God. It was like God was telling me that having a C-section doesnt mean you dont have enough faith in me. Just trust my ways. Thank you for sharing this!
The amazing part is God knitted baby boy, Judah. What a story that God was in this. Judah is the perfect name for him đ
Such a beautiful story - brought to tears. Praise God for your healthy baby & for the closeness you and your husband now share after this experience đ€
So sweet! Even tho it didnt go as planned yâallâs story really shows how much strength you and Tyler had through it all even if it didnât feel like it in some moments. Being there for each other and staying connected and trusting God. Beautiful. One of my fav birth stories. And one of the cutest baby boys đ Excited to see your sweet family continue to grow.
This comment truly encouraged my heart - thank you Taylor đ„Č
I love that you shared all of this. I nearly cried during the clip of you in the operating room seeing your baby-I must have PTSD from my own unplanned c-section!!đ
I was medically induced at 41 weeks and my labor was not as long as yours but my story is pretty similar!đ but grateful to God for his hand in it and keeping baby and me safe and healthy through and after surgery!
Youâre so strong! With my daughter which is my first I was induced at 6am and she was born at 10pm. I thanked God for that since I have a heart condition.
Thank You, for sharing your story Kaci. It was beautiful and very encouraging. Praise the Lord for how He brought people in your story and used them. Glory to God and Heâs always good. Thankful for little Judah â€
Was very much expecting this †canât wait to watch it !!
Thank you Danila! đ€
You saying âthis isnât what we expected or plannedâ was so encouraging. You shared in another video explaining how Mary might have felt when receiving news that might not have been what she expected or planned for her life, especially on hearing that news while being a virgin and betrothed to Joseph. But you covered her wonderful response to that news which encouraged me, because personally Iâve liked to feel in control and plan things in a way that I get the result I want and expect. But God knows better than me and His plans are better than mine đ.. This is such a wonderful testimony of how God can Orchestrate things in a way we donât plan or expect. Also, when you first mentioned the doctor advising that you needed a c-section, I did think she could have tried to explain her reasoning in more of a considerate way, explaining fully why she came to that conclusion and if I understood correctly not to not just be so abrupt. Good note to self to explain things to people and not just harshly conclude something because I donât want to spare time to explain, which I am guilty of especially when I am over-worked and stressed xx
God uses all stories †He is definitely using your guys birth story as an encouragement for soooo many people here who are watching this video. Your birth story has been used as an encouragement for so many wives and moms, to remind them to keep their eyes on the One who sustains and redeems.
Thank you God for providing the right people for your delivery & for all of the prayers from loved ones
Grieving your plan is a real thing for sure, but grateful for healthy babies! Congrats and God Bless!
Thank you both for sharing your birth of Precious Judah. I had to have an emergency C~Section and it devastated me. They put me out so it was hrs after before I met my beautiful daughter. We also didnât know the gender. We were told thru out my high risk prg that I was having a big boy. Well surprise; we had a beautiful little girl. My miracle baby. 2days after her 1st birthday; I was rushed in for emergency hysterectomy. I was so so sad and devastated. But praise God every day for my Tuesday Lynn.
You two are such a God given; beautiful couple.
Thank you for sharing your GOD story. What a beautiful story of God's unfailing love.
Iâm so grateful for this video, I planned to have the most natural birth at home but ended up going into the hosp and then had a c section because my baby was back to back and I wasnât dilating. Felt the Lords presence the whole way through but also thereâs a lot of grief too. Thanks for sharing x
Oof your story definitely made me cry. Iâm actually in school for nursing and my dream is to become a labor & delivery nurse to be able to advocate for mothers just like your nurse did 𧥠also I wanted to share so you donât feel alone - with my 2nd birth, I had a lot of grief with it too. It was a really long labor and I was able to do it unmedicated, but afterwards my daughter wasnât breathing right and had to be rushed to NICU and then I had a hemorrhage. I remember thinking I did everything right and I couldnât understand why everything happened the way it did. I remember having so many questions to God and feeling so disheartened. BUT even though my birth didnât go the way I wanted it to, God performed so many amazing miracles with our daughter that literally had doctors shocked by how fast she was recovering. Now she is almost 2 years old and very healthy. I am just so grateful she is alive đ§Ą
I pray that God heals the grief you feel. I understand that feel so well and it does take time to fully process things, so please give yourself grace through your healing journey.
Congrats on your sweet baby and thanks for sharing your story đ„°
So touching, I had tears of sadness and joy. Thank you for helping me to understand the emotions of other moms who have gone through this process. You are a strong woman of God. I appreciate you and Tyler for sharing your story, it will be a testimony to many others. I thank God that you and little Judah are healthy and that your recovery was smooth. God bless you and Tyler and your beautiful son!đđŸđ
This is such an encouragement to me - thank you so much đ€
Yes I was waiting for this! Kaci is my favorite đ
This comment made me đ„Čđ
God's hand is in everything. He is intimately involved in our lives thank you for sharing your story
Amen! Thanks so much for watching
What a beautiful touching birth story đą God bless you đđœ
Thank you for sharing this beautiful story𫶠God is so good and its amazing to see His hands and presence during your labor! I literally cried every time you got teary and this is so encouraging for when Iâm ready to start my own family! Thank you for always sharing the goodness of our Heavenly Fatherâ€ïž
He is so good and so present even when things don't go the way we hoped! Thank you so much for this encouraging comment đ€
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story â€đđ„čâ€â€
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It was such a beautiful story even with all of the bumps.
Beautiful! Thank you for sharing â€
Hey Kaci, my son Noah was born in 08.09 last year via C section too I was so disappointed in God I was in Labour for 72 hour with no Progression my cervix was not dilating this was my first birth also, I had to be induced and after that the Labour pain got worse and I beg them to get an epidural after that I could relax and my cervix dilated from 2 to 10 in 30 min, but the the baby heart rate started going up and down then they recommended us to get a c section i can not explain what i felt i was tired too 3 days I didnât slept and finally we had good news then I still had to have a c section and all the time I was trusting in God my husband was there praying doing it all and my brother and sisters in Christ too from our church, like you said from this experience I learned too that we are not in control God is sometimes we forget that, when I look back sometimes i still grieve but i am happy that my baby is here and healthy. I am writing this to let you know that youâre not alone congrats on your beautiful Baby he is blessed to have you both.â€
Hearing your story make me feel less alone thank you đđŸ God bless you đ
I hope to have a Vbac the next time too.
Wow thank you so much for sharing your story... we definitely aren't alone đ€ God bless you as well mama and congratulations on your Noah!
Absolutely beautiful. Glory to GOD ! Love this testimonyđđœđđœ
Glory to God indeed! đđŒ
I am crying hearing about finally you guys finally meeting your Judah manđ„č I cannot even imagine the emotions you both felt but I am so grateful for you guys being so open about your desires, struggles, and trusting the Lord in this. I adore your beautiful family. Such a beautiful blessing to hear how God works in your livesđ„°
I felt every ounce of your pain.
I went through something similarâŠ.long labor and pushing only to be told we needed to have a c-section.
My baby boy was close to 11 pounds so I guess my body (and God) knew better than me the safest way for him to come out. I wasnât diabetic or anything so his weight was a surprise to everyone. But now my son is an amazing healthy teenagerâŠand whenever he is being difficult I like to remind him of his labor storyâŠ.and I get all dramatic about how they had to rip me open with a knife to get him out. đ
It always works. We both laugh and he says âOkay, momâ. So you can try that too! đ
Anyway, sometimes itâs hard to know why things happen when you are going through it, but when you see your healthy child you donât have to ask anymore. â€ïž
Praying for you and your husband and your precious baby boy!! Thanks for sharing your touching story.
Thank you so much for sharing, so encouraging to see how God was present through it all!!!
Great job and congrats on your new addition!
Thank you so much!
Oh my gosh, I havenât watched your whole video yet, but as soon as you said that Bridget Teyler was your doula I got so jealous! (Well, IDK that thatâs the right word, but yeah). I have been such a big fan of Bridgetâs content for the last couple of years since I first saw a video of hers! I am halfway across the country so it probably wouldnât work for me to have her, but it would be so cool I bet (even if it was over FaceTime. I just watched more of your video, lol) I am glad you got to have her. And itâs cool that two of my favorite CZcamsrs have a connection! đ
Thanks Kaci for sharing the full video with us (I know you considered re-recording it because of how long it is). I am not a mother yet but have been praying not to idolise my future family and motherhood, so when I see raw videos like this one where the hand of the Lord is so clear and His will is being done (even when it is not the same as ours) it humbles me in this waiting season. This was the perfect experience, glory to Elohimâ€may the Lord bless your family in Jesusâ name đđŒ
Wow, seriously so encouraging to hear how this impacted you - thank you đ€ praise God!
Praise God through his mighty works all working together for his good â€ïž this story reminds me the desires of my heart may not be exactly the plans God has for my life but all working together for his good âš god bless you baby Judah the kingdom needs you â€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïž
I was a sunny side up (on my back) and military position baby đ my mom had to go with a c-section as well. So glad everything worked out for you guys.
Both my babies were sunnyside up with a cord wrapped around a limb. I had emergency c-section with the first and the doc said I'd have a high chance of the same thing happening again with the second. I really wanted to go for a VBAC but didn't wanna go through the double whammy of delivering + c-section so I opted for an elective c-section with #2. Lo and behold he was sunnyside up and cord wrapped around the leg. So glad I listened to my mama instinct! Just putting this out there in case it helps someone else.
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Love you guys
Jesus be praised. This encouraged me to go over the pain and have faith in God. For the next baby, I think you can have a midwifery plan... You were so strong and bold, I can just imagine what midwives could have done to help you feel supported... But if was accordingly to God's plan, so let it be. We can overcome fear through the name of Jesus Christ.
Sorry... but I wouldn't have put off the section when suggested. Babies health is the most important thing. I too went through this... long labour then for me a crash section with VERY little anesthesia. My sweet boy was healthy and that's all that mattered! Happy to hear your baby is doing so well!
You have a beautiful baby boy.
My first was an emergency c section but my second and third were v back which depends on the c section cut. Now they do C-section for all. All have their complications.
My daughter heart rate dropped so it was really fast they said letâs go in and get her. We didnât know the sex. I am happy she was healthy and my smallest baby
Crying through this whole thing!! Such a disappointment, but I'm so grateful for God's presence through it all! I'm pregnant with my 7th and feeling a lot of discouragement through morning sickness and just a tiredness when I think about birth.
I wish you blessings with little Judah! â€ïž
Amen đ€ and thank you so much!
I understand the feeling of disappointment when things donât go as we hoped. I wanted to breastfeed so bad and it didnât happen for me. I had no other plan. It took years to get over it.
Me again I experienced excruciating pain from winf after the op The peppermint they gave me did nothing but with the next 2 times I had charcoal tablets from the local pharmacy and they were a great help
Thats funny you felt tuff I had 3 c_section and I didn't feel not thing at all
i feel thats why its so important to do education before labor because then when this happens, you know you did everything right and it was still necessary the way it needed to turn out. you shouldn't feel disappointed in the outcome at all. it sounds like you literally did everything you could and luckily we do have modern medicine for these cases because 200 years ago you probably just wouldn't have lived. And knowing that its most likely just the presentation that caused that outcome, theres such a strong chance that your next delivery will be vaginal
ALL!!! GLORY!!! TO!!! GOD!!! HE!!! IS!!! ALWAYS!!! LOVING!!! NO!!! MATTER!!! WHAT!!! BEAUTIFUL!!! MIRACLE!!! BE!!! BLESSED!!!đđ€
Amen! đđŒ
@@kacinicole AMEN!!!đđ€âšïž
My fist son was a vaginal birth but i only made it halfway (6 of 12 hrs) before needing an epidural. I had horrid backpain and leg pain and couldnt do it. I felt bad but 6 hrs of crushing backpain i felt i had to. The doctor and nurses were so good and didnt make me feel bad for my choice
My next baby.. also a boy (i chose also not to know the sex) was a Csection. He was backwards and upside down. They tried to push on my stomach to flip him but he wouldnt budge so as much as i wanted to try to have a natural or at least a vaginal birth with meds the doctor said it just wasnt posible so Csection it was. It was fine and what i learned is we can have a plan for life and goals etc but God has final say
For sure Acupunture is not a godly/holy practice. It has an other spiritual influence. And invisible consequences afterward...
That's not what glorified means đ
Devastating is when you lose your entire family in a car accident or earthquake, when your house burns down, when your child is diagnosed with a terminal illness, devastating is NOT having to have a C-section in a first world country with access to the best medical care!!
Iâm so grateful for modern healthcare and the access we have to c-sections đ„č so many horrible things happened to women and babies before c-sections were a thingâŠ
I felt like crying at different times throughout the video - thank you for sharing your birth story đ€ This may seem far-fetched, but I found myself reflecting on my first dating relationship after watching your video and allowing myself to grieve over what my expectations were, and how they weren't met. I am reminded by you that God is with me and whatever is happening is in His control, and He has already considered what would be best
Sounds like such a testimony SURRENDER đđ«¶đŒ love you, friend!
Had to "surrender our [birth] story" đđ€