Life With A Newborn // Emotional Rollercoaster
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- čas přidán 20. 05. 2023
- The first month with our new baby, giving you a real look of what life is like with a newborn. The ups and downs of settling into our new life, what we've found the most difficult and the most magical moments so far. Thank you all for the love and support. We can't wait to bring Neo on so many adventures!
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Louis, I SO wish more dads were as caring and involved as you are. You're a great role model for fatherhood. Raya is amazing too. Looking forward to watching beautiful little Neo grow and thrive with his loving parents. ❤
Most Dads will be at work outside of the home…..most would like to be I am sure but don’t have the choice.
They are but a lot of mums don’t let dads be dads.
@@yelesomeus4534that’s what I was thinking. How come people think everything they watch is true? The last thing I want is a dad home All day. He’s already so much older. If he doesn’t do something she won’t have anything and he will be to ok’d to get a career. I don’t want support on breastfeeding and diapers. Get ur sorry old ass to WORK!
There's literally nothing more attractive than a man who is "in awe" of his wife and treats her and their baby with such sweetness. Seriously.
I started crying when daddy validated his sons feelings and explained what was happening at nappy change time. Tears of joy. I love intentional parenting.
Loved this look into your new life with sweet baby Neo!! You two are absolute role models as parents. Cannot wait to hug you all in person so soon ❤🥰
you n Eamon are going to be aw3some parents as well oso is ok after his play date with porcupin?? basement room looks awesome
Ahh thank you! Can’t wait to see you so soon 🥹❤️❤️
@@RayaandLouisDoes he have dwarfism? His legs are abnormally unproportioned to his body. He needs to also get wrapped up some. You aren’t taking care of that. Very new green parents. You will get better later.
@@RayaandLouisALSO JUST BECAUSE HE CAN STAND UP HE SHOULD NOT! That’s a big no no! You both should at least know that one! Never do that to a new born. Especially with him having such miniature incomplete legs. He will need braces or a wheelchair later.
And the mom will start to recover at some point. Yes she’s gonna be huge for a while. I’m sure it’s shocking to see yourself in the mirror. But not everyone bounces back the way some do.
wow I’ve never seen a dad more involved than this, at least in the early newborn stages.. so lovely! Neo is such a cutie!!
9 months+ of living inside Mum and now Louis carrying him outside - best ever! I didn't have a partner ( I did have my Mum) but having the DAD participate 100 percent is so lovely!!!! Thank you both for sharing!!
Wow, Neo is such a gorgeous little boy!! And he's so wonderfully alert for only being one month old!! He's taking everything in!! Lovelove to you 3!!!
Raya... my firstborn, a son, is 37 years old. I STILL remember how painful breastfeeding was for me, to this day. I was only able to stand it for a little over two weeks before I switched to bottles. I dreaded every single feed and I felt it was hindering the bonding experience. Once I switched to bottles, it was glorious!!! I am so very proud of you for holding on and looking for help in that area. They didn't have those kinds of things back then for me. I hope it gets easier and easier for you, my dear. And if it doesn't, I hope you never feel guilt for switching. My son grew up VERY healthy and is a fit young man of almost 40. Love watching you guys go thru this experience!!! You will absolutely love watching your son see things for the first time, for as long as that lasts. 🙂
People seem to be so resistant to formula for some reason, particularly with their first baby, but it helps so much and it's totally safe! Kids grow up just as healthy on formula, or with combination feeding as with solely breast milk.
“It’s a lot… being alive” 🤣🤣 relatable
Truth!😊
It’s very helpful for new mothers to hear honest experiences from other new mothers. I didn’t have that when I had my children. As a result, I thought I was the only mother in the world feeling anxiety, exhaustion and problems with feeding. Thank you for talking so openly about everything-the difficulties as well as the joy. And your precious son is absolutely gorgeous!
Nursing tip: Use your own milk to moisturize after each feeding and allow to air dry. Huge help!
Yes this helps a lot and just air dry that milk rubbed on the nipple before popping the bra back
Raya pump milk! When your out you can feed him in the go, and you can also give your husband a bottle to feed so he can have that bonding. Also shields helped me a lot, doing one feed with a shield was life saver! Overall it does get better and you do get to enjoy that closeness later on it’s amazing hold in there!
yes, amazing advice, pumping and nipple shields helped me so much too xx
Even just simply using a Haaka to collect from the other book while they are breast feeding. I couldn't afford a pump, but I was able to get a good enough stash simply from a the haaka.
Pumping milk without the need for it can cause hyperlactation. So be careful with this practice..
Huge truth on the breastfeeding thing. It's actually super normal and typical. I've had 2 kids and it was sooo painful at first with each of them and literally no one warned me at all with my first. Luckily it got tons better over time. So hang in there Raya! ❤
He is just precious. Breastfeeding is tough at first but that pain will go away. What a wonderful set of parents you are!
My baby just turned 17 this week, the worries never go away they just change as your baby grows. Soak up every second of the baby years.
I love the fact that you both are so present in Neo’s care.❤️He is so beautiful and extremely alert for a newborn! He is so calm and the fact that he sleeps 3 hours and doesn’t cry much is huge! Everything will fall into place, you sure know what you’re doing. Wow, 5 hours sleep …awesome!!!
I had the same breast feeding experience with my first, toe curling pain! I made so much milk that he had trouble latching to my full breast. I learned to only feed on one side at a time to give each side a break. It made a huge difference. Best of luck!
At one point I used some natural wool fat on the nipples to get them rest and heal. It worked very well.
I just feed on one side each time. It helps. I nursed 4 babies.
I love seeing Louis’ big heart. It is eye opening for women who want a companion as kind as him.
It’s beautiful to watch y’all grow together.
I once read something that said, when you are choosing a partner, you are also choosing a parent for your future children. This is the best example of choosing the right partner. Beautiful ❤
Love the honesty of this video. Have to admit I cried a little bit reflecting on how strong I must have been to do this all alone. As parents we do what we have to and work it out in time. Hoping Neo grows to be as amazing a man as my son is xx it's all worth it however we do it x
I’m 5 months pp today, and it’s still hard. The emotions and being home all the time hit me hard. My LO is smiling, laughing, trying to roll, trying to get up when he’s laying on our lap. He’s doing so many things that it distracts me from how I really feel ❤ They do grow up quick.
I know laundry seems a lot ..but daily washing of his nappies , makes life so easy …and with the beautiful sunshine it helps keep them snowy white..such a lovely time when they’re wee
I do hope that breastfeeding has gotten better for you. The way you described your experience brought back so many memories. I remember the "toe-curling" pain at first also. Hang in there. It just takes time for your body (nipples) to adjust and get used to it. This is wonderful information to share. Congratulations to you both!!
The best thing anyone said to me was “The days are long but the years are short. Enjoy your time with him!!”
I love this quote, so true, thank you for sharing, I will remember this Xx
Neo is beautiful and you two are such wonderful, calming parents!
My Grandson is 12 weeks old..it's so cool watching him grow and develop..as a grandmother my heart just bursts with love for him. Congratulations to you both! You are both doing a fantastic job with your georgous baby boy Neo. 💕
OMG he is so super alert walking with momma and looking at the flowers and turning his head to look at her face is pretty amazing being so young! Well done guys!
Raya, I felt your talk about breastfeeding so much!! It is so hard, but I promise it will get easier and the pain will go away! I struggled with pain during breastfeeding for about 5-6 weeks. But now, I’m almost 7 months in and it is the most beautiful thing in the world!!! You guys are doing amazing! Neo is so beautiful!! Blessings to you all!!!! 🥰
Mama of 2 here! I have a 3 year old & 15 month old.. I’ve breastfed my 15 month old for 15 whole months and recently stopped & I understand how hard it is🥺 what helped me increase my freezer supply was feeding on one side then using a HAAKA for the other sides let down. It’s hard mama but you got this♥️
I remember having a lot of the same feelings you describe. You two are doing an amazing job as parents. He is precious and the memories that you are capturing will be something that you will treasure forever. My first born had an excellent latch, but my second baby was tongue tied and did not have a good latch. So, I've experienced no pain and a lot of pain. The most helpful breastfeeding advice that I got was to take my baby off and try again for a better position on the latch and to express a little bit of milk onto finger tips after each feed and rub it on areas that are dry, sore, or cracked. Breastmilk has amazing healing properties and helped way more than lanolin if that is something you're experiencing.
What a lucky little guy to have such caring and wonderful parents!!! I’m so impressed to see how Louis is very involved in his care. If only every child received this much love; our world Wynette such a better place! God Bless your new life journey ❤️🙏🏻💕
My goodness I’m only 4 minutes in and Louis looks so serene! So beautiful to see.
You two are such great parents, to see "daddy" with him is so precious. What a beautiful baby.
You guys have got this! Neo is gonna be so loved and these videos are going to be precious memories! We all love and support you!
It ‘becomes’ pain free, is more accurate. With my three, once I got beyond six weeks, everything fell into place. So, you’re doing great and you’ll get there very soon. Neo is absolutely gorgeous. Congratulations.
I had just been thinking about you right before I discovered a new upload! My heart is so full watching the two of you with Neo. He is so precious and you two are absolutely wonderful parents ❣️ The love between you is so apparent ❤ I'm in my 60's and was never blessed to be a parent; wanted kids all my life.. I will come along on your journey. Sending so much ❤️
Rays, I cried with you when you explained your breast feeding pains. You’re not alone and you’re being a champion for Neo means you’re doing the right thing. It’s hard sometimes to remember that when you’re in it. My son is about to turn 2yo and I wish I documented my experience now. Thank you for sharing ❤❤❤
This is so wonderful. I was so excited to watch this when I saw your uploaded!
I’ve commented this before - not that I’m a mum yet but I relate so much. Haven’t been around new borns a lot but SO excited to become a mum one day. I’m also self employed and again, not pregnant or trying but already think about how it’ll be not working and depending on my partner (he already said he’s happy to take that responsibility when it comes to it which is sweet).
Honestly I’m just so happy and grateful that you’re sharing these moments with us - not only is it wonderful to see you both becoming parents and sharing the newness of it all, it’s just so relatable and is like a (hopefully) look into the future.
also loooove that you guys got to connect a bit spiritually - the view looked epic and what a cool event!
thank you so much for sharing all this🤍Neo is precious x
I love how real, genuine, and honest this glimpse into month one is. So many people sugar coat being a new parent and that just isn’t helpful. I’d expect nothing less from the two of you after watching you for so many years. You are beautiful parents, so happy for you!
Omg I can see both of y’all in his sweet face!! I have been so excited to see you two experiencing the beginning stages of parenthood - it’s obvious that y’all are phenomenal parents - spending every moment loving/nurturing Neo❤ I am SO SO SO thrilled for you both! 🩵🩵🩵🩵
It’s so beautiful to see you two as parents. You’re doing amazing Raya. It’s such an emotional time for the first few months. I remember those tears, especially with my first and third baby. Your hormones will calm down in a while.
Neo is gorgeous and so alert ❤
Omg Louis passing on his hairdryer comfort is the cutest😍
As a mum of four adults, breastfeeding does hurt for awhile due to the nipples being sore. It passes after they get tougher. You are doing great. ❤
He’s a gorgeous boy. I have 1 year old twin boys and going through the newborn and infant stage is very tiring and breastfeeding/pumping can be hard. You both are so positive and navigating it well by being in the present moment. Sending you all the love ❤
These times are so lovely, enjoy all the stages. You two are doing a great job!
Cried multiple times throughout this video! So in love with the 3 of you. You’re a total champ, Louis! 🎉
My sister had warned me that even having an "easy" time breastfeeding, the first month is really tough! It was the best advice since it set the expectation very realistically. And I had a wonderful midwife who set up a "cafe" at home to get me more comfortable feeding outside the home. It was so worth it for me to get through that first month and have the easiest child meal-planning for the rest of the year! 😜
He's so alert! You guys are doing great. It's such a big change for your lives, but you're just going with the flow and I think that parenthood suits you both. Congratulations again and thank you for the update! ❤️
Wow, Neo is so cute and so alert in how he just stares at you and the things you show him out on a walk. He looks like he’s taking it all in. You two are amazing parents.
This may be one of my favorite videos EVER from you guys!! Sooo incredibly proud of you guys, happy for you and deeply grateful for you both continuing to find ways to open up your hearts and pieces of your life journey with us all! THANK YOU! The levels of vulnerability this takes, I’m sure can weigh on your minds from time to time… but you’re doing soooo beautifully. You are TEACHING just through your openness. So again- THANK you. 🙏🏾 God bless your every day! My hubby and I will continue to pray God’s love, grace and eternal peace, patience and joy over you both and your precious baby Neo! ❤❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 He is in our hearts just as you both are! And I’m sure many others in this beautiful little community you’ve created feel the same. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 God bless you journey guys! ❤😍
It’s such a hard adjustment going from being a couple to a family of 3.A friend told me that everything changed by the time the baby was 6 weeks old and it was magic.Good luck with your new family,you’re doing great!
I continue to be in awe of how much vulnerability you all have shared in these episodes. It's such a gift to us all. Sorry to hear about all the pain with breast feeding. This should really be more spoken about. Thank you for giving voice to it Raya, hope you continue to feel better. As a person who has never met their father, seeing baby Neo wrapped with papa Louis is very soothing for me. Y'all are amazing! Keep up the great family work~love!
This was a joy to watch. Looks like you guys are adjusting well, and he's a doll.
It's so great to see you both doing this together! Good work Raya and Louis!
He is so sweet and you guys are doing awesome! I remember so well being a new mom and all the self doubt and worry and sleepless nights and filled with so much love. Such a rollercoaster. Being a parent is never easy but the challenges change and all you can do is your best and love them and you are definitely doing that. ❤
Neo has such an incredible little face!!! His eyes are so unique in their shape and he’s so inquisitive. He’s a smart little boy and will grow intellectually quickly by how he’s wanting to look around and see everything. You’re both such amazing parents! It’s so incredible to watch each of you in alone time with Neo and your together time as a family. PeCe and big love ❤❤❤
This vlog brought me back 22 years and enjoyed to think back of all those memories... Sometimes It still is a shock to see and wrapp my head around the fact that my little one is all grown up and a woman that stands so tall in live... Enjoy the ride and realise you are on a yourney together and no one has the only right answer how to help your child to get to be a strong person. The best is to pass the positive life-vibe on.... So sending some positive energy your way...
Neo. Is so precious, just an absolute beautiful, perfect boy. Watching you both I feel the joy. You’re great loving, caring parents. I love you sharing such happy times.
This is just beautiful! ❤So happy for the two of you, you're already such wonderful parents. Having a little girl in september and you're making me even more excited just by this glimpse into your lives.
Aw thank you and congratulations! ❤️
Breast feeding is definitely not an automatic thing. I went thru the same thing with my first baby, with cracked and bleeding nipples (10/10 pain wise), and actually gave up after 3 weeks! :( With my 2nd baby I really prepped the last couple months of pregnancy, toughening up my nipples, reading a book called The Womanly Art of Breast Feeding, and was much more prepared! I breast fed until my daughter was 1 year old and self weaned. It does get better!! You are doing an amazing job!! And I promise after awhile it is second nature and so so convenient having milk at the ready wherever you are! Hang in there!!
Was going to recommend this book! Such a game changer ♥️
What amazing, loving + adoring parents. You can feel the love you all have for each other. Makes my heart so happy.
Thanks Jessica! 🥹
Thank you so much for being real and authentic in your videos!! Looking forward to being parents someday, your videos help relieve any apprehension I have about if things don't go as "perfectly" as they seem to with other families. You are an amazing mom (and dad)!
Love it!! Little Neo is so alert and loves you two sooo much!! ❤🎉
Wow, when Neo smiles he looks just like Louis. :D Raya, I'm so sorry that nursing is so painful for you because once you get used to it and get things worked out it's amazing. (Hugs)
Thanks for being real, my 1st born turned 30 yrs last week and I still identify with all that you have shared. XX
I’m so happy for you guys! Did you ever think humans can love this much? Neo is lucky to have you both for parents. He will always have you two that consider his wellbeing before anyone!
Motherhood is hard especially in the beginning. Give yourself grace. You guys make beautiful babies ♥️
Neo is so cute. That smile is heart melting. You two are doing an amazing job even though it can seem overwhelming you appear to be coping nicely.
This is such a beautiful journey! I'm not sure where I stand on being a mom one day, but watching you is very inspiring, there's so much love and you portray it with such genuineness! All the blessings in your lives :*
You are both so wonderful parents. Really emotional and beautiful seeing you all as a family.
Such a lovely video to see how amazing lite Neo is doing. The love just radiates through the screen. What a lucky little man to have such wonderful warm and loving parents. He is just perfect ❤
Neo is such a cutie! You are both doing a wonderful job! Thank you for sharing your lives with us, and keeping it real!
Oh my goodness Raya, I feel like our experiences were so similar, it’s wild how lonely and yet crowded early motherhood feels
Watching louis holding Neo is awesome, congratulations you guys ❤❤
He is such a precious baby. You guys are doing such a great job with him. So beautiful you three are!!
You both are such loving and conscious parents...Neo is in good hands.
It’s been a pleasure listening to you both share the experiences of having a new born while also providing insight for other new parents, Raya you’re so right about just staying in the present moment it is the best way💚🕊
I listened to your video while driving yesterday and had to come back a second time to watch the cuteness again. Congratulations on the arrival of your precious little man he is perfect.
Watching this doing my night time feed with my 4 week old. Really appreciate the open and honest you guys have shared can relate to it all. You are playing a blinder ❤
Neo is blessed to have such good caring parents ! What an awesome dad !! Take it easy guys. Just enjoy your beautiful son ! 💕🌷
What an exiting chapter you 3 are going through! I can’t wait till I am at this point in my life! Congratulations I’m happy for you both x
Ohhh I’ve been looking forward to an update. Being new parents is hard and you must be shattered - doing a great job with Babba xx 😘
Was going to give you heaps of advice as I felt very similar feelings as a FTM BUT instead I hear you, I've felt as you have before and now that I've had my 2nd baby I've been able to really enjoy it and haven't had those overwhelming feelings this time. You are doing everything you can for him and yourself and it'll work itself out!
What a wonderful family to bring a new life into! So nice to see such gentleness from a father to a son. Beautiful peek into your lives. All the best from a first time watcher of your channel.
Aww guy's thank you so much for sharing this beautiful journey with us. Neo is such a beautiful gorgeous boy 💙 it's such a beautiful time for you share together. Enjoy!
This was so nice to watch, especially as someone who's had their first baby a week before you two! CZcams recommends '24hours with a newborn' vids all of the time, but they're so unrealistic and full of too many promotions (e.g. dropping the name of 6 products in the first 4 minutes).
Keep being yourselves and keeping it real! And you're doing an amazing job as Neo's parents ❤
Hey! You both are doing fantastic. Congratulations. Made my relive all different emotions when my boy was little. “Aware parenting” is something you should look into. It helped me a lot with understanding crying, and having a better sense of what they’re trying to communicate… all the best!! 🌷
Went through the exact thing with my first kid. Baby grows and your body strengthens. The journey definitely needs to be talked about more. It will get better! Take care of yourself! Just take one day at a time and find joy everyday where you can! You’re not a bad mom! You’re doing enough! You’re the perfect mom for that baby! The smiles kept me going to! Glad you’re seeing breastfeeding consultants! Second baby was slightly painful with breast feeding maybe the first few days or week but it wasn’t as bad and I knew it would get better and it was awesome after that!
And nobody let Cali have a few moments of sharing her first month thoughts 🤔😂❤️
Neo is definitely a cutie
BLESSED
What a lucky boy to have such loving, thoughtful parents ❤ so beautiful!
I feel for the breastfeeding pain so much!!! I had a similar experience for the first 6-8wks of my now 4mo. It's near unbelievable how much it hurts. I almost gave up so many times, but I'm so glad I didn't now. I couldn't imagine it ever not hurting at the beginning, but now it really doesn't. My son had a craniosacral massage 3 times over the course of about a week. It was a GAME CHANGER. Not right away, but by 2wks later things were quickly becoming great. I also def had the "too much, too fast" problem, so it took my little one some time to catch up on how to handle it. But, yeah, 6-8wks before it stopped being a dreadful chore and switched to a delightful bonding time.
I kid you not, I'm transitioning from engineering project manager to lactation consultant because this was such a transformative experience for me lol.
Such a beautiful little boy! Congratulations! Thank you for continuing to make videos because I am a mom and it can be overwhelming so thank you!
Thank you for the realness of this episode! You guys are awesome!
Neo is precious! The 4 week mark is HARD. The evening fussing really played with my already hormonal emotions. You've got this!
Also, I have an ocean setting on our white noise machine. Works great and then my son took a really good nap the first time we went to the beach 😂.
Enjoy the little moments - - highs and lows - cherish them. Life screams past. Only last week my eldest was leaving junior school, my youngest was starting nursery. Now my eldest is taking driving lessons and the youngest thriving in junior school. Oh and record the most random things - - makes great viewing for later years !!
Neo is So Beautiful and so alert. I can not believe that he is lifting his little head already.. You both are doing such an Amazing job taking care of Neo. It's so good to see Louis being so involved with his son and helping you out Raya, it makes my heart so happy...Raya, you are doing amazing!! You are such an amazing mom. Breastfeeding can be very painful, I remember... I am So Proud of you ❤ Louis, what a wonderful father and husband you are! I love seeing you with neo skin to skin and taking care of him. Wishing you All the Love and Blessings in the world ❤
Aw this video just melted my heart! Neo is such a beautiful little boy ❤ so happy for the two of you xx
My daughter is turning 2 years old soon and I remember her first few months so clearly. I felt the same way. This tiny helpless human depending 100% on us and now she's screaming "no mama" (wants to do it herself) 😂❤
My son is 32 years old and this is so reminiscent, I wouldn’t be thinking of the beautiful memories if it weren’t for Raya and Louis this video is about to make my heart explode. I do have a heavy heart that he was the only child I had, I so so soooo wish I would of had as many kids as I could. Now that I’m older I have realized family is everything!
Such a sweet video. I remember that wonderful baby moon time and each stage - with its joys and challenges - is equally delightful. I'm so happy for you all and I just love your mindfulness and desire to reflect and be open to all the wonders of parenthood.
Congratulations again! Love the way you are documenting this life changing journey. Blessings.
Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful journey with us. You are such great role models! ❤️
He is beautiful, sweet, and a delight! I’m so glad to see you all doing so well.😊. I sure hope feeding becomes completely pain free soon.