How to deal with the pain of my past DR. GABOR will uncover the secrets to engaging with the tension
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- čas přidán 25. 06. 2024
- In this one off interview JB Copeland asks Dr. Gabor how to deal with the pain that he has been experiencing.
🌱 Throughout the discussion, we explore the journey of self-discovery and acceptance, acknowledging the role of childhood experiences in shaping our emotional responses. From feelings of guilt and people-pleasing tendencies to the fear of facing our innermost emotions, we address the common struggles many individuals encounter on their path to healing.
🤝 We unravel the layers of addiction and emotional pain, shedding light on the importance of self-compassion and forgiveness. Through introspection and vulnerability, we uncover the profound connection between trauma and addictive behaviors, emphasizing the need for holistic approaches to recovery.
💬 Join us in embracing the power of vulnerability as we explore the journey towards healing. Whether you're dealing with addiction, navigating past traumas, or simply seeking guidance on your emotional journey, this conversation offers valuable insights and perspectives to support you along the way.
🌟 Let's embark on this journey together, one step at a time, towards a brighter and more fulfilling future. Remember, you are not alone, and healing is possible. Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below, and let's continue to support each other on our paths to recovery and emotional well-being.
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This was like a therapy session I needed today ❤ through your healing I gained healing too, I’ve watched a few podcasts with Gabor (all amazing) but this one because of your rawness to let go helped me on a very deep level. So thank you Gabor for your wisdom and thanks JB for your vulnerability. Truely amazing chat 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
You are enough. Dr Gabor goes back to our beliefs about ourselves and shockingly most of us feel we don't measure up . And to tackle it we have to get to the "biology of that belief" that we are not enough and when it first took rancorous roots...our childhood😢
Great episode, thanks to both of them. Very important info.
Thank you so much. I’m so glad you enjoyed it
😊Absolutely agree. I have watched quite a few videos of Dr Mate and have gained so much, but this one...
This was amazing!
Same.
the kindness I feel every time I watch a video with this man brings tears to my eyes. I am glad he can reach that thing in me thousands of miles away from me
So lovely to see a young man be open and fragile. Every body need a Gabor to talk too 🙏🏽♥️
Im 62 old, I realize that Dr Gabe is for me the highest reseacher for well being psychic humanity.
Very true
Gabor Mate was considered very alternative about 10-15 years ago and I'm so thankful he has a wider audience today. I remember watching him on canadian tv and he said most things can be traced back to childhood trauma. I agree 100%.
How lucky are you to heal before having children. Congratulations.
Thank you
God yes, so true. His work is superb but I wish I’d found it before I had kids!
I was just talking to my brother last night about that. How our parents were our age now when we were doing such and such then. Can you imagine having a 14 and 16 year old right now?
No, I would have fucked them up too 😅
@@gettingintrospectiveYa just the other night at Alanon I mentioned not being present for my cats…what would I have done if I had kids?
Pray all find safe places to be heard…
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@@JBCopeland. it really is, how wise of you... if all grownups would realise - work on their issues, how much trauma will NOT happen in future, congrats from Belgium.
"whenever there is tension it needs attention" love that 9:16
One of my fav parts
This was me up until the working hard part , i just withdrew from the world and tried to avoid any conflict, just like i did to my room as a child.
JB, you are a champion to share this publicly. All my respect. Very beneficial video
Thank you so much
I've viewed Gabor many times. This episode stands out and really hits home with me. Thanks to both of you for doing this.
Thank you!!
I had two children before I knew I was mentally ill. I never taught my children how to deal with emotions because I disassociated my needs away because y needs were never met. Thank you for this video. ❤️🙂🙏🤗
Gabor, You are a treasure to All of Us🙏💖
Not to me!
Amazing! This video is different from other Gabor talks, finially its more personal with the interviewer and it becomes educational what questions to ask and what to pay attention too!! I been waiting for this! I will probalby will never get Gabor to guide me about my traumas and how to look at them, but this is like a little guide to do it yourself❤
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I know EXACTLY what you are talking about!!
@@JBCopeland.it’s a strong reflection on you. Whatever you do with content creation hold to genuine. Be as normal and natural and not over produced or I we prepared or self indulgent.. allowing magic like this to happen takes both of you. Few people get this and remember it❤ and I have suggested this so many times in consults. They just don’t get it.
Real is real. It’s the most value we all need and we can all be. ❤❤❤
This made me cry so much. I see the little me 40 years ago, alone and with no one to go to. Every ounce of this session with Gabore resonated with me
Dr. Gabor Mate is an absolute genius, I just love listening to him 🙏 He is a gift to this world
Me too!!
10 minutes in and I'm struggling not to cry like a baby
Me too!
Me too
Best conversation I've heard on the topic. Made me cry , especially for my brother who just died from fentanyl.
I’m 37 and I just recently realized I have childhood trauma. In previous years of therapy I always said I had an ideal childhood. A stay at home and school volunteer mom for the first half, my dad coached my sports teams, I had supportive grandparents, we had a neighborhood full of kids and families who had block party’s, etc.
I recently realized the emotional and physical abuse my sister subjected me too. The abuse wasn’t severe beatings so I never recognized it as abuse (and I blocked it out), but small cruel infractions when there was no supervision (example: holding me under water in the swimming pool, choking me, any physical harm that wasn’t visible) If I ever complained or told my parents I was a “tattle tale” and was sent to my room. Things were far worse in later childhood and despite parental awareness I was NEVER protected and was never safe in my home.
My therapists say that’s why I’m so responsible and bought a house at 25, I needed a forever safe place.
Better later then never, I’m 36 and recognized that I had a traumatic childhood very recently too.
Is sounds like it motivated you to do well for yourself and it did for me too. Now it’s just the time to heal and hopefully guide others done the road when we figure out how to help ourselves. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing!
I’m so sorry this happened to you! Something about this just hit me. I have CPTSD from childhood trauma, but I never thought I had a normal upbringing. Did your sister turn out to be narcissistic? I’m so glad you’re in therapy and can see some of the things we do to stay safe. Such as buying a home at 25. Being over achievers, workaholics, etc. What is good from personal experience is I just started healing mine at 48 years old. I wish I would have done the work years ago. Neglect and not being protected is severe emotional abuse. I wish you the best on your healing journey and thanks for sharing this! ♥️
Did my sister beat me up and then go over to your house? 😅. No joke, though…I had the same experience! We had a covert narc for a mother and my sister was the golden child; she could never displease mom, had to be perfect. Rage built up in her and guess who was the recipient? Yes, me, the scapegoat😮. She was so cruel to me and mom never believed that Miss perfect could ever do anything wrong even though she saw the blood dripping down my arm from where she scratched me with her long fingernails!
My sister now has asked me for forgiveness and has taken responsibility for my issues because of her behavior. We are close and I totally understand why and how it happened, but I’m still healing from the abuse. Everything is affected - safety, trust, self esteem, self worth, and on and on.
You’re not alone.
This is what I had gone through with all my siblings , taunting me , making me feel like I wasn't worth anything.
Sorry you had to go through that. But be grateful you figured it out young much life ahead of you.👍♥️
Such a beautifully deep and authentic conversation - thank you for your vulnerability 🌻
Thank you so much!
Thanks, Gabor Mate 🎉❤😊„Addictions - whether to Drugs or Behaviors, Sex, shopping 🛍️ are not deseases, they are actually normal responses to abnormal circumstances…
Addiction is manifested in any behavior in which the person finds some temporary relief or pleasure and therefore craves but then suffers negative consequences on a long term and doesn’t give them up.“ … Question: what was right about your addiction… what did it give you in a short term?…“ … Thanks for so many good thoughts to dive deeper into the subject.
This is it! Gabor gets it!
Yes!!
This literally just soothed a panic attack. Thank you so much for sharing.
Woooow okay so this video got me SOBBING like a baby. It helped me immensely to recall what happened in my childhood and it definitely helped that you were so raw and vulnerable in sharing your personal childhood. I now feel more confident in where to look to continue doing the inner work. Thank you so much for this gem.
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JB your questions were great. I think you show a surprising amount of courage to talk about this on air and work through long held, deep and challenging emotions in front of a potentially world wide audience. Particularly as a guy with the cultural baggage that goes with being male - that for some bizarre reason its unmanly to have difficult feelings let alone talk about them. Thankyou.
Honestly one of the best podcasts which I've ever heard. Guess I needed this. Thank you so much for it!
This brought me to tears.
Gabor is such a gem 💎 no words could express my gratitude for him. I love everything about this conversation. Thank you so much. ❤
Agreed
Thank you from the depths of my heart. I wish all our inner children will hear us speak to ourselves with the kindness, curiosity, gentleness, mercy, compassion, patience and self control that we always deserved and still do. I just experienced Dr Gabor as a wonderfully kind, gentle, generous soul full of wisdom and compassion. I will be buying his book. I wish I could’ve hearted his video ❤ instead of just a like. 👍
Thank you so much so needed to hear this . The pain have been running away from is flooding my being . It’s a hard journey but can see the hope is to be free. I am in my 80’s and been hanging on for years .
This was something that I have never experienced nor seen before, all the while I needed it so much ( all my life ..., and I am 61...) I am still sobbing and I thank you both for that. Amazing session. Any time JB says "Wow", is when the revelation comes after dr Gabor Mate comes up with the solution, and solutions are what we need. Dr Gabor Mate, thank you for your dedication and openness, even in the aspect of how to reach to help the biggest amount of sufferers. JB, thank you for allowing it to happen and allowing me to see this video. I feel vulnerable just writing this comment so I admire and thank you both for the whole session being transmitted. I see 46K people being helped including myself , and there will be many more. Big Gratitude.
His voice is so soothing 🙏
Wow, It was a great podcast (therapy sesh.) I can relate to your pain in many ways and I’m sure many others as well. I’d kill to have a talk with Dr Mate Gabor. I’m also Hungarian.
Thanks so much for sharing, it was beautiful. You are a beautiful soul.
Gabor. Your such a wise and wonderful person. I hope sometime soon in the future more GP's will get onboard with the understanding off trauma ...you helped me so so much I'll be forever grateful to you x
Such a profound video..
I’m so glad you like it
I am in tears because of how much this resonates. Thank you 🙏
When he mentioned the four year old...😭 That really hit home. Those few minutes after he started talking about it in that frame of reference was so valuable to me. I got so much out of it. Wow. Thank you ❤
Me too. I haven’t cried this hard in years. “Will the pain ever go away?” The pain is a 4 year old who needs some attention. I’m bawling 😭
😊WOW..Thank you for both having Dr Mate on and for being strong enough to be so open!
This was tremendously helpful and eye opening!
Every therapist should be required to learn from Dr Mate.
Every exit program from our military should have 2+ months of mandatory, standard Mate counseling before coming back into society.
He did more in this interview than many therapists or programs do in years.
conscious awareness is so beautiful 🤍
I spend hours and years trying to deal with addiction in my family, probably now in my lifetime 3 generations. At last now that I’m nearly 60 I’m getting more understanding and acceptance of this . Gabor’s
Definition of addiction in this conversation has again strengthened me . Thank you so so much as you all know sometimes it’s very hard to be the sober strong one.
Secondly I agree the adds have got worse I thought I was losing my mind ……
❤️❤️❤️ I didn’t know there were so many!!
Thank you for sharing this. There are remarkable similarities between your story and mine (PK, Stay at home mom, the tendency to fawn/please as a way of dealing with scary emotions, addiction, and more). As a Licensed mental health caregiver that has struggled with addiction most of my adult life, I am so thankful to see this video. I was able to realize and come to terms with the main reason I was seeking to avoid feelings that were not validated in my early life. God bless you JB. You have blessed my life with your vulnerability and honesty.
You are so amazing and your best days are ahead
JB such a humble and honest interview experiencing the interview though his experiences. This is real education and Dr. Gabor Mate is simply amazing every time I listen to him ❤❤
Thank you both. Struggling with my son. He's clean for 15 years now (he's 41 ) but it's not been easy. He became bipolar.
This was incredible! Thank you both! JB your willingness to be so transparent has and will continue to help so many people!
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This helped me so so much, more than any podcast or talk I've ever watched. I know is because you bared your soul with us and that changed everything for me.
I appreciate you, JB
Thank you I’m so glad it helped
Thank you for sharing your story. You’re helping others by sharing your pain. Dr. Gabor is such a gifted man. ❤
You are so welcome
So good to hear such honestly and vulnerability from both the young man and Dr Mate
Thank you so much
this was really amazing and insightful, thank you so much for your vulnerability
I’m so glad
What an interview so beautiful. Thank you for sharing!! ❤
This conversation really opened up my mind a couple wavelengths, thanks for the transparency Jb and for your knowledge Doc🤝
WOW….he is exactly what I am feeling…Dr. Mate you are so Good ❤
Much respect and thank You❤
Learn the art of, letting go, living in the now & loving, being you. All IS Well.✌🧡
Thank you so much! This conversation I got to see a different conversation a more human back and forth side of Gabor. And also to hear his perspective in conversation with someone who I relate to
So intelligent and i applaud the young man for being vulnerable. I learned more about somatic therapy here…
This is so good. Thank you for being so vulnerable.
This where I am now too: feeling my loss and it hurts so much is messing up my life. Emotional distress finally gets me - yup, it is flooding in. I want to wear black as a sign of my grief. Thank you so much. ❤
You are not alone 🤟
This was very helpful for me, and it showed up in my feed right the day I need it. Dr Mate does a great job putting the feelings and emotions into words that I can not articulate myself and it feel so validating and there for healing!
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The interview was wonderful. It was revealing and made me cry multiple times as I gained a deep understanding of the profound aspects of my childhood.
I’m so glad and happy for you
@@JBCopeland. ❤️ Many thanks
I believed so many of us resonate with your video today I absolute love Dr Gabor he is on of kind .
I also on this journey of self discovery . So Thankyou for share 🙏
I’m so glad. We’re in this together
Thank you both 🙏❤️
So helpful in understanding our own suffering and emotions and how to understand and embrace them with compassion for ourselves ❤
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Thank you for sharing this sir. I am clinically diagnosed with severe depression. I can't understand myself, I feel dead inside.
✨❤✨ Your soul is seperated from your mind.
Start writing out your innermost thoughts.
I couldn’t talk for most of my life - in writing you see what you truly feel-
Then your mind can reason what the soulution (spelled wrong on purpose)
Playing guitar releases trapped energy as well🌹
Forgive Others and self and God if necessary.
Let go of pain.
Like start living a new chapter in your life -
❤I’m about to myself❤
everybody should watch this. wow. thank you
Thank you so much man
Thank you so much from France. Thank you for choosing to show your vulnerability and show other people that we're all on the same boat, struggling with life and our past. I really identify to many of what's happened to you.
It takes time but we're going to make it ! Moving forward and understanding all of this can be one of life's best experience as it opens us up to the full experience of life itself.
Peace to everybody !
Im not sure what happened here, but this was amazing. Thank you.
Gabor is a amazing.
We need hundred of thousands of therapists with his delivery.
So powerful!! I answered the questions right along with you both, and was surprised, but not surprised that I answered the same as the host of this podcast.
You have a new follower!
I sure appreciate Dr. Matte!
As Dr Gabor was inquiring JB I was crying inside and outside . Wow
How do we abandon our inner 4-5 year old ? It’s so frightening so cruel !
May we embrace and cherish this “child “..
Btw I am 29 too
You're very fortunate that you're still young enough to get such great insight......many blessings and much more healing to you. God bless you.
JB ty for posting this. This not only helped me to understand things about myself,but also my children friends family. Well done.
Thank you for sharing your life and vulnerability
I've already listened to this twice in a row! I'm using it to work through my very similar feelings as you've expressed. I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your experience and for this content.
I’m so glad
what a great program! Thanks for letting us being part of it.
This is right on time for me! Wow. Thank you so much.
You are so welcome!
A miracle occurred: i felt compassion for my mother..couldnt maintain that feeling, tho.
Love listening to gabor mate, he seems to answer a lot of my questions 🙏 thank you both 🙏
Me too!
Such an open, brave person
Awesome! I wish I would have had these skills decades ago. I am thankful, that I am learning them now. It’s never too late to heal!
Best of luck to the host. His search was rewarded.
Just popped up and at the right time ..Thank you , I was not allowed to have feelings as a child ..I was left confused .
Thank you for being a nh vulnerable and sharing! It's IFS. These are what my therapy sessions are like
This video is so valuable! I am sending it to all community sites i know. Especially gambling is the big problem today and it is used as a weapon to destroy societies, it is like war (also social media is another weapon like gambling). It is disturbing that nothing is done to stop this illegal mechanism.
Wow I just got a therapy session. This was similar to my childhood and what I went through.
I’m so glad it helped you.
I loved every single second of it! thank you for sharing! 🙏
Such an insightful video. Thank you Dr for sharing your wisdom, and JB for being and allowing yourself to be vulnerable and sharing this with us. 🙏🏼
You are so welcome
Some people wrongly believe that if you were born with siblings and raised in the same family, if they have managed to do well in life, why haven't you? They assume that the others just get on with living their lives and refuse to dwell on the past, that's why they are a "success" and you are the "failure"... if only it were that simple...
Some????? Most
I learned alot here and I totally enjoyed watching JB change as he released some trapped emotions. His eyes were very happy at the end like you could see the child inside felt validated
Completely. So much tension released
I love that you had him as a guest!! also, I appreciate how vulnerable you are online
This is so good! So healing.... I grew up in the IFB.
I am 60 and i always have this feeling inside of me , that I am missing me ...and life is a disappointment and a fight...
Missing me ...
Wow, this is the best short discussion with Dr. Mate I have heard....it is so appreciated...I can relate. Blessings JB, truly.
Thank you so much
This was incredible! Really admire your honesty & vulnerability JB
Profound and eye-opening thank you ❤
Well done JB - appreciate your vulnerability
Wow I wish I could have a personal encounter with Gabor Mate
I was searching online too.
I did!!! 🎉🎉🎉😊
How can you get a encounter with Dr Garda’s
Sorry Gabor
😊 I think we all just did watching this video. He's so clearly helped name the emotions, the physical feeling in the body and the steps as he said to just recognize that trauma and give that early child the attention and that is it. That is what we need to know and we can do with ourselves. This was so amazingly valuable
Thank you, I learned massively. You people save lives. ❤
I want to thank you. This is what I'm going thru. Listening to you explain these dynamics is so much more than helpful. I feel more hopeful and realize I'm actually on track
Wow thank you so much for this 🙏🏼
Love Dr. Mate! ❤❤❤
This is awesome thank you for sharing ❤
Wow! This is so eye opening.