A White Mom's Toolkit for Caring for Black, Curly Hair.
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 13. 04. 2020
- Are you a white mom wondering where to start? The guilt is real! Want to know how to care for your black or biracial daughter's gorgeous curls? We've got you covered! My friend, Bethany, gives us all her TIPS & TRICKS for keeping her adorable daughter's hair healthy, moisturized, and perfectly curled! Come see! (Product toolkit below)
Hi! I'm Tami....mom to three incredible kids who each have their own beautiful adoption story. It's because of them that I am an Adoption Advocate - educating families, wiping tears (& crying with you), cheering you on, & walking with you through your own journey & beyond. The good, the bad, the beautiful, the ugly. We'll talk about it all.
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You got this, girl! Enjoy the bonding time with your daughter as you both figure this out together! Ask any of your questions below!
xoxo, T
My husband is black, I know weâre planning on having kids. Iâve always wondered how Iâm going to take care of our kids hair. Iâm so glad I found this video! Thank you !! đđđ
You'll be just fine. Ask for assistance and continue to be open to learning, especially from your child's black family. It would be our honor to help you, and we want to. God Bless
ââ@@SunRose768 As a white woman who has been with her black boyfriend for over 6 years and planning on having beautiful babies in the future, thank you, that gives me so much confidence to ask for help, I've already learned how to dread my boyfriends hair on my own, I can't wait to learn more styles and techniques! It's so interesting and fun! đ
I think youâre doing an amazing job. I have 3 bi racial kids. 2 girls and 1 boy. My sons hair is more like my hair (Iâm white) my oldest daughter whoâs 8 her hair is more like your daughters and my youngest daughter has really tight curls like 4a texture. Girls hair comes in all types. Iâm just grateful you are taking care of her hair cause thereâs some moms out there who donât even try so all the people out there saying negative things just ignore.
My mom was mixed herself (I'm also multiracial) and didn't even know what to do lol. I figured my hair out on my own đ€Šđœââïž
Wow this is so good going to try it. Iâm a balck mum with mixed race children I have to say itâs been a journey in terms of caring for their hair but with videos like yours Iâm sure itâs all sorted now. Thank you đđż â€
Tami, you are doing an amazing job with your daughter! I am biracial and I wish videos like these were more popular when I was her age, it would have been so helpful for me and my mom trying to understand/figure things out! Great Job!!!
Never start brushing at the top with curly hair make sure you start from ends up or it will tangle
Yes! đđŸThank you! xoxo, T
Honestly, for everyone's hair unless you are into breakage. It's always smart to start at the bottom.
@@megerber if your not black and have this hair type do not speak
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Aawww. Precious Mommy daughter time together with your little angel. đđ€
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Hey, Mama quick curly girl tip!! I have the same hair type as your baby girl and the ends of my hair also tangle quickly if I haven't had a very small trim in a while its usually just a bit of dry dead ends...I usually go for half an inch never ever any more than a full inch because it can ruin my curl pattern. My hair color is also similar and my ends get 1 to2 shades lighter when they need a trim. Hope this helps :) Great video and many blessings to you and your family!
Awesome tip, thank you so much! I love your feedback! Thank you for watching. xoxo, T
Same! And my hair appreciates the slip as well. Similar texture.
I really appreciate this video and proud how much research and care you put in for your baby's hair. You did a good job and she is beautiful.
Thank you for the video, it really helps. Im a single father and i had no idea how to styled my daughters hair
Awesome job Mama. We use that detangler as well; it is awesome. I also like the curl enhancing smoothie! Your tips are on point.
An Onion in Alaska thank you! Yes on the Curl Enhancing Smoothie! đđŸ Thank you for watching! xo T
@@TamiMajtan can I just say you are a queen and thank you for being receptive to info đ this really warms my heart. I have seen people try to offer advice and itâs taken with such offensive but you LOVE are an example and I just love your channel đđđđ
@@btylcs You just made my morning - thank you for your encouragement! And THANK YOU for being here! It takes a village. xoxo, T
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This is so helpful! Thank youâ€
This was very helpful to me, I have a 3and a half year old girl and just had a newborn baby girl and I'm so lost how to care for their hair. I have a few of the same products and brushes so I'm going to try it your way and see if I get better results!!
My daughter has very very thick hair and has tight curls. Thank you so much, I've tried a lot of products but I'm going to give it another shot..Thank you! Excellent job with hers.
Ty so much for this!! My daughter is mixed too and her hair is something i have never ever dealt with before. So thank you so much!!
You're so welcome! I'm glad this was helpful. Thank you for watching! xoxo, Tami
I think it's pretty cool that you posted up this video. I've been in many natural hair forums and many white women with biracial children join the conversation and have tons of questions on how to care for their daughter's hair. I always say if you don't ask you won't know. I love that mom's with interracial families take the time out to learn.
In regards to her dry hair. Try giving your daughter more hot oil treatments which will help lock the moisture into her curls. I'm not biracial, but my grandmother was and I have her hair texture. Doing hot oil treatments on my hair every week or every other week has helped to combat the frizz and lock in moisture. Also for detangling try the Jane Carter's Revitalizing leave in spray. Protects your hair from the sun and also great for detangling thick hair. For the brush try the new EZ Detangling brush. My stylist uses that on my hair and it does wonder. My hair is thick like your daughter's so I know the struggle. Good luck Mom.
Awesome advice! Thank you so much! We're all in this together. :) Thank you so much for watching and being here! xoxo, Tami
@@TamiMajtan Thanks for having me. Blessings to you and your family.
@@TFGcine Blessings to you!
I'm multiracial myself, and I've always welcomed questions and things from white mom's with mixed kids. It's different from what you're experienced with, and it's always better to ask! đ
I just cried! I have been looking for hair tips for a long time. Never have I ever found such good info in one comment. And I havenât watched the video yet but I am now. Maybe this will help. My daughter has shoulder length hair. Itâs very very thick. And super coarse hair. I think itâs my fault but I canât really get it to grow. And her baby hair (sheâs 8) that hair is so frizzy or just curls up. And makes a headband type puffy around her head. I just donât know what else to do. Iâm gonna try these ideas with the hot oil treatment. Never tried that. I am mixed but my hair is very manageable compared to hers.
I wish I can really tell you how I feel in person! Words can not Express it, I am very happy!! thank you
Hooray! Iâm so glad! Thank you! xoxo, T
Thank you for this, it was so informative!
Good job mom!
GOD Bless you and your family.
Love wins!
Love wins - yes! Thank you! xoxo, T
Thank you for these tips - I needed them đđ
Iâm so glad it was helpful! Thank you for being here and watching! xoxo, T
Lovely video. Thank you. I sympathisize fir your daughterâs hair in the dry Nevada desert. Lived in AZ then college in cold of MA. Glad you use hydrating conditioners. Appreciate your video, the loving care you show your daughter, and for the brush advice stuff too. Thanks to you both fir sharing this helpful video. Greetings from Chicago.
Thank you! xoxo T
Your sweet girl is so cute! She just might have a future in front of the camera, she is so at ease and in charge!
Such sweet words - thank you! And I think you're right! xo, T
Omggggg can u make a skin care routine??? Ur skin looks amazing đ
Holy moly her hair is beautiful! I loves it loves it loves it! I'm fighting for the right products right now for my biracial princess but her hair just changed on me so I'm struggling to find the right products. When I get paid again I will def try the mielle Thank you!
Thank you! Hope you love the Mielle! Thank you for watching! xoxo, Tami
How are things with your daughters hair? Kinky Kurly is the best and worth the expense.
You are doing a great job!đ„°
Thank you! xoxo, T
I love seeing things like this. I'm multiracial and my mom is also, but we have slightly different textures. She tried, bless her sweet heart, Hut she did not understand thick type 3 mixed hair đ€Ł Hers was maybe a 4a but very fine and coiled, but not kinky. I'm gonna have to learn a new texture of hair if I have a daughter, so it's just cool to see different techniques and a variety of hair.
Very true!
â€thanks for sharing, she is so cuteâ€â€
This Mom has done her homework !!
Good job Mom!!
She looks like her momma. So precious
She really does!! đ€â€ïžđ€
Gorgeous!
xoxo, T
Thank you for this. Do you do this same routine every day?
Thank you for this!
How often do you wash your daughterâs hair?
Thank you love this video
I'm so glad! Thank you for sharing! xoxo, T
She look so beautiful
Thank you for watching!
Use kinky curly from Target she need a detangler, black her have to stay greased and not washed to often braids after washing her hair will help
Thank you! xoxo T
I'm still trying to learn how to take care my hair I'm biracial also.
My grand daughter has Korean, White and Black hair. Are there any products other than the ones mentioned in this video, that I can use to aide in braiding her hair I just used the products in this video.....AWESOME!!!!! Ny grand daughter is 9 years old. Would you recommend silk press/iron press/ hear treatment at this age?
Awesome job.
Thank you Marlene! â€ïž
Im black mom and here to take notes. We need to stop acting like being black means we know everything about haircare.
Good video detangling and caring for your daughters hair! Very informative and it will be helpful to lots of folks. I love that it is a loving process for both mom and child. However, I would maybe change it to biracial hair care or even just put 3c hair routine.
Hi Truly! Thank you for your kind words! And you're correct - I should edit the description and put those in there, thank you! xoxo, T
Good job Mom.
Thank you!
man I wish my mom was like this with my hair my grandma on my dad's side or my dad always had to do my hair still love her though lol
I'm subscribed
My mother in law uses chi for curly hair but I have noticed that the product has caused my nieces hair to lose its curl. I use candy and that helps when she is with us but what can I get to helps bring her curls back.
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Thanks for the love! xoxo T
Can I get the name of the products please, my daughter is white but her hair is naturally curly, wat can I use in itâ€â€
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Thank you for watching! â€ïž xoxo, T
At what age should I start have my daughter wear a cap she's 9 months and hates wearing it
How often do you shampoo and condition her hair in the bath?
Hi mommy good job on 20k views wooooooooooooo
Thank you! xoxo, T
What's the name of the curl brush?
Now to justfigure out how to keep the bonnet or cap on my toddler đđđ„Žđđđ
Please consider renaming it and removing the word tackling. It is not tackling our hair is beautiful. Thank you.
Thank you for being here and watching! You're right...black hair is BEAUTIFUL and it's a joy to learn how to care for it....as a white mom when just starting out, it can be difficult and overwhelming to figure out (and the guilt of not getting it "right" the first time) & even how to know where to start...hence "tackling".
@@TamiMajtan stop being nice to these ppl. They low key being rude to you !!!! They literally sit here and watch your video and nitpick and try to find SOMETHING to complain about bc your a white woman doing her hair!!!! biracial means our kids have two races and they are one race and that is human being since were pulling words out of your BEAUTIFULLY made video !!!! you call it what u want!!!! You carried this baby !!! My daughter is 19 now and shes gorgeous ! hell i say tackling when im talking about my hair and i am WHITE!!!!!!!! A little word of advice make sure you always tell your daughter she is beautiful which im sure you do. bc i did and mine still got bullied by these hatefull girls in her school!!!!! shes a model now . but i pulled her out of that school bc it gotten so bad that she tried to commit suicide. That very head of hair your doing right now will be one of the reasons!! these girls pulled my daughters hair so hard they were trying to see if it was weave!!!!! needless to say she came home one day and cut her hair off and it was down to her butt!!!! ALL HER OWN!!!! trying to make these sorry kids happy and they just evil!!! i know you dont care about this but alot is gonna happen bc of that babies pretty hair!!! sorry i wrote so much... i think YOU and YOUR DAUGHTER is gorgous!!!!
@@brandywray5200 Thank you! â€ïž
Youâre right. Our hair is beautiful, but I know you know that we talk the same way, sometimes even worse, about our own hair.
@@TamiMajtan Donât worry about your wording. We literally say worse things about our hair than that. Youâre doing a fantastic job caring for your daughterâs hair and itâs a shame that some people can only nitpick instead of seeing the love and compassion you have for your daughter and her hair. Some of use could stand to learn from that.
My wife wants to know if Bethany has her own channel?
Now I see how everything was easy with my blonde hair! At her age it was any kids shampoo, brush my hair and that's all...
LOL YES!!! So funny! Thank you for watching! xoxo, T
So what do you do for the day-to-day stuff when you don't wash her hair like what products do you put in it everyday on days the hair is not washed?
Great question - thank you for asking it! I like the all natural route - using a water bottle (mixed with distilled water and oils such as olive, jojoba, almond, avocado - whatever her hair likes!) spritz the hair morning and night and anytime her hair needs a refresher. Then scrunch the hair to gently incorporate it in. Hope this helps! Let me know! xoxo, T
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Back atcha! Thank you! xoxo, T
The term "tackling" in the title says it all. Her hair is not a 300lb quarterback, try to see her and her hair in a more gentle feminine way and she'll grow up without having a distorted view of herself.
This was a good point and she is mixed. It is not all black girl hair. The texture varies. I love your comment and just calling the routine for what it is a mixed hair routine. Christy is a YT who does all her adopted African American daughters hair and is a great resource. This is a great video/ routine otherwise.
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Who cares she cared her for 9 months.
I agree...not kool.
@@BEAUTYFUL18 she did what?
my situation is reversed i have curly hair but my daughter have straight hair like her father and i use a lot of products on my hair a lot of moisturising but hair her needs much less and some times i forget that and her hair ends up oily the poor thing lol
Thank you for watching! xoxo, T
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Help everything that I put in my mixed raced daughters hair makes her scalp n ears itch !!! Brands ive used are Cantu, miss jessies, aunt jackies, shea moisture,just for me, pantene pro-v good series ,and cream of nature . So her first year of life I was at first using the whole cantu line co- wash , conditioner, stylers etc. and it was working decent enough. As she got older and her hair longer it seemed to change alittle and the cantu wasnt working as good so I began to try other brands . Now she is 22 months old and I eneded up trying n using the whole aunt jackies line from shampoo to the baby curl pink curl cream and oh my stars her hair was gorgeous,quenched,shiney and just made her coils just beautiful, BUT she would itch her head and ears and behind her neck terrible! To the point she would scratch so hard she would break the skin! So im so frustrating n feel terrible for my baby girl ! I finally find products that work for her hair but their causing some kind of reaction i think . Im going to try a brand called Eden bodyworks kids line that you could literally eat or drink the products because they are vegan and made with all natural ingredients and the products smell like a fruit smoothies ! Its one of the more expensive brands ive come across but if it works doesnât cause her to itch then ill be happy ! Anyone elses toddler or child get itchy from certain products and if so what did you do to help with the itchiness ? I just stopped using aunt Jackies but at a huge cost , that cost being I havenât found a product that works good on her hair . Her hair is between 3c and 4a . Any advice or suggestions would be much appreciated! God bless n thanks for your video !!
I have 3c/4a hair. How often do u wash her hair?
@@carissaa36 once a week or it gets too dry n brittle . I bath her e eryday just not hair
@@Lalalove_andlily do u use antidandruff shampoo? I use the Shea moisture dry and itchy shampoo/conditioner in the blue bottle especially because I get itchy dry scalp in braids and it changed my life lol. I use it whenever my scalps get dry and itchy out of braids too
@@Lalalove_andlily does she have dry scalp? Is it flaky? Do u out anything on it?
Also, some people canât do cowash. I canât. I have to use sulfate free shampoo weekly for 3 weeks then clarify my scalp using a clarifying shampoo on the 4th week , otherwise the buildup from all the gels and curl creams and leave ins makes my scalp so itchy or ill scratch my scalp til itâs red. I had to learn about moisture since I have curls and live in Phoenix
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Everyone posts wash day tutorials but I need help with what to do daily for my daughter. Can anyone help?
Hi! You're right...there aren't many "everyday" videos - I'll make one! But in the meantime, how does your daughter wear her hair? Loose & natural or in a protective style? For my son's daily routine with a natural hair style, in the mornings I heavily spritz with distilled water to wake up the curls, then finger comb through his curls with a daily leave in conditioner or oil, then add some gel as needed. Right now, my favorite routine is from CurlMix.com - it eliminates the daily routine by keeping the curls on point. (You just have to spritz a bit with water to wake up any curls that got smashed while sleeping.) And then repeat once a week. Hope that helps! Please let me know if you have any other questions! xoxo, T (Thank you for watching!)
Exactly so true!
For those saying this is not black hair --- YOU ARE DEAD WRONG ....
I disagree.
I'm 100% black and so is my wife. We're FULL BLOWN AFRICAN CANADIANS.
Our 12 year old very tall son has hair texture almost Iike that. Our daughter, however has our very kinky curly African hair but very long at the same time almost touching her back now - she's 14. I have locs and do have long hair but it is still kinky like the average West African hair.
Till today we are amazed where our son's gene came from. Nature is really a miracle.
We believe one of our ancestors may have had some Cherokee or 1st nation's gene in them. Anyway, my son is as black as Snoop Dogg.
For us blacks even if you have a drop of African in you ... you're black... and as hair goes, my son and Snoop Dogg is proof that Black people of all percentages have different forms of curly hair.
My son is 5'10, age 12 with curly hair over his shoulder now. This girl is black and her curly hair is because of her black dad's genes hence this video.
It's BLACK HAIR. Doesn't always have to be kinky. Please visit Ethiopia, Zimbabwe, Lesotho, Madagascar, Malta, Seychelles and Somalia - all in Africa. Some of you need a little education in curly hair types of all African genome types.
PS: My daughter is also called ZOE, my son is ZADOK
Thank you for being here & watching! xoxo, T
I have same texture.... garnier frucits , wide tooth comb and simple as wash a go.!!! Not as difficult as seem
Awesome! Thank you for sharing and for watching! xoxo, Tami
I despise wet brushes other people swear by them but they got caught in my caucasian hair and my mixed babies hair we'd have the bristles actually break off and get caught in our hair
Oh man - that's not good! Everyone swears by what works for them. What's your fav brush? Thanks for watching! xoxo, T
@@TamiMajtan I like the precision beauty and the best tool brush basically a brush without those little rubber knobs you see on to the ends of brush bristles I want a straight bristle that will go through my hair but if I got a tangle because it doesn't have that rubber rounded tip my hg air can slip off if I catch a tangle instead of gettung caught on those rubber tips
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@@TamiMajtan I love the tangle buster and the felicia leatherwood brush. I have very thicky kinky curly hair and am also mixed black and white. My sisters hair and mine are completely different. I'm definitely more on the kinky side.
Does Bethany have a CZcams channel??
No, she doesn't. She did this for me. She's pretty fantastic! xoxo T
Tami Majtan she should make one , if she makes one eventually plz update us :)
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Hello mam im new to your channel
This said for black curly hair and this beautiful young lady is not black. Different ball park of hair care. Iâd recommend a different title
next time. Besides that, great video!
Lol. That child is âblackâ to her. Why didnât she just ask the fathers family how to handle mixed kids hair? Chiiile I can imagine why. But unfortunately yes, that child is NOT black.
You're right - she's biracial. The haircare is the same at the basic level for those looking for where to start with any kind of black hair. đThank you for watching! xoxo, T
Gurl sit TF down that Chow is black and so TF are u I see that bell pepper nose u not fooling anyone.
@@mishc6767 STFU she's black I hate the race card upon mixed raced it so annoying .. its hard being biracial cause both races tell u wat u not whites saying she not white and black saying she not black if the dad black she black ..
I disagree.
For those saying this is not black hair --- YOU ARE DEAD WRONG ....
I disagree.
I'm 100% black and so is my wife. We're FULL BLOWN AFRICAN CANADIANS.
Our 12 year old very tall son has hair texture almost Iike that. Our daughter, however has our very kinky curly African hair but very long at the same time almost touching her back now - she's 14. I have locs and do have long hair but it is still kinky like the average West African hair.
Till today we are amazed where our son's gene came from. Nature is really a miracle.
We believe one of our ancestors may have had some Cherokee or 1st nation's gene in them. Anyway, my son is as black as Snoop Dogg.
For us blacks even if you have a drop of African in you ... you're black... and as hair goes, my son and Snoop Dogg is proof that Black people of all percentages have different forms of curly hair.
My son is 5'10, age 12 with curly hair over his shoulder now. This girl is black and her curly hair is because of her black dad's genes hence this video.
It's BLACK HAIR. Doesn't always have to be kinky. Please visit Ethiopia, Zimbabwe, Lesotho, Madagascar, Malta, Seychelles and Somalia - all in Africa. Some of you need a little education in curly hair types of all African genome types.
PS: My daughter is also called ZOE, my son is ZADOK
Biracial hair lol.
Oh brother, what are they going to call us next?
Her hair is not black hair!!
Believe it or not there are black people with her hair type. Stop policing hair. Our hair comes in all sorts of patterns and textures and it is all beautiful.
Because she is only half black??
You need to fix your tile. Your daughter doesnât have black hair she has mixed textured hair. This is a new day and the one drop rule is dead. Saying your daughter is black is a falsification of her full identity. Her daughter is a Mulatta. Thanks and have a nice day.
You can tell you using the girl for views. Where is she now? Wouldn't let her talkđą
Please not black curly hair thatâs the first thing letâs just say curly textured hajr
I live simple tutorial tired if all these long long long talk
Racist. Change the damn title lady
Black hair is not curly. It is kinky-coily. Your lovely daughter does not have Black peopleâs hair. She has Biracial or mixed type hair. Please stop calling your Biracial daughter Black and misnomering her hair type.
Signed,
An actual Black person.