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- Because Black people are disproportionately targeted by police, many parents are forced to have “The Talk” with their young children about how to best navigate this tragic reality. #DailyShow #TrevorNoah #TheTalk
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I’m 15, black, and about to get my learner’s permit to drive. I’m excited, but it hit real hard when my mom said: “I’m happy that you’re gonna start driving soon. But terrified about what might happen once you go out there alone.” The same thing happened when I hit my growth spurt. She sat me down and started saying that I better watch how I act cause people will start seeing me as a threat. It’s so sad that every time I hit a milestone in growth there’s baggage that comes with it.
If your pulled over obey.your not above the law!! No one is.the ones who think they are are not here anymore!!!!!!!
@@notrumps2784 Stop it. That is a lie. There are many black people who complied & still died. If you're going to say such ignorant comments, maybe do some research. Compliance or not, no one should be killed UNARMED or for a traffic infraction.
Sorry man, I got the talk too. And I'm caucasian. Cops are scared.
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keep your head up, kid. don't let the bad cops or the stoopit trolls get you down.
@@notrumps2784 rich powerful people are still here
I am a white woman and I married a black man. I remember the first time being pulled over with him in my car and how different that interaction was. I remember crying afterwards. It was so intense that was the first time I had ever been afraid of a police officer.
I had been so naive before then.
We had two children together. And it was the strangest thing giving my children that talk that I never had to have when I was growing up.
Yeah, I drove over a month with no headlights, got stopped almost every night, and never got a ticket. I have had seizures while driving, the cops ask if I am ok... and let me drive home. Driving while white is certainly different than driving while being a POC.
I'm really sorry for this bad experiences. It just popped into my head that maybe white youngsters should also have a version of " the talk", one that makes them aware of this issue and of how they can help de-escalate when possible...
Do you regret involving yourself in this dynamic?
I totally understand. My son is mixed... His father is white. I always talk about equality and how he's no different. But giving him the talk that hes viewed different than others he doesn't quite understand.
@@Bahiyyudin Do you regret implying that this dynamic is acceptable?
The 8 year old girl exclaiming that she isn't armed/is a danger broke my heart.
Yes, it is heat breaking. Just think if you were the father who had to have this conversation with your child.... it's heart breaking for all of us African Americans to have this type of dialogue with our children. I hope that those who have "privilege" will use it to help improve the way officers are policing Black Americans.
It brought tears to my eyes 😔🥺
don't feel broken hearted it's BS....i'm black and i have never been afraid of the cops you know why because my parents taught me to respect myself, respect authority and respect all people
@StillLogic Police it seems as if you might’ve come straight to the comments. I’m thinking it’ll make more sense if u watch it in its entirety. Or get someone to help u understand. The other option, keep ur opinion to yourself on sensitive matters that won’t ever be a part of your story- you’re not ready.
@@JM-zz9jr that’s cute that you think just because you haven’t experienced it that it doesn’t exist.
I got the talk when I was 7. My brother and i helped a neighbors cat get out of the gutter, the neighbor only saw the part where the cat scratched him and he dropped it. She got everyone involved and was convinced we were animal abusers, even when we explained the situation. What I remember most is the look of hatred that old woman gave me and my brother and how she wanted to call the cops on us. We were kids who saved a cat from a gutter! We should’ve been thanked and rewarded but instead my mom told me how I’m always gonna be held at a different standard then everyone else and that I could never get Into a situation that would make me look like a bad kid.
THATS REALLY F!!! UP
YOUR 💯% ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!!!!!
That's horrifying.
I don't know if you watched the Lovecraft Country show a year or so back; I watched and and loved/hated it. There was some "oh no, you _had_ to insert racism again" fall out.
I thought that it was the perfect fit, because Lovecrafts stories almost always have this sense of perpetual danger, like there is something lurking that can get you at any moment, and it's so big and hungry that the moment it attacks, that's it - you're done.
It's bad knowing that that was life for millions of people during the segregation.
Knowing that it's still that way is heart-breaking.
I really, really hope that that old woman isn't the norm - or that at least, her breed is slowly dying out.
I'm positively sure "THE TALK" has saved MY LIFE on @ least 3 occasions. I am now a 64 year old Man.
Imagine that
Kudos on making up there and wishing you a lot more years under that belt :)
Also wish for a bunch of us to get there
yes and...there are those that have done exactly that who are dead, including the father shot right in front of his children on video we all saw. I am grateful you've made it and are well. I pray for the day when we have other things to celebrate like your heart, humanity and birthday perhaps!!!!
Sarah, unfortunately that happens, but thankfully it’s very rare. The vast majority of people killed by the police, are not following the advice from “the talk”.
Seeing the 8 year old girl practice for when a cop pulls her over in the future was absolutely heart breaking
Well then they accomplished their little goal. Children are a great tool to use when pushing false narratives.
I cried unbelievable it breaks my heart
@@killed_by_the_architect-829 ok racist
@Killed_By_The_Architect - un-f***ing-believable. How are you this hateful as a human being?
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To me that feels like a therapist learning how to deal with someone who's emontionally unstable. You know, learning how to "talk them down".
My friend, I think you touched on the heart of the problem, many of them are post-war vets, former bullied persons, or suffering from some form of personality disorder, whose post traumatic/personality diseases have not been dealt with, who then get a gun and a badge with authority and impunity. There's no better cocktail for disasters than this perfect storm.
Seeing an 8 year old recite something like that is heart breaking. I wish for all children to have the same type of childhood my son had and I want them to have all the love and opportunities they can possibly imagine. Something is terribly wrong with our country and we all need to work to fix it.
don't believe the lie
@@JM-zz9jr what lie
My father used to be a cop, he got fired for defending an inmate from an unprovoked attack from an officer. He has taught me a lot about how corrupt the system can be. I’m afraid of police for the reason of “how many innocent people have they hurt?”
cop are crooked we need to dismantle the system and start new, its the alony way to fix it
Yes, this week in the news, a Black female cop who was fired for intervening in the choking of a handcuffed suspect, was finally awarded her back pay and pension. UNBELIEVABLE.
@@loriannrichardson7644 I just watched that the other day. That was messed up!
They're certainly not infallible as they are human however this doesn't excuse this war that has been launched on them by a pack of Corporate Elitist Maggots who profit from hate profiteering.
@@nubastyle I saw it too. You know they did her wrong intentionally knowing they fired her literally just a few days before she was supposed to retire and get her pension. I’m sooo glad she got her justice
"Some" People don't go into law enforcement to end crime, they do it for the power trip.
There's actual evidence that the KKK has members become police officers with the sole intent to cause harm to POC.
I would say almost all go into it for a power trip.
☝️☝️
and those who don't, got hooked on the first high
That is so true
I started crying when I heard the 8 year old say her deescalation sentence. How heartbreaking for a child to need to do that
Hearing about "the talk" was one of the biggest things that made me realize my privilege. I've never felt in physical danger from the police. My parents didn't tell me to be afraid of police. I had no idea that people felt this way. That's the privilege of being white in this country; not even realizing the problem exists.
Consider yourself lucky. I've been harassed by the police and had my car searched. I guess the cops I ran into didn't get the memo that white kids are to be treated with "privilege." I also happened to go to a majority-black school when I was a kid. (Which are becoming increasingly common because white people don't hardly have any babies but black people do) And I had the "privilege" of being harassed and bullied on a regular basis by the black boys. This narrative that you people push or fall for is incredibly naive.
@@rt-uh6mt I'm not from America, but I am from a country where I am being discriminated against on a regular basis, when it comes to jobs, etc. But I have been following America's issues with police very closely. It's not that all black people get shot innocently or even are innocent when pulled over for example, but the fact that police reach for their gun as soon as they get out of the car. That to me is really weird, unnecessary and unseen where I'm from.
@@rt-uh6mt that’s an interesting way to tell everyone you’re racist
@@rt-uh6mt my guy...the rate that such experiences happen to black people is higher. You may have had this experience but that doesn't change the fact.
@@shotarokaneda7525 everyone that happens to is an individual. At that point, it doesn't matter what the rate or statistics are. They are in the moment. Hard to shrug, smile, and say "Oh, well, statistically it happens a lot less to those of my race!"
“I am 8 years old, I have nothing that could hurt you”, as Asian American, it make me feel so sad 😞 Asians for BLM 🙏
My parents gave me the talk when I was 8 too because my eldest brother had just gotten his license and they wanted to make sure I wouldn't do anything that could put him in danger if he ever got pulled over with me in the car. It's honestly insane how normalized it is in the Black community.
💔 broke my heart
I am an Asian American mom and I had “The Talk” with my three boys once they started driving. My eldest was pulled over while taking his friend, also Asian, home less than 2 miles from our house. Cop stopped him for no reason other than the fact they didn’t looked like they “belonged” in the neighborhood. This was in Southern Orange County, CA.
Thank You. And AA for Asians.
Same
I cried seeing that girl recite that memorized statement to tell adults in the language they could understand that she is not dangerous.
It might keep her safe and it might not.
It's necessary because cops don't see minority children or even adults as being human. It's deplorable when you realize that the lives of police dogs are valued more than black or brown people.
Sean Jones Wrong
It's sick what that parent is doing to that child. Teaching them that they might get killed by a police officer for no reason is disgusting. Over 2 times as many white people are killed by police every single year. Get a grip on reality people.
So many also disregard the fact that every single victim made a terrible last decision, usually to attack or flee. Obviously, some cases are awful and tragic, even deserving of manslaughter or second-degree on a per-case basis. But, pretending that innocent people are getting shot for no reason is a lie. There’s always a reason… If it’s a bad reason then off to the clink.
My kid’s were raised in Japan because my husband and I are military we never had to worry in Okinawa about our children there however, every time I brought them home to visit I would have to sit them down and tell them the States are not the same and have that talk with them.
do you tell them DONT RESIST ARREST because the cops are human being and are scare too?
@@yungbfresh1 The cops are scared, armed and in numbers of two or more. They aren't scared when arresting a mass shooter though 🤔
Ygh Huh Wrong
Isn't that awful, mines in yokota, very sad here
No you didnt have to but you did because you believe were racist because of racebaiters like trevor noah who do nothing but lie
Watching that precious little girl recite that made me cry. Children should be children-- carefree.😪
ooh pls ......lol
As a foreigner - USA is the only country where I've been told specifically how to act during a traffic stop/police encounter and what not to do (such as reach for a license without asking the officer etc.). Can't think of any other civilized country where such a talk (that was given by the university during orientation) would be necessary.
I'm sorry.
Thank you for sharing.
Civilized? 🤔
So uncalled for 😒
You mistook us for being civilized. That's sweet of you.
My dad has 3 girls. He gave me "the talk" when I was 9 years old while we were fishing. Yep. He was very stern about not giving "them" anything to prevent me from coming home. 9 Years old. It's sad but mandatory💔
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My white dad did the same....because its common sense...
@@buckfiden4781 how many white kids being killed by cops???????
While fishing? Like, even at vacations you guys need that talk?
@@loriannrichardson7644 twice as many white people get killed by cops than black people
As a mom, hearing that little girl recite that with her hands up made me cry. No one should have to worry about police hurting them for no reason, especially children! My niece’s are half black and it constantly worries me what they are going to have to go through in life just because of the color of their skin.
Watching that 8yr old girl practise what to say when confronted by a dumb cop is literally the most heart breaking thing I've watched in a long long time!!!!
brainwashedddd!
Then you've been living in a very closed off and very victimized world. It's all a big time con game ran by professional hate profiteers who've been given unlimited platforms and money to write their own scripts. And how long has the script been running now? Oh about 50 years now and with devastating results on the Black Family. Maybe it's time to begin questioning the professional liars and game show hosts?
Am not crying no am not !just that water have the tendencies in filling eyes
@@gregj831 ..i just got reccomended this by youtube for who knows why considering the fact that i dont even live in america and while i know gut wrenching sad facts about the world its still doesnt diminish the heart break i felt.
I've got a caramel skin tone. I was adopted by white parents. They didn't give me "the talk" but a neighbor did. That was the moment I understood a lot. Why my parents didnt let me wander the neighborhood alone like my white brother had been able to when he was my age, why people stopped my mom in the supermarket and asked where I was from, why my family got mean looks when we all went places together
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@@32hernandez93 People stop your mom in the supermarket and ask where you're from? I don't believe you.
Bruh you lying ain’t no way you’re parents got stopped and asked where their from💀
@@lop1991 they weren't asked where they were from. They were asked where I came from.
@@jamesbond8252 She was when I was a baby and little kid. Small southern town mid 90s. Not so much anymore
This is the HARDEST conversation I have ever had with my children. It's scary . I cried afterwards I am crying typing this. Just come home to me. A black mothers prayer!
America, The most Racist country in the World. Violating Human rights 👹 #SanctionRacistUSA
@@harveydent8667 Really? We have more black millionaires and billionaires than any country in the world. We elected a half black man as president twice a half black VP once so far. White and black marriages are a common thing. Yadda, yadda, yadda. Stop race baiting.
DMV hand book look up’’ what to do when pulled over’’’ looks like he’s just reading for the manual
The ‘’talk’’ came from the DMV hand book
Even poor white parents don't have to have this conversation. Some things boil down to skin color alone. The richest black man knows to avoid certain situations.
@@cw6795 "The BIBLE" Greatest Book Ever Written.
Last Days Prophesy!
Babylon The Great (America) has Fallen.
PSALM 82:2 How long will you judge unjustly, and accept the persons of the wicked? Selah.
All Praises To The Most High and his Son.
ELOHIM Vengeance Is Upon America The Wicked!!!
It's just difficult to put ourself in others shoes. It's like how women have the talk with their friends: call me when you get home, learn to hold keys in hand to be able to get in car immediately, hold a pepper spray handy etc. Men don't get these "talks".
Did anyone else kinda tear up when the little girl had her hands up? 😢
NO.
absolutely cried real tears
It’s sad 😢
What's more sad? The fact she feels this way or the fact someone is using her to push a program of racial divide/hatred? In fact someone has been using her and her people for a very long time by manipulating them with victimhood. It's so easy to buy into the BS that is being peddled by a professional hate profiteer like Noah, especially when he is provided a massive platform and unlimited funding to do it. This factoid alone, should be of very serious concern and bringing up serious questions to everyone. But how the questioners ask the real questions when the gameshow is controlled by the hate profiteers?
Victimhood at an early age
Just had the talk again with my 15 yo son this morning. He's half black, half hispanic, and all of 6ft 5in tall. Our own white neighbors called the cops on him when he took the trash to the street late one evening. Yes, they showed up with hands on holsters asking for proof that he was a child and that we live in the predominantly caucasian neighborhood.
We have many talks with him and our girls. I'm in education and my hubby is a correctional Sgt. He has to learn to think ahead of the situation and be prepared to respond in ways that ensure he can remain alive by staying calm, non-threatening and with precision of language. I feel often we have to train ourselves to interact safely with those charged with protecting us.
That is a loaded statement but if you don't help them comprehend these truths, trust that there's a high likelihood that an officers weapon will be unloaded on our black males, young and old.
Or.... Move to Africa?
Not Trolling.
Seriously.
I think about it more & more
@@HughJass-jv2lt Canada sounds cool too
@@eddy0010
Yeah....
But I'd rather take my talents back to the Homeland.
Help teach my skills there ❤❤
in the 1990's, my big burly vietnam vet black husband came home from the grocery store one day looking devastated, sat down with head in hands, and broke down sobbing. he finally got it out: he had just turned down an isle, noted a cart about halfway down, and then saw a very old, very frail white lady at the other end of the isle, looking scared and watching him as she tried to run as best she could to her cart, where he saw that her purse was sitting. he stopped, stunned, confused at first, then just left our groceries in the store and came home. he kept repeating as he cried "i went to war for her, doesn't she know that i would die for her." i have rarely been more devastated in my life.
off topic somewhat i know, and i have my share of police contact stories, involving my husband, his dad, our son, and do many others. but i just had to add that these are the black men that our 'justice' sytem is so intent on demolishing.
Would you feel safer living in a black neighborhood, away from your white neighbors?
Now think how long this has been going on without recording devices. Let that sink in..🤔
400 years
@@Amaje311 True.
Clearly the Lynching never stopped. They just hide behind badges instead of hoods.
GirlBabes.men
I've told people this over and over it didn't just start its just that technology can broadcast this world wide and live...
Started the talk with my son at age 7. We lived in Brooklyn and “Stop & Frisk” was in full effect. Seeing kids not older than him getting questioned by cops showed me we had to start early.
and if more black parents teach their kids respect guess what they will make it home
@@JM-zz9jr Those kids are not trying to disrespect you, their born with that black skin. I know people like you. I work at a grocery store and a white woman with a white kid and black kid came into the store. The white female cashier that I work with chose to give a nasty mean look at the black child, for some reason the child doesn't seem to notice her at all, but I see what she was doing and felt disgusted in the inside.
@@missourigreen051 ....and?, point is we need to teach our children to respect themselves and respect authority
This put tears in my eyes. As a black man in Norway, I appreciate it more and more. I have you in my prayers.
"l'm Ariel Sky Williams. l'm 8 years old. I'm unarmed and l have nothing that will hurt you" It made me cry out of anger... I'm so sorry Ariel😭
@Baracus Obamus czcams.com/video/4l51vFY3rF4/video.html
@Baracus Obamus The only person under influence of drugs/alcohol was clearly your mom when you were conceived
@@over-cn7qw Arguments are hard to make ain't they
Broke my heart, but so true..
@Baracus Obamus Ah yes of course 9-year-olds threaten their parents on a daily. You're SO smart (if you can't tell this is sarcasm since you obviously have a problem with comprehension)
My dad had the talk with me constantly throughout the course of my life, that I was “statistically supposed to be either dead or in jail by 21.” And now we have Daunte Wright, a 20 year old. RIP.
Please provide citation to the statistic that black people are supposed to be dead or in jail by 21.
Elijah McClain 😞
DMV hand book look up’’ what to do when pulled over’’’ looks like he’s just reading for the manual
The ‘’talk’’ came from the DMV hand book
It's not more likely to be those statistics, but it is alarmingly high. Looks like you play some slide guitar, that's cool man. 🤘
I got "The Talk" when I was around 3rd grade, my mom always told me that I had to call them sir or ma'am, never move without informing, and never move suddenly or try to grab for anything, do what they tell you, keep your hands where they can see you, and don't become one of those people on the news.
This made me cry, I had the talk with my daughter when she was 4. I remember getting pulled over once at night and she got scared, I reminded her to be quiet and not say anything, no matter what. She was 3 at the time.
Started "the talk" with my daughter when she was in Kindergarten because I remember being harrassed by a store clerk when I was 5 years old and wanted to make sure she wasn't as confused and surprised as I was for being mistreated simply because of the color of her skin smh
I am so sorry. What a heartbreaking conversation to have to have with an innocent little girl. I really hope things can get better, but it's been so long and it seems to just be getting worse as a whole. Please understand there are people outside looking in that are just achingly frustrated and not knowing how to make the change. As an individual it's hard for me to understand the mind frame of someone who could treat someone different that way. Having said that, that doesn't mean I'm not aware it's happening non-stop. I've even been a cashier before and couldn't imagine looking at a cute little brown baby girl and her beautiful mama and treating them any different than I would any other pleasant person that comes my way.
Wow thank you for that! That really means a lot. It's always difficult to tell who will be the one to be so cruel. But it's easier to go through this journey knowing there are people like you who simply just loves the overall human experience like I do! 😊 Blessings!
@@sharithebaglady3842 Wow thank you for that! That really means a lot. It's always difficult to tell who will be the one to be so cruel. But it's easier to go through this journey knowing there are people like you who simply just loves the overall human experience like I do! 😊 Blessings!
Please educate our people white people have Neanderthal dna that’s a scientific fact, that is the difference and you should educate you kids about it
DMV hand book look up’’ what to do when pulled over’’’ looks like he’s just reading for the manual
The ‘’talk’’ came from the DMV hand book
I'm a 14 year old black boy. My dad literally pulled me and my Brother (16) in his office to have the talk.
did he say to ALWAYS comply?
I hope we can make big enough changes in this country so you don't have to have the talk with your children!
@@igvc1876 Not everything. Like never let them open your door if you can. Ask if you're detained, then ask them if they can leave the premise
But until we do, I'm glad your dad is teaching you young men how to try to protect yourselves
Hope you never have to experience that treatment in the future, stay safe!
My oldest son is about to get his license. What I once felt was a milestone. Now bring so much fear and anxiety.
5:37 “It’s definitely wrong, that we have to go through this. But we have to take it in stride, if we want to get where we want to be...in life”
He is one wise & brave young man. Hopefully kid, hopefully we’ll get there.
All of this.
I'm white, but I've been told about The Talk by friends. And it's one thing to discuss it as older teens and adults. But watching a father and his 8-year-old daughter going through even just a part of it?
I really hated humanity as I watched that little girl rattling off all her information, knowing that even that might not save her. -.-
Are there any examples of police interrogating 8 year old girls?
There are examples of police shooting at and killing a 7 year old girl without asking any questions.
@@gueverdura6717 Multiple. Google it. 9-year-old girl pepper-sprayed in NY. Excessive force against an 11-year-old girl in New Mexico. A 6-year-old girl in Orlando getting arrested... All within the last two years and that's just the first page without much digging. Cops can and will go after minority children so 'the talk' is necessary for their safety.
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@@gueverdura6717 You sure live in a bubble. Must be nice.
"maybe just maybe the police need to be taught how to act around black people"....Well said trevor
Then silence, no end credit music. Leaves you thinking 🤔
They are taught, and they do exactly that
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@@harveydent8667 hi from the Middle East.
@@yvette.3075 There is a time for jokes (sometimes even macabre ones) and there is a time to forget about being funny but get serious and tell the world how f***ed up the situation is. When I first heard about 'The Talk' years ago I cried. Watching this video now my eyes are wet again. I despair of the stupidity, ignorance and wickedness of the world. Thank you Trevor for spreading the word.
When lil Ms Williams gave her introduction it made me cry as a mother children should be introducing themselves with what their favorite colors, sports, foods, activities are, instead her hands are raised and letting us know she is unarmed.
What that eight year-old girl said broke my f**king heart.
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not mine because it's total BS
My mom is white (I'm mixed) and she didn't realize she needed to have that talk with me until I'd been handcuffed by police for 'trespassing.' I was house/dog-sitting for her coworker while they took a day trip to some vineyards when I had a medical emergency and called for help. Police just couldn't believe a young brown teen would be asked to housesit a place in a gated community so after I was treated at the hospital, I had to wait with the officer in the E.R. lobby, cuffed to my chair, for her to arrive. And boy was it majestic seeing her channel her inner Karen to shout that officer down for handcuffing a child. But afterward, when she was calm and we were home, she finally understood what I meant when I said people don't treat me in the same manner as you. I don't get the benefit of a doubt, I get suspicion and fear and disbelief.
There's this influencer I follow on IG. She's black and her husband is white. She says she's hyper aware that the privilege her husband enjoys will never extend to her son because of her blood in him. I'm of the opinion that the black parent will always be tasked (more) with raising a mixed kid because of lived and shared experiences. That's really sad.
I hate that you went through this. You keep your head up! For this very reason, I've made a point of talking to my best friend(white) with 2 mixed race boys(first and second graders) about the fact that she'll need to have "the talk" with her son's. I told her, if she's not comfortable doing so to find a community leader of color to do so. We talk a lot about the fact that she is raising you young black men...even though they are mixed... and she need not forget that.
this just has to stop, how can grown people be so scared of a certain skin color? those are even supposed to be trained to deescalate yet they escalate as soon as they see you!
@@naotamf1588 We mustn't forget, it's the history of policing. It was never "to protect and serve" people of color. Also, I believe they're just repeating the same patterns of colonization more than it being "fear" of us.
@@joylastname3035 I get what you're saying, but my father was dead so it wasn't really a choice of who could give me the 'police-interaction' talk or the 'how to do your hair' talk. There are probably families who have adopted black children that are in the same boat I was in regarding how to properly deal with people's snap-reactions of my appearance rather than my personhood. The hair talk wasn't a necessity (I figured that out on my own, eventually), but the policing talk isn't something that should be left to chance. It only takes a single interaction to go wrong.
What's sad is that complying does not guarantee your safety.
The military dude was pulled over over his car tag...which he actually had on.
You spit'n all types of facts!
That part!
99.99% it does.
Yes. It does.
I just broke down into tears when that 8 year old had to say her speech.
don't believe the lie
I Remember My Dad Telling Me, My Brothers & Our Friends Every Time We Went Out At Night In A Car, "You Boys Be Careful". Every Time. And We Knew What He Meant.
That baby reciting those words broke my heart.
i puked in my mouth.
DMV hand book look up’’ what to do when pulled over’’’ looks like he’s just reading for the manual
The ‘’talk’’ came from the DMV hand book
Watching that little girl raising her arms and saying those lines made my heart hurt a little.
This shouldn't be happening, it really shouldn't.
It's really heartbreaking to see that.
Right why would parents scare their kids other than just tell them to listen be respectful and don’t resist or brake the law
@@dmedina6835 we both know it ain’t that simple. What’s sad isn’t the parents doing this, it’s what makes the parents have to do this in the first place. Look at where being calm and complying got Caron Nazario. And what point are you tryna make if teaching the kid to be calm and respectful is exactly what they’re doing?
Broke me some...
That made me want to cry. Then Trevor made his joke about being bullied by 8-year-olds. :-P
Seriously, though, that whole segment is terrifying and, as a black woman, one I know well. I don't think my parents gave me too much of a talk. They were more laser-focused on my younger brother. While these situations happen to black people of all genders, the incidents with black men are shown the most when it comes to traffic stops.
I'm 38, and my mother will still remind me, about police. The talk will happ6for the rest of our lives.
That 8 year old broke my heart..... Heart broken and angry at the same time. Why must it be like that just so a human being can survive?
That ending. Spot on. That eight-year-old girl.... I think I broke inside.
Me too...
Me too. Can't stop thinking about her and her words.
Are there any examples of police interrogating an 8 year old girl?
@@gueverdura6717 I dont remember where this happened, but I watched a video in which a police office had a black woman and her children (probably 6 or 7 years old) on the floor. These poor kids were crying their eyes out....heartbreaking.
@@gueverdura6717 I got 'pulled over' by police when I was walking home with Scholastic treats (e.g. calendars, odds & ends... the kind your parents force their coworkers to buy). They thought I might have stolen the items. I had to show them the purchase form and who had bought what and that it was all accounted for save for a couple items that hadn't come in yet. So yes...
"Sorry Officer, I didn't know I couldn't do that" - Dave Chappelle's white friend, Chip
My husband is white and our children have his skin color. We have literally practiced the Chappelle act since they were 3 to "stand next to Daddy and pretend Mommy is the maid" if the police ever break in.
@@claressalucas8922 are you from South Africa ?! Because you sound like Trevor Noah's Mom.
@@claressalucas8922 it's truly sad. But unfortunately one has to resort to such things to deal with the police.
@@rasadams9034 I grew up in Alabama when George Wallace was governor, so yeah, very much like Trevor's S. Africa.
Do you
I’m in actual tears since the little girl talked. This is heartbreaking... 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽♥️♥️♥️
That little girl just completely broke my heart 😢💔
My mom taught me to drive to a well lit place if I were to ever get stopped by the police at night.
put on your hazards so the officers know you are acknowledging their presence and don't think you are ignoring them
Bad advice if it's a marked car and a well lit area is miles away. That's considered fleeing and increases the chance of getting an officer's gun pulled on you. As someone else said, definitely use your flashers.
...also, Call 911 and let them know that who are driving, in a dark area and have a 🚔 behind you. Inform the dispatcher that you don't feel safe and that you are going to a well lit area.
Sad side note: The Army guy (in uniform) did ALL the above and STILL was threatened, had guns drawn on him, pepper sprayed more than once, and roughed up and arrested.
Dont they teach that in drivers ed? I was taught you dont pull over to the side of the road unless its absolutely necessary because its dangerous to you and the officers, its best to pull over to an area away from the main road like a public parking lot or gas station.
I had never heard of this, until the army men was stopped. I was discussing it with my mom and she immediately agreed. I'll be sure to do that in the future (with the hazards on).
I got pulled over for switching lanes too slow. I definitely had "The Talk" with my sons. Cops in america will always be bullies to us on the road.
You brought back a memory i had of a coworkers experience. On his lunch break he got pulled over for changing lanes too many times. Something id never heard of. But as an unaware 19 year old white kid i was thinking wait what.. Was he? I didn't see the situation for what it was or how serious it could have gotten.
Did you also resist
DMV hand book look up’’ what to do when pulled over’’’ looks like he’s just reading for the manual
The ‘’talk’’ came from the DMV hand book
I got pulled over a few months ago because the cop said my dog was moving around to much pitmastiff 100lbs I asked him is that even against the law because me and my dog are always together he said well it can be against the law if he cause's an accident I ran to the station the following morning to file my complaint and I emailed the mayor and the city supervisor cops are out of control
I cried so hard when I watched this video. I had to have that talk with my son when he was just six years old and starting school.
My school is super diverse with children of all different backgrounds and children of all different races and ethnicities. My history teacher gave us ALL the talk.
My mother had told me this when I was about 8. ( I am 15 now but I still remember it word for word) She said, "don't reach for the glove compartment, use yes sir and no sir when talking, and don't get defensive about what the officer asks you." in all honesty looking back this is what made me feel like cops were the wolves in sheep's clothing.
I saw father get pulled over a couple of times while driving. He always said sir, yes sir as if he were still in the army. I later realized that he said it to avoid any trouble. I do the same thing now.
I’m crying especially hearing that cute 8 y.o girl reenactment to the talk. It’s hard wrenching and I’m not even living in USA. Can’t imagine the stress and fear they have to live in day to day.
It's all about playing the victim & having no knowledge of facts
*heart wrenching
DMV hand book look up’’ what to do when pulled over’’’ looks like he’s just reading for the manual
The ‘’talk’’ came from the DMV hand book
This is absolutely heartbreaking.
I had a colleague that lives in a rich side of town. Her n her husband make a decent living and have luxury vehicles. She told me her 18 y.o. was driving with her friend and neighbors called the cops because it was suspicious that two black kids had access to a brand new luxury car. The Talk is real and i cant imagine having to experience that. We need to do better as a society.
i had to give my youngest brother the talk.
he told me that wasn't his reality. I said I pray it isn't.
today at lunch he thanked me for preparing him for what he couldn't see yet.
Don't resist detainment, all will go well
The ‘talk with the kids’ part really broke my heart 💔 It’s a survival mode that also empowers the police’s ‘positioning’. The police know that they’re taught to ‘obey’.
This trigger happiness is something the american police is well known for around the world. When my Family and I (white, male, European) visited america a few years ago, a week before the flight my parents sat me and my siblings down to give us "The Talk" about how to behave around the police. Things like don't move quickly, be polite, keep your hands where the officer can see them, don't turn away from the officer, do exactly as you're instructed and don't ever do anything without asking. Quite honestly I was shocked it never occured to me that one needs rules on how to interact with the police.
5:57 this clip brought tears to my eyes. A little girl should never have to prepare for a situation like that
I use to be a foreign exchange student and I once visited the US to talk with kids about my country basically (I’m sure you know) and I swear that black students would ask me and other foreign exchange students what police was like in our country and at the time I thought it was because they were interest in law enforcement but then when I got older, it hit me on why they asked those questions
Here in Ethiopia(Africa), police don’t do traffic stops. There are special kind of traffic police who conduct this things and they ride on a motor bikes and only carry a ticket pad and no weapon, not even the stick thing they beat you with. Maybe America needs to do the same
They don't carry a weapon? and ride on a motorbike? don't think that would work out for police over here, but nice try.
I understand that one of the problems is precisely that, in Us make police deal with everything.
Great comment. I really hope we can implement this, just like we can fund social workers and mediators to intervene when there is someone needing help during mental distress. Police with guns are less needed than we think for thriving, safe communities.
@@jessicabrown8087 you joking?
I agree only traffic police should stop people for such things as tail light etc cos lights don't give notice they're going to blow. It would be great if they did. In Ireland police are not armed unless in rate cases and we're seeing now that the few times an armed police officer is send as backup things don't always end well.
My African-American son is six and I have been having "the talk" since he was three. And we have "the talk" everytime we see a police car, which is every week.
And you don’t just have the talk once, it’s over and over. It’s a heartache that we carry, at times it becomes unbearable.
Yes, my son initially got the talk at 10 and 11 years old. I bring it up every now and them so they are prepared. My dad first gave me the talk when I was about 12.
Thank you for this. I tear up every time I watch that 8 year old girl say those lines.
Ironically, the comment about how doing nothing wrong while driving is incredibly suspicious is actually scarily accurate.
When cops see people going out of their way to obey all the traffic laws, they start wondering if that person is deliberately trying to go unnoticed because they have something to hide.
America, The most Racist country in the World. Violating Human rights 👹 #SanctionRacistUSA
I have a friend whose daughter was stopped driving while black. And the police had the nerve to tell her she was driving too cautiously. You can't win. Someone needs to make police accountable for their deplorable behavior.
@@harveydent8667 USA #1
Imagine being brainwashed to believe law abiding citizens are criminals. Everything’s a nail to a hammer
Im 39 this is exactly how I address an officer w both arms hanging out the window. Just trying to get home, alive.
I am white and I got the talk too! I think every parent in America needs to have that talk with their children no matter what color they are!
When I was growing up my parents also had "the talk for girls."
I hope we come up with a solution for this soon. My heart is breaking for the families.
@Antichrist the how to not get r*ped talk
Actually girls need both talks. Was glad to see that father with his. And the don’t get r*ped talk SHOULD be called how to help protect yourself BC these methods are not foolproof for both methods.
Ah yes "the other talk" for girls: Watch your drinks, don't go anywhere alone with anyone, always check your backseat, keys can gouge eyes, punch em in the nuts.
The talk for I got (I'm a white woman) about the police was just, "be resepectful and keep your hands where they can see them unless they ask you to do something."
Start a conversation in your community. Share this video to start changing points of view. That's the only way we're going to affect change.
That eight year old really broke my heart. This makes me appreciate being South African a whole lot more. American cops need to do better
Brah like this is just depressing, cause a police interaction here is solved with a R20; whereas there it's a death trap 🤦♂️ 🤦♂️
It amazes me how privileged we are to be able to argue or even joke with officers.
cops are fine, people need to learn to not resist arrest and follow what the cop says, that would cut down these things 99%
@@peterstoops5683 you must be a white guy
We need outsides to start putting pressure on the USA in the same way that outsiders put pressure on the South African government to end apartheid.
One reason why I still haven’t gotten a license at 21 nor do I have the urge to drive.
well they have started rolling up in our front yards claiming they got a call
Recently had this talk with my 9yo grandson while fighting back the tears.
Just had this talk with my 9 year old son for the first time and again with my 17 year son. It hurts every time I have to talk about it...
Has anyone seen that video of a black guy getting pulled over for doing 65 in a 70... The police was like "you were doing 65, in a 70.... I was wondering if you ok"
yup, i did. there is literally nothing you can do that they won't pull you over for if they feel like it: pretext stop.
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@@nonyabizness.original One time in highschool I was pulled over for having "too many people in the car"... The cop pulled me over , and I literally had 4 people (including myself) in a 5 seater car.... Once he realized that he proceeded to write me a ticket for "transporting people while on a provisionary drivers license"... I told him to look at my license which literally has the words printed on it "provisionary until age 18"... Then I said "look at my birthdate"... "I've been 18 for 2 months"... He said "idk, that's something you're gunna have to take up with the judge"
@@henroids_ wow that’s pretty unprofessional of him
Sounds helpful and concern
I'm white. I immigrated to this country at 16, and I have just a slim idea how scary police (or immigration officers) can be. I was in the army, so I have an idea of how it looks on the other end too.
I didn't understand. I thought I did, I didn't. I got pulled off several times, and every single time I just thought being honest and straightforward with the cops will be fine. I got checked for weapons once, reached for a wallet, and the cop told me "put your HAND DOWN now" and he had a hand on a gun... so yeah, I thought I understand. But I didn't. I am just now grasping the idea that I have no f*cking idea.
Thanks Trevor. This is so important. Please keep it up!
You have a way of getting to the heart of the matter. Thank you for this. That last line says it all - “Maybe, it’s time for the police to have the talk about Black people. “ It’s way past time.
I’m honestly scared all this news about ppl dying really ruined my birthday week😞it hurts and as a black boy I am scared and I just hope one day all this will stop
I'm sorry, I'm a black girl and hurts me too! Happy Birthdays and I hope you get wonderful gifta!
Happy birthday!
Happy birthday! I'm sorry you're feeling scared. Put your trust in Jesus and always pray. He will protect you. You also have a community of people that support you.
I’m white and this is extremely helpful in understanding. Thank you
Thank you for your openness and effort to understand. It makes a difference.
The talk has kept me alive so far. It goes a long way since every stop is roulette. And for those who don't believe, yes they will stop you even if you're doing nothing wrong. They will just question you, run your license, and then let you go (hopefully).
I'm a woman in my 50's never been arrested but I've been pulled over a lot in my lifetime told to get out of my car sat on the ground handcuffed while my 6yr old son sat in our car crying cops asking to search my car because I drove though a particular neighborhood pulled over by CHP accused of not having a seatbelt on my son another time pulled over by the cops for driving a new suv asked where I worked approached by cops at the park for causing a disturbance because I refused to give up a bench table that I reserved for my son's bday party and I can go on and on even before our children become adults we're targeted they get to know you so they can identify who your children are this will be never ending for blacks mexicans hispanics latinos until we dismantle that power structure the whole system needs to abolished and reconstructed racism is alive and doing very well and has been since the beginning and organization of the KKK policing is an extension of the KKK using modern day practices the only things that have changed is their uniforms and the times
I remember first getting The Talk from my parents when I hit my growth spurt right around 12 years old. It's possible they'd said something before, but once I started to get taller it became frequent. A lot of what others said in this video were part of The Talk I'd received. I hated hearing it but it was and still is unfortunately necessary.
My 16 year old son is half Mexican, and part Native American, and I’ve had the talk with him many times, including today, before he drives on a 3 hour trip tomorrow. None of my white friends have this talk
No, we don't. 💔 The closest I've ever come has been to tell my daughters that if they are pulled over late at night in a secluded place to call someone and let them know because you can't trust them.
My kids are part Mexican. One son looks full blooded Mexican. I have talked to him about this before I knew there was The Talk.
@@lauriejones4507 lol sounds like you had the talk then. Hahaha
DMV hand book look up’’ what to do when pulled over’’’ looks like he’s just reading for the manual
The ‘’talk’’ came from the DMV hand book
The guy who mentioned how your heart races when you get pulled over was not exaggerating. Twice I've been in cars that were pulled over and both times, I was a passenger. One time I was in the passenger seat and the other I was in the back seat and it's so anxiety inducing especially when they shine a light in your face.
They do that to see who you are and if you have weapons.. Put yourself in cops shoes
True.
When will this be over? It's tough to hold back tears watching this. Being Black, it feels like being Black automatically condemns you as a criminal
When that 8 years old girl spoke I broke down and cried....and Yah said one day I will turn back your captivity right before your eyes...Yah does not forget Isreal.
Oh my gosh...that 8 year old...hearing her say those words and knowing she HAS to know those words just to stay safe or to stay ALIVE. Broke. My. Heart.
DMV hand book look up’’ what to do when pulled over’’’ looks like he’s just reading for the manual
The ‘’talk’’ came from the DMV hand book
@@frefra101 Are you serious? Are you really trying to diminish what's being said? The little girl is EIGHT YEARS OLD. She's not driving and she still has to memorize these words. It's not about the source material for The Talk, it's the fact that The Talk has to be done in the first place. Unreal...
@@frefra101 which dmv handbook. Cite your source.
@@ashakiwest4244 DMV Nevada page 43.... What to do when stopped by law enforcement.... I been pulled over 20 plus times, have revived 7 tickets and fought 4 in court and been handcuffed twice and I'm still breathing. Follow the instructions on the handbook and fight the police in court and not with your fist and maybe these kids will learn something and if you do the opposite of the handbook , you will definitely be shot or roughed up by the police ...
There's an education crisis not an race crisis here in America cause you can teach a less educated person that the world hates you cause of your color and they will believe it and an educated person will say that sounds ignorant . Makes sense but common sense is only understood with a GPA of 1.0 or higher
*This* , mister trump, is what happens when you tell cops to “don’t be so nice” and then call yourself the “the lease racist person you’ll ever interview.”
Cops where never nice to us in the first place.
This has been a problem long before Trump.
This made me cry.... to see a little one having to hold up their hands and practice saying they're unarmed..... it's heartbreaking to think our children have to grow up in fear of those who swore to protect and serve...
Born and raised in Taiwan, my dad never had to have The Talk with me.
I guess that’s why my dad never wanted to move back to the states.
Just imagine how different my live would have been......
It’s just “Simon Says” but if your child loses and the master with the gun decides they die... you have one less child
I guess its "Simon Legree Says!"
Come on
Oh,....F*CK ME, the thread was hijacked!
"Simon Says" shows why there should never be a version where you are killed when you make a mistake. People unintentionally make mistakes all the time, even when they are trying to comply with instructions. If people could continuously follow instructions without error there would be no "simon says" game. If everytime someone made an unintentional mistake they were killed then virtually no one would be alive.
@@peterwein1716 Wow....I've played that game many times. Some people must play....for life.
I sort of had that talk with my son (we are both white) when he was high school age. He liked wearing a duster, but noticed he got followed and watched in stores because of it. He liked the coat for the sci-fi/gaming, not Columbine, references... Our talk was simple, I reminded him that his choices have consequences - and at least he can change his coat. Many of his friends get much worse treatment just for the color of their skin.
Exactly. We need action and we can start by sharing thos video and start having The Talk about DWB: Driving While Black. We need a change in points of views.
I am in tears. How can we actually cause a change? Because nothing is changing.
Speak to members of your community. Share this video. We have to start by changing points of views. Did you know about The Talk before this video? I know my caucasian coworker didn't know about until I shared that my parents had to have this particular talk with me and my siblings when we were very young. Whereas the only Talk he or his brother, who was also a coworker, will have with their nephews/sons, respectively, will be the birds/bees and how to treat girls talk.
I am white. It’s not only saddens me, but it also makes me furious when I think about how black parents have to have “ the talk”with their children! There should not be any necessity for black parents to do so with their children! It’s their country as well! This is so warped! So much has to change in this country! It is perverse that black parents have to have this kind of “talk” with their children. So much has a change in this country if we all, as a whole nation, want to succeed even more!!!!
My adoptive sister is Black. Her mother gave me this talk in my first few months of living in the US.
Yeah, anyone with brown skin has to worry about this in the US. 🙁
@@ima.m.1658 They really don't as long as they are polite and do as asked.
@@ima.m.1658 no, listen to the popo and don’t run. Pretty easy. Oh and twice as many unarmed white people then blacks.
@@mattfromtinder1055 your ignorance is disgusting, man.
@@brownkemosabe how many times have you guns pulled on u by cops???
Hearing that baby say that was heart crushing. 😔
I've had to have the talk with my child, and I continue to remind her. It's not just when driving, you could have these interactions anywhere.
Listening 2 my parents speak on the fear they felt everyday broken heart. The situations I went through a d continue 2 face smfh. Yes we all got THE TALK. Make it home