This is confirmation for my upcoming school year!!! I've always felt that building relationships with kids was the key to discipline in my middle school classroom. I will certainly be implementing "conscious discipline"
@rjkennedy1978 Hey, I just found another clip that perhaps further explains how to address the danger of crossing the street alone, using the language of unity versus the language of fear. Personally, with my son, we would talk about crossing together and doing the steps of crossing safely together. Many parents lead children across; try walking with him as the leader, looking both ways, judging the conditions, etc.
I have a two year-old who thinks he doesn't have to stop when I say "stop". I'd like to see him live to be three and not get hit by a car. What am I supposed to do about that while I'm waiting for him to have this eppiffany about how much he likes me and wants to stop when I warn him to stop because our relationship is so good and he trusts my advise so much? How does the fact that he's completely incapable of understanding what I'm trying to warn him about factor in?
Setting boundaries and limits is a big part of being in relationship. Our relationship with our children depends on setting clear limits. There are rules in life we all have to follow but it’s how we enforce those rules and guidelines that is important.
@parentingbeyondbehaviours6382 Yes setting limits before hand definitely helps, also tell then why, not just a NO and a Stop, my 3yr old can test me but I always tell him why we do things a certain way and the next time he remembers and doesn't repeat the behavior
hello, such advanced higher consciousness stuff, thank you, fabulous, so clear, so easy to understand, MY QUESTION, HOW DO WE BRIDGE THE GAP FROM THE OLD FEAR BASED PARENTING TO CONSCIOUS DISCIPLINE....please make a video on this, how to get started and bridge the gap, when kids are used to rewards/punishment/angry faces to help out around the house etc....
@taryntnoglo1 I disagree. "Harsh" and/or "abusive" consequences are just those: consequences. It's a feed-backwards approach to shaping behaviors that has been proven consistently ineffective in all psychological research. Rather than the "consequence" of harsh and/or abusive behavior, it is actually the environment created by that behavior (an escape-oriented environment) that causes an organism to change most strongly and rapidly. The same can be accomplished "ethically" but usually isn't.
@rjkennedy1978 Dr. Baily is not saying you shouldn't stop your 2 year old. The point is to control your brain state when you correct his behavior. It is easy for us as parents to become upset when our children act in any unsafe manner. It triggers our Fight or Flight response for the moment in order to help us protect our child, but as soon as the child is safe, we often remain in the brain stem where we cannot rationally talk with our child and help them to be conscious as well as us.
@Kat8kit. You might be interested to see the story of Ginny Luther and her son Bart. Ginny has made it her mission in life to empower the military in fostering emotional intelligence throughout their services. I cannot post a link on this page, but it is the first video found if you search youtube for Ginny Luther.
It is wonderful on paper, but isn't how our world works today. Don't get me wrong, I do love the idea. However, our world doesn't work this way and there are families who will abuse and manipulate your kinder, gentler approach to things. I love conscious discipline due to its approaches being more reflective and applies practices to better oneself which correlates to the beliefs of SocioCyberEngineering (the idea of finding the best practices, principals and methods to resolve conflicts, problems and other problematic issues of society, using scientific and technological ways to do so). However, as I had stated before can this truly be applied fully in todays' world that still uses punishment as a method to correct behavior?
This method can definitely work however it depends on where and when you decide to start if this is new to you you might have been using traditional discipline before so there would be some serious work to be done to reverse all the mistakes you have made so you can now move into conscious discipline
@LindseyTorres That is a perfect activity. It help the child understand the need to stop at the command to stop, but it does it in a positive loving manner in a playful way. I really hope rjkennedy1978 reads your post
This is confirmation for my upcoming school year!!! I've always felt that building relationships with kids was the key to discipline in my middle school classroom. I will certainly be implementing "conscious discipline"
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This is one of the first programs I used as a teacher. Love it!
I looooove that making an 8month old eating peas is like making someone stop smoking/drinking. 😆 🤣 😂
Very interesting information, this is vital and important to practice implementing "Conscious Discipline" in a Pre-K classroom.
Thank you for this information it’s a good addition to what we do
@rjkennedy1978 Hey, I just found another clip that perhaps further explains how to address the danger of crossing the street alone, using the language of unity versus the language of fear. Personally, with my son, we would talk about crossing together and doing the steps of crossing safely together. Many parents lead children across; try walking with him as the leader, looking both ways, judging the conditions, etc.
I have a two year-old who thinks he doesn't have to stop when I say "stop". I'd like to see him live to be three and not get hit by a car. What am I supposed to do about that while I'm waiting for him to have this eppiffany about how much he likes me and wants to stop when I warn him to stop because our relationship is so good and he trusts my advise so much? How does the fact that he's completely incapable of understanding what I'm trying to warn him about factor in?
Did he survive
“Eating peas” comparison notwithstanding, I don’t think this is meant to be for 2 year olds who have no idea what’s going on around them
Setting boundaries and limits is a big part of being in relationship. Our relationship with our children depends on setting clear limits. There are rules in life we all have to follow but it’s how we enforce those rules and guidelines that is important.
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Waiting on an update.
@parentingbeyondbehaviours6382 Yes setting limits before hand definitely helps, also tell then why, not just a NO and a Stop, my 3yr old can test me but I always tell him why we do things a certain way and the next time he remembers and doesn't repeat the behavior
hello, such advanced higher consciousness stuff, thank you, fabulous, so clear, so easy to understand, MY QUESTION, HOW DO WE BRIDGE THE GAP FROM THE OLD FEAR BASED PARENTING TO CONSCIOUS DISCIPLINE....please make a video on this, how to get started and bridge the gap, when kids are used to rewards/punishment/angry faces to help out around the house etc....
@taryntnoglo1 I disagree. "Harsh" and/or "abusive" consequences are just those: consequences. It's a feed-backwards approach to shaping behaviors that has been proven consistently ineffective in all psychological research. Rather than the "consequence" of harsh and/or abusive behavior, it is actually the environment created by that behavior (an escape-oriented environment) that causes an organism to change most strongly and rapidly. The same can be accomplished "ethically" but usually isn't.
@rjkennedy1978 Dr. Baily is not saying you shouldn't stop your 2 year old. The point is to control your brain state when you correct his behavior. It is easy for us as parents to become upset when our children act in any unsafe manner. It triggers our Fight or Flight response for the moment in order to help us protect our child, but as soon as the child is safe, we often remain in the brain stem where we cannot rationally talk with our child and help them to be conscious as well as us.
so cool.....!....thanx 4 making...much love Tee with LIONS NAMED LEO ! [the band]...
@Kat8kit. You might be interested to see the story of Ginny Luther and her son Bart. Ginny has made it her mission in life to empower the military in fostering emotional intelligence throughout their services.
I cannot post a link on this page, but it is the first video found if you search youtube for Ginny Luther.
I'd like to see the research on this approach, sounds good but I'm skeptical.
It is wonderful on paper, but isn't how our world works today. Don't get me wrong, I do love the idea. However, our world doesn't work this way and there are families who will abuse and manipulate your kinder, gentler approach to things. I love conscious discipline due to its approaches being more reflective and applies practices to better oneself which correlates to the beliefs of SocioCyberEngineering (the idea of finding the best practices, principals and methods to resolve conflicts, problems and other problematic issues of society, using scientific and technological ways to do so). However, as I had stated before can this truly be applied fully in todays' world that still uses punishment as a method to correct behavior?
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This method can definitely work however it depends on where and when you decide to start if this is new to you you might have been using traditional discipline before so there would be some serious work to be done to reverse all the mistakes you have made so you can now move into conscious discipline
@rjkennedy1978 Sorry the clip wouldn't post. Just do a search for "The Language of Unity: Conscience Discipline(R).
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@LindseyTorres That is a perfect activity. It help the child understand the need to stop at the command to stop, but it does it in a positive loving manner in a playful way. I really hope rjkennedy1978 reads your post
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