Why Japanese Are Choosing to Stay Single
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- čas přidán 22. 06. 2024
- This week I talk to Asagi, a dating expert from Japan, about the dating scene in Japan. From parasocial relationships and how they are taking over the real relationships, how online dating differs in Japan, what "tatemae" means and why it's important to know about it before going out and dating.. and much much more.
Asagi's Instagram: / asagine
Asagi's CZcams: / @asagislifenobsjapan
Each week I will interview guests from all around the world on the topics of culture, connection and of course, dating. The goal is to go as deep as possible and to really understand where we all come from and how much culture influences our life.
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0:00 Intro
2:30 Why is Japan rated the loneliest country in the world?
9:30 How can a foreigner make friends in Japan?
12:37 Do Japanese prefer dating Westerners?
16:55 What stereotypes do you get as a Japanese woman?
22:20 Do Japanese men prefer soft spoken women?
24:12 Are Japanese less interested in marriage?
26:33 Do Japanese men no longer want to be in a relationship?
27:49 How did parasocial relationships impact Japanese dating?
33:57 Why are Japanese interested in non-s*sexual contact?
40:15 Renting friends in Japan
42:34 Do Japanese use marriage agencies?
44:50 How is Japanese online dating different?
51:28 The most Japanese word
53:00 What is "tatamae"?
58:00 Do Japanese actually cheat a lot?
1:04:00 Is pr0sititution socially accepted? - Zábava
Thanks for having me on your show Marina-san 🤗 It was nice chatting with you! (and this is not Tatemae haha)
You too Asagi-san ☺️
Loneliness, working long hours, having no life in the big cities of Japan is a real thing
I am definitely not a fan of Tataemae and Honne which is just they have two faces literally, they won't express their real feelings to people they don't know or trust and will hide them they will only share their real self with those who are close to them emotionally which tend to be really good friends and family. In western culture we call that being two faced or having a facade. I just think that its got a lot of downsides to it because Japanese people are almost passive aggressive in a lot of ways and to me that is super unhealthy. People think oh yeah so polite but in all honest they could be really thinking "I hate you" but will pretend to care when they really don't. Like someone says it is about keeping the harmony but its almost like a pot that is boiling and it's ready to explode, it's the pressure and expectations of the society that really stresses Japanese people out in a lot of ways and makes them unhappy. I also think that the way people are avoiding relationships is just not realistic, you have to put effort into any relationship you have even if its friends and family and if you think you will avoid drama lol that is funny. The thing is life is life, we have ups and downs. Avoiding life and reality isn't going to go away it just isolates more which causes depression and then it causes other issues. So I think that Japan needs to really have a campaign for mental health. One of their biggest issues is needing to acknolwedge mental health instead of thinking it's taboo.
@michelleg7
Well said and I couldn't agree more. I was wondering if you are a Japanese lady or a Gaijin lady. If you are a Japanese lady, I admire you for being so honne and daring to make such insightful comments.
If you are a Gaijin lady, I also admire you for your discernment to have made such insightful comments. Aside from Tatemae vs honne, 男尊女卑 is a big issue in Japan and can cause mental and emotional problems. Woman enpowerment is very much needed in Japan and I reckon Asagi san is a lady who supports women empowerment in Japan - correct me if I am wrong.
Asagi san is one special and extraordinary lady in Japan. She is not afraid to speak up problems/issues in Japan. She is honest and pretty direct and she is great.
I wish there would be more Japanese ladies like her - voice out and be true to themselves to protect their mental health.
Have a lovely day!
Concept of Honne Tatemae exist every where. It's simply too strong in Japan
Its normal and reasonable. For example, you're not completely you when you're working (you act more professional, polite, etc)
Women have change around the world
It’s Japan, you’re made for that.
What an amazing video!
A lot of men worldwide have just chosen to give up on women
Facts!
These webcasts are far too long in length. To keep good attention I think under 20 minutes is enough.
Because this is too long I will just keep scrolling through the video quickly to get it over and done with under the 20 minutes.
It's a podcast they're usually this long on any standard. A real conversation
Women now days in so many places want to be boss babes
The birth rates are going down in Japan
Marina, if you want to take a dive into the temporary japanese culture of sexuality and relationships in english language and with gags I'd highly recommend the channel @Meshida. Its title might be confusing (sth. with "comedy"), but its videos are not only funny but also informative.
Thank you! I will take a look. ☺️
He says a lot a bullshit too
@@MadaraUchiha-xb7dp Example, please?
@@Pewtah May be when he said all Japanese cheats
@@MadaraUchiha-xb7dp That is his humor.