If You Want To COMPLETELY HEAL Your Body & Mind, WATCH THIS! | Gabrielle Bernstein & Jay Shetty
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- čas přidán 19. 06. 2024
- Jay Shetty sits down with Gabrielle Bernstein to talk about how past trauma affects our daily life. Within us is our protector self, that part of us that takes over when we face fear, danger, sadness, longing, and feel hurt. And our protective self can sometimes stop us from taking chances, from taking risks. It can possibly hinder our growth and healing. Let’s tap into this inner version of us and make peace with our wounded self.
Gabrielle Bernstein is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor, and has written six additional bestsellers including her latest book, Super Attractor. Gabrielle was featured on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday as a “next-generation thought leader,” and The Oprah Winfrey Network chose Gabby to be part of the “SuperSoul 100,” a dynamic group of 100 trailblazers whose vision and life’s work are bringing a higher level of consciousness to the world. The New York Times identified her as “a new role model.”
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:02 What is happiness?
05:27 The concept of being present
11:54 We’re all running from trauma of some form
15:43 Our greatest protector part is to dissociate
19:25 “For my husband, Zach…”
22:18 How do you help someone help you?
29:36 Opening up something and not getting stuck in one place
32:40 Our physical conditions are psychosomatic
36:08 Carrying around shame
39:10 How do you fall in love with yourself again?
46:27 Dealing with your protector and exile parts
48:48 It’s not about getting out of it overnight
52:45 Thinking of trauma as a mother
55:38 Getting through postpartum depression
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“Trauma is the inability to be present”. Never heard it put that way.
Be still and be present-you will find peace. 🙏
This 😭😭❤
That's a quote from Peter Levine.
This is true, my mind always running and don't wanna be in the present moment, someone i knew has ocd mind because he have so much trauma
Very True.... Makes total sense!
@@flowieedenn oop😊
“Instead of “to-do lists” we need “to-be lists”. The question isn’t what do we want to do, it’s who we want to be.” - Jay Shetty ✨
Heavy gem❤
This…
So lovely ❤❤
So wise, so wonderful words♥️♥️♥️♥️🎁
That is incredible insight! Thank You for this little nugget of insight!
So many tears falling from my eyes listening this woman. What a beautiful soul
Hey bro, it will all get better. Stay strong and out in the work
I want to preface this by saying, I have been following your podcast for about 2.5 years. This is the first comment I’ve ever made simply because I listen to the podcast vs watch. I wanted to take time to say thank you. Just by listening to this episode, I’ve unearthed so much. This is the first time that I’ve felt the safest in my own body simply because I know that there is a way out. This episode may be my “pill bottle” that I have to now have to fill the prescription for. I’ve been looking to try therapy again and I’m so exited for that new path. THANK YOU! I’m truly grateful!
It's very inspiring life lesson for live the life easily
I never cared about her books and hearing that “the universe has your back” when my life was still looking the same no-matter how much theraphy or how many books I read felt uninspiring . Yet, when I heard Gabby say that her printing company called her about the book being too much and that even her husband was iffy about it , then I know she was up to something deep and real and now I can’t wait to read this book. Blessings !
Omg....I am traumatised and full of shame , have proteccted myself with several addictions over the years and didnt even realise, i kept thinking what is wrong with me, I'm in tears listening. Jay and Gabi you are really authentic so much love to you both ❤
This woman is absolutely out of space & down to earth ... at the same time! Thank you guys 🚀
Woah she's been through exactly the same learning journey as me in terms of moving through understanding CPTSD vs PTSD, somatic experience to come back in to the body and then understanding the fragmented consciousness, and those apparently dueling voices in your head that turn out are all trying to do the best for you.
That voice that is making you eat comfort food or take drugs is trying to protect you for past trauma. The key is to understand the purpose of those voices and be kind to them, which is the re-parenting process that our parents failed us on.
Finally Somebody Understands Me that's beautiful thank you I will try this I want to buy the book please
Being a parent to that traumatized part of one's childhood. That is awesome towards healing self. Thank you ❤️🙏
i loved this so much! i cried a few times because i can totally identify with everything you both were saying. This felt like i was sitting with friends having deep and meaningful conversation
I think it was such an eye opener when Gabby mentioned that everyone goes through trauma. You can’t live in this world without going through trauma. Just made me realize it’s not only certain people and the fact that bullying, someone calling you “stupid” can have an effect, etc. How powerful to hear that. It makes me realize I have a lot of work to do. I’m such an anxious person when it comes to talking in front of people, having people over.. and I think it’s due to past situations I’ve been in my childhood. So powerful to hear everyone go through trauma and how powerful trauma is in our everyday lives.
Detach from the outcome, let it go. You are always manifesting something, even if you’re manifesting things not manifesting. Trust the process.
~Much Love from a Law of Attraction CZcamsr💜
A friend send me this. I needed this so much to unverstand what I was doing to myself the last couple of month. This Episode with Gaby just gave me peace in my base line and remembered me of last year where I found out who I actually am from my Self. So no need to buy more food healthy or not, more drinks, more going out, be harder on my job. No! Just be who you want to be. Thank you so much for this Episode. 😭❤️🌈🥳
Life is not just about our child hood.
I've just come through my Shadow side and I'm ready for new beginnings.
I am the power and I am going after what I want💚🙏
My name is Kelly. I live in San Diego and visiting my dad in Washington this weekend. I am 52 and thanking God for finding and listening to this podcast with Gabi before I visit him. I have so many negative and hurt feelings from my childhood that are surfacing. I am scared, angry,hurt,etc,etc.. I connected with Gabi in so many ways during this podcast . Thank you and I am excited to read Happy Days..
I hope you have a peaceful visit with your dad. Peaceful days ahead🙏
I love my mom's lovely gentle speech,her smile,her soft actions,which can never be forgotten in my life.
Omgg… thanks for sharing this. I’ve vern struggling from chronic back pain for 5 years now. Conventional medicine never helped. Then I found Dr Sarno’s work and started to do his program (that is laid out in the book “Divided Mind”). It opened up a wound and here I am a week in the program, realizing what I’ve been running away internally. The back pain has diminished. Now I gotta let go of this trauma from my childhood. It’s not easy but it’s possible
Happiness is the ability to fully present in the movement ❤️🌸
Thank you Jay and Gabby so much for this episode. After experience the murder of my 26 year young grandson 9 months ago (9/22/21) every single trauma, both big T and little T, has come flooded to the forefront of my mind and body. "medication will give you a safer base-line so that you can do the deeper trauma work" BAM!!!!!!! I am in the process of putting together a team of Eastern and Western Healers, modalities, principles, and practices along with Spiritual beliefs and teachings, to guide me on this (never ending) journey of mind/body/soul health. I will add your book Happy Days, Gabby to the team as I am so willing to go to the depths of the darkness in me for the sake of healing. First, I need a safer base-line. THANK YOU!! ( I have both Jay and Gabby's books to help) I am a faithful fan of Jay and On Purpose Podcast and diligently follow wherever it is possible. I have now added Dear Gabby Podcast to my library.
This was quite the episode, many truths about all that trauma we carry around with us and then ends up getting tangled in other peoples' trauma to the point where we don't know whose trauma is whose! Thank you for sharing this Gaby and Jay
Thank you to Jay Shetty and Gabrielle Bernstein. You're both Godsend s.
Jay is the safest place for these other powerful healing souls to come forward and share. Jays space is so comforting to come to learn and to grow
Omg! This was such an insightful conversation. So many things she mentioned I am going through too and it somehow made it all real for me. Thank you.
Also everyone goes through trauma in human life is so so humbling.
I love the way Gaby talks about how the protectors come in, running away from the trauma, for me it shows up by not being able to stay present with others, trying to escape and push them away .... I feel like I was able to release shame from this pattern that I have been carrying because it's not that we want to throw away the protectors or be ashamed of them .... the re-parenting ourselves through seen, soothed, safe and secure .... I absolutely love that, even hearing you say that feels calming and healing.
This CD has three separate relaxation/meditation sessions on it czcams.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq guided by a very pleasant and direct male voice. Unlike so many other products of its type, this CD does not have bad synthesizer music, does not feature a phony or affected style of narration, and does not make any bogus claims to be subliminal or to re-train the brain or any of that balderdash. What you get is 1. a guided meditation for getting into a pleasantly relaxed state of body awareness while taking a stroll (superb for those easing back into a fitness routine slowly after an illness or injury) 2. A nice long breath-awareness relaxation session that if followed diligently can put you into very deep states of full-body relaxation and mental calmness, and 3. a buddhist-inspired meditation session designed to help you develop and maintain feelings of loving kindness toward not just yourself and your friends, but toward people you don't even like. The CD makes no claims to be designed for advanced meditators or for buddhists or hindus/yoga practitioners looking for very deep and esoteric stuff. It is geared more toward the average person who just wants to develop the habit of relaxation and stress relief through natural, healthy means. him, if you happen to be reading this, keep up the good work fella, and I love your accent. I would also like to note that I have never fallen asleep while listening to this product. I would like to kindly suggest to the reviewer who said this CD makes him fall asleep, that he might want to get checked to see if he has a sleep disorder, or if he is simply not setting aside ample time for restful sleep at night. A healthy person getting adequate rest at night should be able to go into deep states of mental relaxation without dozing off, if not all the time, then most of the time.
The podcast made me start to think from a new perspective. Thank you for this piece of work.
I really appreciate you both for having this conversation. Thankful that I have two audible credits and can use one to download this book. I am currently working through my TRAUMAS and traumas with the goal of being my best self possible and wholeheartedly believe this conversation was needed. Not only for myself, but for the world. Thanks for walking in your purpose.
Thanks a lot to you both, Gabby has this ability to surprise us with her path everytime. I especially appreciated the part on psychosomatic disorders from minute 31.
Thank you Jay for bringing Gabby 🙏🏼 this is so healing
I feel that happiness now too, thanks to all your guidance Gabby. I was just talking with someone in a meeting right now, we were talking about that energy, that spirituality and I asked him if he followed you Gabby and he said yes of course.
I was allowing myself to be guided to the people who in was attracted for energy and he said he was doing the same.. we talked about the joy of being able to be present in the moment.
I left the meeting and was drawn to open CZcams feeling that I had a message from Gabby and this is what I opened right now. This is aligned to what my mission in life is to coach more people to understand thei mind and body and the spiritual connector to all. Thank you for your beautiful messages, I love learning from you and would love someday to be able to speak with you in a more personal level.❤
Thank you for sharing your story so openly, Gabby. I am not at a point in my healing journey where I could do that, and it touched me deeply.
And it is so important for me to see people like you, because it proofs, that one can actually get to the other side and live a fulfilling life, no matter what happened to them. And so true, Jay, what you say about "There is a part, that doesn't believe, that you can be happy " or something along those lines. I have been there. Just one thing I want to point out, that threw me off a bit: Drugs from a psychiatrist are not the only thing, that can change a biochemical condition. There are other proven ways to do that. And I don't think that anyone should feel shame to take drugs, that a psychiatrist prescribed to them. I think anyone should do whatever helps them. And especially in a severe situation like Gabrielle's, don't try to find the perfect solution, just take the next hand, that catches your fall. And if that is a pharmaceutical, I think that is an as responsible way to handle your situation as anything else that helps you get better. So, absolutely no judgment there from my side for the way you went, Gabrielle. I am glad, that it worked for you. I just have a problem with seeing it as the only way, because it's simply not true. And if you don't believe me, do your research. I just needed to get this off my chest. Again, Gabrielle, I have the deepest respect for you and your courage to heal your Trauma and share your journey with us!
Shame, same here I did not know I had it. Your conversation is a huge eye opener . So many Thank You!
wow… I remember when I first heard Jay’s podcast with Gabby about 4 years ago and how I stumbled upon it. I remember Gabby acknowledging “if you randomly found this podcast, it was meant for you to listen to” and really feeling like I was meant to listen to it and that moment and it changed my life. I’ve listen to Jay Shetty ever since that podcast, bought ‘Manifest Now’ by Gabby and listened to that podcast more than 5 times and recommending it to everyone. And today I happened to listen to a podcast and found out you guys made ANOTHER podcast AND the discussion was aligning, once again, to my journey. And again Gabby acknowledged my presence in this podcast. it gave me so much gratitude towards myself for showing up today to level up this journey. Acknowledging my angels looking after me and showing me this podcast today! another AMAZING podacast, thank you always!
I can't wait to do the work and read this book ! Thank you so much for this episode. I really needed this!
One of my fav episodes yet! ❤running to read her entire collection!
Oh, my, God. 🤯 This is Life. Thank you both so much. I appreciate you both taking the time to help the rest of us like this, through your own learning experiences.
Will definitely purchase this book. This whole episode hit me so hard in a good and bad way. Like a spanking. Telling me to wake up and do the work that's needed, to be a better me, for myself, my relationship, and most importantly, my child. I don't want to pass on any bad coping habits. Thank you so much for this.
40:20 and that is the reason I keep coming back from the moment I was introduced to your work.. you have this genuine, authentic, curiosity and wonder about everything you do. it is refreshing with all the BS on the web to have someone who is just interested in helping people understand themselves.
Thank you Jay for an insightful podcast. Gabrielle is amazing in the way she explains the in depthness of trauma 👍
I cried through this episode I felt like I had finally found someone who gets it
This is exactly my journey like Gabby!! Resonate 1000%. The Somatic experience saved me🌷❤️
LOVE YOU BOTH AND LOVE YOUR BEAUTIFUL FRENDSHIP!! KEEP HEALING AND LOVING EACH OTHER AND SHARE THAT WITH US THANK YOU
Stopped many times to remember and cry, thank you
Half way through this podcast I had to pause and call my husband to apologize to him because he’s not my therapist! My trauma is not his
31:58 well.. there it is.. .. I am one of those who have not had "serious traumas" meaning abuse, bullying.. etc.. really.. but i have had a lot of death in my life from pretty early on, and ever since my dad passed about 20 years ago, my gut has been a disaster.. i also used to get really bad panic attacks.. I have pretty much worked through the panic attacks.. but the gut issues... remain.. cant wait to get this book and unpack!
I have hid in the shadows for a long time. Though never alone in this. When you open the door and leave mental chains behind. You see gold, and never will go back. X
Just listening to this got me so triggered and upset all my trauma back on point just in so much tears . I need the book .
Being present in gratitude for every little thing. 🌷
Year before I was pregnant I was diagnosed with depression as a mother it has been so hard for me to really sit with the fact that I may need to be medicated again but the shame of being a mother and the thought of it making me feel like less of a mother or mom guilt . smh this episode was truly a sign and thank you all so much for this !!!
Gabby - love her - she wrote a book that changed my life, truly.
Currently reading her book The Universe Has Your Back will definitely read this book after this interview . Wow I have a sleep disorder probably trauma omg this woman Gabby Bernstein you are such a guiding light
Thank you for filming this amazing podcast!🙏🏽 All my respect for this amazing and strong journey you went through Gabby and how you speak up and help others through everything you learned now!!🌟✨🌟
Devotional service heals many of these tight knots deep ingrained in our nervous system. It helps me as a soothing balm and deep relieve from a tight heart.
Phenomenal interview. At first it was seeming too deep but I kept listen anyway. Ordered the book already and going to listen again. I just recently realized I have healing to do. I thought I was ok and could see issues in others (out of love and a desire to help them) but I need to help myself. Beautiful!
Amazing Podcast! let's be Present in every moment💯❤
That intro 🙌🏽 chills all over my body
My Armors design, wakes in time, patience - compassion - unshaken spine, bent then straightened not one or 2, hence we condensed the older &new ~ - both smoothly & finer words from her wounds.
Specially specialized as special as you. And maybe us too
Also when I started feeling better in my situation and became able to look at the positive in my life my mother said I was running from the truth that nothing is alright and that I need to worry. That it’s not good to feel alright when everything isn’t going as planned in the moment. These people only want to bleed their pain into your life whether they are conscious about it or not. Why make yourself feel bad for something that isn’t truthfully or completely in your control? Why not stay positive and keep going while being grateful for what you’re experiencing now because it will be another part of the story.
I learned so much from this. Thank you so much
In this world lovable hearts are always invisible,actually they love to be present where they get happiness through blessed knowledgeable people's words. Wisdom go viral is such a lovely world enriching our hearts with happiness forever.
My childhood trauma caused me to be absolutely terrified to be a mother. Between that and family genetics, I had to make some heart breaking decisions that I whole heartedly regret every day. I never thought I was going to be a mother. I had such a low sense of self worth, that I cried after having my son because God saw fit to give me such a beautiful gift. Me! Allowed to have this perfect creature. I was astonished. But…I am a pretty good mom. I’ve been very intentional with how I show up with/for my son. In ways I’ve never been shown. It was instant instinct that I was going to break the cycle. He’s a great little person. I learn every day how to be better for us both. I’m sooo wanting to do that ISF retreat in July. Crossing my fingers I can make it happen. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for all your wisdom and insight. To both of you. ❤
I can so relate to your message. Thank you🙏
Thank you for showing us how to heal!
Great talk! Thank you. It helped me a lot. Jay, you asked really good questions. And Gabrielle, thank you for sharing your journey. Actually I feel relieved to hear that after doing much work, there are still work to do, even for you. I have been doing the work for years but sometimes I feel like I still have a lot to learn. I thought i was failing at what I did. Now that I understand that it is part of the process and journey. Thank you again for this talk. Love you both❤
Also, checking on in my body, I realise when am triggered and in stress I feel it in my feet.. my feet feels heavy.. but my learning is SLOW recovery.. I don’t have to rush myself ..
Daniel Siegel books are great for parents who want to be different parents with there children. I read NO DRAMA DISCIPLINE what great book.
My favourite speaker Jay genius l love his speech very much.
Brilliant ~ thank you both!!
🙏🏻 thank you for this true words ❤️ you are an Angel 😇😇
😮❤"why can't I do this for myself" 😮❤seen, soothed safe secure.
Alright, I’ve been drawn to IFS for about a year, but more intensely over the last week, and then-Bam! I listened to this and now I KNOW. Thank you, both! I’m excited and scared-but more excited-to take the next step. ❤
Would love to hear about your experience! I found IFS in 2019 and it transformed my life 🙂🙂
Thank you
I have to thank you both of you... this is it ... Thank you.Real talk from heart @;-)
Love, love love gabby. Shared the podcast. Love the daily jay ❤️
I needed this today. 🙌 ❤
Thank you for this amazing podcast, this is truly therapeutic. I have been constantly being wounded as I only try to work on myself superficially and not the exiled part. My protector part is too strong still, I really hope I can calm them down😢
Same here, I really relate to this
Dear GOD, I come before YOU Oh Lord,my GOD, thanking YOU for waking me up this Wednesday morning to embrace the sunlight that shoots down from the heavens!Thank YOU for giving me health and strength I need to overcome every stronghold in my life. In Jesus Matchless Name.Amen
Amen! The great healer the great physician. I am eternally grateful to you Jesus. 🙏🏿 ❤
This is incredible. Thank you so much Gabby
This was by far my favorite ❤️
I absolutely love your podcast
Wow wow! Loved it. Every word said by gabby resonated with me and my journey.
Oh my gosh!! Amazing. So helpful. Getting the book today. ❤
What is "Happiness"?....completion of all positive energy!...God Bless🧡✌🙏
This is my 1st time ever commenting on anything that I watch in CZcams but when she said the part about her husband not knowing what she was going though and wrapped up in shame, she couldn’t have said it better for my current experience. I’m trying to love myself and hating myself for what I am putting my boyfriend through as he tries to love n support me 😢
Peaceful days ahead. One day at a time🙏
Hugs dear...
hey guys this kind of videos are great, Im listening from Mexico, by the way I use to listen as a way to improve my inglish level, all the best for you teacher Azael from Mexico
Thank you!
LOVE GABBY
I understand all this and at the exact same place in my life
Im only 15 mins in and this is the most helpful podcast Ive ever heard
It doesn't go away and you can't fix it. It's like seaglass.
The titration gently rounds the sharp corners off, softening its rough bits more n more each time.
From bottle to treasured asset.
both made and found in nature
That you guys. This podcast just nailed it.
When gabi says she can see it everywhere now and what to do.
Symptoms checklist jeez it's almost a script. What's my responsability? Tangled trauma, who's is who's? Self awareness. Magic.
Its 'Growing'in love with yourself, slow and gentle unfurling. Nurtured, seen. Not the hurtling hectic scarey falling feeling. Growing not falling in love. Nurtured not falling. practicing Radical self acceptance.
what an amazing lady so inspiring
Thank you ❤️
what i find amazing is my body's reaction to some things right last week, i get in touch with my very first bf and having done a lot of work our connection let to me having a burn out i was very young at the time 15 he 24 and i had just lost my father suicide and so on...
so we saw each eachother and the whole week i ve been having digestion problems, like my body has it difficult digestioning this especially as while talking to him i could see clearly what had been going on when i was so young (not blaming anybody just see the pattern) yet now exactly 1 week in and my body is still not digesting properly and i m completely swollen it s just amazing to see my body s reaction even though i haven t changed my eating pattern
just amazing
Thank you for being transparent your comment encourage me. People need each other to serve and make a better world it's a lot of lonely people out of hurting people living isolated in their own prison and God bless you and yours
I like the tip on how to help your partner help you by telling the truth about your traumas, let them in on your commitment to create a safe environment for yourself, don't leave them in the dark to why you are so reactive. To not carry on dragging on the trauma. Tell them you need their support 🙌
Thank you for sharing this,maybe my daughters will understand me a little bit better and forgive me for not being perfect
With the spirit of love heals!
Fabulous talk........
another amazing interview wow.. thanks so much jay and Gabrielle! ❤❤❤
Wow this brought it home ❤ Thank you so much for this information