Stay-At-Home Mom REACTS To Harrison Butker! *must-see*
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- čas přidán 29. 05. 2024
- Today, I'm reacting I'm sharing my thoughts on Harrison Butker's speech and what I think he gets RIGHT, so leave a comment down below.
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It's not a crime to want to contribute to the world outside of procreating. Lots of famous, historical female figures have also had children, but their purposes didn't begin and end with motherhood. I think it's very arrogant to assume that motherhood and marriage are only what a woman should strive for because there's so much more to life than that. Life would be very depressing for all women if their worth and happiness were measured by how many children they bring into the world.
I think any conversation on SAHM is incomplete without acknowledging that it is an extreme privilege.
Very true. Her husband also works from home too.
Imagine an infertile woman watching this and Abi tell her she will never be completely happy in her life. Btw, Harrison's mom is a brilliant physicist. Are you saying she wasted all those physics papers?
There's a huge difference in infertile by choice and infertile not by choice. I'm the latter. In her video, Abby was careful in her language. For example, she said "for the vast majority", which leaves room for exceptions.
Motherhood has no place for selfishness, if done correctly. A marriage, other family roles, and even other societal roles don't have a place for selfishness or narcissism either. To me, it's all the same concept.
@@lorifrancis8171 On the contrary, having kids is one of the MOST selfish things a person can do.
@@AllisonIntheCity I felt that way when I was younger. I can still feel that way when you talk abuse or neglect. With the type of work I do, I see more of that than I'd like. But again, if done correctly, ideally, a mother will give and should.give herself tirelessly to her children. Although maybe for a short time, children are blessings.
Now, I'm in my mid-40s. Female friendships have been very hard because my peers have been in child-rearing mode. We are now in a spot where they are starting to see kids move off to college, etc. Any who had notions of having children so, selfishly, the kids would take care of them now have a rude awakening.
@@lorifrancis8171 I'm not sure what you're implying by 'I felt that way when I was younger,' but I'm 38. I've never wanted kids - it looks like hell on earth. Having kids is selfish because any reason that I've ever heard anyone tell me was their reason for having kids starts with 'I' and what they want and how they want to pass things on or see what they look like, etc. THAT'S why having kids is selfish. And it's very telling, and sad and backwards, that you only mention that 'mothers' should give themselves fully to their children.
@@AllisonIntheCitylol if it’s soooo selfish what have you done to make up for it
Staying home with your children is also a privilege. You are privileged. It is not financially feasible for the majority of couples out there. I can’t believe you can’t understand that. You continue to tell women they just need to stay at home but you never take into account that people can’t afford that anyway. Men cannot afford it on one salary and most don’t want to anyway.
She works part time from home.
@@Dennis-nc3vw her 'work' is this channel. she probably has never held a real job. she will never want for anything. i do not think you're comprehending the wealth they come from and the wealth they have.
Lol you talk about "financial feasibility" on the one post, as if that is a consideration of yours, yet on the next you go on about how you just could not live with any less "5 bedrooms and 4 bathrooms," and that "extravagance is just better." You can't make this shit up 😂
I think it's a matter of opinion. Some people are fine without being married or having children. The definition of happiness depends on the person.
Abby cannot understand not everyone strives for the same thing. What fulfills one person, won’t fulfill another.
I think it's really hard for Abby to wrap her head around the fact that not all women want to live her lifestyle, and that honestly makes me sad having had a similar experience in my twenties. She'll never see the beauty in our differences nor will she be able to fully see the beauty in her beliefs. I mean I know so many women who want to settle down and be mothers, and I know women who might never want to have kids. It's not that traditional roles are outdated and fading away, it's just that there's more options now so people who don't like that lifestyle don't have to live it! There will always be women who want Abby's lifestyle, and there will always be women who don't. And that's been the case forever. Even when being a mother and depending on a husband was a woman's only real option, not all women were content with that. Its just that simple really! Nothing wrong with being a mother, nothing wrong with wanting to lead a traditional lifestyle, but isn't it amazing that you have the choice to do that rather than being forced into it? Butker was tone deaf in his speech, talking exclusively to women who had worked their ass off to graduation only to be told in this speech that it wasnt what was important, by someone who had no real idea what was important to them. By a man. The problem isn't motherhood or building a family. The problem is the generalization, speaking to every single woman in the audience. Implying that all of them have this... Biological destiny that should be fufilled. Women are individuals, different people. Not all the same. Same goes for men! Yes family can be very important and can lead people to be very fufilled, but Abby... Not everyone wants that. Not every man, not every woman. I really hope one day you can look inwards and realize that the content you make is hurtful, and damaging to the way women are looked at by the world. And I also hope one day you have enough respect for your own personal choices, to realize it doesn't matter if other people make them. It makes you happy.
Screams handmaid's tale
I am commenting to be devils advocate here. Of course, the decision to be a working vs stay at home mom is such a personal one. I am a working mom and I love the life I have with my daughter. I am excited to see her grow up with a mom who works that she can look up to.
Growing up with a stay at home mom who was incredibly depressed and living just a hair above the poverty line, I vowed to not subject that to my own children. My mom is now working and is able to pay her own bills now and far less depressed than she was when we were young. She has a confidence and peace now that I have never seen from her until she was able to take some control into her own hands and have money and a career. I am proud for how far she’s come.
All this to say, If you have to work, or want to work, you are still a great mom. 💕 And to all the stay at home moms rocking it, y’all are awesome ⭐️
What I really hate about mom culture in both the left and right of our political + social culture. Is that everyone has an opinion on what make a woman "feminine" or a "great mother." Everyone got an opinion and thinks that their opinion is the right one. Classically Abby is a perfect example of that (on the right side.) There's no "diabolical lie" so stop trying to force/decide for women what they really want out of their life.
As a woman, I don't look at myself as inherently nurturing and never understood why it's such a huge stereotype for women to be placed in a box like that. Inherently there are other things I would place before I would ever consider myself "nurturing" I am also married and we went about our relationship very untraditionally. We didn't listen to the outside noise and it worked for us. We still don't have kids and I don't believe it will fulfill any "potential" that she is speaking about. However when we do decide to have children. I'm going to be 100% a working mom because I know in my heart and hearts being a stay-at-home mom is not what I want and that doesn't mean I won't be a good mom because of it. I'm just fully aware what fills my cup. I grew up in a conservative/religious area and my mother was a housewife. She was absolutely miserable and I hated it watching it. Other housewives I would observe were all about drama and miserable with their husbands as well. I have no idea what Abigail is talking about where us having right as women means that we should be in the workplace because I've always heard the opposite that we should become mothers, be married, are fundamentally broken down to being baby factories that are also maids to the husbands.
It's so annoying that people like Abigail and that guy try to speak for other women when not all of us goes about life the same way or want the same things.
I disagree with this video, but if you're not a nurturing woman, then you probably shouldn't have children. Many children have terrible childhoods because they're raised by women incapable of being mothers. Freely admitting that you're not nurturing is a red flag.
Did you think about the marriage success rate? Your take is so keenly based on a man who loves you today. Not about the men who lie, cheat on, leave, and also murder their wives. To put your stock in men and men alone is an awful dangerous decision. Have your own life first because at the end of the day, you could not depend on a man 100% to provide that homemaker life that you dream of. Nothing wrong with wanting to be a house wife. But the lie to women is that their man/husbands will absolutely be the man of their dreams for the rest of their lives. Talk to the women who have been left with nothing financially after their husband's left them or even worse, killed them.
Just know Abby was getting turned on watching that Harrison Butker speech 😂
Here’s the thing- this gentleman specifically targeted women during a graduation speech. Where they are celebrating their beginning of their careers and obtaining a degree that took a lot of time and effort to earn. That’s like going to a baby shower and saying the opposite while a future mom is celebrating the eventual birth of her kid. Totally inappropriate timing. And this man did not include men in this conversation, only targeted the women. You mention how important it is for both men and women to value their families. And I agree, relationships between people are one of the most fulfilling sectors in our lives. Women have the opportunity since the 70s to have a career or to be a stay at home mom. Not all have opted to become career oriented as much as you have demonstrated by your own personal experiences. The feminist movement in the 70s (totally different from today’s ’feminist movement’) has allowed women to have this independence to choose for themselves what they want without having to fully rely on men to support them. Prior to the 70s plenty of women were in abusive relationships and or were threatened financially that they could not leave their relationships. They weren’t even allowed to have their own bank accounts without the permission of their husbands. Could not own land independently in many parts of the country. That doesn’t sound like happiness to me. And just because you chose this life of being a SAHM doesn’t mean every woman has the same goal as you. Your ‘vocation’ as a woman does not start at motherhood. Starts way before that when you start developing a vision in life of your goals, relationships, prospective career, etc
It wouldn't be controversial if he stated both women AND men. His message seems to convey that only women have the responsibility of being good wives and mothers. How about men being good husbands and fathers?
Being a SAHM is not always an option, and is becoming harder. Homes, food, etc are expensive. You are lucky but don’t realize it. You have the luxury to be a SAHM. Plus some people like working. It keeps them mentally stable( I need to work to be at my mental best).
Also not everyone wants or can have kids. Are these women less valuable to society? I would never be friends with someone like you. You preach modesty, but are only externally modest. You have no internal modesty. I value that way more than external modesty.
Some of the most successful women (and men) who have contributed greatly to society never had children. Are they to be considered less successful simply because they didn't have children? On the other hand, is a person considered successful when they are married and have children, but have little else going for them? What this video implies is very depressing.
I know she always brings up she has the same ideas about men, but I really wonder how often she looks at a childless unmarried man and considers him unfulfilled.
Abby if you spent more time being a stay at home mom and less time online searching for content, you might not have a 2 year old. with a broken bone. Maybe practice what you preach and actually put your children first and look after them properly.
I can't get past his last name. He really should change it, because generations of his family have suffered enough, he should spare his kids and his wife from being named "Buttker".
Very good advice. The empty egg cartons are really seething at you for laying out the truth.
Harrison Butler has a right to believe whatever he wants, but for years the school was happy to take tuition money from all of those graduating women only to okay a commencement speech telling them that being married is more important than their degree. It was a slap in the face. It also (rightfully) received criticism from the Benedictine College nuns for devaluing every women who doesn't choose to be a homemaker, including them.
We in the Lutheran church call this the Doctrine of Vocation.
Good message but i didnt find the video that engaging
Get a job and get off social media. Boom problem solved!
Thank you - I agree
Amen❤❤❤. 21 years happy housewife and mom here🙋♀️
You are a beautiful woman Abby
yeah agree, let em loose
You really want women to live in your 1950s world.
Definitely
💯 Right 👍🏻❤❤❤❤👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Thank you for this video. I watched his speech, twice, and found absolutely nothing wrong with it. Just a wonderful declaration of faith, and a tribute his wife.
I hope to have an Abbey won’t mind hearing from someone who sadly isn’t a mother, but I don’t see anything wrong with what he said.
I hope to have an Abbey won’t mind hearing from someone who sadly isn’t a mother, but I don’t see anything wrong with what he said. also I personally think Abby is one of the best women out there.
feminist jipped us! telling us we needed to go to work. now we have to work full time, come home to clean, cook and do laundry. so exhausting! lets go back to the 50's please!!!
Nothing is stopping you going back to the 50s. Feminism is about women choosing their own path. If you have to work AND do everything else, you found yourself a crappy husband.
@@annamolly2549 its impossible to go back to the 50's, nowadays you need dual income to survive.
@@cdyrod1010incorrect. It’s about priorities. There are MANY families here in the US that live on one income and are not wealthy. But, it’s a desire and priority that one parent (usually the mom stays home) so they make it work. So many moms stay home and homeschool too. To say it’s impossible reflects that you like complaining more about feminism than actually making it work for you.
@@annamolly2549 ok ma’am whatever you say, you don’t know our situation, but I guess you know it all. Thank you for commenting on my comment.
@@cdyrod1010it’s not whatever I say. It’s just reality. You can make it work like thousands and thousands of women across the country (again, not wealthy people) or you can whine about feminism. The choice is yours. You have clearly already chosen.
He didn’t say anything wrong.