“There is no point why we live” - scene from To The Bone (2017)
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- čas přidán 23. 12. 2017
- Ellen: You're not reassuring me doctor.
Dr. William Beckham: I can't reassure you. This idea you have, that there's a way to be safe, it's childish and cowardly. It stops you from experiencing anything, including anything good.
Ellen: You don't think I feel bad enough already? I know I'm messed up, but you're supposed to teach me how not to be.
Dr. William Beckham: You know how. Stop waiting for life to be easy. Stop hoping for somebody to save you. You don't need another person lying to you. Things don't all add up, but you are resilient. Face some hard facts and you could have an incredible life.
Ellen: That's your pearl of wisdom? Grow a pair?
Dr. William Beckham: That's a more concise way of putting it. Yeah. - Krátké a kreslené filmy
I feel like he wasn't even acting there, like thats just the hurt Keanu Reeves channeling his life into this scene.
I thought the same thing, dude has lost his wife, unborn child, best friend... dude has seriously met a lot of heartache in his life, yet he is unbelievably well conditioned in a lot of ways, or at least appears that way...I mean acting is his job.
I think if it's about sadness, keanu is the expert one. He had to go through multiple tragedies and shit but still came up on top, while most celebs would already be addicted to something at that point. Not to say others are pathetic but Keanu really did grow a pair to put it simply.
This is saying a lot of stuff I needed to hear in my 20's, especially the need to stop waiting for life to get easier
He went to a Centre fr bulimic sufferers to learn about the condition. To do his role. He said it was an eye opener. He learnt a lot. .
Gosh, this man is an actor...
is that a sarcasm?
I think you mean woman
Honest Opinions lol they’re talking about keanu reeves
john wick is legend tho Xd
There's something about Keanu that makes me look up to him as a man of honour and respect.
Same!
Maybe it's because he is Canadian? I think.
@Keanu Reeves India.. how are you?
@Keanu Reeves 2019 when I got to know the real life story of Keanu Reeves ... I have utter respect for him
@Keanu Reeves wait a min.. am I taking to real Keanu Reeves
Keanu Reeves really deserve an Oscar nomination for this film
Best Supporting Actor
and lily collins for best actress
He was very genuine here like he was telling from his life experience. That is a very strong point. We always want people to help us when we are in trouble. But the best person to help us is ourselves.
And yet what do we do when something goes wrong? Are you going to mend your own broken leg or entrust it with the hands of others? Self stoicism only works for those who have the privilege to live independently
@cianbroderick4145
And what happens when someone comes to find that there isn't always another person available to them with the ability or know-how to care for their catastrophes? This is a circular argument on both fronts, and they need to be taken in tandem.
It's great to be able to rely on others when they're available to and capable of helping you -- but that is *never* a given. Life is fair to no one, and placing your own wellbeing in the hands of anyone else is always going to be a greater gamble than learning how to own and rely on yourself.
External reliance only works for those who have the privilege of living with others who care or are paid to care for their wellbeing.
Such a powerful scene
this scene. this scene is my life. ive been anorexic for 2 years, and i know that what my therapist says is true, but i still wait for something to "save" me from myself. i know im the only one who can help myself but i cant. i only feel safe when i stay away from things that can hurt me (going out, socializing, falling in love, getting a hobby) and try to be in control by starving myself. controlling what goes in my mouth gives me a false feeling of safety and relief. ive tried to recover many times, and every time i relapse i feel like im coming home after a long and exhausting day at work, but 100 times more intensely. i know it will kill me one day and i dont want to die. i just want to be safe. it also has to do with the fact that i refuse to grow up. during my childhood i had two loving parents, unconditional love and attention, i was safe and small and clueless and everything was fine. so instead of trying to be strong and start living and growing as a person, im trying to get that back. be smaller. have my family's attention. it sucks. i know exactly what i do wrong, but i dont want to leave it. im scared. i havent been happy or excited in years because while i try to keep myself away from pain and disappointment, i also keep myself away from good things, like the doctor said in the movie.
Hey. I hope that things will be better for you soon.
Stay strong 🙏🏻❤️
It's like somebody finally took my feelings and put them into words :( I just wish all problems would magically solve themselves...
I'm going to have a t-shirt made I have the urge to purge.
My t-shirt says I have an urge to purge.
Anyone else specifically searched for this clip? I saw this on reels one time and it's a really good value to live by, I feel. I am a regular 21yr old, relatively healthy and this really gives me a reality check.
I related to Eli so much in this scene. It made me bawl like a baby, and I never cry over movies.
Maybe u r childish too. Grow a pair
what the fuck are people not allowed to have emotions now? we’re not robots...
same here bby 🥺 i’m sorry we go through this 🧸👑
@@mdhamidusman9097 shut up you must have no heart, no soul
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This scene did so much for my life and getting back up. Thanks writers, thanks Keanu, thanks everyone
Show this to every incoming freshman in college.
@Skarbie Well It works for some and not others, like everything, but truth will remain truth and one needs to spear that through the clouds of emotional rollercoaster so that maybe one can have enough willpower to push himself through that cloud
One needs a second consciousness so that one consciousness can be heard
@Skarbie Well hard disagree. SHE almost killed herself and was using this as an excuse. The message isn't partially true, it's entirely true.
Lily Collins : My doctor is a man of focus, commitment and sheer will
Honestly? She didn't like it but this is exactly what she needed to hear. Life isn't fair. No one is gonna be perfect and come into your life to save you. You have to want it. You have to want to live. You have to find the reason. The simple fact is that you have to love that one thing and love living for it more than you hate feeling sad. There's no answer.
I need to come back a couple of times a month to watch this because it keeps things in perspective.
Absolutely
And I JUST GOT HERE😢
I will watch this the first thing every day I wake up
Because it is so precise and on point whatever he says right? And it is said by Keanu, I love Keanu and that made it more impactful, with the way he said it. The message he said for that line, truly hits, but it's one of the ultimate truth in life. It is the truth, but not easy to do, and why do many of us finds it so difficult to do, that is what really hits me. and you are right, everybody should watch this the first thing in the morning..
and everytime Keanu says a line for this movie, is really on point with something that makes us think and ponder, about life, and people's struggle. This movie is beautiful..
Pls send the movie downloading link
Keanu is so gorgeous. that one scene where they whistled and cheeredhim when he appeard for their outing. yeah! he took my breath away too. and he didnt have to try. this movie is quite different for him.
I like to visit this clip every now and then when I’m feeling down
When I first saw this movie, I though this speech was not enough for the character, to which I felt connected not about the eating disorder but because of the depression I was facing.
Now that it's been seven years, I was somehow thinking about this movie and I listened to this speech again... he is so right.
It's just that, at that age, you're still too young to understand it.
I just knew there had to be a clip of this on CZcams cuz man...these words got to me!
LOVE. Because this WAS me a LIFETIME ago as a teenager. 💔🙏❤
God alone saved me.🙏
May GOD Bless us all 🙏❤🌍🕊
This is academy worthy.
this is literally my therapy
That's when you realise Neo really did wake up.
And people say Keanu can’t act. Laughable. Dudes great.
the best scene of the film...
Life is not easy and bad things happen fo good people everyday. I love keanu in any movie be is a natural
Bro is the face of john wick like every character he plays just screams john wick. Maybe he is the real johm wick
John Wick meets Emily in Paris
Keanu lost River Phoenix, then his baby was born stillborn and his girlfriend died in a car accident. His duster developed leukemia.
I feel when they gave him these likes, they were part of him. Acting can be catharsis. I think the roles he takes many times now, are pieces at times of his life. As do other actors.
Isn't exactly what you wanna hear when you're depressed
i think it’s what you need to hear though and it sucks lol
Isn't exactly effective for depressed people. It's what we say because talk therapy has been nearly all we've had for 150 years and we don't know what else to say. One day, when neuroscience has provided us with all sorts of amazing tools - and it's already starting to - will be looked on as the dark ages of mental health treatment. This is true. If raw willpower was enough, don't you think we'd have realized that by now, and not tried to develop anything new?
It's a good scene, it's just only a small part of the real story.
This is exactly what you need to hear, people saying its gonna be better, people babying you up, that shit only strengthens your will to give up imo
@@brynyates no
@@squamish4244 exactly
There's nothing wrong with waiting for a storm you know is going to pass and asking others for help, and while "Grow a pair" is crudely put, in a way, he's not wrong. Only you can move forward with your life, only you can be all you are meant to be, only you can decide who you're gonna be and how you're gonna do it.
well maybe i don’t have to get over it. and i shouldn’t have to. that’s my choice
Sometimes not even you can save yourself even if you try, that's the sad reality.
That's a cope out. Sometimes we are so broken we cannot put ourselves back together again. You obviously have not suffered as we have.
i think about this scene all the fucking time.
Feel like every one needs to see this scene
He’s right. He’s absolutely right.
Now I understand why Keanu was cast for this role
thats true with one exception. live won't be amazing at some point or when you realize it sucks. it always going to be hard. its about realizing you are not the only one, you are not the victim if everyone is
1:28 John Wick’s most iconic word
Thank You for uploading this❤
That's a Really good motivational speech by Keanu Reeves and it's very inspiring to life in general. It's really good and I'm sure it would motivate many people. He's absolutely right in what he's saying.
Been there.
It's actually a mess, hard to accept it, but at the end everything is on you.....
Now I eat
The words I needed to hear right now
I feel like this is John Wick's daily side hustle while not assassinating anyone.
When john wick says you to grow a pair...
👏YOU GROW A PAIR👏
Like many addictions the one suffering Has to admit he/she has the problem. Then decide that he/she wants to fight it. Even with obesity. I saw this video of a 600 pound woman who lost weight and was about less than 180 afterwards. She looked great. She said every moment of her waking life her mind is telling her to eat eat eat. Its not something that goes away. She has to fight it everyday. Omg. That is so scary.
I dont want to admit to what he just said, but he's right.
This is so good.
"You need to be happy to live I don't" what is so hard to understand about that? It's like chores you don't want to do but do anyway. That is what living becomes for some people just a tedious chore.
yep
@@tbs311 no, you Americans always think you’re the center of everything it’s hilarious, you know how funny this movie is given the amount of food the u.s. throws to the garbage on a daily basis when some literal kids no older than 8 in Yemen for example don’t have a bread crumb to split for breakfast ? Yea this is fucking joke
@@21stcenturyanimation81 That has nothing to do with anything.
I never seem this Keanu Reeves movie .looks like a pretty good one
More true now than ever before.
This guy looks like John wick ,
i heard he once killed three men in a bar with a pencil
With a fuckinggg pencil
John Wick definitely has a pair ;).
😂
Dr. John Wick meets Emily
That was realest thing I ever heard 🏹❤️💋😇🌹
This movie is so good man
You are right about that
holy god that is one of the better pieces of advice from a movie ever
your welcome
Probably Keanu didnt even act here. By everything he had to experience in his life this was maybe just his view upon life.
I'm new to stoicism but I feel like this sums it up pretty well.
She is so relatable in this scene
Jordan Peterson would love this guy.
I only recently realized what restrictive eds are for a lot of people, including myself. Eating enough gives me substance and life through which experiences and emotions flow. It's where I hold on to things. It's when those experiences and emotions became a nonstop barrage of pain and anxiety that I wanted to be rid of that substance. I want to be empty because it feels like I'm full of poison. It's too painful to exist, but I have faith things will get better, and I know I have the responsibility to stay alive and give what I can to the world, so I don't want to die either. Moderate starvation helps me to find a middle ground and subsist. But it's like he said, can I really move on to a better life if I'm too afraid to live? It just feels so unfair because none of it was my fault, and living is still so painful. I was given a weight too heavy for me to carry and I want to put it down.
I love this scene but it also makes me sad because I don’t know how to save myself
I wish i could tell my therapist about my anorexia
What stops you?
Hey. I hope that you’re doing well nowadays.
This is what therapy is for, so I hope you told them about your issue.
Keanu is great in this film. He is a better actor than people give him credit for.
Movie is called To the bone.
Holy shit this bullshit is way deeper than anything my families ever said to me
Jordan Peterson would like this scene
all things considered, I couldn't really argue with that
No People mostly wait for the easy way, while there is no such easy path.
Keanu helps me again.
Can someone plez tell me how to watch this series for free of cost really need to watch it
What sucks is everyone knows when a popular person dies but when a person dies when they kill themselves no one in the world knows. I feel like we are all live stokes just waiting to die and noboady in this world would know😞😞
Damn he spittin
They left out the best part at the end when she says “fuck you” and walks out….
I like...had to hear this 🤗💖
So this is what John Wick does in his spare time
I came from reddit
Thank you reddit
Tyr Myrmidon Same here. Saw a gif of it on r/KeanuBeingAwesome and searched it out.
WHY DID I FORGET KEANU REEVES WAS IN THIS MOVIE?!
Background music name plz?❤
You know... I don't think he was acting.
I watch this movie while eats spaghetti, cheese ball and chips. So yeah... its hard to understand.
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oH YEAH THERE IS !!!
well Keanu,s character is right.Though maybe a bit blunt but its true there is no point ,no meaning ,no reason.We are born we live we die.We all need help sometimes but we waste years at ttimes looking for a point ,a greater meaning .Its not there.Once you understand this things get a little easier.Like someone once said there is no spoon
i gusss hacking in america is legal and wiretapping
This message will either make you into a suicide number or cause you to become a revolutionary. Ether way you will not be long for this world as the system will grind such a person to pulp for their insolence. Being a worker drone will not be the end result of taking this message to heart. If we all REALLY "grew a pair" we'd eat the rich lol.
When I say to the bone I was like undertale song?
I am glad my therapist doesnt act like that.. IRL this is really shitty, I don't care for by the bootstraps mentality. Patients need to feel seem and validated not shamed for their feelings
Agreed, I really dislike this scene because there is just no empathy for her whatsoever. Her condition is so easily dismissed, and it sucks even more that when you talk to most people about depression you end up with people like this doctor
@@CB66941 I hate how this is romanticized cause this isnt "profound" most therapists are actually shitty like this
Treating someone like they're pity seeking when they're at their most vulerable; thats honestly traumatizing it's a violation of basic trust in the therapist to care
@Nullman literally grow a pair, you people really do always think you’re the center of everything Jesus Christ.
It's not bootstraps mentality. It's identifying the root cause of why people don't act on the help that's offered to them. He's saying "living will never not be scary and facing that is the first step toward courage".
Yes but after a certain point you also need someone to say things like this to help you move on and not stay stuck. Maybe say it kinder but the sentiment definitely needs to be said.
Movie name?
“To the bone”
This guy looks like markiplier
Markiplier looks like this guy
Name of Film plz
To The Bone (2017)
I8S THIS A LAST?...
toot da bowne
Hmm looks like a depressing movie to me...
Nobody exists on purpose
And your son took that from me, kill that from me!!!
honestly if a therapist had told me that at my lowest point I would probably have killed myself lol
Yeah this scene is awful lol
Is this proper therapeutic communication
Not really. Been to therapy before and coaching as well, and this kind of approach usually does not end well. For some people, it's a good wake up call. (though granted from context in this movie, this is the last place for these people to go to, and the therapist here is considered to be quite controversial in his methods, so in a funny kind of way, his methods don't reflect what most therapists would say)
But for people suffering from things like depression, anxiety, and in this movie's case anorexia, it can be very demoralizing and discouraging to hear.
For depression especially, imagine if you are constantly contemplating suicide, maybe even had several attempts, and you've been trying as much as you can but still feel so hopeless, and then imagine finally seeing a therapist who says to you that there is no point why we live and to just "grow a pair" after trying when you can't (depressed people tend to be have very low energy, with some having episodes of lying in bed all day). It will feel like there's no point going on anymore, since it's either "get on with the times" or bite the dust.
I used to have this "grow a pair" mentality until the depression got really bad. It wasn't until seeking a good therapist that I made some pretty good progress in my life.
What kind of doctor would Keanu Reeves be considered here?
digestive doctor
A therapist?
A Continental doctor. Lily Collins gave him a coin for anorexia theraphy
Somebody pleaseeeeee get this man a doctor license....
I know his point but that's like saying stand up to someone who lost their legs..
Keanu is not great at drama, he's an action star through and through. Love him though
bad take, he was better here in my opinion than his action roles. He literally just says 'yeah' in John Wick, and has a stunt double do all the action, that's not acting lol.
@@Sh0n0 Your take is bad to me. So what's bad to you is good to me, what's bad to me is good to you. Not surprising seeing as this is a video full of fans from this movie. I'm not however. Saw the scene pop up on my CZcams however so I gave my two cents. He's better at action than this. He's perfect at John Wick. Your take sucks.
@@Sh0n0 Horrible take
@@Sh0n0Actually Keanu is doing all the action scenes not the stunt doubles. Only thing Keanu doesn't do is get hit by cars and the falls.
@@selleo6838 you just contradicted yourself. Doing choreography and pretending to ride a static bike in front of a green screen isn’t ‘stunts’, the falls and impactful stuff are the stunts. Let’s not delude ourselves here. Tom cruise on the other hand… but tom cruise can also act.
No hay punto cuando todo está destruido en un caos , el vivir por más de veinte años de comunismo y todo siga igual de siempre nada ha cambiado cual es el punto de vivir o cuál es la rueda de la vida cuando lo que me más me importa lo perdí a través de estos años .. mi mejor amiga
Oh I'm with you I'm with you doctor gay