Sleep Training Advice I do NOT Follow
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- čas přidán 30. 06. 2024
- As a new parent, I was bombarded with advice on how to get my baby to sleep through the night. But as I researched sleep training methods, I realized that they didn't align with my parenting philosophy. Instead, I chose to co-sleep with my baby who is 15-month-old by now, and it has been a game-changer for our family.
In this video, I share my experience of co-sleeping and why I believe it's a natural and healthy way to bond with your baby. If you're a new parent struggling with sleep training, or just curious about co-sleeping, this video is for you. Join me as I share my journey and the joys of co-sleeping with my little one. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe to my channel for more insights into my life as a Ukrainian mom in Germany! 🌟👶🛌
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CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction
00:31 What is sleep training
03:06 Eat-Play-Sleep
05:11 Drowsy but awake
06:36 Stick to the routine
08:31 Wake windows
10:22 Consistent bedtime routine
11:20 Co-sleeping
15:22 How it changed my life
We only recently put baby in the crib in a separate room for our own sanity in the night time but he was sleeping with me and my husband for the first few months! It was wonderful, only until baby started to wake more frequently because of us lol. I've learned with this first baby that everyone really just needs to choose what is best for their family and their baby. There is no one size fits all. Thank you for this video!! ❤
Thank you for watching! I totally agree, that the ultimate goal is to find a way to make each member of the family as happy as possible. Our son now sleeps in his own room too and the nights when he sleeps through the night are such a blessing! I had a lot of anxiety in the beginning though, but now I sometimes sleep through the night too and wake up like a new person!
I appreciate the time you had put to share your experience! It made me feel so much better about co-sleeping. Thank you😊
I'm so glad! I also used to feel like sleeping with your child is a crime, but it's not! It's a blessing!
Most of the rules made by science are to run baby businesses. Most baby products nowadays aren't needed, they convince us that we need it to make money. For example, it takes time to set the baby cam + to walk to the change table + to set the white noise + to use breast pump + to store the milk + to warm the milk + to load baby in a capsule. Most modern things take up so much of our time compared to when we were raised. Our parents only spent on necessary things like clothes, food & diapers, but we're being brainwashed to spend on things we likely don't need. It's mother nature for babies to mostly want to be with their mothers, but science argues that which is so wrong! Science is actually working on confusing new mothers. The more products you buy the more things you'll need to take care of, which is not only stressful for the mother, but also for the baby. A mother and a baby have an invisible bond. When a mother is frustrated, so is the baby. Hence, always keep things simple, don't let the new edge science fool you into buying stuff you don't need.
I agree with you. This like the curse of the modern world. It's not that easy to figure out which available gadgets are going to actually make your life easier (for me it's the white noise, sorry I can't live without it anymore) and which ones are just gonna complicate things even further...
Yes yes and yes
Amen…even sleeping on your back is unnatural for most humans so why do we do it for babies? I’ve put my baby on his tummy since we’ve been home from the hospital and he’s slept 10 hour nights since 3 weeks
Love this video. Tracking things like feedings, sleep, etc. and feeling compelled to follow official reccomendations are some of the greatest modern afflictions placed upon first time mums. I converted to cosleeping after accidentally falling asleep twice with my baby in the first 2 weeks. Best decision ever, I actually started feeling human again. And can the media please stop equating safe cosleeping withe e.g. accidentally falling asleep with your baby on a sofa, etc. As I said, i began (safe) cosleeping to *reduce* the risk of accidentally falling asleep with baby in an unsafe environment
Yes, I absolutely agree with you! I got terrified once I realized how easy it is to fall asleep in an undafe place while nursing the baby. And even now, that he's approaching 2 and I get 7-8 hours of sleep almost every night, I still sometimes fall asleep every now and then while nursing him... So I'd better do that in a safe environment right away!
Thank you for your honesty! I can relate so much. It’s tough for the first (few) years of baby’s life, but it’s so precious and it passes so fast.
Yes, I totally agree! It's so heartwarming to sleep together with our babies 🥰
Yes I agree, I love co sleeping and it is hard that society looks down on you if you co- sleep😊
Absolutely! But you know, we should never care about what other people think. As long as our choices work well for us, nobody else's opinion matters. My mom for example is super suspicious about us moving our son to his own room (now that he's almost 2). In her opinion, it's too soon and he should stay in our bedroom until he's like 5 😅 But our son really likes his own bed and doesn't mind at all. And I sleep with him whenever he needs me. So it just works for our family and the transition was very smooth and natural, we didn't have to force anything.
Love your perspective. I will try not tracking for some days, as I did for the first few months 😊 btw is your heritage danish? You look danish!
I am actually Ukrainian 😀 Not tracking is awesome. It allows you to become more receptive to your child's tired signs. Not to mention that it's a huge stress relieve 😉 Let me know how was your experience with not tracking?
I needed h to is validation, thank you for this video
You're welcome! There should be no shame in co sleeping with our precious little babies! ❤️
Just love you❤
You said everything as just as my mom used to do with us.
Thank you! Yes, my mom also co-slept with me and I grew up a very confident and calm person ☺
@@AnastasiaSchoss one question - what do you do if baby wants to suck nipples for a long time while sleeping
So so true...
I'm glad it resonates with you❤️
Thanks a lot
Most welcome😉
My LO is 5 months old now. We’ve been Co-sleeping so far. However, since I’ll be starting work when my baby is 12 months old and will be sending my LO to a day care, I feel like I’ve to train the baby to fall a sleep on her own during naps and night. This way, the day care providers won’t pressure my baby to put herself to sleep for naps (she’ll already be trained). Also, I’ll be able to prepare meals etc for the next day while she’ll be going to sleep without my help at night. If u have any suggestions, please advise. Thank you 🙏🏻
I was stressing out a lot about daycare too (we also sent our guy to daycare at 12 month). What made it easier for me, is that in our daycare they completely followed our baby. What I mean by that is that they usually have lunch at 12 and then nap is at 1 pm, which was obviously way to late for a 12 months old as he was still on a 2 nap schedule by then. So for my son - they would put him to sleep whenever he'd get tired (around 10 am) and then when he would wake up, he had some more or less private time with the caretakers 😀 And they also didn't have any struggle to put him to bed - each caretaker just developed their own routine with our son. By now he's almost 20 months old, he takes a nap at daycare at 1 and he pretty much falls asleep by himself without me having to do any training. He still falls asleep in my arms though when he's at home. And I honestly don't mind. It takes me less than 15 minutes to put him down for a nap (I simply move him to his crib after he falls asleep with me) and then I have all the nap time to myself. In the evenings I'm still nursing and bedtime takes longer, but it's simple and it works for us. If you'd rather have the evening time to yourself - I'd recommend involving the father into the ritual, so that he can take over. You can also try to get a feeling on how ready your kid is to fall asleep without you (mine isn't, so I'm not pushing). And by all means, I'm not against sleep training as long as it makes life easier for the family and not harder. I'm personally very short on patience required for sleep training and for me nursing to sleep is just the quickest and easiest solution. But please, listen to your heart and do what your intuition tells you to!
@@AnastasiaSchoss thanks for your advice! 🙏🏻
Absolutely agreed with all you said. I, too, nurse baby to sleep and cosleep. But my 6 month old still nurses about 5 times in the night. I am so tired. Do you have any advice for me please.
If your baby is 6 months old then you have probably already started weaning. As your baby will eat more solids they will need less feedings at night. I personally just wear nightgowns that kinda keep my boobs accessible to the child so that it only takes a minute for the baby to latch on and then I'm back to sleep
I've read that sometimes babies just suck for comfort rather than actually needing food, so if your 6 month old is gaining enough weight, perhaps try giving them a pacifier or their own thumb to suck on. This is only something I've read mind you, I'm still pregnant with my first born XD
I was nursing my baby about 4 times a night at 11 months. I night weaned by me being in another room while my husband slept with the baby. I made sure to feed him a good solid meal that would stick to him and keep him full all night (mix of protein, carbs and fat) He cried the first night and woke up like six times. My husband just sung to him and comforted him. Then he slept through the second night. Then only woke up 1-2 times an night after that. Then I weaned my baby completely by 13 1/2 months and he forgot about milk so I could sleep with him and he stopped asking for milk. He still wakes up sometimes but mainly for reassurance or if he is hungry because I didn’t feed him enough before bed.
Glad I’m not the only one that thinks it’s a complete flop and waste of time to try to stand and rock my baby to sleep for an hour when I can just put her to sleep in 5 minutes by nursing her.
Absolutely! I have no idea what I'll be doing once I stop nursing 😅
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I would love to nurse to sleep ❤ but my baby only falls asleep when nursing if I hit the only right spot in the wake window, and if I fail to move him after nursing, he will not fall asleep again 😅 He wants to eat always after he wakes up, so we are forced to follow the eat-play-sleep pattern. And we are still rocking him in the baby carrier to make him fall asleep. And this makes me feel ashamed, as I feel the pressure, that I should not make my baby get used to rocking. But in the end it’s like with the crib: at some point they want to sleep alone and do not want to be rocked (I hope 😅), so why stress?
Yes, I totally get it! All babies are different, and being shamed for how you bring your baby to sleep is the worst! If your baby would only fall asleep while rocking then rock! After all, everything with babies is just a phase. One day he might stop liking the rocking and will fall asleep while nursing 😊 It will pass and it will get easier! And as for moving to bed I feel you! I've been holding Freddie during his naps for about 4 months because moving him was impossible. But have you considered just leaving him in your bed? That's what I started doing at some point. I'd side nurse to sleep and then just sneak out of bed without moving the baby. The bed has to be made safe for sleep though. But that's the only thing that worked for me for a while.
I tried to fall sleep my baby by nursing. She sleeps on my breast. While i keep her in bed, she wakes up after few momemts and again seeks breast. What to do dear?
Does your baby take a pacifier? I usually gave my son the pacifier in that situation. But it might be possible that your baby actually needs the breast. Try to nurse on the side so that the baby falls asleep next to you instead of on top so you can be more comfortable. Also, honestly, I would just leave my breasts naked and let the baby figure it out
Thats cool!
But isn’t that hampers your sleep? Like you have to take position one-sided
@@marjan6837 I think it's important to remember that your needs matter no less than the babies. I used to sleep on my side and being afraid to move around to take a more comfortable position. But truth is - the baby doesn't care in which position you are as long as they can feel you in some way and feel protected by you. So I started moving my son in bed the way it was comfortable for me. First I started changing my side more frequently (while my son wanted to cuddle a lot) and as he was getting older and stopped needing the cuddles I started sleeping on my back and just made sure that he's touching me with a hand or a foot. Once they are asleep you can put them in almost any position and make yourself comfortable as well. My son is now 2 and I sometimes literally just tell him to move because I'm uncomfortable and he moves 😄. There's no precise instruction, you just have to see what works for you and your kid
@@AnastasiaSchoss love you dear😘❤️