i'm living alone and this is what I'm learning.
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- čas přidán 14. 07. 2024
- A week adjusting to living alone again, feeling lost and eventually finding belonging.
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro
00:58 Yoga
01:40 Self-Care Night
02:33 Life Purpose
03:09 Workout & Errands
04:00 How I Feel about Living Alone
07:00 Morning Chat
09:00 Navigating Change
12:30 Books
14:00 Grieving
16:53 Belonging
21:19 Podcast Family
21:37 Why I've Been Sharing Less
22:46 Finding Purpose
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chloe, the most inspiring thing about you is that you are honest and you share these more tender difficult parts of yourself :)
thank you for sharing your thoughts! this means a lot
Maybe Chloe with Spring coming you can get up more in the mountains ? It can be very good to focus on external things and enjoy pure, primaeval nature. Sometimes too much introspection can be harmful.
Chloe, I just wanna say you’re the only one who I enjoy watching on youtube every minute of every video you share with us
I will never get tired of thanking you for everything you do 🤍
We are always here for you
No matter how you feel
There is a hole in the leaves of the tree behind you (at around 11 minutes) that has the shape of a heart 🥹🫶💚🌿
Mi bella Chloé, eres la única persona a quien he seguido y escuchado pacientemente, hay algo en ti que me ilumina el alma. Que alegría saber que con corage estás eligiendo ser tu propio hogar y desprenderte de aquello que no suma ni edifica. Te envío un gran abrazo 🤗
i'm loving your vulnerability 🫶🏽
thank you Kathleen! I'm loving you taking the time to write a comment
Love so much that you're just being you and also showing the not-so-sunny-sides of yourself. This is so authentic and also very normal I would say. Probably everyone of us is having good and not so good days or times, and somehow watching this gives me the feeling of not being alone with these kinds of struggles in my life. 🦋
You’re so brave being vulnerable so don’t feel you have to always be so positive and doooey! Makes me feel human! You’re always doing the healthiest things to de-stress like yoga and self care so just keep it up and it’ll pass. You need to just chill and let things happen organically ❤ ❤❤
Thanks for sharing and for the honesty. Hope you are feeling good going into the weekend xxx
Thank you, I was very inspired by this video ❤ also such a nice heart shape in your plant from 9:00 🌱
Here to say I'm one of the many people who finds your creations something that FULLY RESONATES.
Long hair Chloé is back - me love 🥰
Oh, I loved her thick, chunky bob! I do miss it 🙂
Thank you for being so real and honest with us! feels so good
I’ve had a really bad experience with familial estrangement about a year and a half ago. Thanks for sharing your experience.
It’s not “inspiring” per say to share your bad times, but it’s connecting, and comforting. It’s good that we share details about our grief. Don’t stop.
When you’re talking about ‘navigating change’ I see a heart shape in your plant 🫶🏼
thank you so much for opening your heart to us
You are killing it, woman!! So many good takeaways.
I can relate to a lot what you are saying! I hope you feeling better now❤
This was so beautiful to watch
Solitude can sometimes be needed, hope your doing okay Chloe and had a wonderful Easter🐰🐣. Your one in a million✨️!
I loved this
This was so raw and so unbelievably beautiful ❤ thank you for being brave to share your heart with the world! Looking forward to watching more of your stunning little films ✨
Lots of love!
Thank u for sharing how real and unknown life is, that's the beauty about this journey called life, lots of love for you Chloe, thanks for sharing this with us!
Chloé, you are such a nice and kind human. I love your video so much! 🤍👏 Thank you for making that!
chloe i believe our purpose on earth, as humans, is to continually being aligning our physical being with our non physical being. you are a wonderful example of someone dedicated to being this way. most importantly your humanity shines through. i love the dimensions of your being. thanks for sharing your journey x
Really enjoyed this vlog. Thank you for your honesty ❤
This really resonated, thank you for sharing ✨
huge thank you for your content❤ ❤❤ you are the best and incredibly inspiring
I can really feel how much more you’re feeling yourself. And the content is so much better! Please keep on sharing your thoughts & learnings. Also: a livesession to chat with you and your community would be great!
Thank you ❤ this Video gave me so much inspiration and connection that I’m not the only one stuck in a place. Thank you :)
Thank you for this video, I really enjoy when you speak truly. Lately I have been in the same place, feeling stuck and everything, and it was quit a relief to hear you talking about this. I feel less alone ! I might have cry a little bit haha
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and honest Chloé - I love everything you share. Sending love from London. Lucie x
thank you so much!
i was feeling a little overwhelmed and lost the last couple of days and catching up with your yt videos is making me feel happier and inspired again! xoxo
I feel very emotional watching this as I am in a similar state of mind. I feel you. 🌱 I truly thank you for being so real.
Your verbal and emotional expressions are just next level! You're such a good speaker, I can't believe
Chloe, you are speaking to me and what I am going through, and it has been a blessing listening to you share some of my experiences. This video has been like seeing myself through another lens, thank you for sharing and making me feel less lonely!
thank you for this video. love your honesty and that you share things that are difficult. i want to see more vlogs and ”what i eat in a day”. that is so inspiring! 😊 love and hugs! ❤
I've been struggling living alone, and had no one that understands that. Thankfully you made this video and I understand myself more ❤
I can relate very much with your experience moving back to your home country. I did the same after living abroad for 7 years, and after more than six months I still can't feel like I belong here. I'm actually considering to move away again. I moved when I was 25 and came back at 32. I think that when we move somewhere in our 20s and create ourselves and our lives in a complete different context of where we grew up, it makes it really hard to return and feel like we can fit in again. After all, the 20s are a time when we're really exploring who we are, our traits, our real personality (not what we always were because of the ways we learned to behave in the family system), and we become a very different version of ourselves. When we return to our primary context most people will be and behave pretty much the same as they did since ever, so it is very challenging to get in touch again with all those patterns and make sure we won't fall again into them.
And I totally feel the same about the friendships... My very best friends, with whom I can really be me completely, are now in another country and it sucks. And that's actually one of the main reason why I'm considering to move back there.
Thank you for sharing with us, you're doing a beautiful work. ❤
Wow Chloé thank you for sharing and opening up in such a vulnerable way. What you said about family, the born in vs the chosen one, resonated so so much... I'm an expat myself in another country, this question of belonging has also been a huge one for me lately. That said it gave me food for thoughts and made me very grateful of the relationships I'm building here. Anyway, a lot of things to think about/journal about :) thank you for this!
Hello Chloé ! U don’t know how inspiring it is for us to See you share that part of you too. The part that’s in everybody. It is so inspiring to be able de voir ta personne dans son intégralité, tel que tu es.
Thank you so much !
Take care, love u ❤
Dear Chloe, I find your authentic way of sharing ALL phases of life so strong and brave and inspiring and beautiful!! Truly... I love listening to your feelings/experiences/advices; they teach me a lot 🤍
Sometimes what we do is purely for closure. Many times I have done things and gone to places, gone “home” etc and just realised this chapter is over and for that I was grateful.
I am also grieving a family member. Thank you for your share 💜
Beautiful video and thank you for sharing your vulnerability. Sending a big hug to you on this beautiful and brave journey 🤍. Your current stage also sounds really familiar to me. I have been overseas in new zealand and now back in Europe. Missing some soul friends that I made and simultaneously stepping more into my own consciousness and transcending old habits. We belong nowhere and everywhere 🍃🦋
Loved watching this video so much. There's been so many parts that resonated with me and made me feel less alone. Please share more of those hard parts of your life, it is helping me so much. I struggle a lot with comparison, and always just seeing the best version of someone's life makes it so much harder watching their content.
I also would love to see you host an event 🥰
Why was that getting ready chatty part so fun! It was so real in every aspect and I loved it, you're so bubbly and don't over think what you're saying. It's like we're just having a convo...
Know that so many people watching your videos can relate to things you're going through and that's why we enjoy watching/ being part of this filmed journey. Plus, you're really glowing when you're your true self :)
Big hug from a friend afar ♥
Don't worry about talking too much, the things you said are just what I needed to hear today !
Loved this so much. Totally been in a similar place.. one thing at a time, yes! We have so much beautiful time
I'm only talking from personal experience... Each has his own part, but it's so hard to accept that, when the other person's part is affecting your life in some way. Ultimately one has to accept because as you said we can't be everyone's hero and others have free will and decide for their lives, but it's so so hard to be that understanding when that somehow affects those around them as well.
I can relate with you story😢😢😢. I'm going through the same phase when coming back to my hometown after few years living in different cities for so long. It is really hard when you have to face the problem with family members who don't really accept ourselves as we grow. Some people expect you to be as who you are back then. But only we know we grow as a person and be aunthentic to ourselve.
Hi :)
I love watching your videos and always take so much away from them for myself. You seem so incredibly authentic and honest and that makes ALL your videos so comfortable listening to!
As a "viewer" I would like to tell you that there are no expectations from "outside" that you HAVE to film now, even if you don't feel like it. Ever! Share what you WANT to share and when you WANT to share it! All my love! 🌼
Appreciate your authenticity Chloe. Btw your emotional talk, there’s love with you. Check out the heart shaped by the leaves in the background 💚
Totally get leaving behind your adult friends who become close family, I’ve recently been there moving thousands of kilometres away. Big feelings. Thanks for sharing :)
“The fountain, finding your place” Els van Steijn, could be helpful. It’s about family systems. I recognize what you are going through and just wanted to say, everything is going to be okay. It already is 😉. Sometimes family members can’t look at things because it’s too painful for them to look at. You stepping out of this and building your own adult person, will make a shift over there, because you are not in your old role anymore, so the system changes. And with that guilt comes, but everybody has their own purpose and walk of life and you are allowed to serve you and become your own best friend. And if you’ve become your own individual, other people can’t shake you up so easily anymore. You will recognize the old patterns and will say to yourself out of love for yourself, no I don’t have to do that anymore. You are growing into a tree 💪🏻, so proud of you and very brave ♥️💫
Dear Chloe. I'm inspired by you no matter the circumstance. To me it's all about the personal experiences of happiness, sadness and all the in between.
Je t'adore. Je te comprends. Tu es si inspirante et authentique.
Loved this video Chloe! I resonated with a lot of thing topics you shared about. I do the exact same thing you described at the end where I hold back all my thoughts from people thinking they don't care to hear, so that the second I get the chance to share them I accidentally start ranting out of nowhere haha. Just thought this was funny. 😂💗🌷
thank you Chloe for sharing this. 🌱listening to your experience really struck a chord with me as i went through a somewhat similar experience with my family members. i was seriously disturbed by the treatment and choices of some of my family members. first, i tried moving away to a new country (not solely for this reason but it was a big influence) and keeping minimal contact with them. but over time, i realized that against my free will, i had been grieving over this separation, and the pain of it blocked off various channels in my life. then i tried something else. after a great deal of reflection, research, soul-searching, and therapy, i came back and decided to focus on healing my relationships with them. i made the decision to be aware of my truth and stand up for it, all the while being kind, polite, and somewhat soft-spoken to my family members. i realized that if i am grounded in my reality and have confidence in myself, other people's opinions can't really hurt me. we had many conversations, and to my surprise, over the span of several months, there has been a great improvement in our relationship with each other. it all started with me acknowledging the innate love i have for them, and setting the intention to make peace with them. thankfully, they now acknowledge and respect me, my life, and my choices from a genuine and loving place, and i respect theirs. this has been a very intense and long-term journey for me to get where we are now, and i just wanted to share it here as a different experience and perspective. everyone's journey and circumstances are unique, and i hope everyone who's going through a similar situation will find peace, love, respect, and healing in their relationships. 🍀
thank you for taking the time and sharing your story!! i'm deeply touched and inspired by it.
Catching up whilst I sit here with a cold, loved your apartment tour video tooo, beautiful! Where is your green vest top from please? Looks so comfy for spring, summer! Xxx
♥️ so beautiful
Love this Chloe ❤ so beautiful
I’m currently mourning a friendship that was rlly important to me. I still very much miss them and have moments of grief and I’m currently unemployed and feeling very lost on what my passion is at this time and where to start. Been spending a lot of time alone. I appreciate this video
I also lost a friend after she did something abdominal. I miss her but I realise her actions were unforgivable and it would be wrong for me to forgive her.
Salut Chloé 🙂
Je voulais te dire que tu étais très inspirante au cas où tu pourrais en douter.
De part ta manière d'être, de t'exprimer, d'exprimer ce que ton corps ressent et l'accepter à ta manière.
D'être capable d'accepter les choses que tu ressens et des les écouter.
Je te suis depuis quelques années sur Insta et sur CZcams, et écoute également tes podcasts.
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Tu as un très beau parcours avec ses hauts, ses bas, ça fait du bien de l'intégrité et de l'honnêteté et ça peut inspirer ceux comme moi qui sont perdus et ne savent pas quoi faire leur vie ou qui ont du mal à prendre une décision.
T'es au top continue !
Great video, Chloe. It’s wonderful how open and honest you are about your life right now and the struggles you’re facing. Thanks for sharing this with us. 🤍 Already looking forward to your next video.
Oh, and a question: where’s the shirt from you’re wearing in the last part of the video? It’s beautiful.
Thank you Charlotte
You are so, so lucky to be able to live in this beautiful, sunlit, serene apartment - it is just phenomenal. Property (even dilapidated property) is appallingly expensive here in the UK - there's almost no way a single younger person could afford an apartment like yours. We are a couple trying to live in decent rentals and it's becoming untenable. I could move into yours right now! Gorgeous.
The Swiss do most things better :)
I hope you set up a book club with us, your subscribers! 🤎🤍
we have the same ring bell at home LOL ahah
❤
You are so beautiful inside and outside. Thank you for Sharing and therefore caring.
Maybe you belong there in SA for now and maybe this may change again we never know we can just always try to navigate ❤
Your skin and hair are looking healthy! Think it has something to do with shifting away from an all-vegan diet, you look great :)
Long hair suits you
C'est bien dommage que vous ne partagiez pas aussi en français !
oui je trouve aussi! j'aimerais beaucoup en refaire à l'avenir mais récemment c'était trop pour moi. :) merci pour ta compréhension
@ bien sur, je pense tu es le plus important avant tout.
I love Squarespace🤍
Quando você vai voltar a fazer try on haul?
My honest answer is: I don't know :)
When you started saying that you feel pressured about needing to put on an act to be the best version of yourself for the public eye, I thought I'd comment. I really enjoy hearing about other people's vulnerabilities because it helps knowing that I'm not alone with my struggles, it empowers me and gives me that sense of belonging I think. I live in London now and the speed of the city gives me lots of anxiety. I was wondering if you would like to share more background about your mental health and your story. beaucoup d'amour 🩷