Falling In Love With A Married Man | 2 Do's And Dont's!
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- čas přidán 11. 09. 2024
- Are you falling in love with a married man? Do you want to know what to do?
This is a tough situation and I will always tell you to be careful… it's not a good idea to project yourself in relationship that cannot be stable. In This type of situation, your happiness and your future are not in your control, which makes this dangerous.
If you fall in love with a married man, you have to be sure to maintain some distance because the odds of him ending his marriage in choosing you are very slim. Married men are afraid of losing what they've built with their family…
So if you want to stand out then you have to be a challenge. Don't give 100% of your attention to someone who can't give you the same amount of attention.
I know it's hard, but here are some tools:
1. Keep space between you
That way, you can ensure that you are a challenge.
2. Make it easy for him to see a future with you
All married men want to be happy and if they can see their future with you, the entire situation changes. So how can you make him see a future with you? The easiest way is to talk about your life and your goals with tangible enthusiasm. The way you talk can create emotions in other people… This guy wants to see an exciting future for himself, whether it is with you or not.
If you want to make sure that he can give you what you want, then you have to talk about your life and your projects and see how he reacts.
Remember there are 7 billion people on this planet, so I encourage you to find someone who is available to love you and the way that you deserve.
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Met a married man at work, we built a relationship and he told me he is in love with me....I told him: I am in love with you too but I don't want to be a third wheel. If you truly loves me you will make me a priority. So I broke up with him, I said I need to put my self as a priority I cannot treat my self this low as your mistress....I feel so relieved, I feel like the power is in my hand! I gained my pride and dignity and I let justice to serve me....I also told him that I will never be desperate for love as love will always find me....I feel so good abt my self right now I feel so powerful
Continue to stay strong!
Alex Cormont - The French Relationship Expert the POWER of walking away, letting go, surrender and living on the end result is STRONG, I'm so happy that I don't have any fear of losing anyone who can't prioritize me. I'm gorgeous, I work out, super fit, I've a great high paying job, I'm independent, I'm beautiful inside and outside, Love will find me....I'm not desperate for love, I have been in love with my self to begin with. Not dependent on anyone for my own happiness. Btw this guy is crazy now chasing me and miserable, he is in so much pain and fear thinking abt a future without me. Not that I am arrogant but sorry, no one is irreplaceable in my world.
@@fireeye33 Awesome you! Just be careful bcuz we never really know what these guys are capable of or how far they're willing to actually go...guys like this have been known to flip when their lights finally do come on and they realize that YOU'RE SERIOUS AND YOU ARE REALLY GONE! Prayerfully he'll move on or has. STAY SAFE! FROM HIM & COVID-19 😉❤
Wish i can do the same☹️
I was in the same situation for three month i ended it too yesterday.I keep finding myself questioning him and i had no trust.He is upset but i feel like i made the best choice for me ,i can't be second in a relationship i need to be number one .
Never be a second to a man. Ladies you deserve someone whos love and attention is focused to only for you and not share it with other woman the next day.
Thank you for this supportive comment!
Its hurts but respect ur self🙂
We all deserve hell. Thankfully, we don't always get what we deserve.
It's easier said than done
Train yourself not to EXPECT anything from a married man. Just enjoy the moment.
Thank you just enjoy the moment
What do you mean enjoy the moment?? You don't care the wife?
You do not choose who you fall in love with, shit happens. You just need to decide, how you want to deal with: Just accept the challenge and enjoy every moment that is on your behalf or live in an illusion that he/she will be yours someday and become a nervous broken person. If you do accidentally fall for a married person, be strong and dare to cope with the circumstances. Whatever you do, never disrespect or have hateful emotions towards his/her family or marriage. You really love somebody, love them with their baggage. Have a wonderful pass time, untill you discover your true self and calling. Make the most of your adventure.
Polygyny is Biblical!
Thank you for this piece of wonderful advice ❤️, am pregnant 4 a married man who even didn't tell me that he was married n I didn't know that. And right now am depressed 😔😔😔 n my spirit is dying I need advice
@@dudugrace7006 make it work but keep your options open don’t act like a wife to him once he sees that you are keeping your options open and dating other people he should be motivated enough to get a divorce it’s not cheating if you are legally single it’s cheating on his behalf because he is legally married this is what a lot of people don’t understand and often forget about please stop feeling like it’s cheating if you are legally single even if they are legally separated it’s not cheating 💯
@@danieldeluca4936 Where do you get that from?!
In others people it's wrong but it what you both want and understand it's not always sex and gifts it's about understanding caring loving and love no one is perfect but we bot all the same
I had to tell my friend who's having an affair with a married man this to open her eyes, " You're falling for a man who is not available and who is using you as an outlet because he's not fully satisfied in his marriage."
You were right .
Yup
That's only because the man has not cleared the polygyny hurdle with his wife. If he started out honestly with her to begin with, she could then become his second wife.
You are so right and married men will NEVER LEAVE THEIR WIFE FOR YOU , no matter what they say, if you find out that the man you love is married, run, leave, it will save you so much heartache
@@wendygraham6863, married men leave their wives all of the time. Idk why people act like it doesn't happen.
If he does it WITH you, he'll do it TO you. Be smart, ladies.
This kinda true but it's kinda not...what if he actually divorced and remarried and cheat but he end up stayn with them.. And not leaving them I say that because somtimes people bring out the different side
In another person
Not necessarily!
Do what to you?
They will.do it with you whether you get a married man or not, people like instillimg fear in others, love is complicated whether we like.it or not
Don't fall in love with a married man
Big Mistake! Run 😐😅😥🏃♀️🚶♀️🏃♂️
Being there 😔😔🙌
Don't fall in love with men periodt..it doesn't matter if they are married or not..once you catch feelings you loose your power. Periodt.
Lmfao facts
This is factz!!!
Sad. Sad. Sad. But true
Yall pretty good at that 80 percent of women file for divorce.
It's a crazy idea!
Dont build your life on another woman's tears
What do this mean
You are right marryann James
There are several components to what to do to keep him interested. One plan I discovered that successfully combines these is the Covert attractor audit (google it if you're interested) it's the no.1 blueprint i've seen. look at the interesting information.
@SPREADING TRUTH So your saying a person shouldn't be upset and cry over their husband or wife cheating on them ? Harder said than done, when u been with someone for 20 years and they have been having affairs it's pretty damn heartbreaking.
if that person loved that woman he wouldn't fall in love with another woman. sooner or letter that woman have to cry living with this man.
I love that you say keep distant… if it’s meant to be it will happen in a natural and ethical way. I believe that soulmates will find each other but waiting until it’s possible is best
I got involved with a married man a year after my husband died. We were having an affair for 8 months and it never went anywhere. I began to back off more and more after he continually ghosted me and I was fed up with picking up crumbs when he finally came around. I decided I was worth more than what I was getting. It broke my heart but I knew I had to move on.
Yes, so happy that you are putting yourself first!
Such men are often Narcissistic sociopaths.
mi fa so la
The guy I’m feeling is married with kids he’s 36 and I’m 20 he looks like Tom Cruise he’s always staring at me smiling at me initiating conversations with me he’s so charming but I’m starting to develop feelings for him as in I’m crushing him I don’t know what to do now 🥴
mi fa so la yeah but unfortunately you were the crumbs for him. He wanted his whole wife all the way so therefore you were only the crumbs. It actually goes both ways. He made you his crumbs and gave you crumbs because he didn’t want all of you. All of you only applied to his wife.
Sometimes you fall for a married man completely unexpectedly especially when you work with 98% men. You don’t plan it. It just happens. But I’ve never tried to develop a relationship from it. Just kept it a secret to myself. And sometimes you can tell the man feels the same in return by his actions and eye contact but he’s a good guy so he’s never acted on it and you both have never discussed it and nothing ever came from it because you and this good guy are practicing self control. And maybe one day, if something happens to his marriage, maybe then he will approach you as a divorcee. But until then, never let him know how you feel and don’t try to start an affair because it is wrong. You don’t have to act on your feelings just because you have them. Frankly, if he’s married and I feel he may share the same feelings, but he does nothing about it, I will have much more respect for him. After all, if he cheats on his wife then he’ll cheat on you too.
I feel the same way
Exactly!
😎 fire girl got it! 🔥
It is really hard to find someone who is both available and compatible, at least for me it was always a challenge. I once fell for a married man and it was mutual, a sort of a soul-bond, but apart from holding hands on one occasion, nothing ever really happened between us. I could not imagine myself having sex with someone who is taken, or building my hopes around the potential end of a marriage. Luckily, he wasn`t into cheating either, so he always tried to arrange other people in our company, to avoid the two of us being alone.
The whole thing made me realise that it is easy to say "don`t fall for a married person", cause you never really know and are not supposed to judge, either.
You never know who you will fall in love with
Same here..nothing happened between us, just friendship. If you really love him, just pray for his happiness, his peace and respect for his marriage. I respect you btw. We can't control whom we fall in love with.. just to learn how to love someone unconditionally.
Thanks for the advice Sir I was falling in love with a married man, you've woken me up from a dream that will never be a reality I've changed my mind now.
Fantastic!
Never give in. Nothing serious and real can start based on a lie. Put brain before heart. It will save you from pain.
The heart wants what the heart wants…true love prevails
Thank you for sharing your vision
Anyone trying to break other relationship/marriage, remember karma will hit them back
So true!
theres no such thing as karma.
@@geezee2921 No thing such as karma.I have been cheated on twice. Karma never came to hit them
True
No I dont believe this.cause if u r not accept him the other women accept him.because he like cheating his wife..this is not your fault this is his fault.
I do everything I am supposed to: running away from him, letting him alone, not chasing him, trying to move on, find another person, everything that is "correct to do" in this case. Still, after years, my feelings are there, for him, and cannot do anything about that, even if i created myself a wonderful life, active, challenging, exciting, i did everything that i have in control to move on...so, even if i do the right actions, like staying away, because this is what it is well to do, i love him more than anyone else...so, learning to live with these feelings inside for all my life
How are you doing now?
Have you moved on?
Pregnancy will change the whole game
When its all about his kids,whatever you do even if he hates his wife he wont leave
Yah he won't never leave his wife just because of me😥you were right I have to move on even it hurts
This was my situation just in the eye of his kids need to be sweet with his wife and still not welcome and know his family
If he is so dedicated to his family who has given him right to spoil other woman's life just for his enjoyment. He is not real man.they dont cheat.
Lol now I'm broken wish I knew and understood this ,they never leave their wives even if she treats him like an animal
I’m fed up with not finding a suitable partner honestly my heart really ache 💔
I'm glad your here and hopefully my videos will inspire you to change your mindset.
The ocean is big you can find anyone
As u have arched eyebrows u will get attracted to bad souls only i.e people with straight eyebrows. They will use you.
Diva Diva I am with u girl.
Haha
Its best to be a real friend and let them go. No sense in ruining a beautiful friendship due to having an affair with them. Wish the best for the man. That his marriage will be happy and pray for him to be safe and happy even though you must let him go. In the longrun the friendship will remain in tact, and the guy will respect you for standing up for whats right! ❤️✝️ dont take advantage of his weakness just because he may have some.
You can't help who you love especially when they love you right back.
Agre 💯
I don't really know why some married men are too persistence sometimes you may try by all means to avoid them but they still come back,its so annoying and alot of people will not understand this
Because not many women are willing to be a mistress/ side chick. They can have their cake and eat it too. What is there to lose???
ButI had a deep relationship with a man who was not married. Sixty years later at 82 and 89, we foundeach other in a different continent, and he was married. I still love him like when I was 22. I don’t see anything wrong with that feeling, so powerful.
Do - before dating anyone, make sure that you are not a third party. There is no way something can justify being a mistress. Don't let a man taint your image by keeping you as a mistress. Have your power by checking if someone is married or not. Marriage and divorce searches are available to check if someone has already a wife.
You deserve a man you can call your own.
Worst of all when you're single and fall in love with a married man o my gosh you are just his sexing machine ,handkerchief. I'm in love with Jesus then believing him for a Godly husband. Thanks for ur advise sir
You are welcome. Thank you for your support so appreciated!
I just started messing with a married man but we set our boundaries. I’m single and I found his ad on Craigslist and it doesn’t matter to me. We’ve talked and I’m going to be seeing other people because I’m single and i can do whatever I want. I’m not going to waiting on no guy. It’s my turn to have fun.
@Dillards Shopper married or not he is just a man just like all other men. A man. Life goes on.
Waste of time to fall for anyone married.. Man or woman. Think that should be common sense.
Belle O ... and now am realising.. lost my common sense
I lost my common sense just a month ago...I’m deeply in love with a married man, what can I do?
I love him but I am not interested in sexual relationships with him. Dont know if he understands me and my love 4 him. Wish I could tell him and wish he could respect my feelings. I really want him in my life in any form, friend or relative if not husband
Ah, because we all have control over who will fall in love with. Right! I just cut my heart out of my chest, because it choose the wrong man. Anyway, I am not going to act on it...I will try to let my heart to fall for some more suitable candidate...if possible. Love fades if I do not feed it. I wish.
@@cherrycooney4020, good luck you gonna need it, once karma pay you a visit.
In general those kind of relationships have no future and it's better to keep the eyes open for other oppertunities in those cases.
I think it's difficult to be in a relationship with a married man. I do agree with you.
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert Exactly and you might just remain his lover if you keep going on with this relationship.
Totally true
Yes well said
I didnt know that he was married, until he told me and i was really upset. We decided to do the right thing before entering into relationship. Yes - he is not gonna leave his wife and he needs to fix the marriage to make it work. Doing the right thing is not easy but it will save your self in trouble and complications. I love him so much but i need to run and save my self. Thanks alex yes BE DISTANT is the best thing to do while u can🙂
It's really important to be distant!
I know him before 6 month when we first meet he told me he divorced ..last week when we talk he told me he is married still it's break my heart 💔 and I feel so upset ..he stop talking to me now but I really love him but I feel he use me ..any advice?
@@NevenShtaya I'm going through the same situation as u.. it's really painful!
Evelyn Garcia
@@NevenShtaya save yourself and leave him
Thistopic is great.Married man is married man but hey some of those small girls dont realize, when they meet with married man. People forget that no matter what, that married man will not leave his wife for no one. So people should. Stay away from any married man I called them just a long term pain killers not short term because if they gave me the whole world i dont have to think of them. I am writing it from the botton of my heart because. I am a grown up woman I dont want any body to do that to me; and i have the fear of God within me. Nice one sir.
You cant help who you have feelings for but you can stop yourself from acting on it. Dont do it. Being with someone who lies and cheats wouldnt make me feel special, just like the next one
I currently have a crush on a married man. Instead of driving myself crazy by denying how I feel about him, I choose to appreciate him and the way he makes me feel. I want that kind of energy to propel me into the arms of a man (or a woman) that is 100% free to love me.
You deserve someone who is available to you!
No one can change this, even before we have born we find this kind of relationship. And as for me I don't want a man to leave his family I just want to be happy. And to be honest I'm having fun, and I don't want to be married.i was married before so I compared and I enjoy being in relationship with married man is very enjoyable than to have a man every day who will control me and everything must be discussed, so I can't be married again,I will just enjoy
U right
I was in love with married man but I feel bad coz I was truly in love with him : but the day he told me that he is married ,I decided to be single and I just told him that is over
It takes courage and strength to end this relationship. You deserve someone who is for you! Stay strong and positive.
I was in a relationship with a married guy for the last 1 year. Initially things were quite stable and good.But as the time was passing things started to get worse no communication from hos side i used to wait for days to call him...He was always cutting my calls saying i am with family not even calling me in his spare time. The moment i used to put my views and opinions in front of him he said nothing. He never gave me priority. I was always available to him but if i want to reach him to ventilate my emotions he evaporates. Initially i believed him saying he loves me too......i guess he was only filling the void with me which he didnt get in his marriage. I got fooled by his words .He started to pull my weak points.I feel so stuck and depressed😥
You deserve someone that is available to you!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert thank you sir!
I've been in that situation before...
I was already in love with a married man, (and we go way back), until I let him go and sent him back to his wife.
God indeed blessed me, so that I graduated from college with a Bachelor's degree in Liberal Studies, and finally got myself lured away by a beautiful stranger.
And the message?
If I were to think that he would leave his wife for me, I'd be foolish and dumber than a box of hair.
Thank God I got to marry the stranger on Facebook on November 1, 2013! I have never been happier since.
Congratulations you deserve all the happiness.
Wow. This is very solid advice, Alex. I really like the angle you take to approach this topic. I am currently being pursued by a married man and your advice puts many things into perspective. Lots of love, best wishes
Ditto … it’s challenging and painful b/c we do have chemistry but that does not mean compatibility. There is a sacred covenant in place and there is an universal order to follow.
You reached my heart with this advice, because you gave it with such compassion and understanding! Nobody chooses to fall in love with a married man. And not everybody acts on their feelings. What is hard is to be condemned about falling in love with the wrong person when you did not intend it to happen. That does not help. Good, understanding advice does. I had decided to keep my distance anyway, but your advice strenghtened my resolve. Thank you very much!
Me too; and I’ll hold sacred space for you as well ❤
Solution: I will put my phone away and focus on myself and enjoy the present moment that will make me stronger!
Never be with married men...u can't be ever his priority...his wife is his 1st priority...he tells u she is only his responsibility but actually when u realise the things are totally opposite. He always ignores u for his wife. The pain u feel on that is tooo wrost.He will never understand u r feelings...he always looks towards his wife...i never suggest any one to be with married men...its better remain single instead being with him
Right
He will always ignore you for his wife! Is true and it hurts like hell. Not only does it hurt, but it starts to make you believe you don’t deserve any better. As much as u love him, leave him because he will leave u every time for her.
I love Being a mistress
I'm crying I'm in relationship with him for 2 years I really don't know how am I going to handel everything he never talked abt his wife but once I saw his wife's Instagram n found that they both are happy family ,I Just cant see him with his wife I know the reality but cant do it he will never marry me but he loves me what should I do?
God should be his priority, not any particular woman!
Hi Alex, I don't recommend women to fall in love with a married man. I was married 17 years ago when I found out my husband had a mistress. I'm no longer with him but unfortunately because of him I don't trust men anymore. I tried numerous times to date but I always felt insecure to fall in love again. I hope one day I can open my heart and trust a man.
I'm new to your channel and I'll be viewing your other videos. Thank you so much for sharing and making me believe not all men have hidden agendas.
Is he still with the mistress?
I am so sorry for your pain...I know how ypu feel. I found out that my husband is a Porn Addict. He had not only one mistress, but zillions of them, just by clicking the computer. It is devastating. I don't trust men anymore..but I won't lose hope. The pain of a betrayal is worse than losing somebody to death.
True
Such men are often Narcissistic sociopaths. You must educate yourself about NPD and ASPD (psychopathy/ sociopathy). They believe life is cruel and merciless and they have little to no empathy and don't feel emotions. They fake emotions and lie, deceive, manipulate and pretend to be in love etc. You must become aware and raise your self-value. Never continue with anyone who plays games etc.
I dont understand why i always attract married man.
It's very tough to be in this situation.
It's tiring:(
I think it's because you let men do the first step and most of the time, this guys are married...
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert i had always same Situation to the extent that i doubted myself.i take the first step somwtimes to single guys but it never never works out i don't know why
Alex Cormont - The French Relationship Expert but as a woman, naturally I want the man to make the first step.... is it not the correct way?
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert :(
Such men are often Narcissistic sociopaths. You must educate yourself about NPD and ASPD (psychopathy/ sociopathy). They believe life is cruel and merciless and they have little to no empathy and don't feel emotions. They fake emotions and lie, deceive, manipulate and pretend to be in love etc. You must become aware and raise your self-value. Never continue with anyone who plays games etc.
I hope that many women will realize the truth of ur philosophy in love. Again many thanks! God bless u in ur work
A Perfect video that explains my situation where I have been through nd I'm still not enough healed up .To be in love with a married man means is making a diseasefull and dark life.We Should not fall in love with a married Man even in our dreams. Thank you so much for this most valuable lesson.
You deserve someone who is available to you.
Blessings to you
I aready was in love with this man for many years before he ended up getting married. I still am. We were going to be married and he chose another.
If he cheats with you he will cheat on you!! He is showing you his character
true,I cheated with one at work and he cheated with another girl at work,it ended messy.
Affairs happen for many reasons. Sometimes people meet the right person at the wrong time! However, married men never leave their wives it is very rare indeed, even if they love you or are in miserable marriages. If it's not the kids it is because of finances. Never, ever, date a married man. It won't end well and the only person who'll end up hurt is you (and his wife if she finds out).
Why would a married man be so attracted, connected and have so much feelings for a woman that looks just like his wife? Also claims he has no problems in his relationship..this is so confusing.
Because they are players they have no feelings
For a second I thought you are guiding me. Thank you for being there. Your advice means a lot
I can never fall for a married man knowingly, am too possessive to share. Immediately I find out u are involved with another i lose attraction. I keep all married, engaged or attached men at a distance and brother zone them. No private convos, meetings etc, so many cute single guys around for me to get my heart involved with an unavailable man. No no
Thank you for being here!
Me too. You're smart
Being a transgender, it is difficult for us to find a man to keep us. Ive fell in love with a married man way back 2013. It lasted for 4 yrs and 6 months and we broke up as her wife discovered our relationship. After a year and a half I teceived a message to an unknown number asking to have a meet up. Weve then see each other, knowing the fact that I dont know who am i meeting with. I was so shocked coz the guy who texted me is tge married guy that I fell in loved with. Now, were back together. History repeats. I think that falling in love with a married man is not really our fault, there could have something missing with the legitimate one the reason why they go on a complicated situation. Just sharing. No intentions to hurt others, just my opinion. Thank you. ✌
i agree with you we cant control who to fall in love with
I lost myself already. I'm tired I don't know how to get back myself.😒😔
You will find yourself in Christ,if you allow Him into your life.
I'm also now the same your situation.. I'm getting more crazy every day thinking of him.. the fact that his happy now with his family 😥
@@julietmoraa5106 May God bless you:)!
Imagine you are on her shoe as legal wife and how will you feel about it if your man cheated on you. I assure you, you will forget about that feelings and move on. That's the best thing you can do. Never be a home wrecker. Never be an option. You have to stop asap. You will hurt her,her children and your heart too. There are a lot of single guys out there and you deserve someone who will love you the way you wanted to be love. That's what i did. Being a mistress is a choice and thanks God it never happen to me.🙏😊
Thanks alex! Im buying ur philosophy in love. I 100% believe in ur theory of us women should think of ourselves as challenge to men, the prize, the one to be in the pedestal. Its just too late that i encountered your videos. Im brokenhearted as of this time, torn and shatteered...
I'm glad you are here. It's never to late:)
definitely, i would never ever get involved with a man who is married. i am also a woman and i understand how would it feel to be betrayed by the man whom you entrusted your heart and life with.
You're right!
My dear. I wish you well. Sometimes you fall for someone before you get to know they are married.
They are so good at hiding these things, so pray to God you don't fa in that trap.
I never had to intention of falling for a married man, unfortunately 2 weeks ago I got a huge shock.. Yes the confession finally came... Haven't seen him since, he tried to call few times and I told him to leave me alone.. 8 days now no contact... It's so hard because I had real feelings but I know in the end it's for the best.
Ok I got one for you.... I was with this partner for 8 years. We did have some fights and he was younger than me. We both were also striving for a very competitive career in horse racing.... He was already very successful and I was just beginning. So I think in the same way that he was proud of me. He was also ashamed because I didn't just roll over and have kids like the rest of his friends and that's what he really wanted and I really wanted my career first.... So I went on to begin to be successful and I decided to go on my own. I left him and moved away to the other side of the country because I still loved him and he still loved me.... And it's like if we were anywhere near each other we had to be together. But yet we were so not on the same level with the fact that I wanted to have a career and he wanted a family..... So to make a long story short, I moved away for 13 years. Never spoke to him. Did not have any social media and made sure we went our separate ways. Even though we were both still in love with each other. I never stopped dreaming of him. I never stopped trying to replace him. Apparently he did the same thing only he had three children with someone and was apparently forced into a marriage with this woman because she already had threatened to take his children away.... 13 years later my mother passes away and he was very close with my family and I was in my home for the funeral and for support to my father and he just happened to stop by because he had heard my mother had passed. He had no idea I was there. Since this moment we can't stop seeing each other. We can't stop being with each other. We love each other and we have missed each other so much. But.... Now he has a family that he has to always go home too and a wife that he does not love. Now I'm stuck here in the middle of wanting to be in his life and he comes and sees me as much as he can. But it definitely hurts to know that someone else is in my place living in the house that I picked everything for us to live in and she doesn't lift a finger. Sleeps all day doesn't tend to him or the children and just uses him for his money but he's afraid to lose his children. I feel like everything is my fault just because I didn't roll over and have a bunch of kids and now I'm paying the price. I love him and I will never let go. I don't know if it's worth it. I certainly think it is because I think it's amazing that we have a second chance... I guess. It's very hard to be third and fourth place all the time when I used to be number one I certainly put him above myself.... And yes I have tried people over the years to replace him but nobody is him and he has said the exact same thing about me when we are together. It's unlike anything I've ever experienced and the feeling of mutual for him, but he always has to cut me off and go home.... To the home we once lived in... To the home I chose everything for it was just my stupid fault for not having kids with him.
Do not chase married men
I do agree...
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert how can I email you alex? I need advice
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert How can you give unbiased advice if you are already judgemental about this? I am sorry but what you say does not sound credible
How can I email you I need advice please
The Miscellaneous Miss
Who is talking about « chasing » , it sometimes happens to develop feelings for someone who is unfortunately married.
Point is : Don’t let it go past the feeling.
Leave it at that. And eventually move on.
Sometimes I am realize this is not easy time ,and realy hurts 😭😭😭,I try to walk away not to run very fast ,love is hurt sometimes,thanks you,hope I can think twice
Thank you for this video and being so gentle about it. Many women caught up in this were misled at first :(
Thank you so much for being here!
I fall in love with married man, I'm pregnant now and he doesn't care for me anymore. But I'm still love him. I wish listen this before.
Bless your heart
The problem is when you fall in love with him, plan a future with him, THEN he tells you he’s married. I’m not a home wrecker. My ex husband cheated on me and we got divorced. I know how it feels. I wouldn’t knowingly fall in love with a married man. Now, I don’t have contact with him. It was over when he confessed. I’m still so devastated and destroyed by what he did. How do you turn those feelings off? How do you make the pain stop? How do you get over something like this?
Music helps..
With time. That is the only healer which helps in this case. Or a new love relationship. Give yourself all the self-care and love which possible. You were really honest and strong to cut the relationship! Not many people are able. You did the best for yourself in a difficult situation. And he would have broken your heart worst if it would have continued. You can heal from this with time and love! You are a strong person! Much love and healing to you ❤❤❤
I feel like drowning and asking for help in this kind of situation. Eventhough I know for sure that it's wrong to have a relationship with a married man, but shit happens and now it's so hard for me to get out of it. Trying to be distant to him although its so painful.
Hey rizza, are u ok now? How r things now?
I hear you... I'm going through the same exact thing now...
@@SaystheTruth3 same thing for me , wa are in the same situation , how are you dealing with it?
@@damaskhaoula4777 Please break it off completely. It is better for everyone!
If I can help you in any way feel free to let me know.
May God give you strength and wisdom...!!
Be happy while you can!❤
I fell in love then I found out he is married ,, I can’t get over him it’s two years I’m not with him n don’t want yo be side chick but I can’t forget him
Same
It'll get easier with time
@@michellerichardson3090 no it does not
@@myeolchiioppa very true. It does not. 25 years on and still miss him even though i have moved on...
Same here 😭😭😭😭
I watched this three times today, I love it. I am presently breaking up to him and he said. I am a cheater, I am a user and I do not love him. So painful.
Don't worry they always say that to make them self feel better. When they are the ones cheating on there wife.
I AM sure God gave you many blesses because of this vídeo! You are an angel. 🙏
Currently in the same state,, I think i'm just obsessed with this guy and not love because all my life I hated being in any relationship with any maried man,, but now I'm in one of which I feel it's not okay and I am fighting so hard to let go of the guy,, he's all I wanted in a man,a dad to two.the best thing is that my spirit is so strong as compared to my body that's weak hence I can overcome it by controlling my body
What did you do 😢
I do love deeply n brutely avery handsome charming alluring married man who is many years younger to me..the moment i saw him for the first time..automatically got excited n said " YES"..This Man is of My choice..as if i knew him since many previous life..Actually He is My 'SOULMATE" I demand nothing from him still he satisfy my heart mind soul silently without speaking from a distance..He has a beautiful loving resourceful rich wife with two beautiful daughters..i love them too n dont want hurt them so maintain perfect distance..though sometimes unbearable..hurts but cant help..Still Love Him Deeply Unconditionally Forever...
Lol, our situation is similar. The first time I saw him, when I stepped into his office, I saw his eyes, I loved it. I knew right away he have children. Ok ya I back
Out. We began as friends. I argued with him sometimes. At some point we started to see each other, just the two of us, regarding work. Btw he is 30, I'm 20. He is perfect to my eyes. Btw, sooner, we met again and idk it was naturally that we liked each other and had emotional connection. One particular night, he fetched me from home, we went to his favorite bar, I got drunk, and we kissed in his car, I vomited, he assisted me a lot, even while walking I still holding him and hugged. He brought me to this one restaurant that serves chicken soup to cool me down. And then we continued to a pub, we drunk again. After that we had intimacy at hotel. After that, it was very hard for me to talk to him, I was very heart broken. He is the first man that ever did it to me. But now I got the lesson. I know if people actually know this and meet me in person they will hate me, but I am thankful that I got this lesson, I will never let my children to have the same experience.
I love your French accent. I was in Paris in July/2018 and I walked by the man of my life. He is a French Policeman, tall, blonde, blue eyes... I'll never forget his face. Unfortunately I live miles away from him. Florida-USA. 😥😥😥
Thank you for your support! :)
I'm lawyer & 25 years old I got involved with a man when i was a law student he purposed me to marry him he's 14 years older than me after 4 years of relationship he start ignoring me he continuesuly ghosted me make me feel like nothing because of him I'm in severe depression and then some days ago I find out that he is married....he was playing with my feelings & his wife's too but I was thinking he was cheating on me or his wife.....I blocked him delete his contact etc... but still it's hurt like bitch......He said I'm sorry but I fall in love with you that's why I did all that.....
girl, this guy treats you like an option, leave him like a choice obviously his playing you tell him to take his ass to the playground, know your worth this guy dont respect you or his wife.
I feel u..
Ghaliakhalid Khan you should be happy that your not with him anymore
He is a manipulative asshole and a liar
it is so sad... to have feelings with a married man.... I avoid too good relationw ith a man who is married... I avoid married men friendships... I dont trust this...
but even tho I avoid all of this!... I met a guy who said he is single... after... faaaaar too long time... i found out he i smarried and has 2 small kids..... he knew how i think of all this... i would never have started meeting him if i knew he has a relationship...
but im so disapointed... he knew my point.. he gave me no chocie.. and made me fall for him... he knew i'm fallen all into him... and still he did lie and cheat and aaaaaaall the shit he did.... i found out myself about his wife....
it all hurts so crazy..... i had to leave! ofc i had to leave.... i'm the mistake in the family picture.. i'm in the wrong movie.... i'm very disappointed that he took me into this situation... it just shows exactly that he didnt really respect me.. or love me... to do it to me...
also i dont wanna stand between a couple.... i left... but im dying out of pain.... it wasnt my choice.... how could he lie... or am i so stupid that i didnt notice earlier?
Praying for you Lola🙏🏽
True love doesn't see married or unmarried...it just happens
Truth
I was talking to someone over the course of 4 months. Very sweet guy everyone push us together. He told me I was his and we were meant to be together. But he confessed to me that he had a wife I was devastated. I distance myself. But I see this guy every day and I find myself trying to fall back on those feelings but I always catch myself. It's so very hard but I know no good would come from this. I want someone for me and not me and someone else.
Yes! you deserve someone that is available to you.
Bonsoir monsieur, thank you for adressing this delicate topic. Sometimes you don't know that the guy is married at first, later when you know it is much harder to detach :( I felt a huge atttaction to this man and I am sure he felt the same as the signs were obvious. But the situation is complicated we only see each other in a group setting. So flirting is very subtle, but sometines intense. I tried to forget him, I even took a month break from going wherr he went to clear my head. During this time of not seeing him, I worked deeply on myself. I think he came to my life to reflect to me wounds that need to be healed. He is older than me which I find attractive bc subconsciously I am looking for the love and validation of a father figure which I did not have. Also, I was married to an older man myself, but I found out he cheated on me while I was pregnant with his child. I never really got the time to really get over this. The divorce aftermath was even more traumatic. I do know the pain and destruction caused by infidelity. That is why I do not want to get involved in sth like that again - even though on the other side this time. My problem is I really like him and the hobby that we share. I dont want to quit my hobby, so that means I have to continue seeing him every week. How do you handle your emotions when you have to meet this guy regularly? Do you think it is possible to turn romantic feelings into a friendship? I would really appreciate a second video on this issue. All the best to you and everyone reading this.
you are lying to yourself..u dont have to see him and choose another hobby or club for this hobby...u better stop...lying
Such men are often Narcissistic sociopaths. You must educate yourself about NPD and ASPD (psychopathy/ sociopathy). They believe life is cruel and merciless and they have little to no empathy and don't feel emotions. They fake emotions and lie, deceive, manipulate and pretend to be in love etc. You must become aware and raise your self-value. Never continue with anyone who plays games etc. You need to emotionally detach and look at other genuine people.
Anny
Get more oh professional help this will cause you depression and sickness!! Believe me!
It's wrong to fall in love with a married man
Thank you,so lovely to listen to you.Never again will l fall for a married man,he promised me the world etc said he was getting divorced,his marriage was over ever bf he met me.He lied lied lied,when challenged he ran away,, He did not like me telling him the truth.He nearly broke me but TG l got thtough it.Thank you again gor your video.
Thank you for sharing, you deserve someone who is available to you.
Its hurt to hear but its true 💔
Thank you for your advice sir
I have never had any relationships with any man before. And i have always been afraid to. I mean, how could i be deserving of something so beautiful when my own Father never even love me enough to respect me? He had beaten me when i was growing up and now in my early 20s, i never knew what it was like to feel truly loved. The first man to ever hold my hand and kiss me was my therapist. He was married and i did not know. I mean how should i know i was young, (19) and he was like older than me (35). I did not know how to react to something like that. Everything was new and foreign and I was so afraid of displeasing him so i did everything he wanted me to do. We had engaged in sexual intercourse but prior to that i was reluctant to let him anywhere near me because of past multiple traumas from male figures of authority in my life. They had all abused me. Some molested me. And they all treated me badly. But because i had so much trust in him, i gave him everything. My heart, my soul, my body, my innocence and virginity. But i was so afraid... This happened just last year, November 4th of 2019. And now i am going to officially see him in court this week. I never wanted to take him away from his family and put him in jail. I never wished to hurt anyone. I never wanted to feel so much pain in my heart when i remember him. I never wanted to hurt like this. I never imagined that my first would be this detrimental to me. I really did just like him. I admired him beacuse he was the first to give me a sense of what safety and comfort felt like. He dirtied my perception of love... I really did just wanted to feel what it was like to be loved. All i wanted to do was confess to him my confused feelings of affection and admiration for him, in hopes that he could help me understand these new feelings. And if they were "real" and actual feelings of "love" But he lied to me by hiding his true intentions and the truth of his actions. He betrayed me. He manipulated me into thinking that what he was doing TO me was right. He... Used me. Like a "Sex toy". (This feelings of betrayal is getting old. Heck, my family does that all the time and yet why does it still hurt?) Why did he have to take advantage of my state of vulnerability then and corrupt me? He made me do something immoral and illegal, technically speaking. He is a married man, that had kids, Who was my therapist, and he was 15 years older than me. Sexual relationships with a patient and therapist is illegal. (at that time i had no idea. I did not know what he was doing to me was already rape and it was abuse. He told me that it was a part of the therapy.) He abused his position of authority and trust that he had over me and took advantage of my vulnerability. The case i am fighting for is rape. And i am in so much pain. I never knew how painful a heartbreak is. Its funny though. He and i were never even officially "in" a relationship to begin with, so i do not understand it myself, why i feel this heartbreak. But all i know is that my heart is in so, so much pain.. We just met the second time when it had happened. I came to him to ask for help. I will never get the answers why he did this to me. And i will never, ever feel safe, loved nor worthy of love ever again. I hoped that i could feel what it was like to feel love, but i never knew how much it would actually cost me. I can never take back that part of myself i lost to him. I wish i could. I knew that i was not worthy of love in the first place. I thought i could. I thought i was. I really thought i was allowed to feel something so beautiful. But it is and always will be just another fantasy. A dream that i will never, in my life, ever experience. Because i am so broken. And no one will ever love something so broken.
Im fall inlove with thE married men i hate this feeling 😪😪😓
Tbh its not love, its just lust -- because of the hormones 😝 been there done that and im deeply regret it. Love yourself. Because youre worth to be someones priority. Remember that
I wish i watched this before i fell in love with him
So glad you are here now!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert where have you been all my 8 mos 😭
I’m here if you need to talk, I feel that 😔
Hahaha
@@cheerjulz92 i badly need someone to talk. Someone who wont judge .
The key here is,there are 7 billion people in this world why would you want a married man with kids involved?Ask questions and find out if he’s married before you invest in a guy! especially if he’s 30 years or older and make sure he’s not having a midlife crisis lol!
AMEN, THANK YOU... well said!!
That was very true ........even i had a relationship with a married man . Sometimes he will be like no i want you you are the one i love most sometimes he changes his mind he will yell at me sometimes he will beat me also still i couldn't leave him bcoz i love him a lot but also i know this doesn't work 😢😢😢 literally i am getting a sucidial thoughts please girls don't get into a realtionship with married man this ruins your entire life
People want what they can't have.. Sad 😔
I always hate connecting with a married man. So, I avoid married man. But, fortune didn't live beside me. I fell in love with a man. I knew he has a wife after one year. The night that I found that he has a wife and a child is a terrible night for me. I will never forget this hard pain. I stop our relationship. But, I didn't stand on my own because my rememberance and my true love for him made my heart hurt. But, our relationship is not absolutely happy relationship. He didn't have time for me. I can't tell a telephone with him even one time in a month.
Especially, I feel hurt in his birthday and new year night. I became know he does not value my love and I shout not give him my precious heart and time. So, I decide not to connect with him and to live away from him. I no longer love him. I no longer involve even as a little part of his life.
I believe I will meet a guy who values my love.
You deserve someone who is available to you and can be there to provide you with a happy and healthy relationship.
Alex your videos always inspire me and reminds me my worth incase if I forget my boundaries. Keep it up👍 and love your accent as always 😍
Why all these messages about loving a married man? Are you hinting around for me to break it off? I will never stop loving you, but if you want me to leave you alone, i will. I thought you loved me too. I must have been mistaken. If you want me to, i wont bother you any more. But i will always love you and want you. Please dont forget me!,,
Hi Alex! It’s my first time to watch a video of yours. So helpful. Be watching more of your videos. God bless you always.
Thank you for being here. So glad my videos are helpful!
Its hard reading these comments but good to see. Ihave been in a relationship with a married man for 5 years, but its marriage by arrangement. She knows about me and doesnt care. They have been friends for many years helping each other and roomates. She had a stroke and has dimensia and asked him if he would take care of her and she would marry him to offer him really good insurance in exchange for helping her until it gets so bad she needs to go into assisted living. Ive sat with both of them and its a strange triangle but we are all good. They have never been intimate just friends. So I am a support to him through his caretaking stuff and she is good with it. we have all spent time together from time to time having dinner and things like that. Its a strange arrangement but its working for the three of us for now. It is hard at times but I keep busy and have a life of my own set aside our relationship.
Married Men Will Never Leave The Wife
It is not true.I know 2 examples from my nearest closest friends circle
@@MsMicione what ur two close friends did
It happens all the time married men divorce for a mistress
He starts off "i will always say be careful" and not "hell no, don't do it ... runnnnnn" *end of video* LoL
God who created marriage hates infidelity!!! This is why the world is in such a mess, most people does not value God's laws and principles.
Everyone always speaking of God, uhmmmm, has anyone meet him, bible, uhmmmm, who wrote it, did they live in heaven, seen God, talk to him, did a interview with him, this world is all messed up, everyone thinks they know everything, but don’t know nothing but what was taught, wrote or shown , everyone wants to be God, always think 🤔 they know everything, uhmmmm I’m waiting, WHO MEET GOD
Yeah. All this god this, god that bullshit. More wars and murder and disgusting behaviour happen because of your god than any good ever has. Pray to god to cure Covid-19... But, wait... god created Covid 19?...so what now? Fairy stories. Grow up.
M addicted to him...I just can't leave without him...we are in relationship from past 14 years... only god can save him
i think married men are the easiest to open with them a private conversation
I met a married men and we start dating and built a relationship,he been chasing me for one half year.Until he got me and we both falling in love to each other and we have so much fun when we see each other.
Please break this relationship off completely!!! It brings a lot of pain and suffering.
TO DO LIST: When you date someone and before you even “fall in love” find out for sure if they are married.
Yes, always take your time.
it will be to late by then, you have to find out before you date and fall in love with anyone
But some will devorce his wife when they trully loves his girlfriend if without kids u can fight for love but if with kids just let him go..
"What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." (Mark 10:9)
Thank you so much for this advice...I’m awakened and enlightened!🙌🙌🙌😥
I fall inlove with a married man.My God so so pain.😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
How was it?
😭
God be with you, I feel you
I didn't know he was married when I fell for him. Now, after 14 years he calls out of the blue, still married, but feeling neglected, and sadly for me, I never stopped wanting him. But I'd like to think I'm a tiny bit smarter. Met but kept it friendly. Now all of the sudden, my bf is saying he's going to leave me because my kids won't move out. But I have a son whose vision is compromised. Can't just throw him out. So I think now that I know he's marrried, I can't really be anything but friends with him, but that will be hard, assuming he even continues to contact me.