How To End An Affair With Someone You Love - Support For The "Other woman"
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- čas přidán 23. 07. 2024
- 00:00 How to leave a married man you love
2:30 Get clear on your truth - What do you stand for and want long term
4:50 How does this affair relationship make you feel at the end of the day?
6:42 Is it love or trauma? - Intimacy or attachment
7:43 Painting over the gain not just the loss
9:55 Does this affair relationship support my future?
11:30 Pay attention to your affair partners actions not words
15:29 Emotional intimacy - what am I not saying
16:55 Understand that there is an element of easy in an affair relationship - you don't clean up his dirty laundry
17:55 Tell a friend
19:30 Know he may not end it. It's up to you
20:44 Don’t be vague on your boundaries - don’t be half committed
22:25 Go no contact
24:21 Understand that he may try to get you back - He won't want to end it
If you have fallen in love with a married man it can be incredibly difficult to navigate breaking it off. Deep down you know it is hurting you and you want the secrecy and affair dynamic to end but then theres also a lot of love and a strong friendship that you share. You may be wondering how to break off the affair relationship and still be friends? Can you still be friends after breaking it off? Whether it was an emotional affair or physical affair, you have invested yourself into something that ultimately you feel you must stop.
In this video on how to end an affair with a married man you love,
I will answer all your questions on how to end it in the best way possible and how to end it if you feel you don't have the strength to follow through. If you have found yourself continuing to go back to the affair after you have ended it then here are some tips to help you go through this breakup.
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This is a channel for women in affair relationships as the "other woman"/mistress. My intention is to create a safe place where you can get the answers you are seeking in order to create lasting change in your life. If you are dating or in love with a married man and don't know what to do then you are in the right place. ❤️
Kate London Affair Recovery Coaching Australia And Worldwide:
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It’s so many people who are involved with a married woman or man but are too afraid to speak about their experience. After searching so much on CZcams, no luck until I found your video. Thank you
Hi Nicole, It definitely can feel challenging at times to find the right support in this type of situation. I'm glad you found our community to support you on this experience you are navigating. Welcome :)
I was in a relationship with a married man, for 5 years, till I began feeling uncomfortable about my own behavior of accepting a relationship like that and I said no more.
I agree. Such a great channel
Kate.. thank you for doing this. I’m in sooooo much pain. I’ve been trying to leave this situation for 4 years now and I don’t feel like I’m going to be able to make it. This relationship made me very good at lying to people especially myself. I feel so lost and hurt. And finding your video is like grasping on a life buoy ring in a middle of ocean of pain and confusion.
It's not an easy path to travel at all Hershey Concepcion. If you want further support please connect with me here: katelondon.com.au
There is also the membership community you can join which is invaluable. In the membership community you will be able to connect with other women going through what you are going through and no longer will you feel like you are drowning alone in all this. Pain shared is pain halved ❤️ If the community aligns with your needs, we would love to see you there! All the details are on my website as well katelondon.com.au
Take care 💕
A woman would never date a man who lives with his mother but she would date a man who lives with his wife
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This advice applies to ending one's own marriage as well. Thank you for giving us space to think about the things that are bothering us intuitively, but that we often push down because it's so painful to do anything about. Really appreciate your channel.
Thankyou Grafton. I'm so grateful for the opportunity to support you on your journey.
Ladies, and Gentlemen; let it go! It will stress you to the max!!! More importantly if you arent or cant gain strength you will have a full mental breakdown!
Thank you
That’s exactly how I feel is I would have a meltdown
I have never needed no one else man❤
If you are given closure and have a kind goodbye then a mental breakdown will be avoided
Thank God for you. Im in thr animal stage atm but i am definetly going to go over where my gains are from taking action. It's such a taboo situation i have nobody i can speak to without feeling deep shame so i seen this video and clicked so fast. Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable❤
Hi Jamie, thank you for sharing. I'm glad this could be of value to you!
Thank you for acknowledging that it can be fire, the best relationship ever, deepest connection. In 50 years I never had such a strong attachment, laughter and common interests.
Hi @cindy6576, A lot of women do say this 🤍 Sending you much love. How are you feeling as you navigate this expereince?
I so relate to this....years of toxic men to find the man that showed me passion kindness and Love...the guilt I felt was enormous ..he wasn't a bad man just married to a Narcissist who would not even hug amor sleep in same bed. Yes I knew this cos I was in their lives for couple of years b4 relationship...
@@catherinesquire6656Why didnt he leave her?
I was in 4 year almost 5 year secret relationship with a married man. And it was the best relationship I had ever had but also so frustrating because sometimes he he was hot and cold towards me. He broke it off and told me he wanted to focus on marriage. I hope that is truth.
I have never seen a video where there's support for the other woman and what she is going through living with guilt too. Thank you for this video.
The problem can be solved by setting boundaries with married men, don't allow them to tell you their marital issues.
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Thank you for this video..I needed this
I'm glad you found it helpful 💕
You are freaking amazing!! Thank you 😊 💓
Thankyou Jen! I'm so grateful you have found value here 💕
I worked for him. He's a Dr. We got caught.. we are both married. I lost my job. This has been 7 years ago... I have lived through the embarrassment in a small home town... I stayed away 6 months after it happened and went back... In saying all this.. he has a few other women also .. I'm addicted to his love. He's not leaving his wife. And I've lived with my husband who is miserable ... The chemistry... The connection.. yes. . I can't seem to break away... And I'm 54, he is 46. He has a few girls in his office and the latest is 28.... I find him staying with her late at night instead of me.. I write this and sound so ridiculous... But if you have never been through this. It's hard
Hi @karenweaver4798 Thankyou, so much for your vulnerability. I am confident that many who read this will be able to connect deeply with your experience. We are here to support you through this journey. 💕
I understand. I feel the pain. Blessings.
I’ve been in the same situation but 5 years.
Thank you for your video's, I need to hear them now. 😢
My pleasure Lyndahughes5999 I'm glad you have found this space 💕
Most devastating period of my life especially since he has refused to talk to me. Humiliating and painful makes me feel disposable and defective
I’ve been in a 11 yr relationship with this person. Can I just go with nothing said?
This is so difficult. So many years of memories or my kids love this person. It’s so hard
Thank you so much, you are the best
Thankyou 💕
Thank you for your help
My pleasure @myrandacolina 🤍🤍
My deepest regrets come from making the people I love feel like they have to choose between the people they love. When they do the same to me, I feel completely alone.
Thank you 🙏
I ended an almost 2 yrs affair with him, he was liar, we live in together he never used to go home, only on weekends, but when his wife reached out he completely denied the fact that he loves me his wife later on gave me pictures of his another affair gfs that he's been cheating on her with different girls, he physically abused me also and emotionally drained me. He keeps coming back into my life
I can't move on😪😪
Sending you love during this challenging time Soynai 💕
It’s sooo very hard to move on😢
It’s harder to move on when they refuse to give you closure
My issues don't seem to align with the
sound advice offered here due to the unique circumstances, I think? But at the same time it does fit and make sense. So confusing!
Hi Cap Dan, This can definitely be a confusing experience to navigate. No two experiences are the same and every journey to healing will also look different and work differently for each individual. Take was resonates and leave the rest!
I don’t know how to message you privately. I have been crippled and feel like my life is never going to be the same. I would appreciate anything you you can say with the basic details.
Hi RM, You can contact me through my website katelondon.com.au or message me on Instagram @katelondon01
I would absolutely love to have some one-on-one time with you I'm in a 2-year affair with a married woman that only lives two blocks from me,, she also only works less than a mile from me a mile from me.
There's always talk of her leaving her husband but it's like I don't even want it to happen she has three children but I'm head over heels and love and I'm just tormented I know I need to leave I really do and I were both 52 years old. I've had many relationships in the past and even married I have no children. This seems to be the biggest hurdle of my life and I've gone through many as other people have and this is such a burden to me I constantly think of it all day and all night and I just know I need to leave and I just can't pull the trigger
Currently the girl I'm courting now just ended her affair with the married man whom she had an affair for almost five years now she's starting to move on and having a closure with him.
Be careful with that
Pick it up again in a year.
How do i reach out to you Kate London? I need help and advise so bad about my situation....
Hi Monica, you can find my contact details on my website katelondon.com.au/ or you can book a connection call with me here: calendly.com/katelondon/call
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I think the point is- do not go for a married man- one you are not important you are being used for the self of the one needing supply and you are just a supply. Also you would not want to be the other person, so you are working against that which you value- hence you become a low value person- inner conflict. Women or men- just don’t do it. Weakness and low self worth is all it is.
well,this is for people who are already in it and want to leave which is the hardest most difficult thing
The grooming part of dealing with a married man is crazy
My moral compass knew it was wrong, at first I was like this is the man I prayed for, he is 6’4 290lbs beautiful teeth, chocolate, so compassionate and caring.
He makes sure he tells me good night and good morning, he takes me on lunch dates and the way he holds and kiss me is unreal.
This was a short relationship it only lasted a week because it took one time for him not to answer and that was a true trigger for me.
I blocked him and I feel great and I’m not going back.
I have never been desperate and I can get my own man.
Actually I feel bad for his wife because he is a charming piece of shit😂
not judgy? could of fooled me. A smart other woman knows exactly what she's getting into and you don't fall in love first of all ,you think like he does use him for companionship and sex, but have other boyfriends on the side. Above all you tell no one about it.
Yep.
Thank you very much for making this video. I dated my college boyfriend for 6 years. He asked me to get married at one point. I said no i wasnt ready at the time but in a year or to definitely and he wasnt pleased by that and than left me and got married to someone else the next year. The been married for 15 years. However i have had an off and on affair with him for all of the 15 years. Its a really long story but i been in love with him all this time and hurt that he married someone else.i recently got diagnosed with cancer. He started being supportive and it meant a lot to me and i restarted out affair all over again after i had stop contacted for 2 years because i told him i didnt want to be involved with him anymore. I feel very emotionally vulnerable with him right now. I think the only way to emsure i dont go back and move on with a clear conscience is to tell his wife. I don't know her. I don't want to meet her, but I was thinking of calling her to explain everything. What is your opinion?
You posted this a month ago so it's been a while but I hope you didn't call her. Focus on your health and be glad that you didn't marry him because he's not the faithful type. I wish you a full recovery and freedom to meet an available man. ❤
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Too get out hobble affair is to tell one you trust and it very bad tell the police with sport and if his in work place
Yall rather date married men instead of Polygamy...I Don't get it ....
women, if you're dealing with a married man, please leave him alone and think of his wife.
she may be doing everything she could to work things out with her husband.
and you are pulling him in another direction.
you're single, please go find your own man.
I disagree. I speaking the perspective of a person who had an affair with a marry man and as a woman who was cheated on by her husband. No person gets pulled away by the spouse by another person. That person chooses to step away.
He stays married for a reason.
It's not just single women.
Another thing why do you assume married people cheat with single people. This shows your naivete. Half of married people that cheat cheat with other married people.
@@hb2862choose something better for yourself. You deserve much better.
How about this just dont put yourself in that situation. There are plenty of men and women out there that want the same thing
I appreciate your share @coriebegin5951. However, assuming someone should never make a mistake is unrealistic. We're all human, and part of personal growth involves learning from our experiences, even those we might regret, judge ourselves for and feel shame towards. Sometimes we find ourselves in unexpected situations. It's in those moments that we can learn valuable lessons and better define our preferences and boundaries for future relationships.
Some women are totally unaware of the double life! It isn’t a choice if you don’t know for a long time. Once aware, the woman is deeply in love and trauma bonded.
@@cindy6576 Yes! This is actually so common
@@cindy6576it's called self love. Staying with someone's husband can put a woman in many dangers including spiritual and generational curses. We must choose self love over everything else. We are not victims, we need to make the world a better place as women and we cant if we are sleeping with another woman's husband.
It’s sucks feeling to let go even u know what what all about the situation 🥲🤣🥲🥲
Most devastating period of my life especially since he has refused to talk to me. Humiliating and painful makes me feel disposable and defective
Too get out hobble affair is to tell one you trust and it very bad tell the police with sport and if his in work place