Soldier Mourns Loss of Combat Veteran Brother To PTSD Battle
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- čas přidán 2. 04. 2023
- This week’s Urban Valor episode features Army First Sergeant Jon Bakaian. Jon grew up in Southern New Hampshire. He was close to his brother, Jeremy Bakaian, an Army combat veteran who enlisted into the infantry 6 months before he did. Jon conducted multiple combat deployments to Iraq. He speaks about the tragic loss of several comrades in combat and from suicide while battling PTSD. Additionally, Jon has had to endure the loss of his father, stepfather, and brother Jeremy within a 6-year time span. He says his brother Jeremy was never the same after losing two of his best friends to combat, which ultimately drove him into a dark place.
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Why don’t we pay soldiers like nfl players this bothers tf out of me
I'm a former marine iraq veteran. I've lost 3 siblings to overdose and a brother to suicide. Your not alone. I personally made it out of the opioid and drug lifestyle. Your not alone. Thanks for sharing bro.
There are no former marines, marine !! Good words
My bro od too man amd family is tore up your not alone either brother ❤
Former??? Lmao
Great interview. Utmost respect for this man. I could never go into the military. I was crushed in a car wreck the week before I was supposed to go into the marines. I went into law enforcement until I had to retire for medical reasons. Myself I deal with ptsd. God had other plans other than the marines. I have many military and law enforcement friends that I support and they do the same thing for me. Sgt. I understand your feelings when it comes to a lot of the baggage that all of us carry. God speed to you sir.
On behalf of my family and i thank you Jon for your steasfast service
Jon, there will never been enough thank you’s in this world to show the appreciation for you and your brothers. What you said at the end? It will change someone’s life who watches this. Your step Dad is was not the only phenomenal human, he raised one.
Your last sentence is the most beautiful and profound statement I've ever read! ❤️
Civilian referrals are not mentioned much. I’m glad you said that. I was one of those civilian therapists for vets. My specialty was trauma/PTSD/TBI dual diagnosis years before I contracted with tri-care. It was overwhelming the amount of overspill from the VA and where my practice was,there was a full VA hospital. I mean full in that they had every program available but that was the only one in a 150 mile range. I was honored to be able to help and earn the trust of all of them, and their families. You say vets don’t have the monopoly on trauma, and you’re right, but it’s very different and it spreads far and wide and is very complex. I’m not saying other trauma isn’t, I’ve survived some horrific shit I still can’t talk about so I know what it all feels like but it’s different. I can’t explain how but it is. It’s not mote or less, just different. I had to make sure I was good myself to be able to cope with what my job was with the vets. I stayed in therapy myself to make sure I wasn’t burning out or not catching secondary ptsd symptoms on time. The whole thing is intense. The beauty of it is there’s healing. There’s ways to live where it won’t consume you. So if you can’t get into the VA, look for a civilian that specializes in trauma.
Talking to a civilian even with all the "titles" they earned doesn't necessarily make someone like me feel confident in opening up. Having said that even talking to another vet isn't going to make me want to open up. It is a trust issue for starters but it's also now I have to relive through all this shit and explan that to who I'm talking to to get an answer from this person who wasn't there or hasn't dealt with a similar situation. It's not about answers either but it is if that Make's sense. I did try to talk a few years back it did nothing for me, didn't bring back people I lost and I still have the memories that keep me up at night or wake me up so how do you deal??? Accept the situation for WHT it is and until people like me do that I feel I will continue down this path of chaos, emotional spiritual psychological chaos!!!
@@marc2638 that does make sense and you're right. It's all about trust. That doesn't happen overnight no matter who you're talking to. It's not about bringing people back and you might wake up the rest of your life with those memories. It's about what you do when you wake up, how you go about your day. How you think about those things. And all those questions are exactly what you ask a therapist to see if you want to work with them. There's a lot of shit therapist. Not gonna lie. A lot. There's also a lot of good ones. Finding one you trust is key. How do you do that? You go in and interview them. Ask your people who they have talked to and it helped. Titles do help. You don't want to be taking to someone who's causing you to relive it and cause more trauma. It's like if you have a heart condition you see a cardiologist. You don't go see an eye dr. They're all drs but they specialize in one part. That's what the "titles" mean and why they're important.
I know it doesn't work for everyone and sometimes you have to go check a few out until you feel comfortable with someone.
Thank you for being there for our vets. I deeply grateful. God's Speed!
@@teresamartin8344 you’re welcome. If I could, I’d still be doing that. I help when I can though. The thanks is all to them for taking the step and bravery to want better for themselves.
How does all of your videos not have millions of views ? I’m a veteran been listening to your videos all day at work for days now. Great stuff
This is me. I’ve honestly thought about seeking to get this taken down because I feel dumb when I see it, but then I see comments like this. Thank you.
Jon,
Your story is very powerful and important. My condolences to you regarding your losses. I think many of us have had childhood challenges and what you about trauma being transferred to someone is very true. I am sure many don't realize this. Our family foundation is supposed to provide the necessary emotional base to grow from, providing there are no major disruptions. But life does, sometimes, come with unforseen events and situations.
I wish the very best in your family life and with your Army career. Stay the course, you made it this far. You can and will go further. I was in the Marines, like 30 years ago, also in the Infantry. I only did four years active duty and also Army reserves.
Brother, grow strong within yourself. Fortify strength and focus. Grow wise with much knowledge. The Army offers a lot of opportunities. Keep getting the necessary help you need. I pray for you and your family.
Thank you for your kind words. Wishing you and you family the best 🙂
Thank you for the words. I appreciate it. I’m thankful they had me on to discuss this stuff so others can see they aren’t alone.
It's excellent to see his self accountability and understanding where his approach needs to be altered and when he should and shouldn't
Touched the soul with this one 🫡
Thank you for the words. I hope me doing this helps as many people as possible.
Served Army 93-97. Wanted to see combat since I was a kid. Started to work out and do cross country at 15. Joined after HS. Was in AIT when Somalia happened. We were so mad. We started to push down wall lockers and punch the walls in anger. We had to be ordered to stop. My first unit just got back from Somalia. I knew the Rangers who were there. Spent 4 years in and never got my wish. Tried to go back in 2000. Was told no because of the downsizing. Was asked to rejoin after 9/11. I knew my military history. I read every military book when I was in. I told the recruiter. “ The Russians lost. Why would we do any better” I still have the Email hanging up. I developed PTSD from not seeing combat. The better treatment of 9/11 vets angered me. I never got handclaps at the airport or public thanks. I knew I could see combat. But we would loose. When the fall of Afghanistan happened. My PTSD was cured. I pity 9/11 vets who were in Afghanistan.
Brother thank you for sharing that with us and hope you are well 🙏🏼
Oh come on dude
this was definitely the most heartbreaking story ive heard on this sub. I wish Jon well
I’m doing very well. Thank you
Hooooaaahhh 1st Sgt. !! Proud of you for putting your story out there… may have young soldiers who feel they can’t cope but you told them numerous ways they can and that you are available for support. They are lucky to be under your supervision and direction!! Wishing you nothing but the best and respect until the end of your trail as well as transitioning into the civilian life!
Always here brother!!
Great interview!
Bless you brother and thank you for sharing
Thanks 1SG
'If you're not infantry, your service doesn't mean as much'... but also 'why do so many veterans kill themselves', 'we need to stop veteran suicide'. Don't tell people their service means nothing and then expect them to transition back in a healthy way. Every one of my fellow Marines that killed themselves never saw combat. The one thing a combat vet won’t understand is what it's like to do 4 years and leave the military with the shame of never getting to be in the fight.
Love you Jon. Jeremy was a great person. We will see him again when we are old and brittle. You can always call or text me. I have my own struggles. The life of a grunt.
Deeply grateful for you and to you
Very powerful message god bless you brothers
I'm sorry about your loss God bless you and all Veterans be safe
Damn TOP! you are a real true hero and your story hit home. I am an 82nd airborne combat vet and you've been through way more than me but i respect you and your story was just amazing to listen too. Freaking brought me to tears bro. hope the best for you and your family!
Appreciate it, brother. Experiences vary, but you did it too. Thank you for what you’ve done
Praying for your families recovery, my brother
Thank you
A legend 👍
POWERFUL
Thank you 1st Sergeant.
On average, 20 Veterans commit suicide every single day. When is this going to be seriously addressed and not bandaided? When all of us are gone? First thing we need, in my humble opinion, are Awareness Programs, for Enlisted, Veterans, and civilians. Every type of media platform should be joining in to educate We the People on what to look out for, what to do, where to go, etc, etc.
God bless you, Jon ✝️🇺🇸💟
Thank you
God bless this brave 1SG! Welcone home brother! #RamadiBrosForLife #UniversityOfMogadishuClassOf93
My friend is MARSOC. He is a silent warrior and will never ask for anything. Unfortunately he is in great suffering and needs help from his people. I can't help him how he needs. He is losing everything and he doesn't care. A beautiful home and many valuable things do not matter, but his life is important. unfortunately he is giving up on life and i feel he won't survive much longer. Could be today or in the next few days. If anyone sees this and can help him win the hardest battle of his life. Please give him a chance. His name is Justin Tracy so if you know this man than please save him!!!!!! Merry Christmas America.
Send me an email Brother, Josh@urbanvalor.com
Hope he sees this, thank you for your service and know you have a whole community backing you.
Hi Sgt Jon..what happnd when u returned home...Hou grew up..aftr sewing your brothers die..it forces you to grow..grow up quick..thank GOD for your military brothers
GOD BLESS
Hank you John. SEMPER Fi
This interview was deep. Thank you for your service 1sgt.
I know ads are important to keep the channel going, but when some woke ass commercial comes on when he’s getting into his tragedies, make me pretty angry CZcams would do that to his story.
369 checking in- nope i am not ok are you?
Guilt is a motherfucker, if you don't understand this, consider yourself lucky. "We murdered a lot of people!" I'll always remember those words spoken by one of my soldiers...
I hope people press on this even though the caption is hard to read
My last duty station was Fort Drum
Jeff Morris on The Mike Drop Podcast talk about this situation
Yeah he was my Commander. It was a very tough loss for the company
Something stood out to me when he said "We really didn't know how to grieve well." Is there a way to grieve well? I wasn't in the military but I was cop for 15 years and been to three funerals, two were line of duty deaths and the other a suicide. I think about it and I don't know if there's a way to do it. If there is, I'd like to know. As far as 6-8 weeks for a military vet going through crisis to get an appointment....that's just unacceptable and deadly.
Hey, this is my interview. I’ll say we may not grieve well, but not grieving is never the answer. I didn’t learn that until later in my career. A year before I did this interview, I would never have done something like this.
Since I’ve been out I’ve had many attempts. I’ve reached my breaking point time after time thinking I’d never make it back. This most recent time I went to a shoot down by the river got drunk and attempted to suck steady my weapon. The only thing that stopped me was a female’s voice in my head pleading no no no please this can’t be happening. Turns out this was my current wife’s voice. It’s not ready but when you’re at that point you truly feel like you have nobody. It doesn’t matter how many people are around you depression is loneliness
If you ain't infantry you ain't shit...I mostly only dealt with IEDs...Man that must have made that family tradition seem really dumb haha As someone who once wanted to be a scout and ended up being an engineer only due to being married and needing money so when they offered a 20k bonus for engineer over scout i took it. After deployment to Afghanistan however I do not see how anyone post 911 can say this stupid shit.
A lot of loss for a guy that looks to be in his 30’s.
This is me. I’m currently 36. It’s been a rough life, but I’m thankful it. I can handle anything now
😢 🇺🇸😎
BRCC lied about Kyle. 👎👎
Evan and others with the company have done so much for veterans. Rittenhouse had more than enough financial support and to this day hasn’t spent a dime on legal aid. He didn’t need BRCC’s money.