6 Signs Your Ego Is Controlling Your Life
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- čas přidán 11. 07. 2021
- What exactly is an "ego"? The identity that our minds create about ourselves can be described as our “ego”, which is the translation for “I” or “me” in Latin. Being confident in yourselves and your skills are great, but being overconfident causes people to have very large egos. Large egos can easily get in the way of your relationships, both on a personal and a business level. Here are a few signs you're letting your ego control your life without realizing it.
Disclaimer: If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This video was meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck.
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Parents: *You have to be confident!*
Friends: *You have such a big ego*
Me: _visible confusion_
Same
hi fellow sky kid
@@ning-ten hello
Yeah,but not just them,more like...the entire world and at the same time my own mind (at least in my case), that's why I actually never know what to do with anything,anyone or myself
@@ning-ten are you a fellow sky player too?
0:58 you always have to be right
1:38 you always want more
2:22 you only focus on yourself
3:10 you don’t like it when other people succeed
3:45 you set unrealistic goals
4:43 you lack empathy
@Oliver's mummy omg same 😳
Thank you 🙂
Thanks
2 of these are inaccurate. So you shouldn’t always focus on yourself? No goal is unrealistic.
@Oliver's mummy yeah it's a all narcissists are egotistical but not all egotistical people are narcissists
Ego says, ‘Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.’ Spirit says, ‘Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place
Bingo! Very well said!
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I have unrealistic ambitions because I also live in a egotistical society with lots of competition. There's noway I can live without any sort of ego when this toxic society itself is in constant urge to deem my self into a box. Yet I feel empathy for my fellow humans even tho if they don't agree with me. Deep down I also know we're all the same, no one is superior when in nature we're all the same having a massive ego. There's no specialty. And I definitely know I'm not always right cause sometimes I've some sorta self hatred. I think I am some kind of egotistical towards other toxic egoists. As if I'm trying defeat the monster by being an even superior monster myself while being right. So I try to set the bar high of my sense of empathy towards my fellow humans to reduce the sense of ego. I then feel sorry for them for being soo wrong of petting such toxicity in their hearts.
another sign of developing a large ego: low self esteem. many people with low self esteem develop egos despite hating themselves, because they need to defend their emotions. learning how to accept yourself does far more than hating yourself
Haha, yeah I have low self esteem and relate to most of these points. I think I suck a lot, just not as much as everyone else.
@@celestialcephalopod4331 *hugs*
@@Ray-cr9wg Thanks. I probably needed that.
So true !
Well not everyone with low self-esteem are Egotistic, if they fall in that category they'll become one
Ego is false confidence, self-respect is true confidence.
When the ego dies, the soul awakes.
(has both ego and self-respect)
Im srry but i gotta disagree, having an ego is just having a immense amount of self confidence, it's not false confidence. To put it short knowing your self worth and ignoring all your down sides resulting in the reason you belive you're better than others.
@@gertrudesatekge2635 Are you disagreeing with High Living, or with me?
@@acedelta12 high living
@@gertrudesatekge2635 Ah.
"Ego is not your amigo." - Scrooge McDuck
That rhymes and i love it
So true
Strongly disagree
@@heavenlydusk go away gacha kid
@@haroldinho9930 go away person who bullies others that just play a game
Psych2go: makes a video.
Sadness and depression: why do I hear boss music?
Psych2Go: God may forgive you but I won't >:)
That’s cause the sadness and depression will become the boss and the one trying to fight the boss is my puny body
@@damn5991 depression: oh fuuuuu-
PTSD: Sweet Mother of Jes-
This video really hit close to home. I struggle a lot with ego. The reason is because I use ego (or maybe ego uses me idk) to make myself feel better and to hide my insecurities. It's cowardly, and I know it. I really want to be able to love myself fully and stop hiding behind ego.
True
same!
Hope you'll get through it soon!
That's fine...thats a personal journey for your own self-discovery...knowing that you have an ego is a good sign...
Same
Thanks to you, I learned that I'm not an egoist, I'm honest🙃😄
I can't be since I've spent years being put down by people I struggle with narcissism but not ego maybe it's because I'm too smart for that
@Bella Brielle it's really not funny my brother is a sadist who enjoys using me as his punching bag when he isn't making me do everything for his dog and I'm convinced my mum hates me because I'm a constant reminder of my dad since she decided to name me after him oh and I'm trans autistic and I have Borderline Personality Disorder
That means that you have a big ego of not having a ego 🙃
Same
@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214 damn, I feel bad for you. I hope it gets better for you 🥺
I have low self esteem and one of the couple reasons I struggle raising it because I’m afraid of being arrogant just like my sister and I don’t want to be like her. Arrogance is one of the top traits I wouldn’t want to be around
Ay yo it says 4 days ago
You have to balance it too. Not just be low or high.
Self confidence does not equal having a large ego, just like they said in the video. I have a poor opinion of myself and I ended up falling into most of the traits stated in the video (for example, I have trouble accepting my achievements and I always want to do better/more, I have extremely high expectations for myself and I set unrealistic goals for myself.) Reflecting upon this, I think these factors can sometimes feed into a low self-esteem depending on the circumstances.
@@RainbowUnicorn.-. I know that it’s just I have an all or nothing mindset. I really don’t know why I have this mindset but because of it my mind always resort to extremes then balance. I want to resort to balance but I find it really hard. I also have low self esteem for other reasons
same it kinda pisses me off when ppl are rude like that 😓
Except that part of not liking when other ppl succeed, everything else is me.......thank you psych2go.....I always knew deep inside that my thought process is wrong but could never face myself....thank you
Your honesty will lead you home.
nothing except when other ppl succed it's me when some moron that looked like biden got promoted i felt betraid
"I'm worse than everyone else" or "everyone else is better than me" but I never thought like "I'm better than everyone else"
Same🤕
@@Krishna-ft4lt I'm glad that you can relate
@@stardust942 you okay?
@@ShanBojack sadly no:( I am at the worst point of my life. I currently have zero self esteem and i feel like i am a burden to others. But i hope everythings will get better one day. Thanks for asking and I hope you are doing well💚💛
Let’s build our confidence by doing things we are good at friends.
How's your day going so far? Quick disclaimer: If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character.
First!
I’m Good!
Crying
Good and thanks Psych2Go
My day is going quite good but how about you?
Ah yes finally a good video to watch while suffering
Video is intended to create for self-awareness not meant to attack anyone who may relate to the points.
Don't worry man.. I also can sadly relate as well :/
The biggest sign for me that I strugglenwith controlling my ego is that I sense egotistic behavior in everyone around me and despise it. It bugs me so much when others make identity-centered decisions and make everything abiut themselves. But what you hate in others is usually something you hate yourself for. Liberating yourself from your ego is a long and hard process but I think we can get there. At least I hope we can.
1. you always have to be right 0:57
2. you always want more 1:38
3. you only focus on yourself 2:21
4. you don't like it when other people succeed 3:10
5. you set unrealistic goals 3:45
6. you lack empathy 4:44
I hope I could help!
Well, my smaller brother have some of these signs...
More time travelers :D
My biggest goal being having enough energy to get a bagel in the morning:
Thank you positive stranger
Oh shit I do all 6.
I realised that my ego is controlling my life... this is toxic. Thank you for letting us know😄
Never let you ego take over you. You are stronger than you think, and are bigger than all your problems combined. Have a good day
Very true 👍
Hello time Traveller
uh,, how was this commented a week ago..? pls tell me it’s a glitch haha
no my ego will take the world down
@@lordescanor8232 same
Just a small correction, "Ego" actually does not translate to "I" or "me" in Latin; it only translates to "I." Latin absolutely loves changing words/endings of words depending on what part of the sentence they are, and I/me is no exception. Actually, it changes just the same way in English (though in English, most nouns don't do this and in Latin all do); when the speaker is the subject of the sentence (I see, I go, etc.), we use "I", and in Latin, we use "Ego" (Ego video, Ego eo, etc.). When the speaker is the subject of the sentence, in English we use "me" (They see me, They go to me, etc.) and in Latin, we use "me" (Me vident, Ad me eunt, etc.).
Not that this matters at all, but I felt like commenting it just for fun, because I'm a nerd who thinks this stuff is interesting, and I thought maybe someone else would too. Valete! < 3
I am a nerd, and yes that was actually surprisingly interesting. So thanks :D
Okk I just read the first two sentences, but how seeing the number of letters you typed just convinced me to like your comment
cute hhaha
Yea
Every langauge make no sense but every lnguage is in human langauge
@@lyonidus3073 I'm glad you found it interesting, haha. :)
Famous quotes "Technoblade never die" "We win these" "If you wish to defeat me train for another 500 year"
what
Technoblade *NEVER DIES!!!*
Hahahaha you beat me to it 😂 , nice thumbnail right
Its thousand years! He doesny make it half way through
"I'm not the sharpest cookie in the box right now ok?"
I have ego problems… and they have become more covert as I’ve gotten older. For instance, I think I am ‘better’ than other because I don’t care about ‘material’ things or success in the traditional sense. I am 27 now and realizing how badly this mindset has affected me. Trying to get better currently but it’s difficult.
I am struggling with narcissistic traits. This video was helpful thank you
Omg I’m so egotistical. It’s ruining my relationship. I get so triggered about what other people want to do . I feel like I deserve so much attention and affection and I get angry and sad if I don’t get it . I can honestly say that my ego is huge because it protects me . But it actually has been destroying me
Strongly relate.. :(
I used to be like that but one person in particular changed my perspective. You don't always have to be right, you don't always have to feel frustrated about someone else. Other people have other opinions than you and that's going to change.
Now, about the one that says "you want to bebetter than anyone else, you deserve the same or even more than others", to me this might have been a problem I had as a kid. See, my parents, especially my mom, loved comparing me to my brother or even other kids my age. And yeah...self-confidence drops. Bullying was another aspect. Not having a social circle was also one. I believe that your ego develops with how you were growing up, how the nature you lived in affected you. I still do feel like I can be better but I have said to myself that I'm not gonna become the best at something, because someone out there is better than me at that something.
Your voice is calming and soothing. Thank you for your tips
The difference between a narcissist and a person who is just very confident with them-self is that the narcissistic will drag others down to make themselves look better but the person who is just self confident won’t💕
Thank you so much
Video made me cry a bit because I related to a few of these points. Instantly put me in reflection mode
🙏🏾
This video was exactly what I needed. Thank you. I could never quite put my finger on why I felt so trapped.
Well im pretty glad i don’t fit the descriptions! I’m pretty proud of myself now actually because it seems that how I’ve been working on myself and meditating and being mindful keeps the ego in check! Good luck with anyone out their dealing with these issues. I hope you will feel better with yourself soon, truly. I would recommend journaling, it does wonders for introspection. It helps me so much
For the past 2 years I thought I was being confident and finally knowing my worth. Turns out it was my ego. I just got tired of being the average guy and being the loser. Once I’ve tasted victory, It became my addiction
Same 🤪
Wow this helps me out tremendously thank you for sharing this video
There was this dude that would always say how every single thing was trash because it was corky and that he was a superior begin whose sole purpose of existence was leading intellectuals into the right choices,
It was a f**king litetature content channel :/
you always have to be right 0:57
you always want more 1:38
you only focus on yourself 2:1
you set unrealistic goals 3:45
you lack empathy 4:44
Dang it.. I relate to most of these..
Your voice is so much calm and soothing...
Honestly, a few of these are traits of me, like lacking empathy and wanting to be the best. I'm actually quite aware of this.
I did this things when I was little 😅 By the way thank you for making new videos every day!♡
Thank you Psych2Go for allowing us the opportunity to become more introspective.🙏
Honestly, I’ve noticed that many of my high school peers struggle especially with signs 2-5. I do think it’s really great seeing many young people striving to do the absolute best they can in school, but it’s best to do so to actually learn and grow as a student and human being rather than to use academic success just to impress teachers, peers, college admissions officers, etc.
Wow!! Thank you for this!!
So um I just wanna thank y'all, I've been feeling depressed for a couple years and just masked it. I stopped caring about myself,I stopped brushing my teeth, I stopped eating as much. A few weeks ago I had an Infection because of it. I then realized that people care about me and that I shouldn't let what people say get to me. My Infection is gone now and I have started to take better care of myself. This chanalle* helped me tell my mom that I feel depressed. We are going to get proper help from my doctor. I just wanted to say thank you for helping me, you helped me out alot. I hope you inspire more people to get the help they need.
Thank you for this. ✨
"When ego is lost, limit is lost. You become infinite, kind, beautiful"
- Harbhajan Singh Yogi
Great job, Psych2Go :)
This really helped me, ive through out mu whole life had a bloated ego and always wanted to achieve somethijg unrealistic, i always envied others for their accomplishments and success, this video helped me so much, Thank you.
Your videos always helpful❤️😇
I'm genuinely so happy that I watched this vidio. I've been questioning if my ego was big for weeks and this vidio concerned it. I can fially recognise and defeat it!
Most people around me tell me that I demand too much from myself, and recently with therapy I've come to realize that I don't think it's ever enough. Weird to think it might boil down to ego since I've lost so much self esteem, but I guess those two are different. Self esteem is healthy, ego is only for appearances. I have a long way to go to change this.
You guys do the perfect work for a world of people falling to their egos (no, I am not immune)
The animation is really amazing!!!
Thank you for your content ❤
im scared how almost all of this hits hard
Same here. This video described me perfectly. Now, I plan to clean up my act.
good on you guys
I saw this in myself 7 years ago.
I didn't make a mindful effort to change myself every day...
now my life is destroyed.
read bible Proverbs. good wisdom in there. changes the mind
Watching Pysch2go's videos fulfill my day.
I noticed some of these signs are the same things my husband does. He doesn't do all of them, but half of them yes. So does his mother. Apple doesn't fall from the tree it seems. Trying to teach him empathy. Slow process but it's going
You should just leave him.
@@Weird_dude265 ...no. I love him far more. And I know he loves me. He's betrayed everything he was raised to be, just so he can be with me. He's an insane narcissist with a slight ego, but he bends for me when I'm hurt. He recognizes he did something wrong and tries to learn from it. Honestly I'm lucky to have someone as amazing as him.
So thanks, but no thanks.
@@elephanty8857 It sounds like you have low self esteem and you're in an abusive relationship.
@@Weird_dude265 k
This is so true! I lived 10 years with a narcisistic and all these signs were there, and almost destroyed my life. Finally I had the courage and strength to break through his chains, but I atill have emotional issues, so seeing a therapist to find myself, who I am. I am learning to stop telling myself his lies, and tell myself the truth. God saved me just before I did harm myself, because I didn't want to live anymore...
Thank you for this creative video 💙
I do not feel like these descriptions. But thank you for explaining this.
Just say big ego, small d, it’ll phase all the big bois
"Big ego, small d"
🤧
What if it's your girlfriend though
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@@lamargames3940 what about big ego big boys 😂
Thanks for the helpful tip
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I used to feel constant disappointment in myself, and that I wasn't good enough for me to be happy with myself, but then I started to get good at school, and I got more confidence. I thought that it led to an ego, but it's just confidence.
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To anyone who watches this video from now on I hope you see this. The problem isn't your ego, its your lack of it. Its not a good thought process to simply try to become the best, instead crush those who stand in your way, (those that are worse at what you do than you are). Now put yourself in an environment where there are other people with this big ego, then crush them, now you are the best no questions asked. At first you need to think you are the best, then you need to prove it. My soul is awake, I no longer waver, because I know no one can compare to me.
What’s crazy is I’ve seen these traits in people in positions of leadership. It’s sad thinking back on how relationships have ended and it can all be prevented if we checked our egos. I would add people that need to be another persons saving grace.
same
Thank u for the psychological mentoring that u have provided me in this recent years have helped me a lot to get along with my teenage years...
I relate to several of these signs, so please make a video on how to not be as egotistical. It would be very helpful.
I've been trying to control my ego a lot as I got older. If before I always wanted more, now I choose to want more only if its beneficial in the long run. I get jealous if people get success but not to the point of hate, but jealous that makes me want to work harder and believe that I can achieve something like them too. It's all about changing those thoughts into something better.
i read the title as Eggo at first and was soo confused. Damn Eggo's controlling everything again!
I am scared of being confident because I dont want to grow a ego. So I hold back
Holy hell this describes me PERFECTLY. And now I realize I really do have a bloated ego and I let it control my life decisions and reactions
Thank you for providing wonderful information I have all these signs inside me. How to overcome them?
My ego came from people trying to put me down so I felt like I had to defend myself. It got to a point where it got out of control and I was starting to become it. I’m glad I caught on to it.
Learned a lot from this
I've always thought I had a big ego but now I'm relieved that other than the first one all other doesn't apply to me
I've been self afflicting myself as I can't determine whether I have a bloated ego or not, but I believe I might now. I notice that I love seeing other people succeed and accomplish stuff, and I hate compliments. As a Kid i was declared Gifted and always did good in all my classes up to middle school. But I hated attention and never wanted to be a "Nerd." So in High School I purposely didn't try and acted dumb amongst peers, and slowly started creating a "i don't need school to succeed" mindset. But where I can't determine whether I have a bloated ego is when someone says i can't accomplish or achieve something, because that just triggers something in me to prove them wrong and it gives me more motivation to achieve a certain task.
For example, after acting dumb and constantly sleeping in math class, a friend started to put herself on top of a pedestal while slowly throwing jabs at me insinuating that I was lazy and dumb. So in my mind I would say "if only u knew," and thats when I started trying on my tests and constantly get A's. But I never showed her because I don't like making others feel bad, but it did bring me pride knowing I was smarter and still had it.
I'm just saying all this because I'm interested in what you guys think.
I relate to a few of the points here, and seeing people talk about low self-esteem in the comments, I relate to that somewhat too. Course, my mental state is one that is nigh unnavigable. I have no clue how I tick, or why, and no ways to find out.
To everyone reading this: you are gorgeous and don’t let anyone bring you down💕🖤
Thanks fake dream :)
Thanks
Thank you so much and you too! Take care ~
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I have a video suggestion. Can you make a video about how to protect yourself (mentally, emotionally, etc) when living with a toxic SIBLING. This is something that people may be dealing with, like myself. It’s hard and very exhausting.
That part about "not wanting to see other people succeed" is particularly telling.
Ego is hurting my ability to make and keep friendships.
Thank you for your kind informations. I really was strugling to identify these causes🤍
This video helped me ❤
Just a reminder that «You are incredible, and your light is needed in the world» ✨
Hey, I hope all of you are doing well! Remember that no one is perfect and that we can always improve! Even I’m afraid to admit that I kind of relate to these signs.
Yes, I have an ego and it is negatively affecting me to enjoy the journey of making art a career and everything else good in my life.
Years ago I was a HARDCORE egotist as described in this video...however now that I am aware of my own egotistic tendencies I've learned to (sometimes) reign it in a bit.
However now that empty vacuum where the egotism once resided has been replaced with cynicism. Rather than feeling like I'm on top of the world...I instead feel like the world is a pile of trash and I'm trapped in it. I WANT others to succeed, but when I constantly see them failing I blame either society for not letting success be an option, or if they failed because of something I told them not to do I scorn them for not heeding my warning (often it's a mistake I once made and wanted to help others avoid...but apparently I'm surrounded by people just as stubborn as me.)
condolence
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Hi psy2go, i hope you will be reading this....i have been watching your videos since you had 1 M subs and that was one of the best decisions i ever took in youtube...
Your videos help me a lot for making myself a better person, thankyou so much for your videos ♥️✨:))
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@@Psych2go thanks a lot!!!
I liked this video, it helped me a lot.
But I have a few questions.
How we can control our ego?
How we can stop being egoistic?
Can you please make another video how to overcome ego?
I think I have an inflated ego.
I don't want but like it gets in my way.
Most of these signs exactly matched with mine.
The timing of psych2go is interesting.
I'm in a changing period, from a person who has an enormous ego to a... idk, better, stronger person.
I, as an INTP, always have to be right. I can change my mind tho, if I am proofen wrong. Beeing right and having confidence in my knowledge and opinion is just a big pillar of my personality.
I only have 1 thing on this list which is, sometimes I be jealous when other people succeed, not all the time but it's mostly if they have succeeded in something I have wanted to do.
Y'all always be putting summaries in the comments and dont know how I much I appreciate them😭😭😭❤❤❤I love yall. I screenshot them all the time to have quick access to the info
This was me back then it was hard to identify my ego especially the part of unrealistic expectation because I was just afraid to be rejected back then. Now I learned to do what's right and not to listen to the interests of others.
Too much or too less of of an ego are both destructive cases. As said, ego is just stating you as a person and what make you, you, apart from the collective -- it's not a bad thing and it's pretty essential for your ambitions to work towards in life. That could be used to help or inspire others your own way.
Ego itself isn't the problem. It is when it's not balanced.
I had a depression for 2 years and i have found out one of the main problems. I had 0.nada ego. It was sow low that i has gone into negativity that i thought others are more worth then me so i never complained about things that i thought were wrong. But since i have increased my ego , i stood up to my france teacher that was treating me very bad and was always making me look bad in the class. And after i confronted her infront of our whole class she did what she could do best and screamed at me. Long story short she had to apologize and i think that really increased my ego a little bit to much. But it worked with my school notes and that i dont let myself push around anymore it gave me more self confidence. This overself confidence made me reach thinks i couldnt reach be4 like writing a+ because it made me study every day after school so i would be the best. Before this i always wrote d and e. An official iq test 15 years ago sayed that i have an iq that is much far above average sayed and i think that extra ego made me use everything i had i guess and it worked. Ill even meet our president of germany in february because of a project ill have finished in january :).
Its kinda ironic but i think what depressed people need, is a big chunk of ego it is increasing self confidence. Not to much but still a big chunk. It makes you feel like you are worth A LOT more then u thought.
Nice video! Subscribed yesterday ^_^
I just realized that I am egotistical and I had the thought that I might be egotistical in the back of my mind because of my friends but it wasn't until I watched this video, and related to everything in it that I really saw my massive ego. I want to get rid of my nasty ego, do you guys have any suggestions? They would be very helpful and much appreciated, thanks to everyone who gives me any tips/ suggestions.