My mum was a post portum lady. She once shared that proper post-partum care can help mothers regain their pre-pregnancy figure and reverse the effects of ageing. I hope that the Western world will adopt this system of care.
We have this in the west. It’s just that most women are brainwashed into thinking they have to rush back to work or they don’t bother to research their options. Even though they can afford care like this. They just go to the hospital and say yes to everything
@@reshuner We barely have any doulas in Germany. We don't even have enough midwifes. That's one reason why c-sections are so common,thry are fadter and they pay the hospital more money.
@@ShoyuRamenBreakingBadSalty. What do you not understand about Postpartum recovery? 1 month is barely raising a child. 😂you dumb or jealous. Because mostly western people do not take care of women after birth. No appreciation at all.
GIVE THIS WOMAN AN AWARD. Edit: I was saying she should get an award because even though it's her job, she's still doing a lot of hard work and not only taking care of the baby but the mom too kind of. I DIDN'T MEAN TO START A WAR IN THE REPLIES, I WAS JUST TRYING TO SAY THAT SHE DID A LOT OF HARD WORK 😭
With 8K comments theres a very low chance you'll read this, but man i gotta salute you mamma for having a truly positive vibe after just giving birth. You even made a video during post surgery recovery. thats SO cool to see I struggled with the baby blues and didnt know it untill a year later. You both deserve good luck and great health and Continued happiness 😊
Samantha, that happens sometimes, for whatever reason some women go through postpartum depression and I think it's fairly common. My oldest daughter did after her second child. It's an overload of hormones that you had no control over. It sounds like you are feeling bad about the fact you weren't able to be as positive as the poster. But don't feel bad about something you had no control over and maybe you didn't have help or their were other circumstances that contributed to the blues. I just want you to know you are evidently a fantastic mother I gather from your statement. I hope and pray you are doing better. And if need be a doctor can prescribe some medicine to get you over the hump. So just try to do something for yourself every day even if it's just a short walk, or nap or bath. Be kind to yourself. ❤
I also underwent through same.. postpartum depression.. and anxiety and so much.. I didn't know how life went by 2 yrs.. I didn't take a single pic with my baby also . It was scary and painful... After 2-3 yrs of delivery.. I slowly gained insight into life.. I am still recovering
I struggle with depression after my son was born took me almost a year to step out my home. My church Pastor which is a woman was amazing thru that process I still struggle with stepping outside my home but I’m doing much better after admitting to myself and those around me that I had a problem .
My mother in law is Mexican and she did this for me for almost 3mo she let me sleep,cooked for me,took care of my daughter and me as a first time mom her support and help meant the world to me 7yrs later I still talk about it 😍❤️ I love that lady
Post-partum care is not just amazing -- it's needed. My post-partum midwife in Germany didn't do THAT much stuff, but she still helped me so much with breastfeeding, healing, and taking care of the baby. Sarah and people like her are life-savers.
Yeah, but unfortunately if you live in the wrong area, you have to find a midwife the minute the stick turns blue, otherwise you are on your own. They are not paid enough, so there are not nearly enough midwives around for all the moms.
I can’t even imagine. I gave birth alone and raised my daughter alone. And I was wrecked trying to do it all by myself and work. This should be a gift to all moms. ❤
@@juliatrzuskowski9491Back then 27yrs ago there wasn't any support either! Basically did everything alone as well & with a c-section at 20 with my 1st born it bonkers. 😂
I was a single mom, and moved back in with my parents when I had to do six months of bed rest. I was thankful for any help I got, but mom was still raising my two much-younger siblings, so she mostly just took the baby for a few hours in the morning so I could sleep. We survived, but I can’t imagine the pampering Jennie got! What a blessing!
I'm currently pregnant with my third baby.. only had my mom help with my first baby. The second and this third time I will have to do on my own as my mom already passed. I still wished she was around 😢 (I have a mil but she's so different so nope)
This should happen everywhere after a mom gives birth we are in so much pain it would really help us to have someone like this take care of things in the house and to help take care of us ❤️
In my culture (I'm South African Tswana) depending on ones circumstances, mothers or aunties help out full time for atleast the first 3 months.. 💫.. High five to Sarah
Yooo the US needs this. They spend so much time helping the mother DURING the pregnancy, but after you have the baby they're just like "k good luck." The mother and baby still need some care after the delivery!
they don't even help during the pregnancy really in the USA. it's why the USA has the highest mortality rates for mother's and babies for a first world country
This is the kind of care women need after having babies. This needs to be applied in the US. I also think if I had a Sarah and she did all this for me I’d just cry from gratitude ❤
Omg it really does! I would too! It just wouldn't be expected here to have such amazing care postpartum and I'd just sob and probably still try to help her out out of guilt of her helping me so much🙃
Thinking back to being a first time mom, I wish this service was available. It's the biggest transition in your life both mentally and physically. The demands are high and I wish I had some support. Having a caring support person would make this life transition easier.
After my emergency c-section, my baby was kept in a super secure room for 2 months, so I guess we kind of had this? Except it cost us 115,000 extra bucks, so maybe not...
I’m Nigerian. And we have this culture where the mother of the woman stays with her 3 months after child birth to help take care of the baby and her daughter. It’s called Omugwo where I’m from. 🥰
It's the same in most parts of India. The daughter goes to her mother's house after delivery and gets her postpartum care staying there for 3-5 months from her mom. ❤
Mother of the new mom stays for 3 months, yet gives last name of the baby, of the father of the new dad. How about who ever passes on their last name to their baby or grandchild, should be the one to care for new baby for 3 months. Not just in one culture, but in EVERY CULTURE! It's the same the mother and her mom do most of the work to care for baby/child, and yet carries on the last name of the dad, and his dad, and his dad. Who for some kids, their dad is a deadbeat dad, and yet baby carries on the name of someone who chooses to be a ghost in the child's life. I think its wonderful the baby's maternal grandma is a live in babysitter, in Nigerian and Chinese cultures will stay for 3 months when newborn is born. But it's time to carry on the maternal family name and maternal grandma family name, since it's thr mothers and grandmas who are the ones to actually RAISE the baby/child
@@Taylor086 agree with u...baby's grandparents needs to take care of baby and his mother bcoz "she is giving a heir to your family not her mother's family". And lastly they will come and show more rights than the girl's parents. So it should be done from both sides.
Can i man be a postpartum care worker?!?! I had no idea this was a job!! There's no better feeling for me then helping my sister out however she needs after she brought my beautiful nephew and works to bring my beautiful niece into this world. This seems like such an amazing job, helping people who have just given their soul and body to created another life. im going to have to look more into it!
I'm a girl but I'm just curious, do you know yet if men can do it? (Also I think most women would feel more comfortable having a woman to help, but I still don't see why a man couldn't do it, as long as he's trustworthy)
I would not feel weird having a man help me out around the house, might even motivate my husband to be more helpful. Someone with a little more muscle to help me get off of the couch would be nice.
Was raised with this expectation and was let down big time by my Naija relatives, even offered to pay out of pocket for my mom to cover PTO or leave of absence but nope...
The best I had was a week in hospital (40-odd yrs ago that was normal) and a week at the in-laws where my mother-in-law did everything for me and my baby. Its got me over the initial stages of post nata. The Korean way of post natal care should be normal across the world, it sounds wonderful
I spent a month before delivery making and freezing casseroles. My mom was able to come for the first couple days after I came home, mainly to heat up dinner, entertain my other children, and hold my newborn so I could have a nap. Thank goodness for mom, even though it was only for 2 or 3 days. After that, I spent the next 4 months on the living room sofa next to the cradle until the baby mostly slept through the night so that nighttime feedings and fussiness wouldn't keep my husband awake. Because he had to work, you know.
@@terken8454and? She definitely wasn’t just in the job for money if she did so good, but getting money is a pretty good reason to do something because money is how we don’t starve! Home this helps you not be rude in the future!
@@Editor_Cat11 Can we stop calling everyone who doesn't sugarcoat RUDE on the internet? I never meant it to be come off agressive or rude or something. I only said god didn't send her, but they intentionally called her for doing her job and payed her. Wtf are you talking about? Now I'm about to get rude. You don't have to take everything that's not sugar and butter as offensive. Don't even reply to me I don't wanna comminicate with you further
@@terken8454 it seems like you’re better suited for face to face conversations. Don’t bother telling people not to reply to you, this is the internet and once you decide to comment, your words are free for anyone to dissect how they please. Just like how you had the freedom to leave a comment, anyone has the freedom to say what they want in response. Glad you could learn something today
In Africa our moms are our postpartum care workers.They legit take charge of everything to ease the entire process for you. Plus they do it for free.God bless all our mothers 😊
@@JayJS1410 yhh it's called " omugwo" mothers used to be so proud of doing that for their children but feminism is fast ruining this amazing culture. Many mothers these days don't do it anymore.
I’m not Korean but I would have gladly hired Sarah! As a mom of 5 with no mom of my own, doing it alone has been rough. Help makes all the difference! ❤
Me in America. Had a c-section. Complications. They left the baby in room cuz it’s my responsibility n my baby. Baby wouldn’t latch. Lactation consultant visited for 10 minutes n couldn’t get him to latch. Never saw her again. I begged nurses to take the baby as i was in so much pain n exhausted but hospital policy-baby stays with mom. Sent me home 3 days later. BYEEEEE. No family in state to help. Baby was waaayyyyy different than expected. didn’t like to be touched or swaddled, for example. Doctors kept telling me I’m crazy it’s all normal. Turned out he is autistic. His behaviors were not normal. This was 18 years ago. There is NO care once u give birth.
I have similar stories from the US. What this video describes is possible here, but - just like in Canada - costs $$$. Very few countries provide universal and helpful PP care.
When my daughter was born via c-section we hired a woman who specialized in caring for new moms and babies. She was in her 70's. She was amazing! Fixed meals, did laundry, and cleaned house while also looking after my 3 year old. She had more energy than someone 1/2 her age. What a blessing Harriet was.
This service should be fully funded for all parents. Imagine how much healthier all families would be with a trained, experienced expert in the home as new parents adjust.
Imagine if that existed in America for all women who had children... We would not be one of the worst in maternity death rate amongst the developed countries 😔
Not only was all the care she provided great but she seem very comfortable with the camera and had a great attitude. I loved your interactions as there seemed to be great chemistry between the two of you.
Imagine going to work with newborns, glowing Mommies, and proud Pappas every day. This has to be such a rewarding and fulfilling career to work with new or next-time parents who couldn't love and appreciate you any less. You got me thinking now, 🤔.❤❤❤
My Auntie Cora did this for my mom after her c-section with me and, when it came time for her to go home, my Auntie cried because she had gotten so attached to me. She was always one of my most favorite people and bless her for giving my mom the gift of recovery time.
I live in Taiwan and here I stayed for one full month in a postpartum center after my two babies born. It was a wonderful experience. The food they serve helps you recover postpartum. They offer yoga classes, nursing consultant, 24 hours nurse assistance and once per week a medical doctor came to check on me and a pediatrician checked on my baby. It is like living in a spa🤣 when ai finally went home my baby was already 1 month old and I was well recovered and rested. Wish every women get the chance to have similar treatment after having a baby.
With my first kid in the US I was ignored by over worked nurses that didn’t give me a call bell so I could ask for help, discharged from the hospital 18 hours after delivery and I had a lot of pain, stitches etc. I got severe postpartum depression and milk fever. I had no help at home and it’s a miracle we made it through that. We need to take notes from how other cultures care for women!
It’s crazy because this is so normal in Korea and they have women take 6 months to a year off and they pay you good to heal and recover before going back to work. In the states you get max 12weeks and are expected back at work ready to go whether you’re healed or not with little to no pay at all….
@@christinaeldridge2623 so that means women in America or anywhere else don't deserve the same level of care and respect? America feels like a hellscape right now because they're taking away your ability to choose your future and try to force you to carry out a pregnancy and birth with so little help, they may as well be standing in your way. And once you have that possibly unwanted baby you're completely on your own and now you're part of the problem in the screaming match that is society.
I need go Korea just get help like this. US don't have this u have pay I think it's baby service not sure but this is beautiful and yet everyone still want come here in the us and have the kids here. Don't kno why.
Not me being so alone that i couldn't even take care of myself properly and ended up in the hospital cause my stiches were so infected. I see all these videos of family staying over or the husband being super involved and it kinds crushes my soul a bit 😂
In Nigeria, we have this tradition called omugwo. So after a baby is born the grandma or the matriarch of the family comes to stay with the new parents for a few months to help them.
I'm curious how it is handled with those who don't have such a person in their life or the person they do have isn't in a state to be able to assist (such as being disabled or elderly)?
@@bishielurfer I can't speak for everyone but I had a neighbor who wasn't close to her family and when she gave birth, my mom and the other women in the area took turns to help her with the baby (her husband was very busy at the time). Everything from taking care of the new born and mother to cleaning the house and cooking. It depends on you as an individual, and if you have a support system. Not everyone has the opportunity to experience omugwo, but that doesn't mean you can't be taken care of.
@@bimzzyamzy9621 I don't think so, areas in the north, the west and the south west also have mothers and mother in-laws taking care of the new mother and baby after birth.
@@bishielurferif they are not in the state, they are flown it. Omugwo is a very serious tradition. It’s almost like a passage of time rites to the parents becoming grandparents.
@@edithputhy4948 took advantage? how is it taking advantage when her mom willingly did all that? A mother who took care of her child while they were younger, a mother who took care of her child even when they're older and is in need of assistance, what is the difference? are you not raised in love?
@Edith Puthy Wow, didn't your mother ever teach you if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all? You are making assumptions without knowing the full picture of her situation. I'm sure her mother was more than happy to help her child and also spend the first year with her new grand baby.
Having a lot of help during postpartum can lessen the likelihood of mom developing postpartum depression. This is what I needed. I got the exact opposite. I had a horrible experience with my postpartum recovery. My partner was a disappointment. My family treated me terribly. Expected me to clean the house spotless and to be able to go places with them so that they spend time with the baby BUT I needed sleep. I couldn’t breastfeed because of the amount of stuff they expected me to still be able to do. But I lng I don’t do them, they’ll kick me out of the house. It’s a miracle I didn’t commit suicide.
As an Indian person, our mothers does all that for us for at least 6 weeks after birth. I will be carrying the tradition on too when I become a grandparent, God willing 😊
You are so blessed. I had 3 moms that didn't offer to come to help me. (My mom, my stepmom and my mother-in-law). Guess who did everything? My husband! I appreciate that man so much. He was exhausted but he did it and I will never forget that.
Nigerian here. I had my mom and MIL competing on who's going to do what. I almost only got to hold my baby when he needed breastfeeding. They had him in turns while I slept, entertained visitors while I slept, bathe him while I slept etc.
Unfortunately not everyone has moms. My mom passed 16 years ago and my husband’s mom is an abuser. So I took care of the house, the baby, and myself when I got home (discharged 24 hours after birth). I wish we had extra money to hire someone, if only a few extra hours a week.
In Singapore, we have this type of services too. They're called confinement nannies here and they take care of mothers and their newborn babies for the first month. Confinement nannies are seriously a godsent.
I'm Malaysian and we usually have a postpartum lady for 40 days. That's 40 DAYS of daily massages, 3 times a day of super healthy meals and even taking care of the baby including baby's laundry! We are entitled to 3 months of paid maternity leave and some companies gives up to a month of paid paternity leave,and this is definitely helpful !!
How much does that cost? Because I could never in a million years afford a live in nanny, cook and masseuse for more than a month. That seems like a huge waste of money too
@@idek7438they help A TON. The mother gets to rest and properly heal without stressing about chores, healthier food that focuses on recovery and giving nutrients to the reproductive system will help them recover quicker (as opposed to quick meals, or fast food), better blood circulation helps wounds heal, etc. It’s really only in America where people who’ve newly given birth are expected to do it on their own, then near immediately go back to work.
In Korea we have facilities that we go to straight out of the hospital after giving birth. We normally stay about 2 weeks. During this time moms stay in a room like a hotel and the babies are kept in a 24 hour nursery like the hospital. Moms get fed 3 delicious meals a day and get massaged once a day. Moms gets educated in breast feeding and newborn care. They call the moms to come breast feed the baby when needed and 2 hours twice a day moms spend time with the baby in the room. Basically we get 2 weeks to heal and get ready to take care of our newborns on our own when we get home. (I've added this on the comments section but will paste on here as well..) Just to clear a few things ...I'm going to add on a few more info on this matter. If the moms prefer it the baby can stay with the mom in her room...but often it is very difficult..especially if the mom has had a c-section. I personally couldn't even walk well after my c-section and using the toilet was hard enough let alone care for my baby on my own. Moms can spend as much time as they each want with their baby. The babies are cared for very well and each baby has a cam that shows just that baby in his/her crib. The mom and her selected family members can log on to a password to watch the baby 24/7. The entire nursery is built see through so anyone can see their babies and the care they are getting. Usually mom can pump or breastfeed every 2 hours. After the 2 weeks at the facility that is called "joriwon"... our moms/mother in laws usually come to stay with us for 1~3 months to help out. Customarily they stay untill the baby is about a 100 days old. If family can't help out, there is a caregiver you can hire (exactly like the one in this video!!!) for however long you need and government helps out with the payment. (Another add on) Oh and if the dads want, they can stay with the mom or come visit everyday. Grandparents can also visit. Visits were not allowed during the extreme COVID period. Only dads were allowed to stay during that time. My hubby stayed with me during my first week of the stay
Like wow. In my country natality is so low like 1,34 child per women, meaning population will go down very fast if women don't have at least an average of 2 child per woman, they just voted a law to give 3k to any mother having a second child 😏 I think they misunderstood why women don't want kids anymore, but anyways I think providing these types of services would go a long way to motivate women to have kids.
@@Tanouuuu Koreas birth rate is that or close to it. (Just looked it up…it was .81 in 2021…that’s BAD) The problem is society convincing educated women to wait longer to have babies…if at all. Educated , smart women are the ones that NEED to be having babies bc…intelligence is highly influenced by genetics. If anyone wonders why the worlds getting dumber…there ya go.
I had little to no help after both deliveries. I was cooking and doing dishes, and caring for my 2 ½ year old son, 5 days post c-section with my daughter. 😢 I'm so glad this is available to some people!
My mother told my then husband to come pick the kids back up while I was in labor because she had to work the next day and it was getting late. He returned with them 15m before I birthed the little hooligan. Some moms just ain't it.
This is what our mothers do for us here in Nigeria. Its called "Omugwo"... the wife's mother stays for at least 3 months, then the husbands family takes over for another 3 months. Lifesavers...
When my mom came my body started to have pain, I was so glad when she went. Not all mom daughter relationships are build on a good foundation. My mom is suffocating and crossing personal borders and It's not helpful. When we have a trip to relax I come back home more worn out then before I went. Wish it was different.
Life is always easier when you have money to afford luxuries. I had c-sections with both of my pregnancies(emergency with 1st), I had preeclampsia during both pregnancies, and severe postpartum hypertension with the 1st(so bad I had to be on a magnesium drip for 3 days- worst experience of my life- I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy) and I basically did everything myself(my husband was working everyday and I was a stay-at-home mom so I insisted on doing everything). I thought the first newborn was hard but then I had my 2nd son and realized it’s WAY harder with a newborn AND a toddler😭 Postpartum care would’ve been a dream.
My stepdad was my godsend after my son was born. He was the only one who could get him to sleep longer than an hour and made sure we both (my son and I) stayed fed
To be fair Sarah didn’t just give birth so I’m sure she’s feeling a smidge better than other new moms 😩😂 what a literal Angel she is to so many though!!!
I honestly appreciate you admitting you needed a lot of help after giving birth. This should be more freely discussed. While everyone cannot afford a caretaker, just speaking about how much help and recovery is needed is so important
It's never been a secret. It's just that society is usually louder than a mother voice. Women are just shamed for not being back to work, fit and sexy a week after giving birth. I have this friend who got several health issues, she got a c section, had to be back in hospital ten days after it. Her parents and in laws keep putting pressure on her, telling how she's lazzy and not doing enough in the house. But they are never here to help...her son is now 5 months, and it's stilll hard...
Omg you are lucky to have Sarah! I was doing it all alone with all 5 of my kids so it was super hard! So I totally understand you wanting Sarah forever 😅
@@NoOne-bp2jwtotally. My MIL and FIL were so annoying I ended up crying everyday because of them. My 1st childbirth was such an emotionally painful one. I was so relieved they were not able to visit the hospital on my 2nd childbirth.
@@NoOne-bp2jwthey are! My mum took one whole week off work to "help me". She would come early in the morning, sit on a chair and start pointing here and there what I had to do and how to do it. Criticising and complaining. In a whole week she fixed my lunch only once (she sliced a tomato and a mozzarella). She forced me to take baby on strolls even though he woke up every single hour at night and I was exhausted. We quarreled every single day. Having her go back to work and leave me alone to "fend for myself" was such a blessing 😂
This is the absolute dream. I had a 4th degree tear and couldn't even change my own diapers for like a week. My husband did his best to help but having to literally take over wvery aspect of our lives plus a new baby was hard. Having someone there to help would have been amazing
@@juliabuonincontro8617saya keturunan chinese, kami menyewa jasa setelah melahirkan sejak jaman dulu, bukan hanya di negara2 dengan tingkat kelahiran rendah
This looks so nice. I didn't have anyone else extra around to help me after my c section except my husband who took about 3 weeks off to stay home with me. He didn't really know how to help me and there were some really painful and stressful moments. The baby was so easy, apart from not feeding too well, but I was the one that was a complete mess. I was the one that needed caring for. I was totally fine looking after the baby but I was feeling so behind with dealing with the trauma of the birth and lack of sleep already built up from the 3 days of labour. I even had to return to the hospital to basically get milked like a cow when my milk finally came in, which was so humiliating. It would have been nice to have an experienced woman there for me. I was so jealous of my friends still having their mothers who could come and provide this kind of practical support to them, let alone emotionally. When I think back, I have no idea how I coped so well. Going out with baby early, breastfeeding in public in the first week and really pushing myself to get on with it was the only way I get through it all, I think.
This is so needed here in the US. My husband saved up all his vacation and sick days so he could take 2-3 weeks off and still get paid so he could help me and bond with baby.
Good lord....all sick days n vacation and you only come out with 2-3 weeks and the country pretends like parenting isn't hard and men aren't parents. This country is rotting and I'm grieving for the sane and decent citizens in there. Sorry you had to go through that. Please at least tell you had nice help and none of that horrible "non consensual handling of pregnant people" that we keep hearing horror stories about. And I head they don't let you eat over there either, for reasons htat are so outdated and ridiculously poorly backed by data that it could only be "a thing", because apparently pregnant ppl don't seem to be people but rather items in (some parts of) America. Or rather: They're always people enough to bear all the responsibilities and shame, but instantly get tagged an "item" for others to handle and make decisions over, the second it's about bodily autonomy and consent. Please be as OK as you possibly can over there!
@@KxNOxUTA Yes my husband is an amazing husband, partner and dad. It absolutely sucks that it has to be that way. He could technically take off up to 12 weeks off and still have his job waiting for him thanks to FMLA but it's unpaid. I don't know of many people who can afford to do that
She paid for that it’s not free. You can have this in the US. A lot of Koreans and Chinese hires this service postpartum . It’s a very common thing within the culture , you can either go to an agency or word of mouth
My husband did the same, it was awesome. He is a great husband/friend/father! This was 20 years ago and now we take care of him...he had a stroke going on 6 years now this September. Lucky we married and are each other's best friend. Love and miss who he was, but still love him and glad we are still together.
@@mmps18to my recollection mine only came a couple hours once a week for like 6 weeks. @LifeShortStories2022 This would completely go against the oppressive system that is set up here in the US.
You can have one in the USA! It’ll cost you BIG money because it’s usually not covered unless you have awesome insurance that comes with an awesome job. It’s not a service for regular people, just rich ones.
@@renee16us actually hospital births are far more expensive than at home doula assited births due to over perscribing meds and procedures in the hospital setting
In the US even 50 years ago, family used to be more supportive when you had children. My mom and mother-in-law wanted to meet the baby and go. I didn’t expect them to stay, but I had hoped for some help during postpartum. I would have taken any help, but at least it is refreshing to see that other countries love on new moms and that’s normal for them.
I just adore the sleeping knitter. My mother worked for home interior, a popular company with artwork and all kinds of home items, and she was a framer so she'd make all kinds of creations. Her boss, who was an older fella who also made them barely knew me as a child but whwn he passed he left me of all people his own master art and to this day it stays hung. My favorite artist as a teen was R. Franklin. You may or may not know him but it was "fancy" to me at that time.
@@natalia-jr7qw that many women can't afford, and are not paid for by insurance. And with many women having to go on unpaid maternity leave while they recover, that means even less income to pay for necessities.
So jealous. My husband went to work two days after both my kids were born (both csections). Taking care of a toddler and newborn after surgery sucked. And no one told me I wasnt supposed to drive after birth but I literally had no other option for appts
I don't know if there was some problem But if my husband without any valid reason did that I would never have kids with such a guy It was not for you as I don't know your condition
This should be everywhere , my mom had twins My brother and I, we were born prematurely and boy was it hard , we’re grateful we had a nurse come by and help my mom and my grandma take care is us but still
I wish postpartum care was like that here. It SHOULD be. So many moms here (including me) felt those first few weeks after birth were like being dumped in the ocean and told, "suck it up and swim, other moms do just fine." So happy that you had great help!
I cannot imagine how hard that is. I always suggest new moms (I work in pediatrics) to get their family around them (if possible) those first 6 months because that is the perfect description. All these new things you’re never told but somehow expected to just know. Before I got into pediatrics I had NO IDEA that babies should not drink water. Or that their sleep duration is SO SHORT. 2 month olds sleep 2 hours at a time; 4 months olds sleep 4 hours at a time. Or that fever point is lower than that of adults. No one told me! How would you just know??? Love light and prayers for you and your little one!!
OMG - this would have been AMAZING!!! Especially the special attention paid to Mama, to help her heal and begin her journey into motherhood whole (mind, body, spirit) 🙏
People so often think of the baby's well being, and the mom has often been overlooked. Both are equally important in the healing process, and it seems like she was a godsend ❤
As an American with no guaranteed paid time off when you give birth, this just sounds incredible. We have horror stories in the news here where the police find abandoned newborns in dumpsters. I can't help but think that wouldn't happen here if we had more social services like a caretaker coming to your house after childbirth.
@@yo._yo Ja hoor. Het is niet echt een "doula", het is een familiehulp. Ze kan ook bijspringen bij iemand die geopereerd is en niet uit de voeten kan, of als een moeder met kleine kinderen in het ziekenhuis is om voor de kinderen te zorgen, te koken en zo, ze van school halen, .... Je hebt categorie "verzorgende", dat is als ze gekwalifieerd is om zieken te verzorgen, en niet-verzorgende, die komt om te poetsen en boodschappen voor je te doen. Die komen meestal bij oude alleenstaanden. De kost is naargelang je inkomen. Echte engelbewaarders, net als daar in Korea.
Now that's something that families should gift to moms after birth.
Or the family could just be there for the new mama
@@awkwardautistic or both, in fart, this mat be a way isolated couples of fireign families can be supported.
@@-.Ren_Ren.- yes, in fart it can.. lol 😆
@@awkwardautistic 🤣🤣lol
@@awkwardautistic 😂
This was what I needed after giving birth, being far from family during the pandemic. People who care for you during postpartum are gifts from heaven
@Lela really
Lol mine nagged me to death. Lol.
Holy shit how much would this cost though. I mean it's nice and all but it seems really unaffordable
@Midnight Stories my wife too I was at work and she and our first born were left at the house.
My sister had a baby during the pandemic as well. She only had her husband around and thankfully he is a good man as well as a loving father.
My mum was a post portum lady. She once shared that proper post-partum care can help mothers regain their pre-pregnancy figure and reverse the effects of ageing. I hope that the Western world will adopt this system of care.
We have this in the Western world. They are called doulas here as well. Although, not enough people utilize their services.
@reshuner and i bet their expensive and healthcare insurance won't cover it.
We have this in the west. It’s just that most women are brainwashed into thinking they have to rush back to work or they don’t bother to research their options. Even though they can afford care like this. They just go to the hospital and say yes to everything
@@reshuner We barely have any doulas in Germany. We don't even have enough midwifes. That's one reason why c-sections are so common,thry are fadter and they pay the hospital more money.
Spoil it 👀
This would really give every mother a chance
" I asked Sarah to stay forever and she said no" 😂😂😂😂
WAAAAaAaAAaa@aAaAa
I’m surprised she didn’t just say “okay how much are you willing to pay me?”
She rly paid someone else to raise her newborn for her 💀
@@ShoyuRamenBreakingBadSalty. What do you not understand about Postpartum recovery? 1 month is barely raising a child. 😂you dumb or jealous. Because mostly western people do not take care of women after birth. No appreciation at all.
@@ShoyuRamenBreakingBad Not raising, Sarah just helped because postpartum is hard. Especially for first-time parents
GIVE THIS WOMAN AN AWARD.
Edit: I was saying she should get an award because even though it's her job, she's still doing a lot of hard work and not only taking care of the baby but the mom too kind of.
I DIDN'T MEAN TO START A WAR IN THE REPLIES, I WAS JUST TRYING TO SAY THAT SHE DID A LOT OF HARD WORK 😭
Why? I'm not trying to be mean but who do you want to give the award to?
@@ur-moms-purple-heart I think they meant Sarah
So lucky
She doesn't need an award, she needs appropiate payment for her hard work.
@@DracoDatura YEAH
With 8K comments theres a very low chance you'll read this, but man i gotta salute you mamma for having a truly positive vibe after just giving birth. You even made a video during post surgery recovery. thats SO cool to see I struggled with the baby blues and didnt know it untill a year later. You both deserve good luck and great health and Continued happiness 😊
I know what you mean about the 8k comments. I was late to the party but I still posted my experience-which was COMPLETELY DIFFERENT.
Samantha, that happens sometimes, for whatever reason some women go through postpartum depression and I think it's fairly common. My oldest daughter did after her second child. It's an overload of hormones that you had no control over. It sounds like you are feeling bad about the fact you weren't able to be as positive as the poster. But don't feel bad about something you had no control over and maybe you didn't have help or their were other circumstances that contributed to the blues. I just want you to know you are evidently a fantastic mother I gather from your statement. I hope and pray you are doing better. And if need be a doctor can prescribe some medicine to get you over the hump. So just try to do something for yourself every day even if it's just a short walk, or nap or bath. Be kind to yourself. ❤
I also underwent through same.. postpartum depression.. and anxiety and so much.. I didn't know how life went by 2 yrs.. I didn't take a single pic with my baby also . It was scary and painful...
After 2-3 yrs of delivery.. I slowly gained insight into life.. I am still recovering
I struggle with depression after my son was born took me almost a year to step out my home. My church Pastor which is a woman was amazing thru that process I still struggle with stepping outside my home but I’m doing much better after admitting to myself and those around me that I had a problem .
Sarah is such a cutie! Her facial expressions throughout this video crack me up!
My mother in law is Mexican and she did this for me for almost 3mo she let me sleep,cooked for me,took care of my daughter and me as a first time mom her support and help meant the world to me 7yrs later I still talk about it 😍❤️ I love that lady
I'm so glad she was there for you and her granddaughter when you needed her. She sounds like a wonderful mil❤
Wow. You are blessed.
You got a good one girl! Cherish her. ❤🙏❤
Wow!! What a woman‼️
Mexican moms and the Mexican culture in general is so family focused and I love it!
Post-partum care is not just amazing -- it's needed. My post-partum midwife in Germany didn't do THAT much stuff, but she still helped me so much with breastfeeding, healing, and taking care of the baby. Sarah and people like her are life-savers.
True! ❤
Yeah, but unfortunately if you live in the wrong area, you have to find a midwife the minute the stick turns blue, otherwise you are on your own. They are not paid enough, so there are not nearly enough midwives around for all the moms.
You guys get post parnum midwives? :( I am jealous American black girl :( I wonder if they have these in nigeria
@@geekemedia they come to your house for a brief visit on the first days , like 30 min a day (if you find a midwife), not like in the video
This is one of the reasons I am considering moving to Germany
Oh my goodness! Every mother needs this! Hurray Sarah! 🙏💗
Nobody is mentioning how cute the baby is 😊... Had to rewatch it severally ❤
I can’t even imagine. I gave birth alone and raised my daughter alone. And I was wrecked trying to do it all by myself and work. This should be a gift to all moms. ❤
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That’s incredible! I cannot imagine doing it alone
You are a strong woman !❤
That must have been so hard, this society is sad, when new mums have no support
@@juliatrzuskowski9491Back then 27yrs ago there wasn't any support either! Basically did everything alone as well & with a c-section at 20 with my 1st born it bonkers. 😂
My mom stayed with us during the first two weeks. It was such a blessing.
I was a single mom, and moved back in with my parents when I had to do six months of bed rest. I was thankful for any help I got, but mom was still raising my two much-younger siblings, so she mostly just took the baby for a few hours in the morning so I could sleep. We survived, but I can’t imagine the pampering Jennie got! What a blessing!
I hope u love and appreciate her 😭💓
I stayed with my mom for 8 months 😅😅
I'm currently pregnant with my third baby.. only had my mom help with my first baby. The second and this third time I will have to do on my own as my mom already passed. I still wished she was around 😢 (I have a mil but she's so different so nope)
Bro my mom lives with my grandparents for 2 years 😂
This should happen everywhere after a mom gives birth we are in so much pain it would really help us to have someone like this take care of things in the house and to help take care of us ❤️
In my culture (I'm South African Tswana) depending on ones circumstances, mothers or aunties help out full time for atleast the first 3 months.. 💫.. High five to Sarah
Everyone deserves this level of postpartum care. So glad you had Sarah's help.
Meanwhile the Dad looks like a useless pos, just staring with a stink face too. Bet he didnt learn jack sht
I bet it’s expensive :/
@@MS-we9gn course it is, and that woman deserves every penny for how much work she’s doing to help her recover
@@MS-we9gn You think hard work and effort would ever be free??? 💀
@@MS-we9gn Why would it be cheap? The amount of work and skill she had to develop, she deserves to be paid really well.
Yooo the US needs this. They spend so much time helping the mother DURING the pregnancy, but after you have the baby they're just like "k good luck." The mother and baby still need some care after the delivery!
We do... they are called Doulas
@@sunfl0wer86 and they are expensive and not everybody knows about them
they don't even help during the pregnancy really in the USA. it's why the USA has the highest mortality rates for mother's and babies for a first world country
@@sunfl0wer86 I've never heard of them caring for the mothers to this extent
What do you mean by “helping”? B/ from my vantage any help you get medically costs a pretty penny, and often bare minimum.
I think this is something that can benefit ALL moms after they've given birth!!
As someone who had PPD, I feel like this would have helped me tremendously! I wish this was the standard all over the world. ❤
This is the kind of care women need after having babies. This needs to be applied in the US. I also think if I had a Sarah and she did all this for me I’d just cry from gratitude ❤
Omg it really does! I would too! It just wouldn't be expected here to have such amazing care postpartum and I'd just sob and probably still try to help her out out of guilt of her helping me so much🙃
HAH If you thought the US cared about women you are 100% wrong. The US doesn't even care about kids once they can't be used to control women anymore.
Omg yes it should be ! I would have appreciated this so much
😂😂😂 never going to happen
@@SandraGarcia-il4rj yes you are probably right unfortunately
In the Philippines, it's your mom or mother-in-law who would do this.
It's a great help for all the first time parents.
Not every mom tho
Same in Nigeria too
Thinking back to being a first time mom, I wish this service was available. It's the biggest transition in your life both mentally and physically. The demands are high and I wish I had some support. Having a caring support person would make this life transition easier.
I’m in the states, but my Filipino mom helped me out sooo much after my pregnancy. So lucky to have a great mom 🥰
Same in South America
WHY IS THAT BABY SO FREAKIN CUTEEE AHHHHHHH😭😭😭😭
anyone else think that the hospital should always send ppl home with someone like that. she seems like a godsend
It's like having a mother in law help w/o the guilt/obligation lmaooo Every country should do something like this!
After my emergency c-section, my baby was kept in a super secure room for 2 months, so I guess we kind of had this? Except it cost us 115,000 extra bucks, so maybe not...
Exactly why do mothers in law guilt trip kani😢
They'll be on some "when I had a baby no one helped me"
Or a mom
@@isabeli3755 💯
Why mother in law and not your own mom?
I’m Nigerian. And we have this culture where the mother of the woman stays with her 3 months after child birth to help take care of the baby and her daughter. It’s called Omugwo where I’m from. 🥰
It's the same in most parts of India. The daughter goes to her mother's house after delivery and gets her postpartum care staying there for 3-5 months from her mom. ❤
How beautiful 🥰
Mother of the new mom stays for 3 months, yet gives last name of the baby, of the father of the new dad. How about who ever passes on their last name to their baby or grandchild, should be the one to care for new baby for 3 months. Not just in one culture, but in EVERY CULTURE! It's the same the mother and her mom do most of the work to care for baby/child, and yet carries on the last name of the dad, and his dad, and his dad. Who for some kids, their dad is a deadbeat dad, and yet baby carries on the name of someone who chooses to be a ghost in the child's life.
I think its wonderful the baby's maternal grandma is a live in babysitter, in Nigerian and Chinese cultures will stay for 3 months when newborn is born.
But it's time to carry on the maternal family name and maternal grandma family name, since it's thr mothers and grandmas who are the ones to actually RAISE the baby/child
@@Taylor086 agree with u...baby's grandparents needs to take care of baby and his mother bcoz "she is giving a heir to your family not her mother's family". And lastly they will come and show more rights than the girl's parents. So it should be done from both sides.
@@Taylor086 What about the fathers that try to pay attention to the child's welfare? Their own effort should not be discarded either.
Can i man be a postpartum care worker?!?! I had no idea this was a job!! There's no better feeling for me then helping my sister out however she needs after she brought my beautiful nephew and works to bring my beautiful niece into this world. This seems like such an amazing job, helping people who have just given their soul and body to created another life. im going to have to look more into it!
I'm a girl but I'm just curious, do you know yet if men can do it? (Also I think most women would feel more comfortable having a woman to help, but I still don't see why a man couldn't do it, as long as he's trustworthy)
I would not feel weird having a man help me out around the house, might even motivate my husband to be more helpful. Someone with a little more muscle to help me get off of the couch would be nice.
This is amazing. I’m 2 weeks postpartum…wish I had someone like sarah.
This kind of care is so important for women. It should be available and affordable to everyone. So glad you had Sarah!
Not for you broke women. You gotta pay to play brokie.
@@boratlion8613 I don't know how to respond because I don't know what that means. I'm old, so perhaps it is just a newer expression I haven't heard.
@@boratlion8613I’m sorry but “brokie” straight sounds like something a preschooler would say as an insult
"Should be affordable to everyone?" No way to make that happen without a lot of worse unintended consequences.
@@marmeemarch7080 Wanting it to happen and it actually happening are two entirely different things.
In Nigeria, your mom or mother-in-law will come stay with you for a few months. It’s a really beautiful time to be pampered and all.😍😍😍
Was raised with this expectation and was let down big time by my Naija relatives, even offered to pay out of pocket for my mom to cover PTO or leave of absence but nope...
I can’t even get my mom to come to my house or remember my kids’ birthdays
Make God just bless you with the best in-law if not.....
Same in Türkiye although nobody wants it anymore for some reason. My mom stayed first 20 days and my mother-in-law next 20 days
In Kenya too and many other African communities
The best I had was a week in hospital (40-odd yrs ago that was normal) and a week at the in-laws where my mother-in-law did everything for me and my baby. Its got me over the initial stages of post nata. The Korean way of post natal care should be normal across the world, it sounds wonderful
I spent a month before delivery making and freezing casseroles. My mom was able to come for the first couple days after I came home, mainly to heat up dinner, entertain my other children, and hold my newborn so I could have a nap. Thank goodness for mom, even though it was only for 2 or 3 days. After that, I spent the next 4 months on the living room sofa next to the cradle until the baby mostly slept through the night so that nighttime feedings and fussiness wouldn't keep my husband awake. Because he had to work, you know.
Ahhh, postpartum care worker. I remembered I almost cried on her last day.. I had mine for almost 3 weeks and she was godsend.
Except she was moneysent
@@terken8454and? She definitely wasn’t just in the job for money if she did so good, but getting money is a pretty good reason to do something because money is how we don’t starve! Home this helps you not be rude in the future!
@@Editor_Cat11 Can we stop calling everyone who doesn't sugarcoat RUDE on the internet? I never meant it to be come off agressive or rude or something. I only said god didn't send her, but they intentionally called her for doing her job and payed her. Wtf are you talking about? Now I'm about to get rude. You don't have to take everything that's not sugar and butter as offensive. Don't even reply to me I don't wanna comminicate with you further
@@terken8454 I never said that was offensive I simply stated that the way that comment was worded sounds rude
@@terken8454 it seems like you’re better suited for face to face conversations. Don’t bother telling people not to reply to you, this is the internet and once you decide to comment, your words are free for anyone to dissect how they please. Just like how you had the freedom to leave a comment, anyone has the freedom to say what they want in response. Glad you could learn something today
I love Sarah not just for everything she did for you but playing along for this video too lol. She's a real one for that.
right??? sarah passed the vibe check
Hopefully this utube clip , gets this lovely lady booked out . 🙏❤
Having a postpartum lady around is so so important and it is a must if you can afford it. It help is so many ways and worth every cent
God bless Sarah and everyone assisting ladies post delivery in any way possible!!
In Africa our moms are our postpartum care workers.They legit take charge of everything to ease the entire process for you. Plus they do it for free.God bless all our mothers 😊
That's wonderful you still have that in your culture. Most people can't afford this type of care. I can imagine what this type of service costs.
I wish my mother cared that much about me. Seriously, treasure your mother. You have no idea how blessed you are
@@ToxicSunrise132 thank you so very much. I pray that your relationship with yours is restored by God's grace 🙏.
I'm Indian and in our culture our moms took care of us too. I hope to do the same for our kids.
@@JayJS1410 yhh it's called " omugwo" mothers used to be so proud of doing that for their children but feminism is fast ruining this amazing culture. Many mothers these days don't do it anymore.
I’m not Korean but I would have gladly hired Sarah! As a mom of 5 with no mom of my own, doing it alone has been rough. Help makes all the difference! ❤
You go girl ❤ it seems like you did an amazing job 😻
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Why are you doing it alone? The father of your kids help make those kids & should be helping you with them.
@@mokamsn2325 The dad might not be there.
@@mokamsn2325the dad might have not wanted to be with the kid, or left her after the birth
I don't usually comment about a baby's looks but your baby is a Real CUTIE 😊
Me in America. Had a c-section. Complications. They left the baby in room cuz it’s my responsibility n my baby. Baby wouldn’t latch. Lactation consultant visited for 10 minutes n couldn’t get him to latch. Never saw her again. I begged nurses to take the baby as i was in so much pain n exhausted but hospital policy-baby stays with mom. Sent me home 3 days later. BYEEEEE. No family in state to help. Baby was waaayyyyy different than expected. didn’t like to be touched or swaddled, for example. Doctors kept telling me I’m crazy it’s all normal. Turned out he is autistic. His behaviors were not normal. This was 18 years ago. There is NO care once u give birth.
Awww . Sending love to you ❤
I have similar stories from the US. What this video describes is possible here, but - just like in Canada - costs $$$. Very few countries provide universal and helpful PP care.
Medical gaslighting in the US is NEXT LEVEL. blessings on you and your son
How are things now? Hopefully ur relationship with ur son is better now n wasn't effected by the poor hospital management?
This sounds so familiar! This was me with my 1st
When my daughter was born via c-section we hired a woman who specialized in caring for new moms and babies. She was in her 70's. She was amazing! Fixed meals, did laundry, and cleaned house while also looking after my 3 year old. She had more energy than someone 1/2 her age. What a blessing Harriet was.
What is her secret 😄
@@lawson9686 wish I knew.
were ate u from
@@asimatiwary3939 USA
Is she still alive 0-0
We got post partum care in Chinese culture as well.
Congratulations on your having a baby.
Stay blessed 💗💗💗
Love how she was invested in the content creation lol too cute! So necessary ❤
This service should be fully funded for all parents. Imagine how much healthier all families would be with a trained, experienced expert in the home as new parents adjust.
I agree. Children would be likelier to grow into healthy and compassionate adults. 😊
Imagine if that existed in America for all women who had children... We would not be one of the worst in maternity death rate amongst the developed countries 😔
it’s traditionally been done by grandmothers actually!
In Korea it’s partially subsidized but it’s not a home service. You stay at hotel-like postpartum care centers for 2 weeks.
Fully funded? And where would you magically get that money from?
Not only was all the care she provided great but she seem very comfortable with the camera and had a great attitude. I loved your interactions as there seemed to be great chemistry between the two of you.
Imagine going to work with newborns, glowing Mommies, and proud Pappas every day. This has to be such a rewarding and fulfilling career to work with new or next-time parents who couldn't love and appreciate you any less. You got me thinking now, 🤔.❤❤❤
My Auntie Cora did this for my mom after her c-section with me and, when it came time for her to go home, my Auntie cried because she had gotten so attached to me. She was always one of my most favorite people and bless her for giving my mom the gift of recovery time.
I live in Taiwan and here I stayed for one full month in a postpartum center after my two babies born. It was a wonderful experience. The food they serve helps you recover postpartum. They offer yoga classes, nursing consultant, 24 hours nurse assistance and once per week a medical doctor came to check on me and a pediatrician checked on my baby. It is like living in a spa🤣 when ai finally went home my baby was already 1 month old and I was well recovered and rested. Wish every women get the chance to have similar treatment after having a baby.
Woah that's great! I wish my mom had such experience too..
Sounds like heaven! I have trauma from a shitty postpartum experience
I never heard about something like that. And did they carry your baby too?😊
Me, too. How much better off we all would be.
Wow… it’s heaven ❤❤❤
With my first kid in the US I was ignored by over worked nurses that didn’t give me a call bell so I could ask for help, discharged from the hospital 18 hours after delivery and I had a lot of pain, stitches etc. I got severe postpartum depression and milk fever. I had no help at home and it’s a miracle we made it through that. We need to take notes from how other cultures care for women!
Oh I'm so sorry you went through all that when you had your baby😢..
I'm assuming stitches from a c-section, in which case YOU GOT DISCHARGED AFTER NOT EVEN A DAY?!
@@n.c.pictures if you tear down there you get stitches too. I think that’s what she’s talking about.
@@SM-sv1sc I know, my aunt ripped, I said I was just assuming
@@yukichan177 girl, doulas and midwives have existed in the US/Europe for centuries.
I wish I had someone like Sara during postpartum
I literally just started to tear up thinking how amazing that would have been 😭
It’s crazy because this is so normal in Korea and they have women take 6 months to a year off and they pay you good to heal and recover before going back to work. In the states you get max 12weeks and are expected back at work ready to go whether you’re healed or not with little to no pay at all….
Because Korea has a very low birth rate and the government is providing MANY enticing incentives to women to boost it.
@@christinaeldridge2623 so that means women in America or anywhere else don't deserve the same level of care and respect? America feels like a hellscape right now because they're taking away your ability to choose your future and try to force you to carry out a pregnancy and birth with so little help, they may as well be standing in your way. And once you have that possibly unwanted baby you're completely on your own and now you're part of the problem in the screaming match that is society.
And that 12 weeks is not paid
I need go Korea just get help like this. US don't have this u have pay I think it's baby service not sure but this is beautiful and yet everyone still want come here in the us and have the kids here. Don't kno why.
That is insane😢
All moms should have this support. Also Nari?! What a cute name for such a cute lil one!
Guess this is the first video you've seen of the new baby. There's been a lot of videos of Nari's name in now
Nari means foul smell from your belly button🥴
Nari in means a Woman in Hindi
@bwingbwinggwiyomi yeah. This video just popped up on my shorts tbh didn't even know she had a baby
And Nari means lily in Korean so makes sense
Not me being so alone that i couldn't even take care of myself properly and ended up in the hospital cause my stiches were so infected. I see all these videos of family staying over or the husband being super involved and it kinds crushes my soul a bit 😂
I THANK GOD FOR GIVING ME A LOVING MOM, SHE DID ALL THESE PLUS SLEEPING WITH MY BABIES TILL I HEALL PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY
In Nigeria, we have this tradition called omugwo. So after a baby is born the grandma or the matriarch of the family comes to stay with the new parents for a few months to help them.
I'm curious how it is handled with those who don't have such a person in their life or the person they do have isn't in a state to be able to assist (such as being disabled or elderly)?
In igbo side right?
@@bishielurfer I can't speak for everyone but I had a neighbor who wasn't close to her family and when she gave birth, my mom and the other women in the area took turns to help her with the baby (her husband was very busy at the time). Everything from taking care of the new born and mother to cleaning the house and cooking. It depends on you as an individual, and if you have a support system. Not everyone has the opportunity to experience omugwo, but that doesn't mean you can't be taken care of.
@@bimzzyamzy9621 I don't think so, areas in the north, the west and the south west also have mothers and mother in-laws taking care of the new mother and baby after birth.
@@bishielurferif they are not in the state, they are flown it. Omugwo is a very serious tradition. It’s almost like a passage of time rites to the parents becoming grandparents.
My mom helped me after my C-section. She cooked meals, washed and folded clothes. She was with us for about a year. It was a God send.
I bet it was kind of sad after she left
You are blessed. Tell your Mama thank you everyday of your life ❤
A YEAR? wow you really took advantage of her generosity, didn't you?
@@edithputhy4948 took advantage? how is it taking advantage when her mom willingly did all that? A mother who took care of her child while they were younger, a mother who took care of her child even when they're older and is in need of assistance, what is the difference? are you not raised in love?
@Edith Puthy Wow, didn't your mother ever teach you if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all? You are making assumptions without knowing the full picture of her situation. I'm sure her mother was more than happy to help her child and also spend the first year with her new grand baby.
Baby looks just like daddy, in her face as she’s getting her hair washed by helper…..I love that
Having a lot of help during postpartum can lessen the likelihood of mom developing postpartum depression. This is what I needed. I got the exact opposite. I had a horrible experience with my postpartum recovery. My partner was a disappointment. My family treated me terribly. Expected me to clean the house spotless and to be able to go places with them so that they spend time with the baby BUT I needed sleep. I couldn’t breastfeed because of the amount of stuff they expected me to still be able to do. But I lng I don’t do them, they’ll kick me out of the house. It’s a miracle I didn’t commit suicide.
I’m so sorry:(
As an Indian person, our mothers does all that for us for at least 6 weeks after birth. I will be carrying the tradition on too when I become a grandparent, God willing 😊
Same thing in Arab countries. No one leaves a new mom alone, ever.
You are so blessed. I had 3 moms that didn't offer to come to help me. (My mom, my stepmom and my mother-in-law). Guess who did everything? My husband! I appreciate that man so much. He was exhausted but he did it and I will never forget that.
Inchaa’Allah
Nigerian here. I had my mom and MIL competing on who's going to do what. I almost only got to hold my baby when he needed breastfeeding. They had him in turns while I slept, entertained visitors while I slept, bathe him while I slept etc.
Unfortunately not everyone has moms. My mom passed 16 years ago and my husband’s mom is an abuser. So I took care of the house, the baby, and myself when I got home (discharged 24 hours after birth). I wish we had extra money to hire someone, if only a few extra hours a week.
i love so much that she played along and even added to the bits with her facial expressions, what an amazing soul
Nari is short of my name nawrin😮
My husband and my oldest girls did this for me except for the light lol all the support was there, such a big difference it makes
In Singapore, we have this type of services too. They're called confinement nannies here and they take care of mothers and their newborn babies for the first month. Confinement nannies are seriously a godsent.
I'm Malaysian and we usually have a postpartum lady for 40 days. That's 40 DAYS of daily massages, 3 times a day of super healthy meals and even taking care of the baby including baby's laundry! We are entitled to 3 months of paid maternity leave and some companies gives up to a month of paid paternity leave,and this is definitely helpful !!
Sounds great!
How much does that cost? Because I could never in a million years afford a live in nanny, cook and masseuse for more than a month. That seems like a huge waste of money too
This makes me wanna move to Malaysia, and have another baby! Oops, too late, menopause hit already.🤷🏼♀️
@@idek7438they help A TON. The mother gets to rest and properly heal without stressing about chores, healthier food that focuses on recovery and giving nutrients to the reproductive system will help them recover quicker (as opposed to quick meals, or fast food), better blood circulation helps wounds heal, etc. It’s really only in America where people who’ve newly given birth are expected to do it on their own, then near immediately go back to work.
@@idek7438 yea im wondering about the price too
In Korea we have facilities that we go to straight out of the hospital after giving birth. We normally stay about 2 weeks. During this time moms stay in a room like a hotel and the babies are kept in a 24 hour nursery like the hospital. Moms get fed 3 delicious meals a day and get massaged once a day. Moms gets educated in breast feeding and newborn care. They call the moms to come breast feed the baby when needed and 2 hours twice a day moms spend time with the baby in the room.
Basically we get 2 weeks to heal and get ready to take care of our newborns on our own when we get home.
(I've added this on the comments section but will paste on here as well..)
Just to clear a few things ...I'm going to add on a few more info on this matter.
If the moms prefer it the baby can stay with the mom in her room...but often it is very difficult..especially if the mom has had a c-section. I personally couldn't even walk well after my c-section and using the toilet was hard enough let alone care for my baby on my own.
Moms can spend as much time as they each want with their baby.
The babies are cared for very well and each baby has a cam that shows just that baby in his/her crib. The mom and her selected family members can log on to a password to watch the baby 24/7. The entire nursery is built see through so anyone can see their babies and the care they are getting.
Usually mom can pump or breastfeed every 2 hours.
After the 2 weeks at the facility that is called "joriwon"... our moms/mother in laws usually come to stay with us for 1~3 months to help out. Customarily they stay untill the baby is about a 100 days old.
If family can't help out, there is a caregiver you can hire (exactly like the one in this video!!!) for however long you need and government helps out with the payment.
(Another add on)
Oh and if the dads want, they can stay with the mom or come visit everyday. Grandparents can also visit. Visits were not allowed during the extreme COVID period. Only dads were allowed to stay during that time. My hubby stayed with me during my first week of the stay
Like wow. In my country natality is so low like 1,34 child per women, meaning population will go down very fast if women don't have at least an average of 2 child per woman, they just voted a law to give 3k to any mother having a second child 😏
I think they misunderstood why women don't want kids anymore, but anyways I think providing these types of services would go a long way to motivate women to have kids.
@@Tanouuuu Koreas birth rate is that or close to it. (Just looked it up…it was .81 in 2021…that’s BAD)
The problem is society convincing educated women to wait longer to have babies…if at all.
Educated , smart women are the ones that NEED to be having babies bc…intelligence is highly influenced by genetics.
If anyone wonders why the worlds getting dumber…there ya go.
@@TanouuuuWhere are you from?
@@SaraAnne-gx2mw Am from Martinique, it's a french island in the carribean, population 400k, well less now, and dwindling down fast too
That sounds terrible for brand new babies who should be with their mums and need as much human contact as possible in that early stage of life.
Sarah is such an angel woman. Omg hapy women's day y'all ❤❤
I had little to no help after both deliveries. I was cooking and doing dishes, and caring for my 2 ½ year old son, 5 days post c-section with my daughter. 😢
I'm so glad this is available to some people!
As a Nigerian, this becomes the job of the mother, she comes and helps with everything.
Does someone else step up if you don't have your mother anymore? Another family member perhaps?
@@tinainwaifuland4364Yes. Aunties/Grandmas/MIL or whoever was your guardian growing up. It's beautiful.
@@tinainwaifuland4364Yeah sometimes, maybe a mother in law, aunt or sister. But in families where this can't happen, a nanny is hired.
Same in India!!
My mother told my then husband to come pick the kids back up while I was in labor because she had to work the next day and it was getting late. He returned with them 15m before I birthed the little hooligan.
Some moms just ain't it.
This is what our mothers do for us here in Nigeria. Its called "Omugwo"... the wife's mother stays for at least 3 months, then the husbands family takes over for another 3 months. Lifesavers...
In india too..I am so grateful
I was just about to comment that. Its such a helpful tradition
Same in India
When my mom came my body started to have pain, I was so glad when she went. Not all mom daughter relationships are build on a good foundation. My mom is suffocating and crossing personal borders and It's not helpful. When we have a trip to relax I come back home more worn out then before I went. Wish it was different.
@@skarbuskreska i understand..it was same here but as soon as she passed away, I felt broken n lost..
Pls forgive n value the days with her dear
Life is always easier when you have money to afford luxuries. I had c-sections with both of my pregnancies(emergency with 1st), I had preeclampsia during both pregnancies, and severe postpartum hypertension with the 1st(so bad I had to be on a magnesium drip for 3 days- worst experience of my life- I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy) and I basically did everything myself(my husband was working everyday and I was a stay-at-home mom so I insisted on doing everything). I thought the first newborn was hard but then I had my 2nd son and realized it’s WAY harder with a newborn AND a toddler😭 Postpartum care would’ve been a dream.
Congratulations on the baby! Thanks for sharing the info about Sarah, I feel a lot of people could benefit from that kind of support and service. 🎉
My stepdad was my godsend after my son was born. He was the only one who could get him to sleep longer than an hour and made sure we both (my son and I) stayed fed
Very good man!
Aaawww how sweet of him ❤
What a great man ❤
Such a kind soul! Just out of curiosity, what about your spouse?
can y'all adopt me?😂
Sarah deserves a million dollars. She is pure gold! To have that energy! Every Mom needs this treatment. It would be a better world. ☀️🙏🏻
To be fair Sarah didn’t just give birth so I’m sure she’s feeling a smidge better than other new moms 😩😂 what a literal Angel she is to so many though!!!
But she she isn’t a mom weenie is right
But yea she is a guardian angel
Is no one gonna talk about how adorable the baby is ❤
SARAH IS A BLESSING.
SARAH IS A BLESSING.
214❤likes and no reply let me fix that😂
Ayo-
@@joshuakirkwood4377what do you mean ayo???
SARAH IS A BLESSING.
@@StitchLover151 exactly
I honestly appreciate you admitting you needed a lot of help after giving birth. This should be more freely discussed. While everyone cannot afford a caretaker, just speaking about how much help and recovery is needed is so important
It's no secret women need help. Every mom understands that- it's just unfortunate not every mom gets that.
@@GameChanger597 You’d be surprised what people do not realize and understand.
@@GameChanger597 you really would be surprised. It's unfortunate, but everyone doesn't know this
It's never been a secret. It's just that society is usually louder than a mother voice. Women are just shamed for not being back to work, fit and sexy a week after giving birth.
I have this friend who got several health issues, she got a c section, had to be back in hospital ten days after it. Her parents and in laws keep putting pressure on her, telling how she's lazzy and not doing enough in the house. But they are never here to help...her son is now 5 months, and it's stilll hard...
Now THIS is how every new mom should be treated! Wow ❤
Omg you are lucky to have Sarah! I was doing it all alone with all 5 of my kids so it was super hard! So I totally understand you wanting Sarah forever 😅
This was my mom and her friend for me. It’s Asian culture and you’re taken care of for a whole month. I appreciate it.
Aww how sweet!! Suddenly wishing I was Asian 😁
6 weeks in the Amish world
It is habesha(Ethiopian/Eritrean) culture as well❤
I was fortunate to have my mom do this for me. It really is a blessing to have help after birth.
Unfortunately, I see a lot of stories to advice columnists of mothers and MILs showing up to help, but being an added burden instead.
the poor women feel guilty but they should relax they deserve it. @@NoOne-bp2jw
@@NoOne-bp2jwtotally. My MIL and FIL were so annoying I ended up crying everyday because of them. My 1st childbirth was such an emotionally painful one. I was so relieved they were not able to visit the hospital on my 2nd childbirth.
@@NoOne-bp2jwthey are! My mum took one whole week off work to "help me". She would come early in the morning, sit on a chair and start pointing here and there what I had to do and how to do it. Criticising and complaining. In a whole week she fixed my lunch only once (she sliced a tomato and a mozzarella). She forced me to take baby on strolls even though he woke up every single hour at night and I was exhausted.
We quarreled every single day. Having her go back to work and leave me alone to "fend for myself" was such a blessing 😂
@@jocelynmercado3214Same here. They are very nice, but they don't know boundaries.
This is the absolute dream. I had a 4th degree tear and couldn't even change my own diapers for like a week. My husband did his best to help but having to literally take over wvery aspect of our lives plus a new baby was hard. Having someone there to help would have been amazing
Sarah didn’t Help, she did Everything 😅 love it
This type of service should be offered for EVERY SINGLE PREGNANCY! ❤❤❤
It is in countries with desperately low birth rates. The gov does it as an incentive to have children
@@juliabuonincontro8617in the EU too😅
@@juliabuonincontro8617not in all countries with low birth rate at all. One can only wish...
@@juliabuonincontro8617saya keturunan chinese, kami menyewa jasa setelah melahirkan sejak jaman dulu, bukan hanya di negara2 dengan tingkat kelahiran rendah
@@juliabuonincontro8617 bring that to the usa our birth rates are incredibly low rn. I'd have a kid if we had this type of care😭
This should be known worldwide, not just for the healing process, but to assess you if you are a new mother
Assess you if you're a new mother? Assess what?
Can Sarah come to my house next? I’m not pregnant or married, just want that level of care in my life😭❤️
This looks so nice. I didn't have anyone else extra around to help me after my c section except my husband who took about 3 weeks off to stay home with me. He didn't really know how to help me and there were some really painful and stressful moments. The baby was so easy, apart from not feeding too well, but I was the one that was a complete mess. I was the one that needed caring for. I was totally fine looking after the baby but I was feeling so behind with dealing with the trauma of the birth and lack of sleep already built up from the 3 days of labour. I even had to return to the hospital to basically get milked like a cow when my milk finally came in, which was so humiliating. It would have been nice to have an experienced woman there for me. I was so jealous of my friends still having their mothers who could come and provide this kind of practical support to them, let alone emotionally.
When I think back, I have no idea how I coped so well. Going out with baby early, breastfeeding in public in the first week and really pushing myself to get on with it was the only way I get through it all, I think.
This is so needed here in the US. My husband saved up all his vacation and sick days so he could take 2-3 weeks off and still get paid so he could help me and bond with baby.
Good lord....all sick days n vacation and you only come out with 2-3 weeks and the country pretends like parenting isn't hard and men aren't parents. This country is rotting and I'm grieving for the sane and decent citizens in there.
Sorry you had to go through that. Please at least tell you had nice help and none of that horrible "non consensual handling of pregnant people" that we keep hearing horror stories about. And I head they don't let you eat over there either, for reasons htat are so outdated and ridiculously poorly backed by data that it could only be "a thing", because apparently pregnant ppl don't seem to be people but rather items in (some parts of) America. Or rather: They're always people enough to bear all the responsibilities and shame, but instantly get tagged an "item" for others to handle and make decisions over, the second it's about bodily autonomy and consent.
Please be as OK as you possibly can over there!
@@KxNOxUTA Yes my husband is an amazing husband, partner and dad.
It absolutely sucks that it has to be that way. He could technically take off up to 12 weeks off and still have his job waiting for him thanks to FMLA but it's unpaid. I don't know of many people who can afford to do that
She paid for that it’s not free. You can have this in the US. A lot of Koreans and Chinese hires this service postpartum . It’s a very common thing within the culture , you can either go to an agency or word of mouth
My husband did the same, it was awesome. He is a great husband/friend/father! This was 20 years ago and now we take care of him...he had a stroke going on 6 years now this September. Lucky we married and are each other's best friend. Love and miss who he was, but still love him and glad we are still together.
Same with my husband
This is so important. The US needs to put this into action more. I love how this was so helpful and educational for you and Johnny.
They have postpartum doulas in the United States too!
@@mmps18to my recollection mine only came a couple hours once a week for like 6 weeks.
@LifeShortStories2022 This would completely go against the oppressive system that is set up here in the US.
You can have one in the USA! It’ll cost you BIG money because it’s usually not covered unless you have awesome insurance that comes with an awesome job. It’s not a service for regular people, just rich ones.
@@renee16us I hired a doula in the US. My income is lower middle class but I knew I wanted to invest in a doula. She was worth every penny.
@@renee16us actually hospital births are far more expensive than at home doula assited births due to over perscribing meds and procedures in the hospital setting
In the US even 50 years ago, family used to be more supportive when you had children. My mom and mother-in-law wanted to meet the baby and go. I didn’t expect them to stay, but I had hoped for some help during postpartum. I would have taken any help, but at least it is refreshing to see that other countries love on new moms and that’s normal for them.
I just adore the sleeping knitter. My mother worked for home interior, a popular company with artwork and all kinds of home items, and she was a framer so she'd make all kinds of creations. Her boss, who was an older fella who also made them barely knew me as a child but whwn he passed he left me of all people his own master art and to this day it stays hung. My favorite artist as a teen was R. Franklin. You may or may not know him but it was "fancy" to me at that time.
I wish all mommas had this type of support 🥺
The US needs it. It has very poor outcomes of maternity, ten times worse than many other countries.
we have doulas in the U.S. guys ..,,,,,,
@@natalia-jr7qw that many women can't afford, and are not paid for by insurance. And with many women having to go on unpaid maternity leave while they recover, that means even less income to pay for necessities.
It's only available for the upper class. The separation is getting worse and worse.
@@pinklefoo no it's not ..I helped my sister for the first month or so after she had her first baby and c-section.
So jealous. My husband went to work two days after both my kids were born (both csections). Taking care of a toddler and newborn after surgery sucked. And no one told me I wasnt supposed to drive after birth but I literally had no other option for appts
I don't know if there was some problem
But if my husband without any valid reason did that
I would never have kids with such a guy
It was not for you as I don't know your condition
@@ashanasinha7673most parents have no other choice, & in America alot of fathers get zero time off for childbirth.
Same. Exact. Thing. Such bull….
@@ashanasinha7673 there is no paternity leave in America. He wouldn’t be allowed time off for his child.
Why doesn't America have paternity leave like every other first world country?
This should be everywhere , my mom had twins
My brother and I, we were born prematurely and boy was it hard , we’re grateful we had a nurse come by and help my mom and my grandma take care is us but still
Sarah is a true angel!
I wish postpartum care was like that here. It SHOULD be. So many moms here (including me) felt those first few weeks after birth were like being dumped in the ocean and told, "suck it up and swim, other moms do just fine."
So happy that you had great help!
Perfect description!
I cannot imagine how hard that is. I always suggest new moms (I work in pediatrics) to get their family around them (if possible) those first 6 months because that is the perfect description. All these new things you’re never told but somehow expected to just know. Before I got into pediatrics I had NO IDEA that babies should not drink water. Or that their sleep duration is SO SHORT. 2 month olds sleep 2 hours at a time; 4 months olds sleep 4 hours at a time. Or that fever point is lower than that of adults. No one told me! How would you just know??? Love light and prayers for you and your little one!!
I have 3, oldest is 4 y/o and I still feel that way.
The amount of shame assigned to new parents in this country (US) is staggering
OMG - this would have been AMAZING!!!
Especially the special attention paid to Mama, to help her heal and begin her journey into motherhood whole (mind, body, spirit) 🙏
That and the fact that she was happy to be in the video was a bonus
I needed someone like her when I had my baby
People so often think of the baby's well being, and the mom has often been overlooked. Both are equally important in the healing process, and it seems like she was a godsend ❤
Exactly 💯
We have something like this in the Netherlands. After you give birth, a caretaker comes by your house every day for a week to help out😊
Yeah, in Belgium too, here and there. Familiehulp vzw
that's amazing 😍
As an American with no guaranteed paid time off when you give birth, this just sounds incredible. We have horror stories in the news here where the police find abandoned newborns in dumpsters. I can't help but think that wouldn't happen here if we had more social services like a caretaker coming to your house after childbirth.
@@ross6753oh dat wist ik niet😮
@@yo._yo Ja hoor. Het is niet echt een "doula", het is een familiehulp. Ze kan ook bijspringen bij iemand die geopereerd is en niet uit de voeten kan, of als een moeder met kleine kinderen in het ziekenhuis is om voor de kinderen te zorgen, te koken en zo, ze van school halen, .... Je hebt categorie "verzorgende", dat is als ze gekwalifieerd is om zieken te verzorgen, en niet-verzorgende, die komt om te poetsen en boodschappen voor je te doen. Die komen meestal bij oude alleenstaanden. De kost is naargelang je inkomen. Echte engelbewaarders, net als daar in Korea.