Gen Z's Aesthetic Obsession & TOXIC Baby mama culture -Things Social Media Made Us Think is Normal#5
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My former best friend signed herself up for baby mama hood. She planned a baby with her baby daddy that had FIVE children with THREE WOMEN. She had her 1st, and gave him baby #6. She pregnant with her 2nd, and his 7th child. I had to walk away from our 20yr friend ship. đą
oh my goshâŠ. did you at least try to talk her out of it???
@syd4920 Ummm, she dumped him because he was sleeping with his best friend's wife. I was there to help her through that. I thought she was done with him, but a few months later, she popped up telling me she got back with him and PLANNED a pregnancy! There was no talking to her... she knew what she was doing, so I'm leaving her to live her life.
@@moniquew3603I would have dropped the friendship as well. Itâs draining to be friends w/ people like that.
â@@moniquew3603wow crazy đź
Good on you for not getting caught up in other peoples' dysfunctional lives. Ain't got time for the drama.
Whatâs crazy is Iâve heard people say marriage is too much of a commitment, but then they go and have a child⊠I just donât understand this kind of thinking đ«
Ughhh that argument annoys the heck outta me đđ a whole HUMAN is less of a commitment than a marriage that you could lowkey get out of if you seriously needed to.. be so serious todayyyyđđ
My hg like thisđ€Šđœââïž
Bringing a whole human into this world and raising them for 18 years (and more cause once you're a parent, that never ends) is way more of a commitment than marriage since you can divorce and get an annulment if it doesn't work out. But you can't unbirth a child đ
IKR people having multiple children with someone or multiple people and not being responsible for either
Lol sounds like a lot of black women đ
I remember commenting on a girls TikTok after they posted them 14 and pregnant & said âwithout a ring, job or car?!đâ and they said âimagine hating on a kidâ like no..imagine having a kid as a kidđ€Šđœââïž im not one to be supportive if a child wants to be grown, cause best believe in my island kids donât act out when adults treat them how they act.
imagine thinking like this. this is why parent hood doesnât need to be a personal choice im sorry but people should get evaluated before having kids idgaf too many traumatized kids that could of been avoided honestly.
Terrible.
Like the hell is wrong with those kids and bad parentsâŠ..terrible parents that donât protect their children correctly, those people bring innocents in that cycle of bad decisionsâŠand hell.
Someone needs to go to jail
Be mad at the parents
Kids having sex it self is pretty disturbing, and teens mom itâs not a good thing guys (unless they are a victim of sa, my hearts goes to you). Whatâs wrong with Stay in your school and having a hobbies ? Kids should have a childhood, teenage should have a teenage hood, and adult should have an adulthood, and teenage hood does not include being pregnant and having a baby. And by the way kids need stability
Agreed itâs weirdly normalised nowadays. Back when i was 14 (back in 2022) i used to get made fun of by some âpopularâ kids who sat next to me in my religious education class for being a virgin. I mean back then it definitely hurt my feelings but honestly now i just feel bad for them being so young yet being so fixated by s*xđ
Facts but we need to remember it was a thing in the past where people got married young Ect
â@sssssss605 yes. In the Farr past
@stentualsenpai8354 this is sarcasm right? đ
@@soupydoopie07 ??
It's alarming how society has normalized certain behaviors. But what's equally troubling is the normalization of talking negatively about others on social media. Additionally, idolizing influencers and celebrities has led to a concerning obsession.
All of these things have been normal but the last people use to do it in private and simply not repeat the bs they see
Baby mama culture has been constantly romanticized in the music many teens listen to đ€·ââ
And thats why itâs up to their parents to make sure theyâre raising their children correctly. If a child feels the need to follow what a song is talking about then theyâre seeking for guidance that their parents arenât giving them.
The fact these kids these days don't know that free food in a cozy home filled with people you can rely is the most bestest thing being a kid ever! How come they don't get it
They canât provide their children with basic human needs if they didnât experience having said needs met themselves. Sadly they legitimately have no idea what a healthy childhood looks like. The chance to grow and develop decent character, work ethic, respect for other people and their right to not be mistreated over a period of around 18 years of childhood (some of us needed 1-7 more years of parental support) is becoming rarer and rarer and society is not discussing the issue. Kids today are taking on the responsibilities that normally used to begin around 18-25 years of age for us at 12-16 years of age! And no one bats an eye. If once in a while someone tries to speak on behalf of the childhoods (they literally are too young to logically understand) theyâre giving up they get backlash for being a prude? Like⊠theyâre minors. What happened about caring about children and the impact of their actions?
They never had it
What I noticed is that it's mostly the ones who don't have that are the ones making families young.
Cus they never had it dawg. Common sense...
You can have food and a home but without those people to rely on , it means nothing. The family could feed them but still be abusive
I say this all the time: BRING BACK TEEN BABYSITTERS. When I was a teen I was constantly babysitting for neighbors, family friends and family members. Most of my little cousins I took care of, anyone we trusted that had a kid I spent at least an afternoon with. Teens now days have very little idea of how much work kids are, and baby sitting only gives them a sliver of that -- and so many times that sliver is enough. Try to do your homework with a tired two year old, or relax and watch tv with a couple of 5 year olds that won't go to bed. Found out about a friend's get together? You already made commitments to babysit. I think so many of these teens haven't experienced that responsibility, so the weight of pregnancy, and taking physical care of a child doesn't weigh on them, let alone the actual raising them part.
I wish men were held more accountable.. I am 21 and 8 months pregnant, unmarried. When I found out I actually sobbed out of fear that my boyfriend could leave me at any moment. He convinced me we would get married, and that he would be there for me through all of it. I sadly saw life through rose colored glasses and fell for it. I never wanted to be a single mom, never wanted to be called a âbaby mamaâ, but I was in love :/ and Iâll sadly be waiting around for this man to get his shit together and act right, while also being blamed for it all. I guess thatâs what happens when youâre selfish and wanted a family for yourself.
I am so sorry for you, also u dated a bastard lol
@@ohmewaw literally đ and I could be blamed for that too.. but I didnât know he was a bastard when I got with him !
I'm so sorry for u hun đ
@@alexistorres3948 sorry i didnt mean to blame u ( ya but that comment did sound like i am blaming u lol)
@@ohmewaw no ur good ! I didnât think you were, just to society thatâs another thing I could be blamed for đ
Depression and anxiety has also become a trend
Without social media, people would be happier.
Definitely people promoting every single behavior as a mental illness. But i Definitely think kids now are more depressed than ever. My mom's coworker son who is 6 tried to commit s and unalive his 3year old brother with cough syrup. Ive seen more cases of kids under 16 commiting S because they are sp depressed.
@@Chillikillioh my goodness, thatâs so spine chilling. Iâm so sorry sheâs going through that đ
@@ChillikilliWhat the hell! That is insane. Nothing normal about that even with things being so bad. I hope his mental health is constantly monitored for a long time and the whole family are getting help. This is a special case and should not be normalised in anyway
@Chazzabox1 definitely should never be normalized. And sadly his mother doesn't believe in therapy and father divorced her to chase other women đ« but I agree alot of kids now need help. I work in an elementary school and so many young kids 1st- 4th grade say they want to die.
Lucy Lucy lucy!!! I swear I say this all the time. Not only is it the overuse of the words "narcissist" or "toxic" but also the other Mental health diagnoses like "ADHD" and "OCD". So many people throw out those very serious diagnoses by saying, "Oh, I'm ADHD" or "Oh, it's my OCD" ... etc and it is extremely dangerous. As a mental health professional, I couldn't agree more.
Thank you so much! I'm self diagnosed Adhd and when I found out that it was obvious I had adhd, I asked my dad if I could have a diagnosis from a professional. He said it is the world's way of encouraging lazy and misbehaved children and he said I would change with time. I see a lot of people fake Adhd not understanding how it affects my life in the worst way possible. I wish I didn't have it and when I'm old enough to get a professional diagnosis, I would get treatment for it so I can be normal like anyone else.
@@AyNAQi relate to this so much. My parents also refuse since they say im âtoo smartâ to have ADHD which is just a statement and a half but iâm pretty sure that fuelled by peopleâs current misunderstandings/ dismissal of ADHDs severity. Like no itâs not just âomg iâm so hyperâ or âlol i kinda canât focusâ itâs rotting in bed because your mind forbids you do anything else (executive disfunction),itâs overspending to the point itâs dangerous, itâs being far to early or far too late to everything, itâs missing key information because your mind is anywhere but the subject matter and so so much more and itâs not fun!!
@@soupydoopie07I had to have this same conversation with my brother. He said that our sister has ADHD because she scrolls on TikTok instead of doing her class work. đ sir! Itâs deeper than that!
@heidipadron4008 it is much deeper than that lol in all realities your sister is just doing what most younger people do đđ
not to mention itâs really unfair to people that actually have those diagnoses! I have bipolar disorder and itâs so disheartening to hear someone say âtheyâre sooo bipolarâ when someone does something terribly/mean! Like I immediately start questioning âDo I come off as a bad person because of my diagnosis?â
Dude i just turned 21 and everyone seems to be having kids and marrying people after only a few months. And look at me wild when I say I donât want to get married till im closer to 30
Im 22 and noticed it's all the most mentally unstable people from my highschool that are having babies. And they don't seem to be accidents either. It's just crazy to me, I don't even feel like I'm ready to take care of a dog on my own yet.
The rates of teen pregnancy have gone down.
@@madlie2452 I know Iâm not shaming teen moms or anything Iâm just saying itâs crazy how my friends are having kids in this economy đ
A lot of people want kids cause they're afraid of being & dying alone. The problem is that having a kid doesn't guarantee that they'll stay with you forever. Sometimes, not always, they have kids too early cause people say "don't wait until it's too late". I've even read that being 30 is being expired, bruh... & the government obviously wants people to have kids, kids = more money & even more money when they grow up & also have kids. That's just my opinion though.
@@jennamargraff961Because people want kids? lots of people want families and they make it work. Sometimes not everything is planned and they work around that itâs not that mind blowing
"Teen Mom" really glamorized & normalized this trend, social media made it worse.
And unfortunately, if you don't have any support system or have a terrible support system, you can be expected to give the child up, while people willing to adopt the baby will never help the teenager who needed the help to begin with.
Or, you have to "boss up" somehow, without a partner, supportive parents/friends/or family.
I got the opposite message from teen mom and 16 and pregnant. Even as an adult watching that show makes me question if I can handle having kids đ
@@bleach2393 me too! I hated it and it terrified me to have kids, but I went to school with 3 other girls who loved it and wanted to be teen moms just because of the show đŹ they did it and only 1 is still with the baby daddy, but even then everybody in the town knows he's stepped out of the relationship multiple times and done a lot of drugs, despite their multiple kids đ«€
I have to disagree. Iâm of the generation wherein teen mom launched and all stats show that itâs helped to curb teen pregnancy. Anecdotally it definitely made me fear teen pregnancy. Non of those girls were living glamorous lives. 90% of the time the teen dad disappears and sheâs left living with mom and dad and struggling
@Mpz3cat same here! They showed uncensored c sections and other graphic birthing complications. Almost every episode includes homelessness, poverty, domestic violence, drug abuse, health battles, etc. It's proven that communities who watched teen mom + 16 and pregnant had decreased teen pregnancy rates
Teen mom actually led to a decline in teen pregnancy rate, the rate began to climb when Kylee Jenner started glamorizing being a young mom.
Not me verbally agreeing while watching đđ we literally hv thesame mindset. Aahhh!!! I swear every point was SPOT ON.
Actually the teen pregnancy rate has dropped, and overall many people are postponing or not having kids.
yes but weâre seeing teen motherhood as something aspirational with this new wave of influencers esp w tiktok
Yeah but she's talking about on social media, so she is correct.
@@biboebbs624 i dont think itâs aspiring to become one. Many people donât like it and shame them. Itâs fine to post because there are other teen moms who feel alone. Itâs okay to find a community.
@@citlallimtnz2729Thatâs fine, only if they arenât teaching others that doing that is alright or being like that is good at that age, cause is notâŠthe thing about being a baby momâŠ
I thinkđ€
For real, young or teen moms are more common before bcoz society is still quite patriarchal and people especially girls don't have much choices and awareness in life.
There was a trend on TikTok for teen moms and it was like I may be young but at least I know who my baby daddy is and thatâs literally bottom of the barrel, thatâs common sense are these teens really sleeping with that many people at a time itâs sad
Hey, gen Z here đđ»ââïž. I just wanted to talk a bit about the whole chidren having children thing. I know that it's hard from people on the outside looking in to really know what's going on with the younger generations, but since I'm 19, and in my second year of college, I can talk on us. Young people, especially underage people having children is a huge non-issue. Dispite what the older generations might believe, we are not more promicuos than the previous generations, and we have recieved countless sexual education from the time we were 12. Most people I knew in highschool were virgins, all but 2 of my friends are virgins. I also went to a pretty big highschool of about 3000 students, and I only ever saw 2 girls pregnant. Teen pregnancies are a lot more uncommon now than before, and most young people don't want children any time soon or at all. You guys can even look up stats on this, don't get fooled by the few young parents you see on the internet, those are outliers, not even remotely close to the average teenager or young adult.
Iâm gen z and thatâs not true lol
Facts
Hello! Older Gen Z here. I completely agree with your statement. I feel that due to a few bad apples, the entire Gen Z gets looked at as if we are wild and strange when thatâs not the case. Itâs simply we just wonât stand for injustices that older generations have let fly. We are also more open to having conversations about mental/emotional/and physical health when there was time you couldnât be open to discuss those topics without being looked at like youâre crazy. Yes there are few outliers but havenât almost of all the older generations faced the same thing. It feels like many older generations are upset or donât like that many Gen Zâs donât want to move in their lives like they did. Why do something just one way when thereâs other ways of accomplishing the same end result. Itâs that open and honest dialogue that people are afraid of because it breaks what they have always known and that just canât happen.
@@fairygodmother139it actually is true. All you have to do is search up âhave teenage pregnancy rates decreasedâ and youâll see⊠you can go to cdc.gov and read about teenage pregnancy rates. There are statistics provided by the government. Information gained through actual research by credible sources. no amount of video essays will erase the fact of the matter, teenage pregnancy rates are actually at an all time low.
@@fairygodmother139 what part?
Yes! If they want to be loud and proud about the disfunction they're creating, the judgement will also be loud and proud!
I love that you didn't sugar coat đ©·
I can barely take care of myself let alone a whole breathing human being, my question is where are the parents who are supposed to be held accountable for not shielding them. I don't have the energy time or energy to be in a relationship, I'm not even allowed to so how are these parents not letting their kids be kids.
Same here no time and energy for relationship ...talk more of a child
Same, can't really take care of myself as i am too lazy and broke.đ
But anyway we really don't know what the teen moms are going through to be in that situation.đ
What do you mean "I'm not even allowed to"? If you're an adult you can do what you want and anyone who doesn't like it can kiss your as#.
The big sis we all need â€â€ and it's like if you as a teen girl have morals and boundaries with certain things they say "you're missing out or you boring" ehhhđ
Yes absolutely. Funnily enough, I recalled recently when I was in my teens and decided to stay home one New Yearâs Eve. A family member asked me if I was going out and when I told her no because I was saving, she called me boring then proceeded to ask me to babysit her daughter so she could go out. A month later she then called to borrow money. Iâm pretty sure that at no point did it occur to her that my being âboringâ meant that she had a baby sitter that night and that the same money she borrowed from me was only available for me to lend simply because I had chosen to stay home that night instead of spending it going to the club. So yes, people will call you boring but be more than happy to benefit from it when it suits their needs. Luckily Iâm older now and much more assertive and discerning đđŸ
@@justalina_S Keeping true to yourself will never fail you â€â€
oh thatâs so true. All of my friends drink apart from me (one of them literally got alcohol poisoning at one point) but thing is weâre 16 which i find far too young so i donât engage in it and if iâm being real alcohol smells like hand sanitiser lol. But the thing is they always try and peer pressure me into drinking and i have to stand my ground for a good 10 mins before they leave me alone. Even worse is my brother who calls me a prude and tells me iâm not going to have friends later in life because of my choice of lifestyle. It gets tiring man I canât lie đ
Yeah, at those times I felt a bit ashamed of being that âboringâ(virgin, studious and alone) but fortunately my parents were smarter than me and I was comfortable being âboringâ. I am not sorry that I donât want babies, I am not sorry I donât want to date anyone(probably never), I am not sorry I donât do drugs or alcohol or other kind of addictions, and I am not certainly sorry about being a virgin at my 25s.
I study and enjoy my life on my own. Take care of yourself, healthyđâ€ïž Ănimođ
@@purplepuff6300 amen oo
Girl! Im actually sick of the naked grwm's too!! its so unnecessary and honestly cringe. Like girl get to the point!
đđđriiight like what even
They normalized so much like not wanting to settle down or be with one person at all. Just die alone and be nothing more. Itâs so weird. I donât wanna sleep around like everyone else all my life. Then just die when itâs all over.
The millennials normalized all of that and Gen z is just following in their footsteps.
No one is telling you that⊠you missed the plot
@@mun3698 excuses and i hate that. we see a PROBLEM we fix it NOT normalize it what the ruck?
Who tf says you die alone? Really, what's the meaning of that crap? If you marry you also die alone, one borns alone and dies alone.... what the hell do you all mean? Nothing more? Well that's life, even if you have 30 kids and a husband for 80 years, in the end, you die, and that's it. Fulfillment doesn't have to be to everyone else what it means for you....
Youâre literally just making this up. Some people saying itâs okay to not want to get married doesnât mean theyâre encouraging teen pregnancy. Itâs not weird to not be monogamous because our species has been proven to not be inclined to be monogamous for their entire life. Thatâs typically in primates x
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My lil cousin got pregnant at a very lil age and she comes on social media to caption her post "your fave babyma" damn!
Damn đ
Someone get her parents, damn! đ
Damn sis, you nailed it. This is a sickness, we need healing. Cos what? Kids having kids and the whole baby mama culture is just ridiculous.
Finally someone who is seeing the bs that is being normalized.
These days shame no longer exists đ
The things I see online always blows my mind. Everything wrong is so hyped now. Itâs crazy and sickening!!!! Now suddenly everybody has ADHD, OCD,etcđOnce again you never miss the point! So much love for you!!!â€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïžđđŸ
Donât forget autism đ€ŠđŸââïž
Speak your thoughts Lucy!!âŠthis generation and the normalization of certain things is just mind blowing đ”âđ«
It's a scary way of thinking there is nothing cool or trendy about being a BABY MOMMA!
as someone whoâs birth mother was 16 when she had me (I am adopted), unfortunately Iâm guessing kids have kids when theyâre in horrible environments and/or abusive parents.
itâs a problem that needs to be talked about more than it already is
I feel like a lot of people just make assumptions about a teenâs life and chalk it up to teen pregnancy being glamorised on social media but they donât actually know the circumstances. Imo we shouldnât be judging anyone, just because itâs not agreed itâs never your place to judge
Itâs the lack of love from parents that usually create these people and or people just naturally want to become mothers and have someone to love. Not sure what has changed since the 1900âs with the age getting lower and lower buts itâs really interesting.
How could being a totally unprotected (legally, culturally, etc) Mother be romanticized? And how could a MAN not being willing to commit to fidelity be romanticized? We need to be talking about what we allow men to do, and "absent Father" mentality as well ...
Right. Something I was thinking about is how in teen pregnancy relationships, the girl is usually named as a whore or a slut, but if the dad stays heâs praised as a âsaintâ or âangelâ⊠tf? for staying with his child and being responsible for his actions? behave. if a woman went and abandoned her kid she would be looked at soo much worse- and rightfully so, but the same should able to the baby daddies as well.
I agree that Gen Z act grown asf but I havenât seen much teen pregnancies being an issue like us millennials. For god sakes 16 & pregnant showed us who the real undercover freaks are.
YES. My students (11/12 year olds) say qualities they want in a baby dad instead of husband & itâs so sad hearing them talk about marriage being outdated and unrealistic
This video was highly needed. I thank you for being so honest and being a model of what should be normal admist abnormality. This internet thing a lot of things should not be allowed to be shown on there. To add, children under 16 should not have phones or access to the internet except for assignments and they should be supervised by a responsible adult in order to grow up normal and not feel they are yet to achieve anything. Aesthetic is thrown around too much making people feel they have to look or behave in a certain manner to be valid,sis just be neat,modest, confident and live within you means you will be fine. I wish I was a CZcamsr I would have had a lot to add. Thanks again you spoke TRUTH!!!
Are you sure we are not twins? My big sis we have the same mindset and that's why I am glued to your channel year after year. I am too traditional to relate with so many things happening now. I am happy I wasn't born in this Aesthetic era. Keep rocking with these videos Mme. Much love from CameroonđšđČđšđČâđ€
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A narcissist is someone who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. They typically have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others.
my toxic abusive ex he literally got a high from seeing me suffer. I literally got sexually harassed by his barbor and he didn't even believe his gf when I told him his barbor exposed a nude picture of him on his phone to me! Five years with that demon I will never never forget the things he did to me. I'm so thankful I have such a sweet man now who actually loves me for me.
Lucy darling, you always make sense, sticking to your faith, our morals value have been fading everyday. Thank you for this piece.
As for me no marriage no child that's on period
Somewhere around the nexus of the rise of Instagram,Kardashian and love and hip hop came the popularisation of stripper culture and the desire for wealth,clout and
glamour at any cost.
It's gonna come as a shock to you but teenagers have been having sex wayyyy before internet. It's not because of the internet that teens get pregnant but because there's no sex ed in schools, there is shame around abortion, etc. Even so, teen pregnancy is at its all time low
Completely agree, these videos talking about the degradation of society and turning back to traditional ways is kinda wild when you consider most peoples great great grandma had either 6+ kids or 12+ siblings lol.
Marrying for love is a fairly new concept, I'd argue its not traditional at all to view marriage that way which is why divorce was such a taboo thing. You married one person amd you're stuck with them and boomers would go on to create comedies about hating their wives lol this is not new to young/younger generations but ironically her modern lense that makes her cast judgment on century old issues
giving a bf a baby is not casual. parenthood is not causal. having 3 babymamas is not normal.
Nothing but facts! This obsession w aesthetics and influencers is a parasocial behavior
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I agree with you đŻ. It's become normal to have no boundaries or respect for yourself. It's considered normal to allow others to treat you as disposable and cheap. How can you feel good about yourself if you constantly commodify yourself and post thirst traps?
When celebrities like HALLE (the Little Mermaid), who had a baby out of wedlock at 23, proudly share it on social media, why wouldn't kids grow up and follow that narrative? After all, the Little Mermaid is having sex and having a baby without marriage. Who am I to judge? đ€·đœââïž It's these celebrities, social media, and TV that keep pushing things like this.
If Kylie had a baby without getting married, who am I to judge?
So sad. đ€Šđœââïž
Rihanna , Keke Palmer and more and I agree
The little mermaid đđ
@@AmaraMashingaidzeI absolutely agree! But the problem is we canât lump Rihanna who is parenting with the kids father and who is in her 30s with the too young ladies who havenât lived and do this with one night stands. There has got to be a difference. But yes I will say, marry before you carry as cliche as it is.
@@Chazzabox1Halle nor Kylie babies were one night stands. Halle & Ddg are still together & Kylie was actually in a relationship w/ Travis when she had Stormi. Itâs still out of Wedlock but it was not one night stands.
@@Dee_Dee794 Iâm aware and the message is to the young ladies who collect bodies and have opps babies! They do not have nearly a quarter of what these young celebrities have in terms of money and access to their amenities so itâs in the young ladies best interest to not play those games. Protect your womb at all costs, having a child with the wrong man can ruin you, despite whether you think the child is a blessing or not. At least if youâre in your 30s plus you would have lived a life already. But another reason why doing it so young out of wedlock is bad is cause you havenât had a chance to know yourself so well yet and likely the person youâre with, the child wasnât planned so the likelihood of a break up is higher.
Another sad part about child support is that unless you get a rich dude your child support isnât gonna be anywhere near enough to raise a child
Especially the narcissist thing is so true. As someone who recently realized that I kept on being friends or dating the same type of person I can tell you that social media actually slowed down my journey. Seeing videos about narcissistic people and the list of traits confused me even more. I did not realize that I was in a cycle and since my scenarios didn't relate to the signs maybe cause they were very simple guesses and had more to do with bad behavior or a situation taken out of hand, I convinced myself that I was the problem since I could barely relate to the victims. It took me so long to conclude that most narcissists are actually quite enticing and not as plain behavior explained by a top5 list. They are difficult to argue with and cut off, even worse is that if they are on social media they will use mental health buzz words to really sell their story. Anyway, it is not as simple to realize, and even trying to get out of the loop as I also know I play a role in attracting the same people. Either way, these things are best to either avoid or seek professional help.
Mercy!
I love the direction you're taking with these bold topics Lucy !
I am blown away by your beauty and your wisdom! Please keep preaching to the younger generations.
I am so happy Lucy has said the things that are not talked about because of fear of "upsetting" others. So refreshing to hear someone speak the truth
Can we appreciate the satisfying wig installation before the concerning commentary
THANK YOUUUU TO TALK ABOUT IT !đđœđđœ This world is CRAZY
This video hit every point that was talked about Iâm so glad I found someone talking about these topics !
Shout it sis, this generation is so goneđą
God help us
What you said about the narcissists was SPOT ON đ Thank you for talking about this
Do what I did: I have 1 teenager and a 3 year old. My 3 year old bangs on my teenagers door at 5 a.m. She wants nothing to do with that life lol đ
I've been binge watchings your videos for almost 2weeks now, and this video is going to make me subscribe. Everything said I agree with 110%. I am a young lady and i am very old school with a lot of things and social media is as bad as it is good.
you give such tough love big sister love and advice, iâm here for it
May god bless you to be bold enough to say this truth â€đ
queen thank you for bringing awarenessâ€â€â€
Thank you for this conversation, I agree with everything you said !!đ
Lucy will always be the big Aunty everyone needs. Social media has normalized a lot of wrongs. Thank you for speaking your truth
First of all !!!! THIS BLUE ON YOU IS AMAZIINGđ !!! But the way you want to fight somebody in this video eehh đ I even saw early today a video about this stanley cup and it is incredible to see how people can loose their dignity for that đ
A lot of this comes from older women who really hate us. If you donât warn your daughter ANYTHING about men, you hate her. A lot of young girls have to figure it out on their own. At 17 my mom told me abortion wasnât an option I asked her if she would tell my sister the same thing if she got pregnant at 17 she said she donât knowđ grandmas aunties and older cousins didnât tell me anything either. I told my sister since she was 13 about men and kids sheâs 21 with no kids.
Girly spoke every thing I wanted to sayyyyy, amen!
My thoughts exactly.. I posted this the other day. Love thisâŠ
I agree with you 100%. You snapped with this one!!!!
For the last part, itâs so true! Iâve experienced things my entire life that I donât wish upon anyone and lived with a physically and mentally abusive mother. Iâm 26 and still trying to figure out how to live a normal life without the past situations affecting my day to day. Iâm tired of hearing people use those words for the slightest inconvenience or situation.
King Solomon in a woman! Wisdom sis! Thanks for sharing đđœ
I always watch yiur videos for the past 2 years and i sometimes forget to comment.
Thank you for reminding the rest of us that being normal is now a luxury.
I see a lot of kids have kids and i can't be surprised anymore
Love You ma... Its really make those young ones who are trying to live life real make them feel they are not doing their better...
Big facts you never lied
Omg you have me captivated! Loved the entire video! Thank you â€ïž
Seeing u as a young person discuss this with such a grounded mind is beautiful. Keep it up abegâ€
I saw a video on TikTok encouraging kids to have babies and the comment section was full of 13,14,15 year old saying they want to have babies toođ€Šđœââïž
Thank you sis for talking about these topics the Stanley cups i dont own and i never will be its a waste of product!!
It is so refreshing to listen to reason.
Someone had to say it, you spoke facts without mincing words âšâš
Thank You soo much Lucy for this.
Dysfunctionality being normalised is a harm to the young ones
Big ups to speaking up boldly on this topic đ
Somebody had to talk about these things.. and the talk has been done by my fav big sis.. đđđđđđ
You literally said everything Iâve been telling my friends for the past 3 months đź I love it here
Finally someone addressed itâ€
She talked about everything that needed to be said, wow!!! Iâm subscribingđâ€ïž
Preach my sister you are so on pointâ€â€â€
You couldn't have said it any better Lucy. The big sister we need! Loving the nails by the way x
Lucy is such an intelligent strong woman and i love your videos so informative â€â€â€â€
These are the type of videos I admire from you.. THE LOUDER TRUUTTTHHH!!!!! This may not be the case I really relate with everything because of the African upbringing.
Always spitting fire Lucyâ€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïž
Factsâ€You nailed every point
Not you shouting on usđđđ
Sorry mađ€Č
I love the way you talk and youâre spot on đđ
I KEEP SEEING YOUR BETTER HELP ADDS Iâm like whoâs this beautiful girlđ„ș so glad CZcams has finally recommended me one of your videos!!!
I just found your channel and I absolutely love you. Youâre gorgeous btw, but also, Iâm with you 100%. Love your take on everything. I feel the same way. Youâre amazing!
Tell us! I love your trasperency sisâ€ïž
The hair is givingâ€
We need a makeup tutorial thoooo
Plus I love the way you speakkkk
yes a lot of negative things have been normalized but judgement is not a solutionâŠ. letâs be positive and offer new perspectives. thx for ur vid.
Most people arenât narcissistic, theyâre just selfish, which also sucks with regards to a relationship, but itâs much easier to realize đ
so glad i stumbled upon ur channel!! i love ur content and ur voice is so soothing đ„°đ„°đ„°
girll ur so pretty ur makeup ir out ift your hair, everything LOVE your look and this is a great video. have a great dayy
You nailed it!!! I work In a population where women have had to stop working to become a caregiver to their child because they gave birth to a baby with severe disabilities. Itâs so sad! Please just marry and be with someone you love. Make children with people you love