American Dating in Africa | Namibian Romance 101.
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- čas přidán 23. 04. 2022
- Let's talk about romance on the continent. Of course this is based on my personal experience, as well as from information I've gathered while living abroad.
P.S. please don't make sweeping assumptions about people you may encounter in Africa based on any stereotypes you may hear, good or bad. Visit and see for yourself.
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Not all damara folk are violent trust me i hate it when we are labeled as the abusive partners , I'm a damara man and my partner is a wambo .
I'm pinning your comment to the top. Thank you for sharing this! It's not fair to stereotype people that way - you're right!
@@AntonsClass Absolutely
Amase🙌
FYI most domestic violence cases and murders take place in the northern regions and amongst the Oshiwambo speakers
@@bengrethuwuseb6123 couldn't agree more, things are extremely rough out there chile!
I've date all races as well but even still there is something particularly icky about a black person who doesn't date black (trauma-related reasons I do understand, but other reasons just feel suss, even "that's just my preference").
I really appreciate your clear tone , or way of speaking really clean 🔐🥂💯.
Thank you so much, my friend! 🙏🏽
Thank you for appreciating us😊😊
So glad you touched upon that at 14:45. My discernment is strong but I know people will still try.
You motivated me to travel to Africa now. After my trip to Japan, I know where I will go next. :)
I'm truly happy to hear that! Thanks for sharing 🙂
Please 🙏 come to cape coast 🇬🇭🇬🇭💯 Ghana is a peaceful place
We have the best Woman here
Great video! Thank you for making it! 👍🏻
It’s very true ! Even myself people in Africa find me very attractive than in US and I find African women are very affectionate and feminine
I completely agree with that statement (DONT BE AFRAID TO DATE)
Interesting vlog by the way i really appreciate your honesty.
Thank you! I appreciate your support.
I appreciate your honesty bro
Thanks for being here!
Nice video.. I will visit Namibia soon
I think you'll love it!
Americans could date so many women in Namibia because I think the Namibian country is influenced allot by American CZcamsrs. I'm Namibian and I would never get married to anyone over here, especially not Otjiwambo or Otjiherero men. So now I'm planning to live my life as a eunuch, and it's awesome. Definitely pray to Jesus Christ about who you marry, and seek holiness before you seek anything else
We as Africans have always been going out with our significant others on dates and gifts etc it’s not a western thing for us it’s just what we’ve always done . As an African based in the US I wish you would have touched on the topic of finances and the AA 50/50 thing as compared to Africa where men are providers no question or negotiation about it.
Yes, as an African American woman dating is confusing. Growing up we are taught, men pays for dates and women cooks. But now African American men want women to pay half for dates, but then I went on a date and tried to give the guy money, he was offended. However he was Jamaican American and said he’s the man, so he pays. It’s so many rules. Confusing.
Cap not in American
What AA 50/50 thing? Never in my life paid half! 🤣🤣🤣
Women never did 5059 in America that's cap
@@bobjayboxing3804 he’s talking from what he’s heard on social media. Not from reality. Social media is unreality. This 50/50 stuff fairly new, and definitely not something ingrained in AA culture for generations.
Alot of Africans are ready to settle down because they know what they want
I understand. That makes sense too.
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But what's the rush? Get to know a person by dating.
I purposely did not do my beauty upkeep when I traveled to Africa to avoid any attention, but I was still hit on. It felt good!
I didn't like Namibia because it so divided in my opinion and that's how I felt
Tbh I think it’s not even about the color of the skin. US is just a shitty country when it comes to society. Racism, democrats vs Republicans, men vs women, etc etc. People are literally extremely divided and opposed. Like someone grabs you and says “you must choose your team right now, there’s a war coming”. I’m white (Eastern Europe, we never had black slaves btw) and I’m dating a girl from Kenya and everything you said kinda applies to my experience as well. People in Africa just don’t seem to care much about the color of the skin, they either like you or dislike you for who you are. Rather than for how you look like or what “label” (ie social or political beliefs) that you have
You being white date your own people. Respectfully
Thanks for your input! Good point.
That's because the Europeans that enslaved and colonized Africans especially in the US used it as a way to continually divide the enslaved Africans.
I went to Kenya and your right omg you will not lack. But they are ready to be wives not girlfriend in Kenya for the most part. If it is not black it is not for me and black comes in so many different looks and not the same.
I would like to visit Namibia
Namibia is beautiful!
I'm planning to visit What type of stuff did you use for mosquitoes? Is Namibia where you need to get malaria shots or yellow fever shot before coming.? Also what about the water there is there filtered water where you can bring your own jugs...?
Malaria isn't an issue in most of Namibia. It is only a problem in the north. Windhoek and Swakopmund don't have malaria, so you don't have to worry. I did have a yellow fever shot, but they didn't ask for it. If you're coming from the US, you don't need to show one. However, if you leave Namibia, some countries may ask, but I don't think you need one for Namibia at all.
Yes, there are spots to fill up jugs of filtered water, like Food Lovers Market, and other spots as well.
Please 🙏 come to Ghana cape coast 🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭 is a peaceful place
Of course what you hear depends on which tribe you are more closed to Anton. If you date a nama/damara you will hear much about wamboes, things I will not mention here. I knew what you would say about damara/nama the moment you said you are dating a wambo. If you do a little research of your own you will find out that most romance killings are happening in the north or even if it happens anywhere in Namibia it is wambo men killing their partners. Should we say from those statistics that wambo relationships always ends up in murder. As I mentioned, what you hear about any Namibian tribe depends on which tribe you are closed to. In the end we laugh together as brother and sister of same continent and country, as we should.
Very good point. I have heard this as well. Thank you for your insight.
@@AntonsClass I truly appreciate your work making sure that not only white foreigners enjoy Namibia but you make others aware of our beautiful country. So many African Americans are going back to US because of the exact same issues you mentioned in the other video about why you left Rwanda. Not all African countries are the same. Namibia is not perfect of course but it is better than most west African countries I can assure you. Great content as always, thanks for sharing your experiences about Africa 🙏🏿🌻
@@striving4excellencewithmadams thank you for your kind words! Your support is much appreciated, and I agree. Namibia really has a lot to offer.
I would like to visit Africa
Ure welcome to Namibia friend
You should totally do so!
@@AntonsClass thanks for sharing
What is stopping you? Do the dangon thang! I loved it!
Our traditional roots remind us where we come from and that we have a community
That makes sense. I like that.
I would you love to please know that terms Coloured and Baster are not interchangeable.
Thank you. While in Namibia, nobody gave the exact definition of the two terms. I was just told they referred to people of mixed ancestry living in Namibia and South Africa. As far as I remember, Baster was referring to Namibians, while Coloured was reserved for South Africans.
P.S. I'm not Namibian, I am an American learning about Namibia.
@@AntonsClass There are three groups of mixed people in Namibia. (1) There are Cape coloured who migrated from South Africa, but did not join the Baster community/nation. They are the ones who opted to settle in townships such as Narraville in Walvis Bay and Khomasdal in Windhoek. Most of them can trace their heritage to the Cape Colony. (2) There are the Basters who also migrated early from South Africa and formed their own community/nation in central Namibia. They have a history of engageing with the Germans, South Africans and Nama/Damaras more indipendently, and they had their own laws/institutions. They were also the only mixed/afrikaans speaking homeland in SWA/SA during apartheid. They are distinct in that they maintain a lot of their old culture and paternal Calvinist traditions. (3) You have Namibian coloureds who can trace their heritage to mixed race people from the German colonial period, mixed people who came to Namibia via the Doorsland Trek, and biracial couples in Namibia. Additionally it's worth mentioning that Namas have some European/Asian admixture because the Oorlams, who were a of mixed descent, were assimilated with the wider Nama community. Most Nama speak Afrikaans fluently and about 20 % of them speak it as their first language. The Namas are distinct from most other black people in Namibia in that they're Khoisan, which is also makes up the plurality of most coloured peoples' ethnic bakground. They're not considered to be mixed, despite their lighter pigmentation.
Correction - I've dated more than just 2 from the continent. Lol
what are curently doig in namibia studying? working?
Hey, brother! I am not currently in Namibia.
@@AntonsClass ou okay you've already returned ... thank you for appreciating our country ey
@@B_xrnie yep! Planning on getting down to SA very soon
This is making me wonder, what an Indian like me would find in Namibia??
That's a good question. I think you will find a very hospitable place with friendly people and a beautiful atmosphere. So much opportunity there. Actually, some Namibians asked if I was Indian or part Indian.
@Esra Kavetu thanks but i would like to explore more of africa in this regard
From my observation, Indians mostly just date inside their own race. I have seen 1 exception in the States.
Just because someone looks african phenotype doesn't result in better outcomes for relationships between African descent persons and Africans.
One has to consider the differences in values, goals and cultures . These factors play a huge partin the success of relationships in general.
I don't beleive Anton got extra attention in Africa because of his looks; I think the women saw a foreigner and possibly a green card.
I know there may be sincere people in these countries but the impression I get is that most people in Africa want to get out of there and live in the Western countries like the USA and Europe.
I am just saying that persons should be cautious and deduce the true agenda of potential romantic partners.
To my knowledge, Damara people are actually very nice, warm people...I don't know where that, "they're abusive stereotype is coming from...
Thank you for sharing. It's a damaging myth, I think. I hope it is dispelled.
@@AntonsClass Yes, it is terrible. I'm a new subbie. I came across your videos today, I really like the content, keep it up. On your next visit to Namibia, please make time to mingle with people from other ethnic groups too...lol
@@TheLaquita28 thank you! And yes, that's great advice 😁 will do!
@@TheLaquita28 yes true,I understand why he say that because he mostly mixed with wamboes and that stereotype of Damara being violent was created by wamboes. If you look at the facts most violent crimes are from the north,women being killed.
Dating in Namibia is also very difficult if you look asian or african because of eurocentric influences so the local men here prefer white looking girls.
I am 29 years own my own business in the usa I have difficulty dating girl in the usa I want to go to some african country do business there and hopefully fine me a beautiful black woman there
I definitely recommend it.
True. Ur an are full of respect.
The tribe with the highest rate of abuse and passion killing is in the oshiwanbo tribe ,damara people can come of a little rough and our language as well is rough but I get it an oshiwambo person probably told you that stereotype.
You're really trying to be polite. I think. That makes you slightly different from other African Americans... at least the ones I've met. It's more difficult to relate to African Americans than probably a Caucasian. And that's because Caucasians come prepared for less comfort I guess. And of course one always needs to be careful whenever you date a foreigner - And African Americans are no different. We have to be careful with them also. You're right though about the euro centric beauty standards.
He is very polite, but not the only AA that is polite. We are as different as a box of chocolates so, please don't discriminate or be condescending. There, polite, intelligent, and African American.
@@frana.4086 Discriminate?? Condescending? Naaa!!!! But it is true that you're different; the women adjust better to a different culture than the men. I have seen AA ladies in a village set up with even no electricity, no mall and a pit latrine for a toilet and still survived. YeSss education plays a role; ignorance gets the better of most people.
@@moonomudenda8689
You do realize that women historically, follow the lead of their man anywhere? When wars happened women HAD to be flexible to adopt a new culture when all the men of her own culture are gone. Foreign women world wide are easier to accept into a society than a foreign man. Women traditionally took the last name of her husband's family, not the reverse. A foreign woman is NOT expected to pay a 'bride price' anywhere on Earth.
Now flip the script, a foreign man is EXPECTED to have resources. He is EXPECTED to lead. EXPECTED to have a plan.
So yes, a foreign man of any means who isn't extremely young, is less likely to want to essentially start from scratch in a village in the middle of nowhere that he is fully unfamiliar with, where he can't possibly be a leader and would need to begin in a 'student' role.
@@bennyhanna6 men in Canada most often than not will carry the woman's name.
My grandfather always used to say: "what if there is no man in the home?" We must never limit our thoughts about women only to that they can do beside a man.
Women too can be servant leaders: humility is not stupidity.
There is something about this life when opposites meet; only mutual respect can glue people together. Some exotic women are there to destroy than to build...always remember that.
Thanks for your write-up it was rather cool to read.
so much strange code talking in this video
I don't understand why you have to explain yourself when you say you prefer dating people of African descent. Why wouldn't you and no other people explain themselves when it comes to that.
Smart Kenya girls....they will marry you..... BUT not always want to be girlfriends.
In Namibia we say tribes no ethics here
I don't think baster is a good word..its like saying basterd
It’s what they call themselves, correct? I mean officially. Not like the “N” word. If not Baster, what word should be used?
Right!
You’re recommending non binary people travel to Africa to date? Are you sure about that? Most African nations are very traditional and haven’t accepted new western interpretations of gender.
Except South Africa!
Herero tribe. These people made me hate Namibia. Whenever they are talking to somebody, always bitter, rude, angry and shouting. It's like they have unresolved issues with everyone who is not Herero. Maybe it's PTSD at the hands of German occupiers. Whatever, there is no reason to be a steaming pot, venting on anyone you come across. I wonder how they live with other communities overseas since they love migrating to Canada and UK.
I now understand why you were told negative stuff about Damara people after watching your latest video about person X and peeson O. Your group of woman you dated here were just intimidated by the Damara women in Namibia. Sorry
Bastar sounds hilarious, why would you call yourself a bastard,its clearly a colonist derogatory term why degrade yourself it's worse then the N word 😂😂😂.
I was wondering that as well. Perhaps someone who belongs to that community can comment and clarify.
call text me i broke my phone and lost contacts
Why you have to explain what yo like,be a man ,just speak from the heart stop being scared