This brief reflection is on the possible attitudes we can take towards death. A talk by Dr Alok Pandey, for audio recording go to auromaa.org/ (RH 008)
@AuroMaa Org Dear Alok Da, I am a teacher in Auro Mirra International School , Ulsoor , Bangalore and a devotee of Sri Aurobindo and The Mother since childhood. My parents also were devotee. I have a query related to my beloved mother's death that happens on 24 th August recently. I lost my mother who was a devotee of Sri Aurobindo and The Mother on 24 th August to the complications of diabetes that finally led to cardiac arrest. She died in Ambulance before she could be treated! You have beautifully explained what happens after death , I want to ask you that my mother who was a benevolent woman, full of good virtues, who never hesitated giving her favourite things to others, who always told us to lead a pious life and who was always believing in the Mother's grace did not receive any help that would save her life. Many people told me you should have shown her to doctor earlier, if ambulance did not delay and arrive earlier, if she would have been attended soon by a doctor she could have been saved. Some people also suggested that she should have taken insulin( my mother hated going to doctor & hospitals; however she believed in homeopathy and used to take 'madhumehari' the medicine manufactured in the Ashram but still why did it not work for her or it did in some other way? ! During the last two months she used to get up frequently at night to pee and either me or my sister used to assist her. She had difficulty in walking then and when we use to bring her back to bed , she used to look at The Mother's photograph and tell something silently( probably a prayer) . She used to do this several times. I have a premonition that was she asking for death ? There are a lot of questions ringing at the back of my head. Please guide me so that I can get an answer. Please do 🙏!
Dear Anandita It depends upon how we look at it. To me your mother's departure seems quite a conscious choice. She did not want to be in a typical hospital setting which is undoubtedly the one of the worst places to leave the body. Hospital atmosphere is generally full of small little entities that feed on the vital energies. There is much anguish and anxiety in the environment. Your mother was quite right in not wanting to go to the hospital especially since she had a natural disinclination for allopathy. Since she was still being taken to the place which she rightly dreaded being sensitive to the occult energies, she decided to withdraw before reaching the place. Had she been forces to go earlier there is a strong likelihood that she may have left her body earlier or else in the hospital in miserable inner condition. These ideas of somehow saving the body are born of Ignorance and often create more complications for the departing soul . While the utility of these interventions cannot be denied for those still under the spell of ignorance and unconsciousness, it is not a good way for conscious souls to depart. Your mother seems to be a conscious soul and hence made a conscious choice to depart the way she did. What she prayed to the Mother is of course between her soul and Her but surely there is no reason to be disturbed about the departure of one who loved the Divine and led her life in a beautiful way. Her life was a beautiful example and her departure too exemplary. Affectionately alok da
@@AuroMaa Dear Alok Da, While reading your answer I got the assurance that I didn't get talking to others related to Bhawan while I think all these answers are coming from The Mother and have helped me in some or the other way ,but the way you explained the situation actually answered my query. I am assured that my mother is in loving care and protection of The Mother. While I consider all these answers coming from the Mother, yet I wish to express my gratitude towards you for taking the time to answer the question so precisely and releaving me from my doubts. I had doubts because I was deeply attached to my mother and this attachment was springing doubts in my head. I will try to fill the huge void created in my being due to my mother's sudden departure by the way you explained in the video. How could I doubt The Mother's grace! Actually my mother too used to tell me that things do not work in the same way for those who are on this path than the way it would work for other people. She always used to tell that. Yes her life was beautiful and her death exemplary. I am proud of my mother and will live my life the way she wanted me to live. Mother's grace is always flowing , only we need to be conscious. I'll have to work on my consciousness. Thanks and Regards, Anandita
जब आपका अपना कोई अचानक इस दुनिया को छोड देता है तब पीछे रहने वाले कैसे इस कष्ट से बाहर कैसे निकले ।आत्मा है उनकी पर उस vaccume को कैसे tolerate करे भगवन की पूजा अब नही होती मन नही करता pls help
Dear Seema The reactions that we feel after losing a loved one is understandable. Yes there is a sudden gap left in the space they had occupied which we do not know how to fill up. It is this sense of void that leads to suffering. The way therefore lies in filling up that empty space. Some people do it by filling it with pleasant memories. They remember the beautiful moments or take out memoirs etc that slowly fill up the place. It works in a way though remembering the departed ones does keep them tied and lingering near us. A better way is to commemorate through building a memorial or charity in the name of the person who has passed away. This not only fills the empty space but, in a way helps the departed by doing things that he may have cherished. It could be some field of work or simply doing something materially for the ideal he stood for, the dream he cherished like an unfulfilled wish or doing something in the name of or as an offering to the chosen deity he worshipped. A still better way is to take this moment as an opportunity to reflect on the true nature of what we call as death, to dwell deep into its mysteries with a spiritual seeking or through books such as the Gita. When we do that we discover how ignorant is our understanding, how childish our sorrows, how harmful our grief for the departed. But the best way is to understand that such is the nature of life now. Its transience, Anityam, its painful nature, Asukham and knowing this turn towards the Eternal Divine who waits for us through all our lives. Fill this void by the only Love that can fill it, - The Divine Love, by turning to Him who is source of all love. Offer your cherished one to Him for that is the best you can do for the living or the departed. Affectionately Alok da
Thank you so much Sir! My sincere thanks to you..
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@AuroMaa Org Dear Alok Da,
I am a teacher in Auro Mirra International School , Ulsoor , Bangalore and a devotee of Sri Aurobindo and The Mother since childhood. My parents also were devotee. I have a query related to my beloved mother's death that happens on 24 th August recently. I lost my mother who was a devotee of Sri Aurobindo and The Mother on 24 th August to the complications of diabetes that finally led to cardiac arrest. She died in Ambulance before she could be treated! You have beautifully explained what happens after death , I want to ask you that my mother who was a benevolent woman, full of good virtues, who never hesitated giving her favourite things to others, who always told us to lead a pious life and who was always believing in the Mother's grace did not receive any help that would save her life. Many people told me you should have shown her to doctor earlier, if ambulance did not delay and arrive earlier, if she would have been attended soon by a doctor she could have been saved. Some people also suggested that she should have taken insulin( my mother hated going to doctor & hospitals; however she believed in homeopathy and used to take 'madhumehari' the medicine manufactured in the Ashram but still why did it not work for her or it did in some other way? ! During the last two months she used to get up frequently at night to pee and either me or my sister used to assist her. She had difficulty in walking then and when we use to bring her back to bed , she used to look at The Mother's photograph and tell something silently( probably a prayer) . She used to do this several times. I have a premonition that was she asking for death ? There are a lot of questions ringing at the back of my head. Please guide me so that I can get an answer. Please do 🙏!
Dear Anandita
It depends upon how we look at it. To me your mother's departure seems quite a conscious choice. She did not want to be in a typical hospital setting which is undoubtedly the one of the worst places to leave the body. Hospital atmosphere is generally full of small little entities that feed on the vital energies. There is much anguish and anxiety in the environment. Your mother was quite right in not wanting to go to the hospital especially since she had a natural disinclination for allopathy. Since she was still being taken to the place which she rightly dreaded being sensitive to the occult energies, she decided to withdraw before reaching the place. Had she been forces to go earlier there is a strong likelihood that she may have left her body earlier or else in the hospital in miserable inner condition. These ideas of somehow saving the body are born of Ignorance and often create more complications for the departing soul . While the utility of these interventions cannot be denied for those still under the spell of ignorance and unconsciousness, it is not a good way for conscious souls to depart. Your mother seems to be a conscious soul and hence made a conscious choice to depart the way she did. What she prayed to the Mother is of course between her soul and Her but surely there is no reason to be disturbed about the departure of one who loved the Divine and led her life in a beautiful way. Her life was a beautiful example and her departure too exemplary.
Affectionately
alok da
@@AuroMaa Dear Alok Da,
While reading your answer I got the assurance that I didn't get talking to others related to Bhawan while I think all these answers are coming from The Mother and have helped me in some or the other way ,but the way you explained the situation actually answered my query. I am assured that my mother is in loving care and protection of The Mother. While I consider all these answers coming from the Mother, yet I wish to express my gratitude towards you for taking the time to answer the question so precisely and releaving me from my doubts. I had doubts because I was deeply attached to my mother and this attachment was springing doubts in my head. I will try to fill the huge void created in my being due to my mother's sudden departure by the way you explained in the video. How could I doubt The Mother's grace! Actually my mother too used to tell me that things do not work in the same way for those who are on this path than the way it would work for other people. She always used to tell that. Yes her life was beautiful and her death exemplary. I am proud of my mother and will live my life the way she wanted me to live. Mother's grace is always flowing , only we need to be conscious. I'll have to work on my consciousness.
Thanks and Regards,
Anandita
जब आपका अपना कोई अचानक इस दुनिया को छोड देता है तब पीछे रहने वाले कैसे इस कष्ट से बाहर कैसे निकले ।आत्मा है उनकी पर उस vaccume को कैसे tolerate करे
भगवन की पूजा अब नही होती मन नही करता pls help
Jai Maa 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
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Vai Bande Mataram.
Translation in english would be wonderful. Gratitude. Om Ma.
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One can face problems but how to face such sudden unprepared mishaps
Pls help alok da I posted my query long back all problems are different but loss of dearest one is unbearable
Dear Seema
The reactions that we feel after losing a loved one is understandable. Yes there is a sudden gap left in the space they had occupied which we do not know how to fill up. It is this sense of void that leads to suffering. The way therefore lies in filling up that empty space. Some people do it by filling it with pleasant memories. They remember the beautiful moments or take out memoirs etc that slowly fill up the place. It works in a way though remembering the departed ones does keep them tied and lingering near us.
A better way is to commemorate through building a memorial or charity in the name of the person who has passed away. This not only fills the empty space but, in a way helps the departed by doing things that he may have cherished. It could be some field of work or simply doing something materially for the ideal he stood for, the dream he cherished like an unfulfilled wish or doing something in the name of or as an offering to the chosen deity he worshipped.
A still better way is to take this moment as an opportunity to reflect on the true nature of what we call as death, to dwell deep into its mysteries with a spiritual seeking or through books such as the Gita. When we do that we discover how ignorant is our understanding, how childish our sorrows, how harmful our grief for the departed.
But the best way is to understand that such is the nature of life now. Its transience, Anityam, its painful nature, Asukham and knowing this turn towards the Eternal Divine who waits for us through all our lives. Fill this void by the only Love that can fill it, - The Divine Love, by turning to Him who is source of all love. Offer your cherished one to Him for that is the best you can do for the living or the departed.
Affectionately
Alok da
Pranam da thnx a lot for your kind soothing words will surely try to implement