Finding Balance...
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- čas přidán 23. 04. 2024
- Thank you so much again to my friend Gabi who made me realise for the first time how awful my thinking and my behavior were. The mindfulness workshop we did with her gave me the first and most important step in the right direction to change!
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Oh yeah, one more thing, I actually prefer when content creators post videos once a week because 1) it's easier to keep up with since I am subscribed to so many channels and 2) because I have to wait a while for a video it makes me crave their videos and I would immediately click on their new uploads because I'm so excited that they posted. When content creators post more than once a week I get bored and stop watching most of their videos even if it's content I like, it's just too much for me to consume and sometimes the video is not high quality content. I also love when content creators post once a month, so either once a week or once a month is good enough for me as the viewer, anything more or less than that is not ideal for me.
You have no idea how much I needed this right now. I've got a huge problem with setting high standards for myself and feeling like a failure or like I'm being judged by everyone if I don't live up to it. Being a people pleaser is extremely damaging for your mental health, you wind up inventing other people's thoughts to punish yourself and draining all the love and fun out of what you're doing. Please take care of yourself. Everything you do is enough, it's beautiful and perfect, and just enjoy everything you do. Life is hard and stressful enough these days without us adding to it ourselves.🖤
I'm so glad you're taking care of yourself and re-prioritizing. Your personal well-being is most important!
Your channel is delightful, informative. It's not about numbers, it's quality and vibe. You have beautiful quality and a lovely energy. ❤
I agree❤
I love that your channel is QUALITY CONTENT. I never feel like I'm getting fluff.
I have 2 channels and I burned out. I had to reassess and allow myself to get real about what I WANTED in life.
Now I seem to be finding my equilibrium. ❤
That’s beautiful! 🥰
People pleaser here...I get you. But just to remind you your uniqueness is what keeps us here.
Im so happy youre taking care of yourself. Burnout is not nice, so always better to step on the brakes before it gets anywhere near that. ❤❤❤
Thank you! Yeah it was actually insane! Looking back I really see how much it also impacted my general mood, I was ALWAYS overwhelmed and irritated, I got angry and cried even more easily than normal… 🥲
@TheNorseWitch I've been there but didn't pull the breaks fast enough. I'm so happy you did. Feeling constantly overwhelmed, angry, and frustrated is not a nice state to be in. I'm so happy you're feeling better already. 💕🥰💕
I appreciate this video. I struggle just like you with people pleasing, perfectionsim, and trying to do everything at once. My guides are CONSTANTLY showing me that I need to do one task at a time and one step at a time but ofcourse I fall right back into the loop of perfectionism. I'm slowly starting to get it but I still struggle.
Edit: I love your channel. ❤
Thank you so much, this was very much needed. I’m veryyyy similar in terms of setting high standards and lacking balance in things I need to do and want to do. It means a lot that you shared this with us, thank you :) Blessings 💙
It's so cool that you talk about this because for me personlly it's hard to find this balance between my full time job, my fiancee and my witchy things, i find it's also hard when your partner doent share your beliefs and they want to do more mundane stuffs instead of you doing your meditations and your spellwork, so i think it's important and a real conversation to have because we are people we exist in the physical world and that means that we have chores to do at our homes, at our workplace, and with our loved ones. Great video ✨
I find your content absolutely brilliant. I’ve watched many others content, however while there informative, your content is so much more genuine in your delivery of speaking from the heart. I’ve gained a much deeper understanding of living a more authentic and engaging in my witchcraft, from listening to you. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your work and time in putting these vlogs together each week. There’s nothing more magikal than being excited, on a daily basis that we live our magikal lives.
I try to film multiple videos when I have the time and energy but it's hard to maintain that pace with a 9-to-5 😅
It's such an internal struggle between wanting to post consistently while also maintaining that mindset of "this is just a fun hobby and I won't be a perfectionist about it!" I totally get where you're coming from, Balance has been my key word as well ❤
Exactly this! But yeah I try to do it in a „if I have energy I’ll batch film and if I feel drained I’ll focus on the research for a video“ kinda way, that works kinda well, especially because then you can do the research work outside in nature or a coffee shop
You really did a marvelous job on the LW Workshop and everyone in attendance learned so danged much! Runes were a mystery and now sing. I am so glad you were able to be a guest speaker AND so glad you were awakened to the importance of you and your personal time. It is such an epipheny when it slaps us in the face that we are important!~ Enjoy life!
Thank you 🥹❤️
Sounds like you are in a better place. Self care and family is important. ✨
Balance is the hardest thing to learn, sometimes it’s a moving target😂 I’m a huge joiner, I get excited also, then I feel overwhelmed. Sending you much love, I enjoy your POV very much!
Your channel means so much to me I’m so glad I exist in the same time as this !!I genuinely love your videos and everything
Great points Bente! It's definitely a struggle to not put too much pressure on ones self all the time to achieve and hustle. I appreciate the realness and the honesty here. Thanks for sharing 🙏 ❤ Xx
Thank you for sharing all these things...it helps greatly to know it's just not me getting burned out...😊😊😊
This was really great timing honestly, I struggle with the high standards I set for myself and how much I contort myself to fit what other people need. I realized that I am terrified of being perceived as the person my parents always said I was. I'm working on letting go of that, but it's been really hard. I've been trying a new mantra that's been helping a lot "the perception of others is not my problem" (ofc within reason, I'm not just gonna be a blatant asshole and then be like "oH yEaH fUcK tHoSe PeOpLe."). Letting go of that pressure has helped a lot! I'm learning to identify when I'm projecting my own fears and the thoughts of people no longer in my life, and while it's a lot easier said than done, it is possible and that's enough for me. Also for the hardworking folks, don't forget to take frequent breaks no matter how much stuff needs to get done, drink plenty of water, and remember to breath damnit!! Also, I don't think you have anything to worry about with your youtube channel cuz we'll all still be here, we love you. Your videos are informative and calming, the vibe is on point, and I'm learning a lot from you. So thank you 💜 your mental health comes first
I needed this right now. Sending this to a loved one. Thank you!
My spirits keep calling me out in readings to chill out and take care of myself. I'm very bad about prioritizing work and people pleasing over taking care me.
I actually really needed to hear this, thank you 🖤
I definitely have issues with finding balance. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️ 💕
Congratulations!! I have the exact opposite problem, where I just have no motivation to do anything. But then again I actually did burnout and am slowly regaining my energy.
I’m so happy for you! Taking notes ❤
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I loved this! I am so happy you are able to live a lovely life. Be well! ❤I think it's impirtant to find out how are spirit frienda and deitues want to work with us or what they want to do with us, how they choose to show up for us, ecen how we lead our daily lives as well. Integration is important too. I think it is a big witchcraft topic. Oooooh! Someobe else that feels this way towards their deities! I get so nervous around Odin. Lol my YT channels have never made it past 200. I think YT favors videos about average topics or popular ones, not an upload rhythm, cause in the beginning, I was uploading daily. When I can't do anything with my deities, I just go to my altar and talk to them. I tell them my fruatration in not being able to work/honor them, that I love them, and let them know when I think od them. I also am becoming a minimalist witch. I try to do less altar work and invite them more in to my hone daily life or in my good deeds . I have specific tools like my broom, my house cleaner spray, and a place just for them outaide. I don't have ant gardening tool yet, but do have my own set if sheers and clippera that could be and I think of Freyr when I am tending to my vegitables, tonatoes at the moment. They told me to ait outaude daily and be with thwm. Now ai bring my cat out for a walk and wouldn't be surprised if Freya was near by. I ground for 3-5 minutws and commune with them. This is part of my therapy practice aa well. Whenever I go to a bar or beewery I always invite them and at least descreitly offer my glass before I start. I lastly, invite Ceredwen when doing anythibg with creating things, magucal sprays, and anything water related. Bast is around when I take carw of cats or create perfumes. There is so much more. Elves are beginning to become a part of helping me take carw of others emotionally. I think it's good ti be open and hobest about whwre we are.
Good for U Bente! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼💪🏼🫶🏻I think personally that the most important thing in life is Do what’s makes U Happy because life is very short so think about your wellbeing FIRST! 😉Take care of yourself and thanks 🙏🏻 for sharing this insightful video, have a good one!🙋🏼♀️🇨🇦💘🌷🌷🌷
This definitely reached the right person. I love your content not just because it’s witchy, I like your personality and edits and your take on things. I relate to this so much. Thank you for sharing
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I struggle with the exact same thing, so thank you so much for sharing this. I've never heard someone put words to my experience before, and I'm struggling to find ways to cut back. Like you, every time I remove something from my list, I add something new. It's such a difficult cycle to break, so it's so healing to see someone take those steps ❤
your engaged! congratz! taking time off is so important and as a follower i will be here and can't wait till your next video where you get the rest and relaxation you need! take the time you need for you!!!
I'm glad you are taking time for yourself. Everything resonated with me way too much!
i'm so glad to hear this because i am also struggling with doing wayyyy too much at the minute. i'm juggling a part-time makeup course, studying for my a levels, trying to start a youtube channel and just regular human stuff on top of my practice and having multiple disabilities. i really resonate with struggling to keep your house clean and keep on top of your practice as well as working yourself into the ground, ESPECIALLY doing the bare minimum to not let down spirits.
One thing I promised myself when I started my channel was that I'll never serve the algorithm gods. Hope I manage to resist their temptations :D It's really frustrating how these things affect people and especially young practitioners like you in a very, very negative way. That's why it is so important to speak about this. You're doing great!
I'm really happy you are making decisions that support your creativity, your practice and not getting burned out! It's good for you and it sets a great example too.
Rule One: Prioritising your health is always the correct decision.
By the way, I think you are a really good interviewer and you should be interviewing other people (when or if you want to) rather than the other way around.
Thank you so much! I really want to do more interviews, it’s always insanely fascinating to learn about other peoples practice 🥰
Thank you for this! I needed this so much because I'm am learning the same thing. I made youtube to make a life for myself since I cannot do a 9 to 5 due to learning disabilities but I do have help in the area of money. Thankfully I do not live on my own and have the privileges that I have. I remind myself everyday that I do not need to kill myself over social media, I'm also exploring different types of videos to see what sticks and doesn't. I have a new goal to post weekly through out the summer so that when October rolls around, I'm am going to take a month off since that is my birthday month and just be with myself and spirits and all of my Witchy ness and tools. Just connecting with self again and again. But finding balance so that I do not easily burn out. So good on you for being strong and finding balance ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤.
I also sometimes just take a month off, and I prepare for that in advance. Sometimes it’s so nice to just not have to make videos at all!
@TheNorseWitch omg yes! When you don't have to make a video, it's just like a refreshing breath of air. It also makes me feel human too lol.
I can’t thank you enough for this video it actually made me cry , I do the same , I’m always trying to making everyone happy , on the go all the time and burning myself out I know it but I just can’t sleep if I think I’ve not done enough
Yep, it definately reached the right people :)
I truly appreciate your transparency and openness about this topic! It is so clearly a personal development journey with your practice and business ventures. It is so easy to get swept up with new ideas and projects and burnout can be so sneaky. Half the time we wont realize its happening until we are bome tired of the work. People pleasing makes us blind to our own needs. So i am very glad that youve taken the time to find a balance. I love your videos and hope to one day buy from your shop. While it would be heartbreaking to lose future content i would be empathetic to the reasons for your choice. Im happy to see that this isnt the way you are going and that you are still commited to the channel. However im even more glad that you are working and adjusting your workload to also accommodate yourself! Much love bente 💖
The algorithm is such a terrible addiction yet inescapable for content creators 😢 on my old channel at some point I was releasing 4 videos per week while being a full time student!!! And when you love something it's hard to see the line between "but I enjoy this!" And "yeah but it's too much". Twice already I've been tempted to make more than one video per week on this channel and both times I was reminded how quickly things can precipitate. Inertia might seem like we're standing still if we don't push forward but truth is, we already pushed, it's ok to stop accelerating 😉
Haha yeah I had to find out the hard way that 2 videos a week aren’t it for me 🤣 I guess I had to be slapped in the face with that information 🤣🤣
Oooh, love the makeup and outfit!
Thank you 🥰
Love your spirit and energy sister. ❤😊 your such a genuine human! I will wuv wuv you always!
You’re so sweet ❤️❤️❤️ and right back, I know very little people who are so open and honest!
@@TheNorseWitch 😊
Man i so relate to this. I work full time as an engineer and run my own small business. I make and energetically empower everything in my shop. I've been selling at in person shows and working on setting up my website from scratch. I've been having to remind myself its okay to take days off when i need them, and that things don't need to be perfect to be okay.
I´ve been enjoying your videos for a couple of months, but I´ve never checked out your shop. It looks really good. I live in Germany so I will be buying from your shop in the future since I love supporting local small businesses. 😊
Oh Yeay 🥰🥰
Thank you for the video ❤ take care and enjoy your time ☺️
That's a gorgeous blouse! I love your style and wondered where you like to shop for clothes?
I thrift my clothes☺️
I am so proud of you
this definitely reached the right people
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Love your videos🥹❤️
Thank you 🥹❤️
can I just say your fit is phenomenal today🤩
Thank you 🥰
Jst a question, do you answer questions in your DMs from your followers. Like for say, if I hv any doubt regarding witchcraft and all, can I DM you for guidance?
I try to reply, but tbh I get a lot of DMs and it gets very very draining, so as sad as it is - don’t count on a reply 🥲
in the beginning youy were speaking of in simple words doing to many things all excited, I was the same way when I was younger and for myself I discovered an underlying, almost hidden, inside myself which was the reason why I was like that, I am still close to being that way , I just remember what I discovered so that I don't unbalance myself , there is nothing wrong with taking some time ,a day ,two or week to think things all the way through, also listen to what is deep inside myself to get past that initial excitement, which sometimes is thrown in a small room lock the door then later on remember what I did because now I am feeling a little tired ;) .
Being on youtube I would imagine is a total Mind%^&* because a person would get caught ion the numbers I think that it is best to do what is wanted for the self that way you connect to like-minded people and that takes much pressure off then looking at the numbers and comparing to others , the majority of youtube people are more about the numbers and their content isn't that good for most people plus they are not themselves when I watch those peoples content i can read see what's going on and it isn't good for themselves or the younger followers but that is a totally different story , I would think that a person doing CZcams vids would be doing it mostly to help others and themselves then the numbers and fame fame comes from being truthful of what is inside and outside
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