What if the girl who was tricked into drinking had actually been an alcoholic but wasn't ready to tell anyone about it? Can you imagine ruining someone's hard-earned sobriety for your own benefit, and then being mad when they don't behave how you want?! I hope that bad friend sees this episode and realizes just how awful her behavior was.
Totally think that 'friend' needs to take a look at their own relationship with alcohol. Like thinking that your friend is only 'fun' when they are drunk, being so *desperate* to have her drink too that you will essentially drug her? That 'friend' isn't just tricking someone into getting drunk - she's one of those people who takes someone else's sobriety as a judgement of her own drinking, because she knows she cannot cope sober. As someone who doesn't drink, I have met those people, and they HATE that you are comfortable not drinking, because they can't stop.
Not only this, but what if she was pregnant and hadn’t announced yet? What if she decided not to drink for religious reasons. What if alcoholism runs in the family. Like she shouldn’t have to justify why she doesn’t want to have alcohol at all. I sincerely hope she cut ties with that friend
The bride who snuck her sober friend of THREE YEARS alcohol so that she would be her “old, fun, self again” for a night??? What about her “friend’s” LIFE?! People forget alcohol IS a drug.
I was thinking if she can press charges since technically she drugged her. She got her drunk even though she had clearly said she didn’t want to have alcohol that night.
@@jennyinouterspace I’m not sure if it’s criminally liable (although I agree it should be) but for sure could be taken to small claims court! If a guy did that to a girl, it would 100% be seen as a crime, so hopefully she can take criminal action against her “friend”.
I’m an immigrant in England and had no real clue about the health system here. I got to the hospital and they kept me overnight. My partner could only come see me the next day and missed his football training. He was on course to win rookie of the year and missing training would mean he’d lose the title. I knew I was selfish but I was also so scared and he stayed with me all day until they released me. He never once made me feel bad about it. That’s what a real partner does.
I'm German and soccer is pretty much as much of a big deal here as it is in England (hell, it's the only time where you can wave a German flag and not feel like a Nazi) and I still have to say: FUCK. THIS. GUY. A "cultural misunderstanding" is not the issue here. His priorities are.
This also makes me think about what if someone was pregnant and you didnt know yet and you were just putting alcohol in their drinks anyway. Its so wrong on so many levels regardless of her reasoning for not wanting to drink.
I was thinking the same thing. Maybe I missed it but I didn't hear Morgan call it what it is. That girlfriend sounds like an abused wife making excuses. I kept straining to hear them say she needed to run and get help
The dinosaur story is not just a red flag, it's a house fire! It's a divorce for sure. She must have known the significance of the toy and her actions her calculated and spiteful. You just don't do that to someone you love, or even care about. She seems gleeful that her husband was hurting, and then completely dismissive of his feelings. If this is how she deals with her frustrations, what is she raising their kids like? I'd cut it off there and then. Someone whose brain works like that is a danger.
Not just dismissive of her husbands feelings but also her children’s well being. She left to get burgers but then didn’t feed the children when she returned? Why did the daughter come asking her father food after another hour? What was the wife doing for all of that time?!
@@sususieable I totally thought that too! I feel like a still childish, but totally forgivable act would have been to feed everyone except ther husband. But instead she went to get food and didn't even consider her kids??
@Sleepy Celeste I absolutely get that, but it's so not about the toy. It's her actions that concern me. It could have been any object of significance. She acted to hurt him, I'd say the fact that she took the Dino proves her knowledge of its significance to her husband. It wasn't random, like hiding his games console etc. She chose the greatest hurt and went through with it. That's "calling you on facetime in the act of sleeping with your friend" levels of messed up😅
This screamed narcissistic to me. The way she gaslit him when she knew he was so obviously hurt. It’s boarder line emotional abuse to me. I hope he divorces her. 😢
I also think the way he’s acting (very manipulative and borderline mentally abusive) can lead to physical abuse down the road. No abusive relationship starts with physical abuse. It always starts out with shit like this. I hope her friends realize what a monster he is and try to talk her out of that “relationship”.
For the dinosaur story, someone being so vindictive to the person they’re supposed to respect the most is a HUGE red flag. He should leave her before her behavior can escalate. But also, if she’s willing to do this to him, who’s to say she wouldn’t one day do this to their children in the future. I wouldn’t want someone that cruel around children
I’m rewatching this but omg. If my boyfriend picked a stupid game over me the way his clothes would magically all be on fire. Like I used to be a HUGE sports fan. Basketball, american football ball, WWE. I would always want to sit down and watch them alone while eating some chicken. My favorite thing. But if my boyfriend was just having a bad day and needed my attention. The game would be turned off. A human being is so much more important. I can watch the game later. I can watch highlights as well. Yeah it’s 100% better watching it live. But if I heard my boyfriend crying. I wouldn’t even be able to think of a game. I’d be sick to my stomach worried about him. Like thats just what you do when you care for someone. I love my boyfriend but you don’t even have to love someone to care that much.
@@wiwi7_ yes she could have if she had the time and the audacity to throw away his sentimental childhood toy and went out to get fast food, she could’ve even went out to get burgers without the tantrum. Like what’s the big deal with her cooking while he was watching the kids? It’s not like he was pawning them off on her while yelling for her to make dinner too. So yes she could have just not thrown a childish tantrum over something simple as over dinner and she didn’t notify him earlier that she wanted him to make dinner. If the roles were reversed, you’d be saying the same thing as I. And I assume that you can’t possibly see how toxic she was over dinner just because she wanted her husband to make dinner while he was too tired from watching his children. And she doesn’t end up making dinner and basically laughed in his face when she came back without his toy. So it is he and yes*
I couldn’t even think about football if my significant other was in the hospital...GETTING SURGERY. She could of died from complications and he has the audacity to say her “drama” ruined the game... there’s no such thing as a drama free relationship, we all face problems that partners have to learn compromise on. That man is delusional and disgustingly selfish. She needs to RUN!
To be fair, she was waiting to be discharged (I’m a nurse and it can take hours) not still in surgery or under observation. Still, I think he is a total asshole and gaslighting her which I hate to throw that word around, but I think this is the perfect example.
The way the op defends the football man in the comments makes me fear that she's in a genuinely emotionally abusive relationship. He is very clearly the asshole, football is important to people, but it's still "just" a hobby (I'm from Germany, we live and breathe football here, but it's not at the same level of a friends wedding and definitely not worth leaving your partner at the hospital after surgery). If she can't see that, I'm scared that she's been manipulated into accepting his asshole behaviors. I hope that she can one day realise that and leave him.
I kind of think it almost makes more sense if the post was written by the bf, trying to prove he isn't the asshole but pretending to be the gf so people don't just outright attack him.
EXACTLY! My husband is also English and a big football fan, but there is NO WAY he would leave me in the hospital for a game. My husband rarely watches the Premiere League games live as he lives in another country, but he does watch them afterwards. You can watch the game on your phone, your laptop.. and as she suggested in a hotel room nearby.
Him saying he likes her because she’s drama free and comparing her to the wife is a threat- if you complain, I leave you. See, you’re acting just like the woman I already broke up with. It’s so fucked. This girl seems determined to be mistreated and it’s very upsetting
That dinosaur is connected to the most loved people in this man’s life. His grandparents, his parents and his children. That dinosaur represents the love of his family and for his family and she threw it away saying it was no big deal. His love and his memories with his family is no big deal.
Me too I connected some of my plushies to the most loved ones I have exemple one of my plushies is really old and lost some fur on it’s neck it’s a German Shepard plushie and I got from my parents for Christmas when I was 6 years old and I always keep it with me
The friend trying to stay sober, I had a friend like that and sis let me tell you!! Dropping a friend like that isn’t worth the apology, isn’t worth paying for the dress. Idk why she thought giving her sober friend alcohol would be smart and the fact that the friends are backing this psycho friend! This is why girls have such a hard time finding TRUE TRUE TRUEEEEEEE friends.
@@raindropsonroses3919 the sad part is it doesn’t matter how long you’ve all been friends, months or years and it’s always the ‘victims’ fault for ruining the friendship. 🙄🙄
you`re correct, Lauren. It's proven that there is an increase of domestic abuse, racism etc after games like that. some fans get incredibly aggressive no matter if their team won or not
I think the jealous boyfriend story was downplayed, if he throws away her computer in rage over fictional characters in a game imagine what is he gonna do when there's a real person provoking the jealousy, or when he suspects she's having contact with a male that makes him uncomfortable, he will probably be violent with her, those are the kind of dudes that kill their wives over cheating
Also, men please keep in mind--we play as female sometimes, but sometimes we choose to play as males for *safety*. You ever been harassed online? It's annoying esp when you just want to play the game. So she may be playing male to avoid negative male attention, and look where it got her...
That was my thought too. Interesting that the wife that threw out the dinosaur is automatically a monster but the boyfriend that threw out the computer and deleted gaming history “went a little too far.” What he did is scary and controlling.
The toy dinosaur: My first reaction is simply that I think the wife has been planning to get rid of the toy for some time as its the first thing she did over something as simple as not cooking her dinner. Its such a petty thing to do over something so small when you take in to count how important the toy is to OP. There is clearly more going on in the relationship and I would say divorce as I dont think she is sorry or cares about OPs feelings at all.
@@joyzimmer5705 perfect! I was thinking that too. The father could use that as an important lesson for the children. He could easily tell them to appreciate their loved ones favorite objects and to never toss things in anger or be mindful of the things they say and tell them what happened and notice how heartbreaking it can be to someone when you disregard their feelings
I would honestly be so mad that I would kick the person in the street I don’t give a freaking flip because I have a lot of plushies at home and for me my plushies gives me a feeling of safety since I am a kid yeah it’s kind of immature to still have plushies as an adult
Jesus, the dinosaur story triggered me into getting up and checking on my own sacred toy, even though I know he's just fine on a shelf. I have a teddy bear my grandmother gave me when I was 2. I'm 36, my grandmother died over a decade ago, and it would be unforgiveable if anyone touched that bear. For someone to purposefully do something that hurtful, only to say it's an overreaction to be upset... divorce attorney, asap! EDIT: This got me thinking about my bear. His name is Oliver, which is what the tag on his butt says, and I never questioned it. For the first time, I got curious and checked if this was a brand name or something else. Turns out, Oliver is googlable. The brand is Russ Berrie & Co, and he still can be found on vintage sites for like $40-$50. But, if anyone tried to replace my Oliver, I would know, because when I was little I snipped a bit of his fur, so he has a tiny little bald patch.
Agree - I ran to hug Big Teddy. This is the worst thing I’ve ever heard. She found the worst thing she could possibly do to hurt him and she did it. I wouldn’t let her near my kids.
Tired because they were taking care of your own children. If my husband took care of our kid for a whole day without asking for help I'd cook dinner happily as thanks
Just incase anyone is wondering, the post for the girl in the hospital ….. she has put up another AITA because she thinks she’s the assholes again after meeting his family. They are now ENGAGED and she’s pregnant and still thinks he’s a great guy for her 💀
the first one with the alcohol? she was literally spiked. the stigma that alcohol isn't as bad as more "hardcore" drugs was used by the bride to her own advantage. if she had spiked the girl's drinks with anything other than alcohol i feel as though her friends' reactions would have been much different and would've seen the bride as being in the wrong - when in fact its the same thing.
The Dinosaur made me mad. Like please tell me they split up!! I can’t like I have something like that!! Everything I have means a lot to me especially one teddy bear that was given to me as a kid and if something happens to it I would fucking cry.
I’m convinced the football man would be equally gaslighting about other things as well. She’s 27 and he’s 39. I’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship before and this reminds me of that.
Lauren was spot on about the sport guy! His "drama" excuse is bullshit, he wants everything to go his way or no way. He's manipulating her into not having a say in things, that she's always wrong, ect! And it worked! That's a toxic and an abusive relationship; and she deserves to be with someone who puts her and her health before a fucking sport! I just feel sorry for her, she's going to stick with him for awhile... I just hope she comes to her senses and realizes that HE'S the asshole.
Yes! From my experience my abusive and narcissistic ex would say that to me and it all makes sense now. I stayed quiet on my true feelings and hurt to be “drama free”
Girls no need to sugar coat how much you get that sports games are important to people, I was a competitive runner, tennis player, swimmer, and volleyball player AAAND I still don’t get how watching ANY game can be more important that the people in our lives.
A lot of people hear presents as oh gold digger then but that's not it. You explained it well and I got to thinking about why I enjoy it. I used to have a floor to ceiling bookcase at my dad's house. It was so full books were being stacked on top of each other. Growing up as a reward for good grades or birthdays or special days I was taken to a bookstore to get one new book. In a fit of anger during my parents divorce my father destroyed every single book I owned. I was so heartbroken I cried for hours when my mom told me (she had gone to try and get him to give up my books) each book was attached to a happy memory and most of my bookmarks were receipts or silly things that made me happy. People who associate memories to objects like gift giving and receiving
Listen, I'm from Brazil, footbal here is a big deal, it is part of our culture just as much as in England. So here is my opinion: what that guy did was absolutely fucked up. She was literally in the hospital, just had a surgery and relied on him. Also, he could have watched the game anywhere (in the hospital, in the hotel) but it is clear to me that he didn't want to. He didn't just put the game before her needs, he put his friends and the "experience" of watching the game. The fact that he felt humiliated by her calling and texting also proves that he is so fucking selfish. She needs to leave (and I'm kinda glad England lost so he doesn't get to celebrate, but I hope she stays safe, considering how angry he could be)
I am from Argentina and was in the hospital for appendicitis (wich was complicated because my appendix was in an unusual position) on a saturday night (sunday is when the most important matches are programmed here). My family (father, brother and BILs included) and friends were there all sunday. No one even tried to put on the matches on the day on the TV. Can't believe that asshole used a football match to justify abandoning their partner in the hospital
Loved this episode! Also with the horse story, the audacity of her to ask him to "buy in" as well, instead of just considering it a joint investment after he's invested so much into their life together.... she sounds extremely selfish
The movie one hit really hard for me. I had a book series that I really enjoyed and a new one was coming out that I was really excited about, so I would talk about it with my friends. I found out later that, because I was talking about it so fondly, my friends decided to listen to the audio book together without me. And they hated it. They spent a lot of time after that making snide comments to each other about the books and the author and as someone who is an English Literature major I could see their points, but it still made me sad and insecure about my taste. By the time the new book came out, I found I couldn't even finish it because I couldn't enjoy the writing anymore. I had started this series when I was young, so I wasn't reading it through my 'critical lense', but just enjoying the nostalgia whenever a new one came out. The whole series was ruined for me, and it just made me really sad.
Ugh, I hate that! Sorry your friends did that. That has been my life ever since high school. I don’t talk about my tastes in video games or books because of how people like to attack it. I’ve recently read a new genre, splatterpunk, but there is no way in hell I’d talk about it unless they brought it up with interest.
I feel so so so bad for that poor man, that was so cruel of his wife like wow she’s so inconsiderate. He seems like such a sweet guy. I wish he could have gotten it back.
@@TwoHotTakes I read the comments and she hasn't even met his friends because he likes to keep his relationship and friends separate. I'm from England not a sport fan though, and even though the game was a big thing here for some but not for everyone. he is selfish and she is just defending his bad behaviour.
I love Lauren’s response to the one about the gift giving issue, I went through a similar situation and wished I would have addressed it as calm and collective as that. Hit the nail on the head.
Even if you don’t have the money for a gift, it’s always sweet to make an album on your phone and share it with the person. Maybe pics of you two together or some favorite places you’ve gone. Make dinner at home, , take them on a nice walk, draw a bath with cheap wine, whatever. You can also totally get some cute crap from the dollar store and put it together for less than $5. It’s definitely an effort thing!
Last year for my bfs bday in quarantine, I didn’t have many options, but he LOVES Mexican food. I pulled out some Trader Joe’s tamales, air fried them with some homemade elote, and squeezed a couple margaritas out of tequila I found in the freezer. He liked it more than any gift I’ve given him tbh
The football (futbol) story is baffling to me. I love sports, but I would without hesitation miss any one of my favorite teams winning a championship because that's what you do when someone you care about needs you. A game should never be more important then that.
Say it with me kids: Horses👏 are 👏 not 👏 a 👏 singular 👏 payment 👏 !!! EVER! This person does not seem to understand that. Whether you pay 10k or 2k, after you buy the horse, you WILL have ongoing expenses related to the horse like food, healthcare, housing etc. They say that they've had experience with riding them, but they don't seem very aware of all the other stuff that comes with owning one yourself, as opposed to leasing/riding someone else's. Big AH move, a horse is a big commitment and they just aren't in the right financial position for it. Also side bar, lineage guarantees nothing. Sure it might get you a better performing horse, but its never 100%. Look at the race horse Phar Lap. The trainer bought him cheap coz his blood lines were good, even though his parents sucked at racing. He did amazing. The trainer bought other yearlings with similar or even better blood lines, and they did terribly. For a 10k first time "investment" the blood lines aren't worth it.
England getting to the final of the euros was a huge deal and will be a big part of british history now. The public went mad, breaking into the stadium and destroying the city I think everyone lost their heads a bit. But if he truly loved her he would have never chosen the football over her. Anyways England lost and that guy is a douche.
In regards to the dinosaur story I'd definitely file for divorce. I've had my ladybug pillow pet since i was 6. I'm 17 now and if someone threw it away to purposefully hurt me I'd never talk to that person again... That guy's wife knew exactly what she was doing and if she can throw something so precious to him away it's obvious she does not care about him or his feelings and I honestly feel like she's done things like this in the past.
The fact that a 17 year old understands this and a 32 year old women didn’t makes me so angry. As a woman in my thirties I just couldn’t imagine. My husband has a wooden toy dinosaur from when he was a little boy. It’s now a decoration in our oldest daughters room. He would be devastated if I intentionally got rid of that thing. And I can’t imagine doing this to someone I loved, especially not my husband. Similarly, I have a cabbage patch doll and a stuffed beagle named Charlie and if either of those were disposed of to hurt me I would never forgive them. It’s so sentimental. I hope you keep that lady bug pillow for the rest of your life, and you find someone who is just fine with out the fact that it’s sitting on your bed still when you’re old and grey 🤎🤎🤎
I swear I love this podcast, but I might have to start taking medication for my blood pressure after hearing some of these stories. The audacity of people never ceases to amaze me.
About the dinosaur story: he's not overreacting and she knows it. She KNOWS how important it was to him, otherwise she wouldn't have used it to get revenge.
OMG! The story about the guy wanting to see a football game reminds me! My best friend's Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer and she had a bad reaction to treatment and had to stay in the hospital for an hour longer, and her then-boyfriend just left her at the hospital, stating that it was taking too long and he had a game to watch. Like her mom was literally out of the bed, getting into a wheelchair to come down and get discharged...and he straight up left saying he was bored and she was slow. Sadly, she was still with this guy for like two more years after that but yay! she did beat cancer and eventually kicked him to the curb such an AH!
My best friend is an alcoholic. I stopped drinking around and with him a year before he quit drinking. I did it at first because I recognized it was a problem. Now I don't drink around him out of respect for him.
The toy dinosaur one messed me up. I lost my mom seven years ago and still have many of her things and if someone were to throw something out vindictively, I’d be a mess. It’s awful because I’ve gotten to the point where I’ve forgotten the sound of her voice, so I cherish some of the things she left me (sweaters, jewelry, a chair, etc). The person you love and trust the most in this world should honor your connection to that person or thing. That Dinosaur toy could’ve been a family heirloom that the kids would continue to pass on to the next generation. Horrific. :(
The dinosaur got me 😔. I would never do that to my husband! I have a small jewelry music box that my grandmother gave me and it is PRICELESS in my eyes. My cat knocked it over and broke the lid off. I bawled over this.. it’s all that I have left of her. I can truly understand what that dinosaur means to him. Damn.
The toy dinosaur story really got to me. My dad passed away when I was 13, I am now 17 and only a few months after my dad passed I went and grabbed one of my dad's sweatshirts. If anyone were to do anything to it or throw it away I would cry for hours too. The wife is a major asshole for treating her husband like that and getting rid of something that she knows holds so much sentimental value to her husband.
The "pretending to be Christian" story brought back a weird memory for me. In college, my roommate was from Ghana and it was her first time in the US, and as our freshman year started and we were trying to get to know one another, religion came up and she asked if I was Christian. I said yes out of habit, but I wasn't seriously practicing. America is a very culturally Christian space in that holidays like Christmas and Easter are observed by many, even in secular households. My mom has always been a casual believer, praying and saying she believes but not actually all that wrapped up in church, repenting for sins, or any of the evangelical branches of the religion. On my dad's side, they are Greek orthodox (mostly, some relatives have spread out to other denominations) but this is what I was baptized as. By the time I was in college, I was very comfortable in my spirituality which did not fit with established Christianity. But since it was my only frame of reference and that's how I was raised, I told my roommate that I was Christian too, and we had long talks about what it meant for us as individuals. She seemed to understand that my beliefs were different because she came from a big church in Ghana that her family partially helped run, whereas I was more just a descendant of Christians living in a culturally secular (but heavily influenced by Christianity) world. As time went on, she would sometimes get bothered by beliefs I had or things that I thought was okay that she didn't agree with, because she was super religious and focused on living a life free of sin. Fast forward to the next year, I joined our campus interfaith group because I felt like I wanted to explore my spirituality in a non judgmental space and also learn about other religions and beliefs. It was easily one of the best environments and communities I found on campus. When I first joined, we would do ice breakers and we were always welcome to share our faith if we felt comfortable. I said Christian when prompted, though I usually added a disclaimer about how my beliefs don't really fit standard christianity, it's just how I was raised and the Greek orthodox church feels the most familiar to me (though I would also typically share that my beliefs were more progressive and not very conservative, so I didn't really subscribe to the religion whole heartedly, it was more for cultural reference). I went back to my dorm room after the first meeting and my roommate asked me all about it. I had invited her to join since she spoke about missing having her faith community, but she did not like the idea of "inter" faith as it was not strictly christian. She asked me what I said when I was prompted to share what religion I associate with, and I said Christian, and she gave me a look of surprise and judgment that made me feel so uncomfortable. I knew that I personally was not a super religious or pious person, but I do believe that it makes sense to acknowledge our cultural frame of reference for our beliefs, even if we don't subscribe to the religion anymore, so saying Christian because that's what my family is and those are the holidays I've always acknowledged makes sense. As time went on, my roommate would invite me to a non denominational church that she found in town that she really liked, and I went a couple times, but the second and last time I went, I felt slightly cornered by people approaching me to confirm whether I had Jesus in my heart or not (kinda putting me on the spot there..) and even the pastor approached me afterwards to "get to know me" but it felt more like an interrogation of what church I'm from, what brought me here, how do I feel about the sermon, etc. I thought it was a weird experience where everyone was trying to witness to me, and it put the last nail in the coffin of whatever past faith I ever had. I'm very comfortable in my spirituality now which is more unconventional and just kinda like agnostic mysticism (haha, idk how to put a label on something so personal, so you're free to laugh if that sounds like garbage) but I completely agree with OP in that reddit post that when you're put on the spot, it's not so easy to say "Oh I'm not christian, you probably wanna try and save my soul now, huh?" Anyone who grew up in such an environment knows how some Christians seek out other to witness to, and I honestly feel like saying something basic like "Oh yeah I believe" without getting into details is a way to protect your boundaries from Christian interrogation.
This is my 7th year sober. I learned to tell people I'm allergic, because I got tired of the questions and when I answered they just assumed I had a problem with it. (Which assume what u want ) and if ur allergic there less likely to push u too drink . (At least that's my observation)
Yessss! I’ve made money but it’s years if work and paying to feed them in the meantime 😂 and vet, farrier, etc. they’re as my dad calls them “money burners”
For story 9: my husband is similar to the boyfriend. He gets distracted and starts looking at his phone or talks during the movie but doesn’t dump on it. He likes to talk about the actors and what they have acted in since or before. Part of it is because he has ADHD and it is hard for him to concentrate and he does the same thing for the movies he picks as well. So, I have gotten used to it and understand why he does that. But if he was complaining about the movies I picked and making me feel bad, I wouldn’t be as excited to watch movies with him.
Story 1: 5:20 (surprised with alcohol) Story 2: 13:13 (bag of urine) story 3 17:18 (buy a horse with loans) Story 4: 25:45 (wife threw out sentimental dinosaur) Story 5 35:33 (left partner at hospital for football) Story 6: 55:00 (boyfriend deleted characters) Story 7: 1:02:00 (nothing for birthday) Story 8: 1:10:06 (pretend to be Christian) Story 9: 1:18:00 (turn off movie)
I SO BADLY want to just sit in the room with you guys on a Friday night reading these 🤣🤦🏼♀️ Every single episode, there’s at least one time where one of you literally takes the words right out of my mouth
my birthday just passed, and i had seen one of my best friends from out of state right beforehand. i wasn't expecting anything from her AT ALL!! she got me a little goody bag with m&ms (my favorite candy), a nutella snack (i love nutella), a giant scrunchie (she said cuz i wear scrunchies all the time) and some markers (im BIG into stationary) -> i'm still not over this, because just the fact that every little thing in that bag meant she knows all these little things about me :) the thinking about u outside of when you're actually there is SO true
I'm English and that football story is actually shocking. My boyfriend is really into his football but he would never ever put it before me. She needs to RUN because men who take football that seriously are more than scary
I feel so sorry for the dinosaur guy, my heart goes out to him. Massive red flag there, he was helping her with THEIR children that they CHOSE to have.
I was half expecting to pull for part of Horse girl's story. Like I was expecting she got the nest egg for an emergency exit fund if things went bad with her boyfriend (Like he proved to be some kind of abusive or something) and she needed an escape plan. But no. Just...weirdly selfish for no discernible reason.
Agreed. Also- I kind of got the feeling that with others paying for her major costs, she hasn’t come to understand the value of contributing properly with what she can.
@@kateymowat1211 horses and horse riding are EXPENSIVE. And her parents could pay for her rent/bills? For years without question? She's definitely from a very rich family.
I'm super late watching this so I don't know if you guys, mostly Lauren, will see this, but I just wanted to say that Lauren's take on the gift story was spot on. The amount of care she has for healthy communication in a relationship is really cool and nice to see with ghosting becoming such a normal thing or even just staying mad at your partner without communicating what's made you frustrated or angry. I know so many people who just vent about their relationship problems without ever explaining to their partner what set them off thus setting themselves up for more frustration and anger in the future.
Horse girl is extremely selfish and financially irresponsible. I don’t understand why she would finance a “nest egg”. She should wait until she has a job and isn’t freeloading off her parents and boyfriend before making large purchases that she can’t afford.
As someone who plays a lot of RPG and MMOs, I make all kinds of characters with different gender and species. I make them based on style or how I want to build their gameplay style (say hacker, assassin, warrior ect) with a certain backstory in mind. I am a straight female who tends to lean towards female characters anyway just for relatability and better immersion. I would never make it specifically for some kind of sexual attraction. Plus I know plenty of guys I play with that use female models in games because their hit box is smaller so it's harder to hit during FPS games. Break up with him, its not just jealously, it's complete disrespect for the OP and their personal property
So pretty much every story I like explain as a hypothetical to my fiancé to see his reaction- for the football one, my fiancé is a massive football fan by the end of the story he was like… your kidding that can’t be true no way someone would choose a football match over your partner having surgery like wtf. It is so sad she has clearly been gaslit into thinking she is in the wrong. 😔
Yeah my guess is she didn't have the most healthy upbringing and feels like this is normal in a relationship and she doesn't deserve more (which it absolutely isn't and she absolutely does)
I'm from germany. to a lot of people here football is an incredibly big deal but that does NOT excuse his behaviour also the 'oh i like you because you dont have drama' is a HUGE red flag, too he wants a 'cool girl'
I am obsessed with your podcast. I normally don't like them but yours hits different. I love the guests you have, The topics and your voice is so soothing. The stories are always so interesting
Can we have a Espiode of future updates on the Reddit stories? Also the clip of you asking your bf ab the game characters was so funny 🤣Shit made me laugh so hard I almost fell in the shower 😭
I love listening to everyone who comes on the podcast but every time it’s Lauren, I get so excited 😆😂 because we usually have similar takes and she always makes me laugh
This is the first time I’ve listened to someone talk about horses & money and been like YASSSS you’re spot on! Very realistic statements. (Fellow horse girl here ✋🏼)
The toy dinosaur story is truly heartbreaking. To treat someone you’re supposed to love so cruelly is so f*cked up. How can a person hurt someone they’re supposed to care for? I hope so bad that he finds that dinosaur AND divorces that evil malicious person. I hope he can find happiness one day and teach his poor children kind moral character and virtue 🥺🦖 🦕 💚 I HOPE THERE’S AN UPDATE AND HAPPY ENDING 🤞
I heavily relate with the first story, I don’t drink alcohol because even just a drop makes me violently sick (throwing up and diarrhea). If someone ever did that to me I would make sure to throw up on them
with the pretending to be a Christian this reminds me of an interaction I had at a previous job. Someone sneezed and I said bless you, another coworked asked "if your an athiest why did you say bless you?" I said first im a pagan not an athiest but i was raised in a Christian house hold and to me its habit and common curtosy
What if the girl who was given alcohol stopped drinking because she developed some sort of allergy or intolerance to something in alcohol... Giving your 'friends' things that they have chosen not to consume secretly is so dangerous, disgusting and selfish wtaf
She did stop because she had an intolerance. She loses brain function (in a way that she finds problematic) when she drinks, which isn't so different from dairy making someone's stomach hurt or nuts making their throat swell.
Listening to you guys talk about broken bones and injuries reminds me that a year ago I broke my tibia completely in half almost through the skin and the same with my fibula but in two different spots and I can tell you that that one definitely hurt more than a sprain
I have a stuffed rabbit that my dad gave me when I was 12 and if my partner got rid of it I would leave. I wouldn’t even talk to them about it, especially if my partner knew how important it was to me. F this woman.
What if the girl who was tricked into drinking had actually been an alcoholic but wasn't ready to tell anyone about it? Can you imagine ruining someone's hard-earned sobriety for your own benefit, and then being mad when they don't behave how you want?! I hope that bad friend sees this episode and realizes just how awful her behavior was.
Absolutely!
Or what if she was pregnant and didn’t want to tell anyone yet?!
Totally think that 'friend' needs to take a look at their own relationship with alcohol. Like thinking that your friend is only 'fun' when they are drunk, being so *desperate* to have her drink too that you will essentially drug her? That 'friend' isn't just tricking someone into getting drunk - she's one of those people who takes someone else's sobriety as a judgement of her own drinking, because she knows she cannot cope sober. As someone who doesn't drink, I have met those people, and they HATE that you are comfortable not drinking, because they can't stop.
Not only this, but what if she was pregnant and hadn’t announced yet? What if she decided not to drink for religious reasons. What if alcoholism runs in the family. Like she shouldn’t have to justify why she doesn’t want to have alcohol at all. I sincerely hope she cut ties with that friend
I’m coming up on 3 yrs clean if someone did this to me Id be devastated!!!!
The bride who snuck her sober friend of THREE YEARS alcohol so that she would be her “old, fun, self again” for a night??? What about her “friend’s” LIFE?!
People forget alcohol IS a drug.
I was thinking if she can press charges since technically she drugged her. She got her drunk even though she had clearly said she didn’t want to have alcohol that night.
@@kika30392 I wondered if it is a punishable offense!!! IMO it should be!! Lol
@@jennyinouterspace I’m not sure if it’s criminally liable (although I agree it should be) but for sure could be taken to small claims court!
If a guy did that to a girl, it would 100% be seen as a crime, so hopefully she can take criminal action against her “friend”.
@@kika30392 not even technically- its flat out illegal.
THIS!!
I’m an immigrant in England and had no real clue about the health system here. I got to the hospital and they kept me overnight. My partner could only come see me the next day and missed his football training. He was on course to win rookie of the year and missing training would mean he’d lose the title. I knew I was selfish but I was also so scared and he stayed with me all day until they released me. He never once made me feel bad about it. That’s what a real partner does.
I'm German and soccer is pretty much as much of a big deal here as it is in England (hell, it's the only time where you can wave a German flag and not feel like a Nazi) and I still have to say: FUCK. THIS. GUY. A "cultural misunderstanding" is not the issue here. His priorities are.
Your bf is a star. That’s actually so impressive
This also makes me think about what if someone was pregnant and you didnt know yet and you were just putting alcohol in their drinks anyway. Its so wrong on so many levels regardless of her reasoning for not wanting to drink.
She could also be on meds that don’t mix with alcohol
If my husband ever dares to leave me at a hospital for a football game he would be divorced so freaking fast
I was thinking the same thing. Maybe I missed it but I didn't hear Morgan call it what it is. That girlfriend sounds like an abused wife making excuses. I kept straining to hear them say she needed to run and get help
He would be in the bed next to me. After I get finished with him. HELLO NO are you leaving me. Major A-hole!!
The dinosaur story is not just a red flag, it's a house fire! It's a divorce for sure. She must have known the significance of the toy and her actions her calculated and spiteful. You just don't do that to someone you love, or even care about. She seems gleeful that her husband was hurting, and then completely dismissive of his feelings. If this is how she deals with her frustrations, what is she raising their kids like? I'd cut it off there and then. Someone whose brain works like that is a danger.
Not just dismissive of her husbands feelings but also her children’s well being. She left to get burgers but then didn’t feed the children when she returned? Why did the daughter come asking her father food after another hour? What was the wife doing for all of that time?!
I know right! Like why is she so smug about it too? Just an absolutely evil person
@@sususieable I totally thought that too! I feel like a still childish, but totally forgivable act would have been to feed everyone except ther husband. But instead she went to get food and didn't even consider her kids??
@Sleepy Celeste I absolutely get that, but it's so not about the toy. It's her actions that concern me. It could have been any object of significance. She acted to hurt him, I'd say the fact that she took the Dino proves her knowledge of its significance to her husband. It wasn't random, like hiding his games console etc. She chose the greatest hurt and went through with it. That's "calling you on facetime in the act of sleeping with your friend" levels of messed up😅
This screamed narcissistic to me. The way she gaslit him when she knew he was so obviously hurt. It’s boarder line emotional abuse to me. I hope he divorces her. 😢
say it with me: ***************MEDICAL NEEDS ARE NOT DRAMA ***************
E X A C T L Y. I want to scream lol
I also think the way he’s acting (very manipulative and borderline mentally abusive) can lead to physical abuse down the road. No abusive relationship starts with physical abuse. It always starts out with shit like this. I hope her friends realize what a monster he is and try to talk her out of that “relationship”.
For the dinosaur story, someone being so vindictive to the person they’re supposed to respect the most is a HUGE red flag. He should leave her before her behavior can escalate. But also, if she’s willing to do this to him, who’s to say she wouldn’t one day do this to their children in the future. I wouldn’t want someone that cruel around children
Agree
The girl in the hospital, she's 100% in an abusive relationship
I’m rewatching this but omg. If my boyfriend picked a stupid game over me the way his clothes would magically all be on fire. Like I used to be a HUGE sports fan. Basketball, american football ball, WWE. I would always want to sit down and watch them alone while eating some chicken. My favorite thing. But if my boyfriend was just having a bad day and needed my attention. The game would be turned off. A human being is so much more important. I can watch the game later. I can watch highlights as well. Yeah it’s 100% better watching it live. But if I heard my boyfriend crying. I wouldn’t even be able to think of a game. I’d be sick to my stomach worried about him. Like thats just what you do when you care for someone. I love my boyfriend but you don’t even have to love someone to care that much.
Wow that "friend" that sabotaged her friends sobriety is a piece of work....
I absolutely agree!!!
Insane.
"You didn't cook me any dinner tonight honey?"
"No sorry, was busy with the kids"
"No problem, what should we get for takeaway?"
Exactly😭
I mean she could’ve even cooked a quick dinner
@@katreesepuff3563 no
@@Rita-fs6ct uhm yes.
@@wiwi7_ yes she could have if she had the time and the audacity to throw away his sentimental childhood toy and went out to get fast food, she could’ve even went out to get burgers without the tantrum. Like what’s the big deal with her cooking while he was watching the kids? It’s not like he was pawning them off on her while yelling for her to make dinner too. So yes she could have just not thrown a childish tantrum over something simple as over dinner and she didn’t notify him earlier that she wanted him to make dinner. If the roles were reversed, you’d be saying the same thing as I. And I assume that you can’t possibly see how toxic she was over dinner just because she wanted her husband to make dinner while he was too tired from watching his children. And she doesn’t end up making dinner and basically laughed in his face when she came back without his toy. So it is he and yes*
I couldn’t even think about football if my significant other was in the hospital...GETTING SURGERY. She could of died from complications and he has the audacity to say her “drama” ruined the game... there’s no such thing as a drama free relationship, we all face problems that partners have to learn compromise on. That man is delusional and disgustingly selfish. She needs to RUN!
To be fair, she was waiting to be discharged (I’m a nurse and it can take hours) not still in surgery or under observation. Still, I think he is a total asshole and gaslighting her which I hate to throw that word around, but I think this is the perfect example.
This poor girl is gaslight so badly
The way the op defends the football man in the comments makes me fear that she's in a genuinely emotionally abusive relationship. He is very clearly the asshole, football is important to people, but it's still "just" a hobby (I'm from Germany, we live and breathe football here, but it's not at the same level of a friends wedding and definitely not worth leaving your partner at the hospital after surgery). If she can't see that, I'm scared that she's been manipulated into accepting his asshole behaviors. I hope that she can one day realise that and leave him.
She’s been gaslighting herself it’s really bad. I hope she finds help since it’s more than just “ football drama” she was ABANDONED
i could also imagine that if he found out she posted about it that he would guilt her into defending him in the comments
I kind of think it almost makes more sense if the post was written by the bf, trying to prove he isn't the asshole but pretending to be the gf so people don't just outright attack him.
Oh she is. And she’s also pregnant now, so… i’ll pray for her
EXACTLY! My husband is also English and a big football fan, but there is NO WAY he would leave me in the hospital for a game. My husband rarely watches the Premiere League games live as he lives in another country, but he does watch them afterwards. You can watch the game on your phone, your laptop.. and as she suggested in a hotel room nearby.
The fact that she was gloating about doing something that she knew would hurt him to his core is a huge red flag.
Him saying he likes her because she’s drama free and comparing her to the wife is a threat- if you complain, I leave you. See, you’re acting just like the woman I already broke up with. It’s so fucked. This girl seems determined to be mistreated and it’s very upsetting
That dinosaur is connected to the most loved people in this man’s life. His grandparents, his parents and his children. That dinosaur represents the love of his family and for his family and she threw it away saying it was no big deal. His love and his memories with his family is no big deal.
Me too I connected some of my plushies to the most loved ones I have exemple one of my plushies is really old and lost some fur on it’s neck it’s a German Shepard plushie and I got from my parents for Christmas when I was 6 years old and I always keep it with me
The friend trying to stay sober, I had a friend like that and sis let me tell you!! Dropping a friend like that isn’t worth the apology, isn’t worth paying for the dress. Idk why she thought giving her sober friend alcohol would be smart and the fact that the friends are backing this psycho friend!
This is why girls have such a hard time finding TRUE TRUE TRUEEEEEEE friends.
Yes ! Why are there so many disingenuous girls out there???
@@raindropsonroses3919 the sad part is it doesn’t matter how long you’ve all been friends, months or years and it’s always the ‘victims’ fault for ruining the friendship. 🙄🙄
you`re correct, Lauren. It's proven that there is an increase of domestic abuse, racism etc after games like that. some fans get incredibly aggressive no matter if their team won or not
38% increase in domestic violence in England after they lose, 26% increase if they win
I think the jealous boyfriend story was downplayed, if he throws away her computer in rage over fictional characters in a game imagine what is he gonna do when there's a real person provoking the jealousy, or when he suspects she's having contact with a male that makes him uncomfortable, he will probably be violent with her, those are the kind of dudes that kill their wives over cheating
Also, men please keep in mind--we play as female sometimes, but sometimes we choose to play as males for *safety*. You ever been harassed online? It's annoying esp when you just want to play the game. So she may be playing male to avoid negative male attention, and look where it got her...
That was my thought too. Interesting that the wife that threw out the dinosaur is automatically a monster but the boyfriend that threw out the computer and deleted gaming history “went a little too far.”
What he did is scary and controlling.
The toy dinosaur: My first reaction is simply that I think the wife has been planning to get rid of the toy for some time as its the first thing she did over something as simple as not cooking her dinner. Its such a petty thing to do over something so small when you take in to count how important the toy is to OP. There is clearly more going on in the relationship and I would say divorce as I dont think she is sorry or cares about OPs feelings at all.
Agree my first thought is DIVORCE and tell the kids that she threw away the Dino and it was so important to them.
@@joyzimmer5705 perfect! I was thinking that too. The father could use that as an important lesson for the children. He could easily tell them to appreciate their loved ones favorite objects and to never toss things in anger or be mindful of the things they say and tell them what happened and notice how heartbreaking it can be to someone when you disregard their feelings
It's so f-ing manipulative, like wth. How can you do that and then grin over it? Divorce, immediately
I would honestly be so mad that I would kick the person in the street I don’t give a freaking flip because I have a lot of plushies at home and for me my plushies gives me a feeling of safety since I am a kid yeah it’s kind of immature to still have plushies as an adult
Jesus, the dinosaur story triggered me into getting up and checking on my own sacred toy, even though I know he's just fine on a shelf. I have a teddy bear my grandmother gave me when I was 2. I'm 36, my grandmother died over a decade ago, and it would be unforgiveable if anyone touched that bear. For someone to purposefully do something that hurtful, only to say it's an overreaction to be upset... divorce attorney, asap!
EDIT: This got me thinking about my bear. His name is Oliver, which is what the tag on his butt says, and I never questioned it. For the first time, I got curious and checked if this was a brand name or something else. Turns out, Oliver is googlable. The brand is Russ Berrie & Co, and he still can be found on vintage sites for like $40-$50. But, if anyone tried to replace my Oliver, I would know, because when I was little I snipped a bit of his fur, so he has a tiny little bald patch.
I had to grab my lion and hold him while listening 🥲
@@Natsu.dragneel448 awwwww I am sure your plushies looks adorable
Agree and for your edit honestly I am sure it looks adorable
Agree - I ran to hug Big Teddy. This is the worst thing I’ve ever heard. She found the worst thing she could possibly do to hurt him and she did it. I wouldn’t let her near my kids.
Overreacting is throwing away something sentimental because your partner is too tired to cook……
Tired because they were taking care of your own children. If my husband took care of our kid for a whole day without asking for help I'd cook dinner happily as thanks
Not as a thabks but cause that ehat a team do, works together
Just incase anyone is wondering, the post for the girl in the hospital ….. she has put up another AITA because she thinks she’s the assholes again after meeting his family. They are now ENGAGED and she’s pregnant and still thinks he’s a great guy for her 💀
Wait wait wait. Why does she think she’s the asshole?? I know I’m two years late but I hope you remember 😭😭
the first one with the alcohol? she was literally spiked. the stigma that alcohol isn't as bad as more "hardcore" drugs was used by the bride to her own advantage. if she had spiked the girl's drinks with anything other than alcohol i feel as though her friends' reactions would have been much different and would've seen the bride as being in the wrong - when in fact its the same thing.
The Dinosaur made me mad. Like please tell me they split up!! I can’t like I have something like that!! Everything I have means a lot to me especially one teddy bear that was given to me as a kid and if something happens to it I would fucking cry.
Same!!!! That really was so spiteful. The way she came back grinning. Wow. Chills.
@@mtgsk5180 Idk how he kept his cool. Like I would have broken everything
I’m convinced the football man would be equally gaslighting about other things as well. She’s 27 and he’s 39. I’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship before and this reminds me of that.
Lauren was spot on about the sport guy! His "drama" excuse is bullshit, he wants everything to go his way or no way. He's manipulating her into not having a say in things, that she's always wrong, ect! And it worked! That's a toxic and an abusive relationship; and she deserves to be with someone who puts her and her health before a fucking sport! I just feel sorry for her, she's going to stick with him for awhile... I just hope she comes to her senses and realizes that HE'S the asshole.
Omg. This ⬆️⬆️⬆️
Yes! From my experience my abusive and narcissistic ex would say that to me and it all makes sense now. I stayed quiet on my true feelings and hurt to be “drama free”
Girls no need to sugar coat how much you get that sports games are important to people, I was a competitive runner, tennis player, swimmer, and volleyball player AAAND I still don’t get how watching ANY game can be more important that the people in our lives.
Tricking a sober person into drinking can cause that person to relapse. It could ruin their accomplishments and their lives.
'My love languages are gift giving and quality time... I like presents' is a great unintentional play on words. (presents/presence)
Ooooo yes!
A lot of people hear presents as oh gold digger then but that's not it. You explained it well and I got to thinking about why I enjoy it. I used to have a floor to ceiling bookcase at my dad's house. It was so full books were being stacked on top of each other. Growing up as a reward for good grades or birthdays or special days I was taken to a bookstore to get one new book. In a fit of anger during my parents divorce my father destroyed every single book I owned. I was so heartbroken I cried for hours when my mom told me (she had gone to try and get him to give up my books) each book was attached to a happy memory and most of my bookmarks were receipts or silly things that made me happy. People who associate memories to objects like gift giving and receiving
Listen, I'm from Brazil, footbal here is a big deal, it is part of our culture just as much as in England. So here is my opinion: what that guy did was absolutely fucked up. She was literally in the hospital, just had a surgery and relied on him. Also, he could have watched the game anywhere (in the hospital, in the hotel) but it is clear to me that he didn't want to. He didn't just put the game before her needs, he put his friends and the "experience" of watching the game. The fact that he felt humiliated by her calling and texting also proves that he is so fucking selfish. She needs to leave (and I'm kinda glad England lost so he doesn't get to celebrate, but I hope she stays safe, considering how angry he could be)
I am also from Brazil, and I was just thinking the same. Run! You are seeing the red flags, don't ignore them. I did, and I regret it. Run FAST!
I am from Argentina and was in the hospital for appendicitis (wich was complicated because my appendix was in an unusual position) on a saturday night (sunday is when the most important matches are programmed here). My family (father, brother and BILs included) and friends were there all sunday. No one even tried to put on the matches on the day on the TV.
Can't believe that asshole used a football match to justify abandoning their partner in the hospital
Loved this episode! Also with the horse story, the audacity of her to ask him to "buy in" as well, instead of just considering it a joint investment after he's invested so much into their life together.... she sounds extremely selfish
The movie one hit really hard for me. I had a book series that I really enjoyed and a new one was coming out that I was really excited about, so I would talk about it with my friends. I found out later that, because I was talking about it so fondly, my friends decided to listen to the audio book together without me. And they hated it. They spent a lot of time after that making snide comments to each other about the books and the author and as someone who is an English Literature major I could see their points, but it still made me sad and insecure about my taste. By the time the new book came out, I found I couldn't even finish it because I couldn't enjoy the writing anymore. I had started this series when I was young, so I wasn't reading it through my 'critical lense', but just enjoying the nostalgia whenever a new one came out. The whole series was ruined for me, and it just made me really sad.
Ugh, I hate that! Sorry your friends did that. That has been my life ever since high school. I don’t talk about my tastes in video games or books because of how people like to attack it. I’ve recently read a new genre, splatterpunk, but there is no way in hell I’d talk about it unless they brought it up with interest.
I feel so so so bad for that poor man, that was so cruel of his wife like wow she’s so inconsiderate. He seems like such a sweet guy. I wish he could have gotten it back.
Yo we have the same profile
That Aita, about the surgery and soccer game. Was written by that man. He wants confirmation that he wasn't the asshole.
I’m just beginning to wonder this and I think you could be right!!
Yess!!!!! Yess!! That's what I was yelling at the top of my lugs when Morgan started to read the replies!!
@@TwoHotTakes there was another reply saying that he probably was cheating on her and that why he got mad when she was calling & texting him
@@zulmaribarr 100% agree!
@@TwoHotTakes I read the comments and she hasn't even met his friends because he likes to keep his relationship and friends separate. I'm from England not a sport fan though, and even though the game was a big thing here for some but not for everyone. he is selfish and she is just defending his bad behaviour.
I love Lauren’s response to the one about the gift giving issue, I went through a similar situation and wished I would have addressed it as calm and collective as that. Hit the nail on the head.
Even if you don’t have the money for a gift, it’s always sweet to make an album on your phone and share it with the person. Maybe pics of you two together or some favorite places you’ve gone. Make dinner at home, , take them on a nice walk, draw a bath with cheap wine, whatever. You can also totally get some cute crap from the dollar store and put it together for less than $5. It’s definitely an effort thing!
Last year for my bfs bday in quarantine, I didn’t have many options, but he LOVES Mexican food. I pulled out some Trader Joe’s tamales, air fried them with some homemade elote, and squeezed a couple margaritas out of tequila I found in the freezer. He liked it more than any gift I’ve given him tbh
The sober friend should get a lawyer and sue that girl and get money for mental/emotional stress.
The football (futbol) story is baffling to me. I love sports, but I would without hesitation miss any one of my favorite teams winning a championship because that's what you do when someone you care about needs you. A game should never be more important then that.
He didn't even have to miss the game. Could've easily found it on his phone while waiting for his girl to be discharged
Say it with me kids: Horses👏 are 👏 not 👏 a 👏 singular 👏 payment 👏 !!! EVER! This person does not seem to understand that. Whether you pay 10k or 2k, after you buy the horse, you WILL have ongoing expenses related to the horse like food, healthcare, housing etc. They say that they've had experience with riding them, but they don't seem very aware of all the other stuff that comes with owning one yourself, as opposed to leasing/riding someone else's. Big AH move, a horse is a big commitment and they just aren't in the right financial position for it. Also side bar, lineage guarantees nothing. Sure it might get you a better performing horse, but its never 100%.
Look at the race horse Phar Lap. The trainer bought him cheap coz his blood lines were good, even though his parents sucked at racing. He did amazing. The trainer bought other yearlings with similar or even better blood lines, and they did terribly. For a 10k first time "investment" the blood lines aren't worth it.
This to all animals !! I see people spend 1000+ on dogs and then they don’t groom them or feed them well and it’s ???
England getting to the final of the euros was a huge deal and will be a big part of british history now. The public went mad, breaking into the stadium and destroying the city I think everyone lost their heads a bit. But if he truly loved her he would have never chosen the football over her. Anyways England lost and that guy is a douche.
“Culturally insulting” is she crazy he ABANDONED you in a different country for a damn game clearly you mean absolutely nothing to him wtf ?????
In regards to the dinosaur story I'd definitely file for divorce. I've had my ladybug pillow pet since i was 6. I'm 17 now and if someone threw it away to purposefully hurt me I'd never talk to that person again... That guy's wife knew exactly what she was doing and if she can throw something so precious to him away it's obvious she does not care about him or his feelings and I honestly feel like she's done things like this in the past.
The fact that a 17 year old understands this and a 32 year old women didn’t makes me so angry. As a woman in my thirties I just couldn’t imagine. My husband has a wooden toy dinosaur from when he was a little boy. It’s now a decoration in our oldest daughters room. He would be devastated if I intentionally got rid of that thing. And I can’t imagine doing this to someone I loved, especially not my husband. Similarly, I have a cabbage patch doll and a stuffed beagle named Charlie and if either of those were disposed of to hurt me I would never forgive them. It’s so sentimental.
I hope you keep that lady bug pillow for the rest of your life, and you find someone who is just fine with out the fact that it’s sitting on your bed still when you’re old and grey 🤎🤎🤎
@@forestfairy8025 Why does having it in your daughters room give me anxiety 😅 I'm really clumsy, and I'm worried she might accidentally break it
I swear I love this podcast, but I might have to start taking medication for my blood pressure after hearing some of these stories. The audacity of people never ceases to amaze me.
About the dinosaur story: he's not overreacting and she knows it. She KNOWS how important it was to him, otherwise she wouldn't have used it to get revenge.
Honestly I was so pissed of because if someone does that to me I would kick them out of my life asp
@@sophietremblay3795 Yep, absolutely horrible behavior
@@d.on.in.a it is honestly horrible behaviour
Justin so unbothered by the gaming questions while chopping chicken is a whole ass mood 😂
Also, horse girls PARENTS got screwed too. She swindled everyone
OMG! The story about the guy wanting to see a football game reminds me! My best friend's Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer and she had a bad reaction to treatment and had to stay in the hospital for an hour longer, and her then-boyfriend just left her at the hospital, stating that it was taking too long and he had a game to watch. Like her mom was literally out of the bed, getting into a wheelchair to come down and get discharged...and he straight up left saying he was bored and she was slow. Sadly, she was still with this guy for like two more years after that but yay! she did beat cancer and eventually kicked him to the curb such an AH!
My best friend is an alcoholic. I stopped drinking around and with him a year before he quit drinking. I did it at first because I recognized it was a problem. Now I don't drink around him out of respect for him.
The toy dinosaur one messed me up. I lost my mom seven years ago and still have many of her things and if someone were to throw something out vindictively, I’d be a mess. It’s awful because I’ve gotten to the point where I’ve forgotten the sound of her voice, so I cherish some of the things she left me (sweaters, jewelry, a chair, etc). The person you love and trust the most in this world should honor your connection to that person or thing. That Dinosaur toy could’ve been a family heirloom that the kids would continue to pass on to the next generation. Horrific. :(
The dinosaur got me 😔. I would never do that to my husband! I have a small jewelry music box that my grandmother gave me and it is PRICELESS in my eyes. My cat knocked it over and broke the lid off. I bawled over this.. it’s all that I have left of her.
I can truly understand what that dinosaur means to him. Damn.
Toy dinosaur needs to say bye to the wife. She’s petty and why are the kids hungry if she came home with a bag of burgers?!
The toy dinosaur one is just mean for the sake of being mean, she knew it was important, and even after his reaction she can’t see it was wrong
And his reaction just made me sad I wanted to give him a hug and threw every nasty insult on her
The toy dinosaur story really got to me. My dad passed away when I was 13, I am now 17 and only a few months after my dad passed I went and grabbed one of my dad's sweatshirts. If anyone were to do anything to it or throw it away I would cry for hours too. The wife is a major asshole for treating her husband like that and getting rid of something that she knows holds so much sentimental value to her husband.
The "pretending to be Christian" story brought back a weird memory for me. In college, my roommate was from Ghana and it was her first time in the US, and as our freshman year started and we were trying to get to know one another, religion came up and she asked if I was Christian. I said yes out of habit, but I wasn't seriously practicing. America is a very culturally Christian space in that holidays like Christmas and Easter are observed by many, even in secular households. My mom has always been a casual believer, praying and saying she believes but not actually all that wrapped up in church, repenting for sins, or any of the evangelical branches of the religion. On my dad's side, they are Greek orthodox (mostly, some relatives have spread out to other denominations) but this is what I was baptized as. By the time I was in college, I was very comfortable in my spirituality which did not fit with established Christianity. But since it was my only frame of reference and that's how I was raised, I told my roommate that I was Christian too, and we had long talks about what it meant for us as individuals. She seemed to understand that my beliefs were different because she came from a big church in Ghana that her family partially helped run, whereas I was more just a descendant of Christians living in a culturally secular (but heavily influenced by Christianity) world.
As time went on, she would sometimes get bothered by beliefs I had or things that I thought was okay that she didn't agree with, because she was super religious and focused on living a life free of sin. Fast forward to the next year, I joined our campus interfaith group because I felt like I wanted to explore my spirituality in a non judgmental space and also learn about other religions and beliefs. It was easily one of the best environments and communities I found on campus. When I first joined, we would do ice breakers and we were always welcome to share our faith if we felt comfortable. I said Christian when prompted, though I usually added a disclaimer about how my beliefs don't really fit standard christianity, it's just how I was raised and the Greek orthodox church feels the most familiar to me (though I would also typically share that my beliefs were more progressive and not very conservative, so I didn't really subscribe to the religion whole heartedly, it was more for cultural reference). I went back to my dorm room after the first meeting and my roommate asked me all about it. I had invited her to join since she spoke about missing having her faith community, but she did not like the idea of "inter" faith as it was not strictly christian. She asked me what I said when I was prompted to share what religion I associate with, and I said Christian, and she gave me a look of surprise and judgment that made me feel so uncomfortable. I knew that I personally was not a super religious or pious person, but I do believe that it makes sense to acknowledge our cultural frame of reference for our beliefs, even if we don't subscribe to the religion anymore, so saying Christian because that's what my family is and those are the holidays I've always acknowledged makes sense. As time went on, my roommate would invite me to a non denominational church that she found in town that she really liked, and I went a couple times, but the second and last time I went, I felt slightly cornered by people approaching me to confirm whether I had Jesus in my heart or not (kinda putting me on the spot there..) and even the pastor approached me afterwards to "get to know me" but it felt more like an interrogation of what church I'm from, what brought me here, how do I feel about the sermon, etc. I thought it was a weird experience where everyone was trying to witness to me, and it put the last nail in the coffin of whatever past faith I ever had. I'm very comfortable in my spirituality now which is more unconventional and just kinda like agnostic mysticism (haha, idk how to put a label on something so personal, so you're free to laugh if that sounds like garbage) but I completely agree with OP in that reddit post that when you're put on the spot, it's not so easy to say "Oh I'm not christian, you probably wanna try and save my soul now, huh?" Anyone who grew up in such an environment knows how some Christians seek out other to witness to, and I honestly feel like saying something basic like "Oh yeah I believe" without getting into details is a way to protect your boundaries from Christian interrogation.
There is no sport that’s more important to watch than helping your SO after surgery. What a jerk
This is my 7th year sober. I learned to tell people I'm allergic, because I got tired of the questions and when I answered they just assumed I had a problem with it. (Which assume what u want ) and if ur allergic there less likely to push u too drink . (At least that's my observation)
Hospital girl is honestly a delusional queen
As someone who showed horses with “great lineage”, there is never ever a return on investment. Ever.
Yessss! I’ve made money but it’s years if work and paying to feed them in the meantime 😂 and vet, farrier, etc. they’re as my dad calls them “money burners”
For story 9: my husband is similar to the boyfriend. He gets distracted and starts looking at his phone or talks during the movie but doesn’t dump on it. He likes to talk about the actors and what they have acted in since or before. Part of it is because he has ADHD and it is hard for him to concentrate and he does the same thing for the movies he picks as well. So, I have gotten used to it and understand why he does that. But if he was complaining about the movies I picked and making me feel bad, I wouldn’t be as excited to watch movies with him.
Story 1: 5:20 (surprised with alcohol)
Story 2: 13:13 (bag of urine)
story 3 17:18 (buy a horse with loans)
Story 4: 25:45 (wife threw out sentimental dinosaur)
Story 5 35:33 (left partner at hospital for football)
Story 6: 55:00 (boyfriend deleted characters)
Story 7: 1:02:00 (nothing for birthday)
Story 8: 1:10:06 (pretend to be Christian)
Story 9: 1:18:00 (turn off movie)
Thank you for the time stamps
Thank you so much for this!
I SO BADLY want to just sit in the room with you guys on a Friday night reading these 🤣🤦🏼♀️ Every single episode, there’s at least one time where one of you literally takes the words right out of my mouth
Same!
my birthday just passed, and i had seen one of my best friends from out of state right beforehand. i wasn't expecting anything from her AT ALL!! she got me a little goody bag with m&ms (my favorite candy), a nutella snack (i love nutella), a giant scrunchie (she said cuz i wear scrunchies all the time) and some markers (im BIG into stationary) -> i'm still not over this, because just the fact that every little thing in that bag meant she knows all these little things about me :) the thinking about u outside of when you're actually there is SO true
I'm English and that football story is actually shocking. My boyfriend is really into his football but he would never ever put it before me. She needs to RUN because men who take football that seriously are more than scary
I feel so sorry for the dinosaur guy, my heart goes out to him. Massive red flag there, he was helping her with THEIR children that they CHOSE to have.
I was half expecting to pull for part of Horse girl's story. Like I was expecting she got the nest egg for an emergency exit fund if things went bad with her boyfriend (Like he proved to be some kind of abusive or something) and she needed an escape plan. But no. Just...weirdly selfish for no discernible reason.
Agreed. Also- I kind of got the feeling that with others paying for her major costs, she hasn’t come to understand the value of contributing properly with what she can.
@@kateymowat1211 horses and horse riding are EXPENSIVE. And her parents could pay for her rent/bills? For years without question? She's definitely from a very rich family.
The football one made me so mad, but so sad about the situation. She seriously cannot tell in how bad of a situation she is in.
I'm super late watching this so I don't know if you guys, mostly Lauren, will see this, but I just wanted to say that Lauren's take on the gift story was spot on. The amount of care she has for healthy communication in a relationship is really cool and nice to see with ghosting becoming such a normal thing or even just staying mad at your partner without communicating what's made you frustrated or angry. I know so many people who just vent about their relationship problems without ever explaining to their partner what set them off thus setting themselves up for more frustration and anger in the future.
Horse girl is extremely selfish and financially irresponsible. I don’t understand why she would finance a “nest egg”. She should wait until she has a job and isn’t freeloading off her parents and boyfriend before making large purchases that she can’t afford.
Yay!!!! Another full length episode! Last upload was Sunday, and I can TOTALLY get used to more content!!! Love you guys!!! 💕❤️
As someone who plays a lot of RPG and MMOs, I make all kinds of characters with different gender and species. I make them based on style or how I want to build their gameplay style (say hacker, assassin, warrior ect) with a certain backstory in mind. I am a straight female who tends to lean towards female characters anyway just for relatability and better immersion. I would never make it specifically for some kind of sexual attraction. Plus I know plenty of guys I play with that use female models in games because their hit box is smaller so it's harder to hit during FPS games. Break up with him, its not just jealously, it's complete disrespect for the OP and their personal property
Regarding the toy dinosaur... I’d be concerned at how she’s going to treat their kids when they do something to make her mad.
So pretty much every story I like explain as a hypothetical to my fiancé to see his reaction- for the football one, my fiancé is a massive football fan by the end of the story he was like… your kidding that can’t be true no way someone would choose a football match over your partner having surgery like wtf. It is so sad she has clearly been gaslit into thinking she is in the wrong. 😔
I got my girl friends hooked on this podcast !! we all send each other links and have heated debates about them in our group chat 😂😂 great job 👏🏽
To the toy dinosaur: divorce regardless if you get the toy back. She’s abusive you deserve better.
The dinosaur story gives me heavy HEAAVYY mental abuse vibes, and possible physical abuse. What an actual witch with a B
The football/surgery situation is so horrible! He’s so abusive and he clearly has done a number on her already :( she’s brainwashed
Yeah my guess is she didn't have the most healthy upbringing and feels like this is normal in a relationship and she doesn't deserve more (which it absolutely isn't and she absolutely does)
I'm from germany. to a lot of people here football is an incredibly big deal but that does NOT excuse his behaviour
also the 'oh i like you because you dont have drama' is a HUGE red flag, too
he wants a 'cool girl'
i can see why his ex wife is not with him anymore, lol. he is one big red flag.
I am obsessed with your podcast. I normally don't like them but yours hits different. I love the guests you have, The topics and your voice is so soothing. The stories are always so interesting
My father in law still sleeps with his childhood teddy bear. That lady is a MONSTER and for sure an abuser.
Can we have a Espiode of future updates on the Reddit stories? Also the clip of you asking your bf ab the game characters was so funny 🤣Shit made me laugh so hard I almost fell in the shower 😭
Morgan "I've had too much caffeine"
Not me making a third coffee while listening to this 😳
20 ounces today let’s get it!!!
I love this podcast so much there’s always something new to listen to❤️
Y’all make my days worth it. Idk if that’s sad. But ty for posting
The film you were talking about where she hits the guy in the balls is "what happens in vegas" and that scene is hilarious😂
I forget about that scene and every time I’m reminded, it’s just as epic. YOU KNOW WHY!
I love listening to everyone who comes on the podcast but every time it’s Lauren, I get so excited 😆😂 because we usually have similar takes and she always makes me laugh
Also it’s “If I’m too much, go find less.” 👏🏻👏🏻 BABBAYYY they are MORE than welcome to leave
This is the first time I’ve listened to someone talk about horses & money and been like YASSSS you’re spot on! Very realistic statements. (Fellow horse girl here ✋🏼)
Literally I love your podcast
The toy dinosaur story is truly heartbreaking. To treat someone you’re supposed to love so cruelly is so f*cked up. How can a person hurt someone they’re supposed to care for? I hope so bad that he finds that dinosaur AND divorces that evil malicious person. I hope he can find happiness one day and teach his poor children kind moral character and virtue 🥺🦖 🦕 💚 I HOPE THERE’S AN UPDATE AND HAPPY ENDING 🤞
Out of topic but please do an episode on roommates, I have TONS of stories
We have an earlier one but shall definitely do another down the road
@@TwoHotTakes omg if y’all do one again i need to share my stories:’) i roomed with a racist, an actual psychopath, and two crazy bitches
Lol I like how she says “rue-nd” but also says “ruining” lol
I heavily relate with the first story, I don’t drink alcohol because even just a drop makes me violently sick (throwing up and diarrhea). If someone ever did that to me I would make sure to throw up on them
with the pretending to be a Christian this reminds me of an interaction I had at a previous job. Someone sneezed and I said bless you, another coworked asked "if your an athiest why did you say bless you?" I said first im a pagan not an athiest but i was raised in a Christian house hold and to me its habit and common curtosy
Congrats on 100k!
Thank you 💙💙💙
I love your podcast 😊❤️
What if the girl who was given alcohol stopped drinking because she developed some sort of allergy or intolerance to something in alcohol...
Giving your 'friends' things that they have chosen not to consume secretly is so dangerous, disgusting and selfish wtaf
She did stop because she had an intolerance. She loses brain function (in a way that she finds problematic) when she drinks, which isn't so different from dairy making someone's stomach hurt or nuts making their throat swell.
I’m literally so mad over appendicitis girl. So mad. He is gaslighting her. That is abuse and she is so deep into it she has no idea
Lauren you nailed it on the sports thing! ♥️ It boggles my mind too when people take sport games so serious.
Listening to you guys talk about broken bones and injuries reminds me that a year ago I broke my tibia completely in half almost through the skin and the same with my fibula but in two different spots and I can tell you that that one definitely hurt more than a sprain
I have a stuffed rabbit that my dad gave me when I was 12 and if my partner got rid of it I would leave. I wouldn’t even talk to them about it, especially if my partner knew how important it was to me. F this woman.