Manipulated | A Short Film on Gaslighting
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- čas přidán 21. 08. 2023
- Sorry, Not Sorry! Relationships can be complicated, and in this short film, we follow the journey of one couple who are dealing with the ramifications of gaslighting.
Written and directed by Kojo Sarfo.
Notice:
The content in this video is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Please consult with your doctor or healthcare provider for medical advice.
About Dr. Kojo:
Dr. Kojo Sarfo, DNP, PMHNP-BC is a social media content creator, mental health nurse practitioner, and psychotherapist with over three million followers on all of his social media channels. He is also the host of Late Night w/ Dr. Kojo - which is a daily live show that streams primarily on Facebook on Tuesdays & Thursdays at 6pm PST/9pm EST. Visit KojoSarfo.com to learn more!
Sadly this abuse has been the norm for so many couples.
It's sad that's is so short. These films really are educational and should therefore be longer. It's a topic that hasn't been talked about ENOUGH!
Ikr I want to know more about them
@@abbz23do you know about triangulation?
@@daniel-xt3tpyeah I've been put in situation like it recently he tried to with another women isn't it like to make u jealous I have autism so it takes me alot longer to understand things and understanding narcissist I get it but some parts I just ignore aha lol
@@ilovepeace-uq2hu I’ll explain narcissism to you.
@@ilovepeace-uq2hu A narcissist, is someone who needs constant attention, compliments(praise). They create something that is called (false self image)
When they act like they’re better, they boast, they’re arrogant, that’s just a facade. Deep down, narcissists are traumatized children who feel worthless. Now, not everyone who has these traits are narcissists. Narcissists use manipulation to fuel their ego. This is called narcisssistic supply. Supply, is the admiration, praise attention they need. Kind of like air. We need air like they need praise. Now, here are some manipulation tactics they use.
1.) love bombing: this is were they shower you with gifts, praises, make you feel like a princess or prince. To gain your trust.
2.) gaslighting. This is where they try to make you question your reality, if something really happened or not, if they said something or not etc. here’s an example where a husband could be gaslighting. (Husband: hey, can you please get me a drink? Wife: sure then she proceeds to get him water.(notice how he didn’t specify what drink. Husband: water? 𝖎 asked for a beer don’t you remember? Wife: you didn’t specify! Husband yes 𝖎 did, 𝖎 specifically told you beer. Is your memory that bad or something? Your crazy! See, the husband is trying to convince the wife into doubter her memory.
3.) Triangulation. This is where the narcisist creates a triangle, of three people. The narcissist,person A, then person B, (now, remember, there’s many types of triangulation) The narc will put person A and person B on a pedestal. )this first triangulation trick is called idealize devalue switch) then, they will compare them. Which gives him more supply? Person A, or person B? If person A apparently gives more supply then person b, person A(the person who gave more supply is praised and treated well, while person b (the less supply giver) is devalued. Later on, if person b starts giving more supply then person A, person B will be praised and person A will be devalued.
Type 2 triangulation. They will subtly bring a 3rd person to agree with them in an argument that was originally between you and the narc. Before you know it, you’re trying to prove yourself and argue against 2 people.
Type 3:the scapegoat gold on child system) The scapegoat goat is someone who sees through the narc and knows what they are or that something is wrong. So, they chose that person. The scapegoat is someone who gets all the blame, criticism, and problems and issues put onto them and make them responsible. (Example the narc could get into a car accident and blame the scapegoat it was their fault) the gold on child is an extension of themselves.
They’re the people who gives the narc everything they want. Like a yes man. Then, the scapegoat will be turned against everyone. Including the gold on child. So, in summery, triangulation is a way to keep people in conflict with each other to manipulate them.
4 smear campaigns: when the narc is insulted, called out for what they are, or their self image of being the greatest person ever is damaged, they will talk lies and spread rumors benign their backs to make people turn against them. Example, if is as a narc, and you called me out for lying, behind your back I’ll spread lies and false terrible rumors about you to your friends, family etc. that way, everyone will cast you in a nwgative light. And view the narc better then you, and will believe the narc so they can manipulate further.
5: projection. Imagine your a screen. And the narc is the projection. The narcs will claim you did behaviors they actually did, and put themselves onto other people. And other people onto them
6:play the victim. The narc thinks they’re the person who is abused, they see themselves as innocent, people who are being abused. They will act like you abused them or your wronged them and basically act like they were the victim.
Narcissistic abuse has a cycle, of 4 stages.
1.) idealize (love bomb)
2.) devalue and manipulate)
3.) discard
4.) Hoover.
The narc will constantly switch between stage 1 and 2. When they feel like you don’t give them want they want or your no longer useful to them, they ‘discard’(cut you out of their life, leave you, etc)
Then is hovering. It’s 50% chance fi this happening. It’s when they try to reel you back into the cycle if they realize they need you again. Imagine your a fish swimming away from them. They will bait and hook you and catch you and pull you back towards them.
𝖎 hope this list helped you! And ALWAYS REMEMEBR! NO MATTER WHAT PEOPEL SAY, DISABLILTY IS NOT AN INABILITY. MANY GENIUSES WERE AUTISTIC, LIEK EINSTEIN, YOU ARE SMART DONT LET ANYONE MAKE YOU THINK OTHERWISE!
Omg, saying sorry. When she shouldnt have!!!!
Pretty incomplete