5 Ways You Can Avoid Small Talk
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- čas přidán 29. 06. 2024
- Small talk limits us from deep, meaningful relationships. Not just with others, but with ourselves as well.
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1. Ask real questions.
2. Find one way to add value.
3. Consider how the world sees you.
4. Reflect on what people speak about.
5. Commit to a strong start.
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1. Practice gratitude every morning. When you wake up, list everything that you are grateful for and feel that gratitude in your core. Feel free to write things down in a journal so it is easy for you to remember.
2. Replace your negative thoughts with positive ones. Every time you feel a negative thought coming on, make a positive spin on it right away.
3. Take ownership for things that happen in your life. It's easy to blame others however you will feel much better when you realize that most issues stem from us.
4. ALWAYS believe that good things are about to happen. By being open to new possibilities you are inviting abundance into your life.
5. Remember that like attracts like so you get back whatever you put out, whether it is good or bad. So do good AND received good.
6. Meditate for five minutes a day. During this time focus on how you want your life to be; but place your focus on how you feel AND feel that feeling as if you have already accomplished those goals.
7. Step outside of your comfort zone. Stop playing it safe and make that decision to finally go for your dreams.
8. Focus on activities that make you feel truly happy. When you are truly happy you have the best vibrational frequency to manifest your desires.
9. Avoid the naysayers and surround yourself with people who only lift you higher. Downers will be downers, don't let them drag you into their misery.
10. Don't be afraid to dream and know that you are always supported by the universe.
Hope this helps!
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Yeah, definitely bro! After all, it's your own life you have to live not others.
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It just feels like you're talking about me. Cause I do this, literally almost all the Time. Great video by the way, Good Story telling
I'm at a point in my life where if someone asks me something about myself I want to ask them “Do you really want to know?”.
Also I'm done with asking “Did you have a good day?” because usually I get one word answers so instead I say “Tell me something good/positive that happened to you today.” The faces people make when they hear this instead of the same overused question and seeing their wheels turning are priceless. 🙂
That one word answer is so me. I normally leave conversations hanging, especially when people ask me personal questions. I'd usually lie and make it obvious that I'm lying. We'd go like this in circle until you stop asking me questions.
1 Cut one words answers : answer deeply
2 Add insight : share your insights
3 Ask Better questions : understand the situation than ask the right question
4 Include Other peoples : more people led to different idea with different perspective
5 Ask yourself : have more deep conversation with yourself
I used comment section as a notes haha
I'm posting it here too so it will work as a quick summary of everything he taught to us in this video
Thanks Jay for all these tips
Have a good day : )
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I’m a super introvert and this seems so complicated to me. It’s extremely hard for me to connect with people. The weird thing is I’m a rockstar in sales lol
Thats different, I was in a broadly similar role. I used to call it 'The Patter', a pre determined set of speeches and routes through a conversation, but for a singular goal. It would seem like natural speech, but was always based on the outcomes I wanted and never ever personal.
You’re right @JayShetty I agree, this generation is messed up because people are acting like robots, always on their phones rather than focusing on establishing genuine human connections & it’s very disappointing to see what this world has come to… but luckily not everyone you’ll run into is like that. There’s always someone out there who thinks like you.
Agree 🙂
I agree! Deeper connections with humans dwell in greater bonds💯
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We want bit longer video on this topic. This is very informative which we can use in our day to day life.
To counter this, what does annoy me is when you are giving all the signals that you do not want to talk. i.e. giving the one word answers, not making eye contact etc etc, people carry on trying! Some days we are just too busy to stop and talk, we need to learn that quiet and solitary time is also a good thing.
Thank you Jay for your video.
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A great video will teach the others to have a better communication and learn from the others! Thanks!
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Thank you Jay :)
Great tips.. Love your explanation!
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Pls make a longer vedio about this topic. It was advantageous 🌟
Finally i can ditch the small talk with my newspaper vendor and discuss with him the nature of reality!
I used to talk to the parking lot attendant near my work and we actually became good friends.
Some think it is the big things that cause men to stumble. Often it is the minor ones that shake us the most. This shows the futility of self-confidence.
*"Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe"*
The thing is: most of people including myself ask questions because needs to …is not all the time that people are interested in your life …if I start to tell exactly what I’m feeling most of them will be annoyed not because they are bad just because everyone is so tired and concentrate in their lives …
May be you didn't meet those people who intrested in knowing more about you and how you feel this days
Surely gonna try these tips.
Amazing Jay...
wow so this will help me socialise more at school thank u
I read this your book think like a monk
such a good video:)
please make more videos like this
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Best question I was asked, was do you know you’re true strength. Worst question was, what makes you think you are a businessman? You’re just a worker!
Small conversations follow the same pattern. An endless back-and-forth relay of absolute pointlessness. No question demands an honest answer. A question is asked as an exercise in formal behaviour. Questions that are greetings. Questions that are placeholders. Questions that fill awkward gaps. Questions to suggest an interest that does not exist. Questions that pretend to listen. Never, ever a question that seeks to know.
nailed it 👍
1:56 would have been extra comical to have Radhi jealously peering through one of those windows.
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His Examples of Better Questions
If you met your younger self today, what would make them happy and what would make them sad?
What situations make you feel awkward and why?
What did you recently buy that you now regret?
What's the best advice you've ever received and what's the worst?
If you could create one law that everyone had to follow, what would it be?
Add more people in the conversation
Thanks from India 🇮🇳
"Small talk needs to get big at some phase."
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Nice info. I forgot how to connect with people after 2 3 years just stay at home
Want to avoid small talk? Move to Finland. It is a highly developed nation with one of the highest standards of living on Earth and a place where nobody will bother you with small talk, nor will they accept it from you.
I personally do not like small talk.
So much relatable
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Ask better questions..
Thats really very important, inorder to avoid boring answers and distance..thanks
🔴The main thing is never stop learning and read something everyday.
Make your future self happy.
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Key to cut small talk: *Vulnerability*
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A conversation is worth it only if there is reciprocation. Even if I apply these tips and I'm a good conversationalist, yet there would be some push back if the listener lacks the energy..
Social skills aren't that easy..😅
Totally agree it is reciprocal. My energy might come off too strong in wanting to connect that the other person might think I’m being nosy. Ppl also fear judgement and won’t disclose the truth especially to a stranger. Also, I find that majority of Americans tend to value their sense of privacy and personal life. Some just would rather listen vs lead the convo.
Unfortunately, if you say in small talk that you are stressed, tired or upset, people are withdrawing
Really it is so niz
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Hey I want to learn small talk so that I can save my energy .
I meet you sir I'm Indian
How to avoid short talks:
1)Avoid one word answers immediately
2)Add insight
3)
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The challenge of 2022
Do you know that every human being likes reading and that is nature even the ones that can’t read or write their wish is only to learn how to read!!!
But the question is what do we read?
There are some experts who knows the importance of reading so they write some books which are somehow important and they share with us and at the same time they make misconceptions and myths against specific book so we can’t find the answers of every question not only that but also the codes of this universe.
Everything follows a system even our life we are all on process which was planned already before we came to this world although it’s a miracle(born and death) but we see it as a naturel thing because we see it every day.
Have you ever asked yourself such questions like why only this process? And what kind of process will be in the next life? How will things happen?
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At first How to start if there are no any common things ???
1. Don't talk at all
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The more you learn the less you know
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What do you do or say, when you try to have a conversation with your adult child and they say, you ask too many questions, why do you want to know?
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Hallo sir
You can avoid small talk by stating loudly: "That's great, George, but I have to go home now to help my grandmother apply anti-fungal cream rectally."
Ask open ended questions?
Hello sir,
Can you make a video on how to not be complacent with just small work I do or when I achieve small things. This does not allow us to learn better, So please a video on it
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Small talk has its own significance, its necessity. You have just made your self a hawker selling anything that will bring ratings. I like you, but stay to the facts
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I’m a super introvert and this seems so complicated to me. It’s extremely hard for me to connect with people. The weird thing is I’m a rockstar in sales lol