Zoe Laverne: Women Can Be Predators Too
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Let's talk about female predators and why society treats them with much less severity than their male counterparts. Tik Toker Zoe Laverne sparks this conversation, but it's much bigger than her.
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Male victims are so overlooked and dismissed, it’s sick.
Definitely, we need justice for our boys ♡
THIS!
Yeah because they're too ashamed to report ninjastream.to/watch/e9BZaEg1gZwXx/zoey-laverne-new-dude
and when they do they are ridiculed and emasculated
Exactly
Ya cause they're made to believe that 'getting with' an older woman is a good thing
That story about the class laughing at the dude who was brave enough to tell his story is sickening and heartbreaking.
I remember Blaire telling that story years ago and being shocked because the abuse was severe
Yes, it's infuriating. Modern feminism is just toxic because they shame men and try to put them down. That isn't equality, as they claim, that's degradation! Classic feminism was simply about equality between the sexes. I can't stand what they've turned the true meaning of feminism into. It's not right, it's not fair and it is in fact, the opposite of equality.
@@zenmetalasaurus4880 agreed!
I literally GOT CHILLS hearing that. It makes me very sickened that this is how society treats ours boys and men. As if they do not have emotions like everyone else. As if they can't get abused. Abuse is abuse.
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She's a predator. She's out of high school and is an adult. At 13, he's what? In 7th grade? Maybe 8th grade? This is beyond disgusting and his parents should file charges.
I agree. It shows that she is very immature and has poor judgement and she needs to receive whatever legal punishment required.
Likely seventh grade, especially if he just turned 13 THIS YEAR.
Yep. I am 19 years old and my little sister is 13 in 8th grade. This truly makes me sick.
@@OkamiandZelda But he is a teen as well.
Where is his brain to know this is wrong?
He was just a child 2 years before playing with LEGO!
Rape is rape. Abuse is abuse. No matter the age or gender.
Agreed!
The perfect example look what happened to Johnny Depp. Even after his ex wife admitted that she was beating him and abusing him he is the one being punished right now.
@@JamesTheDireWolf All his Ex girlfriends defended him tho
@@JamesTheDireWolf um no, he was abused amber lied saying he was the abuser when he wasn't. Everyone went after him and he provided proof that he was being abused yet hes still getting fucked over. You could say the same for amber shes fuxked over a lot of people even abused her past girlfriend yet she's getting away with this shit.
@@JamesTheDireWolf Wow...I hope you realize that you are the exact type of person Blaire was speaking about in her video, that disregard, if not mocked, male domestic abuse victims. Why are you even on here??
@UCH02uIVpngrPaeZ6W5Yxf5w damn sis thanks for that perfect example of victim blaming.
Didn’t they abuse each other?
my boyfriend was raped by his ex, he was 15 and she was 18 at the time. hes lost friends because theyd say things like "i wish i was raped by a girl" "youre so lucky" and he couldnt take it. he has cried until he puked because of the ptsd and the trauma she gave him but no one takes him seriously and it makes me so sad. i try to do what i can to help him because ive also been sexually assaulted, and i feel like hes starting to heal and im so proud of him.
Good for him! I'm gonna send all my virtual love and support for the guy and I hope that you guys have a long lasting happy relationship
I'm sure he's grateful to have a loving girlfriend who wants to support him. Sending love and luck both his way and your's😊❤️🙏🍀
Sending all my love and support 🖤❤️ Nobody, MAN OR WOMAN never deserves to have that done to them.
Sending love💅❤️
That's insane what the actual fuck do people even think rape is. Probably because of everyone joking around with it just completely changing the definition.
If you’re a male and you’ve been abused/assaulted in anyway: *air hug* I’m sorry.
True, society failed these victims.
Thank you.
At 13, I wasn’t even in highschool yet.
At 19, I was moving into my first apartment.
This is gross
@New Creatures I have a family, it was just better for me to live on my own
@@reginageorge5409 how did you save enough or make enough to move out ?
@@ryanflowers8638 you can start working a few jobs and then save money over time, don’t ever spend it all, so you’ll have enough. :)
Yup. At 13 you start your teen years! 😨 I grew up a lot from when I was 13 to 19
@@ryanflowers8638 roommates is basically the only way to make it happen these days unless you have wealthy family
I always noticed the men in comments saying that the male r*pe victim is lucky when the abuser is female. It’s really gross and pisses me off.
If a male is r*ped, they won’t get pregnant, but it will leave them will the exact same emotional scarring and trauma as if anyone else is r*ped. It is disturbing how female predators aren’t looked looked into and are just let go because they’re female.
My stepdad is like this. He’s always makes jokes about how he would’ve been grateful if it ever happened to him and that guys who do report it are just cowards or gay or something. It really REALLY makes me upset...
they say that about women too.
I think it’s cause young boys these days grow up with more pressure to be sexual or have more twisted perceptions of relationships and sex (imo because of porn)
@@puffisaflea9264 yap! Also the female who raped them could get pregnant and he would have no control at all over it, which is also disgusting
i’m a female and a victim from another female. no one takes me seriously. i’ve told my dad and friends about it for years growing up and they continued to associate with her.
i’m disgusted, she ruined my life and i have a hard time trying to fall asleep because even after all these years, i feel so used.
i can’t be intimate with anyone and enjoy it. idk how to cope with this.
I’m so sorry
I’m so sorry that happened to you you’re incredibly brave and I hope you find peace in your life
Drop the addy I’ll bring the glock
I am so sorry): a similar thing happened to me. I am a female who was abused by a female peer for years. I was bullied in front of everyone by her, she purposely excluded me from class activities and friend groups and after school activities but when no one was around she would sexually abuse me and Tell me that if I told anyone I would get expelled, that my parents would hate me, that I wouldn’t have any friends. I even told a few of my teachers growing up because it primarily happened in school but since it was a female nothing happened...
@@haileymarie4444 my sister's roommate would almost treat her like her pet boyfriend...d emotional abuse was so much dat my sis would call me nd tell me,'If I die,its her'...dey started off as good friends...den she started becoming extremely possessive of my sis...horrible woman...also,,sry fr ranting out...I hope u r fine...we got dis :)
Bro why would anybody ever wanna be with a 13 year old?! Jesus
Right!!!! They are so immature
@madelyn kay that's an accurate way to put it. I've always wondered the minds of predators. And what I came to was something close to this. Abuse of power and security over a insecured individual
@@jayduong9838 predators can’t handle being the prey so they prey on someone smaller. It’s like a couple of levels over bullies.
When I was 13 I didn't want to be with one lmao
You‘re discussing here reasons why you wouldn‘t date a 13-year-old? THE ONLY REASON IS YOUR F*CKING ADULTS THAT‘S WHY YOU WOULDN‘T DATE A 13-YEAR-OLD WHY ARE YOU DEBATING??
I remember being told when I was little, whenever my mom would scream, destroy the house, and throw things at my dad, that she was "sick". Even when the cops were called, all they did was ask if she could stay at a friend's house. No matter how many times I told CPS workers that I was scared of my mom, nothing happened. In fact, my dad was the one they looked into because they thought my mom was "acting out as a battered wife".
They're currently in the middle of a divorce, and she's staying at an abuse shelter despite never having been abused. My dad is having the hardest time doing anything because he's not even allowed to know where she lives. All he wants is custody of me and my brother so he knows we're safe. He doesn't want child support or anything. He's even okay with helping her pay bills, and hell he even drove her to the hospital when she needed it. He's been kind the whole way through and yet he's still being treated like shit.
As a young woman, I'm honestly disgusted by this behavior. I no longer have her in my life for obvious reasons and I will always help my dad whenever he needs. He's such a kind person and to see this happen to him is so disheartening.
See, this what MRA should fight about !
Sending love to you and your dad 💕
I hope the divorce is through now and you’re in your dad’s custody.
Hey, I hope things are better now
Hope you and dad are ok.
I feel sorry for you and your dad who has been through this. I just hope it can be settled so your dad gets the custody.
About time someone addresses both sides
Predators aren’t just guys, anyone can be one
Yet girls get a pass when they commit it,for the most part ninjastream.to/watch/e9BZaEg1gZwXx/zoey-laverne-new-dude
and it goes unreported because males get dismissed,shamed and ridiculed for not being man enough
Preach 🙌
i mean ready to glare BEEN talking about this but yes i love that blaires talking about it.
@@fa-shizzle-a-lizzle7142 yeah that’s true
@@adds0429 its sad how invalidated men can get in situations like this
As a single dad, I LOVE you and your content. Your videos have only made me better at my job as a parent in teaching my kids to have understanding, acceptance, and open minds about themselves and the world. An open mind is the only way to live in peace with yourself and with society.
@Put your tongue on my Ass 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 good job. I'm so proud of you. As a master of witty banter.....you are a true savant.
❤️ great comment. Keep up the good work as a single dad
How can her content help you with being understanding and accepting when she’s literally in a scandal right now where she made a completely false story about another person and is refusing to fully apologize?
@@kristinking278 omg who cares?!?! Not everyone gives any shits about what anyone else does in their personal life~~ when the ONLY way// reason they know this person exists, is because of that persons' CONTENT.
In a world like this, there is no fucking way anyone owes you [or anyone else for that matter] an explanation or justification or to defend why they enjoy a certain CZcamsr's videos- without giving a shit about their personal lives, or ANYTHING about that creator beyond their ability to entertain you for 8 minutes.
My point is:
That we don't have to give a shit about a creators personal life, their personality, their accomplishments or mistakes or achievements or faults~ in order to enjoy their content.
If someone leaves a comment claiming that the video they are referring to happened to bring them a bit of joy, happiness, a smile or laugh, or maybe makes them think a bit deeper, or gives them a perspective they hadn't had previous to watching the video.
fucking LET people ENJOY THINGS without you TELLING them why the fuck they SHOULDNT LIKE IT!!!
jesus christ. I HATE people like you, or rather comments like yours,- and that fugly state-of-mind that just leaves a bad taste in everyones mouth.
GTFO.
If u don't have anything NICE to say, then whyget the fuck out and don't say shit.
@@laynedoe3455 I never said no one should watch her videos, the original poster said she helped them be understanding and I was just asking how when she isn’t understanding herself. It isn’t her personal life, it literally was her content - content that she made up. I agree don’t say anything if you can’t say it nicely and I did. Critique does not equal hate. On the other hand SHE herself had nothing nice to say in that video, nothing true to say either, yet she went ahead and made a whole negative video about someone who didn’t deserve it. The person she lied about was receiving death threats, am I not allowed to question the motives of the influencer that made that happen?
My boyfriend is a survivor of domestic violence. She punched him, threw things at him and the 1 time she decides to grab a male part of his and he pushed her off, she called the cops and he got charged even though she was the one abusing. The one cop dealing with it didn’t believe him. It was upsetting to see the life draining out of him because they didn’t believe him.
He got charged BECAUSE **she** called the cops. Men need to avoid this type of situation by actually REPORTING the abuse they endure. The police believe that victims call the cops and perpetrators don’t. So if you are being abused as a male, don’t wait until SHE calls the cops on you, to tell the cops that she’s the real abuser. They will not believe you bc you weren’t the one who called them there for help. Call the cops yourself and tell the cops that she is attacking you and do it immediately when it’s happening.
@@neenasingh5089 ..
The cops always arrest the male, in all DV cases.
Always.
I got held down and raped by a woman when I was in my early 20s. The next day I tried to report it to police. I was told by the officer, who was very supportive, not to make a report about it because once they started an investigation they'd ask her and one of two things would happen: 1) She'd say it was consensual and the investigation would end there; or 2) She'd say I raped her and I'd get charged on her word alone, and as there was dna evidence (she forced it unprotected) and it would go against me and I'd go to prison...
So yeah, I ended up letting it go and moved on with my life. When I speak to male rape survivors it is pretty much a similar story from them of how the justice system treated them.
Absolutely disgusting. It's awful you had the experience being raped and then leaving you feeling like you have no options.
Yeah I know someone whose been thru this they told him if they find the women and she says different hed go to jail for filing a false report gross!
Just wow. I'm so sorry that happened to you dude. Any rapist deserves to hung, male or female. Hopefully you're doing better now
What i wouldn't give to have that woman incarcerated at an all male prison.
I'm so sorry that this happened to you, I hope you're doing well ❤
Equal rights means equal punishment.
Periodt 😌
PERIOD
And that’s the tea!
Equal rights mean equal responsibilities.
periodddd
At this point, judges should just say "Nice..." like the dudes from South Park and dismiss the case instead of pretending to give a damn.
I am sick of male victims being downplayed and treated like we don't suffer too.
Such a classic episode. It was sad but true.
I hope you are doing okay. Love and blessings to you.
A British soap opera called emmerdale did a fantastic storyline on this. A male student named Jacob was being groomed and abused by his teacher and dads girlfriend named Maya. It took place over months and the aftermath of when she was discovered was very important in addressing how it affects the boys this happens to. He became very untrusting of women, slept with a girl once then dumped her. A family friend tried comforting him, put her hand on his and ge interpreted it as her trying to make a move on him. It really hits the point where young boys are just as vulnerable as young girls, if they're r*ped and abused by women they will be psychologically scarred too and will be more vulnerable as an adult. Abuse victims should never be celebrated for being abused, they need support, not congratulations. It sickens me that men cheer this on and women laugh about it. It's sick no matter who it happens to
I am a feminist. That means equality for BOTH sides, Blaire White once again giving me faith in humanity 🙏
So you're a humanist not feminist ✌
@@betternow1906 “Humanism is the theory that humans are allowed to use logic to decide what is ethical instead of using a higher power to define for them.”
-www.progressivewomensleadership.com/feminism-why-not-egalitarianism-or-humanism/
I'd do yourself a favour and disassociate with that name.
Modern feminism is just another name for misandry
@@Sillimant_ Missndry is defined as [the] “dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against men (i.e. the male sex).” and modern feminism is defined as “The belief and theory that everyone deserves equal and equitable treatment and opportunity regardless of gender, sexuality, sex, race, religion, disability, etc.; Modern feminism is NOT the belief that women are better than men or that all men are scumbags.”
Also I‘m 99.9% sure you’re taking lemon Q’s comment out of context, (either purposefully or unintentionally so let me make this as obvious as possible:) Blaire’s video is about the double standard with pedophiles. Do yourself a favor and research it. Hope it sticks!
@@Sillimant_ not by my definition, to me feminism is equality, period. But I do know that that is not the case with everyone.
There is DEFINITELY a stigma around men being victims of domestic abuse or sexual assault. I have personally witnessed 2 cases of it in my life and it was sickening. My aunt abused her husband (hit him, scratched him, bit him, even hit him with frying pans) and no one took it seriously or even believed him, and when they did believe him they always said "what did you do to her?" or "man up, it's just a frying pan." Then my ex boyfriend who was sexually assaulted at the age of 14 by a 20 year old woman who basically force fed him alcohol and then r*ped him (leading to them having a child,) was considered the victim because she'd been drinking a bit as well, she got full custody of the child and blackmailed him with said child for the next 10 years until he got custody. Neither of these men were taken seriously, neither of them were supported or coddled the way that they would've been if they were women, neither of them were even validated by people who knew their stories (except by me because I actually have a soul.) I saw the pain that both of them experienced, and I also saw that no one really cared and it was just another example to me of how messed up this world is..especially when it comes to gender.
Sad. But, I think it's more to do with a world that supports narcissistic behavior. Enablers and flying monkeys who gaslight you. In my experience, people who are abused are rarely believed or helped. It's sad.
Sad 💔I hope whoever's at fault burns alive and then gets raped😊
As a male s/a survivor, thank you for this video
I hope you are doing well now. It’s sad to know how so many people just dismiss male victims.
I hope you're doing ok brother.
You are valid and I wish you every good thing in your life. I hope you are recovering well. Love and blessings
I hope you're recovering well !
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My abuser was a female, it happened for years and years and no one believed me because it was a peer of mine, I was five when it started and she was a bit older, but none of my teachers believed me because she was “just a little girl”. I was openly bullied by her and coerced into performing sexual acts with her after she showed me pornography to “educate” me on what to do to her. She told me if I told anyone she wouldn’t be my friend anymore, that I would get expelled, that my parents would be disgusted with me and not love me anymore. And clearly she learned this behavior from somewhere 😔
ANYONE can be a predator! Anyone at all, it doesn’t matter their age, gender, anything!
Goddamn, how old was she!?
In that case, it would also be important to find out where she learned it. Children do the most horrible things to get their way because they don't have the concept of something being wrong, and if no one ever tells them, they'll grow up to be an adult predator, which is more disturbing.
Remember seeing a news report of a little boy who was raped at 11 and ended up with a child. And the news anchors said that she “seduced him”.
I saw that video. They made it sound like a romantic getaway to the living room. "played a little game to seduce him"
That last part made me sick to my stomach. What the actual fuck.
Wtf
@@love23music1 yup there's a video on youtube
You can search it up
I’ve known grown men to have ptsd and sexual issues due to being molested as a women as a child or even a teen.
Sickens me that they are mostly just swept under the rug when they come forth.
Ya I knew a couple, both oddly always ended up with older women who were control freaks and treated them like property kind of like many female rape victims
There was a law and order episode where the boy was raped by his nanny and he killed women that looked like her
@@deanfirnatine7814 so sad. Same I guess as women with daddy issues steaming from abuse.
The worst part is that I would bet most of them got told they 'got lucky' because obviously they are male so they must've wanted it. Fucks sake it's just atrocious.
Your grammar sucks but i think i understood what you are trying to say.
Lady predators aren't criticized nearly as much as they should be
honestly
I agree. As a girl myself, I don't understand why SO many women fight for equality but doesn't want equal consequences that comes with bad behaviors. Lady predators get WAY less done to them. Lady murderers usually gets less jail time for FAR more vile things.
The hypocrisy 👁👄👁
They are unless they’re pretty
male predators neither.
Or the feminist judges who make the victim pay for the r@pist's child support.
I read a story about a man who was raped at 18 by a 34 year old woman and she got pregnant. The courts dropped his case and he had to pay child support for 16 years. I wanted to cry. It was so horrible to hear :’(
That is messed up.
@@jayfreeman5117
It is 😭
i'm literally crying, this society is so fucked up :(((
It happens more than people think.
The first thing I ask is: how can a grown man be raped by a woman!?
Gross🤢 as a 19 year old myself, I COULD NEVER IMAGINE being with someone even 2 years younger than me🙃
Lmao i strictly date people with a one year difference of my age
boring
@@lilianadelcaribe ?
@@heartzpriya cuz ppl my age suck.
2 year age gap isn't disgusting.. I think you are reaching.
my uncle used to have a gf who would physically assault him, and he was 6 ft 2 and pure muscle. He just, you know, cared about her, so he wouldn't dare hit her back.
that is so fucked up. people say 'oh he's a man.. he's stronger and bigger he can defend himself' yet if the man defends himself he'll be crucified for hitting a woman.
im sorry that happened to your uncle ❤
There is also a very strong societal requirement that a man doesn't not hit women. the fact that there are people who do so, doesn't change that fact.
He would have been ostracized if reported her assaults. Poor man.
My uncle was drugged at a party once. He left the party before it took full effect and fell asleep in a barn durng a winter storm, he was lucky he made it out fine.
I really hate the size argument.
Physical overpowering isn't the only way you can assault someone.
If coercion or blackmail is involved, consent isn't possible.
Zoe Laverne looks like the girl you went to high school with that drops out to get hooked on pills and have 4 kids before the age of 20
Spot on
That's the perfect description
you can already tell she’s gonna age horribly 😭
Oddly specific 😂
💀🤣
I was forced when I was young by a woman, it isn’t something that can talk to a friend about, as they’ll just laugh if you’re a male
I'm so sorry. I see you, I see your story. You have an ally in me. Love and blessings.
i’m so sorry about what happened. i believe you. lots of us believe you. wishing you the best in the future 🙏🏻❤️
I feel like male victims are overlooked. I'm female and I was abused when I was a minor. I know a man who was sexual assaulted but he looks at it as just sex. I'm like but you where 11.
I'm glad Blaire is talking about this. Repzion and Ready to Glare made a really good point that not *nearly* enough people are making as big of a deal out of this as there should be.
And it'll probably be a while before the mainstream pick it up because the second it gets traction you'll see articles saying stuff like "Hmmm, are men REALLY oppressed? No" Or "The internet is speaking out against abuse targeting men....Here's why they're wrong."
*As long as it's between two consenting parties, we shouldn't judge who someone dates because how does it effect us?*
@@thewriter2634 Dude. It's a 19-nearly-20-year-old preying on a 13 year old. It's not in any way, shape or form a consensual relationship.
A 13 year old - any minor really - literally has no agency which is why they need people around them to protect them, not groom, predate on and sexually assault them.
@@bumblingplatypus756 *You didn't see the analogy, huh?*
@@thewriter2634 what are you talking about?
I used to work in CPS and when boys were sexually abused by female perpetuaters were pushed aside and not taken seriously.
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D:
🤦♂️ this isn't cool. Idk why people don't take it seriously. I'm A male and I really(3x's) wanna protect all the boys and girls from rapists, and paedophiles
It’s time we stop with the double standards and call out sexual abuse on all sides
I think there’s a huge problem with other men judging male victims. When I was in school there was a teacher & student relationship in the news & all my male classmates thought it was great.
I agree but majority of times those men who laugh at other male victims are usually f*ck boys who are desperate for relationship
Their main goal in life is to only get into relationship as early as possible but they are not capable of commiting into a long-term relationship
We usually don't judge other male victims but we felt helpless for them
You can hear a lot of stories of brotherhood from WW1, WW2 and Vietman War.
It is an unfortunate fact that we can secure peace only by preparing for war.
~ John F. Kennedy
We've fought against fascism, communism, imperialism, terrorism etc.
I was sexually abused by my partner in a time when the FBI's definition of rape excluded male victims. So before 2016. 2016. Let that sink in.
I don’t get the big deal about 2016.
I am really sorry that that happened to you. I was taken advantage of my a family member when I was a little girl (7-9? I don't remember bc It went on for like a year or more). I hope that you are doing well and that your not letting that horrible experience define that person you are. Your point about how the definition didn't include men in 2016 is literally awful. I hate that people think that guys should ignored just because y'all are men. We are individuals. Why can't people understand that?
Yes. we've seen it with Cardi b, when she talks about drugging those men.
When Katy perry kissed that young boy.
Amber heard with Johnny Depp.
I know there's more but these are just the ones that pop off .
That pissed me off when katy perry did that. I think he was religious and a kiss meant so much more to him that it did to her. She abused her power over him so badly.
@frank anderson I guess you could say she should..CARDI BE IN JAIL
AHAHA
Yeah, like what the hell is going on >.
Now here’s the thing. YES cardi drugging guys is BAD. But what people don’t seem to understand is she didn’t sexually assault these guys. She did it to rob them. I get it’s incredibly fucked up and these guys would have no idea what she’d done besides just robbing them. But she wasn’t tryna rape them. She was trying to survive. She was almost homeless that’s why she stripped. She was escaping domestic violence and did anything she could for money. I get it’s fucked up. But you have no idea what people are capable of when they’re just tryna stay alive from one day to the next. People will go lower than low to survive. Why do you think sex workers exist? Easy money. She didn’t rape anyone or do anything sexual. If anything she promised sex so that the guys would wanna go with her and the guys were obviously hoping to hook up. But she didn’t wanna hook up she just wanted their money. Picture yourself: Homeless. Only home you had you got beaten there. So you escaped. Without that home you gotta make money and do the most menial degrading shit just to survive the night. Are you really telling me you would never consider robbery if it meant you didn’t starve. I’d never drug someone but if i could get money without hurting people. I’d do what I could. I’d rather die than hurt innocent people just to survive like that’s my limit. But I can’t say I wouldn’t steal. It’s better than starving to death or getting your ass beat
@@robertoldcorn5331 THANKNU
i had a 13 yo (f) friend in middle school who was dating a 19 yo (m) and everybody including her parents thought it was ok because he was in his teens and she met him at a christian summer camp where he was a COUNSELOR i was literally the only one as another middle school aged girl who knew there was a problem and could see him manipulating/gaslighting her and it was sick. people dont understand that 6 years is nothing for adults in mental maturity but its HUGE for teenagers
Due to the Christian camp part it doesn't surprise me.
Exactly. I'd say 19 is closer in maturity to 30 than 13. But even if it wasn't, why is two immature minds getting it on a good thing? No one says "13 year olds can drink as long as they're partying with people their own age."
Normal people understand that.
As a someone who was r*ped and abused by a girl Im so happy she made this video bc it's ruined my life massively and when I try to tell someone I'm dating it happened they tend to have ago at me for joking about rape when obviously it's not a joke it's me saying I don't want to have sex WITH anyone atm. So thank u Blaire you've made my feelings seem more valid to me I love u so thank u so much. (Also no I didn't report it bc I didn't think they'd take it seriously)
I once knew a woman (30) that was having an affair with a 15 yo boy. She justified herself by saying that he was, in many ways, more mature than the average boys and that he was the one pushing her into having sex, but the whole story was just disgusting for me and I simply decided I didn't want to see her again. What really shocked me was that the boy's mother knew about that and she even let them stay together in his bedroom!
I have a son and at that time he was only a couple of years younger than that boy was, I can assure you, I wouldn't let a grown woman anywhere near my teenage kid! No way!
We need to stop expecting men to be “big strong brave manly men” all the time. There’s nothing wrong with being masculine but men are sensitive and have emotional needs just as much as women do. Men don’t report crimes committed against them, they don’t report abuse, they don’t report rape, they don’t seek help for depression and anxiety.. the list goes on. It breaks my heart.
I kinda know what that’s like because I’m autistic. I don’t experience or show it the same way, but I do experience it.
Men have also been proven to be more in control of their emotions.
@@sindelscat9336 yes, but they still feel them.
@@meowforcats6694 yeah that is true, that's why most men look for a person who they can emotionally open up to.
@@sindelscat9336 controlling them doesn’t mean you aren’t feeling them tho...
Oh, we've been waiting for this one.
Chill she's dating older now aparat.cam/ayi5dkeonxqc/ZoeLaverneNewGuy.mp4.html
@@erikascencen doesn't change the fact that she still groomed a 13 year old boy
@@erikascencen really if she had been a man, and there was proof that he was dating older women now, would you be saying the same thing?
@@erikascencen "Chill, the pedophile isn't currently sleeping with children"
*As long as it's between two consenting parties, we shouldn't judge who someone dates because how does it effect us?*
I am a women and was in two relationships that were domestically violent. The first one I was abused viciously for two years it fucked me up so bad that the next relationship I was in I was the abuser. I physically attacked , name called, and forced sex on him i was plain evil to that man he stayed with me for 4 years and took all the abuse I gave to him and one day I woke up feeling horrible for the things i put him through and broke up with him because I realized I was being exactly like my abuser towards him and it wasn't right and he definitely did not deserve it. We are still friends to this day he helped me get the help I needed to heal and not be so angry. I haven't been in a real relationship since due to my own issues with trust of my self and anyone else.
I had a couple of female "friends" break out into laughter when I was telling them about a particularly savage attack at the hands of my ex. This is a beating that left me with a fractured skull, bruised ribs and huge bites all over my body.. Suffice to say these women are no longer friends. Really opened my eyes
the way she speaks about the situation saying "we are sorry, we didn't think, we know it was wrong"
erm excuse me, YOU. There is no we when the other person is a minor, this is all on zoe. She should be in prison. No question about it, she is disgusting.
100%
I think prison is way too extreme, but yes, this is something SHE did and not "we"
@@AlyssaFoxah. I don’t because if it was a male he would most likely be doing time.
@@shayla106 No, still wouldn't be deserving of a prison sentence
Boys should absolutely be taught to fight back if they are being attacked - regardless of the gender of the attacker. My sons have been explicitly told that if they are physically threatened by ANYONE that they have a responsibility to themselves to fight back.
Damn right. No one deserves to be victimized and everyone has the right and should defend themselves any way they can. Man or woman, defend yourself.
The difference is that a typical female cannot hurt a typical male in a serious way. If you taught your sons to always fight back, their punch can put a girl in a coma for slapping them.
Hell yea
*As long as it's between two consenting parties, we shouldn't judge who someone dates because how does it effect us?*
The thing is usually the young boys arent being attacked they are down with it. Its still 100% wrong but thats the difference that makes society not care as much women are manipulated or raped. Sadly is does happen often i was in jail with kindergarten teacher looking women well above my age there for sodomy and stat rape..you would never guess it from seeing them thats whats really scary
My friend had a stalker. She drugged him and raped him... Next after 2 years she calls him with text "we have a child, I lost job, my family is not supportive, I need some money, I know I used you, I wouldn't ask for money if I wouldn't lost my job". It was like a kick in the head, therapist barely could help him...
I'm a guy, For 4 years of my life, from the age of 6 to 10. My parent's Nanny who used to come to our house Monday through Saturday and worked I believe from 10am to 10pm. Whenever my parents left the house she'd molest and rape me. I remember pulling on my mother's dress begging her not to leave but she just thought I was attached (I don't Blame her). To this day no one knows what happened. The Nanny was a foreign worker and has since returned to Sri Lanka. I haven't told anyone about it, I'm 16 Looking back I wish I had said something...
It's not your fault. You were quite literally a child - look at the way you're talking to and about yourself. Would you let a close, loved friend of yours who suffered the same thing blame themselves like that? A 6 - 10 year old? The only guilty person was that disgusting subhuman that assaulted you, not an innocent child who was abused and taken advantage of by someone placed in a position of trust.
blaire: "hey guys im feeling like a snowbunny, whatever a snowbunny is" LMao
Yeah, but she is one really cute snowbunny.
@@johnm6943 i really hope you guys know what a snowbunny is haha
@@nukenade4623 SAME 💀
@@nukenade4623 RIGHT
I love the earmuffs though, they look so fluffy!!!
Not Zoe being here she should be proud that she even made it to Blaire
Lol that's nothing to be proud of xD aparat.cam/ayi5dkeonxqc/ZoeLaverneNewGuy.mp4.html
@@erikascencen quit posting the same link, it doesn't prove anything.
Gross
@@sindelscat9336 Right???
@@giasharie274 yes
I've never understood why women will say "don't EVER hit a woman! Idc if she hit you first or not" when if they wanted true EQUALITY, then why shouldn't a man hit a woman back?! Tf?! I want to be treated equal, which means I'm not some precious, fragile, little butterfly you can't ever touch. It means I am EQUAL.
As a therapist, I can say that I’ve seen too many grown men in my chair revealing horrible sexual atrocities that occurred in their youth. This is so common and so wrenching.
I had a date laugh at me when I explained that I'd be a victim of abuse
Im proud of u for standing up for urself, but im sorry that even happened to u no one should laugh bc ur uncomfortable. U did the right thing!
yeah well a man tried to rape me after I said I’d gone through sexual assault so I guess we’ve all been there
Wtf is wrong with people?
What sort of laugh ?
People tend to have a sort of laugh when confronted with something that isnt very nice out of the blue. It doesn't reflect their view on the issue itself, but them being uncomfortable with that discussion at that moment.
@@nickbrough8335 laugh _and then proceed to deny mine and many other's experience of abuse_
My fear is that she is given a blind eye and when this gal is 30, she has already committed rape to a list of minors.
I’ve been saying this for a long time. Idk if you mention this or not in the video, but Cardi B is a perfect example of someone who’s admitted to being abusive to men and people think it’s so funny or “ironic”. It’s crazy.
Yeah! I heard about the crap she’d done and was so confused why no one seemed to be taking it seriously? Male or female; that’s never right.
right?? if she were a man she would’ve gotten in so much trouble. one time i was so confused and upset because my friend didn’t really feel much when i told her what cardi had said about abusing men. but if it were the other way around, i know people would’ve been pissed off
To all male victims who are struggling with this kind of stuff, I hope this sticks with you.
Just because they are women, doesn’t mean you can’t fight back. Get those charges pressed and keep fighting till you get justice. I’ll pray for you guys. I love you.
I am a female victim of assault and I do agree with you. I feel this double standard comes from the fact that women are much more vulnerable to men and the average woman is not able to overpower the Average man. However I have seen a lot of cases when an adult woman has had relations with young boys and there are people talking about it online saying the boy is "lucky" and they wish they had a teacher like that in school. Which is disgusting. What grown woman would want to do that with a young boy?
I agree that both men and women do need to take this more seriously however I do hate when people use this argument to say women always get taken seriously as we sadly don't. Women often get blamed for what we were wearing or if we drank or flirted with a guy.. I don't ever see those questions with men BUT I do see men or young boys just straight up get dismissed. I think society in general needs to change how sexual assault is seen
I had like 3 cases back in secondary school wherein the teachers were grooming one or multiple students. It was 2 male teachers (to which i was only one of the many victims of grooming) and 1 female teacher. The 2 male ones got so much heat and they were fired. I heard that they tried to apply a job at another nearby highschool, but in short, word got out and basically ruined their teaching careers for good (as it should).
The lady teacher though, she was able to get away with it and keep her job for another 2 years. She then also transferred to another school (I knew this from a friend who attended there). My friend didn't even KNOW about the incident until I told her about it.
@@dokadoka4922 how old were u when it happened? im still in middle school but one of my teachers creep me out but i might just be paranoid
*As long as it's between two consenting parties, we shouldn't judge who someone dates because how does it effect us?*
People unconsciously assume that men are always willing to have sex, and that they are somehow invulnerable to sexual assault or predatorial acts. It's disgusting and frustrating. Even in the media, sexual assault of men is always a joke.
@@fakyu4048 I think I was 11/12 at the time(?) (I'm not sure lmao) Make sure you stay safe, it doesn't hurt to be more careful just in case
Blaire is cool, keep up the dope work girl
Zoe has a new guy who's older DW aparat.cam/ayi5dkeonxqc/ZoeLaverneNewGuy.mp4.html
@@erikascencen why are ya commenting so much, sheesh, let people breathe.
@@erikascencen So... just because she have a "new older" boyfriend we gonna forget that she was in a RELATIONSHIP with a KID? No girl, she is a PREDATOR.
*As long as it's between two consenting parties, we shouldn't judge who someone dates because how does it effect us?*
@@thewriter2634 but it isn’t
You are so right about the media...I had a cousin who was so abusive and disrespectful to her husband that our family banned her from family functions...not just emotional...but she would go up to him and just slap him for having an opinion...she was awful...I was in my teens and was horrified as we just didn’t have this stuff happen in,our family. It does go both ways...
Thank you so much for shining light on this topic. My husband of 9 years was raped by a female babysitter repeatedly. She would even have men come over to rape him for money. He grew up very confused about sex. The whole experience has effected almost every aspect of his life. And it will probably haunt him for the rest of his life unfortunately. It sickens me when I see how differently the news and idiots on social media respond to the rape of males compared to females.
Male or female, you'd think the thought of your lover having to ask their mom's permission before they can pedal the bike they got from Santa over for a booty call would be a major turn-off...
Your video isn't even started and there are dislikes???? Make it make sense
The haters probably have their notifs on 😂
@@dokadoka4922 I can't imagine being subbed with notifications on just to turn around and spread hate like that, but some people think that's a healthy way of living. 🤷🤦
@@rjchavers9267 what a sad way to live your life huh
@@lunar_boobs_94x for sure.
Probably all those people with clown and cake emojis giving thumbs down.
I had a male employee come to me once he was terrified of a female employee that wouldn’t stop making sexual advances. I had no power to fire her so all I could do was tell him to avoid being alone with her & always be within earshot of other people if she’s around. She had a habit of accusing men of groping her too.
Yes he was bigger & stronger than her but he was still afraid. He didn’t want to be touched inappropriately! That fear affects anyone. The fear was doubled because of course she could always claim he grabbed her if he turns her down (I’ve known a few women who did this).
Eventually she was let go and he was ok in the end.
When I was in 6th grade, I believe I was 10, I got in a “fight” with a boy who was about 3 times my size. Accidentally hit him with a snowball at recess and he punched me in the head repeatedly. We BOTH got in trouble.
Even South Park did an episode about this kind of thing... A female teacher was sleeping with Kyle's little brother and the police were just like "nice"! 😏
Litterally reminds me of the whole Johnny depp and Amber heard case, male victims are too often looked over.
I think females have privilege that men don’t have and vice versa. I just feel like it really comes down to the person and what they see as more important to/for them. For instance, females generally get lesser sentences and usually do not get the death penalty. Obviously this is an example of female privilege. But males have certain privileges too that females don’t have. For example, men generally get to get away with acting overly sexual towards women because “boys will be boys” and whatever. There’s many more examples of both genders having privilege. There shouldn’t be any differences but there are.
I'm a cis female and was raped at 15 by a 25 year old male. It was very difficult to cope with. It's traumatic and hurts even future relationships in certain ways amoung so many other aspects of life. Regardless of gender/sex it's just as devastating and hard to deal with. You suffer from the same pain it causes. My heart goes out to ANY other PERSON who has gone through this. I'm with You! ♡
Ive read studies that have proved that sexual molestation of young boys does affect them negatively for their whole life. Unfortunately they are behind a paywall so I can't share them. Disgusting behaviour on the part of the adult.
I read the papers in the early nineties. No longer sure which publication it was but it was for a research paper on abnormal psychology. The one I remember best studied the affect of early sexualization children. It also compared the differences on how it affected boy and girls. It found that early sexualization of boys had an initial positive effect but had an overall negative affect on their lives. It limited how successful they became due to shortening or diminishing their education and self worth.
@@AnkitSharma-nf5qm That is where I found the articles. I just haven't kept up with them after leaving the mental health field.
@@simonesmit6708 I have interest in many fields like physics, astronomy, evolutionary biology & psychology, engineering(mechanical, aerospace and rocket), computer science (ai/ml, neural networks etc.) economics (austrian free-market economics), history, business, brain-computer interface, blockchain etc.
So, I always keep myself inform on these topics
Do you remember any particular names of studies or authors? I'm doing some relevant research for a class and am interested in reading those. I may have access through my university.
@@simonesmit6708 1. Dube, S.R., Anda, R.F., Whitfield, C.L., et al. (2005). Long-term consequences of childhood sexual abuse by gender of victim. American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 28, 430-438.
Is it this study?
Blaire should review that new Hulu show “a teacher” it shows a female high school teacher starting a sexual relationship with a student. I’m conflicted about it because it is bringing light to this subject. But it is very sexual and borderline fetishizes the situation.
I was also waiting to see if anyone would discuss the show. I agree with your opinions too, very sexual and it does feel fetishized/romanticized like it’s supposed to be exciting or something
sick... im so sick of platforms doing this shit, cuties? im done with netflix... NOW HULU? like it starts small, but it will get WORSE if people dont do shit...
@@anniet494 Same and I feel the same way with movies/“documentaries” about murdered women and children.
@@BellaBelle909 I disagree with that last part.. I love watching murder investigations, they teach me how and who to be wary of
The student in that show is 18 which is legally an adult and the story it is based on was an 18 year old as well.
This reminds me when I called my phone company to block texts on my elderly Father's phone because some girl in high school was mistakenly texting him prom dress photos and I immediately was like: OH NO, WE'RE BLOCKING THESE. As soon as my Dad brought it to my attention because I KNEW what could happen to him--so the point of that back story--I call the phone company, explain what's going on and the MALE rep says; "Oh isn't he lucky?" I was silent because all I could see was my Dad going to jail for something he had no part of. It was just a mis-typed number and my Dad does not text so he would never reply and instead came and showed me after it happened twice [he ignores texts XD]. So after my stone cold silence the guy goes; "Uh sorry. That wasn't right of me to say." And I was all; "Yeah it wasn't, now block this number and shut off the text messages." Idiot. Complete idiot to say something so disgusting to a customer, a female customer at that. Okay sorry for this incredibly long rambling comment xD
It’s like that meme where the girl labeled “abused female” has several mics, while the man labeled “abused male” has only 1.
I knew this was coming the second the tea channels talked about it.
She has a older guy now aparat.cam/ayi5dkeonxqc/ZoeLaverneNewGuy.mp4.html
Chile
@@erikascencen so are you saying bc her now boyfriend is of age, we should just let it go that she made out with a CHILD?
@@gointhruthagigz-recoverysp2482 people are so shit. The hypocrisy makes me sick.
@@erikascencen so that makes it okay???
Zoe doesn’t deserve a platform. It’s that simple.
it’s truly astonishing that she still has a platform and jokes about her and the 13 year olds relationship
I had a friend who was a small build fellow and he had a large build girlfriend. She often pushed him about and would hit him. One day, he pushed her back, she tripped and bruised her leg. She called the police and he was arrested. He spent a week in jail, lost his job and visitation rights to his daughter. It was terrible.
Some women think that they are incapable of rape and sexual harassment. My husband was hanging out at the garage by the bar working on cars when a drunk girl came up and started hitting on him (she was a young pretty girl not like it matters but..) he told her to back off and she wouldn’t and started getting really sexual and handsy so he physically took her and threw her out in the street and called the cops. When the cops came she was crying and playing victim but thank God all the witnesses backed my husband up and she ended up getting in trouble. The double standard let’s some women think they can do anything smh
My fellas “ex” (wasn’t actually an ex really!) harassed, stalked and abused him, he had police and solicitors involved and no one took him seriously, his friends did, family didn’t and police didn’t. Until eventually it rolled over into me and she started threatening me and stalking me THEN they came after her. She’s since been linked to a lads suicide, but again, it’s been brushed off. She does it to every single male she meets but nothing is ever done.
I think it’s really cool you’re bringing this issue to light. 1in 6 men have been sexually assaulted or abused. Nobody every starts off the conversation around sexual abuse talking about men. They’re always an after thought. I’ve personally met a few men who’ve shared stories of drunk girlfriends who “won’t take no for an answer” or something along those lines. They’re actually talking about being sexually pressured and sometimes being raped. And to them it’s just a “crazy sex story” but I couldn’t imagine how people would react if the rolls were reversed. People often talk about how horribly men handle rejection, but women don’t handle it well either. If a man doesn’t want to sleep with a woman, he’s either gay, or he must me cheating... Also, when talking about domestic abuse where men are victimized, had no accurate statistics. Most men will not report, because they may feel emasculated or embarrassed. All of the statistics you can find, I read somewhere, that it should be tripled at the very least.
Fact is it's a double standard's. Women can flirt at work and nothing happens. A man does it and he is fired?!!!!
A woman on my Facebook literally posted "10/10 don't regret getting you drunk and making you sleep with me" in regards to her boyfriend and how she 'reeled him in' it DISGUSTED me. The comments were all very supportive and saw NO issue with that statement. I have since removed that person from my life entirely, and there's nothing I can do. It makes me sick that women get away with things like that so often.
Bruh, it ain't even started and there are dislikes 🤣
She has an older guy bruh everyone calm down aparat.cam/ayi5dkeonxqc/ZoeLaverneNewGuy.mp4.html but yeah the dismissal of this problem is raw,girls get a pass
They really wanna talk wage gap?
What about the jail gap?
@Emma Lord or homicide Gap (76%) or loneliness gap (70%)
The best part is the wage gap is pretty non existent😑
@Trinity Gilreath Actually no, hate to break it to you but I looked up the statistics, and 76% were men, I'm sorry but that statement is false.
@Trinity Gilreath Actually no I looked up statistics on that as well, and most of them are straight men, who suffer from grief, depression and loneliness, and the majority of the time, it's loneliness, you keep making false statements, quit it.
The local newspaper referred to it as a romp .... a friggin romp ... he was 13
I can’t believe they laughed. A part of me wants to cry. I really hope things change and men are taken more seriously when they speak up in the future.
Zoe Laverne is A LOT. With her weird ass mother “zoooeeeeyy don’t cry, say hi to your fans” excusing it to Zoe being sorry not sorry-there HAS to be consequences for this.
I agree with everything, but sadly i do think she raped him... not like we see it... but with how she acted i believe 100% she had sex with him.
The stuff we see is not rape.. it's nasty and grooming.
But i believe she most likely raped him behind the camera
I completely agree. It’s sickening. If she’s willing to do that on camera i can’t imagine what happened when the camera was off.
A few yrs ago I was with a girl who was physically and emotionally abusive. She would attack me during arguements and even stabbed me once, some neighbors called the cops and they slammed me to the ground(I still had the knife in my gut and a busted head from a skillet) and arrested me because she said she was afraid cuz I beat the hell outta her, I'd never put hands on her and she didn't have a mark on her. Men can absolutely be victims and what's worse is women can just cry abuse and noone questions it
Yeah, because every democrat is trying to glorify people unless they're white cisgender straight religious male from America or Europe. I'm fucking sick of it
Glad you’re talking about this Blaire!
I never reported being assaulted (made to penetrate assault, I told her to stop and she said ‘no I’m almost done) by my ex gf because it would have been a he said-she said and 230lb active duty soldier vs 160 lb girl with signs of intercourse... the price of failure would have been WAY steeper for me than just shame.
Kicker is that she got pregnant from that, had our kid when I was deployed, so of course I got no custody, had to pay child support.
Second kicker - after I fought for 8 years for custody (I have majority custody, primary guardianship) I STILL had to pay child support for another 2 years because according to support enforcement “you are the non-custodial parent because you pay child support and you pay child support because you are the non-custodial parent.” I’m dead-ass not making that up, exact words from my support enforcement officer.
I eventually was allowed to stop paying by finding a sort of residential credit waiver to indefinitely defer my support obligation... you know, cause people lives with me all but 5-6 days a month.
Yet we live in *patriarchy* which *systemically oppressed women* 😒🤦♂️
ive been waiting for this one... TURN IT UP
Rape is rape no matter the gender. I agree with you Blaire White a thousand percent.
I WAS WAITING FOR YOU TO DO A VIDEO ON THIS OMG
Blaire, my heart is both happy due to the truth....and devastated by the truth....
I am so grateful for you speaking out, as so many are terrified to speak of this...
. yes, this is HIGHLY played on "female victim/ survivors " vs the TRUTH that JUST AS MANY MEN ARE DV individuals... much love for all of your openness (on this issue and a plethora more!)
As a female DV Survivor.... and a minister... I have seen so many (male survivors) that won't openly say due to exactly that....the stigma...
Thank you, luv.
Always a cheerleader in the backing of truth...and you do amazing 👏 ❤ 💗
Don't ever stop! The world needs more beautiful souls like what I've seen of yours...
💞
I'm 26 and have an almost 1 year old boy and he will definitely be taught to tell me everything no matter what! I feel like the generation my son is in will be a lot different and I can't wait to see what they do for the world!
That’s perfect!! Great job👏👏👏
He will tell you everything like any other kid until he's 13 or 14 then he'll start developing his own personality and you will never hear another thing from him. That's life...
@@Elijah666 whats wrong with me teach my son that its okay to talk to me about everything? Like obviously I know he won't tell me everything, but kids SHOULD know that its okay to talk to their parents about anything that makes them feel uncomfortable. Parents should not be friends, but a safe space for them. So no I am not delusional for thinking that my son can come to talk to me 🤷♀️
@@mackenzieelliott7481 you said I'm going to teach him to tell me everything. It just doesn't work. Nothing wrong with you teaching your son that, the thing is when he become a teen he'll stop. I think I went overboard calling you delusional, sorry about that.
@@Elijah666 It's all good, thank you for apologizing. I don't expect him to tell me absolutely everything but children should know that they can go to their parents without any issue. That's what I was getting at.
You made really good points here. Teachers taking advantage of young impressionable boys is absolutely monstrous and they should be labeled as rapists by the news. It's disgusting.
Assault is assault & abuse is abuse, no matter gender, age, race, religion, rich, middle class, poor etc. Abuse does not discriminate. 1 persons assault is no less or worse than someone else because everyone is different in how they feel, react, deal with it & heal.
Every single offender should be given harsh punishment for their behaviour no matter who they are. The courts need to start treating those they are less lenient on as they would anybody else.
It’s really good to hear your voice on this subject. You are in the truly unique position of being able to convey each side of this situation. And you’re adding a valuable and valid opinion on the glaringly obvious inequality in how female and male victims are treated. Another terrible and tragically unspoken subject is the epidemic of rape in male prisons. There simply isn’t the same sympathy and support available for male victims of sexual abuse or domestic abuse. They deserve just as much compassion and respect as every single female victim does.
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I love how one of them uses a GIF from a South Park while completely missing the point of the episode it comes from.
Or he did get the point.
Ive been hearing about this lady and she sounds ✨c r a z y✨
MS SONIA 😳😳😳
It might not be rape or molestation, but it sure as hell gives me some grooming vibes
I don’t get why people hate u, you talk about important things that are not usually addressed and i love that
Because most people nowadays are brainless and fundamentally evil bastards who want the truth wiped out if their existence.