7 TIPS TO HELP LATE TALKING TODDLERS FROM A SPEECH THERAPIST: Improving Speech and Language At Home
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- čas přidán 13. 02. 2023
- Kelli Meyer M.Ed, CCC-SLP Certified & Licensed Pediatric Speech Language Pathologist
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Why? Think about when you're on a long call/meeting or listening to a lecture.... you start to tune out. Your attention fades. It's only when there's a pause, lull, or a change in vocal intonation that you start paying attention again. The same goes for your child. Too many words can be overwhelming and they tune it out like background noise. Keeping language learning opportunities short, sweet and meaningful is a much more effective strategy for helping their communication skills develop.
Here are 7 EASY tips that you can do at home to improve your child's attention, receptive and expressive language skills and help them become functional communicators.
#1. Sing! Use simple, repetitive songs throughout your day (or verbal routines) and allow your child an opportunity to "fill in the blank" by providing a word! (Ready, set, _. or "skinnymarinky dinky dink, skinnymarinky doo, I love _.)
#2. Model one more word than your child is currently saying. For example, if your child is currently using under 50 words, use 1 word that is meaningful for your child (JUICE! UP! MAMA! GO! HELP!, etc). If you child has 50-200 words, model 2 word combinations (GO MAMA! BUNNY IN! BALL STUCK! HELP ME! MORE JUICE!) and if you child has 200+ words, model simple 3 word sentences combining familiar or already acquired words, (HELP ME MAMA, BALL GO UP! WHERE'D IT GO?)
#3. Choose a functional word and use it all day every day. (i.e. HELP, STUCK, GO, UP, DOWN, EAT, OPEN! etc - actions/verbs) Think of any way you can use it throughout your day! Model the word with the action every time (i.e. every time you take a piece of clothing out of the dryer, make a grunting sound and say "STUCK!" or "PULL!" repeat 10 times and then do the action without saying the word, and look to your child to see if they will fill in the blank.
#5. Use and over-exaggerate onomatopoeias as much as possible throughout the day. Onomatopoeias are super fun words that kids love to say and are vowel heavy, meaning that they are easier to produce! (i.e. UH OH! WEEE! YAY! AHH!) Fake sneeze something off of your head AH CHOO! and see if you child will imitate you! tinyurl.com/3dn45vks
#6. Make silly faces in the mirror and see if your child is able to imitate your oral motor movements. By practicing in front of the mirror, your child can visually see how their mouth is moving. Help them move their mouth/jaw in the correct positions if needed (lip pucker, big stretchy smile, frown, etc). If your child is not able to imitate,try fine motor such as clapping, high fives, wave and blowing kisses, or even gross motor running, jumping, falling down (ring around the rosey, etc). tinyurl.com/mr34rdta
#7. Read a book together and emphasize the actions & other important words/sounds. Let your child control the speed of the book and help by turning the pages. If your child is a quick "book reader" then stick with 1-2 important words per page and make them fun and exaggerative, even act it out if you can to draw the correlation between the action and the word. tinyurl.com/3x9ehsv7
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Recap:
1) Quality over Quantity.
Use FEWER but more functional words to communicate.
2) Keep language learning intentional and fun by keeping their attention and making activities short and sweet. Don't forget to use HIGH AFFECT (facial expressions), alternate vocal intonation and vocal volume.
3) Focus on teaching FUNCTIONAL words vs. labeling, nouns, colors. IF your child is STUCK in their car seat one day, they will need to say (HELP! STUCK! OUT!). Can your child say NO! MINE! STOP! when someone takes their toy? Model and teach them the words if not! tinyurl.com/4uv5u332
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My SIL has a daughter three weeks older than my 15 month old. She can label animals, colors, shapes, family members.... my son can say "dada" and that is it. Literally feel like the WORST MOTHER EVER. Doesn't help that they live right across the street, so I never get a break from my feelings of inadequacy.
Don’t beat yourself up hun, every child is different. My mom used to work with special needs kids and there was a 5 year old nonverbal. One day the boy started speaking in full sentences and floored everyone. Just do your research, try your best, and most importantly enjoy your time with your precious child. It will all be okay :)
Every child is different and it's not your fault. My boys spoke later and less clear than my daughter's. If you are concerned speak to your child's doctor during a check up. Most importantly don't compare children and don't compare yourself we all do the best we can.
@@CheyenneMarketthat's awesome news I pray that happens for my son❤
From a former child prodigy who did everything earlier than my peers I can tell you now that it won't matter in 20 years.I have ex classmates who barely could draw a straight line when I was writing and counting and doing basic math and they now have better jobs or are very acomplished.
Now, my daughter is nearly two and does not say a word ( she is an ex micro prem so that is a factor for a delay ) and while I do my best to find resources like this video to help her start, I also refuse to fall into the mindset that this minor setback is going to define her whole life...because I know it won't.
Unless a disability has been diagnosed, who spoke first and who used the potty first won't have any meaning when they are adults
@@M3L496funny, my son (now 24) loved tv and spoke in full sentences by 18mo. My daughter hated tv and refused to talk until after 2.5
I am going to talk to my child - all day if I want to. Things work themselves out in time. Not everything needs a label.
THANK YOU!!! I ALWAYS FEEL LIKE AN IDIOT WALKING AROUND SAYING WHAT I'M DOING TO MY KIDS! THIS IS BEING REAL WITH THE KIDDOS! 🎉
This was amazingly helpful!!
So important to teach the parents how to teach our children!
And such clear action items 🎉
Great video, high energy, to the point and delivered in an easy to understand way. I find the examples you give after explaining to be super helpful. Tysm for sharing your knowledge with us parents for our precious little ones. Blessings to you!
So good. Thank you
I honestly needed you right now..thanks Hun
Amazing!!! Thank you for ideas.❤
Really helpful! Thanks!
My mother talked to me constantly. I remember being a silent child. It took me a long time into adulthood to "speak up!"
I spoke late too
And I think it wasn’t mostly just because I like to be quite lol
I’m still like this sometimes
But my daughter definitely has a speech delay
My son is 7 years old almost 8 and he isn't speaking if I get 1 word from him for the day I get alot it's mostly screeching sounds
I was always quiet and when I was told to basically narrate everything all day; I found that advice to be unrealistic. My son was born super early and he is finally starting to talk but still babbles a lot more than actually speaking real words.
@@Bloomsong1020 how early was he and when did he start using words im worried my daughter was 3 months early she’s 18months and I don’t know how long before I should consider speech therapy
Thank you for this video. 💪🏼
So glad you are back! Thank you for posting. We sure wish you lived closer to help our son. In the meantime, we'll just look for your videos. Thank you so much.
Thanks so much for the comment! I apologize I’ve been not as frequently posting lately, I’ve been on the fence about announcing the reasoning since it’s medical but hopefully ready to get back into weekly posting now!!
@@TheSpeechScoop Hope you are doing okay. We understand your health and family come first. We'll be waiting for you when the time is right. Thanks again for all you do.
Great stuff! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much!!
Thank you! so informative.
This has been great content I am so going to share with my families. Thanks!
This video is so insightful. I will implementing these exercises with my 2 yr old. Thank you so much!
Really healpful
Thank you,am following keenly
Thank you so much
Thank the great Lord for people like you. I'm really apprecitive of all your help thank you thank you so much. ❤ Please keep ur great onfo coming 👍👏
You're amazing, thanks so much for these helpful videos!
This is so nice! Thank you!
My son is 16 months. Says some words but not consistently so I’m trying these tips. Thank you so much. New subscriber here
Thank you! Let me know how it goes!
Omgd ! im so glad im seeing this video 🎉 god bless you 🎉
I am a nanny of 11.5 years in NYC. The little guy I am working with is 21 months old and has been speaking in 3 and 4 word sentences for a few months. Every child is different. I find talking to a child in sing-song voices, over exaggerated facial expressions, and speaking to them similar to an adult is key. Explaining, describing, involving children in everything I do... it makes all the difference.
Love it!
thank you
Thank you so much I’m definitely gonna follow these steps…
Let me know how it goes!
This video saved my life.
Thank you so much, super helpful.
Glad it was helpful!
Thabkyou lady!! 😊 (I can recognize some of these methods in miss Rachel, now I know why children love her)
Yes! I am actually coming out with a video on "how YOU can be Miss Rachel at home!" and it goes over WHY she is effective! :))
Yes! My son isn't speaking much, and we are watching and singing along to Ms. Rachel. I noticed it helping him already. Her videos are great.
You are a pleasure to watch😁some video makers aren't engaging and lose my interest so imagine a child...great video👍
Thank you so much!
Thank you for making this
This video is gold, thank you 🙏🏼
Thank yuo for the comment!
Hi,
Thank you so much for sharing 7 tips for late talking toddlers. I did note and will try the same with my clients.
Thank you so much for making videos like this :)
great video thanks
Always like your videos! So parent friendly .
Aw thank you!
Thank you 🤩
omg. Can we keep you! Your amazing
Where have you been all of my life!
You're awesome!
Thank you!
reminds me of ms Rachel haha love it ❤
Super helpful
Thank you for the comment!
My son is autistic and non verbal with apraxia. He doesn’t wanna use pecs or sign no matter how much we try lol. He usually leads me by my hand around the house to show me what he wants. I had enough one day because I was exhausted. He finally started saying “mi mi mi mi” for “milky” when he saw I wouldn’t get up. I got up once he said “mi mi mi” tho!
That’s a good way to encourage talking and showing your child their words work.
@@user-hn5nu2wi4o I wish y’all would stop spamming peoples accounts. I see comments like these everywhere.
My son is 4 and also autistic. He also will not use pecs or sign. His speech teacher pushes pecs hard and it makes him so angry that he screams and cries the entire session. He leads us around by hand and puts our hand on what he wants or he will get the actual object and hand it to me. Like if he wants chocolate milk he will open the fridge and hand me the chocolate milk or put my hand on it. He has a few “words” like dada, mama, yeah, night night, and sissy. He refuses to do any speech related things in front of his speech therapist but he will do things for me. I wonder why they push pecs so hard with autistic children? Every child that I’ve come across that has autism refuses to do pecs.
@@AmandaLeeRex my son is the exact same way!! When I look at pecs I understand lol. They are all weirdly colored and the pictures are all over the place.
I have some printed out pics of things my son likes, like his juice, or tv shows he likes… and he will use them MAYBE 1/20 times lol.
I think when he is older he will be interested in just typing out his needs because he loves the alphabet. But as of right now, the hand leading is what works for him!
My son also screams so much during speech. I had to do in-home because he would have meltdowns from just pulling into the parking lot.
Now we are fully virtual and I just receive advice to implement at home 🫠
Ooof find a new SLP. As an SLP myself, PECS is antiquated. Look for a therapist well versed in AAC and gestalt language processing. Research shows that 85% of autistic children are gestalt language processors.
Thank you
Hello, awesome tips and strategies, can't wait to share with my preschoolers and parents ❤
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Thank you for sharing!
Halfway through this video and already hit subscribe.
Super helpful content for parents. ❤️
@@Amina90982can I know more details
Same mama!
Thank you!! @@adrienneweisner5263
Really practical and helpful.Thanks
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks a million ma'am. I'll try this out. My son started speaking and at age two he stopped. Right now he has become monosyllabic but can't answer his name nor say "I am fine". It's so exhausting
I'm so happy I found this channel. I've been getting nervous about my daughter not using many words, she knows a few single words and very small sentences but a large amount of her speech is just babbling. I hope these tips can help me
I'm sure they can! LMK if you have any questions!
The same with my nephew. I'm thinking it's lack of being around kids his age but time and practice shall tell.
@Amina90982Is he on CZcams?
let me know how it goes!
Thanks for these tips.
My son would be 3years old next month but just says a few single words like, 'go, up, apple and ball', other times, he just babbles.
His favourite word is Apple, he loves to say it at anytime.
He is not autistic.
I want to get him to start saying sentences but I just dont know where to start from.
So typically we would like to see a child's vocabulary be roughly 250 words before using sentences, and 50 words to begin combining 2 words - HOWEVER, you could teach 2 word combos by combining his favorite word "apple" with other fun words that he already says - you could roll apples around and say GO APPLE!!! or throw apples in the air and say APPLE UP! etc. You could also combine onomatopeas with apple like "UH OH! APPLE! or YAY! APPLE!" or "MMMM! APPLE!" etc. Hope this helps!
@@TheSpeechScoop it does help. I'm grateful for your response. I'll keep trying out all the tips.
You are amazing omg!!! I needed this
Glad it was helpful!
Wow finally an actually useful video. Many thanks
Glad it’s helpful!
thank you thank you thank you sooooooo much!!! we cant afford private therapists and it feels almost impossible to get any help from anywhere I call. My insurance won't cover therapies, and I make to much for any kind of aid! All of my money is going to my mortgage and bills though! so THANK YOU for helping give basics of communication skills.
Check out Early intervention program in your city. They offer lots of services and it’s free regardless of your income
Im starting to understand ms rachel after watching this🤣
Same! It’s no wonder my baby loves her lol
YESSSS!
I naturally do all these. My first three were early talkers but my 4th is 13 months and she’s quiet as a mouse. Only says Dada. But she loves books and songs so hopefully she catches up soon.
Thanks for the tip
@user-hn5nu2wi4o
Our nonverbal so. Has started to whisper words to us. These are correct
Thank tou so much
This was just on top of the main page and I'm so glad I clicked it. My baby is only 5 months but I love the tips for when he gets older
Yay! so happy! for your 5 month old, be sure to check out this REEL from @Lovevery where I go over tips to move from cooing to babbling
I'm so glad I found your channel!
:)
Nice 👍
❤❤thank you
Thank you!!! Please, what is the book you show towards the end of the video?? And please do a video about trilingual families!!!
Thank you soo much for this video, will definitely try this, I haven't been to a doctor for assessment but recently discovered that he might be autistic after talking to my doctor if I should be concerned at 3yrs he's struggling to form sentences, he suggested I research abt autism and he has most of the symptoms however he is getting there slowly with his vocabulary at 1st I thought he was just stubborn but now he's 3 and there's nothing to be stubborn abt he is struggling somehow. I am very patient with him now and each time he learns a new word it's an ecstatic moment for the both of us!!! Thanks again, I really appreciate this, will come back to advise on progress achieved
Some autistic children learn best through phrases vs single words! I would recommend checking out information on gestalt language processing - I have a video with tips czcams.com/video/sB4uI_dHJOA/video.htmlsi=n4gFBKKupgETr16M but Meaningfulspeech.com also has a lot more indepth information!
Cool video
Damn needed this 26yrs ago
Thank you very much 😭😭 This was such a help to us as we have a long wait to get in with a SLP in our area.
Anytime! Happy to help!! ❤️
What a great video. I just need to help my 6 years ASD son to have more functional speech that too much eco and self talk which is random and unrelated speech. Plssss help
I wish you were my daughters speech therapist
My 26 month old has a speech therapist that comes 2x weekly for his expressive speech delay. She does basically none of this it seems like a waste of time! This video seems really helpful and ill try adding in a few of these techniques.
Don't feel bad about advocating for another speech therapist. Every child needs to "jive" with their therapist and have that rapport and bonding in order to make progress!
Why there is no video for few months... Yes or no question i have tried with my kid and it is a success.... Now my kid started saying yes and no for his likes and dislikes.. i have been following ur videos.. it's been very useful and at the same time very interesting... Thank you so much 😊
Hi!!! I have 1 video that I filmed about 5 months ago that I will try to get out in the next week or so! I love that you keep up with my content - thank you! I actually just finished our 3rd round of IVF and am currently 36 weeks pregnant with our 1 little embryo! So I appologize no videos recently but hang in there!! super soon!
My 21 month old doesnt even say mama but he used to at 4 months? Why would this happen he stopped chatting when he started crawling/walking.
Hello Doctor, My son has delay in expressive language and tongue tie, where he has age adequate receptive language, emotional response. Could you please help me by making video on parallel talking. Thank you.
Hi there😁 thank you for you informative videos. Please can you create some content to help our kids pronounce words correctly🙏
Yes! so I have videos that are sound specific, are there any specific sounds you're looking for help with? :)
wow so many amazing tips thanks for this!! it's hard being a first time mother and while some of this seems like it should just be common sense , it just doesn't naturally occur for all of us 😅 i'm a very quiet person so i've been trying my best to talk as much as i can to my sons but i think i'm missing the being interesting and fun aspect 😂
Momming is hard. We can barely make it though the day, so being fun and interesting isn’t top priority for most. Don’t worry, I’m right here w ya & you’re doing great! ❤
Hello and Ciao from Italy. I learned a lot from your videos. Any suggestions and advices for a GESTALT learner child? My daughter actually memorized all the nursery rhymes, alphabets and shapes but no actual conversation. She knows some expressive speech such as " Go bed" , drink milk.
Same as mine but he can’t communicate he can only show you what he wants
yes! I do have a video on gestalt language processing and also if you check out meaningfulspeech.com she has a lot of great information and resources!
My partner watches our 17 month old and he always has background music on. Sometimes I find it’s too loud. Is it possible that music can keep my baby from paying attention? He’s had delayed milestones and I have a feeling it’s because he’s being constantly stimulated with too many toys and too much sound.
Hi. I just discovered your channel. What strategies can I use with a 2 year that has suspected CAS?
I wanna help late talkers and let them know that they are loved.
I am a nanny, I have been trying hard to make the toddler speak 2 words, she is still in a 1 word phase but the parents always gives it a wrong meaning. I am upset feels like they are confusing her with words . I know the child is saying Yes but gives haiesh sound for saying Yes and when she wants something she keeps going haiesh haiesh which I understand as she wants it and asking for it by nodding her head down . The parents says Hi in a response when she is actually saying Yes.. while I say yes? She nods haiesh I know she is saying yes to it. And when I tell the mom about it she is like no she is saying hi.. when I wanted to repeat after her by saying yes? Heish yes!!!
Geart mam
thank you!
My toddler sings like the whole song but only speaks two words beside me doing everything I’ve mentioned already should I be worried?
My little is turning 3 in two weeks, and they have a lot of words, but they still use mostly jargon as fillers... my wife and I only worry after gathering with my brother's 3 year old and our out of town cousin who is also three and you can have full conversations with them, their speech feels so much more advanced that our little. It's hard to not feel like we're letting them down in some way because the other kids have had the benefit of daycare and exposure whereas ours was at home (pandemic and financial reasons). Some of these strategies feels like it's beneath them but at the same time they feel like things we should have been doing and didn't, either because we didn't know better or it was difficult because we were also working from home. Ugh.
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We used basic signs by default just like we did with our eldest... my suspected apraxia child (20m) uses them so much, often depending on them. Should we stop using signs so she can use sounds instead?
Damn kids must love you. I was laughing at your examples. You could do cartoon voice acting fr 😅
I would talk all day to my baby and son and I think it worked
Love to hear that!
I would be very interested on a video on echolalia in slightly older autistic kids. I know you've covered both peripherally but im keen to understand how to appeal to my echolalic child. Hes almost 6 and uses very sophisticated vocabulary for his age but has trouble with a lot of word sounds and is very echolalic. He tends to repeat most things in a whisper and only then will respond to people (although not always). I would love to understand how we can capitilise on this for an older and already verbal child. How can we appeal to the way his brain is taking in and processing speech.
I definitely think learning about gestalt language processing will help! I do have 1 video that briefly discuss this in addition to Echolalia, but I think better understanding that process for an older child will help! Meaningfulspeech.com has some great resources on GLP
Why do I have problems saying words in a row that all start with the same letter?
I find this very helpful thank you! However I'm trying to teach my baby Spanish first but I find this even harder in Spanish because we don't have so many monosyllable words like in English you have to say "empujar" and in English it's just "push" so it's much easier in English :(
Use both words when you speak! Typically children will understand both words but will choose the easier one to say at first. As their speech/language skills develop over time, simple switch to the spanish word and they should easily pick up on it!
Hi I watched your video for echolalia my child has echolalia he is 4 years old but get speech in prek4 2 30min 1on1 but not enough I also will like to know what speech therapist should I seek through my insurance please help
Hey there, I would sit in on your child's speech sessions if at all possible so that you see the techniques that he/she is using and implement them at home every day! You can also go through your insurance or advocate for your child to get more sessions at school. ultimately, schools (have to) do what the parent wants, so just be firm about your child's needs. You can also hire an advocate to help you at meetings.
Amazing content! So glad I found this channel. We have a 3 year old boy with quite delayed speech. He can only say "Mum" or "Mama", "More" and "Up". Almost all other words are spoken in vowels, he has brilliant rhythm and can imitate almost everything I say or sing he just seems to do it with vowels and struggles to attach the consonants. We've also noticed for "F" sounds he will sniff his nose and "S" he will put his lips together and use the back of his throat. Ill be trying some /m,p,b/ sounds and hand cues from your other videos. In your opinion do these traits fall under CAS?
Hey, speech therapist here, I would get him evaluated by an SLP if you haven’t already. Those /f/ and /s/ sounds seems like there could possibly be a structural anomaly in the palate, maybe something you can’t see like a sub mucous palate OR they could be learned mistakes. Try having him make an /s/ sound while plugging his nose and see what happens. If his /s/ sounds back to normal, it’s a learned error and he can do speech therapy to fix it!
@@laurachamblee7588thank alot we will try that. He's Currently in speech therapy now and is making leaps and bounds.
so happy to hear that!! Thanks for reaching out!
Mine doesn’t have no speech at all just echos.He’s 3
This is my child. 10000000% that sniff 😂
I need someone to teach me Japanese or Spanish like this.
Dude look up Japanese children’s show that’s how I’m learning German lol
haha! same!
😂😂😂😂
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Tell me why I am watching this video, and when she says "PEEK- A - BOOO!" I automatically feel a smile come on me. lmao. I am a grown adult, i can just imagine how a child must feel with the same energy ^-^
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My baby does n’t copy me?? What can I do ? I m very worried about it😢
Will this help 🤔 non verbal children also?
Absolutely!
I now get why my daughter is learning from ms Rachel than from me
You can do it mama, hang in there! Ms Rachel uses Parentese - which is naturally attention drawing for kids! Give it a try if you haven’t already! 😍
My son is 2yo and is really good in labeling, can even recite planets, count 1 to 50, spell letters in a word, recognize colors but cannot communicate in a functional way, like when he needs help, he just learned “Open please”. My problem is he doesn’t follow when I say No, dont touch that or what.
Mine is exactly the same !
Try a visual! and these tips! czcams.com/video/6fAN7v1Y518/video.htmlsi=0pUF5z0VUfsc5wJs
My wife and i just started having appointments with a speech therapist for our son. When his speech therapist arrives at our home she just seems to play with his while we do and make sound effects for 45 minutes then tells us to keep doing what were doing and leaves. Is this how a typical appointment would go? At this point we just feel as if nothing happens during his appointment. Thank you for any advice!
Great question! I actually have a video that is titled “help! My speech therapist just plays with my child!” Or something along that lines on my language development playlist! Be sure to check that out!
It COULD mean that she is working on a few of the prelinguistic language skills - such as attention span, Moto imitation & communicative intent - but she should be communicating with you on which skills she is targeting & why during the sessions. I would definitely ask questions! & also check out my video on 11 prelinguistic language skills!
My son just started speech therapy as well. Mine are virtual and basically just watch us play and give tips and tricks on different phrases to use. I’m giving it a chance but would love to know if your experience has gotten better
@Amina90982 thats a horrible take you cant heal or cure autism
She is doing great hang in there it will pay off I was just like you but results were amazing I hope this helps
Will this work for a child that potentially is an ASD toddler?
Yes! Should definitely help but also try joining them & imitating them first! Then once they are interested in participating with you, extend by trying to get them to imitate you instead!