What 24 Hours of Microaggressions Feel Like
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- čas přidán 2. 08. 2024
- This is what 24 Hours of microaggressions feels like, and why you should build an antifragile defense against them. Most DEI corporate trainings in the US encourage employees to watch out for these racial insensitivities in the workplace. College campuses are encouraging safetyism to prevent students for 'harm' that I struggle to depict in the video. All-in-all, its a moral system that declares offender guilty until proven innocent. The case I make here is not to further encourage this fragile mindset, but show how ridiculous it is, and unhelpful it might be for improving mental health in the long run.
I go through the streets of Los Angeles, from North Hollywood to El Sereno, using the Critical Race Theory and Critical Social Justice lens of 'microaggressions' to view my regular day-to-day interactions.
Time Stamps
00:00 - Intro
00:50 - Laundromat
01:30 - Hair
04:26 - Skateboarding and sensitivity
05:01 - Cars and microaggressions
05:51 - Police
06:16 - Authority
06:39 - Eating out
07:47 - Escalator
08:45 - Arriving at El Sereno
09:03 - Tennis courts
09:41 - Skatepark
10:07 - After El Sereno
10:27 - Train
10:34 - Skatepark run down
10:56 - Race vs. sex
12:10 - Intersectionality
14:00 - Skateboarding and hypermasculinity
14:23 - Microaggressions at night
14:36 - Walking to 7/11
16:59 - At 7/11
18:20 - After 7/11
19:18 - Social media check in
19:42 - Sleep, negative neuropathways and microaggressions
20:25 - Social media statistics
21:30 - Summary of 24 hours
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Micro aggressions help us build character in small increments. If we overreact to micro aggressions, we’ll never be able to handle actual aggressions.
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That was an interesting experiment. Truth be told most people aren't thinking about others in any meaningful way. Most are too busy thinking about their own lives, goals, tasks at hand. Putting food on the table and keeping a roof over their head, meeting job expectations. I'm 48 and haven't encountered much in the way of racist people, not that many would admit it because it's shameful. But from what I can tell you are spot on, WAY too many people are overthinking every day life and I cannot imagine how you find time to just be grateful and enjoy it while constantly worrying about what others MIGHT be thinking. I don't have time for that.
Great comment. It's way too much energy and anxiety trying to read peoples minds, let alone add extra insult to people who may have inadvertently put their foot in their mouth.
I like that you aren't saying "microaggressions don't exist", but rather, "don't fixate on the way others treat or perceived you."
microaggression thinking is so seductive because it feeds on all our insecurity. in my youth, i would have moments of misreading people based on my self doubts. hell, i still do it sometimes today. but we didn't have a hyper awareness of intersectionality, so i just started realizing i can't control what people think even if i know them, and i can only be responsible for who i know i am.
AMEN!!!!
The way you described that is very interesting in that it kind of highlights how a certain flavor of psychological infantalization is involved in the scenario of training people to be hyper aware of microaggression, among other facets of the whole scene.
Think of being an insecure adolescent, super hyper aware of your own negative ideations and projections of what you think that other people are thinking of you (because of course everyone is thinking about me..) .. now think of being stuck in an arrested development consciousness state at that stage of development..
A lot of people who don’t want to be perceived as racist, sexist, ableist, homophobic, etc. will tense up and try to “act natural” when around someone they worry will judge them. They often inadvertently cause a micro aggression because of the tension.
A lot of people get tense when they meet activists. And they’re right to do so since activists are agressive bullies.
I feel this. It's a struggle for sure. For me it's part of my social anxiety, worrying about how I am perceived.
@@1girlrevalution you know what helped me with this when I was a teen? I just recognized that most people are self-conscious to some degree so they are probably more concerned about what you think of them...:D
@@day_dreamer_ psychologists call that the spotlight effect
Regarding the gender thing at the skate park
Super Masculine != (does not equal) toxic masculinity. Those two are often confused, but are separate topics. Being a super masculine dude isn't necessarily a bad thing. (Just look at the Himbo trope).
Being masculine does not automatically mean you hate women, or think lesser of them. It mainly just means you like being the *M A N L I E S T M A N* you can be.
Boys are very nice with my girl at the skate park. Very respectful, of everybody, especially the little and the beginners. They always teach her a few things every time.
@@junobeach6589 Wholesome 100
@@junobeach6589 Don't you mean they "mansplain her a few things every time"? :)
I agree. It was hard to find the right words to explain that skatepark thing, so thanks for adding this.
@@boboloko here's some mansplaing for you .
You are a ungrateful, paranoid and delusional.
Did you buy that land ?
Did you dirt frame and set those forms ?
Did you pour that concrete get trowels out of your truck crawl around on your hands and knees finishing the concrete?
Did you wake up and dawn the next day and break forms , grind and sweep for hours pour and finish more concrete?
Some dude gives a little girl skating tips and hes mansplaing?
Men build the world you take for granted and we aren't allowed to communicate with you because your so powerful independent and fragile?
You think xena warrior princess built all this while you you were struggling with what gender you identify with today .
Go build a freeway
“You’d worry a lot less what other people think of you if you knew just how little the did.” - someone
great job, Kimi.
You could literally torture yourself with other people's negative ideology. People have started to finding new and improved ways to be unhappy! Well done for trying to teach an alternative way to look at life 🙂
As a pale person (;-)) I can get very self-conscious about my straight boring hair, store clerks don't always greet me (which may also be a cultural difference), cars don't let me cross intersections at times, people may not make space on side walks (because some people don't care) or move away from me (because privacy or just wanting to be alone)... So yeah, definitely agree that seeing these things as microaggressions based on racism is mainly dependent on your mental state. Thank you for sharing!
Also, in Vienna at least, people actually made two lines on escalators. You'd stand on the right side and go up on the left side (aka if you needed to or wanted to be faster). Had to learn that myself when living there but thought it's a great idea
Jesus Christ, all I can think about is how lucky any guy would be to run into you while you are walking, and you agree to meet him for coffee. You are beautiful in EVERY way.
Meeting Jesus while out for a walk would be quite a thing.
I'm only a quarter of the way through the video, but all I can think, is it must be exhausting to find microaggressions in everything you do. So far, the video is only to early afternoon. Everything up to this point has been fairly mundane, and there have been very few instances were an aggression might have occurred. That being said, we know of people who could've found something to be mad about at this point. I just feel, maybe a little sorry? Sad? that there are people who find something to be upset about all the time.
There are racists out there but most people are going through their own problems and are just trying to get though their day.
Micro-aggression oven is a wonderful expression that needs more love.
Thank you for what you do and your honesty! This is such an important topic! I’m really impressed with your channel.
Microagrressions literally seem like the exact same thing i feel like when dealing with my unhealthy amounts of anxiety, self consciousness, insecurity, depression, and lack of self confidence when I go about my day in public. Like....... literally the EXACT same thing. The only difference is that people with the microagrression mindset think that it has to do with people being racist, sexist, homphobic, etc. when it's honestly just they are just getting inside their head and trying to read another person's mind. They basically are putting their insecurities and other issues on the other person when it's just them getting inside their head and over-analyzing the situation.
I like the part where you mentioned anti-fragility. Critical race theory talks about white fragility, but in reality, it's making everyone more fragile, perhaps even more so for non-whites, as it instils a victim mentality.
What I really appreciate about you is that you are a critical thinker. You don't always resort to one way of thinking, you think of all of the possibilities.
"waiting for people to create safety for me to engage, allowed me to have an overwhelmingly positive experience" Thank you for sharing this
Nice perspective. I like the angle you take on microaggressions.
I've been there. Thinking I know what's going on inside someone else's head, the reasons for their actions, etc.
Eventually it was clear that I was reacting to stuff I'd made up. Definitely a narcissistic mental space.
Good video. 🙏🏼
Re clerks saying hi to another customer but not you - I get that sometimes too... I've lived in rural towns my whole life and have noticed that the Clerk usually has something of a relationship w the ppl they say hi to. Either they actually know the person or the person is a regular. Sometimes if I go through the same check-out at a later time the Clerk is nice so I'm guessing they have off days too (being a kirttle sarcastic there cause of course they can have off days)... The only time I concider behavior as a micro aggression is if I know the person well enough to know, like co workers. But even then you have to give some grace and ask if the behavior is actually problematic. Most times it isn't.
I’m a clerk and I try to be kind all the time, but sometimes I hear my greeting come out wrong like annoyed or edgy and I didn’t even mean anything, but I feel bad that that person got an off greeting, but I must say it’s really hard to stay authentically friendly to strangers/customers all day.
As evidence you left that old mindset, I absolutely think that in the past you would've taken the least charitable explanation for things like people moving away from you on the train
That’s just why I came looking at the comments in fact. Excusing the people for moving away on the train showed to me a tremendous contrast in maturity level between Kimi and the stereotypical micro aggression sensitive individual. Where she could find a reasonable explanation, another type of person would not feel satisfied until they found an explanation that allows them to cast blame outward.
Thank you. This is so needed. So often, we find what we expect to see, and this can overrule the reality of what's there. Our experience of the world is also, in important ways, an interpretation based on expectation. God bless you.
Thanks for sharing your day with us! I want to see the world through other people's eyes as much as possible, and you helped me to do just that. I love your positive message. Yes, there have been many transgressions in the past and even in the present. Having said that, I hope many people hear your message and consider adopting the same attitude.
Being willing to step out of a habit, negative thinking, or anything one does that negatively impacts you is difficult and requires humility. Doing so in front of millions is truly tough and truly amazing. We are called daily by God to take up the crosses in our lives and put them to death for our mental, spiritual, and physical well being. I admire the faith you have and practice and choose to share with others. Truly, you are a disciple of Christ. ❤️
The Lord bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.
This was .... uncomfortable to watch. I imagine it was similarly difficult to make. Thank you. I can fall into the trap of dismissing people who fixate on microaggressions because it is a self centered pursuit (when done constantly) and I try to avoid that. However, it was interesting to see a bit of it like this. I helped me find some sympathy for people stuck in this.
Glad to see you're moving past the CRT bs. That stuff is poison to the mind. Much
Very interesting, I didn't really realize all these things were microagressions. I experience them myself being white with other white people, so I never viewed it through a racial lense, but just noticing people around me in public and their behavior. Your awesome at skateboarding! Looked like a fun day.
I did not see anything that looked like a micro or a macro aggression at all in the entire video. It seems really neurotic to pick up on moments where humans don't interact with you in the perfectly ideal way and assume that it's because they have some racial hatred towards you.
@@rickyrayrosenberg420 well I wouldn't refer to them as microagressions but she was explaining what it was through the lens of social justice worldview.
@@rickyrayrosenberg420 that's the weird thing. It's an internal lens. 90% of the time, wokeness is internal awareness of the world around you. It was very hard to capture anything on camera and I actually had a really good day!
@@Nyonyozimusic you are a child of God. We are all brothers and sisters in this human experience. I am glad the veil has been lifted from you and pray your journey grants you more wisdom. We are stardust - not these crude shells.
Honestly, this just seems like what it's like to have social anxiety...
Thanks for doing this video. I do feel is part of the insecurities, because I was there too. But I grew up and evolved. 🙏🏽
I will say the hair thing is something I have struggled with growing up, my hair is naturally wavy/curly and my baby hairs around my face will curl up and create a halo around my head, I hate it, with a passion, when it happens I stress out and think everyone will be looking at me, judging me on how much of a mess I am. I handle it much better than I had, most days better than others.
What are precieved micro aggressions are seem to be our insecurities about ourselves manifesting and are seemingly projected back to us by those around us. But I've found most people really don't care, and the person giving me an odd look in the parking lot wasn't looking and judging me for my hair, freckles, big forehead, or large front teeth, they just had something in their eye or something lol.
Love your content.
I get the halo thing. My hair does that too. I use to try and pin it down, but that just made it look even more strange. I just kind of live with it now.
Interesting perspective. Thank you. Additionally, some of the commercials surrounding your video were related to racism. It was a very full package of information. I appreciate how you navigate your day and the energy you put into strengthening your self.
Yes, one problem with a micro-aggression mindset is that it takes an omniscient stance towards others, without necessarily having a clue as to what they are actually thinking. Not to mention that "fear of man" is a degrading way to live - for anyone.
Appreciate you Kimi. I like to hear your perspective. Listening to other people's life experiences keeps me open, fluid and connected. Thank you
Thank you so much!!! Also, you have a relaxing quality about your videos. I’m a bIG ASMR guy.
With what I understand so far about “micro aggressions,” it reminds me of “seeking offense” or “taking offense” where none is intended. I agree with the overanalyzing assertion. It makes sense that some in minority groups might have experiences or issues passed down through generations…but it’s not necessarily the fault of people in the here and now (like your experiences and remaining feelings with police and/or “white-male-dominated” spaces.
On the other side of the coin…if “micro-aggression” becomes a mainstream concept, I imagine many people walking on eggshells in their own minds. Overpolicing our own thoughts. Now, sometimes when I see a black guy, I think “Oh great, what does he think of me right now, I better be careful of all my expressions…does he believe in the CRT ideologies?” Whereas I never had those thoughts before social justice warriors. I could just be myself and people were just people.
I’m concerned about the attitude of “I interpreted your actions as racism, therefore you must bow down regardless of your intentions and submit yourself to my worldview.” (When there are a bunch of other ways to interpret (or ignore) something!!!)
it seems like in order to see microagressions you first have to have the mindset that you are important enough that everyone is always focused on you all the time. all i was seeing was people worried about living their own lives, it makes me wonder how often indifference is read as microagression.
it must take some powerful mental gymnastics to have a victim mindset in conjunction with such narcissism. i'm glad you are past all that now, thank you for sharing this.
Very interesting thought experiment! Sadly, confirmation bias is alive and well. If you expect to experience microaggression, you will find it at every turn. If, on the other hand, you fill your mind with positive thoughts and expect the best of other people, your experience will almost certainly be much more positive. Blessings from Texas!
I love your videos and the message you give out. So happy you exist😊
Love your attitude and perspective. Really like your videos. Thanks for doing these.
I like your take. Keep making good content. 👍
Amazing! This was excellent. If you look for racism, misogyny, or any mistreatment, even if it’s not there, your mindset will find it for you. I go in most public situations giving everyone and everything the benefit of the doubt, until not. In public, I’m never on my phone while I’m moving and only look at it for information not amusement and only when I’m in a perceived safe environment. I try to pay attention as much as possible. I’m a people watcher, not people judge until I have to.
Thank you Kimi!
Kimmi- I hate that you have such a negative feeling with police still. You are so smart, beautiful, and articulate. I totally admire how authentic you are, it’s inspiring. I want to encourage you to seek out positive interactions with police. My kids often go to our local PD station to donate extra Halloween candy or write encouraging cards to give to our officers. Our community even has a monthly coffee with the chief event. Where citizens meet the chief for a informal coffee at a local shop. This would give you some opportunities to meet the police in a non threatening way! Many blessings on your journey!
You are a beautiful and genuine person, Kimi. Thank you for this video. I didn't understand what a microagression was.
Hi Kimi, i loved your video. I just wanted to say that I work in law enforcement and I still get nervous when I get stopped by police. For example when I’m driving.
I really appreciate your thoughtful content and I hope we can all try and understand each other based on the content of our character - as MLK hoped. Your videos help us all to do that!
That was an awesome well articulated inside experience. As a therapist it would be like if a client explained their perspective that everyone is out to get them, and I said, Yes go with that perspective (which will only make them continue to see things according to their traumatic experience and feel bad about themselves - not to mention powerless).
I would have moved if I saw a camera, makes me so self concious, although if I recognized you, I’d be like , hey, Kimi! Haha, looked like such a pretty day. I admire that you can talk to the camera like that, I don’t think I could do it, especially out and about around other people. Good video, makes you think. And yowza, that skateboarding, my ankles hurt watching it, haha! Take care.
Neat idea for a video! When I see a skate boarder on the sidewalk, I figure they need to get somewhere quickly!
You're an impressively positive person. I enjoy your videos.
I think worrying about how your hair looks is a human thing. It's certainly a woman thing. I have straight fine hair and still have to worry whether it's doing something wonky. It's sad that people are being conditioned to view common experiences as though they are unique to them and even further to condition them to view it as oppression/discrimination.
Yeah, same. I have very thick, curly, coarse hair for a white girl and it goes down past my butt. I’m always worrying about how it looks when I’m in public because it’s super wonky and has a mind of it’s own. I definitely see how black hair has its own worries but I think being worried about how you look and how people are judging you for it applies across the board. Even for men. My brothers worry about their hair sometimes too (granted that happens much less than with the women I know, including me lol)
Amen! I hate my hair… it’s definitely plotting to ruin my life! 🤣
This is interesting. Thanks for the education. Very well done.
Thanks for sharing
This is so so good and real. I'll never forget when my cousin from Philly came to visit me in Texas and we went out to dinner and she looked around and said look at all these white people staring at us. It was such an eye opener for me and I was so confused because I looked around and I was like nobody is worrying about us. They're all laughing and having a good time. Made me see how we were so brain washed living in Philly and many other inner cities
I love natural hair on black women. It’s so soft and beautiful! When I grew up in the 60s, the “Afro” was so popular, the bigger the better! I’m really jealous that you are so good on a skateboard.. :-). I’m sure you’ve heard this from white friends before, but I always check myself when I go by a cop, either walking or driving. We are all of us more alike than different. May you be extra blessed this day, week, month, year, life, Kimi!
Such an important video. Hope more people see it.
With micro aggressions, one can never be sure to what extent the issue is in our heads. Often it happens that people misinterpret the intent of the other person, but unless you have an argument with that person, you would never know what that person meant with their action…
Love the statement about holding yourself in the center of the universe. I am the center of the universe...just ask me.
This is a very good video, refusing to be a victim. microaggretions are self destructive.
I wonder what would be the most compassionate and understanding way to respond to feelings of micro aggression that is based on race. I have been having a hard time with becoming aware of peoples feelings about racial micro aggression as a white person because I get anxiety about wether or not my actions are going to be misinterpreted. I do have compassion about how trauma can effect the way interactions with others are viewed. I was severely bullied all through my school years for so many reasons by almost everyone at school. The trauma I experienced is not the same as experiencing racial trauma but I use this experience to try to understand how many people of color are feeling right now. What I mean is that I understand how experiences of trauma can cause a person to feel that they are experiencing the same treatment over and over again wether that is really what is going on or not. I do care about how people are feeling but I also can’t think about it too much because I start becoming overly paranoid that I am seen as an aggressor in some way. I can be kind and be the best person I can be and I truly do care but I only have so much control of what others perceive me to be doing and I can’t please everyone. I think that an important thing to realize is that we are all human and can have a million things going on in our lives no matter what race we are that could effect our interactions with others. If we don’t always have the perfect most appropriate interactions it might not have anything to do with us. It truly might not be something that we need to take personally…
I like to assume the best intentions of people, unless it’s explicitly stated otherwise (I’m mixed white/native). Looking for microaggressions or prejudices trained my brain to receive hurt and fear in the most mundane things, it was a mental prison. That’s not to say they don’t exist, they do and racism deserves to be addressed. It takes a toll on everyone. Knowing that I’m mentally and spiritually stronger than what might be out there helped heal deep, long lasting wounds. Thank you for your words!
I am telling you girl, people are going to to be rude because they are just that way in general or they are just distracted it happens to everyone!!! And yeah sometimes it's personally directed and they will be rude based on their own prejudices or insecurities or just uncertainty and that's unfortunate for them...jealousy is a big one. This is a great video and it's something we all have to work on even without the race lense or crt because the brain hyper focuses on negativity, it's a survival mechanism....crt is exploiting that! You rock way to get out there with the skater boys I'd be intimidated too haha but as you said it's just an opportunity to overcome that yourself.
I wonder if upward mobility plays a role in this. If a person feels she has good possibilities for the future, she will be able to move away from negative interpretations of small interactions with people. When people feel stuck, negativity spreads through their lives.
Great video! How did you dig yourself out of this toxic mindset? How would you suggest handling being accused of a microaggression or trying to reach someone with this mindset?
I know I’m not who you are asking this question to, but were I to be accused of a micro aggression, I would simply apologize. Whether I intended to or not, I hurt that person and they deserve respect even if the “accusation” is unfounded.
Hey Karen, I personally got out of this mindset by forgiving most acts of 'racism' or 'microaggressions' I could remember - especially if they came from friends or acquaintances. If someone has been accused of a microaggression, they should ask specifically what the microaggression they enacted was first, and then provide the true reason behind their actions. For example, earlier in the video (not caught on camera) a man moved away from me on the train as soon as I sat down. If I were to confront him, it would be great if he explained the truth behind his decision - which is most likely that he did not want to be on camera. That way, the accuser realizes that there might have been other reasons behind the perceived microaggression, not simply 'racism'. Only after that would I advise apologizing like Koryn mentioned. Perhaps amends can be made and forgiveness be granted thereafter.
If I might add... For me, it was moving to Texas from Philly and seeing white conservative people in a very different light than what I had grown up believing them to be. Being in the homeschool space I realized we had a lot more in common than I thought. That made me understand that perhaps I was judging people's intent without considering other possibilities especially when I saw them behave the same way towards other white people
I'm white and I love messy natural hair on anyone. Black, white, Asian and everyone else. Strait blond hair, kinky black hair, it's all beautiful.
Thank you for explaining this concept, now I understand.
About having to assert yourself into the skatepark space (any shared athletic space), I think ALL MEN have to do this until they get to a particular skill level or degree of familiarity with space and the regulars.
I think it's them being territorial. Or maybe their own trauma making them hypervigilent.
You helped me understand white privilege, sarcasm intended. As a white woman, I experience all of these "microaggressions" but I figure the people are just rude or oblivious! An attitude of gratitude is a literal gift from God.
I love your videos
Now you should do a contrasting video on 24 hours of positive energy and boosted self esteem being your smart friendly lovely self that you truly are. With the goal of meeting your new best friend today and compare and contrast your results. That would be cool 😎 BTW nice skating
Praise Jesus Christ you have been delivered from your 'worldly mind'. Microaggressions is just the carnal mind going out of control with mostly irrational fears. Are there instances of actual racism? Yes. But should we live our lives looking for the next act of actual or most of the time perceived microaggressions? I think it is a miserable way to live. Stinking thinking is what it is. Romans 12:2 says "And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. ..." Your mind can be completely transformed! You can overcome the fears, doubts, and misgivings. You can walk in total faith through the Holy Spirit of God. Also, "Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. " Jesus while he was on Earth endured a lot more than microaggressions. He endured the ultimate insult - the cross. If we have the mind of Christ, we don't have to suspiciously think that everybody is out to get us. We live free in our minds to have God's compassion for other people (knowing they are lost sinners needing the grace of God). We learn to see people through His eyes. We worry more about other people than ourselves. As for your natural hair, honey you are "fearfully and wonderfully made". Beautiful in the eyes of our Lord. Remember this. You are a precious daughter of the High King. Who cares what others think? Continue to grow in the grace of God. Thank you for your videos.
YES! When I came to Christ. I no longer felt the weight of considering and obsessing over how someone will think of me every day. And I still do have to keep myself set apart from people who really WANT to fit into their harmful stereotypes. Especially as a child of immigrants who want me to advance and do much better. But I’m no longer even raging over slurs. I just don’t associate myself with that blatant hate. And my sister keeps making racial jokes about other races although she is “liberal” and I hate it. It’s like everyone is obsessed so much with race
Wow, amen!
What a beautiful way to word this! ❤️
Wowww that's insane that Instagram lets you know all the interactions that happens with your account. I can see how that can aggravate the need for outer validation and allow for percieved slights.
Noticing microaggressions means you life is soooo good that you have to dig to find something wrong.
That would be so insanely draining to live that way, hyper vigilant to any little thing. It’s like the people who are teaching this want people to be sucked dry of their life force.
I totally get that feeling from the skate park. I don't skate myself, but I have been doing kick boxing for over a year now. The place I kick box at is a class of all men, a lot of whom are really good at fighting. There were a lot of times where I felt intimidated because of my gender. I do want to say, that's not the fault of the guys I box with at all, they are super supportive and encouraging. After doing it for a while I feel super comfortable there, but starting out was difficult because of my mind set. I know none of them see me as inferior, I just had to get past that in my own mind.
Best way to go through life is not being offended by anything, and if you feel offended by something, just ask yourself why and realize it doesn't matter.
Most people do not care what you do, and will probably never even notice unless you are doing something extravagant or unless they are fans and recognize you from your channel, microaggressions are not usually about the person that did them but usually about the insecurities of the person that is feeling oppressed. I am pretty sure all races have bedhead. If i go to Doctors office or any other public place I sit 3 seats away from everyone and if someone sits next to me I will move. It has nothing to do with race or sex and could be easily interpreted as a microaggression but it is really just me not being comfortable around people
We need so much more of your queen shit. Also what’s the best way to reach you for media?
I never stayed out of a space because I thought the color of my skin would exclude me. I learned that I because I was pretty and had the “ right” color skin, and “good” hair. I could tell I was treated differently, I felt micro aggressions from not being treated the same as my brothers or friends with darker skin.
It made me very upset, I have never been able to tolerate injustice.
That is the biggest 7/11 I have ever seen!
I live in a place where Whites are discriminated against. A Black friend came to visit and a store clerk was rude to us, she thought the clerk was rude because of her…I had to explain it to her😉
I wish my woke black friends would watch & understand your videos.
As a white dude, if another white dude doesn't hold a door open or greet me or whatever, I assume he's thinking about something _other than me,_ if the moment even registers at all. I can't imagine being so paranoid that I'd instead think they _were_ thinking about me and how much they hated me. I think the closest parallel I can remember would be how I imagined _everyone_ thought of me in middle school.
I think CRT teaches you to never grow out of your pubescent angst, instead embracing and harnessing it to make... someone's life easier? Idk, it sure doesn't seem to benefit anyone's mental health, but as long as money's flowing somewhere, whoever's at the end is probably the one pushing hardest.
You're dope at skating
'there is a difference between the genders there is not a difference to do with race' interesting
If I am ever in the US of A can I go skating with ya?
My long haired cat sometimes wakes up with her fur messed up, she doesn't give a rats arse.. we should all be cats!
This was a nice journey.
In my 20s, I used to think just like these woke people nowadays. But now I’m in my 30s, I see how unproductive and detrimental that type of thinking was.
I like your channel - you’re a smart young lady. Do you still play guitar?
Not merely "the more you 'know,' the more you see." Also, "the more you think you know, the more you see what you expect." Expectations are powerful and no one is altogether immune to the cognitive distortion mind reading.
"There's a lot of opportunity to INTERPRET things as racism" (emphasis mine). Ah, so not surprisingly you get it. :-]
Obviously, some actions by some people are sometimes influenced race. How often, genuinely, that's the potential poison.
"Anti-Fragility". Love it.
What I don't understand is how when it was explained to me it was like strangers touching black peoples hair (which is technically assault - so not too "micro") and like locking your door as you come to the crosswalk at a red light while someone is approaching the car as a pedestrian at the corner or moving away / crossing the street away from a group of young men. I do that all the time. Not the hair - that's ridiculous it's so obviously wrong. But when a stranger approaches your car, you don't care what color or gender they are - you suddenly remember you forgot to lock the door when you got in. I've been accosted by groups of strangers, male and female on more than one occasion - it doesn't matter what color they are - but that they are strangers and I'm alone or with just one other female. I avoid them if I can.
It just makes me wonder how much people think are micro aggression but is actually not at all personal - and 100% about feeling vulnerable in a world almost universally inhabited by strangers. You just don't know what anyone will do.
You got up and did laundry before 9 am? You are an early bird eh? I don’t even wake up by then
What an egocentric view of the world. The problem with micro aggressions is that it’s only your perception of the situation. Doesn’t take in any view or experiences the other people have. A very hateful and negative way to live life. Always believing someone is doing something because of you or your skin color or whatever it may be. This type of view takes away from the power and control we have over our own lives. You can choose the narrative of any story. Rewrite the story. Rewrite your story. Don’t allow yourself to be a victim of circumstance. Take control. Take your life back. Take your brain back.
I agree.
i'm so glad you don't have to deal with microaggressions often, but others do
interesting
Nice earrings. 🥰
I think your hair is cool.
I’ll bet that men in general experience this as well with
You should make a documentary
For me, I have a great way of discarding microaggressions:
- I worked in sewage facilities, some times knee deep in liquid sh*t. I take "micro aggression" seriously once the discomfort is superior to working 3 meters down a manhole, manually cleaning a pump from flushed down female hygiene products (please stop doing that btw) after carefully taking said pump from a pile of heroin addict syringes.
PS: I'm not even joking about any of this. As you might have guessed: "this seems oddly too specific to have been made up".
As a lot of people are saying, I as a white guy experience stuff like this all the time. I think it’s a universal experience for al young people to overthink things and believe everyone’s focus is on you. Really insidious, how people try to get you thinking you’re really experiencing micro aggressions, when it’s nothing.
Wow. I just realized I have this victim lense about feminism not race. I’ll start working on that. Thank you for the heads up.
Microaggressions are the highest level of selfishness and self-absorption. What level of narcissism do you have to be at to think everyone else’s lives revolve around oneself?