John, my wife of 53 years passed away from cancer 2 weeks after you lost your lovely wife. Your feelings of loss really some up what I have gone thru. The empty bed, the empty chair, sharing a bathroom with no one. The quietness of being in a lonely house that was so full of the sound of dishes being stacked away, footsteps down the hallway, sharing a great movie, and mostly her voice is gone never to be heard again but I stay busy by keeping our house as clean as she did and doing chores that she never let me do before because those were her things to get accomplished and I had my own list. She was a retired nurse and when she found out she had Pancreatic Cancer she knew it was her death notice. But she almost made it 5 years after her diagnosis with chemo, an 8 hour surgery and radiation thru that period of time. She survived long enough to celebrate our 50 wedding anniversary and her 70th birthday. But when the time came for hospice to arrive at our house she knew it was time and the last words she said to me were "this is going to take awhile" just two weeks before she finally joined our Lord.
I have been a widow 20 years this month! Knowing I will see my husband again helps me put one foot in front of the other. How blessed we were to walk hand in hand with our beautiful spouse!!Thank you for your beautiful words! God bless you!
People like you John who have lost their spouse / partner recently know exactly the pain you are feeling Nothing can make up for the loss and emptiness you feel when you lose a wife , husband, partner who were the love of your life ❤
John, I lost my wife 4 months ago to cancer , and I've been with her 47 yrs.I feel exactly as you do ,don't know what to do, and can't stop crying.everything you explained is my life now to the tee.God bless you john.
Crazy! How do you go on? I've been married since 2000 and she's in bad shape. Her brother is dying of cancer. I'm going to be a part of widowhood soon.
Mr. Schneider, I lost my Wife to colon cancer days after your Wife passed away . Your words and feelings are an absolute truth and only people who lost their own companions can really know how deep this pain really is. But in the end, what really matters is the incondicional love and companionship that we devoted to them through the illness until they finally returned to Jesus arms. God bless our departed loved ones and give us the strength to pursue happiness and meaning in life once again.
I lost my wife when she was 24. It crushed me. You don't just lose them, you lose a part of yourself. 21 years later, and it still hurts, but I finally found a place of peace knowing that she's still there, and I will see her again. Widowhood is all those things. I'm sorry you have had to go through this.
I still meet up with her many nights a week in my dreams. I've been sleeping more and more but it never fills the hole I'm left with. I have a minute or two every time I wake of comfort before everything comes flooding back. John, I truly respect your ability to show the world your pain, I am incapable of doing that. Thank you for helping me through the hard times I had growing up, I wish I could do the same for you now.
Incredible MAN!!!.....SIR....!!!......RESPECT Edit....I'm much older than you SIR.... I have major RESPECT for you sharing this.....have my one and only wife for 34 years!!!
I have been a widow now for eight years after being married for 42 years. Never heard anyone expressed what being a widow feels like as eloquently as you have done. Thank you for putting into words what my heart could never say. I’m so sorry for your loss. And I feel your pain. God bless you and bring you peace.
It's devastating, I was widowed suddenly 20 years ago, with 4 children. David's my complete soulmate and irreplaceable. I still feel the pain. Now, with grandchildren, I try my best but miss him every second. Only those that have felt that deep love understand. Best wishes.
All newly married couples should hear this. It’s such a beautiful representation of marriage that is often taken for granted by couples until it too late. I’m heartbroken for you John, but as much as your heart hurts is how much you loved Alicia, and true love is such a gift. Thank you for sharing your heart and your love. Sending lots of prayers for you.
You should talk to Dog The Bounty Hunter he can help you walk this step he lost his beautiful wife Beth ..his story went on and he is okay now . So sorry for the pain you have to bear . God bless you .
John it's OK you feel this way. When my daughter passed on her birthday in my arms. I didn't think I could even breath again. Yet alone live another day. It seems your body is just breaking down. John in time your time you will breath again and even smile again. Ask God for strength he will give it to you. You need it. And smile when you feel his strength.
Yes- my husband had two life threatening incidents. Praise God he is still here! We’ve been married for 34 years and I love to laugh at his silly jokes or noises that he wonders why I smile and laugh. It’s because I know he could have been taken away and now that he is older in his early 60s, it seems like time is so precious and I have to enjoy him every single day.
My wife of 30 yrs is ready to pass from awful cancer battle for 5 months. 57 yrs old and just so rough. She knows she’s going to see Jesus so that brings me peace but the loss is unbelievable Love you John and all those here. Praying for you all
She is so lucky to have had your love and support for three decades. Know that you have both been blessed by each other. Cast your cares upon Him. God bless! 🥹🫶🏼
My father lost his wife of 42 years to cancer. He's lost and lonely. I can't imagine the pain. She was only 60 and my father 75. He always felt he'd go first. Now he lives out his days waiting to meet her again in heaven. Try to stay strong John. Your fans and our country need you.
I feel your pain, I lost my husband to cancer which is heartbreaking on its own. Watching your best friend and partner waste away is cruel. Getting over that is hard, but learning to live for yourself is the hardest of all. I pray for comfort everyday. Being a woman of 60 seems to make you invisible.
@@JohnSchneiderStudios I haven't experienced what you are going through so I can't really speak much for this but you have an incredible community of people who want to support you as you are an amazing human being. I am sorry for your pain, and I hope you find peace. My personal belief is that, our loved ones never really leave us. You are not alone, John. 🙏
@@JohnSchneiderStudios John I am so so deeply sorry for your loss, your ‘Smile’, Alicia, truly was such a beautiful and very sweet lady, and so young still, only 2 years older than me. It’s not fair. I hope I’m not being blasphemous in saying that, the devil had his hand in the cancer part I believe, but I believe that God also has His reasons for allowing things to happen the way do, even if for the life of me it’s impossible to understand sometimes. I guess some day we will know. I’ve been praying for you John, and your family. I am not a widow so I cannot insult your grieving process by saying that I can completely empathize with all that you’re going through. But I do truly feel your sorrow my friend. I can however empathize on some level because I lost my only brother/sibling very tragically back in Nov. 2001, he took his own life, (yeah 2 months after our national tragedy that year 😞😢) he was 33 at the time, I was 29. The part about feeling terrible that we’re still here and they aren’t, ‘survivor’s guilt’, I went through that for so many years, he and I were very very close, almost like a set of twins would be except we were 3 & 1/2 years apart. Anyway, that’s just to say that his loss was my worst so far and it nearly took me out, but I’m stubborn, have an elastic heart still somewhat, and I’ve never been a quitter so with those things coupled with the Grace & Comfort of God, I am still here. I made my life a mission to fulfill some of the similar interests he and I had, music, songwriting, and I poured my energy into it for a decade, until other life things got in the way of it. Someday I’ll pick it up again. Just as you will someday feel ok enough to get back into things. Baby steps are better than none right? I also lost a younger step sister to brain cancer, and another step sister to a heart attack. Loss is never easy. Please know you are being prayed for and thought of, and we are hoping the best for you. May God lessen the stinging in your heart some everyday sweetie. May God wrap you in His Fatherly Arms and just hug and hold you until you are strong again. And you will be, you already are, just keep chugging along the best you can my brother in Christ, we love you, God Bless you and hold you up when you feel weak. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💙 and reach out to others who aren’t uncomfortable with talking about grief. (like me). You take care and keep on keeping on! 🥰🙏🏼💕
@@JohnSchneiderStudios I saw it with my dad. The silence in the house was deafening. I was his only support system. Every day will be dark but you have people around you that will help take some of the edge off. You will eventually come to a point where what you are feeling now finds it's place. No one can tell you when that will be; you'll just know it one day, whenever that is. You'll be angry, you'll be sad. And then one day you'll just be you.
@@JohnSchneiderStudios I had no idea... until I awoke this day and your video popped up. My heart is breaking with yours. My heart also rejoices... at the thought of the love that you and your wife have for one another. It never ends, even during this separation until all Believers are reunited. She is living still, just not in this physical realm any longer. Your love is so deep that your grief is also incredibly deep. Oh how blessed is your wife to have had the love of such a husband during her journey on earth! The Lord says in His Word that when we marry, we become one flesh. When a spouse dies, "amputation" is an accurate description for what you must be feeling. My heart aches with yours. I cry with you. I grieve with you during this time. This is a Holy moment in time. The sudden wrenching of one soul from another, whose hearts are united in covenant love. It is a very painful process, but death does not triumph over the redeemed! I also imagine your precious wife as she is now, as part of the cloud of witnesses, watching things unfold on earth, and her handsome, loving champion longing for her still. She knows what is in you. Your assignment on earth is not over. What would her words of comfort be to you right now if she were able to speak them to you? Our Lord and Savior hated death so much, that He suffered and died our death, that we might live with Him forevermore! It was for the joy set before Him that He suffered on the cross... the joy of breaking the curse of separation from us. We are that joy He chose to suffer for. He even became the sin He hated, that in His dying, we all might live! Then He triumphantly rose from the dead! Death could not hold Him! It cannot hold us either. Only in the time frame of the redemption of the world will death cause separation, but for the joy set before us, we endure... knowing that we are all one body, in Christ Jesus. 2 Cor. 5:21 "For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him. " Even though He had no sin, He "became sin" as the sacrificial Lamb of God so that the curse of death might be broken. Guard your heart right now from any unkind or ignorant words. Allow yourself sufficient time to process this deep sorrow and the loneliness that you feel. Do not allow the enemy (satan - lower case on purpose) to steal your joy. Joy is not just and emotion. It is an inner peace filled with confidence and assuredness, in spite of ugly, intensely painful emotions. As you grieve in your present intense pain, keep in mind that your precious Bride will be cheering you on as you overcome and live out your purpose here... her ♡ heart, ever with yours. I praise God for your (plural) love for one another. It exemplifies our union with our Savior as His Bride. Ephesiams 5:30-32 NKJV 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Blessings and peace to you John.
This is my biggest fear, losing my wife. John, I can not express enough how sad I am that you're hurting, but I also can't begin to express just how impressed I am with your ability to push forward and to share your journey with us, absolute strangers. God bless you and may you once again find true joy.
You are not alone. Losing my husband is my biggest fear in life. It causes severe anxiety and panic attacks. I don't know how there's not more deaths from broken heart syndrome.
You hospice nurses mean so much to us caregivers. Quit my job to be with my love and we switched to a different hospice and they have been unbelievable in their love and care for our family.
I am a widow as well. 16 years and not one fight. She passed 1 year ago from aggressive double hit lymphoma. She was my best friend and my wife. I have cried every morning and night for the past year. I don’t know how it will ever stop. I refuse to take pills to be numb and forget. I hope god has a plan for me. John I feel every bit of your pain. Love you brother. Truly. The greatest gift to humans from god is LOVE
God bless you John. I lost my husband to Desert Storm. He was a career Army Gunner of an M1A1 in that conflict. I became a widow at age 34 and I'm still a widow today at age 65. Loving and raising our sons gave me the will to go on and they are the light of my life, only my Savior Jesus Christ shining brighter. I am now a grandmother missing sharing this amazing chapter of my life, our sons and our grandchildren without their Dad and Grand Dad. I miss my Ed to this very day, I miss us holding one another each night, and I look forward to embracing him once again. I'll keep you in my prayers dear John. The Lord is forever by your side.
I’ve been a widow for 19 years as of June 1, and I love him as much now as I did when I met him. Everything John says is exactly how it is. The grieving is forever.
10 years 2 months and 1 day for me. _I used to believe that old saying, "Time heals all."_ *I disagree.* Every song, animal noise, tv show, color, smell, words, holiday and breath, I can't forget her.
I was first widowed when my husband lost his battle to cancer. He was just 40 and we had 4 young sons to finish raising. I had to be very strong for my children and could only express my pain in the shower. I remarried 12 years later after my children had left home. We had 14 years together when he passed from a blood disorder. Hang in there my friend. Turn to God for the healing you need.
I "lost" my son unexpectedly when he just turned 19. It's not seeing your child becoming a man....getting a wife...having grand children. BUT what his death has taught me is he was not mine. He is God's. His death has taught me the deeper lessons that most will never experience. I am grateful for this. I know who is in control. I know who is my comforter. You will come out of this on the other side with a deeper level of understanding God's love. The Father will carry you through this pain. That's a promise. Then you will help others. That's what we do. "Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning." - Psalm 35
John, you have been part of my life since I was a child. I know I've never been part of your life, but I'm reaching out now as a fellow believer and widower. My wife passed away 28 minutes after saying " I don't feel good". I know the horrible gaping hole that is felt in your chest, the overwhelming feeling of being lost, the constant reminders that come from the smallest things. People try to say something comforting, but there is no comfort in anything they say. I want to say one thing I have learned in the past 8 years. The pain and loss never goes away, but it changes! With God's help it slowly morphs into something manageable. It moves from center stage, to waiting in the wings. The love you shared keeps the memories alive and close, and eventually those memories will bring a smile instead of tears. Love in Christ, and prayers as you begin this horrific journey!!
1) He was married to Tawny Elaine Godin from 1983-86 (2) He was married to Elly Castle from 1993-2019 (3) He married Alicia Allain in 2019, and began having an affair in 2015 with her during his marriage to his 2nd wife (4) Alicia Allain died in Feb 2023 ... What is this nonsense?
As a widow for 26 years, I truly understand your heartache. Please know that their physical presence is no longer with you, but they will always be with you. God bless you John.
John sweet John…. I am so sorry for your pain. I would just tell myself everyday to “breath.. just breath… and do the same the next day and the next. Saying this is a “journey you have to take” doesn’t seem to cut it. It’s more like a cleansing of your own soul…. A rebirth. Walk with it not around it, and remember she is everywhere cheering you on. May you feel all the love coming your way through your healing❤
John....I am a widow. I was married 7 years. My husband died of cancer at age 27, I was also 27 when he died. My beloved husband has been in heaven for 27 years. I still go through every single emotion you described. The tears come and go. I still miss him every single day. I still have to lean on my God holding onto the memories & the hope. The Lord reminds me very often...that my beloved is not gone, God simply moved him to heaven, and my beloved can't wait to welcome me home....he waits on me at the gates. God bless you John. I cried with you even after 27 years my friend.....still missing the love of my life. I always describe my marriage to him as " A beautiful unfolding love story....that ended way too soon." Prayers.😪💙
John my heart cries out for your sorrow. I lost my husband in October 17 0f 2019 he is at peace, but he is still part of me with good memories and hard times. He made me strong for this life. John life is good be strong in heart, mind just as she would want you to be. Live your life for her. Peace be with you.
I'm sorry for your loss. My husband past April 6, 2023. I found I'm early in that morning. I feel the same way you do. It's hard to eat, sleep, and I don't want to go home. And yes it hurts like HELL
In my entire life, I’ve never seen anyone pour out their love and loss in such a deep and intense way. John’s passion for his wife and everything she meant to him is riveting to say the very least. Any woman who is loved this deeply surely was blessed in ways most people never experience in their lifetimes. My heart goes out to John as do my prayers that he may be comforted by the beautiful memories that will always live within him and his family. One day, when it “time” he will reunite with the love of his life. And I am sure, she will have missed you John, every bit as much as you miss her. God bless you. Sending hugs. 🙏💕
His words touched me too. To be in a relationship where you have to guess his every thought because he is a non communication person I feel his wife always knew she was loved. What a beautiful life. My heart hurts for him.
@@renaelindstrom6791 You’re right, to guess how someone feels about you doesn’t feel too much like “love”. John pours his heart and soul out to the world, because he was truly IN LOVE to the deepest depths of his being. To be loved in that way is a PRICELESS GIFT. Very few of us ever get to experience LOVE in that manner. 💕 They are BOTH be very special SOULS. God bless them…….
My heart broke watching this. My Dad passed in January 2019 and this gave me a different perspective from my Mom's point of view. Sending prayers for you John
Thank you John for sharing this most intimate moment, I said goodbye to my wife February 20th. You described perfectly every emotion I feel right now, every day. I am on this road alone and somehow I’m standing in a church parking lot at 10 pm throwing the ball to my dog browsing through CZcams and here you are telling my story. God bless you John and I’m so sorry for you’re loss brother. 😔🙏🏻
John, my childhood hero, I want to tell you what I know about you, how grounded you are, how genuine you are, how truthful you are....a million and one things about my surety that you will persist. However, my heart hurts for you and all I want to do is send you love and comfort. You will find your way out of this darkness. Know you are loved and find the beauty in the littlest of things until you can stand tall again. ❤ from a MO girl in Oz
When my first wife passed away very suddenly I had to go to a grief support group at my local church to help get through it. Only people that have gone through it can understand and provide the needed support. My prayers are with you John and remember, we have a reunion coming and I believe it is very soon! (1 Thessalonians 4:14-18)
Where do you live Bible Bear? I think I know you. John’s video hits very close to my home being a widower. I have to say that my divorce has been my largest pain because that relationship was laced with so much betrayal that I kept trying to fix. Almost, like trying to heal your spouse of a disease and failing. And yet, they live without remorse and laugh in the shadows of your pain. At least when my husband was dying he had a heart that loved God and loved me and he knew the road I was about to walk on would not be without pitfalls, and he cared about my future without him. I will see him again and what a long conversation that will be.❤
Hang in there John. This is hard for me to listen to. I lost my wife 11 years ago. The pain and hurt is still fresh. I've met several widowers and there isn't anything I can say to ease the hurt. God bless you, John. Prayers for you and your family.
God this is heartbreaking to hear and yet enlightening at the same time as we will all go through this at some point. Thank you John for sharing your heart. Such raw emotion, so much honesty. It makes you realize that none of us are immune to the feeling of loss, grief, and allt that comes with it.
I lost my wife 2 years, 3 months, and 18 days ago. Everything you just said is the truth. Every word is perfectly spoken. I'm sorry you are part of this club, sir. I have never heard widowhood described so succinctly. I see your pain, sir. Thank you for describing it to the world in a way many of us cannot. I'm crying with you, sir. Not for myself, but for you.
As someone who lost the love of his life almost 11 years ago, I can tell you that this is the most intelligent and comprehensive summary of the emotions and feelings of widowhood that I have ever heard. While it made me cry, it helped validate all the things I continue to feel and experience. Thank you 🙏 John.
I, too, cried along with John. I lost my sweet husband of 54 1/2 years on December 11, 2021. I've said many times that life lost its luster when he gained his angel wings. But, God has been good to me and I have the assurance of once again seeing the love of my life. God bless you.
Totally agree, been 14 for me. Thought I'd reinvent myself but that wasn't in the cards. In my mid 50s now and returning back to doing the things I thought I could give up.
What a great and honest and heartfelt thing to do. I have no clue what this is like yet but have many friends who walked this road. May God give you strength as you move on in life and career without Alicia. Had I not googled your name one evening while watching an old Western on GRIT tV would not have known.
Thank you John. I lost my husband of 54 years 5 months ago. You said it exactly as I feel it. My house doesnt feel like my home. My one person is not here. Moving on without him, the one person who understood my heart . I can be with family, friends, in church, and I feel the loss deeply. Im thankful he didn't have to be the one to experience the grief. He was my heaven sent spouse. We knew we were meant for each other. Im thankful God gave him to me. We were 5 years apart in age and practically grew up together.
It’s been a month since my wife and best friend of 48 years passed.We still lived in the same home we bought as young newlyweds. My heart was shattered into a million pieces. I’ve cried for hours every day.God bless all that are on this lonesome road.
God bless mike may you know Gods grace and mercy in abundance at this time. Dear Heavenly Father I pray for mike and ask that you comfort and hold him tight. Dear Father, I thank You for the love that mike and his believed wife had and have been able to show one another during there time here on earth. Father, You understand the pain of this loss and grief. Right now, I pray for healing from the pain of mikes loss. Your Word says, that You are close to the broken-hearted and You save those who are crushed in spirit. I pray that Your presence, comfort and love will be with Mike at this time. Father, grant help and guidance as Mike deals with such a loss in his life, this I ask in Jesus Mighty name. Amen.
@@ReubenPastrami I am so sorry, it sounds like you have made some really bad choices in women. I have always been my husbands best friend, confident and companion. That doesn't mean exclusively, because I'm secure alone and not jealous of his relationships with others. If you are just looking for sex, don't change your mind and think it's real. Until you change your heart, you won't find the right person. Sadly, most couples we know, we love one person and tolerate the other. So if you are a couple, you might be either one. Good luck.
You loved your wife in ways that many people can only dream of being loved. You gave her the most incredible gift - your heart. You will see her again and when you do, it will be as if no time has passed between you. A love like this never dies! God bless you John Schneider!
Sorry for your loss. My Dad passed at 47. My Mom was 43. My biggest fear in life is losing my other 1/2. We will celebrate our 30th anniversary this year, but were together about 6 years before that. I'm not sure I could go on. I gained a whole new respect for my Mother and her strength as we were fairly young, esp my youngest brother. Don't know how she did it & now in her golden years, instead of spending them with him, is being spent alone. Very sad. My BIGGEST fear in life.
My father died in 2018.they were married for 47 years. I've been watching and listening to my mother as she's grieved. I've tried to be that voice of reason and inspiration for her to keep her going, but through listening to you I'm getting a better understanding from yours and her prospective. Thank you for this video. God is with you my friend.
I am a widow. It was totally unexpected. We went to bed Christmas night and I woke the next morning and he was gone. I will never get over it. You get through it. Don't let anyone tell you how to handle the grief. Each individual handles it differently. Love for you John
John, that was one of the most powerful, heart touching and REAL videos I’ve ever seen. But, it was also inspiring. I think it touches so incredibly on how fragile and how significant life and marriages truly are. It’s so easy in the day to day never ending motion of life to take for granted that the person you love and rely on, your partner is always going to be there. The reality is one day one of you won’t be. It touched me deeply to appreciate every day, every minute much much more than we sometimes do. I’m 57 and tomorrow has no guarantees. I know you’re hurting but I want you to truly know how much exposing your true emotions is helping so many. Not just in grief but in LIFE as well. If one person gives one more kiss, one more holding of a hand or a hug as a result of your video you have done soooo much more than you probably intended to do. God Bless you brother! May God RAIN DOWN grace and peace on you my man! Praying for you.
John, so sorry for your pain, man. I wish you could take back some of the joy you've given to us over the years to see you through this time. Praying for peace
This took my breath away because I felt every single word! I lost my husband, High School sweetheart and best friend of 32 yrs last year! I've never known a pain like this! I'm sorry that you are feeling it now! Im lifting you up in prayer. I find comfort in sharing my feelings and hearing from other widows . Thank you so much for sharing this! I know you will probably never see this but I truly do care and will continue to pray for you! Tomorrow is gonna be hard for me and my daughter's... first father's day without him....💔💔💔
Thank you for sharing, truly. I too lost a child many years ago and I can say with certainty losing a child vs. losing a spouse are two completely different grief processes, in my experience.
John, my heart goes out to you. My Mum lost my Dad when she was only 51. She is now 75 and she misses him every day. I can tell you in all honesty it never goes away but you will finally have days where you will be able to think of your wife and smile or laugh without tears at the beautiful memories you had together ❤
John, I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I can't begin to understand that kind of pain and loss that you have experienced. Please know that you are loved by MANY of your fans! You are one of my childhood heroes and it was an honor to have met you. Don't be afraid to talk to someone if you need to. Love you, brother!
Everything you said is spot on. Emptiness, pain, loneliness and the Club we didn’t ask to be in is heartbreaking each moment of every day. 🙏 I absolutely hate it!
Hi John, I was widowed at 46, my husband was 47 when he died of a brain tumour, all I can say is the laughter went out of my life that day, and I have struggled to get it back, I went on with my life but felt like I was leaving him behind and felt guilty for that, I was invited to parties and functions as well meaning people's thought they were helping me to get out of the house, but at those parties and functions I felt more alone than if I hadn't attended, seeing my friends and family with thier partners made things worse, so I stopped going, I joined art clubs and different evening classes to meet new people, but at the end of the day I realised nothing was going to replace having my husband in my life, I am now 70 and have learned to live with myself, my son has been a godsend but he has his own life and I don't want to impede his life, I got to know myself pretty well, and I live life for myself now, people in the early days asked all the time if I would ever remarry, but he was a hard act to follow and I found I was always comparing other guys to him, so I gave it up, you do come to terms with it, but I don't think the impact ever goes away, I wish you all the love in the world for the future xxx
I know all those feelings, I lost my husband of 32 years in 2009 and things have never been the same. I have been through all the feelings that you mentioned. I miss him😢 I hope you are doing ok❤
John...I lost my husband and soulmate of 50 years (45 married) on January 26th. You have so brutally and beautifully captured these last 3 months of my life. God bless you and comfort you as he has done for me.
Yes, I've worked & moved forward, but NOTHING feels 100% like the JOY we shared before he was taken 12 years ago. I'm so grateful God gave Me Two grandsons to love on in the meanwhile, (Augie) bleccchhhh
I am so sorry for your loss John. I can't begin to imagine what you are going through. All I can offer is my prayers for you and your family. Thank you for sharing such deep and personal emotions with us. I'm going to do my best to love my husband extra each and every day. God bless you and keep you John. And please, don't stop talking. Don't keep all those emotions bottled up inside of you. 🙏🏻❤
Losing my parents, brothers, a sister and a young grand daughter hurt but losing my wife was the worse pain i've faced so I like so many others who walked this road know what you are facing. God bless you man.
My wife of 42 years and I just watched this together, crying our eyes out, each convinced that we will be the first to go, anticipating the pain that the other will someday have to endure. It's inconceivable, for now. Sincerest condolences on your terrible loss, John. May you yet find peace and happiness on this earth.
We're never prepared for being the one left alone, are we? But here we are left to carry on. I pray the Lord let's you know how close He is to your broken heart and that He's carrying and comforting you daily. 🙏
GOD BLESS YOU! NOW I FIND MY TIME WITH JESUS IS PRECIOUS. I LOST MY YOUNGEST SON SUDDENLY 6 YEARS AGO, 7 MOS LATER MY HUSBAND WAS DIAGNOSED WITH BRAIN CANCER THEN LOST HIM 1 YEAR LATER. I DID TAKE CARE OF MY HUSBAND AT HOME. JESUS WILL HEAL YOUR BROKEN HEART! HE WILL GIVE YOU A RE-NEWED PURPOSE. I GET IT, WE WOULD JUST LIKE TO OUR LIVES BACK. FOR ME TIME HAS HEALED. MY HARDEST LOSS WAS MY SON AT ONLY 23. MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU. I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU. HOLD ON TO JESUS, HE IS NOW, OUR EVERYTHING. ♥️♥️
Well said John- I am a widow and this is the hardest thing I am going threw. We were married 36 years and it has totally broken my heart. Sorry for your loss🙏💔
John, you don't know it, but you have been a part of my life for decades. As a young boy I was obsessed with the Dukes of Hazard. I'm so sorry you're in pain. Just know you have people around the world pulling for you. Love you John.
I’m so sorry for your loss, John. I lost my husband four years ago and I’m simply not the same person anymore. The intense grief is gone, but the sadness is with me daily.
Hey John, To say sorry for your loss is such an understatement. My MOM lost her husband ( my DADDY) over a year ago. And your words hit home my friend. I still have my moments of missing him that my grief prompted me to write a poem. But, seeing her going through the motions is heartbreaking to watch!! She and I cared for him on hospice as he died from liver and lung cancer. Lastly, it is so heartbreaking to see parents or anyone decline. I’ve always prayed and find I’m praying more. I will include you in my prayers as well! Take care!
My mom is 75. We changed the dining room into an art studio. It helped at the beginning, but each new day, new week, brings new challenges and goals. She has been on the widow rollercoaster since Sept 2021. And I am the daughter who wants my mother and father back. God bless you John. My Dad was John too.
Thank you! My Dad is 98. Mom passed away last year on July 7. She was 93. You’ve given me better understanding of my Dad’s feelings. I’m so blessed to have gotten to retire early so I could be with my parents to help them. Daddy has said so many times, “I want to be with your Mom.” Recently, he has finally accepted that God doesn’t want to let him die yet. It’s been a difficult year. But now, We are planting his flowers for him, keeping the bird feeders full, rearranging garden lights, going for rides and lemonade everyday. We pray every night, thanking God that through Jesus we will have everlasting life, together. I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. And in my tears, it came to me, what a blessing to have such a beautiful marriage. What a blessing! It’s so hard to find.
Hi John. I understand your pain. I am also a widow, and the loneliness is deafening. I felt that pain, that amputation, that walking into a lonely home, going to bed alone, waking up alone. But I stood firm on my Rock, JESUS, and surrounded myself with community that were there when I needed someone to just listen to me cry or talk about my husband . It is not an easy road. There are many bumps in the road, but stand firm on your rock. Lifting you up in prayer John.
I'm so sorry brother, I lost my wife to suicide 6.5 years ago due to a chemical imbalance, and you explained the agony of it all so well. I never knew how much I really loved my wife until she was gone. I know you are a believer. The Lord will carry you through this; it does get better over time, but going through that time is so painful. Will pray for you brother.🙏🙏
I also lost my first wife to suicide. It was the most painful time of my life yet it was also the most closest I ever was to the Lord as I leaned everything I had into Him. The greater the love the harder the tears.
I just lost my husband of 40 years to cancer this April 7. The sorrow is insurmountable. His life was well loved and well lived. And you summed it up perfectly. God bless you and may he help us both on this long hard road we are to travel.
Sorry for your loss I grew up watching you on television and I wish nothing but the best for you during this difficult time you’re going through I am praying for you and your family I believe you will be reunited in heaven one day soon may god bless you and comfort you through this
I'm so very sorry for your loss of your beautiful wife John. May God send you comfort at this difficult time. I've never heard anyone so eloquently express their feelings of grief and loss, it brought me to tears as well. You're a good man and you'll make it through this. Take care and God Bless.
John I know your pain. I lost my husband of 47 years. Waking up every morning is awful, but you have to take one day at a time. God will be with you every way. Talk to people,no matter what time of day it is. I sometimes call my friend in the middle of the night and it gets me through the pain. I’m so very sorry to hear about your loss.
I have been a widow for almost 2 years and I don’t wish this pain on anyone. This video is powerful. This is exactly how I feel about this hard journey that I am now on. Thank you John for this message. May God’s love and comfort surround you.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband, there's no words, are there. There's no end to the pain, my Mom and Dad were married for 68 years when he passed away after a long hard battle with Alzheimer's 14 months ago. It was unspeakable. We knew he was dying a month before he actually passed. Nothing ever prepares you for the long, dark protracted grief that is merciless. All you can do with grief is experience it , sort out life, and try to look at the future.
Bam! You hit the nail on the head, John. Thank you, for being vulnerable, raw and real! This is love. We who have lost our spouses needed this- it’s the truth. To say devastating is not enough. This kind of grief stands alone. It cannot be compared to any other grief. It’s been 5 years for me since my husband of 41 years passed of a sudden heart attack. You don’t get over loosing the one with whom you experienced life and love. The loss feels like an amputation. People don’t realize all the places in the heart a spouse is. Lover friend confidant who else sees you in all the raw and human ways? Who else knows you to that depth of heart and soul? No one. I have only gotten through because of Jesus. God has been with me every moment walking with me sometimes crawling through this sacred journey. Jeremiah 29:11❤ May you, John continue to heal and rest in the Lord’s grace and comfort and love. ❤❤🙏🏻
John, I literally feel your pain to the bone. I lost my wife four years ago to cancer. I'd love to tell you it gets easier and it does marginally with time and the support of your family but, it still seems like it was yesterday. After 38 years of marriage I feel every single word you conveyed in this video as if you were reading a diary or my mind. I pray that you get some peace and GOD bless you for making this video because I know it couldn't have been easy to do. Sincerely, Pete Feeney
God bless you John. My prayers are going up to our Lord and comforter for you right now. I am sorry for your loss and my prayers are that God gives you His peace and comfort as you struggle with the loss of your wife. 💜🕊️🙏🙏🙏🙏✝️
John, I am deeply saddened by your loss. Losing a spouse is one of the most difficult experiences anyone can go through. While you are loved by many, it is important to acknowledge that nothing can truly take away your pain. Please know that you are not alone and that we are all here for you during this difficult time. Sending virtual hugs and all my love your way!
I lost my husband of 33 years suddenly 18 months ago. I so resonate with all of this. Praying for you and everyone else in this unfortunate club of widowhood🙏🏾
I am so sorry for your loss. I am 62 & I always say I didn’t expect life to be what it is at this age. You never expect to be alone. Gob Bless you, I will continue to pray for you. My heart breaks for you🙏❤️
My husband passed away 4 months ago after a courageous battle with cancer. I feel so much grief and appreciate everything you have shared. Love doesn’t end. That why grief doesn’t either.
Sorry for your loss, I too lost my love from a heart attack at age 50 😭💔 He didn’t have cancer but wasn’t well with kidney failure and diabetes etc. Life is so unfair. It’s so hard 😢
@amezrismommigower6839 Truly, truly sorry for your loss. My ❤ breaks for your loss....May God bring you comfort and peace.....Knowing you WILL be reunited again in the Presence of Our Savior, never to be separated again ✝️🕊🙏❤️😔
It's been 6 years since my husband passed. There have been many happy times, grandchildren born, but that empty space never goes away. Your words are spot on. I hope we all find solace.
I never married , but I was truly moved by John Schneider's words. I cannot even begin to imagine what losing a spouse is like. God bless, keep and comfort all of the widows and widowers out there who are mourning the loss of their husbands and wives.
My deepest respects to you on your loss, John. Time is supposed to heal all wounds. Some wounds never heal, but do gradually become a little easier to deal with over time. One thing that might help is that as you move forward, take your wife with you. You have your memories of her to cherish, her lessons to learn, and her examples to follow.
I must say this has pulled at my heart strings! I have listened to this numerous times. John Schneider spoke it as plain as any one could say it. Missing a loved one is the hardest thing to deal with in this life and yet we have to keep going until the day we see them again! AND IT WILL COME IN GODS TIMING....I know with a spouse it has to be different someone with you all the time. It must be. Mom and dad were married 61 years and mom thought dad would pass first for he was older but momma passed first. I stayed with dad a year and 6 months with daddy. We talked about everything. He worried what would happen to me while I was trying to assure him I'd be alright, but since he died, I'm not alright. He was a good loving dad, concerned about everything his children were doing telling his grandchildren to be good and honest in life. I stayed inside for two years hardly speaking to anyone. I know John's heart is broken, crushed... you can hear it and see it but as life forces you and as Alisha or anyone you've have lost , they would want you to be okay. It's so very hard. John you have some fb friends too. All you have to do is message and ask can I talk to you. Please remember that! Anyone you need to talk to. Your a great person whos hurting badly right now and that is very hard. Okay one minute, brokenness the next! God Bless you always and help you with every ounce of love and strength you need right now is my prayer to keep going everyday ! Hugs, Diana❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I lost my Beloved of 35 years while we were clam digging, he had a heart attack on the beach. I watched Michael graduate to heaven. We raised four children, fought my breast cancer together in 1999, watched parents die. I miss Michael with all my heart, but I am so thankful for the free gift of salvation. I know we will be together again! I just heard of your wife’s passing. I’m so sorry. I send you my prayers & a hug. I pray that you know the peace that comes from my Lord Jesus Christ, and feel his comfort!!!❤
I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had a beautiful life together. At least you will have eternity together...by the looks of this world it may not be a very long wait for you. Jesus is on his way soon!! God bless you❤
my heart breaks, seeing John this way 🙏 I pray for his healing and closure, hey John keep in mind she’s always with You You Said yourself it’s like living in a different dimension well your wife could be sitting beside you for all you know you can’t see her other people can’t see her but she’s always there 😉😃
I´m in tears. Dear John... my dad died less than a year ago. He and my mom had been together for almos 62 years. I try to be with her as much as I can and take care of her as much as I can. I KNOW what you mean... and thanks to your words I can understand so much better how much she must miss my dad. I miss him every single day as a son, but it's not the same. He was her ALL. God bless you. I hug you in my heart and pray for you. Thank you so much for sharing this. Greetings and love from Argentina.
So sorry to see such a good man grieving so openly and greatly. Its heartbreaking to see his lost. He loves her so completely and is missing her so much. I feel almost like we are intruding on his pain but John is sharing this so that others going through it can know that they aren't alone and can understand it maybe a little better. Wow how generous a soul this man has!
Gut-wrenching to see his pain especially when you're experiencing the same grief for the same reason; but getting it out there is probably the best thing one could do to help navigate this new normal and keep your will to live and continue on. Everything he feels I felt when I lost my wife of 42 years a couple of years ago. The pain never goes away, you never "get over it;" you learn to live with it. At the time when she was here I couldn't remember life without her, couldn't imagine life without her, and couldn't bear the thought of life without her. But it was forced upon me and so I've got to learn to press on while keeping my wife in my heart always - which is hard when you feel it and want to convey it and she's not hear to receive it. I have no answers; there's no rule book. I'm learning to walk again. I always considered myself fiercely independent, but I didn't realize how reliant I was on my wife's love and my love for her until she was gone, and it's a lonely place. I'm flying blind. And I don't want to but I haven't been given that choice. So I'm figuring it out every minute of every day, and trying to keep my wife engrossed in the experience with me. Hard, HARD to do with such a gaping hole in my heart; but I know what Mindy would expect and want and so I'm trying to live up to that.
My mother died of lung cancer on March 31st of this year. My dad showed me this video and told me you put into words everything he (and all of us to a lesser extent) had been feeling but that he couldn't convey himself. So thank you, for saying it so eloquently and raw, it helped him out a lot ❤
We need to put God first, we should never put anyone before God.. I was widowed with a three year old. Life was difficult but talking to God daily and asking him for help was the answer. We are all just passing through.
My husband died 4 months ago. We were 6 months shy of our 50th anniversary. Thanks you for putting into words everything I am feeling. This is something you can never really understand until you experience it yourself. The depth of my loneliness, even when I’m with people, is bottomless. I know I have to build a new life but I can’t even imagine what that will be. It help me to know I’m not the only one who feels so lost.
Oh, how I understand your pain. I miss my husband from the bottom of my heart till forever... I thank God for every moment that I had with my David. I love and miss him with every breath I take 💕
My wife died one month short of our 50th, 3 months ago. I have never felt such intense pain and loneliness. I am beginning to wonder if I'll ever get over it - I now see how many others are in the same place. My heart goes out to you - I understand your pain.
I have no idea why this showed up in my feed but I'm glad I watched until the end. John I'm truly sorry for your loss, I can't imagine exactly how you feel or what you're going through but God does. I spend many hours in prayer during the week and I'll call your name before His throne for your peace and comfort. Shalom my friend. ✝️
My heart goes out to you and to your family. My husband passed away 3 years ago from lung cancer. Life from time of his diagnosis to his death has taken me a long time to feel myself again. My prayers for comfort and peace go out to you.
Lost my husband of nearly 40 years, back in 2020. I haven't been the same since. I can't seem to figure out a way out of this deepening loneliness, and trying to find out who I am without a huge part of myself. I cry along with you, John. My heart understands completely. Sending you so much love.❤
I’m so sorry for your loss. You aren’t just helping widows, but you are helping those who are in relationships that don’t appreciate what they have. Thank you for sharing and may God bless you.
I lost my husband 5 years ago, after 38 years of marriage & it's still as fresh as yesterday sometimes. Watching this video I can feel your deep sadness & pain & memories that are raw. I don't know why this video popped up in my suggested videos, no idea, but maybe for a reason. But everything you said were the words that I have never spoken out loud, maybe that was the reason your video was in my suggestions. ❤
@@brucestarr4438 Yes, the words he said were every feeling I've ever had since my husband passed. I don't even know what this channel is, or why the algorithm put this in my suggestions, it is just the weirdest thing, I might send this to family members so they can maybe understand what I've been going through.
This theme of widowhood is the hardest time we go through alone! After 58 years of marriage I lost my true love 8 hard years ago to dementia! God bless all going through this passage before we also will leave this earth !
John, I know how you feel. It’s 15 years without the love of my life. Time will help ease the pain, but it’s a whole different life. Talk to God; ask him for strength. Shortly after my husband died, I asked God for a dream of my husband. God gave me a beautiful dream of him hugging me; it was such a wonderful dream. The toughest time is at night and your loved one is not there with you. What helped me get to sleep was reading Psalm 23. God says, “He will never leave you, or forsake you.” John, God is always there for us. I believe some day we will be with our loved ones again when Jesus comes back to take us up to Heaven. After awhile from the initial shock and so many tears, I realized I could not continue to be so sad, so I allowed myself to cry for 5 minutes whenever I would get that wave of pain. We need to let it out, but don’t let the sadness destroy you. God bless you and keep you close to His heart. And some day soon, our Great God of Heaven will come back for those who love Him. No more tears, no more pain, no more sadness, just bliss in a world filled with love.
What a beautiful heart-felt message of such love. You were both so lucky to find such love. She is with you now in spirit, smiling at you to ease your pain. You are such a good and caring man. You will be reunited in the wonderful and peaceful place she is. Love and peace to you and yours.❤
I relate to this, John. Lost my husband of 25 years 3 years ago. It doesn't get better, you just more used to it, like a routine. You are in the the beginning of the grieving process. It's a long process and the best thing you can do is talk about it. Welcome to a club that no one wanted to join. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.
I’m sorry for your loss, John. The love of Alicia pouring out of every word you speak is both beautiful and heartbreaking. I am so sorry you are hurting in this painful time without your Smile. May God comfort you in this trying time of your life. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
John - this is the most honest and heartfelt testimony to the love of your wife, as well as to the reality of the raw pain one goes through upon the death of a loved one. The process of grief, grieving and loss cannot be avoided. But as you have so beautifully shared, this process is bittersweet and transformative. John, you are a gift to all who know of you. This virtual community will lift you up in prayer. I personally am very edified by your teaching here and do hope that as you journey forward you will continue to share. You have a great capacity to lift others up. Your spouse is in heaven now. She is praying you into your eternal home. Her job that she committed to do is not yet complete until you meet again. God bless you!
Thank you for posting your own painful grief journey and bringing awareness to your own grief. I know how painful it is. My husband passed away suddenly 5 years ago. We, as Widows and Widowers, must learn how to live on in this new alternate life (which we never wanted) to rebuild ourselves and our life somehow with our grief ever present. You are right. The loss of our beloved husbands and wives does feel like a major part of our body has been amputated. Our heart, unfortunately. Time may soften grief, but it is now a part of us. I can only say that after 5 years the inner spark of my God given light is starting to shine brighter each day with my husband now living forever in my heart ❤Sending you my heartfelt condolences and prayers of comfort 🙏
John, my wife of 53 years passed away from cancer 2 weeks after you lost your lovely wife. Your feelings of loss really some up what I have gone thru. The empty bed, the empty chair, sharing a bathroom with no one. The quietness of being in a lonely house that was so full of the sound of dishes being stacked away, footsteps down the hallway, sharing a great movie, and mostly her voice is gone never to be heard again but I stay busy by keeping our house as clean as she did and doing chores that she never let me do before because those were her things to get accomplished and I had my own list. She was a retired nurse and when she found out she had Pancreatic Cancer she knew it was her death notice. But she almost made it 5 years after her diagnosis with chemo, an 8 hour surgery and radiation thru that period of time. She survived long enough to celebrate our 50 wedding anniversary and her 70th birthday. But when the time came for hospice to arrive at our house she knew it was time and the last words she said to me were "this is going to take awhile" just two weeks before she finally joined our Lord.
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My sincerest condolences. I am so incredibly sorry.
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I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved.😢
Im so so sorry for your loss
I have been a widow 20 years this month! Knowing I will see my husband again helps me put one foot in front of the other. How blessed we were to walk hand in hand with our beautiful spouse!!Thank you for your beautiful words! God bless you!
People like you John who have lost their spouse / partner recently know exactly the pain you are feeling
Nothing can make up for the loss and emptiness you feel when you lose a wife , husband, partner who were the love of your life ❤
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He will always be the person I loved with all my heart!
John, I lost my wife 4 months ago to cancer , and I've been with her 47 yrs.I feel exactly as you do ,don't know what to do, and can't stop crying.everything you explained is my life now to the tee.God bless you john.
I am so very sorry for your loss. 🙏🙏🙏
Crazy! How do you go on? I've been married since 2000 and she's in bad shape. Her brother is dying of cancer. I'm going to be a part of widowhood soon.
So sorry ! :( We never get over it just learn to live with it is so true :(
@@angelblue314 So Sorry! I know it's been really hard on you ! I don't know you but said a prayer for you
Mr. Schneider, I lost my Wife to colon cancer days after your Wife passed away . Your words and feelings are an absolute truth and only people who lost their own companions can really know how deep this pain really is. But in the end, what really matters is the incondicional love and companionship that we devoted to them through the illness until they finally returned to Jesus arms. God bless our departed loved ones and give us the strength to pursue happiness and meaning in life once again.
I lost my wife when she was 24. It crushed me. You don't just lose them, you lose a part of yourself. 21 years later, and it still hurts, but I finally found a place of peace knowing that she's still there, and I will see her again. Widowhood is all those things. I'm sorry you have had to go through this.
Me too. But I suppose I’m gaining strength through it for something.
It's been just over a year for me, 29 years in all ...grateful for every minute.
Having John say this brings me back to the moment of her loss.
I still meet up with her many nights a week in my dreams. I've been sleeping more and more but it never fills the hole I'm left with. I have a minute or two every time I wake of comfort before everything comes flooding back.
John, I truly respect your ability to show the world your pain, I am incapable of doing that.
Thank you for helping me through the hard times I had growing up, I wish I could do the same for you now.
Incredible MAN!!!.....SIR....!!!......RESPECT
Edit....I'm much older than you SIR.... I have major RESPECT for you sharing this.....have my one and only wife for 34 years!!!
God bless you all!!! I'm so sorry you all lost your love!!!🙏🙏🙏
I have been a widow now for eight years after being married for 42 years. Never heard anyone expressed what being a widow feels like as eloquently as you have done. Thank you for putting into words what my heart could never say. I’m so sorry for your loss. And I feel your pain. God bless you and bring you peace.
Right, somehow that lifted my sadness 😢
I am also a widow of 9 years after having been married for 39 years. I feel your pain😢
😢John nailed it, two years now and still missing my husband of 35yrs. Everything he said is so true.
Widow for 22 years.
My heart goes out to you also
As a widow myself, I truly feel your pain. It is a process with many setbacks. Cry out to Jesus in your darkness my friend. Praying for you John 🙏🙏.
I feel your pain. I will keep you in my prayers. You describe it completely. I miss my love everyday. May God ease your pain.
God bless you.
Praying for you
We're here for you John 🙏
I am behind..What happened? My last post from this channel was months ago..
It's devastating, I was widowed suddenly 20 years ago, with 4 children. David's my complete soulmate and irreplaceable. I still feel the pain. Now, with grandchildren, I try my best but miss him every second. Only those that have felt that deep love understand. Best wishes.
All newly married couples should hear this. It’s such a beautiful representation of marriage that is often taken for granted by couples until it too late. I’m heartbroken for you John, but as much as your heart hurts is how much you loved Alicia, and true love is such a gift. Thank you for sharing your heart and your love. Sending lots of prayers for you.
You should talk to Dog The Bounty Hunter he can help you walk this step he lost his beautiful wife Beth ..his story went on and he is okay now .
So sorry for the pain you have to bear .
God bless you .
It is heartbreaking and beautiful at the same time. Beautiful, he loved her so much and heartbreaking for his loss....😢❤😢❤
John it's OK you feel this way. When my daughter passed on her birthday in my arms. I didn't think I could even breath again. Yet alone live another day. It seems your body is just breaking down. John in time your time you will breath again and even smile again. Ask God for strength he will give it to you. You need it. And smile when you feel his strength.
Yes- my husband had two life threatening incidents. Praise God he is still here! We’ve been married for 34 years and I love to laugh at his silly jokes or noises that he wonders why I smile and laugh. It’s because I know he could have been taken away and now that he is older in his early 60s, it seems like time is so precious and I have to enjoy him every single day.
My wife of 30 yrs is ready to pass from awful cancer battle for 5 months. 57 yrs old and just so rough. She knows she’s going to see Jesus so that brings me peace but the loss is unbelievable Love you John and all those here. Praying for you all
God Bless You in the difficult times to come. May your sweet wife rest easy. 🙏🏻💔🤍💔🤍🕊️
She is so lucky to have had your love and support for three decades. Know that you have both been blessed by each other. Cast your cares upon Him. God bless! 🥹🫶🏼
My sincere condolences.
Hold her hand and kiss her as many times as possible in the time to come.
@@loriegordon5227 amen and thank you
@@KatKrueger thank you so much. Prayers for you also
My father lost his wife of 42 years to cancer. He's lost and lonely. I can't imagine the pain. She was only 60 and my father 75. He always felt he'd go first. Now he lives out his days waiting to meet her again in heaven. Try to stay strong John. Your fans and our country need you.
God Bless him.
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I feel your pain, I lost my husband to cancer which is heartbreaking on its own. Watching your best friend and partner waste away is cruel. Getting over that is hard, but learning to live for yourself is the hardest of all. I pray for comfort everyday. Being a woman of 60 seems to make you invisible.
I respect this man so much for what he has been up to and sharing with those who listen. You are a beautiful soul John.
So very sorry for your loss John. I have to say this is probably the most touching and loving description of loss I have heard in all my years.
I agree. While I didn’t write it… I am living every word.
@@JohnSchneiderStudios I haven't experienced what you are going through so I can't really speak much for this but you have an incredible community of people who want to support you as you are an amazing human being. I am sorry for your pain, and I hope you find peace. My personal belief is that, our loved ones never really leave us. You are not alone, John. 🙏
@@JohnSchneiderStudios John I am so so deeply sorry for your loss, your ‘Smile’, Alicia, truly was such a beautiful and very sweet lady, and so young still, only 2 years older than me. It’s not fair. I hope I’m not being blasphemous in saying that, the devil had his hand in the cancer part I believe, but I believe that God also has His reasons for allowing things to happen the way do, even if for the life of me it’s impossible to understand sometimes. I guess some day we will know. I’ve been praying for you John, and your family. I am not a widow so I cannot insult your grieving process by saying that I can completely empathize with all that you’re going through. But I do truly feel your sorrow my friend. I can however empathize on some level because I lost my only brother/sibling very tragically back in Nov. 2001, he took his own life, (yeah 2 months after our national tragedy that year 😞😢) he was 33 at the time, I was 29. The part about feeling terrible that we’re still here and they aren’t, ‘survivor’s guilt’, I went through that for so many years, he and I were very very close, almost like a set of twins would be except we were 3 & 1/2 years apart. Anyway, that’s just to say that his loss was my worst so far and it nearly took me out, but I’m stubborn, have an elastic heart still somewhat, and I’ve never been a quitter so with those things coupled with the Grace & Comfort of God, I am still here. I made my life a mission to fulfill some of the similar interests he and I had, music, songwriting, and I poured my energy into it for a decade, until other life things got in the way of it. Someday I’ll pick it up again. Just as you will someday feel ok enough to get back into things. Baby steps are better than none right? I also lost a younger step sister to brain cancer, and another step sister to a heart attack. Loss is never easy. Please know you are being prayed for and thought of, and we are hoping the best for you. May God lessen the stinging in your heart some everyday sweetie. May God wrap you in His Fatherly Arms and just hug and hold you until you are strong again. And you will be, you already are, just keep chugging along the best you can my brother in Christ, we love you, God Bless you and hold you up when you feel weak. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💙 and reach out to others who aren’t uncomfortable with talking about grief. (like me). You take care and keep on keeping on! 🥰🙏🏼💕
@@JohnSchneiderStudios I saw it with my dad. The silence in the house was deafening. I was his only support system. Every day will be dark but you have people around you that will help take some of the edge off. You will eventually come to a point where what you are feeling now finds it's place. No one can tell you when that will be; you'll just know it one day, whenever that is. You'll be angry, you'll be sad. And then one day you'll just be you.
@@JohnSchneiderStudios I had no idea... until I awoke this day and your video popped up. My heart is breaking with yours. My heart also rejoices... at the thought of the love that you and your wife have for one another. It never ends, even during this separation until all Believers are reunited.
She is living still, just not in this physical realm any longer.
Your love is so deep that your grief is also incredibly deep. Oh how blessed is your wife to have had the love of such a husband during her journey on earth!
The Lord says in His Word that when we marry, we become one flesh. When a spouse dies, "amputation" is an accurate description for what you must be feeling. My heart aches with yours. I cry with you. I grieve with you during this time.
This is a Holy moment in time. The sudden wrenching of one soul from another, whose hearts are united in covenant love. It is a very painful process, but death does not triumph over the redeemed!
I also imagine your precious wife as she is now, as part of the cloud of witnesses, watching things unfold on earth, and her handsome, loving champion longing for her still.
She knows what is in you. Your assignment on earth is not over. What would her words of comfort be to you right now if she were able to speak them to you?
Our Lord and Savior hated death so much, that He suffered and died our death, that we might live with Him forevermore!
It was for the joy set before Him that He suffered on the cross... the joy of breaking the curse of separation from us. We are that joy He chose to suffer for.
He even became the sin He hated, that in His dying, we all might live! Then He triumphantly rose from the dead! Death could not hold Him! It cannot hold us either. Only in the time frame of the redemption of the world will death cause separation, but for the joy set before us, we endure... knowing that we are all one body, in Christ Jesus.
2 Cor. 5:21
"For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him. "
Even though He had no sin, He "became sin" as the sacrificial Lamb of God so that the curse of death might be broken.
Guard your heart right now from any unkind or ignorant words. Allow yourself sufficient time to process this deep sorrow and the loneliness that you feel. Do not allow the enemy (satan - lower case on purpose) to steal your joy. Joy is not just and emotion. It is an inner peace filled with confidence and assuredness, in spite of ugly, intensely painful emotions.
As you grieve in your present intense pain, keep in mind that your precious Bride will be cheering you on as you overcome and live out your purpose here... her ♡ heart, ever with yours.
I praise God for your (plural) love for one another. It exemplifies our union with our Savior as His Bride.
Ephesiams 5:30-32 NKJV
30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Blessings and peace to you John.
This is my biggest fear, losing my wife. John, I can not express enough how sad I am that you're hurting, but I also can't begin to express just how impressed I am with your ability to push forward and to share your journey with us, absolute strangers. God bless you and may you once again find true joy.
Amen
You are not alone. Losing my husband is my biggest fear in life. It causes severe anxiety and panic attacks. I don't know how there's not more deaths from broken heart syndrome.
As a hospice nurse i hear this all the time..may God's angels surround you and comfort you in this time. 😢
God Bless you in your calling! Thanks so much for all you do.
You hospice nurses mean so much to us caregivers. Quit my job to be with my love and we switched to a different hospice and they have been unbelievable in their love and care for our family.
I just lost my husband to cancer on may 11..... Prayers for you...... I know he is with God
You folks are under appreciated, we used to do walks for hospice and all sorts of events.
I am a widow as well. 16 years and not one fight. She passed 1 year ago from aggressive double hit lymphoma. She was my best friend and my wife. I have cried every morning and night for the past year. I don’t know how it will ever stop. I refuse to take pills to be numb and forget. I hope god has a plan for me. John I feel every bit of your pain. Love you brother. Truly. The greatest gift to humans from god is LOVE
God absolutely has a plan and you are part of it. My prayer is that He show you your place in what He is up to.
God bless you John. I lost my husband to Desert Storm. He was a career Army Gunner of an M1A1 in that conflict. I became a widow at age 34 and I'm still a widow today at age 65. Loving and raising our sons gave me the will to go on and they are the light of my life, only my Savior Jesus Christ shining brighter. I am now a grandmother missing sharing this amazing chapter of my life, our sons and our grandchildren without their Dad and Grand Dad. I miss my Ed to this very day, I miss us holding one another each night, and I look forward to embracing him once again. I'll keep you in my prayers dear John. The Lord is forever by your side.
Massive hugs. Praying for you.
I’ve been a widow for 19 years as of June 1, and I love him as much now as I did when I met him. Everything John says is exactly how it is. The grieving is forever.
Yes the grieving is forever...
6 years for me. It hurts every day.
18 years for me 😢. I'm truly sorry John.
10 years 2 months and 1 day for me.
_I used to believe that old saying, "Time heals all."_
*I disagree.*
Every song, animal noise, tv show, color, smell, words, holiday and breath, I can't forget her.
@@SSArt98 i agree with your disagree.. time does not heal this, we just learn to live with it...
I was first widowed when my husband lost his battle to cancer. He was just 40 and we had 4 young sons to finish raising. I had to be very strong for my children and could only express my pain in the shower. I remarried 12 years later after my children had left home. We had 14 years together when he passed from a blood disorder. Hang in there my friend. Turn to God for the healing you need.
Praying for you going through this grief, May God holds you in his hands.
John hang in there God's with you sorry for your loss
I don’t know what I would do without God in my life to strengthen.
I "lost" my son unexpectedly when he just turned 19. It's not seeing your child becoming a man....getting a wife...having grand children. BUT what his death has taught me is he was not mine. He is God's. His death has taught me the deeper lessons that most will never experience. I am grateful for this. I know who is in control. I know who is my comforter. You will come out of this on the other side with a deeper level of understanding God's love. The Father will carry you through this pain. That's a promise. Then you will help others. That's what we do. "Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning." - Psalm 35
John, you have been part of my life since I was a child. I know I've never been part of your life, but I'm reaching out now as a fellow believer and widower. My wife passed away 28 minutes after saying " I don't feel good". I know the horrible gaping hole that is felt in your chest, the overwhelming feeling of being lost, the constant reminders that come from the smallest things. People try to say something comforting, but there is no comfort in anything they say. I want to say one thing I have learned in the past 8 years. The pain and loss never goes away, but it changes! With God's help it slowly morphs into something manageable. It moves from center stage, to waiting in the wings. The love you shared keeps the memories alive and close, and eventually those memories will bring a smile instead of tears.
Love in Christ, and prayers as you begin this horrific journey!!
For everyone here who has lost a spouse, my heart goes out to you, may God bring you comfort.
My heart goes out to you, May god be with you!
1) He was married to Tawny Elaine Godin from 1983-86 (2) He was married to Elly Castle from 1993-2019 (3) He married Alicia Allain in 2019, and began having an affair in 2015 with her during his marriage to his 2nd wife (4) Alicia Allain died in Feb 2023 ... What is this nonsense?
@@memoryroom6388 I see you are looking for an argument, you won’t get one one out of me.
@@lowercase-j Youve already given me what I wanted... 😆
As a widow for 26 years, I truly understand your heartache. Please know that their physical presence is no longer with you, but they will always be with you. God bless you John.
John sweet John…. I am so sorry for your pain. I would just tell myself everyday to “breath.. just breath… and do the same the next day and the next. Saying this is a “journey you have to take” doesn’t seem to cut it. It’s more like a cleansing of your own soul…. A rebirth. Walk with it not around it, and remember she is everywhere cheering you on. May you feel all the love coming your way through your healing❤
John....I am a widow. I was married 7 years. My husband died of cancer at age 27, I was also 27 when he died. My beloved husband has been in heaven for 27 years. I still go through every single emotion you described. The tears come and go. I still miss him every single day. I still have to lean on my God holding onto the memories & the hope. The Lord reminds me very often...that my beloved is not gone, God simply moved him to heaven, and my beloved can't wait to welcome me home....he waits on me at the gates. God bless you John. I cried with you even after 27 years my friend.....still missing the love of my life. I always describe my marriage to him as " A beautiful unfolding love story....that ended way too soon." Prayers.😪💙
I was widowed at 38 and I’m 51 now. This is exactly how it is. Sending lots of love to all my fellow widows x
John my heart cries out for your sorrow. I lost my husband in October 17 0f 2019 he is at peace, but he is still part of me with good memories and hard times. He made me strong for this life. John life is good be strong in heart, mind just as she would want you to be. Live your life for her. Peace be with you.
I’m also 38 and experiencing this in the very early stages it’s been 110 days already… God bless you
I was 38...66 now.. always missing him n watching our grandchildren alone is the worst some days
It's so heartbreaking to watch John so sad. He's a great guy. Sorry for your loss, John.
God bless you
Will pray for you and yours. It's hard but only the Lord Jesus can get you through.
Yeah, no feeling at all. I mean his wife just died and all but nothing serious right? Why don't you buy a heart, jerk!
@@sinsinnomore5555 wow. Fool
I'm sorry for your loss. My husband past April 6, 2023. I found I'm early in that morning. I feel the same way you do. It's hard to eat, sleep, and I don't want to go home.
And yes it hurts like HELL
In my entire life, I’ve never seen anyone pour out their love and loss in such a deep and intense way. John’s passion for his wife and everything she meant to him is riveting to say the very least. Any woman who is loved this deeply surely was blessed in ways most people never experience in their lifetimes. My heart goes out to John as do my prayers that he may be comforted by the beautiful memories that will always live within him and his family. One day, when it “time” he will reunite with the love of his life. And I am sure, she will have missed you John, every bit as much as you miss her. God bless you. Sending hugs. 🙏💕
His words touched me too. To be in a relationship where you have to guess his every thought because he is a non communication person I feel his wife always knew she was loved. What a beautiful life. My heart hurts for him.
I just came across this and had to stop everything I was doing I cannot believe the anguish that he is in it is..😰😢 utterly shocking.....
Thank you so much for those kind and thoughtful words. Much needed.
@@peck404 Great love and its loss equals great pain…almost too much to bear at times. God Bless you.
@@renaelindstrom6791 You’re right, to guess how someone feels about you doesn’t feel too much like “love”. John pours his heart and soul out to the world, because he was truly IN LOVE to the deepest depths of his being. To be loved in that way is a PRICELESS GIFT. Very few of us ever get to experience LOVE in that manner. 💕 They are BOTH be very special SOULS. God bless them…….
My heart broke watching this. My Dad passed in January 2019 and this gave me a different perspective from my Mom's point of view. Sending prayers for you John
Thank you John for sharing this most intimate moment, I said goodbye to my wife February 20th. You described perfectly every emotion I feel right now, every day.
I am on this road alone and somehow I’m standing in a church parking lot at 10 pm throwing the ball to my dog browsing through CZcams and here you are telling my story.
God bless you John and I’m so sorry for you’re loss brother. 😔🙏🏻
I'm sorry for your loss. I pray I go first....
I'm very sorry about your loss. Please know you will find your path. Sending ❤ from Australia
John, my childhood hero, I want to tell you what I know about you, how grounded you are, how genuine you are, how truthful you are....a million and one things about my surety that you will persist. However, my heart hurts for you and all I want to do is send you love and comfort. You will find your way out of this darkness. Know you are loved and find the beauty in the littlest of things until you can stand tall again. ❤ from a MO girl in Oz
God bless u on ur journey. 💔🙏🙏🙏
So sorry John we love you
When my first wife passed away very suddenly I had to go to a grief support group at my local church to help get through it. Only people that have gone through it can understand and provide the needed support. My prayers are with you John and remember, we have a reunion coming and I believe it is very soon! (1 Thessalonians 4:14-18)
Where do you live Bible Bear? I think I know you. John’s video hits very close to my home being a widower. I have to say that my divorce has been my largest pain because that relationship was laced with so much betrayal that I kept trying to fix. Almost, like trying to heal your spouse of a disease and failing. And yet, they live without remorse and laugh in the shadows of your pain. At least when my husband was dying he had a heart that loved God and loved me and he knew the road I was about to walk on would not be without pitfalls, and he cared about my future without him. I will see him again and what a long conversation that will be.❤
Yea, we have the Hope.
Hang in there John. This is hard for me to listen to. I lost my wife 11 years ago. The pain and hurt is still fresh. I've met several widowers and there isn't anything I can say to ease the hurt. God bless you, John. Prayers for you and your family.
God this is heartbreaking to hear and yet enlightening at the same time as we will all go through this at some point. Thank you John for sharing your heart. Such raw emotion, so much honesty. It makes you realize that none of us are immune to the feeling of loss, grief, and allt that comes with it.
I lost my wife 2 years, 3 months, and 18 days ago. Everything you just said is the truth. Every word is perfectly spoken. I'm sorry you are part of this club, sir.
I have never heard widowhood described so succinctly. I see your pain, sir. Thank you for describing it to the world in a way many of us cannot.
I'm crying with you, sir. Not for myself, but for you.
As someone who lost the love of his life almost 11 years ago, I can tell you that this is the most intelligent and comprehensive summary of the emotions and feelings of widowhood that I have ever heard. While it made me cry, it helped validate all the things I continue to feel and experience. Thank you 🙏 John.
I, too, cried along with John. I lost my sweet husband of 54 1/2 years on December 11, 2021. I've said many times that life lost its luster when he gained his angel wings. But, God has been good to me and I have the assurance of once again seeing the love of my life. God bless you.
Totally agree, been 14 for me. Thought I'd reinvent myself but that wasn't in the cards. In my mid 50s now and returning back to doing the things I thought I could give up.
Toutes mes condoléances à John Schneider Michel 46 ans France
So true
I lost my husband two years ago and I still don’t know who I am. Thank you John for helping me to understand what I’m feeling.
Xxx's from Alaska Connie 🥀🌷
What a great and honest and heartfelt thing to do. I have no clue what this is like yet but have many friends who walked this road. May God give you strength as you move on in life and career without Alicia. Had I not googled your name one evening while watching an old Western on GRIT tV would not have known.
Me either. I feel like an alien in this world.
I did too...there are really no words..
Thank you John. I lost my husband of 54 years 5 months ago. You said it exactly as I feel it. My house doesnt feel like my home. My one person is not here. Moving on without him, the one person who understood my heart . I can be with family, friends, in church, and I feel the loss deeply. Im thankful he didn't have to be the one to experience the grief. He was my heaven sent spouse. We knew we were meant for each other. Im thankful God gave him to me.
We were 5 years apart in age and practically grew up together.
This man truly loved his wife.
Stay Strong John. Live for your children.
It’s been a month since my wife and best friend of 48 years passed.We still lived in the same home we bought as young newlyweds. My heart was shattered into a million pieces. I’ve cried for hours every day.God bless all that are on this lonesome road.
@@ReubenPastrami I’m sure that comforted mike a great deal 🙏✝️
God bless mike may you know Gods grace and mercy in abundance at this time. Dear Heavenly Father I pray for mike and ask that you comfort and hold him tight. Dear Father, I thank You for the love that mike and his believed wife had and have been able to show one another during there time here on earth. Father, You understand the pain of this loss and grief. Right now, I pray for healing from the pain of mikes loss. Your Word says, that You are close to the broken-hearted and You save those who are crushed in spirit. I pray that Your presence, comfort and love will be with Mike at this time. Father, grant help and guidance as Mike deals with such a loss in his life, this I ask in Jesus Mighty name. Amen.
Mike, may you find some peace in these postings. Not all women are as screwed up as some would have you believe.
@@ReubenPastrami I am so sorry, it sounds like you have made some really bad choices in women. I have always been my husbands best friend, confident and companion. That doesn't mean exclusively, because I'm secure alone and not jealous of his relationships with others. If you are just looking for sex, don't change your mind and think it's real. Until you change your heart, you won't find the right person. Sadly, most couples we know, we love one person and tolerate the other. So if you are a couple, you might be either one. Good luck.
Very sorry for your loss.
You loved your wife in ways that many people can only dream of being loved. You gave her the most incredible gift - your heart. You will see her again and when you do, it will be as if no time has passed between you. A love like this never dies! God bless you John Schneider!
I been a widow for 13 years now.
I thought by now life would be different.
My childhood crush hit the nail on the head.
I am 48 and lost my wife last year to cancer. These words are so poignant and so true. I’ll pray for you tonight, John.
Sorry for your loss.
My Dad passed at 47. My Mom was 43.
My biggest fear in life is losing my other 1/2.
We will celebrate our 30th anniversary this year, but were together about 6 years before that.
I'm not sure I could go on.
I gained a whole new respect for my Mother and her strength as we were fairly young, esp my youngest brother. Don't know how she did it & now in her golden years, instead of spending them with him, is being spent alone.
Very sad.
My BIGGEST fear in life.
My father died in 2018.they were married for 47 years. I've been watching and listening to my mother as she's grieved. I've tried to be that voice of reason and inspiration for her to keep her going, but through listening to you I'm getting a better understanding from yours and her prospective. Thank you for this video. God is with you my friend.
I am a widow. It was totally unexpected. We went to bed Christmas night and I woke the next morning and he was gone. I will never get over it. You get through it. Don't let anyone tell you how to handle the grief. Each individual handles it differently.
Love for you John
🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤
Love you so sorry god help you
God bless you and comfort you John.
Aren't you still under investigation 🤔
@@TroijanSkinhead if you are taking to me I never was under investigation for anything
John, that was one of the most powerful, heart touching and REAL videos I’ve ever seen. But, it was also inspiring. I think it touches so incredibly on how fragile and how significant life and marriages truly are. It’s so easy in the day to day never ending motion of life to take for granted that the person you love and rely on, your partner is always going to be there. The reality is one day one of you won’t be. It touched me deeply to appreciate every day, every minute much much more than we sometimes do. I’m 57 and tomorrow has no guarantees. I know you’re hurting but I want you to truly know how much exposing your true emotions is helping so many. Not just in grief but in LIFE as well. If one person gives one more kiss, one more holding of a hand or a hug as a result of your video you have done soooo much more than you probably intended to do. God Bless you brother! May God RAIN DOWN grace and peace on you my man! Praying for you.
I’m a widow too. Almost 6 years now. It gets easier but you will always have the ups and downs and angst, pain forever. I’m so sorry, John. 🙏🏻💔
True. 13.5 for me. It gets a little easier, but you're never ever the same. Caught in between two worlds, till its our time to go.
Sorry!
"We do not grieve as those who have no hope." Remember Brother John, she's with Christ and one day we believers shall all be... ❤
Hello beauty how are you doing today
John, so sorry for your pain, man. I wish you could take back some of the joy you've given to us over the years to see you through this time. Praying for peace
I am going through this also .it's been 8 months. And I have no words.just grieve as long as you want. And love yourself.
As a widow for almost 10 years...I am broken! There is nothing that stops the pain. Blessings to all those who feel this deep pain. 💜
This took my breath away because I felt every single word!
I lost my husband, High School sweetheart and best friend of 32 yrs last year! I've never known a pain like this! I'm sorry that you are feeling it now! Im lifting you up in prayer. I find comfort in sharing my feelings and hearing from other widows . Thank you so much for sharing this! I know you will probably never see this but I truly do care and will continue to pray for you! Tomorrow is gonna be hard for me and my daughter's... first father's day without him....💔💔💔
I’ve never lost a spouse but I’ve lost a child. I’m so sorry John. I think it’s beautiful how much you loved your wife. God bless you! ❤
So sorry for your loss 💔
I'm sorry for your loss
Thank you for sharing, truly. I too lost a child many years ago and I can say with certainty losing a child vs. losing a spouse are two completely different grief processes, in my experience.
John, my heart goes out to you. My Mum lost my Dad when she was only 51. She is now 75 and she misses him every day. I can tell you in all honesty it never goes away but you will finally have days where you will be able to think of your wife and smile or laugh without tears at the beautiful memories you had together ❤
John, I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I can't begin to understand that kind of pain and loss that you have experienced. Please know that you are loved by MANY of your fans! You are one of my childhood heroes and it was an honor to have met you. Don't be afraid to talk to someone if you need to. Love you, brother!
Everything you said is spot on. Emptiness, pain, loneliness and the Club we didn’t ask to be in is heartbreaking each moment of every day. 🙏 I absolutely hate it!
Hi John, I was widowed at 46, my husband was 47 when he died of a brain tumour, all I can say is the laughter went out of my life that day, and I have struggled to get it back, I went on with my life but felt like I was leaving him behind and felt guilty for that, I was invited to parties and functions as well meaning people's thought they were helping me to get out of the house, but at those parties and functions I felt more alone than if I hadn't attended, seeing my friends and family with thier partners made things worse, so I stopped going, I joined art clubs and different evening classes to meet new people, but at the end of the day I realised nothing was going to replace having my husband in my life, I am now 70 and have learned to live with myself, my son has been a godsend but he has his own life and I don't want to impede his life, I got to know myself pretty well, and I live life for myself now, people in the early days asked all the time if I would ever remarry, but he was a hard act to follow and I found I was always comparing other guys to him, so I gave it up, you do come to terms with it, but I don't think the impact ever goes away, I wish you all the love in the world for the future xxx
I know all those feelings, I lost my husband of 32 years in 2009 and things have never been the same. I have been through all the feelings that you mentioned.
I miss him😢 I hope you are doing ok❤
John...I lost my husband and soulmate of 50 years (45 married) on January 26th. You have so brutally and beautifully captured these last 3 months of my life. God bless you and comfort you as he has done for me.
Yes, I've worked & moved forward, but NOTHING feels 100% like the JOY we shared before he was taken 12 years ago. I'm so grateful God gave Me Two grandsons to love on in the meanwhile, (Augie) bleccchhhh
So sorry for your loss. God bless you and thank you for sharing the heart felt emotional feelings. I truly took it all in and heart felt.
I am so sorry for your loss John. I can't begin to imagine what you are going through. All I can offer is my prayers for you and your family. Thank you for sharing such deep and personal emotions with us. I'm going to do my best to love my husband extra each and every day. God bless you and keep you John. And please, don't stop talking. Don't keep all those emotions bottled up inside of you. 🙏🏻❤
Losing my parents, brothers, a sister and a young grand daughter hurt but losing my wife was the worse pain i've faced so I like so many others who walked this road know what you are facing. God bless you man.
My wife of 42 years and I just watched this together, crying our eyes out, each convinced that we will be the first to go, anticipating the pain that the other will someday have to endure. It's inconceivable, for now. Sincerest condolences on your terrible loss, John. May you yet find peace and happiness on this earth.
We're never prepared for being the one left alone, are we? But here we are left to carry on. I pray the Lord let's you know how close He is to your broken heart and that He's carrying and comforting you daily. 🙏
GOD BLESS YOU! NOW I FIND MY TIME WITH JESUS IS PRECIOUS. I LOST MY YOUNGEST SON SUDDENLY 6 YEARS AGO, 7 MOS LATER MY HUSBAND WAS DIAGNOSED WITH BRAIN CANCER THEN LOST HIM 1 YEAR LATER. I DID TAKE CARE OF MY HUSBAND AT HOME. JESUS WILL HEAL YOUR BROKEN HEART!
HE WILL GIVE YOU A RE-NEWED PURPOSE. I GET IT, WE WOULD JUST LIKE TO OUR LIVES BACK. FOR ME TIME HAS HEALED. MY HARDEST LOSS WAS MY SON AT ONLY 23. MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU. I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU. HOLD ON TO JESUS, HE IS NOW, OUR EVERYTHING. ♥️♥️
I am so sorry that you are in so much pain John. The love you have for your beloved is what will bring you through this storm. ♥️
Well said John- I am a widow and this is the hardest thing I am going threw. We were married 36 years and it has totally broken my heart. Sorry for your loss🙏💔
John, you don't know it, but you have been a part of my life for decades. As a young boy I was obsessed with the Dukes of Hazard. I'm so sorry you're in pain. Just know you have people around the world pulling for you. Love you John.
I’m so sorry for your loss, John. I lost my husband four years ago and I’m simply not the same person anymore. The intense grief is gone, but the sadness is with me daily.
I’m there with you, having been widowed 4 1/2 years ago. Somehow you learn to live with it.
Hey John, To say sorry for your loss is such an understatement. My MOM lost her husband ( my DADDY) over a year ago. And your words hit home my friend. I still have my moments of missing him that my grief prompted me to write a poem. But, seeing her going through the motions is heartbreaking to watch!! She and I cared for him on hospice as he died from liver and lung cancer. Lastly, it is so heartbreaking to see parents or anyone decline. I’ve always prayed and find I’m praying more. I will include you in my prayers as well! Take care!
My mom is 75. We changed the dining room into an art studio. It helped at the beginning, but each new day, new week, brings new challenges and goals. She has been on the widow rollercoaster since Sept 2021. And I am the daughter who wants my mother and father back. God bless you John. My Dad was John too.
Thank you! My Dad is 98. Mom passed away last year on July 7. She was 93. You’ve given me better understanding of my Dad’s feelings. I’m so blessed to have gotten to retire early so I could be with my parents to help them. Daddy has said so many times, “I want to be with your Mom.” Recently, he has finally accepted that God doesn’t want to let him die yet. It’s been a difficult year. But now, We are planting his flowers for him, keeping the bird feeders full, rearranging garden lights, going for rides and lemonade everyday. We pray every night, thanking God that through Jesus we will have everlasting life, together.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. And in my tears, it came to me, what a blessing to have such a beautiful marriage. What a blessing! It’s so hard to find.
I pray my parents live as long as yours. Sending you love❤🙏🏻
@@sawdust2556 Thank you friend!
So sorry for your loss ! You will see her again soon my friend ! Love and light to you and all ❤
But not as his wife. That's not how heaven will be
John I went through this not long ago I am very sorry for your loss
Its hell
Hi John. I understand your pain. I am also a widow, and the loneliness is deafening. I felt that pain, that amputation, that walking into a lonely home, going to bed alone, waking up alone. But I stood firm on my Rock, JESUS, and surrounded myself with community that were there when I needed someone to just listen to me cry or talk about my husband . It is not an easy road. There are many bumps in the road, but stand firm on your rock. Lifting you up in prayer John.
Sorry for your loss. Thank you for opening up to all of us. We're here for you anytime you need a shoulder. We're listening.
I'm so sorry brother, I lost my wife to suicide 6.5 years ago due to a chemical imbalance, and you explained the agony of it all so well. I never knew how much I really loved my wife until she was gone.
I know you are a believer. The Lord will carry you through this; it does get better over time, but going through that time is so painful. Will pray for you brother.🙏🙏
I also lost my first wife to suicide. It was the most painful time of my life yet it was also the most closest I ever was to the Lord as I leaned everything I had into Him. The greater the love the harder the tears.
I just lost my husband of 40 years to cancer this April 7. The sorrow is insurmountable. His life was well loved and well lived. And you summed it up perfectly. God bless you and may he help us both on this long hard road we are to travel.
So sorry for your loss. 💕
So very very sorry, god bless you
Sorry for your loss I grew up watching you on television and I wish nothing but the best for you during this difficult time you’re going through I am praying for you and your family I believe you will be reunited in heaven one day soon may god bless you and comfort you through this
For me death is an illusion, people dying is the same as the seasons changing, they never die, they live on, in your memories and in others
I'm sorry for your loss
I'm so very sorry for your loss of your beautiful wife John. May God send you comfort at this difficult time. I've never heard anyone so eloquently express their feelings of grief and loss, it brought me to tears as well. You're a good man and you'll make it through this. Take care and God Bless.
I lost my wife in 2008. She was 33. I turned 50 in March and the pain and fear has not gone away but I get up every morning and do my best. ❤
John I know your pain. I lost my husband of 47 years. Waking up every morning is awful, but you have to take one day at a time. God will be with you every way. Talk to people,no matter what time of day it is. I sometimes call my friend in the middle of the night and it gets me through the pain. I’m so very sorry to hear about your loss.
47yrs! A trophy for you!🏆 Wow! 👏🏼 🤔 I bet you two could finish each other's sentences. 😂
God bless you John peace be with you
I have been a widow for almost 2 years and I don’t wish this pain on anyone. This video is powerful. This is exactly how I feel about this hard journey that I am now on. Thank you John for this message. May God’s love and comfort surround you.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband, there's no words, are there.
There's no end to the pain, my Mom and Dad were married for 68 years when he passed away after a long hard battle with Alzheimer's 14 months ago. It was unspeakable.
We knew he was dying a month before he actually passed.
Nothing ever prepares you for the long, dark protracted grief that is merciless.
All you can do with grief is experience it , sort out life, and try to look at the future.
well said, Sharon
I'm so sorry. His posting has helped me understand how losing my mom broke my dad so.💔😭
Bam! You hit the nail on the head, John. Thank you, for being vulnerable, raw and real! This is love. We who have lost our spouses needed this- it’s the truth. To say devastating is not enough. This kind of grief stands alone. It cannot be compared to any other grief. It’s been 5 years for me since my husband of 41 years passed of a sudden heart attack. You don’t get over loosing the one with whom you experienced life and love. The loss feels like an amputation. People don’t realize all the places in the heart a spouse is. Lover friend confidant who else sees you in all the raw and human ways? Who else knows you to that depth of heart and soul? No one. I have only gotten through because of Jesus. God has been with me every moment walking with me sometimes crawling through this sacred journey. Jeremiah 29:11❤ May you, John continue to heal and rest in the Lord’s grace and comfort and love. ❤❤🙏🏻
John, I literally feel your pain to the bone. I lost my wife four years ago to cancer. I'd love to tell you it gets easier and it does marginally with time and the support of your family but, it still seems like it was yesterday. After 38 years of marriage I feel every single word you conveyed in this video as if you were reading a diary or my mind. I pray that you get some peace and GOD bless you for making this video because I know it couldn't have been easy to do. Sincerely, Pete Feeney
Brass, I am sorry for your loss. I just lost my husband in over 2 months ago. He was 58. Type1 for 41 years.
@@jenniferbaker3707 I am sorry for your loss as well and thank you
God bless you John. My prayers are going up to our Lord and comforter for you right now. I am sorry for your loss and my prayers are that God gives you His peace and comfort as you struggle with the loss of your wife. 💜🕊️🙏🙏🙏🙏✝️
John, I am deeply saddened by your loss. Losing a spouse is one of the most difficult experiences anyone can go through. While you are loved by many, it is important to acknowledge that nothing can truly take away your pain. Please know that you are not alone and that we are all here for you during this difficult time. Sending virtual hugs and all my love your way!
I lost my husband of 33 years suddenly 18 months ago. I so resonate with all of this. Praying for you and everyone else in this unfortunate club of widowhood🙏🏾
I am so sorry for your loss. I am 62 & I always say I didn’t expect life to be what it is at this age. You never expect to be alone. Gob Bless you, I will continue to pray for you. My heart breaks for you🙏❤️
My husband passed away 4 months ago after a courageous battle with cancer. I feel so much grief and appreciate everything you have shared. Love doesn’t end. That why grief doesn’t either.
Sorry for your loss, I too lost my love from a heart attack at age 50 😭💔
He didn’t have cancer but wasn’t well with kidney failure and diabetes etc.
Life is so unfair. It’s so hard 😢
I lost my husband 4 month ago too. Christmas Eve. I never ends, it never will.
@amezrismommigower6839 Truly, truly sorry for your loss. My ❤ breaks for your loss....May God bring you comfort and peace.....Knowing you WILL be reunited again in the Presence of Our Savior, never to be separated again ✝️🕊🙏❤️😔
Yeah mourning has a space and time but grief just goes on with us
It's been 6 years since my husband passed. There have been many happy times, grandchildren born, but that empty space never goes away. Your words are spot on. I hope we all find solace.
I'm so sorry Christine, I feel your pain. I hope you have lots of photos and videos to look at
You are spot on, I've become used to being happy and sad at the same time. ❤❤ To you.
I never married , but I was truly moved by John Schneider's words. I cannot even begin to imagine what losing a spouse is like. God bless, keep and comfort all of the widows and widowers out there who are mourning the loss of their husbands and wives.
it is the worst pain ever
I am so sorry for your loss & seeing you in such pain. I've never been thru this so I can't imagine your pain.
My deepest respects to you on your loss, John. Time is supposed to heal all wounds. Some wounds never heal, but do gradually become a little easier to deal with over time. One thing that might help is that as you move forward, take your wife with you. You have your memories of her to cherish, her lessons to learn, and her examples to follow.
My heart just breaks for you, John. I'm so sorry you are hurting, and so incredibly sorry for your loss. Continued prayers.
I must say this has pulled at my heart strings! I have listened to this numerous times. John Schneider spoke it as plain as any one could say it. Missing a loved one is the hardest thing to deal with in this life and yet we have to keep going until the day we see them again! AND IT WILL COME IN GODS TIMING....I know with a spouse it has to be different someone with you all the time. It must be. Mom and dad were married 61 years and mom thought dad would pass first for he was older but momma passed first. I stayed with dad a year and 6 months with daddy. We talked about everything. He worried what would happen to me while I was trying to assure him I'd be alright, but since he died, I'm not alright. He was a good loving dad, concerned about everything his children were doing telling his grandchildren to be good and honest in life. I stayed inside for two years hardly speaking to anyone. I know John's heart is broken, crushed... you can hear it and see it but as life forces you and as Alisha or anyone you've have lost , they would want you to be okay. It's so very hard. John you have some fb friends too. All you have to do is message and ask can I talk to you. Please remember that! Anyone you need to talk to. Your a great person whos hurting badly right now and that is very hard. Okay one minute, brokenness the next! God Bless you always and help you with every ounce of love and strength you need right now is my prayer to keep going everyday ! Hugs, Diana❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
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I lost my Beloved of 35 years while we were clam digging, he had a heart attack on the beach. I watched Michael graduate to heaven. We raised four children, fought my breast cancer together in 1999, watched parents die.
I miss Michael with all my heart, but I am so thankful for the free gift of salvation. I know we will be together again!
I just heard of your wife’s passing. I’m so sorry. I send you my prayers & a hug. I pray that you know the peace that comes from my Lord Jesus Christ, and feel his comfort!!!❤
I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had a beautiful life together. At least you will have eternity together...by the looks of this world it may not be a very long wait for you. Jesus is on his way soon!! God bless you❤
my heart breaks for you John ! my thoughts and prayers are w/you at this time...
my heart breaks, seeing John this way
🙏 I pray for his healing and closure, hey John keep in mind she’s always with You
You Said yourself it’s like living in a different dimension well your wife could be sitting beside you for all you know you can’t see her other people can’t see her but she’s always there 😉😃
@@kennyrichard2971 I've never thought or heard it said like that. Totally makes sense & very comforting!
I´m in tears. Dear John... my dad died less than a year ago. He and my mom had been together for almos 62 years. I try to be with her as much as I can and take care of her as much as I can. I KNOW what you mean... and thanks to your words I can understand so much better how much she must miss my dad. I miss him every single day as a son, but it's not the same. He was her ALL. God bless you. I hug you in my heart and pray for you. Thank you so much for sharing this. Greetings and love from Argentina.
man this was so heart felt brother. Hang in there dude. Lots of people love you !
So sorry to see such a good man grieving so openly and greatly. Its heartbreaking to see his lost. He loves her so completely and is missing her so much. I feel almost like we are intruding on his pain but John is sharing this so that others going through it can know that they aren't alone and can understand it maybe a little better. Wow how generous a soul this man has!
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When a man grieves it's so different. It's hard to make a man cry and it just feels more painful.
Gut-wrenching to see his pain especially when you're experiencing the same grief for the same reason; but getting it out there is probably the best thing one could do to help navigate this new normal and keep your will to live and continue on. Everything he feels I felt when I lost my wife of 42 years a couple of years ago. The pain never goes away, you never "get over it;" you learn to live with it. At the time when she was here I couldn't remember life without her, couldn't imagine life without her, and couldn't bear the thought of life without her. But it was forced upon me and so I've got to learn to press on while keeping my wife in my heart always - which is hard when you feel it and want to convey it and she's not hear to receive it.
I have no answers; there's no rule book. I'm learning to walk again. I always considered myself fiercely independent, but I didn't realize how reliant I was on my wife's love and my love for her until she was gone, and it's a lonely place. I'm flying blind. And I don't want to but I haven't been given that choice. So I'm figuring it out every minute of every day, and trying to keep my wife engrossed in the experience with me. Hard, HARD to do with such a gaping hole in my heart; but I know what Mindy would expect and want and so I'm trying to live up to that.
My mother died of lung cancer on March 31st of this year. My dad showed me this video and told me you put into words everything he (and all of us to a lesser extent) had been feeling but that he couldn't convey himself. So thank you, for saying it so eloquently and raw, it helped him out a lot ❤
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We need to put God first, we should never put anyone before God.. I was widowed with a three year old. Life was difficult but talking to God daily and asking him for help was the answer. We are all just passing through.
The saddest,most beautiful tribute to a spouse I have ever heard,and all those feelings are true
My husband died 4 months ago. We were 6 months shy of our 50th anniversary. Thanks you for putting into words everything I am feeling. This is something you can never really understand until you experience it yourself. The depth of my loneliness, even when I’m with people, is bottomless. I know I have to build a new life but I can’t even imagine what that will be. It help me to know I’m not the only one who feels so lost.
Oh, how I understand your pain. I miss my husband from the bottom of my heart till forever... I thank God for every moment that I had with my David. I love and miss him with every breath I take 💕
My wife died one month short of our 50th, 3 months ago. I have never felt such intense pain and loneliness. I am beginning to wonder if I'll ever get over it - I now see how many others are in the same place. My heart goes out to you - I understand your pain.
So sorry 😞
No waiting for that one certain hug that would strengthen my heart to go on.god bless you too Mr Schneider. Best wishes 💖
Me paso igual después de 50años murió mi esposo en pandemia...aún no lo creo..aún creo que me habla y le respondo...no se que más hacer..💔😢😢
I have no idea why this showed up in my feed but I'm glad I watched until the end. John I'm truly sorry for your loss, I can't imagine exactly how you feel or what you're going through but God does. I spend many hours in prayer during the week and I'll call your name before His throne for your peace and comfort. Shalom my friend. ✝️
I was thinking the same thing
Why is this in my feed
My heart goes out to you and to your family. My husband passed away 3 years ago from lung cancer. Life from time of his diagnosis to his death has taken me a long time to feel myself again. My prayers for comfort and peace go out to you.
Lost my husband of nearly 40 years, back in 2020. I haven't been the same since. I can't seem to figure out a way out of this deepening loneliness, and trying to find out who I am without a huge part of myself.
I cry along with you, John. My heart understands completely. Sending you so much love.❤
I’m so sorry for your loss. You aren’t just helping widows, but you are helping those who are in relationships that don’t appreciate what they have. Thank you for sharing and may God bless you.
Amen.
That is so true. 🙏🏼
I lost my husband 5 years ago, after 38 years of marriage & it's still as fresh as yesterday sometimes. Watching this video I can feel your deep sadness & pain & memories that are raw. I don't know why this video popped up in my suggested videos, no idea, but maybe for a reason. But everything you said were the words that I have never spoken out loud, maybe that was the reason your video was in my suggestions. ❤
Yes, John spoke the words I could not when my wife died in 2011.
@@brucestarr4438 Yes, the words he said were every feeling I've ever had since my husband passed. I don't even know what this channel is, or why the algorithm put this in my suggestions, it is just the weirdest thing, I might send this to family members so they can maybe understand what I've been going through.
You hit this right on the head. I lost my wife 22 years ago. People were kind but none understood.
This theme of widowhood is the hardest time we go through alone! After 58 years of marriage I lost my true love 8 hard years ago to dementia! God bless all going through this passage before we also will leave this earth !
John, I know how you feel. It’s 15 years without the love of my life. Time will help ease the pain, but it’s a whole different life. Talk to God; ask him for strength. Shortly after my husband died, I asked God for a dream of my husband. God gave me a beautiful dream of him hugging me; it was such a wonderful dream. The toughest time is at night and your loved one is not there with you.
What helped me get to sleep was reading Psalm 23. God says, “He will never leave you, or forsake you.” John, God is always there for us. I believe some day we will be with our loved ones again when Jesus comes back to take us up to Heaven.
After awhile from the initial shock and so many tears, I realized I could not continue to be so sad, so
I allowed myself to cry for 5 minutes whenever I would get that wave of pain.
We need to let it out, but don’t let the sadness destroy you. God bless you and keep you close to His heart. And some day soon, our Great God of Heaven will come back for those who love Him.
No more tears, no more pain, no more sadness, just bliss in a world filled with love.
What a beautiful heart-felt message of such love. You were both so lucky to find such love. She is with you now in spirit, smiling at you to ease your pain. You are such a good and caring man. You will be reunited in the wonderful and peaceful place she is. Love and peace to you and yours.❤
I relate to this, John. Lost my husband of 25 years 3 years ago. It doesn't get better, you just more used to it, like a routine. You are in the the beginning of the grieving process. It's a long process and the best thing you can do is talk about it. Welcome to a club that no one wanted to join. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.
I’m sorry for your loss, John. The love of Alicia pouring out of every word you speak is both beautiful and heartbreaking. I am so sorry you are hurting in this painful time without your Smile. May God comfort you in this trying time of your life. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
John - this is the most honest and heartfelt testimony to the love of your wife, as well as to the reality of the raw pain one goes through upon the death of a loved one. The process of grief, grieving and loss cannot be avoided. But as you have so beautifully shared, this process is bittersweet and transformative.
John, you are a gift to all who know of you. This virtual community will lift you up in prayer. I personally am very edified by your teaching here and do hope that as you journey forward you will continue to share. You have a great capacity to lift others up. Your spouse is in heaven now. She is praying you into your eternal home. Her job that she committed to do is not yet complete until you meet again. God bless you!
Thank you for posting your own painful grief journey and bringing awareness to your own grief. I know how painful it is. My husband passed away suddenly 5 years ago. We, as Widows and Widowers, must learn how to live on in this new alternate life (which we never wanted) to rebuild ourselves and our life somehow with our grief ever present. You are right. The loss of our beloved husbands and wives does feel like a major part of our body has been amputated. Our heart, unfortunately. Time may soften grief, but it is now a part of us. I can only say that after 5 years the inner spark of my God given light is starting to shine brighter each day with my husband now living forever in my heart ❤Sending you my heartfelt condolences and prayers of comfort 🙏